REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 11, 2024


704. Real Talk： How Losing Sets The Stage For Winning

Topics
failure and success embrace losses as asset
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Priscilla
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Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

170.83

Word count

1,603

Sentence count

107

Harmful content

Misogyny

5

sentences flagged

Toxicity

86

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Hate speech

5

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Summary

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The reason you suck is highly likely to be that you are afraid to fail. You re afraid to fall on your face because you don t want to look stupid in front of people who aren t going to be able to do anything in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, 40 years, etc. because you re worried about what other people will think about you if you fall.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist sake about the
00:00:20.560 lies, the fakeness and delusions of my society. 0.99
00:00:23.140 Welcome to motherfucking reality. 0.99
00:00:24.420 Guys, today we have a real talk and I'm just going to get right into it, okay? 1.00
00:00:27.160 Um, the reason that you suck is highly likely to be that you are afraid to fail. 0.99
00:00:34.520 You are afraid to fall on your face. 1.00
00:00:36.180 You are afraid to look stupid in front of people who aren't ever going to do anything. 1.00
00:00:40.860 They're not ever going to do anything in five years. 1.00
00:00:43.940 They're going to be in the same spot in 20 years. 1.00
00:00:46.860 They're going to be in the same spot and you're worried about what these motherfuckers think 0.99
00:00:51.080 about you falling down on your face and because of that, you don't go and let me explain something 0.99
00:00:56.340 to you.
00:00:56.920 You're missing the point.
00:00:59.640 The whole process of success is dependent and it requires you to fail over and over and
00:01:09.960 over again.
00:01:10.780 There is no book.
00:01:12.180 There is no course.
00:01:13.340 There is no guru.
00:01:14.540 There is no television show.
00:01:15.980 There is no college education that can teach you what you will learn from the failures that
00:01:22.700 you have.
00:01:23.420 The biggest successful inspirations that you know have had the most failures.
00:01:30.380 They have made the most mistakes. 0.96
00:01:33.020 They have fucked up more than anybody else. 0.99
00:01:36.300 I am a perfect example of that. 0.99
00:01:38.700 I have literally fucked up every single thing in my life over the course of the last 25 0.98
00:01:44.620 years. 0.97
00:01:45.300 The thing I did that most people don't do is I just kept going.
00:01:50.220 Okay. 0.98
00:01:50.640 And whenever I had a fuck up, I said, all right, well, why'd I fuck up? 0.98
00:01:55.200 Well, I did this and this and this, and then I make a mental note and then I don't do that 0.99
00:01:59.460 again.
00:01:59.760 And then I keep moving forward.
00:02:01.300 And because of that, I have acquired a long list of skills and a long list of knowledge
00:02:08.420 that would be impossible to acquire any other way.
00:02:12.820 You could not acquire it without it. 0.99
00:02:16.020 And because you're afraid of what these weird motherfuckers are going to say about you, if 0.98
00:02:21.260 you go out and you fail, you're actually removing the entire possibility of success from your 0.99
00:02:29.100 life because failure is a requirement.
00:02:33.240 You will learn more from your failures than you will ever learn from your wins.
00:02:37.300 All right.
00:02:38.300 So instead of being afraid to fail, instead of trying to avoid failure, instead of being
00:02:45.300 embarrassed when you fail, start to understand that failure is a 100% requirement for people
00:02:53.600 to be successful.
00:02:54.720 And every single time you fail, every single time you stumble, every single time you make 0.99
00:03:00.820 a stupid mistake, you should audit that, take the lesson, put the skill in your tool belt. 0.99
00:03:07.360 And then the next time that situation arises, you know what to do. 1.00
00:03:12.420 And this is the thing that people never get because they're too afraid to start in the beginning.
00:03:18.320 Do you really think that in 25 years of business that I haven't fucked everything up?
00:03:25.420 You think I just got this? 1.00
00:03:26.640 I just started knowing all this shit. 1.00
00:03:28.880 You think I come on here and teach you guys all this shit because I just know it? 1.00
00:03:32.140 No, I've fallen on my face a million fucking times. 1.00
00:03:36.020 I've got my balls smashed in 10 million times. 1.00
00:03:39.860 Okay. 0.98
00:03:40.200 I'm just intelligent enough to learn the lesson and not repeat the same mistake twice, which
00:03:46.520 is what I tell you all the time.
00:03:48.460 I tell you all the time. 1.00
00:03:50.200 You need two fucking things to win. 0.99
00:03:52.160 You need one, the intelligence, which doesn't have to be hyper intelligent, just enough intelligence 0.99
00:03:58.280 to be able to learn the lesson and not repeat the mistake.
00:04:03.720 Two, you have to build the discipline and the grit and the fortitude and the determination
00:04:10.540 and the endurance and the confidence and the ability to execute when conditions aren't
00:04:16.520 ideal to never quit.
00:04:19.080 That is why 75 hard and live hard is such a valuable program for people because it gives
00:04:25.100 them the ability that they have been lacking their entire lives.
00:04:28.840 It's not that they don't know what to do. 0.57
00:04:30.640 It's that they couldn't fucking consistently do it when conditions weren't perfect and conditions
00:04:36.060 on the path to success will never be perfect.
00:04:39.860 So you have to build yourself into someone who can execute, whether it's great times or
00:04:45.340 whether it's bad times.
00:04:46.680 And if you can do those three things, if you can be the person who understands one, the losses 0.74
00:04:52.480 are a valuable part and teach me way more shit than I could ever learn anywhere else. 0.86
00:04:58.160 Number two, I have to be intelligent enough to not make the same mistakes over and over 0.98
00:05:04.220 and over again.
00:05:05.240 And number three, if you could build yourself into someone who can execute when conditions 0.96
00:05:10.640 are fucking terrible, this is the difference between the people that you admire and all 0.96
00:05:16.600 the irrelevant people, all the people that you look up to, all the people that you admire, 0.99
00:05:21.940 all the people that you want to be like.
00:05:24.060 They have all went down the path.
00:05:26.480 They have all tripped up.
00:05:28.300 They have all stumbled.
00:05:29.420 They have all had major issues.
00:05:31.820 They have all had major failures. 1.00
00:05:33.460 Divorces, bankruptcies, fucking whatever, man. 1.00
00:05:38.120 They have fucked up their lives over and over and over again. 1.00
00:05:41.580 The difference is, is that those people continue to go. 1.00
00:05:45.660 And what usually happens is most people start to go down the path and they get one fuck up. 0.52
00:05:51.600 They have one thing happen.
00:05:53.040 And all of a sudden they're saying, oh, well, I guess this wasn't for me then because I didn't
00:05:58.400 hit perfect.
00:05:59.200 Bro, people that bat 300 in the major leagues get paid $200 million contracts, $300 million
00:06:06.580 contracts.
00:06:07.520 That means they're failing seven times out of 10.
00:06:11.300 That is an accurate representation of what it takes to win. 0.98
00:06:15.300 Nobody starts out on this path and starts hitting fucking home runs after home runs after home 0.99
00:06:21.560 runs. 1.00
00:06:21.920 No matter what these morons on the internet fucking tell you, most truly successful people 1.00
00:06:28.920 fail far more than they succeed. 1.00
00:06:31.960 You just don't see it.
00:06:33.620 All right. 1.00
00:06:34.000 And you guys are filled with the internet, which is a bunch of bullshit with a bunch of 1.00
00:06:38.680 lying motherfuckers who talk about everything they do and how much money they make and how 1.00
00:06:43.300 they always win and everything goes their way. 1.00
00:06:45.980 These people are fucking lying because they're trying to sell you something. 0.99
00:06:50.600 They're trying to sell you a pathway with no resistance. 1.00
00:06:53.820 It is legitimately poking you in the scare point and the fear point. 1.00
00:06:58.480 And the fear point for you is I don't want to look stupid. 0.99
00:07:01.120 So they promise you this path of zero resistance, of zero pain, of zero struggle, and you eat 1.00
00:07:08.720 it the fuck up because you don't want to be embarrassed.
00:07:11.080 And I'm going to tell you this, dude, you don't want to be that person. 1.00
00:07:13.780 You want to be the person who is willing to go out, who's willing to get your ass kicked 1.00
00:07:18.520 day in and day out, who doesn't give a fuck if you end up looking stupid because you understand 1.00
00:07:24.300 that you are acquiring skills along the way that are going to help you to build the life 1.00
00:07:30.060 that you truly want.
00:07:31.120 And that is the biggest difference, dude.
00:07:33.240 The big, I get asked all the time, what's the biggest difference between winners and
00:07:36.780 losers?
00:07:37.280 The biggest difference between winners and losers is the understanding of how important 0.94
00:07:42.380 it is to actually lose.
00:07:44.060 I want to lose as much as possible because I understand that that's going to make me more
00:07:49.300 skilled.
00:07:49.920 All right.
00:07:50.740 I'm not in here trying to avoid losing. 1.00
00:07:53.220 I'm not in here trying to avoid looking stupid. 1.00
00:07:55.520 I don't give a fuck if I look stupid because the people who think I look stupid are sitting in 1.00
00:07:59.600 their basement eating fucking Hot Pockets. 1.00
00:08:01.920 I'm driving to work in a fucking Rolls Royce. 1.00
00:08:04.720 Clearly it works. 1.00
00:08:06.220 Okay.
00:08:06.660 So you guys have to understand if you are going to win and you're going to build something
00:08:11.840 and you're going to become something, you're going to create a life that you are proud
00:08:15.500 of, you have to embrace the losses as an asset.
00:08:20.060 It is not a liability.
00:08:21.480 It is not something to be ashamed of.
00:08:23.440 It's something that you should accept and celebrate because it's teaching you the skills 0.99
00:08:28.060 that none of these other motherfuckers are ever going to have. 1.00
00:08:30.700 All right. 1.00
00:08:31.460 So stop worrying about falling on your face in front of motherfuckers who aren't even going 1.00
00:08:35.660 to be relevant in your life a year from now, five years from now, 10 years from now, 1.00
00:08:40.420 20 years from now.
00:08:41.280 They are going to be doing the same things they have always done. 1.00
00:08:44.720 They're going to be sitting on their fucking bar stool or in their mom's basement, critiquing 0.99
00:08:49.040 every little thing all the while their life is passing them by and you are actually creating 1.00
00:08:54.940 shit. 1.00
00:08:55.780 Okay. 1.00
00:08:56.260 So stop being afraid to fail.
00:08:58.940 Start embracing the failures.
00:09:01.020 Take inventory of the lessons, apply the skills moving forward, and you will have everything 0.97
00:09:05.980 that it takes to fucking win. 0.95
00:09:08.140 And they will have none of that. 0.99
00:09:09.320 Went from sleeping on the floor, now my jewelry box froze. 1.00
00:09:13.180 Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove, counted millions in the cold. 1.00
00:09:16.520 Bad bitch, booted swole, got her on bankroll, can't fold, doesn't know, headshot, case closed. 1.00