REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 27, 2024


715. Q&AF： Getting Comfortable With Failure, Taking On Too Many Tasks & Changing Your Attitude

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In this episode of the Q&A Show, Andy and I talk about his new found passion of becoming a professional landscaper. We also talk about how he is using the 75 Hard Program to improve his mental toughness and become the man you recognize today.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies 0.99
00:00:21.860 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys
00:00:26.100 it is monday which means we have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you
00:00:31.700 the answers now if you would like your questions answered on the show you can submit them a few
00:00:36.820 different ways the first way is guys email these questions in to ask andy at andy for selling.com
00:00:42.460 or you go on youtube in the q and af episodes drop your question right there in the comments and we'll
00:00:48.180 pick some from there as well now as we go through the week if this is your first time listening we
00:00:52.560 have shows within the show we're going to have cti tomorrow that stands for cruise the internet
00:00:57.600 this is where we put topics of the day up on the screen we speculate on what's true on what's not
00:01:02.720 true and then we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in society
00:01:06.900 other times we're going to have real talk real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes of me giving you
00:01:12.620 some real talk all right that basically means some stuff i just think you need to hear uh and then we
00:01:18.840 have 75 hard verses 75 hard verses is where people who have completed the 75 hard program come on the
00:01:26.020 show talk about how their life was before how they fixed it using the 75 hard program and how you could
00:01:32.220 do the same now if you're unfamiliar with the 75 hard program it is the world's most popular mental
00:01:37.900 transformation program in history it is the initial phase of the live hard program and guess what
00:01:44.000 it's free all right go to episode 208 on the audio feed listen to it get the program it'll help you
00:01:52.180 get your shit together now if you want and you're someone like me who needs to know the ins and outs 0.87
00:01:57.100 and the nuts and bolts and the complete picture on anything you can buy the book there is a book called 0.99
00:02:03.260 the book on mental toughness it outlines the entire live hard program plus 10 chapters on mental toughness
00:02:09.560 plus case studies on very famous people and how they use mental toughness to become the people
00:02:15.620 that you recognize today you can get that book at andy frisella.com it's called the book on mental
00:02:21.620 toughness go get you one now you're going to notice as we go through the week unlike every other show
00:02:28.040 out there i do not take money for ads on my show and the reason i don't is because i don't want to 0.98
00:02:33.760 listen to some knucklehead telling me what i should or shouldn't say i say what the fuck i want 0.89
00:02:39.540 and i stand on that and i'm not going to listen to any sponsors so i don't have them so i make a 0.98
00:02:46.420 deal with you i'm not going to have sponsors and edit myself and you're going to help me share the
00:02:52.500 show because i'm constantly dealing with censorship and traffic throttling and bands and as you guys
00:02:58.780 know they deleted my instagram just a week ago and so i need your help getting the message out so if
00:03:04.840 the message is good if it makes you think if it makes you laugh if it gives you a new perspective
00:03:08.920 if it teaches you some skills if it's something you think people need to hear i need you to share
00:03:14.160 the show all right so don't be a hoe share the show all right what's up nothing did you gotta 0.99
00:03:19.800 catch up on the tan man i got i think i just got a big head start on you roll that sleeve up
00:03:24.880 that's all but listen i'm definitely darker than that no though wait darker than what up top yeah 0.93
00:03:33.440 but down here though yeah well you're black
00:03:36.180 i'm just sicilian which means i'm only 12 black so i yeah i gotta catch up but you know what i bet in 0.70
00:03:45.980 another month i'll be as dark as you i don't know about that yep we'll see we will see all right how's
00:03:52.760 that pool going oh dude listen don't even get me started on the pool man is it did you give up on it
00:03:58.060 i think i we're in a holding pattern that means you gave up no i didn't give up i know we're just
00:04:03.440 saving some coins because i got the landscaper quit uh quote um it was some ducks and uh yeah so we're
00:04:10.340 just you know well the good news is is i got an awesome pool so all right i'll see you tomorrow 0.88
00:04:19.360 yeah that's right i just gotta figure out what i got a big fucking hole in the backyard though so 0.99
00:04:25.000 i told you not to fuck with it man yeah it's like you told me after they started digging 0.99
00:04:29.200 yeah well you maybe should have asked me before they started digging okay all right now that's 0.99
00:04:34.320 a fair point yeah i'll give you that hey andy what do you think about me getting a pool i would 0.99
00:04:38.180 have said you're a fucking idiot don't do that i got an awesome pool yeah i'm use that pool you do 0.99
00:04:43.740 have a nice pool man yeah yeah fuck yeah yeah all right we'll see we'll see all right what do you 1.00
00:04:51.340 got uh i got a nice tan my tan's better than yours right now 0.93
00:04:54.720 guys i got three good ones for you that's what i was looking for man that's what i was looking for
00:05:03.220 i know what you look for i got i got exactly what you're looking for oh really yeah that sounds a
00:05:07.340 little it sounds exactly how it's supposed to sound that sounds a little dylan mulaney a little diddy
00:05:12.200 yeah a little diddy guys 80 question number one let's get through uh let's knock these out let's
00:05:18.660 make some people better guys andy uh question number one andy i'm 19 years old and i've been
00:05:24.220 trying to get more comfortable with failing uh and just going can you give me some insight on one
00:05:31.560 of the best failures you have ever made oh man um it's been hard because i don't really have the
00:05:37.220 perspective of knowing if my failures will actually work uh for me so hearing one of yours i think would
00:05:43.320 really help one of the best failures you've ever made andy well what you got dude i don't know if
00:05:49.080 i could point one out because they're all valuable in different ways you know like it's not big failures
00:05:54.680 and little failures it's all lessons we have to we have to search for these lessons okay when you
00:06:02.240 when you tie your shoe and it's not a double knot and your shoe comes untied twice what do you start
00:06:08.680 doing that's right and while that might be a small insignificant lesson it's a lesson these shoes
00:06:16.120 need a double knot and i feel like when people hear this thing about failing all they ever think about
00:06:23.720 is the big failures all they ever think about is the embarrassing failures or the ones that people see
00:06:28.400 but the ones that they don't see are just as valuable because they teach you lessons so i would
00:06:35.200 encourage you instead of like listening to my failures i mean dude look i couldn't even tell
00:06:40.160 you a failure because i failed a hundred times for every public win that you guys have ever witnessed
00:06:45.400 so like and it's weird because people think oh man they did this or they did that that guy's super 0.98
00:06:51.680 smart no i was just willing to try every other way until this fucking worked all right and that's the 0.96
00:06:56.360 attitude that we have to have and yeah when you've been doing it for 25 years and you've done pretty well 0.99
00:07:01.400 because you're willing to go out and get smashed in the face over and over and over again with bad 0.99
00:07:06.080 ideas or bad thoughts or mistakes until you find the right one people are gonna think you're a fucking 1.00
00:07:11.600 genius which is kind of cool but it's not the truth the truth is i'm an idiot just like all you guys i 0.99
00:07:17.120 don't know what the fuck i'm doing but i am willing to do this i am willing to try it this way try it that 0.99
00:07:22.520 way try it this other way those three didn't work i got killed on those three i try it this way now this 0.99
00:07:27.640 new way and i will keep going until i figure out how to make it work and i don't give a fuck about 0.99
00:07:32.480 what joe from the old neighborhood has to say or stacy the ex-girlfriend i don't give a shit fuck 0.99
00:07:39.560 them i care about getting where i'm trying to go so i don't care if i fail i don't care if a million 0.98
00:07:44.840 people see it i don't care if 10 million people see it i don't care if it's just me seeing it but
00:07:49.500 i have programmed my mind to look at every situation to determine did i get the best possible
00:07:57.360 outcome there and if i didn't get the best possible outcome how do i improve my technique
00:08:03.260 to get the best possible outcome and i do this in my life i do this in my business i do this in my
00:08:09.360 training it is a it is a mindset that you must have which is i am always looking for ways to get better
00:08:18.220 so when you think about failing don't just think of it like oh i got this big failure and all my
00:08:24.880 friends from high school are gonna laugh at me good you need that fuel thank them write them a
00:08:30.720 thank you card there's about a hundred people that i know their names legit that i should write them a 0.97
00:08:35.940 card today and say hey thanks for making fun of me because here i am i'm rich bitch and you ain't 1.00
00:08:42.560 right i should be fucking writing motherfuckers cards all day long let them laugh let them snicker let 0.99
00:08:48.400 them talk shit and then use that as fuel to push you forward but never be afraid of failing never 1.00
00:08:55.140 be afraid of being embarrassed because bro those people are going to be embarrassed by the scope of 1.00
00:09:00.880 the life that they create you're going to be embarrassed for a short amount of time because
00:09:05.380 you're working to create a better life there's a completely different perspective to have here when
00:09:11.200 it comes to this so instead of looking at it like oh they want to try this because all my friends are
00:09:16.740 going to laugh except they're going to laugh be thankful that they laugh use that as fuel and be
00:09:22.360 willing to look at every single way to get something done until you figure it the fuck out 0.79
00:09:27.380 and if you have that mindset if you have the ability to continue to try new things and understand that
00:09:34.840 the things that didn't work you're not going to repeat you're not going to make the same mistake 0.98
00:09:38.880 twice and you have the ability to continue down the path for as long as it fucking takes bro you 0.98
00:09:43.960 can't fail it's fucking impossible it's impossible people only fail for one of two reasons they fail 1.00
00:09:50.460 because one they're too fucking stupid to to not make the same mistake over and over and over again 1.00
00:09:55.620 we see this with alcoholics we see this with with womanizers we see this with these things in society 1.00
00:10:02.040 drug addicts these people can't get over that one thing so they do the same thing over and over and 0.99
00:10:07.340 over and over again it wrecks their fucking life all right people do that in business too 0.99
00:10:11.580 so you have to be smart enough to not fuck up more than once or twice on the same thing if you're 1.00
00:10:17.480 that smart which all of you are you wouldn't be listening to shit you have enough intelligence 0.99
00:10:22.460 to make it and it takes toughness on top of that and if you're that tough to where you're willing 0.99
00:10:29.840 to do this for as long as it takes no matter how fucking hard it is if you could build yourself 0.89
00:10:34.460 into that kind of person who could persevere through the hardships and never fucking quit until you 0.96
00:10:39.900 get where you want to go bro it's impossible to fail it's fucking impossible okay so stop thinking 0.98
00:10:45.560 of it like oh i want to hear what this guy's failure i'm sure bro i fucking failed everything i failed so 0.99
00:10:50.680 much shit i couldn't even fucking tell you all the shit i failed like bro like sometimes i sit in the 0.98
00:10:55.900 office with chris or sal or jason and we'll be like bro remember that time we did this and we'll 1.00
00:11:00.880 fucking laugh because how stupid we were all right it's okay to be stupid just don't stay stupid 0.99
00:11:05.820 i love that one thing you said man that i really love is you said not every failure 1.00
00:11:10.720 is going to reveal the lesson right and so i feel like this kind of aligns with with with something
00:11:17.180 very specific and it's just intent like you have to be very very intentful when looking at and 0.98
00:11:22.340 reflecting on it's a mindset good shit and bad shit it's a mindset yeah what did i learn right here 0.99
00:11:28.060 what like every day i go in the gym i work out i walk out of the gym you know what i'm doing 0.99
00:11:33.480 i'm self-evaluating what did i do well what did i not do well how can i be better what can i do
00:11:39.660 better next time i've been training for fucking 25 years 30 years and still doing that yes i do that 0.98
00:11:45.620 with everything when i have a conversation with someone that i first meet for the first time and 0.97
00:11:50.140 i'm walking away i'm replaying the conversation in my head i'm saying oh i could have done this or
00:11:54.540 that or this i should have shook his hand a little better i should have looked him in the eye a little
00:11:58.080 better i should have asked him more questions when i walk away from an important meeting i'm
00:12:03.380 dissecting the meeting this is self-assessment i am looking for my failures big or small so that i
00:12:10.920 can improve them because as you look at them over the course of time you end up plugging all these 0.99
00:12:16.680 holes and over the course of 20 years you end up being a pretty bulletproof motherfucker you got all 0.94
00:12:22.600 your holes patched you're pretty good at all areas you understand and you don't stop self-evaluating 0.97
00:12:28.520 just because you got good at it okay so it's a mindset actively look for your failures big or
00:12:37.180 small look to make adjustments self-assess don't worry about the big failures where everybody's
00:12:43.380 gonna laugh you're gonna have plenty of those so don't those are coming you're not gonna avoid them 1.00
00:12:48.960 so embrace them take the laughs look at these motherfuckers and give them the finger in your head 1.00
00:12:54.760 and realize that hey one day i'm gonna be the one fucking laughing because you will be i love that 1.00
00:13:00.680 man you can do that you give them the finger too and like you know not just in your head the best way 0.99
00:13:06.160 to give people the finger is with the results you produce yeah you don't have to say shit i don't 0.99
00:13:11.060 have to say fucking shit anymore that's the best feeling in the world what i'm gonna say like i see 0.99
00:13:16.500 one of these people that fucking laughed at me back in the day 1.00
00:13:18.420 i don't have to say anything they know they know yeah that's awesome shit bro that's that's worth the 0.99
00:13:26.900 persevering in itself like when you can look someone in the eye who's fucking doubted you has made fun 1.00
00:13:32.800 of you has talked shit on you to your face who's told you that you wouldn't be shit and you don't 0.99
00:13:38.540 have to fucking say anything because they already fucking know there ain't nothing better than that bro 1.00
00:13:43.300 yeah i love it man i love it guys any question number two uh hey andy i've been through 75 hard 0.97
00:13:49.980 fully twice now uh and finished phase two both times um i'm wondering if there is a thing when
00:13:57.200 you start getting really consistent uh to want to take on too many things at once because you feel
00:14:03.960 like you can take on the world um i know this is what the power list is for but i find myself a lot
00:14:10.380 of times adding task upon task inside of the power list because i feel like i can take it and be
00:14:16.700 consistent so my question is when you start getting really consistent can it be an issue uh to want to
00:14:22.440 take on too much all right look there's a fundamental idea out here in the world that to be successful you
00:14:29.700 have to fucking work 27 hours out of 24 a day you got you can't sleep you can't do anything 0.97
00:14:38.340 all and that's all bullshit okay the truth of the matter is you only have to do a few critical 0.99
00:14:44.260 tasks every day five the rest of the day you can live like a normal human that's the point of the 0.96
00:14:50.980 power list the point of the power list is to allow you to be effective and move forward and not feel
00:14:57.300 like you have to be one of these people that doesn't sleep that doesn't spend any time with their family 1.00
00:15:02.500 that doesn't have a life at all that is all bullshit and that's bullshit that's spewed from 1.00
00:15:08.020 motherfuckers who haven't actually built anything are there going to be imbalances yes compared to 1.00
00:15:14.180 whom compared to the average motherfucker that wakes up at 10 30 on saturday and starts drinking bush 1.00
00:15:19.860 yeah you he can do that you can't do that okay but you're giving that up to go be a fucking 1.00
00:15:26.640 multi-millionaire and build an awesome life all right so there's imbalances in your life you're going to 0.80
00:15:32.260 work a lot more than everybody else but the purpose of the power list is so that you can be effective
00:15:36.900 and still have some semblance of normalcy in your life all right so can you do too much yeah you can
00:15:44.900 try to do too much and here's the problem with trying to do too much not only does it throw your
00:15:49.620 life out of balance but you get into a situation where you can't complete all the tasks and when you
00:15:56.100 start to not be able to complete the tasks you start to fail in your own mind okay those wins that
00:16:02.100 you're stacking up with five critical tasks those become losses and what happens to your mental
00:16:07.380 state after 30 days of straight losses what do you think does your confidence go up or down yeah
00:16:13.460 goes down all right so when your confidence goes down your belief goes down when your belief goes
00:16:18.020 down your ability to execute goes down when your ability to execute goes down you're all right so we
00:16:23.380 have to operate in a way where we are effective day in and day out so that our confidence stays high
00:16:29.700 our self-esteem stays high our ability to execute stays high and we're able to continue down the path
00:16:37.620 in a very effective way does this make sense makes perfect so if you this happens a lot with the
00:16:42.660 power list the power list is not just a tool to make you effective it is a tool to make you more
00:16:50.740 confident in yourself just like 75 hard all right 75 hard and the power list are two different systems
00:16:58.100 that when used together really make you unstoppable all right but the idea here is that you don't
00:17:04.740 doubt yourself you don't lose belief in yourself you don't question yourself because you know no 0.96
00:17:09.460 matter what what you put down on that motherfucking list is getting done and it's getting done at a 0.97
00:17:13.780 high level and that way when you wake up in the morning and you know those mornings we wake up and 1.00
00:17:18.580 you look in the mirror and you're like fuck dude i don't know i feel behind blah blah blah you can 1.00
00:17:22.820 literally open up your power list and say well fuck dude i got 37 days in a row wins what the 1.00
00:17:29.540 fuck else more could i be doing and then all of a sudden that doubt that anxiety that fear that 0.99
00:17:34.100 frustration it goes away and you're like oh i just got to go do it again and then when you do that for 0.97
00:17:38.740 a long enough time dude your life looks completely different yeah so yeah bro you can do too much
00:17:44.580 and you have to realize what your limits are and you have to realize that if you try to do too much and
00:17:49.380 you don't execute it it's going to destroy your confidence create doubt frustration disbelief
00:17:53.460 which makes you ineffective in other areas i feel like that take like that's a different type of 0.81
00:17:57.780 discipline right like okay you checked off the five boxes you feel fucking great it's 0.89
00:18:03.060 fucking 11 o'clock in the morning and oh i mean there's one more thing i can knock out right like 0.88
00:18:07.620 i feel like so i mean do you just not you're not doing that or you're not counting that as being done 0.98
00:18:12.500 well of course look dude there's critical tasks then there's to do
00:18:15.700 yeah okay your critical tasks move your whole life forward these are important phone calls
00:18:21.620 important connections things that are going to it depends on where you are in a life but these things
00:18:26.740 are going to move your life forward then there's all the other you got to do i got to do laundry
00:18:32.260 take out the trash i got to take out those are not on your power right yeah exactly so so dude it's
00:18:38.580 there's two different two different things yeah i could do a whole workshop on power list 75 hard and
00:18:44.260 out the performance for an entire day i could talk about it for fucking 12 hours yeah so really the 0.94
00:18:49.780 best thing is to go go listen to both podcasts episode 16 episode 208 put those into your life
00:18:57.700 follow them exactly as they are laid out the biggest problem that we have is that people who are 0.97
00:19:06.580 unqualified who have never built anything who have never achieved anything think that they can edit
00:19:11.700 programs that are built by people who have done all the things that you want to do and that's no 0.88
00:19:17.460 different than fucking up an award-winning recipe that the best chef in the world gives you because you 0.99
00:19:22.660 think you're a fucking chef master when you've never cooked a motherfucking thing in your life 1.00
00:19:27.220 so go fucking listen listen to what it says do it literally the way it says and it will work for you 1.00
00:19:34.500 i love it man uh well guys andy uh our third and final question um 0.99
00:19:44.420 andy i'm i'm a 16 year old junior that plays soccer at high school uh my freshman year i was
00:19:52.180 weighing in at approximately 180 pounds i'm in five foot eight uh i believe my skill level is above
00:19:59.140 average for my high school team however because i'm not super fast and i didn't make varsity
00:20:05.620 um so the next year i dropped almost 40 pounds and increased my endurance and speed to be in the top
00:20:12.180 half of the team i made varsity as a sophomore but the coach played some freshman over me who i destroyed
00:20:20.180 all summer in practices i actually destroyed most of the team all summer coach said he doesn't like my
00:20:24.980 attitude uh my attitude is one of wanting to win and succeed i do get mad when other when players are
00:20:31.780 a hog in the ball and not aware on the field i've made comments about other players needing to be more
00:20:36.740 aware not sure how criticism is a bad attitude um i thought that is how you explain that okay yeah i
00:20:44.260 thought i thought uh that is how you help others improve my question is am i wrong uh is it possible to
00:20:50.500 change the coach's opinion or is it not worth it uh i was by far the most improved player i love soccer
00:20:56.820 and always want to be involved any advice is welcome i can actually take criticism unlike some of these 0.95
00:21:01.860 weak-ass mama boys i fucking love this kid hey you know all right look all right assuming everything 0.97
00:21:09.860 you say is true here's why you're not playing okay and i'm gonna this goes for people in the workplace 1.00
00:21:16.260 this goes for athletes this goes for anybody that is on a team that is not getting the love that they
00:21:22.820 think they deserve assuming that you are of the proper skill set which you say you are assuming that
00:21:29.860 you are a hard worker which you say you are assuming that you actually are better than the other people 0.99
00:21:35.300 which you say i'm gonna take you for your word now if i can't watch one of your fucking practices 1.00
00:21:40.260 i might find out that you're full of shit okay because 16 year olds are typically full of 0.99
00:21:44.820 shit my first point to you would be to make sure that you are actually those things because our 1.00
00:21:54.180 egos have a way of telling us that we are better than we actually are so are you really that good or
00:21:59.940 do you think you're that good because if your mom's telling you that good that don't mean 0.98
00:22:03.300 shit if your dad's telling you that good that don't mean shit if you're putting more points 0.98
00:22:07.700 in the board and everybody else that's what means something all right so be honest are you that 0.99
00:22:13.220 good that'd be my first thing assuming that you are that good i'm going to tell you why you're not
00:22:17.620 playing you're not playing because your attitude is one that if it spreads to the rest of the team if
00:22:23.700 your coach rewards that it will destroy the culture of the team okay so there is something that you're
00:22:29.780 doing that is not in line with the proper attitude or the culture of the team that is keeping you from
00:22:36.660 playing because if that attitude that isn't in line with what the team needs is promoted and rewarded
00:22:44.100 now the coach loses control over the entire team do you see what i'm saying so a lot of people don't
00:22:50.420 understand this this happens in the workplace there's lots of times where the most skilled person 0.96
00:22:55.460 who sells the most shit who blah blah blah has the best this they get fired because their attitude is i'm 0.91
00:23:02.100 the best nothing else should matter when that's not true okay so we have to understand the coach's 0.99
00:23:08.500 perspective here and the coach is looking at it like what's the kid's name does he say his name
00:23:12.660 doesn't say his name okay steve i'm gonna just use steve steve is the best player out here man he's
00:23:19.780 fucking great he's a sophomore he's got tons of potential but man he's always telling everybody
00:23:24.820 else he's hogging the ball he's always telling everybody else they got to get their together you 0.99
00:23:29.860 know it comes off as cocky it's not the right team attitude and fuck we can't reward that because 0.99
00:23:34.580 if we reward that then everybody's going to act like that now we got a problem okay so a lot of 0.99
00:23:39.700 times in fact most times when you are clearly the high skilled player or you're the best salesman or
00:23:45.940 you're the best this or that and you're not getting the love that you think it's because your attitude
00:23:50.420 is not congruent with what the culture of the team is going to be and if it's rewarded it will dilute the
00:23:55.540 culture of the team yeah all right yeah because you can't win you can't win the game with just you
00:24:00.820 bro no it's not even that dude yes that's true but if i fucking reward that yeah if i'm the coach of 1.00
00:24:07.940 your team and you're a shitty little fucking attitude fuck but you score 70 goals a game 70 but you 1.00
00:24:14.340 fucking talk shit to your players and you fucking you tell them they're all ball hogs and you tell them 1.00
00:24:20.260 give me the ball blah blah blah blah you got to sit on the bench bro i don't give a fuck so your your 1.00
00:24:26.580 coach is trying to teach you a lesson and here's my advice shut the fuck up play soccer score goals 1.00
00:24:33.540 be good shut your mouth work harder than everybody else and you're probably going to play in the games 1.00
00:24:38.980 yeah i've had the kids probably put your coach is playing that freshman over you to teach you a 0.99
00:24:44.020 fucking lesson in humility and what he's trying to tell you and i'm just telling you what he's trying 0.94
00:24:48.500 to tell you is this your performance ain't the only thing that matters and that's true it's true 0.98
00:24:54.260 in every organization there's very few times there's very few anomalies where people are so good that they
00:25:01.220 can be a bad culture fit and still get to play barry bonds was like this in baseball barry bonds his 0.98
00:25:06.500 teammates fuck fucking hated him okay and i know this because i know people who play with them they 0.99
00:25:12.820 fucking hated him but the dude hit a home run every fucking time he's at bat so you can't sit him on 1.00
00:25:18.340 the fucking bench yeah you see what i'm saying so are you that good are you scoring 10 goals a game 1.00
00:25:24.420 probably not right are you scoring two goals a game probably not right so you ain't that good you 0.99
00:25:29.940 ain't good enough to have that attitude and you don't want that attitude anyway because and by the
00:25:33.940 way i'll say this i think this person's heart is in the right place yeah because you sound like you
00:25:39.540 want people to get better you're trying to improve them i totally understand that bro but you need to
00:25:44.500 understand the other side you're not getting the love from the coach because you're you're going to
00:25:48.820 make his job harder if he puts you in the in the spot because of the way that you're talking to other
00:25:54.020 people so this is what i would do i would go to the coach i say coach why aren't you playing me man
00:26:02.260 i'm not going to be mad i just want to know honestly like what is it and i'm not going to pout i'm not
00:26:06.900 going to scream i'm not going to throw a fit just tell me why i'm not playing because i i'm better than
00:26:11.700 this kid i think i'm better if i'm not better tell me why am i not playing he i bet you he's
00:26:17.380 going to say well you say this stuff to the other kids you got this all wrong with your attitude and 0.99
00:26:22.660 instead of arguing with them you say i got it and you go do what the fuck he says and you go perform 0.99
00:26:29.620 you shut the fuck up and then you become a leader to the other guys and not only will you not get 0.99
00:26:34.900 not only will you get in the game he'll fucking put you at the front of the stack yeah so yeah i think 0.99
00:26:40.340 i think that's super cool too because like dude it sounds like you know you you know how to see a
00:26:44.740 problem and you go fix it right you you had to work on your endurance you worked on your speed yeah
00:26:48.580 great now we gotta fix this over here dj a lot of times people can't see it from the leader's
00:26:53.460 perspective or the coach's perspective or the boss's perspective they don't even that goes right over
00:26:58.580 their head like there's been a lot of people in my companies over the year who were high performers
00:27:02.980 that got washed out because they could not grasp this concept like you cannot be a bad fit for the team
00:27:09.140 culturally even if you're a great performer individually because that poisons the well
00:27:15.700 and that creates a whole bunch of people that operate autonomously which makes it impossible
00:27:20.900 to get people coordinated to row the right direction right so you make even because you're a high
00:27:26.500 performer and because you know you're better than everyone you start doing things the way that you 0.99
00:27:30.900 want to do and that fucks up the entire now i have 40 guys all rowing do whatever the fuck they 0.96
00:27:36.340 want you can't win that way boat sitting still that's right so we so a big part of this if you're 0.97
00:27:42.580 an employee or a teammate is to consider it from the leadership's perspective if you had a guy who
00:27:48.500 was super talented but a bad cultural fit and it was going to cause you all these problems how would
00:27:53.700 you handle it and if you could just think about it from the opposite perspective it makes a lot more 0.98
00:27:58.180 sense so what i would do bro is go talk to your coach be honest don't react don't fucking pout don't 0.98
00:28:05.940 fucking roll your eyes because dude that's another thing a lot of times these players and these people 0.99
00:28:11.140 will come to you and you tell them the shit and they start rolling now you fucking hate them now 1.00
00:28:14.820 you're like you know what fuck you okay and that's what you don't want to cause don't react don't get 1.00
00:28:20.180 emotional listen to them take what he's saying seriously and go out and perform and be a good 0.99
00:28:27.620 fucking teammate and a good leader you'll get a lot further that way yeah that's real man i do just 0.93
00:28:31.620 real quick i remember when i was coaching there there's a player right now who plays for an fl team 0.98
00:28:35.380 right now everybody knows his name i've coached him and he had some of these these yeah and uh and i
00:28:42.820 remember this exact conversation and it wasn't you know i didn't tell him this was the head coach
00:28:46.100 man but he told him like so he's like so so you think just because you're that good that none of
00:28:50.580 that other shit matter it was a very similar conversation but he told me like so what are 0.91
00:28:53.460 you gonna do you go hike the ball to yourself throw the ball to yourself all this like every 0.98
00:28:57.540 nobody else matters like no that's not how that works yeah you know what i'm saying and and you
00:29:01.380 take that advice look where he's at yeah you know what i'm saying i think dude i think that's
00:29:05.220 awesome man i think that's awesome well i love it uh well guys andy that was three all right
00:29:10.580 guys let's go out let's kick some ass let's have a good week see you tomorrow 0.97
00:29:16.100 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze 1.00
00:29:19.380 fuck a bowl fucker stole counted millions in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bank road 1.00
00:29:26.100 can't fold that's a no head shot case closed 1.00