REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 598. Q&AF： Ole Miss Mental Health Crisis, Doers Vs. Talkers & Financial Insecurity

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realest sake about it the lies

00:00:20.720 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome motherfucking reality guys today we have

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00:02:46.200 show the show all right yeah no ho zones no ho zone yeah what's up man what's going on man yeah so i

00:02:52.960 mean you know it is it is uh q and af but we can uh cruise the motherfucking questions oh can we yeah

00:02:59.080 we cruise the questions because so i was actually we got this question in um it's kind of a topic that's

00:03:06.020 trending out there and so uh i was able to find this question from one of you guys that submitted it just

00:03:11.100 in the nick of time and uh let's roll with it yeah so how are we going to answer a question if we're

00:03:15.920 not even here to answer the question oh it's been answered it's you're wearing the same clothes

00:03:21.440 yesterday so are you wait did you change you didn't change no yeah so are you i know yeah i got the

00:03:29.980 same draws weird i bet you do no man this guy got good question for you i got good i got three good

00:03:37.520 ones for you all right um but this first one man it seems like a hot topic so so let's see what you

00:03:42.060 think on this man um so uh the question number one andy have you seen that video going around of

00:03:49.120 old miss coach lane kiffin and his defensive tackle uh well the kids sued old miss and old miss just

00:03:56.660 filed a motion to dismiss de santo rollins's uh lawsuit after he mixed practices and meetings due to

00:04:02.860 what he said was a mental health crisis he was having i feel if anyone is credible to speak on

00:04:09.900 mental toughness it's you i was curious on your take of the whole situation so i got the video you

00:04:14.420 want to watch it real quick yeah for our listeners and viewers and then let's see the what the guy who's

00:04:19.960 writing a book on mental toughness has to say yeah if you would have come here when you kept getting

00:04:24.680 messages the head coach wants to talk to you and you saying i'm not ready to talk to him

00:04:28.860 i wasn't what what world do you live in

00:04:33.020 i don't see why you gotta be disrespectful get out of here go go you're off the team you're done

00:04:41.260 see you see you because i'm see you go go and guess what we can kick you off the team so go read

00:04:50.100 your rights about mental health we can kick you off the team for not showing up when the head coach

00:04:56.640 has to meet with you and you don't show up for weeks okay we can remove you from the team

00:05:01.680 it's called being the it's called hiding behind and not showing up to work what a dose of reality

00:05:09.700 that is that's fucking dude this is common sense shit like the dude listen we are reaping i got a

00:05:17.980 lot to say by the way yeah we are reaping the results of this failed strategy of participation

00:05:23.360 trophy everybody's special everybody has a victimhood mentality uh when things are bad we get

00:05:30.360 that's an excuse to do whatever the fuck we want the real world does not operate that way that's not

00:05:34.720 how the fucking world works yeah okay so uh lane kiffin is 100 right that's exactly how that should be

00:05:41.580 handled and this whole idea coming from the younger population that they can get away with

00:05:47.380 whatever the fuck they want because they can claim mental health is fucking bullshit okay and we have

00:05:53.540 an entire generation of people who and a culture in this generation of people who believe that they

00:06:00.080 can get out of anything or do anything or get away with anything by claiming mental health okay and that

00:06:05.680 yes there are issues out here where people have very bad mental health issues but guess what if your

00:06:10.940 mental health issues are that bad where you you miss a week or you miss two weeks of work and you don't

00:06:15.380 even call in or you miss two weeks of fucking practice on a national championship team or even a

00:06:20.720 fucking high school team guess what's going to happen to you you're going to get fucking fired bro

00:06:25.840 and that's reality so i support exactly what he said i think there needs to be way more of this i think

00:06:32.480 people need to toughen the fuck up and we need to get away from this victim culture all of you guys who

00:06:37.720 have perpetuated this and sympathize with this and lend this you know your your empathy i can

00:06:44.860 understand that because i know what it's like to struggle with mental health i understand what

00:06:48.640 it's like to have bad fucking stretches where you really can't fucking function but never in the course

00:06:55.040 of the history of my life have i been able to just fucking get away from everything that i have

00:07:00.080 obligated to me and act like everything's fine when i come back motherfucker i have real

00:07:05.180 responsibilities and if i fucking don't keep up those responsibilities other people suffer and other people

00:07:11.900 suffer because of this man too he's on a highly ranked college football program which is top of

00:07:17.320 the fucking top and your teammates are suffering because you're being a fucking asshole okay and you

00:07:22.880 may have mental health issues the problem clearly was that you didn't communicate and you think it's

00:07:28.380 okay to just fuck the coach right off and say yeah well fuck you and i'm gonna tell you this if that

00:07:33.200 were me i would have been a lot more fucking mean to him i would have said hey you're a fucking piece of

00:07:37.500 shit you're letting your fucking team down and you fucking ignore me when i'm trying to fucking help

00:07:42.320 you and yes you're off the fucking team and not only that the kid brings his fucking phone in his

00:07:48.060 pocket and tries to record it to get a gotcha on this dude which who knows what will happen you know

00:07:54.280 maybe by the time this show airs if something would have happened to him i don't know but if anything

00:07:58.040 gets if he gets punished for this that's fucking bullshit okay this kid's a weak soft fucking bitch

00:08:04.520 that should be becoming a grown man you should use this as a fucking learning opportunity that

00:08:10.280 if you try to hide behind whatever it is you got going on in your life guess what things are going

00:08:15.340 to happen you don't like okay we all go through hard times we all have struggles we all have days

00:08:21.320 where we wake up and we'd rather not do what the fuck we we have to do all of us and sometimes that

00:08:27.580 lasts for months sometimes that lasts for fucking years in my case okay but the reality is the shit's got

00:08:34.120 to get done you make commitments you stand by the commitments you fucking do that shit's called

00:08:39.060 being a fucking grown adult it's called being a man okay and this is a little boy all right and i'm

00:08:44.880 this is the product of this victim culture mental health garbage shit that gets shoved out in the

00:08:50.780 society for likes views shares comments and personal clout and money by this predatory industry that makes

00:08:58.060 everybody feel like they're fucking something wrong with them bro there's nothing wrong with you

00:09:02.540 life is hard it's very fucking hard and sometimes it's so so hard it's almost unbearable but that's

00:09:09.580 that's true for for me that's true for dj that's true for these guys it's true for everybody here and

00:09:15.980 it's true for fucking everybody in the human race and to like victimize and label ourselves and say

00:09:21.180 we're broken because we're going through a hard time and abandon all our other opportunity bro you

00:09:26.380 don't deserve to be on the fucking team no you don't deserve you don't you don't a team is a

00:09:31.160 fucking team like you're supposed to be here you're you're made a commitment you're there if you can't

00:09:35.880 do it for yourself you do it for the guy to the right and the guy to left you that's what the fuck we do

00:09:39.800 on a team and that guy has no business being on a fucking team and i'm so tired of this victim shit

00:09:45.280 like this is the plague in our society and if we continue to go this way and we continue to enable

00:09:51.760 and coddle and fucking you know like try to get sympathy like bro this guy's trying to record that

00:09:58.460 call put it out and get all kinds of support and sympathy win them now yeah it's bullshit bro he's

00:10:04.340 suing him i mean that's the typical shit now that's typical bro these young people think that they can

00:10:10.420 because you fucking hold them accountable that they could try to ruin your life yeah you know

00:10:15.440 what i'm saying that's the good sign right so like i mean with old miss uh you know filing a motion to

00:10:19.820 dismiss it appears as if old miss is back in coach they better as they fucking should yeah uh you know

00:10:25.260 but i've never understood the idea maybe you can like help me out here but like you know i the way

00:10:29.060 i see it it's like okay you you find yourself in a fucking two-foot hole got it right shit's a little

00:10:35.940 hard right digging further down or taking a two-week break or take it i don't know listen

00:10:44.420 the two-week break this kid took just made it worse that's because motherfucker you're isolating

00:10:49.600 yourself from the team you're fucking now you know inside of your heart that you're doing something

00:10:55.260 that you shouldn't be doing which is adding to the pressure the anxiety the frustration all the shit

00:10:59.920 you're feeling and you made a mistake bro and really honestly if you're a grown fucking man

00:11:04.600 you should stand the fuck up and say bro i i made a mistake coach i fucked up yeah man and i bet lane

00:11:10.240 kiffin would fucking have respect for this kid if he said that but bro that ain't the culture we live

00:11:15.420 in this internet gotcha culture from these young people that they try to fuck everything's a scam

00:11:20.600 everything's a fraud everything's unfair the man is out to get them everybody's fucking them their

00:11:27.560 mental health is more important than fucking anything when in reality bro they haven't built any

00:11:32.860 resiliency they haven't been told any truths they haven't been told this is what i've been talking

00:11:37.880 about for 10 years on podcasts talking about what's going to happen when these kids who were

00:11:43.660 awarded participation trophies and coddled and not punished and not held to a standard actually

00:11:49.680 became adults and this fucking shit doesn't just happen on college football teams it happens in the

00:11:55.500 employment arena all the fucking time okay i can't take it i got mental health motherfucker we all got

00:12:02.640 mental health bro shit's hard it's hard it's hard to do things that matter and if you want to play

00:12:08.480 on the fucking university of old miss or fucking the university of alabama is a team i like to talk

00:12:14.300 about because i think nick saban's the greatest fucking coach that ever played or ever lived you're not

00:12:19.200 that's going to be hard like you don't like like like dude you can't hold a position on an elite

00:12:26.560 program whether that program be the university of alabama whether that program be first form

00:12:30.980 whether that program be fucking nike or any other elite program you cannot hold a position on that

00:12:37.420 team behaving like that that is the anti and bro by the way let's talk about this he did an amazing job

00:12:43.840 kicking him the fuck out of his office because that fucking kid will spoil the culture on their team

00:12:48.740 and they're having a great fucking year okay example does that set to the team yeah no he set

00:12:54.220 the right example hey if you ain't with if you ain't rowing the boat you're fucking out that's the

00:12:58.080 right example because if you would have let him stay guess how many other two-week mental breaks it

00:13:01.740 would have been oh fuck dozens every time nobody wanted to run their fucking gassers bro no dude you

00:13:06.860 know i can't do my gassers because i got mental health problems yeah you know i'm saying like that's

00:13:11.500 what the fuck we end up with yeah so dude i see this a lot coaching too because you know i coach high

00:13:15.720 school football and like we we saw it and like i can guarantee and i don't know this kid like that

00:13:20.240 but i can i i know this this type of kid right and and you know playing at old miss you're probably a

00:13:25.840 pretty good athlete you've done this guy has got this this kid passed since playing fucking little

00:13:30.640 league football this kid got where he got a natural talent and never had to work he was always told he

00:13:35.240 was great correct he was always fucking celebrated and you get to this location and and guess what the

00:13:40.980 pressure is a little bit higher yeah the fucking jfl i love i love how he says to i love how he said

00:13:45.500 yeah no shit dude we're playing fucking for a national time that their team's in contention

00:13:49.780 right now yeah i don't know what they're going to do tomorrow on saturday yeah but they're in

00:13:53.760 contention okay this is weak shit yeah this is the fucking plague of society and let me tell you

00:14:01.020 something this is real talk for all you entrepreneurs out here this is a lesson for you

00:14:05.340 fucking cut them yep okay because they will spoil your fucking culture doesn't matter what they go

00:14:11.340 say doesn't matter how they run their mouth cut them and move the fuck on okay because that kid

00:14:16.960 will ruin the entire fucking team yeah that one kid yep i think too i'm like i don't want to get too

00:14:23.080 i love how he says too he's like the coach is trying to call you you're asking coach and you're saying

00:14:28.200 you're like you're you don't show up because you're not ready to i wasn't what the fuck bro all you had to

00:14:34.100 do was show up and say coach i'm having a hard fucking time bro bro how do you know that lane

00:14:39.680 kiffin couldn't have fucking helped you or how do you know he wouldn't have said hey bro take a

00:14:43.780 couple days off i want you to go see this guy who's going to help you with this exactly like you don't

00:14:47.900 just ghost people like think of the disrespect that to that coach okay that coach has given that

00:14:54.940 kid a scholarship which he could have given to another kid he's i guarantee you he's fucking worked

00:14:59.800 his ass off whether that kid realizes or not to fucking help that kid develop and become better

00:15:05.020 and become a grown man and win lane kiffin is very famous for being a winner and you may not like the

00:15:11.080 way that he fucking coaches just like most people don't like a lot of people probably don't like the

00:15:14.880 way i coach but here's the reality we fucking win here motherfucker okay so if you want to win you come

00:15:20.240 here if you don't want to win go play somewhere else like that you go go play juco go fucking coach

00:15:26.500 little league go get your itch somewhere else you don't belong on a fucking team yeah yeah here's

00:15:31.880 the positive thing about this story man uh so like you know at least one of the places i've seen the

00:15:36.800 comments oh yeah people ain't with it people ain't with it they're tired of this shit this one it says

00:15:41.640 uh if you side with the player then you are sponsored by charman yeah that's a fact dude can't

00:15:47.160 ghost your employer for two weeks and not expect to be let go bro people think that's acceptable these

00:15:52.240 days they think it's acceptable they think that showing up to work is a fucking like win

00:15:59.700 motherfuckers showing up is not the win you have to perform you have to produce you have to be great

00:16:06.280 this is not like this is a culture you know how many entrepreneurs i talk to which is thousands of

00:16:11.480 them that tell me they can't fucking hire anybody they're just under the age of fucking 25 because they

00:16:16.540 act like this like we have a whole generation of virtually unemployable people what do you think

00:16:21.920 that's going to do to america and here's the thing those people are going to lose over and over and

00:16:27.760 over again to where it becomes so unbearable it'll finally click for them and here's the sad part about

00:16:32.580 it that might take 20 years for this guy yeah because he's been told the wrong shit growing up bro

00:16:37.540 he's been told the wrong shit he got told all this shit that i've been trying to tell you guys for

00:16:43.020 for a fucking decade almost now which is this natural order wins the best get the rewards if you want to

00:16:50.220 be great you got to do the work if you want to fucking get paid you got to be a high performer

00:16:54.280 these are these are real things and now we have a generation of children that believe that showing

00:17:00.540 up to the job to get paid is some sort of exceptional fucking work that is not exceptional work

00:17:06.880 exceptional work is that you're such a fucking asset to the team that your presence legitimately moves

00:17:13.060 the motherfucking needle for everybody on the fucking team that's doing an exceptional job not showing up

00:17:18.920 for fucking you know eight hours a day and acting like you're working most of you motherfuckers that

00:17:24.260 you know these fucking young kids are playing on the fucking phone all day bro they're not doing shit

00:17:29.040 that's the thing man the life life rules if you're a cut listen bro if you're an entrepreneur you guys

00:17:33.940 come here all you entrepreneurs come through first form one way or the other fucking hundreds of you

00:17:38.780 every year and you always say the same thing how the fuck do you get so many people that are like-minded

00:17:44.980 that do this because i don't fucking tolerate that you tolerate it i don't nick saban don't tolerate

00:17:53.260 that shit that's why they fucking win okay it's real simple if you want to win don't tolerate that

00:18:00.000 if you fucking want to if you want to be mediocre and you want to kill yourself trying to get everybody

00:18:04.500 to fucking go when nobody will go tolerate that and be a quote-unquote nice guy the best thing that kid

00:18:10.860 could ever have happen to him is what's happened to him right now because it's hopefully it will

00:18:14.760 correct his perception for the rest of his life so he doesn't spend his entire fucking life in that

00:18:19.460 mindset and ruin his whole life and waste it so hope you have a moment for him yeah it is if he

00:18:24.440 chooses to look at yeah but he ain't he's gonna fucking say oh everybody's being mean to me i have

00:18:29.680 mental health everybody's piling on and he's gonna fucking go in his little cocoon he'll fucking stay

00:18:35.340 there bro yeah look bro here you gotta fucking fight shit's hard it's hard as fuck you're gonna

00:18:42.700 have days where you don't want to do anything you're gonna have days where getting out of bed is the

00:18:46.120 hardest motherfucking thing you ever did in your life you gotta get the fuck up and you gotta get

00:18:49.840 in the fucking fight that's reality the minute you lay down is the minute that all those demons

00:18:54.500 and all that anxiety and all that stress and all that fear fucking gets you you have to keep fighting

00:19:01.060 you have to wake up and do your fucking job if even if you have to crawl through it you've got to

00:19:07.480 get up and do it because the minute you lay down that shit's got you forever bro and you can't get

00:19:11.860 out of it i feel bad for this kid but i do not feel bad for how he behaved and i think he got exactly

00:19:18.000 what he deserves and hopefully he'll use it as a fucking learning lesson and and move forward but it

00:19:23.220 doesn't seem like it's gonna yeah yeah this is why you those of you with parents need to teach your

00:19:29.240 kids reality stop teaching your kids bullshit stop teaching your kids that they're gonna be okay if

00:19:34.660 they don't try hard stop teaching your kids that they're ultra special because they came out of

00:19:38.700 your vagina motherfucker there's gazillion there's gazillion yeah and neither is your vagina okay let's

00:19:45.040 keep on let's go on that fucking topic too fucking you got all these women that think that fucking

00:19:48.980 having a vagina makes them fucking made of gold like bro you're there's been trillions of people

00:19:54.720 that have fucking billions of people have lived on this earth all through history that had

00:19:59.060 fucking kids you're not the first fucking one you know what i'm saying and your kid no matter how

00:20:03.180 much you love it is not special compared to all the other kids now if you want to make them special

00:20:07.660 that's a different thing you want to spend hours and hours and hours and hours working with them

00:20:12.000 like my brother does with his son who is dominant in sports okay the kid goes out and plays soccer

00:20:17.880 scores fucking five goals they gotta take him out of the game and all the parents are pissed off

00:20:21.660 like one of the parents literally took his shirt off and started screaming at my brother

00:20:25.180 he's lucky my brother has some self-control because he would have fucking killed this dude

00:20:28.780 okay but here's the thing these parents are pissed off because they didn't do shit with their kids

00:20:34.240 where sal spent fucking hundreds of hours with enzo practicing over and over and over and over and

00:20:39.600 he goes out and kicks ass and guess what they do on the way home they laugh about the ass kick and

00:20:44.220 they just lay down celebrate and they have fun and they're happy you think enzo's depressed he got

00:20:48.360 fucking lost yeah bro he ain't asking for no mental break that's what i'm because he's fucking

00:20:53.180 doing the work and he's winning bro that's it man like you want to cure this shit get out of your own

00:20:58.280 head get out of your feels get to fucking work and start producing some fucking good shit for yourself

00:21:02.340 that'll fix that that's real shit guys jump in on this conversation let us know down in the comments

00:21:07.920 what you guys think yeah i'll be real i don't care what you think about this i know i'm fucking right

00:21:12.360 the rules yeah it's natural fucking order if you're in a fucking predatory situation in nature bro

00:21:18.440 which we are you just don't get it we're at the top of the food chain there's more competition in

00:21:24.340 the human race than there's competition a pride of lions but i'm gonna tell you this the minute you're

00:21:29.360 a fucking lion and you behave like a weak little bitch you know what happens to you the other lions

00:21:33.660 fucking eat you and that's the same shit that happens with fucking men the minute you start pulling

00:21:38.420 this shit you're fucking done bro because there's plenty of men like me and like all these people

00:21:43.860 here in my building that'll fucking kill you because they are so hungry to win and build for

00:21:49.520 themselves you cannot compete like that and it's embarrassing like it's embarrassing that a kid like

00:21:54.800 this exists in a fucking division like a top division one program dude get your shit together bro

00:22:02.780 stop reading fucking memes on the internet about how you need to get in your feels and start realizing

00:22:07.840 this is a fucking war bro it's a fucking real thing you're ready yes and whether you want to or not

00:22:13.860 you cannot opt out of the competition you can fucking say oh you know i don't i don't feel like

00:22:20.180 doing okay cool we're gonna lose that's it that's eight eight eight billion the game does not stop

00:22:27.360 because you don't feel like playing it bro you are in competition whether you realize it or not

00:22:32.320 you just because you're you know you're all we're all running from the fucking lion bro we're all the

00:22:37.380 gazelles running from the lion and when you stop running just because you want everybody else to

00:22:41.560 stop running say i'm fucking tired guess what happens to you you get fucking eaten the lions

00:22:47.520 don't give a shit the rest of the world don't give a shit bro that you're having mental health

00:22:51.820 problems i'm sorry to tell you that they just don't i've had them my whole life i figured out how

00:22:56.360 to fucking get around them you know how i figured out how to get around them by training myself day

00:23:01.140 after day after day after day after day after day after day for years that i can win every

00:23:05.360 single motherfucking day if i try and when i get done with my day and i wake up in the morning

00:23:09.480 because usually in the morning is when i'm the most depressed and most anxious by the time i get

00:23:13.340 done with my day after kicking motherfucking ass all day guess what i feel like when i get home

00:23:16.860 i feel like a million fucking bucks bro i feel fucking amazing because not only did i win i won in the face

00:23:23.780 of the negative shit that's powerful shit you giving up and laying down and staying on your fucking bed

00:23:29.760 all day is gonna fucking kill you dude stop it stop all this shit stop tolerating it i love it man

00:23:36.900 i love it guys hey the question number two let's build on this a little bit um because this question

00:23:41.860 i guess has a little bit to do with that um andy this is a question that's related to your andy gram

00:23:46.240 from november 1st where you talked about surrounding yourself with people who are doers instead of talkers

00:23:52.580 what strategies do you use to find the people that get shit done i look at their lives i look at how

00:23:59.460 they live i look at what shape they're in i look at their habits i look at like how they actually

00:24:04.660 produce results i look at i look at everything like i when i am when i am talking to you whether

00:24:11.180 you work for me or not or even just know like i'm interviewing you interview every every single

00:24:17.280 time i meet any single every one of you that i meet in public understand i'm interviewing you

00:24:22.620 i'm looking at everything that i can observe from you right now what kind of shape is this person in

00:24:27.760 what are they telling me how are they speaking are they looking at me in the eye do they give me a

00:24:32.080 firm handshake all of this shit matters bro and it's not just to me everybody picks it up whether

00:24:37.560 you think they do or not doesn't matter they do okay so how you behave and how you produce and how

00:24:44.560 you work and how you live can tell a lot if you pay attention so how do you find people that do

00:24:49.980 shit by looking at people who have done shit what has this person done oh what can zoltan do shit

00:24:56.160 from five fingers oh well zoltan came here from hungary communist country built his first guitar

00:25:01.520 and his coffee table he went to new york city with a fucking uh with nothing learned to fucking

00:25:06.860 speak english by translating uh the shawshank redemption book word by word by word then he became

00:25:13.800 an artist who designed graphics for wwe and other big companies then he moved to la then he became

00:25:21.840 a black belt in jujitsu then he became the fucking best rhythm guitarist on the motherfucking planet

00:25:27.100 then then then then then then and you he's a he's a fucking accomplished race car driver like he's a

00:25:32.700 doer okay the guys can do shit like if i had to call zoltan up and say hey we're gonna fucking build

00:25:37.840 this company together you know what i know it's gonna work because that motherfucker's gonna get it

00:25:41.940 done okay so if we just observe people's past right and in the employment atmosphere like look

00:25:49.440 back at what they did in high school look back at what they did before that look back at what they

00:25:53.680 did in college did they do anything or did they just get a degree okay like what do they do outside

00:25:59.380 of school what are the projects they've done what kind of talent what kind of skills do they have do

00:26:03.680 they have a talent do they have any skills like a dude one of my tim one of our best fucking

00:26:08.380 designers here he's the fucking main dude you ever seen what he does outside of work he's badass

00:26:14.200 at fucking drums bro like fucking badass dude you know what that tells me that tells me the guy has

00:26:20.520 the discipline and the fucking and the ability to to dedicate himself to become great at something

00:26:25.820 that's timing i'm honing a skill correct yeah so you have to pay attention what have they done

00:26:31.300 what are they doing joe sitting right over there has done worked in the hip-hop industry for fucking

00:26:37.380 20 motherfucking years at the highest fucking level bro he's done all kinds of crazy shit and he's

00:26:42.920 behind the scenes right but like that's real shit that this motherfucker has done and like if we go

00:26:47.840 down like my brother my brother was a tremendous athlete he was a tremendous he was a number one

00:26:52.120 salesman at ethicon he was fucking you know like all state all fucking play pro baseball like all this

00:26:58.060 he could clearly do shit so if we observe people how they speak how they look how they talk do they

00:27:05.880 make eye contact do they shake your hand right have they actually done things you could find out real

00:27:10.780 quick who's doing stuff and who's just talking about doing stuff it's really in it but that takes reps

00:27:16.820 though right because like you're you're finding the more people you meet you're finding these common

00:27:20.920 denominators because like how do you what do you i don't know how to describe it right but like they all

00:27:25.480 have that same like they have that that it right like and they'll just take reps to to truly identify

00:27:32.460 that yeah but here's what you're going to find out is that most people suck at everything because they

00:27:38.240 don't try nothing they don't try it fucking anything they do and they feel entitled just like this kid

00:27:44.240 you said we're going to build off of it that kid is going to spend his whole life saying the entire

00:27:48.700 world fucked me the entire world did not fuck you bro you were blessed with an amazing fucking gift

00:27:53.900 of size strength and athletic ability and you were not taught to work put work behind it and you

00:27:59.080 probably could have been the deep you probably could have been the greatest defensive tackle to

00:28:02.540 ever play in the nfl if you would have just had a work ethic to go with it and now the fact that you

00:28:07.940 are at this level with that attitude speaks to your athletic ability so think if you took that athletic

00:28:14.060 ability and put it with a work ethic and align those motherfucking things yeah you know what i'm saying

00:28:18.820 but he'll never know that nope he'll have to the whole this guy will end up dying he'll say lane

00:28:24.660 kiffin fucked me the world fucked me no the only person that fucked you was you and that's reality

00:28:30.500 bro you guys fuck yourselves over by not learning basic shit that you can learn really through the

00:28:36.660 live hard program at 75 hard which is discipline uh you know overall mental toughness the ability to

00:28:43.340 execute persevere have grit have fortitude learn how to build momentum build self-esteem build confidence

00:28:49.560 for yourself if you would learn that these things were actual skill sets and they are not traits that

00:28:56.260 people are just born with and you could actually pour into them and develop them in yourself you become

00:29:01.620 unlimited in your potential unlimited that's why the program's so fucking good that's why i made

00:29:07.520 it free because more people need it because we got so many people like this dude out in the world

00:29:11.900 that we got to fix it so you know how do you know the difference man yeah it's reps but the reality

00:29:18.700 is is like it's out of every hundred people it's five people that hear the doers to the not doers

00:29:26.920 it's it's five to five percent doers 95 percent bullshitters that's it and here's the thing the

00:29:33.620 world needs fry cooks too bro some people some people are going to be fry cooks their whole fucking life

00:29:38.300 that's cool because i need french fries i like them you know i'm saying just make them extra crispy

00:29:42.960 yeah you know like not everybody's gonna be talking listen bro this is reality not everybody's gonna be

00:29:48.100 great most people aren't and most people aren't going to be great because they're going to tell

00:29:52.480 themselves a story that is even true about why they are where they are okay the reason you are where

00:29:58.280 you are is because in the past you either listen to someone who was telling you the wrong shit you bought

00:30:03.460 into the wrong ideology but certainly at the end of the day you didn't make the right decisions you

00:30:09.080 made some bad fucking decisions and because you made these bad decisions you take the power away

00:30:13.780 from you when you deny the fact that it's actually you to change the future let me give you an example

00:30:19.080 if you're sitting where you are right now and you hate your life and you're saying fuck i fucking hate

00:30:23.880 my life it's my wife's fault it's my husband's fault it's my girlfriend's fault it's my parents fault

00:30:28.860 it's my job's fault it's the world's fault fuck the world it fucked me over and you can't identify

00:30:34.200 that the decisions that you made in the past have led you to this point okay what you're actually

00:30:39.280 doing is you're deferring responsibility to outside circumstances which means you are telling yourself

00:30:45.540 and the world that you have no control over your own outcome and if you have no if you can't

00:30:51.100 understand that your decisions have created the situation that you're in you have given your power away

00:30:57.060 okay so now if you want to change what you have from where you are to where you want to be you

00:31:03.640 don't have the power to do that because you've already bought into the idea that your life is

00:31:07.620 dictated by outside circumstances so if you want to actually change your life if you're in this

00:31:12.120 frustrated point of life or you're in pain or frustration or any of these negative things you're

00:31:16.960 where you don't want to be you have to take responsibility for where you are by saying i made those decisions

00:31:23.000 so that you can admit to yourself and tell yourself that i have the power to change that and that means i'm going

00:31:28.820 to make better decisions now and then the outcome later will be the way i want it to be and because people

00:31:34.560 fail to take responsibility and they blame everything on everybody else they can't have that power because

00:31:39.520 they're giving it away okay so you have to say and tell yourself the truth i'm where i am whether it's good

00:31:47.800 or bad i'm where i am because i made certain decisions and if i'm in a bad spot guess what

00:31:53.020 that's okay i can make better decisions moving forward but if you constantly talk about how

00:31:57.880 everything fucked you over how can you ever admit to yourself that all you got to do is make some

00:32:02.160 better decisions no you're going to continue to float down the path and be a fucking victim bro and

00:32:06.660 get your dick stomped in your whole life is that what you want do you want to get your fucking dick stomped

00:32:11.500 in for the next 60 fucking years because i assure you you probably don't so it would behoove you to admit

00:32:17.020 to yourself that where you are is a product of your shitty decisions and to start making some

00:32:21.240 better ones so you could fucking actually live some good life while you're here i love it man

00:32:25.960 i fucking love it guys andy our third and final question question number three andy i'm in the

00:32:33.440 beginning of building my business i am 24 years old i do not have very much money at all i see a lot

00:32:40.420 of content around being a man in today's world i sometimes feel demoralized and insecure about my

00:32:46.020 financial situation since it's a man's job to provide for his family am i am i just not long

00:32:52.840 enough into the game or do i have a valid reason to feel this way all right it's good that you feel

00:32:59.460 this way okay because you feel this way this is called awareness of self first of all let me start

00:33:06.960 here you're not supposed to have shit yet okay you're you're fucking 24 bro you know how broke i was

00:33:13.120 at 20 fucking four at 24 years old i was making 695 a month okay i was not setting the world on fire

00:33:19.760 i was broke as fuck all my friends were laughing at me they were all telling me get a fucking real job

00:33:23.900 grow the fuck up you know are you still doing that little vitamin shop all the shit i heard it all

00:33:28.620 but you're not supposed to have anything at 24 you're supposed to struggle that's the reality okay so

00:33:35.640 understand that first off you're you're not in a bad spot but it's good that you think you are

00:33:41.820 okay and this is called being aware most people would never question like am i providing or am i

00:33:50.860 doing a good job as a man or am i you know building a like am i doing okay nobody asks themselves that and

00:33:57.560 because they don't ask themselves that it never changes right they continue to fucking live a broke

00:34:01.640 ass life so while you are justified in telling yourself well i'm not supposed to have shit i

00:34:10.000 think it's a great thing that you feel the way you do and that you feel frustrated about it because

00:34:14.260 that frustration that awareness that you don't have shit is what's going to drive you to take the

00:34:18.480 actions to make sure that you do all right so don't beat yourself up but keep in mind you're you're

00:34:25.240 doing okay bro you're you're you're 24 you don't have shit you're aware that you want some shit

00:34:30.700 which most 24 year olds don't even most people don't think like this young man until they're 35

00:34:36.260 and it's way too fucking late okay that you understand so it's not way too late at 35 you

00:34:43.000 realize it you know by by four you're wasted 10 15 that's right okay so i don't want to demoralize

00:34:47.560 anybody that might be 35 yeah but it's better to realize this when you're young than when you're

00:34:51.940 older sure okay the older you get the harder it becomes so an amazing thing about the world that we

00:34:58.720 live in is you can build success pretty quickly because of the the internet and social media as

00:35:02.740 much as i hate social media it does provide uh it does cut off many years of the curve of trying to

00:35:09.040 build something um but no i think this is i think you're right where you should be i think you're

00:35:15.820 supposed to struggle right now you're supposed to learn the lessons that you're learning and i think

00:35:19.660 it's important for you to continue to be of the mind frame that you're not doing good enough

00:35:24.300 because that's the mind frame that produces progress okay where i'm at in life which is

00:35:29.060 a pretty good place i still feel like i ain't shit and that might sound weird because like

00:35:33.380 sometimes i say some cocky shit i might pop off sometimes but like do do you think i feel that

00:35:38.540 way absolutely do you do any of you guys in the studio think that i think i'm so good i don't have

00:35:42.800 to fucking try or do anything or do you think i like come to work every day wanting to win really

00:35:46.660 fucking bad every single fucking day like i want to win so fucking bad it drives these motherfuckers

00:35:50.820 insane true or not true sometimes true or not true just tell the truth tell the truth all right

00:35:58.540 it does but but you know what because i want to win so bad these motherfuckers gonna win too

00:36:04.280 okay so it's okay yeah you know what i'm saying like i like the fact that this man is frustrated

00:36:10.660 that's a great thing for you to be the problem becomes when you don't have shit and you're not

00:36:15.560 frustrated about it oh so yeah that's don't beat yourself up don't beat yourself up too bad brother

00:36:23.060 you're doing good you're right where you're supposed to be you got the right mindset continue on the

00:36:27.580 path bro i love it yeah i fucking love it guys andy don't make no fucking excuses about your fucking

00:36:33.140 mental health you'll be okay don't take two weeks off yeah whatever you do don't take two weeks off

00:36:39.000 dude dude and that dude and the funny thing is getting back to that topic one is those

00:36:45.360 motherfuckers will then go online and try to make this guy look like a villain it's like my job is

00:36:51.060 to fucking win dude my job is to fucking build this program into a fuck that's what i'm getting paid to

00:36:57.480 do that's my job my job is to take you and make you a product of the truth that can go out past this

00:37:05.340 football and do well in life and that kid bitched out of that i hope he fucking comes around dude it

00:37:11.740 really bothers me that that happened yeah yeah man well guys andy that was three go pay fee

00:37:18.080 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in

00:37:24.440 the code bad bitch booted swole got her own bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close

00:37:31.600 close

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 14, 2023

598. Q&AF： Ole Miss Mental Health Crisis, Doers Vs. Talkers & Financial Insecurity

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