704. Real Talkļ¼ How Losing Sets The Stage For Winning
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Summary
The reason you suck is highly likely to be that you are afraid to fail. You re afraid to fall on your face because you don t want to look stupid in front of people who aren t going to be able to do anything in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, 40 years, etc. because you re worried about what other people will think about you if you fall.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist sake about the
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lies, the fakeness and delusions of my society.
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Guys, today we have a real talk and I'm just going to get right into it, okay?
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Um, the reason that you suck is highly likely to be that you are afraid to fail.
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You are afraid to look stupid in front of people who aren't ever going to do anything.
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They're not ever going to do anything in five years.
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They're going to be in the same spot in 20 years.
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They're going to be in the same spot and you're worried about what these motherfuckers think
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about you falling down on your face and because of that, you don't go and let me explain something
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The whole process of success is dependent and it requires you to fail over and over and
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There is no college education that can teach you what you will learn from the failures that
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The biggest successful inspirations that you know have had the most failures.
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I have literally fucked up every single thing in my life over the course of the last 25
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The thing I did that most people don't do is I just kept going.
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And whenever I had a fuck up, I said, all right, well, why'd I fuck up?
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Well, I did this and this and this, and then I make a mental note and then I don't do that
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And because of that, I have acquired a long list of skills and a long list of knowledge
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that would be impossible to acquire any other way.
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And because you're afraid of what these weird motherfuckers are going to say about you, if
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you go out and you fail, you're actually removing the entire possibility of success from your
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You will learn more from your failures than you will ever learn from your wins.
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So instead of being afraid to fail, instead of trying to avoid failure, instead of being
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embarrassed when you fail, start to understand that failure is a 100% requirement for people
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And every single time you fail, every single time you stumble, every single time you make
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a stupid mistake, you should audit that, take the lesson, put the skill in your tool belt.
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And then the next time that situation arises, you know what to do.
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And this is the thing that people never get because they're too afraid to start in the beginning.
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Do you really think that in 25 years of business that I haven't fucked everything up?
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You think I come on here and teach you guys all this shit because I just know it?
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No, I've fallen on my face a million fucking times.
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I'm just intelligent enough to learn the lesson and not repeat the same mistake twice, which
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You need one, the intelligence, which doesn't have to be hyper intelligent, just enough intelligence
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to be able to learn the lesson and not repeat the mistake.
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Two, you have to build the discipline and the grit and the fortitude and the determination
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and the endurance and the confidence and the ability to execute when conditions aren't
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That is why 75 hard and live hard is such a valuable program for people because it gives
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them the ability that they have been lacking their entire lives.
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It's that they couldn't fucking consistently do it when conditions weren't perfect and conditions
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So you have to build yourself into someone who can execute, whether it's great times or
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And if you can do those three things, if you can be the person who understands one, the losses
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are a valuable part and teach me way more shit than I could ever learn anywhere else.
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Number two, I have to be intelligent enough to not make the same mistakes over and over
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And number three, if you could build yourself into someone who can execute when conditions
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are fucking terrible, this is the difference between the people that you admire and all
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the irrelevant people, all the people that you look up to, all the people that you admire,
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They have fucked up their lives over and over and over again.
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The difference is, is that those people continue to go.
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And what usually happens is most people start to go down the path and they get one fuck up.
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And all of a sudden they're saying, oh, well, I guess this wasn't for me then because I didn't
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Bro, people that bat 300 in the major leagues get paid $200 million contracts, $300 million
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That means they're failing seven times out of 10.
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That is an accurate representation of what it takes to win.
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Nobody starts out on this path and starts hitting fucking home runs after home runs after home
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No matter what these morons on the internet fucking tell you, most truly successful people
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And you guys are filled with the internet, which is a bunch of bullshit with a bunch of
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lying motherfuckers who talk about everything they do and how much money they make and how
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These people are fucking lying because they're trying to sell you something.
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They're trying to sell you a pathway with no resistance.
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It is legitimately poking you in the scare point and the fear point.
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And the fear point for you is I don't want to look stupid.
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So they promise you this path of zero resistance, of zero pain, of zero struggle, and you eat
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it the fuck up because you don't want to be embarrassed.
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And I'm going to tell you this, dude, you don't want to be that person.
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You want to be the person who is willing to go out, who's willing to get your ass kicked
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day in and day out, who doesn't give a fuck if you end up looking stupid because you understand
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that you are acquiring skills along the way that are going to help you to build the life
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The big, I get asked all the time, what's the biggest difference between winners and
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The biggest difference between winners and losers is the understanding of how important
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I want to lose as much as possible because I understand that that's going to make me more
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I'm not in here trying to avoid looking stupid.
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I don't give a fuck if I look stupid because the people who think I look stupid are sitting in
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So you guys have to understand if you are going to win and you're going to build something
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and you're going to become something, you're going to create a life that you are proud
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of, you have to embrace the losses as an asset.
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It's something that you should accept and celebrate because it's teaching you the skills
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that none of these other motherfuckers are ever going to have.
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So stop worrying about falling on your face in front of motherfuckers who aren't even going
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to be relevant in your life a year from now, five years from now, 10 years from now,
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They are going to be doing the same things they have always done.
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They're going to be sitting on their fucking bar stool or in their mom's basement, critiquing
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every little thing all the while their life is passing them by and you are actually creating
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Take inventory of the lessons, apply the skills moving forward, and you will have everything
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Went from sleeping on the floor, now my jewelry box froze.
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Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove, counted millions in the cold.
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Bad bitch, booted swole, got her on bankroll, can't fold, doesn't know, headshot, case closed.