REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 60. Liberating Your Mind

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00

00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch 0.99

00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's dandy frisella and this is the show for the real let's say 0.99

00:00:16.840 goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking

00:00:21.940 reality guys today we have a real talk episode it's not going to be long but it is going to be 0.90

00:00:27.780 packed with information that i believe will help you right now all right we look around the world

00:00:34.380 and not a single one of us can deny the chaos that's going on we have all sorts of information

00:00:42.500 coming out as 24 7 we've got political issues social issues personal beliefs and all these things

00:00:51.740 you know the media jamming stories down our our throat to get us to see things the way they want

00:00:58.560 us to see them and we're having all of these influences and information collide and what's

00:01:04.260 it do to us it makes us confused it makes us have anxiety it makes us frustrated it makes us angry

00:01:12.220 and it makes us unhappy and so today i thought what i would do with you guys is sort of walk you through

00:01:20.860 um a couple points four to be exact that i think will help you understand a couple things uh that you

00:01:29.820 can do to help liberate and free your mind and your anxiety and your frustration and your anger and to

00:01:35.800 help you become more comfortable finding out what the truth is and how you can stand on the truth

00:01:44.680 okay and you guys first have to realize that most of the things that you believe you believe them

00:01:51.300 because you were indoctrinated to believe them all right and a lot of people hear indoctrinated and

00:01:56.220 they start to think conspiracy theory but the truth is you are who you grew up around okay what your

00:02:02.680 parents taught you was indoctrination whatever it was they taught you you were indoctrinated to learn

00:02:10.480 those things over the course of your upbringing that doesn't make them right or wrong it just makes

00:02:16.760 it what it is and so we as humans are constantly fighting what our core beliefs are with what the data

00:02:25.760 is that's available out there in the real world and it doesn't help us when there's 15 different news

00:02:33.980 channels all reporting the same data in different ways to push their agenda it confuses us it makes us

00:02:43.300 doubt what we believe and then when we consider what it is that we were taught and how we were brought up

00:02:50.320 and what we were taught in those regards it can make it extra confusing because now we're collaborating

00:02:56.600 you know and conflicting our own belief systems with what society is showing and see guys this is just

00:03:05.260 a big attack on our own egos these people who are pushing this information out understand the nature of

00:03:14.080 humanity and the nature of humanity is this we all have an ego and we all like our ego and we all have

00:03:20.900 a tough time stepping aside and detaching our personal feelings regarding a matter to accept things that

00:03:28.640 might not align with what we personally believe okay so if you didn't understand that i want you to go

00:03:36.380 back and listen to it again we have a hard time detaching our personal beliefs from what is actually

00:03:43.680 happening and a lot of people right now and it's really hard for me to sit back and watch are really

00:03:49.220 struggling with this and this struggle can show up and you know all kinds of different ways it could

00:03:54.960 show up in anxiety it could show up in frustration it could show up in anger but none of it's good

00:04:00.840 all right none of us none of these things make us feel good and what i want to do here is just have a

00:04:06.680 nice calm talk with you so that you could understand uh how to liberate through this process so that

00:04:13.460 you can feel free have less anxiety have less frustration and you know focus on what you can

00:04:20.780 do to be better all right so the core of this issue guys it comes down to a real simple fact none of us

00:04:27.760 like to be wrong right we all want what we believe to be the truth and the way that conversations happen

00:04:33.940 amongst humans uh especially with the culture that we have right now in america is that we tend

00:04:41.060 to want to win conversations all right think about how you speak with your friends you know one of

00:04:48.500 your friends says they ran a mile and then you got your next friends like yeah dude i ran a mile too

00:04:54.100 but that was like two years ago now i'm up to two miles and then you know it goes around the table 0.94

00:04:58.340 and then by the end of it you feel like shit because you only ran a mile right so we live in this 0.93

00:05:04.380 competitive atmosphere where we're competing with other people's egos everybody wants to be the best 0.99

00:05:10.160 everybody wants to talk about what they did and everybody wants what they did to be better what

00:05:14.340 you did that's just the truth and it's frustrating right like but if we're honest and we look at the

00:05:20.180 internet and we look at conversations in real life this is this is something that happens all the time

00:05:24.460 so when we come to a point where we believe something to be the truth we have a really hard time

00:05:33.600 changing our minds off of that all right our culture is a culture which values itself based upon

00:05:43.820 how right they are okay how good their argument is are they making points and i want you to forget about 0.95

00:05:52.480 all that shit and i want you to realize a very huge truth about your own happiness and it's this 0.92

00:06:04.220 if you attach yourself too hard to any given belief and don't allow yourself the opportunity to learn 0.99

00:06:12.240 something new and to change your mind you're setting yourself up for misery okay and what you're doing

00:06:19.760 is you're letting your ego get in the way of the truth and because you can't actually accept the

00:06:26.680 truth or be on the the truth team so to speak it makes you feel bad and that's just the way we feel

00:06:33.500 and you feel it in your soul right like you know when you're wrong and it's not what you believed

00:06:39.640 and other people are right and the facts have shown it and it's a very difficult feeling to process 0.97

00:06:45.700 right you feel like guilty almost you almost feel like fuck you i wish i could say i was wrong but i 0.99

00:06:52.220 can't right that's what people do but that's that's wrong the truth is if you want to be happy and you 0.99

00:06:58.800 want to be successful and you want to be fulfilled and you want to be light and free and feel good

00:07:04.920 you have to be willing to change your mind when it's appropriate now i'm not saying you're gonna jump all

00:07:12.660 over the new trend over here or jump all over the new trend over there or whatever's new that's not

00:07:17.780 what i'm saying there's value in digging your heels in sometimes but only when you're well informed about

00:07:24.460 what you're talking about and that's something that only we can self-regulate we have to go in we have

00:07:30.760 to do the research we have to figure out where we stand and once we're confident in where we stand

00:07:36.800 sometimes you can dig your heels in right um there's a lot of things that are good in the world

00:07:42.080 happen when you do that the problem we have now is we have a lot of people that dig their heels in

00:07:46.480 when they actually haven't done the homework okay so the first thing you need to understand is

00:07:51.160 there is a huge difference between being wrong and being bad okay a lot of people associate being wrong

00:07:59.640 and being bad as the same thing that's not true all right if you don't know any better and you

00:08:05.780 haven't done the homework and you haven't done the research you're just wrong that doesn't mean

00:08:10.920 you're bad okay when you don't have the information or have the facts and don't know the truth it's

00:08:17.040 okay to be wrong this is normal and right now we're living in a society where they are purposefully 0.94

00:08:23.820 confusing us so that we don't know what the fuck is going on so it makes it real hard for us to decide 0.82

00:08:30.680 what it is that is right and wrong all right the data is confusing the personalities are confusing 0.95

00:08:37.300 we're hearing all kinds of crazy shit come out about people that we trusted and loved and liked

00:08:42.360 and enjoyed our whole lives we're having a lot thrown at us right now guys so understand that 0.94

00:08:50.380 you can't plant yourself on a on a hill when you don't know what the hill's made of all right that's

00:08:58.500 how i want you to think of it so point number one is this understand there's a difference between being

00:09:03.940 wrong and being bad big difference it's not the same okay point number two is this and it's sort

00:09:10.900 of in line with point number one but it's an inverse relationship okay if you get to a point where you

00:09:19.140 know you're wrong and you refuse to accept it you are no longer just wrong now you're crossing the line

00:09:26.860 to negligent or bad all right if you know better and still refuse to admit that you're wrong

00:09:32.820 that's not a good thing that's going to make you feel bad you're going to feel that in the in the

00:09:37.840 form of anxiety in the form of self-criticism in the form of pain in the form of frustration

00:09:42.580 and it's going to make you angry stop and ask yourself why are you so mad at the people who

00:09:48.820 are arguing with you okay you'll find out a lot by just asking some questions um there's been plenty

00:09:55.480 of examples about this throughout history uh where you know all the facts seem to say one thing

00:10:01.000 and then comes to find out that it was a whole nother thing all right i can remember years ago

00:10:05.880 there was a situation where there was a car seat and this new and i can't remember the exact name

00:10:10.440 of it but there was a new innovative car seat right and everybody thought it was cool and a bunch of

00:10:16.360 parents bought it and this car seat because it was designed the wrong way uh ended up killing a bunch

00:10:23.120 of kids like i think at least a dozen kids or so and because it was considered to be the cool thing

00:10:31.520 a lot of parents ignored the data all right and said well we're still going to use this car seat anyway

00:10:38.060 and guess what happened their kids died okay so this situation the parents whose kids died

00:10:46.620 through ignorance they didn't know that's not that's not a bad thing right but then when the

00:10:53.040 people ignored the data and then went ahead and put their kids in those positions anyway and then they

00:10:57.220 died now you're crossing a line to negligence okay and and not good things things that will haunt you

00:11:03.300 for your entire life you have to understand there's there's a big difference between being wrong and being

00:11:08.960 bad and if you come to the conclusion that you might be wrong and you don't stand on it and say hey man 0.99

00:11:15.560 i was fucking wrong and then something bad happens that's where you're in real deep shit to have a 0.95

00:11:20.740 lot of regret a lot of pain and and who knows what else okay a lot of bad things nothing good comes from 0.98

00:11:25.620 it so uh and another thing to consider too in this point is that you know when you stand on your hill

00:11:32.620 on your view on your thought process when you know it's wrong and you start to go out and voice it

00:11:38.960 what happens is you're misleading others with the mentality and that's that's not good that's bad

00:11:45.220 that's evil okay when you know you're wrong and you're going out and stating certain things to 0.98

00:11:50.780 get people to believe in you that's manipulation that's bad bad bad shit all right so understand 0.97

00:11:58.120 there's a big difference between being wrong and being bad and then understand that once you realize 0.99

00:12:02.360 you're wrong it's important to adjust fire quickly because it's going to save you a lot of heartache

00:12:07.460 all right now the third point is this and this is a big one admitting that you're wrong is not a

00:12:14.420 weakness okay everybody thinks this is a weakness i actually think this is a superpower i actually

00:12:20.160 believe that being able to detach enough and admit quickly that you're wrong is actually a huge strength

00:12:27.220 that you could possess in all areas of your life okay and i'm going to tell you something people

00:12:32.220 respect this sort of behavior a lot of people put off the fact of admitting that they were wrong

00:12:39.080 or admitting that they were misled or admitting that they didn't know all the things because they're

00:12:44.380 afraid of letting all the people who agree with them down and that the people on the other side who

00:12:49.940 are actually operating a different way they're afraid those people are going to ridicule them and 0.97

00:12:54.460 they're going to say well you know fuck you still you thought that's not what happens what happens is 0.98

00:12:59.640 is when you admit that you're wrong people respect that people see that as a tough thing to do they 0.99

00:13:07.380 understand that it's very difficult because they've had to do it before and what you'll find is is kind

00:13:13.160 of once you figure it out you're going to get a big hug from the people that you've been arguing with

00:13:17.800 for your whole life and that that should make you feel less anxious about maybe making some new decisions

00:13:24.940 about what you believe and not believe and i think a lot of people are doing this right now

00:13:28.620 because of the amount of information that we're having i think a lot of people are seeing a lot of 0.99

00:13:34.060 this shit and you know we have people that are saying oh you know i whatever this is all bullshit and 0.99

00:13:39.300 then we have people who are saying hey um this doesn't look good and this is not what i'm about and 1.00

00:13:45.340 this is not what i believe in you know what uh i'm not with that those people are being celebrated

00:13:50.880 as strong those people are being shown to have strength and i'm not talking about you know anything

00:13:56.080 other than how to work through this situation in any scenario it could be you know at work it could

00:14:02.260 be in your relationship it could be in business i can tell you for sure in business admitting that

00:14:07.080 you're wrong is a huge necessary you have to have the ability to do this because i'm going to tell you

00:14:13.260 and i will tell you from from from coaching you know thousands of entrepreneurs for many many years

00:14:20.040 i'm just telling you this is what holds most people back from being great at business is that

00:14:25.440 they let their ego get in the way of their decision making they know that they're likely wrong but they 0.95

00:14:30.400 push through on their agenda anyway and it ends up having them lose and that sounds stupid right like 0.94

00:14:35.480 why would you break yourself over you know your pride but guys i'm telling you man it happens every day 0.99

00:14:42.880 i've been in this game for a long time it happens every fucking day and it is the biggest 0.98

00:14:47.280 weakness that most people have most people's biggest weakness is they cannot change their mind 0.95

00:14:55.520 they cannot admit they were wrong because of their pride all right so again there's a big difference 1.00

00:15:02.780 between being wrong and being bad if you realize you're wrong and you still spouting that bad shit 0.89

00:15:08.560 that means you're bad admitting you're wrong the third point is not a weakness it's actually a 0.94

00:15:14.960 superpower strength all right and the last point is this you're going to feel better okay you hear

00:15:21.920 that saying before you know the truth will set you free and a lot of people don't know what that means

00:15:26.340 but what it means is is that you're able to have a clear conscious about what you believe and you won't

00:15:32.460 feel the need to argue and fight and bicker and you know be mad at other people because of what they

00:15:38.540 believe so a lot of what's going on right now in the world is a lot of people have you know

00:15:43.580 they're coming to terms with the fact that what they were taught what they were supposed to believe 0.90

00:15:49.000 what they think was the truth actually isn't the truth and it's making them fucking mad that's not

00:15:55.140 how you should feel you should feel disappointed you might want to feel like embarrassed a little bit

00:16:00.180 but guys i'm telling you guys there's so much manipulation going on in the world right now in

00:16:04.580 all different areas there's so many lies there's so much um posturing and presenting of facts that just

00:16:11.280 isn't true in all regards by all sides it's extremely difficult to see what's going on 0.97

00:16:17.480 and so if you feel embarrassed about this i'm just telling you you shouldn't because nobody fucking 0.97

00:16:24.640 knows okay so here's the thing when you start to come to the truth that you know in your heart is 0.70

00:16:32.520 the truth because you've done the actual research and you've read and you've investigated and you've 0.98

00:16:38.700 discovered on yourself versus just following the herd and whatever the fuck they're saying 0.98

00:16:43.700 you are going to feel lighter you're going to feel freer you're going to feel better and you're going 0.78

00:16:48.580 to understand what it means when people say the truth will set you free because you won't have that

00:16:54.480 anxiety you won't have that weight on your shoulders see that weight what it comes from is you knowing

00:17:00.580 that you're wrong and not being able to admit that you're wrong all right and i could tell you this 0.98

00:17:05.460 in a real world scenario real quick and just a stupid example for you guys all right i always drove 0.93

00:17:13.180 chevy trucks always and i i planted my identity into driving chevy trucks i always drove them well 0.94

00:17:20.640 i got to a point where you know and like dude i'm not saying i was like pro chevy i'm saying like

00:17:27.780 i hated ford i hated ford i wouldn't use their products now i like their cars i don't like their

00:17:33.620 trucks and the fair the fair thing is i did have some bad experiences in the past with their trucks

00:17:38.040 but anyway so for like three years the last three or four years my brother started driving ford trucks

00:17:45.060 and i gotta be honest they're really nice and i knew they were really nice i saw they were really nice

00:17:52.760 but instead of me accepting that the truck was really nice and well built and they actually had

00:17:57.660 made a change for the better i didn't say anything and every time i saw the truck dude it would make 0.99

00:18:03.840 me mad like i'm like fuck why are they why is that truck so nice like fuck that truck like that i had 0.99

00:18:09.220 this weird like emotional reaction to it and that's my ego right because i wanted to be right i wanted 0.99

00:18:14.440 chevy chevy chevy and guys the truth is both of them make really nice trucks so i decided to say you

00:18:21.360 know what i know i've been the anti-ford guy forever and i know like you know i've said all

00:18:27.000 this stuff about ford but uh i wanted to give it a try and i'll tell you what dude i bought a ford truck

00:18:34.920 for the first time i have in 15 years and i love it i love it i've driven the shit out of it i drive 0.74

00:18:41.880 it almost every day it runs perfect it's comfortable everything about it i like and i'm super happy and

00:18:49.140 guess what i don't have i don't have that hate anymore in me i don't have that negativity i don't

00:18:53.800 have that anxiety when i see a chevy truck i don't get mad at the chevy truck you know what i'm saying

00:18:59.220 like i still see the chevy and i'm like that's a good truck and then when i get my ford i'm proud to

00:19:03.600 drive the ford too so now i've like eliminated this negativity right out of my life and i know that

00:19:09.460 sounds silly but when you can remove these false barriers and you can start to experience new things

00:19:16.580 and become free to change your mind and i'm talking about anything guys you remove a tremendous

00:19:22.380 amount of anxiety from your life you remove a tremendous amount of frustration from your life

00:19:27.760 you remove a tremendous amount of unnecessary negative energy from your life and guess what else

00:19:34.940 people love it okay no one likes those guys everybody thinks that that everybody likes those

00:19:42.140 people that dig their heels in and they feel i used to think that was cool too when i was like 20 years

00:19:47.400 old right i used to when i was 25 up until i was about 35 years old honestly if i'm being totally honest

00:19:53.480 with you i used to think that was cool to be the guy who dug my heels in and i was this so matter what

00:19:57.680 what i realized was not only was it handicapping me in life but it was making me unhappy and so right now

00:20:05.500 i want you to understand that you know it's okay to change your mind and it's a very liberating

00:20:10.760 process and a healthy process so that you'll feel at peace with yourself by doing this all right and you

00:20:18.400 have to let go of what your friends are going to think most of your friends if you're able to be the

00:20:23.600 person who will look up the data make a decision and stand on your own ex they're not going to ridicule you

00:20:29.840 for it they might tease you a little bit but they'll respect it i could promise you that all right

00:20:34.380 so if you're having trouble right now and you're having trouble admitting that you you know you you

00:20:39.900 saw something the wrong way or you didn't know the facts understand that's okay but we are at a

00:20:45.900 critical time in this country we are at a very critical time and this is not left or right or

00:20:50.900 anything this is about america and the constitution of america and the beliefs of america

00:20:54.680 america and this also happens to be a skill that is useful in all areas of life so i wanted to

00:21:01.420 provide this tool for you guys to maybe help some of you guys who are struggling with your beliefs

00:21:05.540 to start to um you know think about it maybe in a different way i understand dude just because you

00:21:13.100 didn't know doesn't mean you're bad but if you did know and you continued that's not a good thing

00:21:19.320 it's never going to bring you a win it's always going to bring you losses all right understand

00:21:24.380 also admitting that you're wrong is not a weakness it's a strength and people love and respect it it's

00:21:31.020 actually a sign of leadership great leaders are the best people at saying they were wrong that's the

00:21:37.820 truth okay you bring up my friend jaco jaco's led people his whole life this guy is an expert at being

00:21:46.780 wrong real fast because he understands that once he finds the truth that you can win and this is

00:21:53.580 something that you guys all have to understand in every area of life once you find the truth you

00:21:58.920 can win okay and then we get to the point four the truth will set you free what does this mean

00:22:04.000 it means it's liberating it means it feels good it means you're going to feel more at peace you're

00:22:08.820 going to feel more proud you're going to have more confidence because you know you're doing something

00:22:12.620 that you need to do all right so guys look i know we covered a lot there i just wanted to provide

00:22:19.700 you guys with a tool that will maybe help you uh walk through the process of finding a new perspective

00:22:25.280 and i also wanted you to understand that like look this is a very confusing time for everybody a very

00:22:31.160 frustrating time for everybody and we're looking for a way to reduce the anxiety reduce the pressure

00:22:36.480 reduce the stress and i'm going to tell you the first thing that you can do on this is to be okay

00:22:42.220 with not knowing be okay with observing be okay with doing your own research but i'm going to tell you

00:22:48.020 this also the quickest way to be unhappy the quickest way to be really embarrassed the quickest way to be

00:22:55.320 ashamed of some of the things that you believe in a long term is to ignore the actual facts of what's

00:23:02.080 going on because of your pride and your ego you will always lose with that mentality okay it's not

00:23:08.880 about being right it's about what's right 0.99

00:23:11.620 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm going to get millions watch this in the project living down 1.00

00:23:17.180 spoke it till existence 1.00

00:23:18.380 i'm from where you can't trust so welcome

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 01, 2020

60. Liberating Your Mind

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