REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 639. Q&AF： Documenting Your Journey, Choosing The Right Business Partner & Chip On Shoulder

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

00:00:20.760 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we

00:00:24.700 have a special saturday edition of q and af um we're just gonna get right into it man what's up

00:00:31.800 what's going on man not much yeah i guess i should tell people how they can submit their questions

00:00:35.820 or just not to be hoes yeah don't be a hoe first of all yeah that's first but second of all if you

00:00:40.060 want to submit your questions for the show you can do show you could do show you do show show

00:00:45.300 uh one of a couple different ways the first way is guys email your questions in to ask andy at

00:00:51.060 andy for seller.com or you go on youtube in the comment section on the q and af episodes and ask

00:00:56.180 your questions there and we'll answer some now these questions could be about anything guys they

00:00:59.520 can be about what's going on in the world that could be about how to win how to be better how to uh you

00:01:04.420 know make more money most of them around personal development entrepreneurship but we'll answer some

00:01:08.500 uh pretty much about anything and uh yeah so let's get into it let's get into it got three good ones

00:01:14.540 for you guys andy guys question number one uh andy i'm 22 years old trying to document my journey

00:01:21.820 in business on instagram and linkedin because my idols hermosi yourself my let etc are always saying

00:01:28.660 how they wish they would have documented the hard and the good but every time i make a video of the

00:01:34.820 hard i feel like i'm projecting onto others and i get sympathy messages from people i fucking hate

00:01:40.620 sympathy and pity uh it's part of the reason why i didn't document any of my 75 hard because those 3

00:01:46.500 a.m running videos felt like a cry for attention i i am doing this for myself but i'm also trying to

00:01:53.260 build a following that will support me through all of my future endeavors and i can see my growth how do

00:01:58.460 you recommend i get around this what's your thoughts on this you just got to do it bro you know what i'm

00:02:02.580 saying like you just got to document what you're doing say the way it is and how people feel about it or

00:02:07.160 how it makes you feel is what it is you know uh there's millions and millions and millions and

00:02:11.980 millions of people playing the internet game why not you you see what i'm saying uh you deserve to

00:02:18.220 have a brand you deserve to play the game as long as you do play the game and the reality of it is i

00:02:23.520 understand what you're saying um you know i say things you know i try to keep it pretty transparent

00:02:28.840 with everybody uh you know i really only do my instagram story but i did social media for 10 you know

00:02:35.160 fuck for a decade half your life dude yeah that's yeah no shit that's what i'm saying so like now i

00:02:41.780 just kind of do the story and even when i do keep it transparent and i keep it uh real with people i

00:02:46.440 do get a lot of messages that are like oh man you'll get through it no shit i'll get through it bro i get

00:02:50.720 fucking through everything so i i understand that i hate that shit too um but you got to remember these

00:02:56.160 people are just trying to be nice and they're trying to support you and you know uh ultimately once i get

00:03:00.860 past a little bit of the frustration with it i'm i feel grateful that people actually give a fuck

00:03:04.900 about what i'm doing and what i'm going through um and i think that's just our own you know

00:03:11.080 our own positioning on the topic you know we don't want sympathy we don't want extra attention

00:03:17.020 uh but we're also trying to show the journey so that other people will see what it looks like

00:03:22.880 and then when it comes in it makes us feel a little weird like dude people just care man they're

00:03:27.940 trying to be supportive and they're trying to be cool and you know the truth of the matter is

00:03:31.500 people are a lot cooler than what you think um than what you think they are you know most people

00:03:37.800 are good people most people want to support most people recognize that you're out here trying to

00:03:41.560 start something new do something cool and they just want to give you a little word of encouragement

00:03:45.200 bro just like you want to give them a word of encouragement so it's exactly what you're asking for

00:03:49.340 yeah and so like dude just let it go you know get over that part of it and just keep going and

00:03:54.000 sharing it and bro the the cool thing is and what you're not going to know is that there's going to

00:03:58.380 be a lot of people who are inspired by that who are going to come back years and years and years from

00:04:02.260 now and say man you know because of you i did this or because of you showing this i did that you

00:04:07.700 know that's one of the biggest things from the mfceo project that i'm grateful for um is that

00:04:13.800 there's so many people who hit me up now you know 10 years later basically and say god dude

00:04:20.380 you know when i was listening to you on that you know it made me inspired to start this now i have

00:04:24.380 this business and i'm i've got this many employees i'm doing this i'm i live in this kind of like bro

00:04:29.500 that's incredibly fucking cool yeah and that would not have come from the fact of um that wouldn't have

00:04:36.480 come around had i not shared the journey you know so i think it's important for people like you

00:04:40.880 and also you should recognize the opportunity because you're one of the first people in the in the world

00:04:45.860 ever that's able to document their journey from the beginning and you're going to be glad you did

00:04:50.980 when you start getting somewhere and you can go back and say see you know what i did you know one

00:04:54.180 of the cool things you know one of my favorite content creators um that i consume who's younger

00:04:58.520 than me is matt graham not matt graham he's been on the show a couple times but one of the coolest

00:05:03.120 things about matt graham is is that he documented his when he was like 12 13 14 15 16 years old he has

00:05:09.580 these videos and it's really cool like going back like when he posts them and you could see like

00:05:14.160 where what he was trying to do and where he come from before the testosterone guy yeah but the cool

00:05:19.280 thing yeah but the cool thing about matt is is he's so good at the way he presents information his

00:05:24.600 delivery so strong and people look at him and they're like god how's that guy deliver well fuck

00:05:29.320 he's been doing it since he was fucking 14 you know what i'm saying so i think that stuff's super cool

00:05:35.620 and and uh and i think you might just be reading into it a little bit too much because it's you

00:05:40.600 right we're always our own harshest critic but i would highly encourage you to keep up on that

00:05:44.980 brother and when people do step in and they're not giving you sympathy man they're encouraging you

00:05:49.480 they think it's cool you know getting out there doing getting it done a young person out here

00:05:54.240 hustling grinding that's inspiring it's inspiring to me too i'll be real with you because you know i

00:05:59.000 look around i see a lot of complacency and a lot of laziness and a lot of bullshit from the younger

00:06:03.020 generations and so when people like you are showing that you're actually out here trying really hard

00:06:08.720 that gives me hope it makes me keep going it makes me say fuck dude all right what i'm doing

00:06:13.840 fucking matters and and i know that's true for ed and alex too because we all talk about this

00:06:18.080 so just don't you guys probably don't even realize that like you guys getting out and documenting your

00:06:23.200 messages and documenting what you do actually helps inspire us as well it helps us keep going because

00:06:28.800 there's a lot of times where we're trying to make all this content and even though we get a lot of

00:06:32.580 views and those and credit and things like that we still wonder we're like fuck does this really

00:06:37.280 matter are people really listening like are people really doing and so people like you are the reason

00:06:43.100 that we do this shit so dude of course show it and you know keep going man i think it's awesome i love

00:06:48.700 it yeah he's young man 22 yeah yeah guys andy question number two hey andy i'm 24 uh and three

00:06:56.600 years into my landscaping business and i've been doing great uh the business is growing and i found a way

00:07:02.540 to be very active in the winter months which a lot of others in my niche just take off

00:07:08.040 um saying this to say i have been approached by three other business owners and they all want me

00:07:14.340 to consider the possibility of merging with them in a partnership like i have to choose one of them

00:07:19.380 to merge with um outside of the obvious things like the books the financials and the basics when it

00:07:25.800 comes to choosing the best partner what are some things that i should look for i know i'm young

00:07:31.380 they know i'm young but i don't go head over heels for the sweet talk and razzle dazzle i don't i just

00:07:36.380 don't want to be blindsided you don't know shit yet bro what the fuck are you offering okay like i'll

00:07:43.120 be real with you all right you you're 24 years old you don't know a goddamn thing all right so unless

00:07:48.400 you have a whole list of fucking everything that you're bringing to the table you should be worried

00:07:51.480 about what you bring to the table not what the fuck they bring to the table like if you came to me

00:07:55.300 with that attitude i'd tell you get the fuck out of here being real okay so you don't want to be

00:08:00.080 blindsided or fall for the sweet talk uh no one's sweet talking you you're sweet talking them

00:08:04.540 let's just be real okay and also when it comes to forming a business let me give you the golden rule

00:08:09.880 of forming a business uh number one you shouldn't be partners with anybody who doesn't bring something

00:08:14.900 that you don't have okay a lot of you guys go out and try to build these businesses with your friends

00:08:19.160 because you want to just be friends in business that's not an effective partnership you also go out

00:08:24.320 and partner with someone who wants to be the ceo when you want to be the ceo wants to be the face when

00:08:29.560 you want to be the face and you guys partner for all the same fucking reasons all right which are

00:08:33.340 the wrong ones here's the deal when it comes to getting a partner what do they bring to the table

00:08:37.740 what do you bring to the table are those things complimentary sometimes you bring the talent the

00:08:43.240 knowledge the the uh the voice and then other people bring the back end and the money and you're

00:08:49.860 able to put that together and work together but the problem is is people don't look at it like that

00:08:53.920 up front they look at it like it's going to be this fun exciting amazing journey that is just going

00:08:59.820 to be good all the time and they end up partnering with the wrong people who compete over attention

00:09:03.920 who compete over the credit who are doing it for the wrong reasons and that's why you hear this thing

00:09:07.960 don't ever be partners with somebody that you're friends with i don't know i'm partners with my

00:09:12.280 fucking best friend in the whole world and my and my brother and i mean it works yeah because you know

00:09:18.160 why because they're skilled in things that i'm not skilled at and they all work together so like

00:09:22.860 you know but dude this this thing of like that you're saying about i don't want to be sweet talked

00:09:27.160 bro you need to learn to speak a little bit differently because if i even i would just tell

00:09:31.780 you get the fuck out i don't want to deal with that ego i don't want to deal you're 20 fucking

00:09:35.800 four you haven't done shit what have you done what's it say he's done uh he said he found a

00:09:40.760 niche uh he found a way to be very active in the winter months oh really everybody else

00:09:45.740 that sounds fucking great yeah it sounds super fucking amazing you're first person ever to

00:09:53.740 figure something out to do in the winter like you're not even telling me what the fuck you do

00:09:57.320 man you know what i'm saying what what is what is the i don't understand i don't even understand

00:10:01.120 the real question here uh yeah just like i mean he understands he should be like you know asking

00:10:07.040 about the books because he's been approached by three other businesses i guess landscaping businesses

00:10:11.200 okay um and he's just saying like outside of the books of financials and the fundamental

00:10:15.540 things to like talk about and discuss uh-huh what should he be looking for in a partner someone

00:10:19.380 who can do the shit that you can't do very well someone who could bring the resources that you

00:10:23.380 don't have someone who can execute on things that you're not good at and you should partner with

00:10:28.200 them but like walking around thinking that you got the keys to the castle bro you ain't the first

00:10:31.540 motherfucker to figure out something to do in the winter we'll promise you that go talk to ricky

00:10:35.340 they're right my guy you're right who's the best fucking landscaper that i fucking know

00:10:39.580 okay so yeah i didn't even know grass could get cut in november

00:10:43.420 hey listen when you guys submit questions submit some detailed questions man i'll help you i'll

00:10:51.300 fucking give you the right answer but you just telling me some fucking summary bullshit

00:10:54.800 that i'm not going to help you or anybody else make the questions as detailed as possible if we

00:11:00.220 have to edit them down we'll edit them down but the reality is is i can't help you if you don't

00:11:04.320 tell me what the fuck you do okay to me i'm going to tell you this

00:11:09.580 i get frustrated because i get asked this shit all the time all right no offense to you dude

00:11:17.960 but i get asked this all the time i get approached by these fucking young kids who are ambitious who

00:11:23.740 think that they're really something motherfucker everybody thinks they're something everybody

00:11:28.660 thinks that they're great everybody thinks they have a skill set nobody has everybody thinks that

00:11:33.900 they have the ability to do things no one else can do and it just isn't true you're a you're

00:11:39.560 one of a gazillion motherfuckers that can do what the fuck you're doing so what do you bring to the

00:11:44.560 table what do you offer and making that list compelling will allow you to find the best partner

00:11:50.140 possible and you should look at their list with the same scrutiny that you look at your list

00:11:54.100 all right what do they bring what do they offer maybe they bring the money maybe you don't have

00:11:58.760 any money for equipment maybe they bring the money for equipment but that doesn't mean that because

00:12:03.460 you run the business and they brought the money that you get to fucking own 98 of the business

00:12:07.560 because you're doing the work that's not the way a partnership works this dude brings the money

00:12:11.320 you bring the shit and it's 50 50 or 49 51 or something that you agree upon and you know there's

00:12:17.100 just all kinds of ridiculous misunderstandings about how partnerships should be formed most of them are

00:12:22.660 fucked up because people are idealists in the beginning in the beginning of a relationship it's

00:12:27.240 always the easiest it's always easy in the beginning to say man we're going to conquer the world

00:12:31.940 we're going to do bro when i opened something with super stores back in 1999 i thought we would be

00:12:36.240 like on boats and hoes in like six months bro like i thought i'd be driving a fucking lamborghini

00:12:40.440 in like fucking six months and that was without internet culture yeah and you know what you know

00:12:45.740 what happened between the time that i actually got a lamborghini which was 12 years in a lot of shit

00:12:50.900 it was hard and i got my ass beat and so did chris and good thing was is that chris had skills that i

00:12:57.380 didn't have and i had skills that he didn't have and that's what created an effective partnership

00:13:01.400 and then you know uh when we started first form we brought in sal sal fucking has skills that neither

00:13:08.380 one of us have you see what i'm saying and we didn't just say hey man uh i like you and let's

00:13:13.940 be partners this is going to be fun because i promise you bro it ain't going to be fun it's going

00:13:17.740 to be much harder than you could fucking possibly imagine it's going to take much longer than you

00:13:21.860 could possibly comprehend and these people that you partner with have to bring in skills that you don't

00:13:26.840 have otherwise you're going to get beat by people who do have that like if you have like let's say

00:13:31.660 we have a a quarterback all right and then we got another quarterback and then we got another

00:13:36.040 quarterback which is usually the case when it comes to starting a small business everybody wants to be

00:13:40.540 the ceo everybody wants to be the man bro being the ceo ain't fucking fun it fucking sucks okay because

00:13:47.100 you get fucking beat for everybody else's stupid motherfucking decisions and you guys all want that role but

00:13:52.880 you only want it because you want the like shares the recognition for it when in reality bro it's the

00:13:57.620 most brutal fucking role you could have i would much rather in hindsight have taken the role of back

00:14:03.460 end dude than fucking face guy much much much rather have done it chris chris has a good time you know

00:14:10.900 what but chris is good at what he does sal's great at what he does chris chris fucking everybody brings

00:14:15.580 their fucking value you know what i'm saying like but the point is is when people are young they try to

00:14:21.540 start these little organizations and these businesses for the reason of being cool and

00:14:25.200 having credit and having a title and having a name on a business card dude i call that playing

00:14:29.940 business and you know what happens to people who play business they get their fucking ass beat by

00:14:34.780 people who are actually doing business who don't worry about things like title and don't worry about

00:14:39.780 things like credit and worry more so about fucking kicking ass and putting out the best product

00:14:44.580 that's the point yeah so when you decide who you're going to be partners with and who you're going to

00:14:49.260 stick to you have to fucking look at it what does this person bring that i can't do and if they

00:14:55.660 can't bring anything that you can't already do then you shouldn't partner with them no matter how much

00:14:59.480 you like them partnership should be a true blending of a strategical tactical advantages not hey man we're

00:15:10.540 just going to do this and split it like that's not how that'll never work because what'll end up

00:15:14.740 happening is as the company grows if you're lucky enough for it to have it grow you'll be competing

00:15:19.980 with this other person over the credit i don't give a fuck about the credit i think everybody in

00:15:25.080 this room and in this building knows that now do i get a lot of the credit i do but the truth of the

00:15:30.080 matter is i don't care it's actually them those guys do all the work i do i do the organization and

00:15:36.600 the steering of the ship i'm i'm in the fucking bucket at the top of the titanic saying

00:15:40.860 steer left so we don't hit that fucking iceberg right okay that's my job at this point in time

00:15:45.880 and and and dude i don't care about the awards and the accolades or any of that shit and i think

00:15:51.500 that's what actually has made me uh and made our organizations all of them uh successful is because

00:15:57.940 the the there's no real thirst or hunger for the credit like my brother doesn't give a fuck

00:16:03.860 chris doesn't give a fuck i don't give a fuck we're just trying to win

00:16:07.800 yeah and we use our skill sets skill sets together to do that yeah i i'm one i'm like

00:16:14.100 reading over this question and i'm wondering like do you think he like maybe he was saying that in

00:16:18.340 the sense of like because he is so young that he doesn't want to get taken advantage of by older

00:16:23.440 sharks in the building well how the fuck you're gonna get taken advantage of when you don't have

00:16:26.120 shit yeah that's my point yeah you you think you got shit you don't have shit yet bro so how are

00:16:33.640 you gonna be taken advantage of you didn't bring nothing to table right that's my point right

00:16:37.780 dude there's listen there's this fucking person client listen dude there is a problem with ego

00:16:43.000 with the younger generation of fucking operators these guys think they're much and by the way

00:16:48.420 so did i so i'll give you that when i was fucking 24 i thought i was the shit i walked around like i

00:16:54.500 had a 20 foot dick and i knew all this shit and i could fucking kick everybody's ass in business

00:16:59.360 and you know what i was a fucking idiot so i'll give you that i i was the same way that's how i know

00:17:06.300 you're like that all right so stop fucking overestimating your own skills be honest build

00:17:12.080 your skill set and match it with someone who has a complementary skill set i love it man yeah

00:17:16.140 i love it guys andy question number three uh andy i'm 26 years old i'm a man uh why put that we

00:17:24.280 22 to 24 26 right after the ladder here it wasn't even intentional uh but yeah he puts in

00:17:30.120 parentheses male so thank i guess he just wanted to clarify that he him yeah

00:17:34.120 all right here's a rule if you put your fucking pronouns in the question i'm not answering that

00:17:42.580 no i wouldn't even put it up there uh andy i'm 26 years old and in what i would call my own stage of

00:17:48.960 sleeping in the back of the supplement store i have a very small construction company that i

00:17:53.340 finally ventured on my own this year my social circle is nearly non-existent um i'm humbly a pretty

00:18:00.180 good looking guy i'm in great shape good money i haven't been on a real date in two years i have a

00:18:06.580 hard time going out i feel like i'm wasting my time you are i create enemies in my head out of the

00:18:11.820 people uh just to drive me to surpass them and when i do i'm looking at the next thing i feel

00:18:17.080 completely behind in life no matter what um although i don't necessarily feel happy this

00:18:22.780 is the thing that brings me the most satisfaction this mentality i just feel like now is not the time

00:18:28.360 to quote unquote live life did you feel like this or am i developing some unhealthy habits i know to

00:18:34.780 this day you still feel behind but does the chip on your shoulder go away do you feel like your guard

00:18:40.560 is down and it's not always a competition what's your thoughts on this andy

00:18:43.860 you you feel like you're creating unhealthy habits according to whom according to a bunch

00:18:55.720 of people that are going to be in debt their whole life a bunch of people who are going to

00:18:58.840 struggle their whole life a bunch of people who are going to get married and have fucking kids and

00:19:02.780 get divorced and fuck up their whole entire existence because they rushed into it is that is

00:19:07.720 that who you're talking about because i would ignore those people all right and if i'm being

00:19:11.820 completely honest it sounds to me like you have all the fucking markings of being someone who is

00:19:15.640 going to be highly driven and highly successful and what i have to tell you is that it is going to

00:19:20.000 be lonely and it is going to be frustrating and you are going to feel like an outcast and you are going

00:19:24.140 to feel like no one gets it no one understands and that's because you're rare and the rare person is

00:19:30.720 the one who builds greatness all right if everybody else thought like you

00:19:34.520 we it wouldn't be rare okay um so let's think about this for a second first of all i want to

00:19:43.460 talk about the dating thing uh your value as a man in reality whether people want to admit this or not

00:19:50.740 whether people get upset about this or not i don't fucking care is not going to come until you're like

00:19:54.580 probably in your mid 30s all right that's reality because when women are young they will date older

00:20:01.240 men who are making more money who are doing you know things with their life and uh they're going

00:20:06.840 to shit on you and that's the reality of being young ambitious man you're probably going to get

00:20:11.120 told by a bunch of girls like i did uh you know hey you know when are you going to get serious you

00:20:16.920 know this is this is a pipe dream you know this is never going to work out when are you going to

00:20:20.960 start taking your life serious and get to get your shit together and all this shit and you're

00:20:24.880 gonna you're gonna have women tell you that um who are you know trying to chase older men who are in

00:20:30.260 their 30s who have a little bit more life underneath their belt right and uh and what what you don't

00:20:36.760 want to have happen and i'm not saying you shouldn't date but what you don't want to have happen is

00:20:40.500 you to get locked up with some woman who is less than your potential because you did it when you

00:20:49.340 didn't have shit and you were you were broke and you were struggling and you just took what you could

00:20:53.080 get because you didn't want to be alone all right so that's something to think about uh i'm not

00:20:57.640 going to sit here and say you should do this or should do that but i will tell you this when you're

00:21:02.920 when you have your a little bit more momentum going and you have a little bit more going for

00:21:07.080 your life and you're doing a little bit better in your life you're going to get a better selection

00:21:11.660 of potential partners in a relationship and it's important that you know that that that will

00:21:17.960 eventually come um and you don't i don't think anybody wants to settle down with someone who's less

00:21:23.400 than what their potential is um but a lot of people get mad when i say this or when anybody

00:21:27.960 says this because it's you know people make other decisions but i'm just telling you your value as a

00:21:33.640 as a man uh you will have better selection of possible partners a little bit further down the

00:21:40.980 road from where you are at 26 um as far as feeling like an outcast you're going to feel like an outcast

00:21:47.280 bro anybody who's driven like you are anybody who's wanting to win as bad as you are anybody who's

00:21:52.120 putting in the work the way that you are they're going to be looked at as some sort of weirdo

00:21:55.500 uh that's how i was my whole life i was looked at as i had my priorities out of whack um i was not

00:22:02.040 living you know i got told that i i needed to have more balance i needed to have more fun i need to

00:22:07.020 take it easy i need to not care as much i need to not be as intense i need to not blah blah blah blah

00:22:12.020 blah and i got told that by a bunch of people who quite frankly uh at this point in their life at the

00:22:17.340 same age as me are struggling very hard okay and i have my struggles too i'm not saying i don't

00:22:23.540 uh and that's another thing i think we got to recognize that you know we trade struggles you know

00:22:31.020 what's what problems do you want to have do you want to have the problems of not being able to afford

00:22:34.940 to do shit do you want to have the problems of being stuck with a woman who's you know not the

00:22:41.040 quality of the woman that you could potentially get later on do you want to like do you want to

00:22:46.080 regret not doing what you could have done with your life um or do you want to have the problems

00:22:52.760 of you know maybe you can't afford shit maybe you can't and maybe you maybe you look back and you

00:22:57.580 say man you know what i missed out on a couple things you know what i mean but here's the cool

00:23:01.620 thing at least when you miss out on a couple things back then you got something to show for it

00:23:05.820 the other way around you don't got nothing to show for it so that's how i've always looked at it

00:23:10.240 and yes i'll be real like there's things that i look at when i examine my life and i say man you know

00:23:15.320 i wish i would have done a little bit more traveling or i wish i would have done a little

00:23:19.540 bit more uh because in hindsight i would have been the same place that i'm at i'm just keeping it real

00:23:25.400 with you guys um but also at the same time i get satisfaction out of doing what i do i like what i

00:23:32.260 do and and i do feel like i'm wasting time when i'm not doing it and uh i can i can totally relate

00:23:39.340 to someone with that mentality and i think that you know we have to be very careful not to take

00:23:43.820 society's judgments and criticisms at whatever point we're on because most of those people are not

00:23:51.740 on the same path as you and they're not going to be and of course those people are going to judge you

00:23:55.820 because when they judge you they're trying to affirm that they made the right choice and you made

00:24:01.060 the wrong choice when they see you going out and trying to become something build something

00:24:05.420 uh create things live a more profitable you know bigger quote-unquote fruitful life more successful

00:24:13.600 life they will judge you automatically because they have chosen differently so people like to be right

00:24:19.080 you know look at the look at the politics in the world people people are literally arguing over what's

00:24:24.660 going on watching the president of the united states dismantle this country because they wanted to be

00:24:30.920 right about donald trump that you know people will ride being right into the dirt yeah so you have to

00:24:38.320 be fucking smart not to fucking fall into that like these people who are telling you that you you know

00:24:44.100 you take it too serious you're too intense you're too you're too into what you do uh you're too focused

00:24:49.860 you're this you're that those people are always going to say that to you and then whenever their life

00:24:54.800 is in shambles when they're 40 something years old and they don't have shit to show for it you know

00:24:59.420 what they're going to say they're going to say well at least i live some life yeah you know and i like

00:25:04.360 at least i had that van when i was 20 right bro you're not going to care you're going to be like

00:25:08.260 cool man like i can do whatever i want and so you know there's a trade you're trading

00:25:13.860 the comforts and conveniences of a normal life right now for an exceptional life later and then people

00:25:21.320 will like to say stuff stuff like this too well what happens if you get sick and die well then you

00:25:25.380 fucking get sick and die man i mean do you what do you think kobe bryant says you think kobe bryant

00:25:29.900 fucking if you called him up on the phone right now and say hey kobe do you regret your life he's

00:25:33.860 gonna say fuck no he's like i went hard as fuck bro i did everything i could i worked my ass off and i

00:25:38.900 did the best that i could with the time that i got and nobody could take that away from me he's a

00:25:42.720 fucking legend because of it but people will say oh you know you he needed to live his life or you

00:25:48.340 need to do this or that you see what i'm saying so like bro it's the peanut gallery and we don't listen

00:25:53.300 to the peanut gallery we don't fucking take what they have to say serious those people are on a

00:25:57.460 different path than you um you have to do what's best for you and i would do it with intensity

00:26:03.280 because i'll be real with you all the things that this person asked those are all things i felt the

00:26:09.020 whole entire time every single time so uh i i think you have a lot of the markings of someone who

00:26:16.640 is obsessively who will be obsessively great at what they do and um people are going to judge you for

00:26:22.500 that bro i mean i get judged constantly for that i mean just look at some of the comments on some of

00:26:27.220 the videos that are posted about me on the internet that people post in short form this guy's fucking

00:26:32.060 crazy this guy got mental health problem no motherfucker i don't have mental health problems

00:26:36.760 i have the fucking problems that you wish you fucking had and that's why you're talking that

00:26:41.140 shit you see what i'm saying so it's you know oh look sounds like some unhealed trauma yeah i got

00:26:47.840 some unhealed trauma with a big ass fat wallet right here baby you know what i'm saying like

00:26:51.760 fucking what the fuck i'm just saying i get like everybody wants to knock for every fucking thing

00:26:56.820 yeah you know like at least if you're dedicated you walk out with a prize you don't walk out with a

00:27:02.100 life that's in fucking shambles this idea of a perfect life of perfect happiness and perfect family

00:27:08.480 and perfect balance it's fucking bullshit we got to pick and choose what things we want

00:27:13.720 and we got to go after those things and we shouldn't judge each other for those things because

00:27:17.760 not everybody's built for the path that you're trying to go on when i was younger i used to judge

00:27:22.360 the people that didn't go on the path as like quote unquote losers right but now i don't do that

00:27:27.720 anymore because i realized that like dude that's just their path and that's okay and we just call

00:27:32.520 them liberals yeah i mean look man i i i respect and value anybody's decision here's where i don't

00:27:40.120 value it what i can't stand that's a huge pet peeve of mine that we see in society right now

00:27:45.880 is this idea that some people's lives are in this like shitty spot right they don't have any money

00:27:53.980 they got very little possessions they they can't really pay for their shit and then they pretend like

00:28:00.020 that's what they wanted the whole time that's what i don't like what i don't like is people adopting

00:28:05.320 their life into and then lying about how they got there like bro just say hey man it didn't go the

00:28:11.580 way i wanted but now i'm doing the best i can you see what i'm saying trying to fool us that

00:28:15.460 they're shit yeah bro i hate that shit that's where all these fucking moral warriors on the internet come

00:28:20.320 from their life sucks they can't afford shit they live in a shitty house they got a shitty partner

00:28:25.860 they drive a shitty car they go to a job they hate and then they pretend like this is what the fuck

00:28:30.700 they wanted fuck you man you think i'm fucking stupid and then they get on the internet and say

00:28:35.040 all kinds of ignorant shit about anybody who's doing anything i mean dude look at anybody successful

00:28:40.440 on the internet and then read the comments about them and you have all these fucking losers saying

00:28:44.800 yeah but you know i bet it's blah blah blah blah blah you don't fucking know any of that you're just

00:28:49.380 talking shit because they got something you ain't got you chose not to do yeah and you chose it dude

00:28:54.160 and that's okay i don't fucking care that's what you chose but like don't sit here and try to

00:28:59.340 villainize everybody who's either doing something because they don't have the life that you have

00:29:02.560 because you fucked up your own life yeah by the way you could change it today if you would just get

00:29:07.980 out of that victim mentality you know what i'm saying absolutely like bro do you not notice this

00:29:11.780 do you know what i'm talking about this moral warrior culture that exists on the internet that judges

00:29:17.020 every single person that does anything outside of the norm as some sort of fucked up person that's how

00:29:25.000 they justify their excuse of not get the fuck out of here dude no one's buying it it's not you're not

00:29:29.840 fooling me bro yeah you're not fooling anybody and you just look like a little pussy bitch in the

00:29:33.560 comments yeah like real talk i'm eating vienna sausages because they're so good yeah i fucking love it

00:29:38.720 i chose it was a tree bro yeah i mean i'm eating vienna sausages because i chose to be humble

00:29:44.760 shut the fuck up bro i don't care how humble you are you ain't eating that dude that's called it's a bunch of

00:29:50.920 fake humility it's a it's a misunderstanding of humility the truth of the matter is you can't

00:29:55.820 even be humble unless you're great okay because to be humble you have to be great that means you

00:30:01.320 have to say oh this is i'm doing this but this doesn't make me any better than anybody else

00:30:05.280 right so you have to be doing big shit to even be humble so you can't just be a loser and be humble

00:30:10.960 that's automatic yeah that that's like you're that's automatic default that's the opposite of humbler

00:30:16.720 yeah right like i'm i'm i'm and by the way people don't even know the difference between meek and

00:30:23.500 humble you know meek and modest and humble there's three different fucking things you know what i mean

00:30:28.060 oh not humble much uh no not really i'm the fucking ms ceo bitch i'm not very humble but you can do it

00:30:36.700 too yeah sign up for my course 9.99 yeah fuck bro anybody runs around with a license plate on his

00:30:43.300 fucking car and says ms ceo probably ain't that humble you're correct

00:30:46.880 it's on a couple of them too yeah yeah well they gave me two plates i want everybody to know

00:30:56.120 my point is is that bro it's not about that yeah you know what i'm saying it's a humility really

00:31:02.440 isn't about any of that it's about understanding this you're not as great as the results that you're

00:31:08.740 producing you're no different than anybody else that person over there they could do the exact

00:31:14.180 same things that you're doing if they did if they did the exact same actions that's what humility is

00:31:19.180 it's not thinking less of yourself it's thinking more of others and just understanding that the

00:31:23.220 reason you are where you are is because you took certain actions not because you're gifted or you're

00:31:27.700 great or you're better than right so most people don't even understand the true thinking of

00:31:32.220 what humble really means but then they try to weaponize it on the internet oh you're successful

00:31:36.860 so you're not humble yeah you're right man fuck off whatever you say yeah right you know but you're

00:31:41.700 eating vienna wieners and i'm eating fucking steak right you know vienna wieners all them fucking wieners

00:31:46.920 bro i'm just being real man i love it dude we should just start fucking dude we should start a

00:31:54.000 segment you know how we have cruise the comments yeah and cti you go cruise the no go find we'll go

00:32:00.140 find the fucking you're gonna do this z sean we're gonna go find the fucking asshole comments

00:32:05.560 on the success the the post yeah yeah and we're gonna fucking put them on the internet right here

00:32:12.080 and we're gonna tear them up no i love it yeah so we're gonna find all the little fucking humble

00:32:16.180 warriors and then we're gonna put them on the screen and we're gonna make fun of them i'm down

00:32:19.960 with that yeah i'm down it sounds like a good fucking call them out for their bullshit i'm so

00:32:24.320 tired of it dude it's so discouraging like to the like these are three young people we answered

00:32:28.800 on this on this all trying to win yeah all trying to win all trying to create greatness and everybody

00:32:34.160 they know in their life's trying to take it away from them you know what i'm saying like bro that's

00:32:38.320 fucked up like and you wonder why people don't win you know it's because they don't root for winning

00:32:43.180 yeah it's a crabs in the bucket bro yeah bro what's what we got an episode on that don't we

00:32:48.200 crabs in the bucket i'm just tired of seeing it dude like we should be encouraging young people to win

00:32:55.000 what is it episode 59 on real af go listen to that shit for real stop right now because the show is

00:33:01.900 over and go listen to episode 59 all right peace out

00:33:05.380 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in

00:33:13.200 the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 27, 2024

639. Q&AF： Documenting Your Journey, Choosing The Right Business Partner & Chip On Shoulder

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