REAL AF with Andy Frisella - February 17, 2024


Audio Exclusive 02： How Real Winners Operate In The Real World


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On this episode of the the boys discuss the difference between winners and losers when it comes to dealing with the hard times in life and how they handle it. How do they handle hard times and how do they deal with them?

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00:00:00.000 all right hoes welcome to the show we got an audio exclusive today are we recording 0.99
00:00:23.520 all right let's just get going how about that yeah how about that no intro today just howdy hoes 0.99
00:00:33.360 i fucking love south you know what i love about our people bro you know how they greet each other
00:00:39.840 now i found out oh yeah the fucking people see each other wearing the shit and they walk up and 0.97
00:00:44.940 they say hey don't be a hoe share the show bro that's so awesome i saw this one uh i saw this 0.98
00:00:51.280 one person i can't remember who it was but i saw it they actually had a sticker of us on the show
00:00:57.380 with a qr code of the show yes and it said don't be a hoe share the show on the back window of their 0.90
00:01:03.480 fucking uh suv oh damn that's fucking dope i loved it that's dope i love it is it like tenant like 0.98
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00:01:20.380 special sauce we're gonna work through this i don't know what we're gonna do but we'll poll
00:01:24.620 it we'll see what i've had half a can of first form energy it's not an ad and i uh i'm cracked out of
00:01:31.280 my motherfucking mind ready to punch some holes in the water yeah that's right i'm ready right 0.77
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00:01:46.500 the top of the top of the list yeah top top all right all the lists so what are we doing here
00:01:51.620 yeah man so i was thinking about this thing i wanted i wanted to to get your take on it so
00:01:55.140 you know there is a saying that you know everything happens for a reason right yep uh and and and i
00:02:00.780 personally like believe usually people that lose say that all the time well i mean i feel like you
00:02:05.780 know like they do they take a lot i'm just saying they take a loss and they say oh everything happens
00:02:10.700 for a reason and then they just stay right there their whole life i can see that i think i think i
00:02:16.220 use it typically on the positive shit or like when negative shit does happen and then the positive 0.56
00:02:20.460 comes after it's like all right well that's right so i'm here for it right yep um but i guess the
00:02:25.800 question is like you know when you are going through the hard time and you have this belief
00:02:29.660 that hey everything is happening for a reason you're where you are for a reason you know because of
00:02:33.760 the work you've done when hard things happen and you're going through a struggle period right
00:02:38.520 which you've had many of how do you get through that while also in that mindset of everything's
00:02:44.860 happening for a reason like how do you look at those hard times how do you look at those
00:02:47.880 those tough struggle moments or months well dj i'm glad you asked because it's saturday
00:02:54.840 here's the deal there's two different kinds of people when it comes to the hard times there's the
00:03:01.320 kind of people that say well everything happens for a reason and then they sit there the rest of
00:03:06.340 their life and they don't do shit and they say well you know what it must be a bigger plan for me 0.70
00:03:12.040 and my bigger plan means that i'm going to sit in my basement eating my hot pockets yelling at my mom
00:03:17.720 because i don't have enough of them right that's what most people do but what winners do they handle
00:03:22.820 hard times completely different all right and i'm going to explain something to you i don't give a
00:03:28.460 shit what these people on the internet try to tell you all right every single one of these people
00:03:33.860 that comes out here and acts like they're perfect comes out here and acts like they got all their
00:03:38.120 shit together all the time comes out acts like it's easy comes out acts like they have everything in 0.51
00:03:44.200 line and they don't have any problems or any stress or any anxiety or any doubt every single one of
00:03:50.020 those people is full of shit okay because the truth is we all struggle we all have hard times
00:03:56.820 especially if you have ambition and drive and you want to become something that you are not yet
00:04:04.620 that brings us difficulties that is the nature of the game and you are going to have hard time after
00:04:12.940 hard time after hard time and the difference between winners and losers is how we adjust to these hard
00:04:18.980 times we've already talked about how losers handle it they get punched in the face once and they're out of
00:04:24.120 the game bro they're done they say hey it wasn't for me i didn't like that i couldn't do it and it is
00:04:30.220 what it is and then they just take what they can get the entire rest of their life which ain't shit 0.89
00:04:34.560 okay and what do winners do winners handle things very differently they understand that the path they've
00:04:41.020 chosen is going to be laden with hard times they understand the path they've chosen is going to have
00:04:48.520 resistance it's going to have struggle it's going to have pain it's going to have hardship
00:04:53.800 and that is going to be a regular occurrence along the path they understand that and then when those
00:04:59.800 days come they don't look at it as oh poor me this happened to me they look at it as well fuck yeah i'm 0.87
00:05:06.280 getting fucking tested today motherfucker and you know what i'm gonna pass that test and whenever they 0.99
00:05:11.380 have the hard thing that happens and then they overcome it they gain more confidence because they
00:05:16.560 overcame something that the previous version of themselves or the rest of everybody else would have
00:05:21.400 just quit when it happened to them so we have to understand test days come they come over and over
00:05:28.380 and over again and they the purpose of these days is so that you can prove to yourself not the rest of
00:05:35.200 the world to yourself that you are the kind of person that possesses the mental fortitude the grit
00:05:42.980 the toughness the perseverance the discipline to get things done regardless of what the situation is
00:05:50.400 and if you become this kind of person who can get things done regardless of what's going on
00:05:56.500 regardless of what's going on in the economy regardless of what's going on in your personal
00:06:00.500 life regardless of how you feel regardless of the weather how the fuck can you be stopped by 0.89
00:06:05.680 anything other than god you cannot okay so winners very much value being tested because every time they
00:06:14.020 overcome the test they look back at it and they say yeah fuck you you couldn't fuck me up i'm gonna keep 0.98
00:06:19.660 going and that's the difference they get punched in the face over and over and over again and they
00:06:24.080 get up with a fucking smile and say that didn't kill me i'm still going and every time you get up and 0.95
00:06:29.180 you keep going you're gaining momentum you're gaining steam you're gaining belief because you don't
00:06:34.280 believe that you can do hard things until you've actually done some hard things all right and this is
00:06:39.300 the reason the entire reason that i put together the live hard program because it's meant to condition
00:06:45.520 you to do things that are difficult when you do not feel like doing them and if you can become the
00:06:51.100 kind of person who can do difficult things especially when you'd rather do anything else but the difficult
00:06:56.100 thing there is actually nothing that can get in your way and stop you along the way so there
00:07:00.520 understand this difference weak people broke people people who lose they have bad shit happen to them 0.82
00:07:06.840 and they say well i tried i did my best it wasn't for me you know what i had this happen it was
00:07:13.360 this guy's fault it was my mom's fault it was my wife's fault it was my boss's fault and they make 0.76
00:07:18.200 all these excuses and winners do not do that at all they get punched in the face they sit down for a
00:07:24.880 second and they say fuck that and they get back up and they keep going and that is a very fundamental 0.83
00:07:30.300 difference between people who are successful and people who aren't how they perceive the difficult
00:07:34.680 days i choose to perceive the difficult days as a test that has showed up intentionally to
00:07:42.300 reinforce the belief that i have in myself to reinforce what i know about myself and if we all
00:07:48.720 approach the difficult times like that and we continue to push through our confidence will go up
00:07:54.100 tremendously all right so that's the difference bro you have to be willing to be tested you have
00:08:00.620 to understand that you're going to be tested what have you trained to be an athlete your entire life
00:08:05.660 what if you train to play football your entire life and all you did was practice practice practice
00:08:10.720 practice practice practice practice practice and you never played a fucking game would you think 0.93
00:08:15.760 you'd be fulfilled do you think you'd be happy do you think it'd be fun no it would suck and this is
00:08:21.540 what you guys are afraid of you're afraid of the tests because you don't know if you're going to pass
00:08:25.900 it or not but the thing is is that you could only fail the test if you don't go through it that's how
00:08:32.380 you fail so start understanding this is how winners think winners look at the situation at hand
00:08:38.060 the tough thing at hand the circumstance at hand that has just punched them right in the balls and
00:08:43.140 they say yeah that's not going to stop me and they keep going and that's what it's about bro
00:08:49.040 let me let me ask you this indy how many how many people create the hard times themselves like
00:08:57.740 they created that situation and called it a hard time right you know bro most people complain about
00:09:04.240 all the hardships they have and all the unfairness they have and really what they're dealing with is
00:09:09.060 the result of their own poor decision making right a hundred percent right that is most people's hard
00:09:13.760 times most of the hard times that the average person faces are the product of the poor decisions they
00:09:19.820 have made in the past that is it and you still can't fucking address that but dude the thing is 0.92
00:09:24.240 is that they do not understand that the decisions that they are currently making today
00:09:28.480 will have a repercussion in the future how can you not understand this how can you be in that big
00:09:34.120 of a denial how can you not understand that the reason you have problems today is because that
00:09:40.320 past version of you made poor decisions if you're honest with yourself it should be very easy to see
00:09:46.180 that real talk now today you should be able to say okay that's true that is true the reason i'm
00:09:53.540 suffering and i can't pay my bills is because i fucked off and played video games for seven years 0.97
00:09:57.860 the reason i'm fat is because i ate bullshit for seven years or eight years the reason i'm fucking i don't 0.98
00:10:03.640 have a girlfriend or boyfriend is because i look like shit i don't make any fucking money and why 0.99
00:10:07.840 the fuck would anybody want to date me be honest with yourself because when you're honest with
00:10:12.260 yourself you can fucking change it and once you acknowledge that the decisions you made in the past 0.93
00:10:18.560 were made by a different human being and this is the beauty of it dude once you understand this
00:10:25.540 once you understand that those decisions that you made in the past have created this situation
00:10:32.040 that is unfavorable to you now and you understand that completely and you are aware of it and you
00:10:37.840 are willing to make different decisions you are no longer that person that is the old you and even
00:10:43.160 though you look like the old you and you earn like the old you because you've become aware and you're
00:10:49.260 willing to make more and better decisions to create an outcome down the road you are now a different
00:10:53.880 person right now so you can change your life in a fucking instant by owning all of your shit and being 0.99
00:11:00.840 honest with yourself about what's created most of your problems probably all of your problems
00:11:04.980 in your life which is you and i would highly encourage you to do that because most people
00:11:09.800 never do it most people spend their entire lives blaming everything around them and everyone around
00:11:15.020 them for their shitty ass life and their shitty situation and they never come to the realization 0.88
00:11:19.640 because they lack the courage to admit that it was them have the courage to look in the mirror bro
00:11:25.880 be honest with yourself because once you acknowledge that and you say i'm gonna do different
00:11:31.180 and you commit to that bro your life is gonna go a completely different direction you're gonna go a
00:11:37.240 completely different direction your friends are gonna change your relationships are gonna change your
00:11:41.580 money's gonna change your body's gonna change how you see yourself's gonna change because now that
00:11:46.640 you understand that you are in complete control of your outcome do you really think you're gonna
00:11:51.580 continue to make these shitty decisions you're not nobody will it takes complete accountability 0.73
00:11:57.560 for your past and your past decisions to come to a place of total acceptance and total responsibility
00:12:06.080 for where you're at and once you're there and you commit to making better decisions and you fully
00:12:11.180 understand you fully understand that when you eat that food it's going to make you fat you fully
00:12:16.500 understand that when you play those video games for 12 hours a day it's going to cost you financially
00:12:21.580 when you fully understand that the alcohol and the fucking all this bullshit that you do is costing you 0.92
00:12:29.060 you will cut that shit out the problem is most people don't understand how much it's costing them 0.65
00:12:33.940 they don't understand what it's costing because they haven't fully taken responsibility for what
00:12:38.800 they've done in the past and applied it to where they are now and decided to make new decisions
00:12:43.480 forward because bro here's the reality if you reached out and touched a stove and it was hot
00:12:48.200 and it burnt your fucking finger and you knew that every single fucking time that you touch that stove 0.99
00:12:53.780 it's going to burn your finger are you going to fucking touch it a second time no zero chance because 0.98
00:12:57.860 you're going to fucking stop immediately and change the behavior and the reason most people don't is 0.96
00:13:02.940 because they don't fully accept that where they are as a result of their poor decision making it wasn't
00:13:07.920 the stove's fault fuck no it wasn't anybody else's fault bro you put that shit in your mouth 0.99
00:13:12.020 you put that shit in your body you did all those things that you did instead of doing the work to 0.94
00:13:16.660 become the person you really want to become you did that nobody else did that your boss didn't fuck 0.90
00:13:21.640 you over bro you fucked you over be honest okay and once you're honest and you truly accept in your 0.95
00:13:27.500 brain what i do today what i do right now is going to produce a result that's going to come out this
00:13:33.840 pipeline of time down the road whether it be 30 days 60 days 90 days six months a year five years
00:13:41.720 from now when you understand that what you decide to do in the moment is going to change the outcome
00:13:47.680 on the other side of time and you understand that to be factual fucking reality you are going to make 0.89
00:13:53.780 different decisions with your life period worst case scenario it's one less punch you got to fucking 0.97
00:13:58.420 bro no you listen you got to understand what i'm saying when you truly fucking understand it 0.91
00:14:05.300 not kind of understand it not i watched a couple tony robbins videos and i fucking i kind of like it 0.73
00:14:12.720 not not i'm you know i'm feeling more into personal i'm not talking about this i'm talking about total
00:14:19.680 understanding i completely understand in my life that what i do today is coming out this pipeline
00:14:26.760 on the other side as a result so if i put in today it's going to if i put in the right things today
00:14:33.900 it's going to come out the other side of that pipe with the good things i want if i don't plant
00:14:38.960 the seed today i'm not going to have a crop to harvest later and that's the reality of your life
00:14:43.760 and once you completely understand that it no longer becomes this big huge battle to do the things that
00:14:51.200 you're supposed to be doing like it it's not hard for me to wake up and do what i'm supposed to do i
00:14:58.280 don't wake up in the morning sometimes i do sometimes i wake up in the morning and i'm like fuck 0.92
00:15:02.520 fuck i don't want to do any of this shit and you know what those are the test days and some of those 0.92
00:15:08.100 days bro i'll sleep in i'll sleep till 10 o'clock bro and i'll get the fuck up and you know this to 0.95
00:15:12.580 be true because i'll show up here at 11 but what happens on the days i show up here at 11 all my
00:15:17.580 shit gets fucking done bro it doesn't matter if i started slow it doesn't matter if i'm self-loathing 0.98
00:15:23.460 it doesn't matter if i have doubt it doesn't matter if i'm fucking sick it doesn't matter if i feel 0.98
00:15:28.360 like shit it does not fucking matter what i know needs to get done always gets done because i 0.96
00:15:34.760 understand the reality of how it works if i plant today i'm going to harvest then and if i don't
00:15:40.020 plant today i'm not going to harvest and when you're in my position what i plant today is going to feed a
00:15:45.200 lot of people down the road so like it's no longer about me and that's the cool part when you start to
00:15:50.840 realize like we talk about personal excellence being the ultimate rebellion when you start to realize
00:15:56.140 that these decisions that you're making today affect other people fuck dude now you're in a 0.99
00:16:03.660 position where it's super easy to do the shit it's not even hard it's a no-brainer it's not even hard 0.71
00:16:07.680 you know when it was hard to make these decisions for me when i fucking wanted to make a lot of money 0.85
00:16:13.660 so i could drive a lamborghini when i wanted to be ripped so i could be by the pool when i wanted all
00:16:18.440 these self-fulfilling outcomes that's when it was hard when it when it switched to holy shit
00:16:25.460 other people actually depend on me and my example matters and i matured as a human being by the way
00:16:31.300 i'm still very immature okay let's just get that out of the way i'm not perfect that's why we do the
00:16:36.720 cti where we like to talk a lot of shit i'm not the most mature human but i'm mature enough to 0.81
00:16:40.780 understand that my actions today are going to provide an outcome later that is going to affect
00:16:47.160 people's lives it's going to affect people's families that's a massive amount of responsibility so
00:16:53.000 it no longer is about me and that was that makes it even easier and you guys who are parents out
00:16:58.260 there are new parents you understand what i'm talking about you don't you it's a no-brainer
00:17:02.880 right you understand bro the shit's got to get done i gotta put the shit on the table bro because 0.98
00:17:07.200 these motherfuckers depend on me so hungry a little bad so dude yeah no shit but you know that's the 0.99
00:17:13.820 role of a leader the role of a leader the role of a successful person the role of a personally
00:17:18.040 excellent human is to understand the role and the role is you're gonna have to do the hard
00:17:21.700 shit because not everybody can do it and that's what we need more of in this country 0.71
00:17:24.840 so there's two two answers to this they're very simple one own your actual result that you're in
00:17:30.800 right now you understand that where you are right now who you are right now the condition you're in
00:17:36.880 right now is a result of decisions that someone else a previous version of you made this is why you
00:17:43.680 don't have to beat yourself up over it because someone else a different version of you who is less aware
00:17:48.860 of what things actually are in reality made these poor decisions and they have produced this outcome
00:17:54.600 that you are in that you are very unhappy with you don't look the way you want to look you're not
00:17:58.880 earning the way you want to earn you don't have a relationship you want a lot of things are fucked 0.92
00:18:02.500 up that's okay because that person back there made those decisions and because you recognize it and you
00:18:07.980 own it that that's why you have this now now you're a new person so all you have to do is start making
00:18:13.260 the decisions that the kind of person that you want to be would make right now and eventually after
00:18:18.760 time goes by you become that person in real life and that's what fake it till you make it actually
00:18:23.340 means fake it till you make it doesn't mean rent a fucking lambo and stand in front of a car on 0.97
00:18:28.400 fucking instagram for views what it actually means is fake that you're that person with your behaviors 0.93
00:18:33.720 and your actions until you actually become it so who do you want to be what do you want to look
00:18:38.280 like how much money do you want to earn where do you want to be in your life what kind of
00:18:42.220 relationships do you want to be in then make the decisions that that person would make and after
00:18:46.700 enough time passes you're going to be that person and that's how the fuck it works
00:18:51.280 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in 1.00
00:18:58.400 the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close 1.00