REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 18, 2024


709. Real Talk： Prove Them Wrong

Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Frisilla
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Episode Stats


Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

182.37

Word count

2,122

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

2

sentences flagged

Toxicity

53

sentences flagged

Hate speech

21

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss how to deal with people who talk shit, who hate on you, who don't believe in you, and who discourage you and how to make it actually work for you. It's not personal, it's just a reality.

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
Hosts, guests, and mentioned names generated with spaCy (en_core_web_sm), reconciled against Wikidata.
00:00:00.000 What is up guys it's Andy Fursella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies 0.98
00:00:21.180 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome motherfucking reality guys today we have
00:00:26.640 a real talk and it's going to be audio only so uh that's the way it's going to be well listen guys
00:00:32.720 you know we get lots of emails in for q and af and one of the most frequent emails that we get 0.96
00:00:38.400 is how to deal with people who talk shit who hate on you who don't believe in you and who discourage 0.88
00:00:45.360 you and i'm going to share with you a little bit about what it was like for me and then give you a 0.92
00:00:50.400 little bit of uh information on how you could deal with this and make it actually work for you you
00:00:54.880 know when i first started in business guys i was 19 years old i didn't have any real experience
00:01:00.720 i didn't have any resources uh we didn't know what we were doing and it was a joke to almost
00:01:07.200 everybody around me everybody around me thought it was some sort of side project or some sort of
00:01:13.200 trend or or temporary thing that we were going to do and then it would eventually fade out and along
00:01:19.040 the way you know when we first started we had people that would say oh man that's so cool that's
00:01:23.840 so cool that you guys are doing that and once we got going you know we got a year in we got two
00:01:29.280 years in we weren't making any money all right like i talk about all the time the first day we were in
00:01:34.720 business we sold seven dollars the second day we were in business we didn't sell anything and the
00:01:39.200 third day we sold 23 it took us eight months to have a day over 200 and it took us five and a half
00:01:46.800 years to open up our second location so the first three years i was in business i didn't make a
00:01:52.480 single dollar from the business both chris and i worked other jobs to keep the business going and
00:01:59.760 during that time we faced a lot of criticism we faced a lot of hate we faced a lot of jokes we had
00:02:06.880 a lot of people telling us that we needed to be realistic and we needed to grow up and we needed to
00:02:12.000 get a real job and you know as we progressed and we grew the company that never changed it actually got
00:02:18.640 worse and as it became more apparent that we were doing something the chirps from the crickets
00:02:26.240 got louder and louder and louder all right people were now saying things like oh you still got that
00:02:32.400 little vitamin shop how's the little vitamin shop going what are you guys doing with that and they would
00:02:38.000 still say things like when are you going to grow up and get a real job okay this is normal this is the
00:02:44.240 way it goes nobody is going to believe in you until you have actually done something nobody believes in
00:02:51.760 you in the process of you doing it but once it becomes apparent that you're going to do it everybody
00:02:58.800 believes in you and everybody's proud of you and all of a sudden everybody comes out of the woodwork
00:03:04.000 and pretends like they've supported you the whole time and what's ironic is that when that happens you 0.98
00:03:09.840 no longer need their approval you look at them and you're like well where the fuck were you when i 0.99
00:03:14.560 was struggling i remember all the shit that you said i remember all these discouraging remarks 0.99
00:03:19.520 because they hurt and they stick so the first thing you need to understand is this is normal this is 0.99
00:03:26.000 what people deal with when they break the mold of what everybody else is doing and go out on their
00:03:32.480 own to build a better life to build a business to build a career to do whatever it is that you want
00:03:38.640 to do that is outside the norm of what your peer group has okay and these people as you go down 0.95
00:03:45.920 the path they're going to talk shit they're going to make fun they're going to say you can't do it 0.98
00:03:51.040 they're going to instill doubt okay that is normal shit every single person that has ever built anything 0.99
00:03:58.080 that you look up to drive down the road and look at all the businesses on the left side of the road 0.97
00:04:03.680 and all the businesses on the right side of the road scroll through the internet and look at all 0.97
00:04:08.880 the people that you admire every single one of those fucking people dealt with this thing that 0.91
00:04:16.000 we're talking about all right so you have to understand this is not personal this is just the 0.97
00:04:21.520 way it is and you guys get overly frustrated and emotional about it which is not the way that winners
00:04:28.400 think about this okay there is a distinct difference between how winners think about this and how losers
00:04:35.840 think about this losers will hear these things they will get frustrated they will get angry they will
00:04:42.560 get pissed off and then they will sit on the couch and sulk it will paralyze them they will say things to 0.88
00:04:48.640 themselves like oh well nobody believes in me i guess i can't do it they will say things like oh my friends and 0.98
00:04:56.320 family they don't even think that i'm any good well no shit man because you ain't any good you have to ask 0.87
00:05:01.840 yourself what have you done to earn the trust to earn the belief of the people around you you have to be 0.98
00:05:08.640 real about it you can't be idealistic about it you haven't done anything yet and the fact that you
00:05:14.480 haven't done anything your entire life is all the evidence that they have to go off of so when you sit there
00:05:20.320 and pout and you let these things paralyze you you're doing what losers do now winners do the exact
00:05:27.920 opposite they hear these things and they take them and they deposit them into their energy bank and they 0.99
00:05:35.680 understand that when people talk this shit they take these things and they put them into this bank of 0.97
00:05:44.400 negative energy and the minute that they get tired the minute that they get frustrated the minute they 1.00
00:05:50.320 feel like they shouldn't go on or can't go on they think about what these motherfuckers said and they 0.97
00:05:56.320 go up there and they pull the energy out of this negative energy bank and they get up immediately and use 0.98
00:06:03.040 that energy to productive action so what they're doing is they're taking what people are giving them
00:06:09.520 and they're using it to propel themselves forward versus the loser who hears this information and
00:06:16.720 lets it paralyze them this is the biggest difference between people who win and people who lose it's not
00:06:23.840 that people who win don't face any negativity it's not that people who win get to go down the path and
00:06:30.800 get a smooth sailing all the way to the finish line it's that people who win understand how to utilize
00:06:37.840 negativity doubt disbelief and shit talking to their advantage and once you figure this out once you 0.76
00:06:45.520 figure out how to take everybody else's words put them into action and shove them down their 0.99
00:06:50.960 motherfucking throat you will start to actually have gratitude for the times that people talk 0.99
00:06:58.000 shit all right and i know that's hard to believe because you think it hurts and you think it's painful and 1.00
00:07:03.040 you're like fuck i don't know if i can do it because so and so said that i couldn't do it what 1.00
00:07:07.920 the fuck has so and so done they haven't done shit either so are you going to sit there and listen to 1.00
00:07:13.360 these people who have never done a motherfucking thing tell you what's possible for you and sit on 1.00
00:07:18.720 your couch because they don't believe in you or are you going to say hey that little pussy over there is 1.00
00:07:24.560 talking shit and i'm going to show them what it actually looks like to take something and build 1.00
00:07:30.320 something and become something and create something all right that's the attitude that is the difference 1.00
00:07:37.040 winners have a fucking chip on their shoulder losers don't so learn this right now you are not being 0.99
00:07:44.000 singled out it is not personal you are not the only one with this hardship you are not the only one that 1.00
00:07:50.080 faces criticism you are not the only one that faces doubt you aren't the only one it is a natural
00:07:57.600 progression of going down the path that is outside the realm of normal for your peer group all right
00:08:05.600 every single successful person that you have ever dealt with or ever looked up to or ever admired has
00:08:12.000 faced this exact same challenge the only difference between them and you is that they understand how to
00:08:18.560 leverage it and they are actually thankful for when people give them that energy all right so start to 0.90
00:08:25.120 think of it this way when someone talks shit when someone doubts you when someone says you can't do 0.99
00:08:31.200 it when someone insults you or they laugh at you or they giggle at you take that shit personal use it 0.99
00:08:38.000 use it to get you off the couch use it to get you into motion and i can promise you if you can become 0.95
00:08:43.680 one of these people who can take all the energy and use it for productive action you cannot be 0.92
00:08:50.640 fucking stopped and when you become one of these people who cannot be fucking stopped you are unlimited 0.99
00:08:58.320 in your potential so now that dream that you have that vision that you have that goal that you have 0.99
00:09:04.160 in your mind for yourself your family and your life is literally impossible not to achieve okay you have to
00:09:12.080 keep this vision in mind because there's gonna be times where these people get you down there's gonna be
00:09:17.680 times where it still hurts you there's gonna be times where it frustrates you and it makes you angry
00:09:23.440 and as long as you can keep that vision at the forefront of your mind and learn how to leverage the
00:09:28.800 productive action you will get where you want to go and this is one of the biggest differences between
00:09:35.280 people who win and people who lose all right people who win take every bit of energy they have and they use it to
00:09:43.600 propel them forward towards that vision that they have had and developed and created for themselves
00:09:49.840 and people who lose hear this negativity and they let it crumble them they let it paralyze them and they
00:09:56.080 let it dilute the vision of what it is that they want to become and what ends up happening for these people
00:10:01.920 that lose once they dilute that vision they say okay well i can't be that ideal version of myself so i'm
00:10:08.880 going to make a lesser version that is maybe more realistic and then when people laugh at that
00:10:13.680 version then they reduce it even more and then people laugh at that version and then they reduce
00:10:18.880 it even more and they keep reducing who it is they want to be want to become want to create for themselves
00:10:24.960 back down to where they are currently and then they tell everybody this story about well this is this is
00:10:31.200 what i wanted for my life so they go from having this grand vision and they consistently reduce it based
00:10:37.840 upon what other people think about it until their vision fits their current present life and then 0.99
00:10:44.560 they pretend like they chose that life that is the ultimate loser shit when it comes to your life okay 1.00
00:10:52.480 don't let these motherfuckers dilute your vision don't let these people get you off track take every 1.00
00:10:58.160 motherfucking word that they say to you and you use it to become that vision there is no bigger 1.00
00:11:03.920 fuck you than actually doing what it is you said you were going to do and then walking in the room 1.00
00:11:09.680 and having everybody know that they were fucking wrong and you'll know that they know they were wrong 1.00
00:11:16.080 because they'll look at the motherfucking floor the minute you walk in the room 0.99
00:11:20.800 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze 1.00
00:11:24.160 fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bank road 1.00
00:11:30.800 can't fold just a no head shot case closed 1.00