REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 28, 2023


620. Real Talk： Overcoming The Fear Of Failure

Topics
fear of failure
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
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15 minutes

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12

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Summary

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In this episode, I discuss the fear of failure and how you can overcome it, and how to get over it. It's one of the biggest problems we have in modern society, and it's the biggest thing holding us back from actually accomplishing our dreams.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realist sake about it lies 0.98
00:00:21.260 the fakeness and delusions modern society welcome to motherfucking reality guys today 0.96
00:00:26.400 i'm just gonna hit you with a real talk okay um i know that right now everybody's planning their 0.80
00:00:32.700 2024 goals and um i had someone recently ask me uh how do they deal with the fear of failure
00:00:42.160 how do they get over the fear of failure well i want to talk a little bit about that uh and then
00:00:48.280 expand upon that here today for you guys while you're thinking because i know right now you know
00:00:52.820 everybody's thinking about what they're gonna do on monday january 1st it's coming up what are we
00:00:57.980 gonna do what are we going to accomplish you're at least thinking about it probably uh you know
00:01:02.020 making some plans writing them down if you're not you're behind the ball and you should be
00:01:05.340 but here's the thing okay i'm gonna address this first the fear of failure all right you have to
00:01:12.500 realize that when you are afraid to go when you are afraid to go and become and and do the thing
00:01:21.540 you are creating a life of automatic loss all right you cannot win you cannot become you cannot
00:01:29.180 build this dream that you have this life without actually going and a lot of people nowadays they
00:01:36.080 like to consume data they like to read books they like to listen to podcasts they like to hire coaches
00:01:42.440 they do all of the things except the thing that actually produces the result which is actual
00:01:48.080 execution all right you have to understand you can sit there and you can analyze and you can think
00:01:55.000 and you can consume and you can learn all day long but until you actually put pen to paper and start to 0.97
00:02:02.340 really build shit in your own life and execute none of that's going to matter in fact if you stand still 0.65
00:02:09.460 in this process of perpetual consumption of information you are actually guaranteeing a loss and this is a 0.99
00:02:17.460 huge problem in the personal development space okay we have this idea that more information and more
00:02:24.200 information and more information and more information is required for us to actually go do when in reality
00:02:30.660 the more information we consume we actually get paralyzed and when you paralyze yourself from taking
00:02:37.540 action you are creating a loss by default so it is much better to take imperfect action than to do nothing
00:02:45.700 perfectly all right you have to understand this and a lot of you guys will spend the rest of your life
00:02:52.720 thinking that the more you actually know the more concepts you understand that it actually equals more
00:02:59.440 success and this is proven to be wrong in the real world how many people do we look at in real life
00:03:06.720 that really don't know that much that have become successful knowledge does not equal success
00:03:13.260 execution is what equals success some of the wealthiest people i know are also some of the 0.89
00:03:20.680 dumbest okay i know a guy who's worth hundreds of millions of dollars that doesn't know the difference 0.94
00:03:26.380 between our o-u-r and r-a-r-e and this is a real story and if you listen to me for many years you know 0.98
00:03:34.100 this real because i've talked about this many times okay real winners real doers people who actually
00:03:40.980 achieve their dreams they don't have any special skills you don't have they don't have more knowledge 0.81
00:03:46.060 they don't have more talent they don't have more skills they just fucking do it all right and that's 0.84
00:03:51.820 what you need to understand you have enough information available to you right now with the 0.98
00:03:57.080 internet and the amount of people who have shared their stories and shared their tips and their tricks
00:04:02.800 you have enough information to create whatever it is you want you don't have to pay for anything you
00:04:08.020 don't have to sign up for anything you don't have to do anything you just have to go start doing it
00:04:12.700 okay so realize this if you are one of these people who is standing around who is waiting for the
00:04:20.080 perfect time who is ready waiting for you know you to have enough knowledge or for someone to come
00:04:26.820 along and tell you that you're qualified or welcome you into the club just understand you're creating
00:04:32.540 a life of misery for yourself and you're creating an automatic loss and the reason that you're going
00:04:37.560 to be miserable is because you have all these dreams you have all these goals you have all these
00:04:42.140 things you're trying to accomplish but you're unwilling to execute which creates a life of torture
00:04:47.680 okay you want to live a miserable frustrated torturous existence dream about how great things could be
00:04:55.760 and do nothing about it that's going to be very painful for you from here until the end of your
00:05:02.020 life and then at the end of your life you're going to regret your entire life because you're going to 0.93
00:05:06.780 say well shit i knew what to do but i just didn't do it okay this is the problem that most of you face 0.63
00:05:13.440 so the fear of failure is an automatic loss that's the first thing you have to understand now the second 0.99
00:05:21.780 thing that i want you to understand and this isn't going to take real long okay is that we're going in
00:05:29.740 to a year which is an election year there's going to be massive chaos there's going to be massive
00:05:35.780 division there's going to be massive frustration there's going to be a lots of hopelessness and lots of
00:05:42.300 fear okay and the biggest thing that causes the disorder and the frustration society is you
00:05:51.660 thinking that your life and your actions do not matter let me explain something to you if you are 0.97
00:05:58.580 in a position where you're looking around at the world and you're saying holy shit this is crazy 0.99
00:06:04.020 this needs to be better this and this and this these are so fucked up i can't stand how things are 0.99
00:06:09.820 why aren't things different if you want to know why things aren't different go look in the 0.99
00:06:15.280 motherfucking mirror and take a real good long hard look because the reality is is that we are society 0.97
00:06:23.700 and you are society and whatever standard it is that you're holding however you're living your life 0.99
00:06:29.800 is going to be reflected in concentric circles out to your family your neighbors your community your
00:06:37.020 city your state and your country this is the reality why do you think they make it seem like
00:06:43.640 you don't matter why do they censor your words why do they condemn your actions why do they cancel
00:06:50.320 people who stand up for things that we all know to be common sense truth why do they do that they 0.99
00:06:56.060 don't do that because it doesn't matter they do that because they know that that's all that fucking 0.97
00:07:01.280 matters okay we all have a responsibility especially now especially during this time to set the best
00:07:10.000 example that we possibly can for everyone around us we have a responsibility to build the best life
00:07:17.500 mentally the best life physically the best life spiritually and the best life financially so that
00:07:24.280 other people around us can see what that looks like and can understand that it just doesn't fall out
00:07:29.880 of the sky we actually have to go earn it we have that responsibility right now every single one of us
00:07:37.300 and that responsibility is not deferred to somebody with a big platform or some social media influencer
00:07:43.740 or somebody on tv it's your responsibility it's my responsibility and it's all of our responsibilities
00:07:51.440 and it's never been more important ever okay so for those of you who are frustrated with what's going
00:07:58.880 on in the world and those of you looking for culture to change you have to understand that you are culture
00:08:05.060 and how you live your life is going to dictate what actually creates in real life what we call 0.94
00:08:12.120 society the biggest problem we have right now with all of this shit going on in the world is that we 0.99
00:08:19.140 have millions upon millions upon millions upon millions of people that believe that their little 0.99
00:08:25.320 bitty life and their little bitty voice doesn't matter and it does it's all that matters so when you sit
00:08:32.860 there and you think about what you want to accomplish in 2024 and beyond you have to realize this isn't
00:08:39.620 just about you this is about you your kids your neighbors your family your community your city your 0.97
00:08:48.100 state and your country and it is a fucking duty that you go out and be the best version of yourself 0.95
00:08:54.520 so when you think about all these goals that you want to achieve and you think about all these things 0.98
00:08:59.700 that you want to become and then you think about how you're scared to execute realize they want you scared
00:09:04.940 to execute they want you to think that it's not possible they want you to think that it doesn't matter
00:09:10.860 and the reason they want you to think that it doesn't matter is because it's what matters most and if you
00:09:16.700 don't go out and become this thing there is no hope for the future there is no hope for the country there is no hope 0.92
00:09:23.460 for our society it comes back on our shoulders on our backs and when shit gets hard we have to put 0.99
00:09:30.060 the shit on our back and fucking carry it that's the reality of the situation we're in and here's the 0.99
00:09:36.320 thing you got to understand okay all these people who you look at who have built the things that you want 1.00
00:09:43.420 to build who have become the kinds of people that you want to become all of those people were afraid
00:09:48.660 too all of those people had doubts just like you all of those people had a little dialogue inside
00:09:54.820 their head said what if it doesn't work what if i do this and everybody laughs at me what if i do this
00:10:00.180 and everybody makes fun of me what if i do this and i fall on my face they all had that and guess what 0.99
00:10:05.300 happened they did fall on their face and everybody did laugh at them but every single time they fucking 0.95
00:10:10.120 fell they got back up and i know that sounds cliche but it's the truth nobody has built what it is you want 0.73
00:10:17.320 to build nobody has become what it is you're trying to become without pushing through the same things
00:10:22.140 that you're dealing with now they don't have more talent they don't have more skill they were just
00:10:27.500 willing to be laughed at and you aren't what makes you so special that you think that you're going to
00:10:33.700 be able to accomplish what they've accomplished without going through that process in fact that's 0.94
00:10:38.720 pretty fucking arrogant isn't it you think you're so special that you get to skip all the hard parts 0.60
00:10:44.860 and the universe is just going to line up for you and everything's going to be easy 0.99
00:10:48.560 you think that you get to skip all the parts where everybody laughs at you and everybody makes fun of 1.00
00:10:54.080 you and everybody says that you're stupid and crazy and never going to be able to do it 0.99
00:10:57.580 you think you're going to be able to skip why what makes you so special that you could skip that and 1.00
00:11:02.340 everybody else had to go through it that's what you don't understand the shit you want to become 0.99
00:11:07.840 the life you're trying to build that's the price you're going to pay and everybody's paid it 1.00
00:11:13.160 fucking everybody everybody you look up to has paid that price what makes you think you're not 0.91
00:11:18.940 going to have to pay it you're going to have to pay it guys it's required so as you type out these 0.99
00:11:27.280 goals or write these goals down or think about these things that you want to become don't just think 0.57
00:11:32.840 of it in some flippant way it fucking matters and it matters way more than just having some nice 0.99
00:11:40.520 shit or living a comfortable life because every single person around you is going to take 0.98
00:11:46.540 the cues they see from you and apply at least some of them to their own life and if they're positive 0.98
00:11:52.600 and if you're listening to this i'm pretty sure they are it's going to make a big impact on their
00:11:57.780 life even if they only take a percentage of it okay some of those people are going to take it real
00:12:03.260 serious some of those people are going to change their entire existence because of the example that you
00:12:08.980 set and if we want to fix things and we want things to be better we have to understand that is us as
00:12:16.180 individuals who are going to make it so so as you sit there and you plan out your 2024 and you think
00:12:23.640 about what it is you're trying to build think about why you're trying to build it it's not just so you
00:12:29.360 can have a fat bank account it's not just so you can drive a nice car it's not just so you can live in a
00:12:35.200 nicer house those things are great and i hope you get them all but there's a bigger picture at play
00:12:39.880 there's a bigger obligation at play we have a duty to set the example for what is possible for the
00:12:47.960 people that are coming behind us and we have an obligation to live to a certain standard for the
00:12:53.540 people who have sacrificed before us our lives honor those sacrifices and whatever it is you want to do 0.86
00:13:00.880 whatever it is you want to become you have a fucking duty to do everything within your power
00:13:06.540 to become it so when you sit there and you write all this stuff out and you think about what it is 0.96
00:13:11.400 you're going to do remember it's not just about you it matters more than you could ever comprehend
00:13:17.640 we have an obligation here we have an obligation to be the very best individuals that we can be
00:13:25.360 and if we all step up and we all become those versions of ourselves there is nothing anybody
00:13:31.720 can do to stop the ripple effect of success of positivity of growth of collective goodness
00:13:40.520 that we can create together and if you're looking to figure this game out a little bit quicker if
00:13:46.280 you're looking to become the absolute best version of yourself i highly recommend you take a look at my
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00:14:12.780 you can grab it there if you want to cool if you don't that's cool too but i can promise you this is
00:14:18.440 something you're going to hang on to you're going to go back to over and over and over again and it's
00:14:22.580 going to help you get it realigned whenever you need it i love you guys i appreciate you guys now 1.00
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