REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 02, 2023


606. Real Talk: Redefining Yourself


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

165.02315

Word Count

1,283

Sentence Count

74


Summary

Where you are in life right now is not who you are. Who you are is someone who has learned that creating things comes from the decisions you made many, many months and years ago. So, when you have the perspective that, "well, I'm not good enough, I just made some bad decisions" that opens us up to make better decisions which creates a better outcome. And this is the mystery of life.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist's sake about the
00:00:20.540 lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:24.320 Guys, today we have a real talk and I'm going to get right into it, okay?
00:00:27.960 I was talking to a buddy of mine who's going through some hard times and it got me thinking
00:00:34.940 about a lot of people out there.
00:00:36.180 A lot of you guys might be going through a hard time and I want to remind you of something.
00:00:39.940 I want to remind you that where you are in life right now is not who you are, okay?
00:00:48.980 Who you were has created the life that you're living right now, but who you are is a different
00:00:55.680 version of yourself.
00:00:58.100 You have felt pain.
00:00:59.500 You have learned lessons, hopefully.
00:01:01.840 You have gone through things that that previous self didn't know or hadn't experienced and
00:01:08.000 now you are equipped with a different perspective, with different skills, and a better understanding
00:01:13.280 of what decisions need to be made to change the outcome that you are currently living in.
00:01:19.100 So, you have to understand that if you look at it as if what you're experiencing right now
00:01:26.960 as who you are, you are closing off the ability to make any changes to the current circumstances.
00:01:36.920 If you look around and your whole life is a shit show, all right, you can't look at yourself
00:01:41.980 in the mirror and say, well, I'm just a piece of shit.
00:01:44.700 That's not how it works.
00:01:46.500 Actually, what happened was the person that you were a year ago, two years ago, three years
00:01:53.540 ago, five years ago, made some uneducated and probably instant gratification minded decisions
00:02:00.860 that have created this outcome that you are unsatisfied with and that is not who you are.
00:02:07.100 Now who you are is someone who has learned that creating things comes from the decisions that
00:02:14.680 you made many, many months and years ago.
00:02:18.420 So, when you have the perspective that, you know what, I'm not a piece of shit, I just
00:02:24.260 made some bad decisions, that opens us up to make better decisions, which creates a better
00:02:30.700 outcome.
00:02:31.580 And this is the mystery of life.
00:02:34.020 This is why many of you repeat the same cycles over and over and over and over again because
00:02:41.420 you look at the environment you are currently in and you say, well, I'm just not good enough
00:02:46.560 or I'm just not that kind of person or you know what, I'm just a loser.
00:02:51.800 You are not a loser.
00:02:53.280 You are just losing and you are losing because the person that you were before lacked the perspective
00:02:59.320 or the understanding that the decisions that that person was making were going to create
00:03:04.300 an outcome that was not desirable.
00:03:06.500 But now you've learned that lesson, haven't you?
00:03:09.680 Now you've figured out that maybe that person that you were before is not who the person
00:03:15.260 you are today.
00:03:16.580 And if you had the same opportunity to make the same decisions today, you would make different
00:03:22.220 decisions.
00:03:23.240 So, why don't you?
00:03:25.740 Because that's what's going to change things.
00:03:28.340 Nothing is going to be changed by you sitting in front of the TV, eating more shit, consuming
00:03:35.240 more mindless information, being more of a loser than you already are, that's not going
00:03:40.440 to fix the situation.
00:03:42.000 That's going to produce more of what you don't want and probably a more intense, harder version
00:03:47.740 of what you don't want.
00:03:49.540 So, you really only have two choices here.
00:03:52.320 You have the choice to accept your reality as who you are and live your life as that person
00:03:58.700 from now until you die, which I'm pretty sure you don't want to do, or you have the ability
00:04:05.260 to acknowledge that, hey, the life I'm currently living is the result of the decisions of that
00:04:11.620 person.
00:04:12.360 Back then, I am no longer that person and now I'm equipped to make better decisions that
00:04:17.060 will produce a different outcome when time does its thing.
00:04:21.060 It's not going to happen today.
00:04:22.720 It's not going to happen tomorrow.
00:04:24.200 It's not going to happen in 30 days, but if you make better decisions about your life
00:04:29.180 now, two, three, five years from now, you're going to be a completely different person in
00:04:35.020 a completely different environment.
00:04:36.500 And when you become that person who is aware and skilled and understands that their actions
00:04:42.600 create a reaction and you're also living in the life that you want to live in, that's
00:04:47.660 a powerful thing because you can continue down that path of prosperity and winning, which
00:04:54.180 is what you're ultimately after.
00:04:56.060 And a lot of you guys say, well, I don't really care about winning.
00:04:57.980 The fuck you don't.
00:04:59.060 If you didn't care about winning, you wouldn't feel so shitty about where the fuck you are
00:05:03.020 right now.
00:05:04.340 Okay?
00:05:04.860 So acknowledge this.
00:05:06.640 Do this for me.
00:05:08.280 You're not a loser.
00:05:10.160 You've just made decisions that have created an environment that feels like it.
00:05:14.540 Acknowledge that.
00:05:15.800 Take responsibility for that.
00:05:17.820 Start making better decisions right fucking now.
00:05:20.400 And before you know it, you'll be living a different life.
00:05:24.480 Things will look better.
00:05:25.760 You will feel better.
00:05:26.920 You will have better friendships.
00:05:28.240 You will have better relationships.
00:05:29.580 You will have higher income.
00:05:30.940 You will have a much better quality of existence.
00:05:34.180 But you cannot do that if you identify your current living situation as your identity.
00:05:40.940 It is simply not true.
00:05:42.860 The decisions that you made back then produce this environment.
00:05:45.720 And the decisions you make today will produce the environment later.
00:05:50.700 And whether that environment turns out to be something that you want or more of the same
00:05:54.940 of what you have right now has to do with you taking responsibility and understanding that
00:06:00.420 life is inputs and outputs.
00:06:02.800 It is math.
00:06:03.760 It is one plus one equals motherfucking two.
00:06:06.660 And if you want a better outcome, you got to make better decisions.
00:06:10.040 There is no blaming your life on anybody else.
00:06:13.620 Contrary to what victim culture says.
00:06:16.420 Contrary to what's popular on the internet.
00:06:18.680 Contrary to what everybody cries about and blames everything on.
00:06:22.740 It's just not true.
00:06:25.420 You control most, not a little bit, most of the things that are going to make the difference
00:06:32.000 in your life.
00:06:32.900 You control what you eat.
00:06:34.460 You control what you consume.
00:06:36.100 You control what information you put in your brain.
00:06:38.340 You control how much you move.
00:06:39.920 You control who you associate with.
00:06:42.320 You control what decisions you make.
00:06:44.240 And all of those things create a much more real reality than anything else that you could
00:06:50.580 blame on anybody else.
00:06:52.040 So when you wonder why it is you are where you are, you have to take responsibility for
00:06:57.320 that and say, it was me so that you can now take responsibility for changing it.
00:07:01.900 And a lot of you guys talk about freedom, but until you free yourself from the understanding
00:07:09.280 that your current environment is somehow somebody else's fault, you cannot be free.
00:07:15.000 The only way for you to be free is to take responsibility and say, man, you know what?
00:07:19.500 This is my fault.
00:07:20.900 I did create this.
00:07:22.700 And you want to talk about what real freedom is?
00:07:24.360 That's real freedom because now you can make any decision you want to produce the outcome
00:07:29.580 that you're seeking to have.
00:07:31.520 So stop thinking this is someone else's fucking fault and stop talking about freedom and stop
00:07:36.740 talking about someone else coming to save the day or somebody has to do something.
00:07:40.780 That somebody is and always has been and always will be you.