REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 652. Q&AF： Generating New Ideas, Prioritizing Time And Energy & Knowing When To Quit

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

00:00:20.860 the fitness and delusions of modern society and welcome motherfucking reality guys today we have

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00:00:52.640 going on we speculate on what's true and what's not true and then we talk about how we the people

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00:02:19.920 here i pay for this show out of my pocket i'm a pretty successful entrepreneur i don't give a fuck

00:02:24.320 how much money these people want to give me because they all try to tell me what i can and can't say and

00:02:29.020 i don't like that i like to say whatever i want and so uh i have this deal that i make with you guys

00:02:34.660 it's very simple uh please share the show okay we get shadow ban we get traffic throttle we get

00:02:39.740 fucked with every way shape and form and uh we rely on you guys to get the word out so uh don't be a

00:02:46.720 hoe share the show all right hey what's up man what's going on we're getting hammered right now

00:02:51.440 it's fucking snow yeah it's all that oppressive whiteness yeah i don't mean like when you guys

00:02:56.600 hear this it's monday but like that shit's coming down pretty hard out there never seen anything

00:03:01.620 well i like it it's very it looks pure out there like clean pure you know now watch out for that

00:03:10.680 black eye stuff

00:03:11.340 no man you know honestly though i've never like i'm okay with the snow man like what i don't like is

00:03:19.420 when it's just cold and it's not doing anything bro what i don't i don't mind the snow i just don't

00:03:23.880 like the gray i don't like when there's no sun for fucking six weeks at a time here in midwest

00:03:28.560 like holy shit man yeah like why the fuck did anybody decide to live here yeah and how the

00:03:33.440 fuck did i end up here and how do how do all these good people end up here we're all good people

00:03:38.040 we could have thought a little better huh well i mean we got we got some good things here missouri

00:03:42.860 we got some great things but we all made a dumb ass decision about where to fucking live

00:03:46.460 by the way don't come here you stay where you're at hey bro did you see this thing so i was just

00:03:54.880 working out and yes this is monday so this will be old news by the time this airs but i don't care

00:03:59.180 i'm gonna say this did you see uh this thing online today about taylor swift giving 100k to the family

00:04:04.680 of the uh people the woman that was shot yeah i saw that bro did you read the comments underneath

00:04:10.160 the post every fucking comment was like she should have gave more money she could have gave more she

00:04:16.300 could have done more every single comment was like that from a motherfucker that didn't give shit

00:04:22.160 that didn't do shit didn't give him a motherfucking dollar and we're dealing with the entire internet

00:04:27.140 talking all this shit and dude this is the problem with society that's so stupid no bro it's the

00:04:32.420 internet you cannot please these motherfuckers on the internet no matter what they they don't do shit

00:04:38.060 with their own lives they're spectators in the stands they watch everybody else who's doing shit

00:04:43.420 and any move you make you're going to get criticized for it's fun and by the way i don't give a fuck

00:04:48.820 about taylor swift yeah i mean there's no dog this is just the point of someone decided to do

00:04:53.660 something they didn't have to do it came out and everybody's roasting her for it and it's like bro

00:04:59.720 fuck you you're a fucking piece of shit you're sitting at your fucking computer with your fucking

00:05:05.900 hot pocket and your mom's fucking basement not doing a motherfucking thing with your life

00:05:10.520 and you are criticizing someone who spent their entire life building their life since they were a

00:05:16.400 little bitty kid and you're criticizing them for only giving a hundred grand when you can't afford

00:05:22.440 to give a hundred fucking dollars fuck you yeah that's insane bro i'm sick of it man i'm gonna tell

00:05:27.740 you this i'm sick of these people on the internet dude these fucking spectator motherfuckers that don't

00:05:33.020 do shit that call everybody everything's fake everything's bullshit everything's wrong everybody's

00:05:39.720 fraud everybody fuck you you're not doing a goddamn thing bro you're sitting there on your fat fucking

00:05:46.100 ass sucking down the hot pocket juice off of the fucking shitty microwave fucking paper plate in the

00:05:52.740 basement on the internet with your fucking mom upstairs like dude you're a fucking loser you know

00:05:59.360 what i'm saying and by the way your opinion matters bro it doesn't matter and by the way all of those

00:06:04.400 people will live their whole lives wondering why nothing good ever happens to them and the reason

00:06:09.380 nothing good ever happens to them is because they hate everything that is represents what they're not

00:06:14.720 like bro winners are inspired by people who are successful they tell the world fuck bro look at that

00:06:20.380 person winning that is badass even if they don't really like them they're like dude i think it's cool

00:06:24.940 that they're winning they're not really my cup of tea but that's cool and that's putting out the right

00:06:28.900 energy the right vibe the it's telling the universe i like to win i want some winning and the universe

00:06:34.520 says you know what that dude likes when i'm going to deliver some winning to them you know but most of

00:06:38.820 these people don't understand this concept they think that like there's no actual anything happening

00:06:44.360 around them they're super unaware and they hate on everybody's shit and then they wonder why they get

00:06:49.820 shit it's because you're telling the universe that you don't want anything to do with winning you don't

00:06:55.180 want any success and you guys think you can get around this like you think you can like this is

00:07:00.040 not about what you say it's about what you feel and what you say and so like dude if you're a jealous

00:07:05.480 person if you're a if you're one of these people who criticizes everybody you need to learn to keep

00:07:10.080 your fucking mouth shut and correct your thoughts otherwise you're not going to have anything ever bro

00:07:14.380 yeah that's real shit you don't have to believe that it works like that but it does there's no

00:07:20.060 different than gravity we can argue so gravity's how the fuck it works we go step off that building

00:07:24.160 over there bro you're gonna fall on your face you know like i'm just sick of this attitude bro we

00:07:30.100 have such a poverty mindset in this country we we think that being poor and being nothing and doing

00:07:36.520 nothing and creating nothing and becoming nothing is somehow morally superior to people who have gone

00:07:42.160 on to achieve and create and become and do that is not morally superior to be less than what you could

00:07:49.560 be it is not some sort of metal that you win by being less than what you could be the metal comes

00:07:55.760 from going out and being all you can be being everything that you can be with the potential

00:08:01.680 that you were gifted that's where the fucking awards are that's where the credit is and by the

00:08:07.100 way that's where the hate is too was evidenced by this and bro like i said i'm not a fucking taylor

00:08:12.560 swift fan but that's some bullshit yeah it's fucked up all you guys making those comments bro enjoy your

00:08:18.020 fucking shitty life and your shitty hot pocket because that's all you're gonna ever have that's

00:08:21.760 real shit man fucking i'm fucking tired of it dude you're damned if you do no bro it's not that it's

00:08:28.060 that people legitimately feel morally superior to people that are actually going out and doing things

00:08:35.080 in life what is morally superior about sitting around doing nothing living on the internet and

00:08:42.320 criticizing everybody else over the people who are actually out there in the game creating building

00:08:48.180 becoming doing what is morally superior about them it's a fucking fake culture that has been implemented

00:08:55.980 to make people believe and that somehow sitting around and being a lazy fuck is somehow a great thing

00:09:04.500 and it's not bro you guys are not morally superior to the people out here doing it i'm sorry

00:09:09.280 and y'all like to say oh well they think they're morally superior no they don't they're just out

00:09:14.220 doing their life and you think that because that's your insecurity yeah fuck bro i don't every

00:09:19.300 successful person i meet dude and you've been around a lot of them because you've been around

00:09:22.940 me for a number of years they're they're fucking down to earth they're cool they're humble and the

00:09:27.000 reason that they win is because they are humble they realize hey man i don't really know shit i've done

00:09:32.340 well so far but you know what i'm gonna do everything i can and not go backwards right and that's how they

00:09:36.840 look at you can do it too yeah bro and and do we have all these people who are just like

00:09:41.100 fucking straight up haters bro and if you're gonna build a company and you're gonna build a brand and

00:09:46.500 you're gonna build whatever it is you're building these are the people you're gonna deal with you're

00:09:50.300 not gonna ever be able to please them they're gonna attack you at every chance they get they're

00:09:54.500 gonna try to poke a hole in everything you do they're gonna question everything you say you could

00:09:59.140 fucking walk on water and they're gonna fucking say it's because you can't swim you could cure cancer

00:10:03.660 they're gonna say you're full of shit they're you could do everything right and these people are

00:10:08.620 still gonna talk shit bro and they're but here's the here's the reward you're gonna win and they're

00:10:14.120 gonna have a shitty fucking life their entire life so we need to fix this in culture yeah stop

00:10:19.920 celebrating being a loser it's not fucking cool it's not good for anybody it's not good for you

00:10:24.320 it's not good for your family it's not good for your co-workers it's not good for anybody it's

00:10:28.680 setting a terrible example and somehow we've got it so backwards where people think oh i'm

00:10:33.940 fucking humble i'm modest i'm i'm listening to that i'm better than you no you're not you're not

00:10:39.700 doing a motherfucking thing bro you're barely fucking surviving it ain't nobody's fault but yours

00:10:44.700 well things are hard right now yeah okay well what'd you do for the last 10 years when things

00:10:49.720 weren't that hard right same shit yeah same shit same shit man anyway fuck those people bro that's

00:10:56.740 what i'm saying i'm fucking tired of it like there's no dog in the fight with taylor bro i'm

00:11:01.020 tired of hearing i'm fucking tired dude but but at the end of the day bro doing good shit is doing

00:11:05.100 good shit it's bullshit you know she showed a game she should have gave a million dollars she should

00:11:10.820 have gave 10 man fuck off you didn't give a dollar about this how about you go out and you create a

00:11:16.700 life that earns whatever amount of money you think is appropriate for you and then you give the

00:11:21.680 appropriate amount that you think you won't do that shit will you because you won't dedicate the next

00:11:26.220 20 fucking years of your life to becoming anything because you're soft as fuck so anyway

00:11:30.920 that's real shit man yeah i'm over it dude i love it we're off to a great start i love it i love it

00:11:36.300 guys let's get into our questions andy guys i got three good ones for you i fucking can't stand it i

00:11:42.040 get it bunch of fucking basement dwelling fucking dumbasses the hot pocket juice almost took me out

00:11:48.920 bro that's what they do they sit there dude they're so unaware of how shitty they actually are as a

00:11:54.980 human and they project all of that dissatisfaction that they feel that they cannot identify as fault

00:12:01.240 with themselves onto other people and everybody else yeah bro and everything's bullshit everything's

00:12:06.440 fraud everything's fake everybody's full of shit everybody's bad everybody this fuck you you're the

00:12:12.660 problem dude it's ain't everybody else when you're looking around at everything in your life and you're

00:12:17.820 saying everything else is the fucking problem there's one common denominator with all of those

00:12:23.320 problems and that common denominator is you

00:12:26.580 yeah

00:12:29.580 fucking idiots man

00:12:31.680 you know anyway i'm getting back to straight up savage mode i like just so you understand

00:12:38.440 i'm coming back like i'm not i'm done being nice to all you motherfuckers you're a bunch of

00:12:43.880 fucking bitches real talk those people for sure no they are bro they are those people that do that

00:12:49.260 unchecked for so long that's the thing man they've been in their little safe spaces yeah

00:12:54.400 you know fucking and and listen the pendulum is not well i don't even want to be around any of that

00:13:00.340 like i don't even want any of those people around me in my entire life none of them well i mean but

00:13:04.560 there's the other side of that too bro like they don't exist in the real world bro they don't come

00:13:07.880 out in the real world because they can't play in the real world they can't make it you won't see

00:13:12.480 them i don't know i've heard some pretty rude comments in the real world about my life

00:13:17.320 in front of you yeah it must be nice yeah it was nice for the last 25 years when i was working my

00:13:24.220 fucking balls off what have you done for the last 25 years when i was working and you hadn't done

00:13:29.720 anything for 25 years except breathe air right take shit to eat food yeah it is fucking nice it's

00:13:35.960 nice to have it's nice to have a little bit of reward for all the shit that i've done

00:13:40.060 that's nice i like it it is and you know what if you want it too then go fucking do it

00:13:44.800 i'm just tired of it i'm with it bro i'm with it well guys let's get into these questions guys

00:13:51.440 andy question number one uh andy i'm 28 years old and i've been listening to your show for the past

00:13:57.800 three years and i mostly enjoyed the cti episodes as you bring daily clarity uh into what's going on in

00:14:04.500 the world and you and dj are funny as hell however lately i've really been focusing in on the q and a

00:14:09.920 episodes as well as a lot of older mf ceo episodes and books like tim grover's winning and relentless

00:14:16.560 to learn more about winning there you go because i felt stressed about how much money i make currently

00:14:24.280 i'm an aircraft maintenance technician making just over 100 grand uh with the company that manages a

00:14:31.900 few private aircraft for a family i enjoy the work and i take on extra responsibilities to make

00:14:36.840 myself more valuable uh completing special training to ship hazmat parts researching ordering specialty

00:14:43.600 tooling to make us more efficient um etc but i still feel like i need to be doing more to make more

00:14:51.100 what is the process of brainstorming business ideas for coming up with the next company um i have

00:14:59.360 thought about solo contracting which typically pays 100 120 an hour but my work schedule constantly

00:15:04.900 changes and makes it hard um how can i find something that i can commit the rest of my life to

00:15:10.160 uh where the time of day doesn't matter well look this is an in-depth answer i think

00:15:18.860 that there's nuance to okay so before i even get into it understand there is always an asterisk

00:15:25.840 there's always uh what about this part or what about that part with every answer i give yeah okay i want

00:15:32.520 that to be clear i i like sometimes i answer these questions and people are just like what about

00:15:37.360 this and that no shit bitch i'm fucking aware like we're talking like i'm assuming you have some common

00:15:43.080 sense here yeah i'm assuming you have a little bit of fucking iq power right maybe i'm giving you too

00:15:48.580 much credit all right but here's the reality to become someone who is creative in ways to generate

00:15:56.840 income you have to first understand how the game is really played the game really is if you are the

00:16:05.640 best you will earn the most if you provide the most value you will earn the most all right it is free

00:16:12.700 market shit and yeah there might be situations where you're in a company and your boss is stepping

00:16:19.000 on your throat and not letting you progress then you're in the wrong company but at the end of the

00:16:23.680 day however good you are is how you're going to be rewarded that is fucking facts okay so if you're

00:16:29.300 in a position like this guy is my first step would be how can i create more value in a position that i'm

00:16:37.560 in that could potentially earn me some more money now that's not going to take you from 100k to 500k

00:16:43.440 but it might take you from 100 to 150 or to 200 and that's a pretty big fucking difference okay so

00:16:50.520 there's that that's the first thing i would think of beyond that and i appreciate dude what i think

00:16:57.800 is cool about this question is like this is someone because our audience now is really it used to be

00:17:04.380 everybody wanted the personal development and now it's everybody wants the current events and so it's

00:17:08.880 really cool that like the current event people are coming in and they're understanding that the actual

00:17:14.200 solution to this problems in society is us having personal excellence you know 100 i got the problem

00:17:20.020 we're yeah right and that's what we always talk about we talk about the problem being what's going

00:17:24.800 on in society and the solution being our individual responsibility for personal excellence okay that

00:17:29.320 means be everything they don't want you to be if they want you fat be fit if they want you broke be

00:17:33.620 wealthy if they want you stupid be smart if they want you alone be with people if they want you to

00:17:38.240 hate people don't hate people love people it's doing everything the opposite of what they actually want

00:17:43.360 to create personal excellence to set that example in society so that other people see it and follow

00:17:49.480 along that is what we will shift the culture of america to the place that we want it to be

00:17:53.320 and this guy's recognizing that and so i just want to identify that i really appreciate that a lot

00:17:58.440 so when it comes to being creative on new ways to make income you have to be obsessed with the game

00:18:06.020 all right the this means being a student of the game this means dedicating your free time into

00:18:12.920 reading books by entrepreneurs you know reading seth godin's books i'd read every single one

00:18:18.680 reading jeffrey gittimer's sales books reading all of these legendary books dale carnegie napoleon hill

00:18:26.060 you know all of these authors uh that have written personal development entrepreneurship books okay and

00:18:31.720 there's there's fucking thousands of them that are great okay and when you're immersed in this okay

00:18:38.680 your brain naturally sort of like thinks about it all the time all right and when your brain is kind of

00:18:45.400 always in that space what ends up happening for me is ideas start to flow all right and this is how i

00:18:52.140 get in the creative space of evolving and creating new ideas or new companies or new lanes within the

00:18:59.760 company or new ways to do things within the companies i have to be immersed in the information

00:19:06.160 and then in my free time i let my brain sort of like cook on it and eventually things start to just

00:19:14.100 kind of click around if you're spending all your time worried about sports and you're spending all

00:19:18.800 your time worried about taylor swift and you're spending all your time examining everybody on

00:19:23.200 instagram like we talked about in the intro and criticizing everybody else you are not investing that

00:19:28.740 time in immersing yourself in the entire game of business and entrepreneurship which is going to

00:19:36.740 prevent you from thinking creatively and keep you from coming up with ideas that quite honestly most of

00:19:42.900 the time are pretty obvious most of the best ideas i've had to increase business or grow business or

00:19:48.720 increase income are like they're ideas that after i thought of them i was like dude why didn't i think of

00:19:54.560 that two years ago right like this is obvious and so we have to just get ourselves in the environment

00:20:00.860 and immersed in the information and then just sort of like be in it it's it's kind of a there's a it's a

00:20:07.580 it's a hard thing to explain but you have to understand that whatever information whatever environment

00:20:14.140 you're in that's where your mind is likely going to default to right like if you're always around

00:20:20.720 animals all the time you're you're going to always think about animals and whatever thoughts you have

00:20:25.260 that sort of pop in your brain and come in they're probably gonna have to do with animals right like

00:20:30.200 in some way shape or form yes and if you're thinking about uh and this is why this is why people who

00:20:36.440 like overly obsess with anxiety don't really understand what they're doing to themselves because

00:20:42.840 you start to obsess and obsess and obsess and obsess and also when you obsess over healing right

00:20:48.280 and you've got all this shit going on bro you can never truly get past it because that's all you

00:20:53.060 think about and your brain automatically goes there all the time and then the minute you feel the trauma

00:20:58.360 attack you or whatever right uh or the anxiety you you feel you feel yeah bro you run out of hot

00:21:05.800 pockets your anxiety goes up holy shit man i can't do anything i can't get past this anxiety

00:21:10.380 it's driving me crazy i'm the only one in the world bro you're focused on it 24 7 it's all you

00:21:15.800 fucking talk about every single post talks about how fucking much of a victim you are and how much

00:21:20.660 healing you have to do and how much shit you got to do like you're immersing yourself in this

00:21:25.400 environment that's going to always bring you back to that same place and so we can either use that

00:21:30.260 process proactively or we can use it to self-destruct and most people are unaware of it so they naturally

00:21:36.800 use it in a negative way right they're distracted by sports they're and i like sports but they're

00:21:42.040 distracted they're obsessed with sports they're obsessed with things that don't matter the all these

00:21:45.760 distractions entertainment hollywood music fucking shit social media right social media and they get

00:21:51.940 caught up in all this drama and gossip and what's going on and bro you don't give your brain any time

00:21:55.940 to think about the things that are actually going to affect your life right so my my recommendation

00:21:59.900 to you is twofold one see what you can do in the position you're in to add right now because that's

00:22:07.160 the quickest way and two immerse yourself in this stuff 24 hours a day when you're not listening to the

00:22:12.220 show you should be reading books you should be reading and not 50 shades of bullshit either you

00:22:17.100 should be reading books that are going to make you better okay uh and there's there's fucking

00:22:21.780 thousands of them dude you could literally go on amazon and like point your finger at shit

00:22:26.120 and and pick up something that really works you'll pull something out of that that'll be good for you

00:22:30.680 let me ask you this man because and i'm not saying that does that make sense no 100 yeah 100 like i love

00:22:37.580 that because you're either going to be focused on bullshit and you're going to get more of that or you're

00:22:40.920 focus on the positive 100 um but i want to ask you this because this is this is something that i

00:22:45.480 thought about when when we were talking about this question and it's like you know and i'm not saying

00:22:49.860 that this is this person right but it was just like a knee-jerk reaction my like thought in my head

00:22:57.080 it's like okay well like how honest are you being with yourself when it comes to the amount of work

00:23:02.620 that you're actually putting in well bro most people completely lie to themselves you know you know

00:23:06.260 i'm not saying that this is this person listen dude most most people completely fabricate to

00:23:14.720 themselves how much actual shit they're doing to improve their situation i'm glad you brought this

00:23:20.220 up because this is very important for people to realize there is a high likelihood that you are

00:23:26.580 drastically overestimating what you are putting in and you are over expecting what you should be

00:23:34.000 returned on that investment okay most people think like the the difference between reality and

00:23:40.940 expectation of success for people is is it's polar opposite almost yeah most people drastically

00:23:47.860 underestimate the amount of work that it's going to take for them to get the result that they desire

00:23:53.520 and i think that's by like a hundredfold i don't think it's by like a little bit yeah i think it's

00:23:59.300 because dude the culture of entrepreneurship has become so fake and so fucking ridiculous

00:24:05.920 and so filled with bullshit you know you could be rich in two weeks you know buy my shit and i'll

00:24:11.940 like you know what i'm saying millions of dollars yeah bro like dude i'm not even a hundred million

00:24:16.580 dollar numbers are thrown around on youtube shorts and instagram like it's like it's fucking five

00:24:21.880 dollars right so when taylor does a hundred k people think it's nothing yeah bro shit ton of money

00:24:26.180 yeah bro look man the the internet is like 95 percent bullshit and people have to understand

00:24:33.420 that most of these people out here telling you they make this or make that or do this or do that

00:24:38.200 they're trying it's branding they're trying to sell you some shit and so because of the way that the

00:24:44.420 environment is in entrepreneurship the expectation for the return for the amount of work put in is very

00:24:51.660 skewed okay we have to understand that it takes literally probably 10 times what you think it takes

00:24:58.400 to get the result that you're thinking that's reality so whatever you think it's going to take

00:25:03.360 you need to multiply that by 10 and the reason we think this is because the culture is all fucked up

00:25:08.480 and wrong and full of shit and also we don't know because we've never done it and this can be a

00:25:14.040 blessing too by the way like had i known when i was 19 years old it was going to take the what it took

00:25:20.680 and be as hard as it was i probably wouldn't have done it you know what i'm saying i so like that

00:25:27.320 that ignorance saved yes the ignorance is important in some aspects but you also have to have a a

00:25:33.920 realistic expectation about the work that you're putting in you know i learned this like i met gary

00:25:41.980 burrow back in fucking 2014 i think and the reason i met him was because i i read his book crush it

00:25:53.240 all right in like 2010 like right when it came out i think it was 2009 or 10 or something like that

00:25:58.180 and i implemented a lot of the stuff and dude like you know we had we built an amazing business and

00:26:04.800 during that four years and i wrote him a letter i said hey man just so you know uh probably a lot of

00:26:10.360 people read this book and didn't do shit but here's what i did with it and i sent him this letter

00:26:14.380 and he calls me up and he says hey dude uh come up to new york i'd like to meet you so i fly up to

00:26:21.520 new york and we're supposed to have dinner and i meet him at this little bar i forgot what it was

00:26:28.140 and he's sitting there and you know this first time i met gary i've been friends with him for a long

00:26:32.300 time 10 years now and um he sits i sit down with him we're talking and our meeting was at uh fuck i

00:26:40.960 think it was nine to ten all right or 10 it was scheduled it was 9 p.m to 10 p.m or 10 p.m to 11

00:26:47.300 p.m i couldn't remember which it was but it was late it was a late dinner and i thought like you know

00:26:52.000 well it's new york man people don't go out till real late so you never sleeps yeah right it's different

00:26:56.500 you know out here in midwest bro we're eating dinner at 6 30 you know what i'm saying um but

00:27:02.340 that i just kind of thought that way and we sat down bro and we had a couple drinks and we were

00:27:06.960 talking it was great everything was awesome and uh the hour came around okay like it got to the end

00:27:12.980 of the hour and he was like all right man well i hate to do this but uh i got another meeting and

00:27:17.400 i'm like bro it's fucking 11 o'clock at night he's like yeah i got 11 to 12 and a 12 to 1 and then a

00:27:22.480 one to two and i'm like holy shit and i walked out of that meeting realizing like bro that's the

00:27:29.720 level of real work that these motherfuckers who are winning are putting in and people don't

00:27:34.480 understand that they think that's bullshit they think when these guys go on the internet who are

00:27:38.780 winning big and talk about what they do they think it's a lie they think it's nonsense bro like i'm on

00:27:44.600 the phone every single fucking day to this day 25 years in i'm on the phone till 11 12 at night

00:27:50.500 every fucking day and you know 10 years ago it was till 3 in the morning you know what i'm saying

00:27:55.500 like we're the work required to have this instagram life that people think is real is so much more and

00:28:06.960 you have to understand that and so if we understand the work required and we're willing to do that work

00:28:11.900 we could produce the result but if you underestimate the work required and you never get the result

00:28:16.860 and then you end up blaming you and say i don't have it or it's just me or it's just how i'm doing

00:28:21.640 or i don't i don't have what it takes no dude you're misunderstanding the game because the environment and

00:28:26.400 the culture is telling you that you're playing a game where you should be successful in a year when

00:28:31.280 in reality that's not how it works yeah or you blame everybody else yeah right my boss don't see me

00:28:38.020 that's what most people do you know i'm saying yeah yeah i mean i'm not talking to those those people

00:28:41.780 are a lost cause for sure real talk like if you if you if you look around your life and you're and

00:28:46.460 you're blaming other people and you're saying the reason i'm fat is because of my genetics the reason

00:28:50.760 i'm broke is because of my boss the reason i'm unhappy is because my girlfriend's a bitch you're saying

00:28:55.780 all that shit bro you're the bitch that's it you're the problem you just don't get it you haven't figured

00:28:59.800 it out yet you're the bitch it's you you're the problem you're the common denominator and you got

00:29:04.820 to be honest with yourself before you can ever fix yourself i love that man i love it uh guys any let's get to

00:29:10.280 question number two uh andy with all of your responsibilities you just mentioned you know you're still

00:29:15.600 up on the phone super late now right with all your responsibilities the companies you're running

00:29:20.000 how do you prioritize your time and energy into everything that you have going on like i know you

00:29:26.400 you do the power list which i love and also use but like how do you determine what distractions

00:29:32.040 or challenges get your attention first i i just determine what's the most important i bottom line

00:29:39.720 what the most important shit and here's the most important shit whether you like it or not

00:29:43.180 if you ain't got no money you don't have shit okay yeah if you don't have no money your life is

00:29:48.840 infinitely harder you can't eat you can't live where you want to live you can't do what you want to do

00:29:53.960 you have far less freedom you got to answer more people the biggest problem most y'all have in your

00:29:58.260 lives you don't have enough money and if you listen to your buddies at church or you listen to your

00:30:02.040 your humble buddies that live up the street and they say must be nice and all this other bullshit

00:30:06.960 they're going to lead you into the path of just like them you're going to become who it is you

00:30:11.460 listen to who it is you're surrounded by that's who you become you hear this saying all the time

00:30:15.940 surround yourself with five successful people you're going to become the sixth that's true

00:30:20.060 you surround yourself with five losers you're going to become the sixth that's reality okay so

00:30:25.240 you're going to become who you spend your time around and who you listen to and so you have to

00:30:30.180 understand that your biggest problem in reality real talk your biggest problem is actually

00:30:37.880 discipline that's your problem but your biggest problem outside of discipline and mental toughness

00:30:43.720 is your money all right so i prioritize my thing to make sure that the money keeps flowing that way

00:30:48.880 the money keeps flowing i can solve problems easier and everything else comes after that and people don't

00:30:53.360 like that but that's a real answer yeah did you ever i mean let's go back to when you were 19 hold on

00:30:59.140 and the reason i say that the biggest problem most people have is discipline and mental toughness

00:31:02.920 because that's all the requirements to get to that point where you can handle your money and then

00:31:06.640 everything else after that right you've got to become the best weapon you can become you've got to

00:31:11.580 become the best tool that you can become okay up here in your physical in your heart everything's got

00:31:19.480 to be the best it is and if you're the best if you have the best tool and we're out here in the world

00:31:24.160 than everybody else you see as a as a tool right those people are less effective tools than you

00:31:30.540 so like if you're building the house do you want to use the most effective tools or the least effective

00:31:34.980 tools you're going to use the most effective and the house is our game of life all right so we're

00:31:40.680 building our life do you want to go at it with a saws with sharp blades and hammers with fucking no

00:31:47.940 hammer on the end of it you see what i'm saying like we have to build us first which is the whole

00:31:53.400 purpose of the live hard program that's why i give it away for free because it's the ultimate

00:31:57.900 shit that can fix you and get you to a place where you can handle all these other problems

00:32:02.620 all right and all the problems that you're going to handle with your mental toughness your discipline

00:32:06.300 your uh your fortitude your grit your toughness all of this shit that will solve your fitness that

00:32:12.320 will solve your mental that will solve a lot of the problems that you think you have and when those

00:32:16.100 are fucking taken care of now the next problem is your money okay so i just want to be clear on that

00:32:21.560 yeah i love that uh let's go back to the 99 2000 real quick yeah 99 2000 that's what i'm saying i

00:32:29.260 know i want to i want to ask you this though because i'm from that era of course i know that

00:32:32.940 back to the 99 dude you're working with you right here yeah uh no i want to ask you because i feel

00:32:39.140 like most people man when they when they get a really difficult like there's a problem there's a

00:32:43.620 situation they see it they feel it they know it's there i feel like the the number one thing that

00:32:50.260 most people do is avoid it right or they try to like postpone it or they try to right and so like

00:32:55.320 i guess two-part question like when you were first getting the business and problems come up like

00:32:59.620 did you have those same issues of like well fuck man i really don't want to deal with this right now

00:33:04.340 let me just or like has it all like how did you walk through that has it always been you know i'm

00:33:09.240 gonna just hit this shit head on dude had i known this when i started it wouldn't have taken me

00:33:13.560 fucking 25 years to do what i've done yeah the first 10 years of my life i was fucking worthless

00:33:19.200 okay listen this is how it went for me the first 10 years i didn't know shit all right not only did

00:33:25.320 i not know shit i thought i knew shit which made it 10 times worse all right so when i say when you

00:33:31.480 guys hear the story of oh man it took them 10 years to not get paid yeah that's because i'm a

00:33:36.380 fucking idiot all right and by the way i reinvested the last three years of that 10 years back into

00:33:43.520 the company 100 so i made some good smart decisions too but the reality is is had i understood what i

00:33:49.640 tell you guys now i wouldn't have had to go through that that's what i'm trying to do that's why i do

00:33:54.080 this i'm trying to save you a decade of your life and i can because if i went back and talked to

00:33:58.920 fucking andy from uh 1999 i promise you bro i'm saving him 15 years 50 there's there is a lot of

00:34:07.680 value to an actual mentor there is a lot of value to an actual coach yeah the problem is is that the

00:34:15.220 coach thing has gotten way the fuck out of control all right so what here's how you have to evaluate

00:34:22.160 it how much would you pay to save 15 years off your life okay and whatever the fuck it costs right

00:34:29.700 because that's what the fuck i would pay yeah and if you have a guy if you have someone who could

00:34:33.100 actually teach you that then it's a fucking deal it really doesn't matter what they're charging

00:34:36.840 but you have to qualify that person have they done what they say they've done what has their

00:34:41.860 experience been are they the kind of person i want to be have they built anything real do have

00:34:47.300 they built what i want to build what is you know what i'm saying like we have to be intelligent

00:34:51.480 and pre-qualify who we're going to listen to because there's so much shit out here you see

00:34:56.660 what i'm saying you see what i mean absolutely so um so yeah dude my first 10 years were i had to

00:35:02.480 learn the hard way um and then my next five years after that when i started figuring some stuff out

00:35:07.920 i still was soft i still wasn't mentally hardened i still you know tried to skate around obvious issues

00:35:16.400 that needed to be addressed like my body and my mind and i was still drinking all the time and i was

00:35:22.140 way overweight and i made excuses for myself i would say things like well yeah i'm i'm i'm fat but i'm

00:35:28.860 strong i'm stronger than everybody yeah that's right or i'm yeah i'm fat but you know what i'm making

00:35:34.480 money but yeah i'm i'm not as healthy as i could be but i work harder than everybody else and i told

00:35:40.320 myself all this shit and back 2015 bro you know we're doing fucking major business even back then

00:35:47.520 and i'm like well look at this i don't need to be all that shit and i was wrong because when i

00:35:53.960 decided to take care of all that the the mental the physical and get myself into the condition where

00:36:00.240 i could handle shit the right way then i really started taking off yeah and that's what it takes bro

00:36:05.720 if you're not your best self you're not going to create your best outcome that's just reality there's

00:36:10.200 nothing you can do about it you can lie to yourself you can tell yourself that's not true you can make

00:36:15.960 excuses for yourself but the reality is you're not going to produce the best result until you are the

00:36:20.940 best that you can be at this moment in time and as you pass through more and more and more life

00:36:26.660 experience you will have the opportunity to get better and better and better and better and you should

00:36:31.580 and that will increase the level of your outputs on the back side so um you know did i ever

00:36:39.380 fucking run and hide and neglect yeah of course like everybody else dude but it wasn't until i stopped

00:36:45.740 doing that that things got really good it's human nature dude all these people out here that pretend

00:36:50.880 like they don't struggle that pretend like they got all their shit together that pretend like they never

00:36:55.740 made mistakes and pretend like they're perfect and they're superhero and all this shit

00:37:00.660 these people are all fucking liars all of them all of them are imposter syndrome people all of them

00:37:07.700 have days of doubt all of them have days of loss of confidence all of them have days where it's hard

00:37:13.100 as fuck and they'd rather do anything else than show up and do what they do but the difference is

00:37:17.820 they show up when they don't fucking feel like it and they execute and you don't and that's a massive

00:37:23.360 advantage because if you can execute when you feel good that's okay that's good because most people

00:37:28.460 can't even do that but if you can execute when you feel good and when you don't feel good dude

00:37:33.820 you're operating on a completely different level than most people most people can't fucking do that

00:37:37.560 they cannot do it so that's your job your job is to build yourself into the person that can have the

00:37:42.780 best competitive advantage possible and that takes you investing in yourself and getting all your

00:37:48.380 your your tool as sharp as it can be and keeping it there all the time i love it man i love it guys

00:37:54.800 andy our third and final question question number three uh hey andy i have a question about quitting

00:38:00.480 what are your thoughts on quitting because what you're doing depends on what you're quitting

00:38:04.800 yeah well yeah that's yeah no shit um what are your thoughts on quitting when what you're doing no

00:38:13.020 longer aligns with you uh and you're not really it's not quitting out of fear for context i owned a food

00:38:19.160 company for four plus years it was my first business and i realized in those four years that my heart

00:38:24.260 belongs to marketing it's what i'm good at it's what i love to do i'm currently in the process of

00:38:29.180 selling my food company to pursue something new in marketing and public speaking i've accepted uh and

00:38:34.900 feel good about this decision why the fuck would you do that why would you take a real business and

00:38:40.260 then want to become a fucking speaker okay why would you do that no the fuck are you talking about take

00:38:46.820 your marketing skills and build your real company into something that's worth a billion dollars bro

00:38:52.260 what are you talking about most of these people out here to speak don't even have real fucking companies

00:38:57.260 dude you're saying you got a real one right here yes you already got a real one

00:39:01.460 dude this is the problem okay you guys have to understand the internet is very difficult and murky

00:39:11.820 and hard to see through but i am telling you right now a lot of these guru people they tell you to

00:39:19.020 create a funnel or do this thing or get leads and all this shit and they're teaching you skills these are

00:39:25.540 skills these are not the main thing you need a main thing you need those skills you need yes

00:39:32.460 fuck bro you're telling me you want to get rid of your main thing and then become someone who like the

00:39:37.680 gazillion other people out here who just talks about the skills as if that they're it's their main

00:39:42.760 business i understand you think it's cool i understand you see people with lots of followers

00:39:47.980 and on stages and people clapping all this shit but bro i'm telling you right now the real shit

00:39:53.280 is in building something that is a real thing that is an asset that you could exit later on in life

00:40:00.640 and if that's not like what you're telling me is you want to be a marketer so fucking market your main

00:40:07.740 thing dude let's see what you got because that's the real game dude yeah i respect people that own

00:40:13.540 real shit that have built real companies that's what the fuck we do in rote we don't we're not in there

00:40:18.420 telling people to become speakers that's not the fuck we do we take people with real businesses and we give

00:40:24.100 them the tools to scale those businesses out that's the best that's what every single one of you young

00:40:29.200 people should be doing you should be thinking that that's an entrepreneur you should be thinking

00:40:34.080 what's my main thing and how am i going to grow it and how am i going to use these tools to grow it

00:40:38.500 and just because someone has a million followers and you see them at some of these events

00:40:42.300 doesn't mean shit all right some of these people don't have anything else this is their main gig

00:40:48.220 all right you don't want to be that person you want to be the person to build something real

00:40:53.860 that can put the work in use the skills and by the way i'm not saying people don't have

00:40:58.680 things of value to teach they do but fuck bro if we're being real dude

00:41:04.840 this is this is what's fucked up with the internet well i mean there's a practical application

00:41:11.000 no dude this is what's you got you got business professors they can they can read you a textbook

00:41:17.020 about business and how to but they drive a fucking like are they really doing it have they ever really

00:41:21.740 done it and they put it into practice look man that was his final quote i mean he like am i wrong for

00:41:26.580 wanting to want wanting to pursue something different or should i have put more more time

00:41:31.460 into my business i think you should take your main business and you should work on growing that main

00:41:36.580 business and you've already got it started and you've already got it going and you realize that

00:41:40.880 you have a a flair for marketing yeah cool go run the marketing people go do the marketing for

00:41:46.020 your business let other people run your i don't run the back end of my business i got people that do

00:41:51.220 that you know what i help with i help with our apparel i help with our marketing i help with our

00:41:55.760 design i help with our brand those are the things i like right so that's what the fuck i help with

00:42:00.800 and it fulfills me i like the people i do it with it's exciting we're facing an uphill battle because a

00:42:06.720 lot of that shit is new to us and we're compared to the companies that we're competing against we have

00:42:10.640 far less money even though we've been around for a long time you know when you look at a budget

00:42:14.420 of a pepsico or a nike fuck bro we're not even a booger on their nose so i have to be creative i

00:42:20.940 have to and that's the biggest misconception people have about me they think i've fucking done

00:42:25.280 but i haven't even fucking started you have no fucking idea yeah okay so i love that shit i love

00:42:30.220 the game i love the upside i love how hard it is and we have to understand just because you like a

00:42:36.320 certain area of your business doesn't mean you sell your whole business and go do this one thing

00:42:40.560 can you can we touch on to like because i also feel like there's something here too like like

00:42:46.920 can we talk about the significance of the business owner in the world we're living right now like in

00:42:53.700 this country for business owners right like it's necessary i feel like it's necessary to have more

00:42:58.880 business we've lost so many businesses as it is in the last four years you know i'm saying to have

00:43:03.260 something that's brick and mortar with real people why do you think they've eliminated all the

00:43:06.780 businesses because they want people to go try to just you know build their marketing

00:43:10.440 skills out it's not it's not just listen it's not just because they want the people in the lower

00:43:15.560 class let me explain this big picture the reason they want to put all the middle to medium small

00:43:24.200 size businesses out of business is not just because they want all the money and all the business that's

00:43:28.740 not what it's about it's about that but it's about something else that most people don't understand

00:43:33.420 and what it is it's about controlling the culture narrative it is far easier to put down rules and

00:43:39.640 standards through 10 different big ass conglomerates and all their subsidiaries than it is to do that

00:43:47.720 and then have millions of small businesses doing their own culture and their own rules and doing

00:43:53.160 business their own way so to answer your question it's extremely important because the culture that is

00:43:59.280 bestowed from the organization of small business and medium-sized business is actually what controls the

00:44:05.520 culture in society because people spend most of their time at work and whatever rules or atmosphere

00:44:11.480 or culture they have at work is usually highly influential on what they do at home so it's not

00:44:17.920 just about them eliminating the jobs to push everybody into the lower class that's not that's part of it

00:44:24.540 my product that's part of it but the other part is without all these small and medium businesses out there

00:44:30.440 they can control quote unquote how things work by making things the way they want inside these big

00:44:37.980 corporations making the rules making the standards you know the all of these special things that they

00:44:44.160 make people do the political correctness the cancel culture the dei the esg all of these social

00:44:50.060 initiatives are easy to push down if they have 10 companies or really just like three companies that own all

00:44:55.820 the rest of the big companies and everybody has to go there because then the the contrast to that

00:45:01.640 ceases to exist does this make sense absolutely okay so yes it's very fucking important that you young

00:45:08.220 people start to understand that it is far cooler and better to go build a real business than it is to

00:45:14.940 become a speaker way cooler bro way fucking cooler just because you see these people on the internet doing

00:45:21.460 this shit does not mean that that's what you should be doing first of all most of you don't have the

00:45:26.240 skill to get on stage and speak that's fucking reality the reason i have the skill is because i've

00:45:31.120 been doing it for 25 fucking years i've recorded a thousand fucking podcasts i've given 10 000 fucking

00:45:37.480 speeches and meetings at my company if you're in 20 years if you build a real company you'll actually

00:45:43.000 be a great speaker because it's going to be something that you develop during the time but you guys go

00:45:47.940 out here with no business experience no fucking business at all and you say i want to be a speaker

00:45:53.420 that is not admirable that's not real dude it's it's real for very fucking few people very few people

00:46:01.840 have the ability to go on stage and change people's lives and make a living doing it without

00:46:10.560 something that they've done to build massive credibility and yes there will be people that come and go

00:46:17.740 that come on for a little bit and go away for a little bit come on for a little bit and go away

00:46:22.340 for a little bit and the reason they come on for a little bit and go away for a little bit is because

00:46:26.280 there is no real thing behind them okay you know people will point at tony robbins well tony robbins

00:46:34.080 started as a speaker yeah tony robbins is one of the best speakers of all fucking time bro like he is

00:46:39.080 gifted that motherfucker started out at 18 years old under the guidance of jim roan another fucking

00:46:45.420 ridiculous speaker and he was able to go out and get paid to speak and then turned it into a

00:46:50.880 multi-billion dollar portfolio of real business do you think do you think he did that because

00:46:57.640 it wasn't the best thing to do right you see what i'm saying bro growing a real business is where you

00:47:03.760 learn the skills that you want to be admired for now oh i want to be a speaker and a marketer you want

00:47:08.880 to be a speaker and a marketer go grow a real business for 10 fucking years and then come out and start

00:47:13.460 speaking and you'll smoke everyone that's real shit and you want to you want to be a great marketer

00:47:18.460 go grow a real business from zero to a hundred million dollars and you're going to fucking know

00:47:22.600 what the fuck you're doing all right so stop idolizing this shit on the internet that most of

00:47:28.020 it's bullshit and start realizing that we need young entrepreneurs to build real shit that creates

00:47:34.060 jobs and employs people not just because it's going to make you better in these other areas that

00:47:38.820 you want to enjoy but also because it's going to fix what's going on in the world entrepreneurs are

00:47:44.700 going to cure what's going on in this in this crisis in the world and they're going to do it by controlling

00:47:49.040 the culture so that's my answer to this i i'm i i i get so tired of these young bucks coming out so i

00:47:56.440 want to be a speaker i want to share the stage with you motherfucker i hate speaking i want to run

00:48:01.960 companies you get what i'm saying absolutely my speaking ability is a byproduct of me running

00:48:07.200 companies not the other way around and it will be for you too if you truly want to go out and speak

00:48:11.540 and you truly want to go out and do this shit fucking build something real bro and then go tell

00:48:16.260 people how you did it yeah that's going to be the shit that people resonate with people will listen

00:48:20.460 yeah anyway i love it man well guys andy that was three yep go pay the fee

00:48:27.480 yeah went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in

00:48:34.780 the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close

00:48:41.940 close

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - February 19, 2024

652. Q&AF： Generating New Ideas, Prioritizing Time And Energy & Knowing When To Quit

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