733. Q&AF： Fundamentals Of Business, Dealing With A Micromanaging Boss & The "Good Enough" Dilemma
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In this episode of the midweek Q&A show, we have our first guest on the show, and it's a very special guest! We talk about entrepreneurship, society, culture, and so much more.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the real let's say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
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have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers now you
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could submit your questions a couple different ways the first way is guys you can email these
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questions into ask andy at andy for seller.com or you can go on youtube in the comment section on
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the q and af episodes and drop your question in the comments as well now i'm not going to go through
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the whole intro today because uh this is the midweek q and af and uh if you listen to the first
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couple shows this week you know what we're going to do all right but we do have a fee
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can and can't say i want to keep it real with you guys and if we're going to keep it that way i need
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you to help me get the show out so uh don't be a hoe show the show all right i have no idea why they
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keep fucking with us huh like why why do they keep fucking with us it's we're just trying to make
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people better you know hey they don't want people to be better that's what it is bro i'm being dead
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serious they don't want people to be better they want people to be you know little brain
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i don't get it all right all right what's going on man why are you always laughing at your own
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jokes dude we're trying to do a serious show here um what's going on man how you doing you good i
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don't know i feel extra smart today yeah show's been doing good man i don't get big-headed you
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know but show's been doing pretty good yeah yeah all right well let's make some people better
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all right let's get better yeah let's get better let's no fucking rock yeah
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so i wanted to ask you a question man because we had this this question come in
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and you know i think at first i was like nah we're not asking that question but then i'm like
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no there could be some some actual benefit to this question right yeah um we talk about society
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talk about culture on this show um so let's address something man very very simple question
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um is can only fans should only fans be considered legit entrepreneurship which what's your take on
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that there's i got three good ones for you this is just a little intro talk it sounds like you
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got four good ones it might be four good ones yeah yeah for 3.99 a month yeah that's it see my
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butthole all right is it look is that a real question real question like i mean is that
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considered like i mean because i mean obviously well i mean dude look there's a product you got
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a product there's demand there's limited supply you charge money for it the market tells you what
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entrepreneurship is or isn't okay you know what i'm saying um you know you're solving a problem
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you know there's a lot of lonely people out there and whether you agree with it or disagree
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with it or how you think about it morally is not the case i mean i think it's definitely
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entrepreneurship i mean fucking drug dealings entrepreneurship right you know so uh
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i mean the level at which entrepreneurship it is is debatable because you're not really
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you know you're not really innovating anything you know right people have had buttholes for
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yeah ever yeah and you know i think you've just taken something that people search for in reality
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and putting it in a digital format and you're selling it yeah now you know it doesn't matter
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what you think of it but yeah for taking morality aside from it right but but so the you're saying
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the fundamentals are there but i think that does lend to like this this this thing that i mean you
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always try to you know practice right like this ethical entrepreneurship of actually solving real
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problems with with real solutions what what's the is that is it not really really meeting that line
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or i mean does it really matter in this in this i mean in today's culture you know i mean there's a
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lot of people that don't have social skills who don't know how to date who don't know how to meet
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people who are you know addicted to their phone and and whether or not we agree i think you guys all
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know that like i don't think that's a good thing sure but we can't argue if it is or isn't i mean
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it is yeah you know so what would you like to see like out of because i mean i feel like this
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whole only fans thing it is going to be a trend it's a fad right now i don't see it being like
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this long-term thing so do you have any recommendations why do you see it not being a
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long-term thing i don't i don't think culture will tolerate i think there's going to be a swing in
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culture to where like we will there will be a morality shift in culture i believe i i think that's
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already happening right and so i think like what as far as this like what the demand for that product
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though is infinite potentially for sure but i think i mean we're already seeing in you know
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there's states uh that have already you know changed the the uh requirements for like porn
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just even in just simple porn sites right like you have to have age checks and verifications
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i think there's going to be an elevation in morality in society and culture that's going to raise
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some standards and expectations and so with that i think i hope that well dude let me ask you this
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yeah all right say there's a married couple and sexually they're into voyeurism or somebody you
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know like watching them have sex and they do only fans together is that immoral i mean personally
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i think it's still is it yeah why because you're just sharing what you would naturally do publicly
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you're not marketing to kids you're not marketing you're i'm just asking a question i mean i think
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there's always going to be a demand for it here's what i think you're saying yeah what i think you're
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saying is there's going to be social rejection of the people who have done it for sure we're already
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seeing that we're seeing a lot of men say there's no way i would date a girl in only fans right there's
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no way i would marry a girl from only fans and you know like bro i think that's a legitimate
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you know concern of most men right and women seem to you know have bought into this feminism
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shit where they're like i don't give a shit what people think but you do because then when no men
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want to date you or marry you you get very upset about it so they're this is a non-emotional issue
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it's just what is and what isn't and for most men having their their counterpart on only fans
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uh for everybody to see is not what they want they don't want that they don't want to walk into a party
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with especially ambitious men and successful men they don't want to walk into a party with a woman
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that everybody else can see naked on the internet or see fucking see them masturbating on the internet
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they don't want to they don't want to see they don't want that like that's embarrassing to other men
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and uh it is what it is now men might have sex with those women and do i think that's fair i i'm not
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the fair judge i'm just telling you the way it is right um but there's a lot of confusion around
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what's happening in society and i don't think it's good bro i don't think men were ever meant to see
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unlimited naked females at their disposal at any time of the day 24 hours a day i think it's very
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destructive and i think what it does is it actually destroys men's motivation to try and become and
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achieve and conquer and build and become the best version of themselves because that's really one
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of the biggest motivations for men one of the biggest motivations for men to go out and build
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a life is so that they can have more choices when it comes to women and women probably don't understand
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that because women have a lot of choices most of their life right so you know when you remove the
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motivation for men to a big part of the motivation for men to go out and become something you get men
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that produce less and become less and i think we're seeing that in society you know so um is it actual
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entrepreneurship or is it you know i mean yeah bro there's girls that make millions of dollars a
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month doing taxes yeah yeah um well that's a whole nother thing a lot of them just got in trouble for
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that but but yeah pay taxes huh i said they're supposed to pay taxes yeah well they don't yeah
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that's a whole nother topic but yeah man i think uh i i think it's very damaging to men in particular i think
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it removes their motivation i think it i i take away you know you not wanting people to see your girl naked or
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doing shit take that away and throw that out the window um when men have unlimited selection
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of you know sexual gratification through porn or through only fans or even through men that can get
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any women they want because there's men that can do that like that are at the highest level
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and they don't exercise discipline it actually removes motivation for them to become what they're
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supposed to become and you know when you meet someone that you love and that you connect with
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in a real way that person should help drive you to become the best version of yourself and so you know
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that partnership is very very crucial to the success of a culture because we have roles and we have a
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partnership that is pushing people to be better and when we remove that because men can just get
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whatever they want whenever they want and they haven't earned it you get a bunch of pacified
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weak men that live in their basement and jerk off 20 times a week you know what i mean and that's what
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we end up with and they don't build anything they don't conquer anything they don't contribute to
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anything they don't become anything and you know we society loses out yeah so i mean i think there's a
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big discussion that could be had there and it could be hours and hours long um but you know i don't think
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that um you can't say it's not a business sure you know what i mean yeah i love it man i love it well
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guys andy i got some i got uh three good ones for you three more good ones for you three more three
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more okay three more open the door all right uh guys any question number one you didn't get that one
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open the door baby roof you know the guy that's like knocking on the door bill the okay the bill collector
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oh man guys any question number one what's up andy uh thanks for the show you and dj are funny as fuck
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and i love following the advice you give i'm 26 years old and i've had trouble running my clothing
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business um i've completely transformed my mind and body and i've been told that once you become an
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all-around better person it makes it so much easier to succeed in business as well the only problem is
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my business isn't getting any better so my question is what can i do to get more customers in the door
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and how can i create a culture or feeling that makes my brand stand out thanks andy okay well first
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of all yeah you can get ripped bro and you can get your mindset right and you can get uh you know
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healthy mentally and you can become the best version of yourself
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but unless you know the fundamentals of business and execute those you're not going to be successful
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so we have to understand when i talk about you building the best you to become successful that's
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with an understanding that you're executing the basics from a tactical standpoint and if you
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understand the tactical techniques that it takes to build a business to market to brand to fulfill the
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customer to scale all of these things um when you understand those and you execute those and then
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you become the best version of yourself you become way more effective and then you will make a lot more
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money but this idea that you can just do all of these things and money's just going to come flowing
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in the door that's that's not true so you might be a little misunderstood there bro um so that's the
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first part of the question the second part of the question is how can i get more customers and my
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business is not getting better well that could be a lot of things man like i don't know exactly
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what your problem is your product could not be good your message could not be resonating you couldn't you
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could be telling a poor or a weak brand story you could have your product doesn't fit right or it's
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inconsistent um maybe your ads aren't resonating maybe you're taking too long to deliver the product
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uh maybe when people are getting the product it's fucked up who knows like there's not enough data
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here for me to tell you what's wrong but what i will tell you is that if you think that you're just
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going to do some cold plunges and lift weights and get ripped and then you're going to become a
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multi-millionaire that's not the case if you learn the basics of business and what i would
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encourage you to do is to go back and listen to every single mfceo project and then consider joining
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arete syndicate where we go through these exact topics over the course of a year and help guys
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just like you figure out what to do and then you meet hundreds of other people inside that group
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who are on the same mission as you who honestly become your go-to network so that's what i would
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tell you you know uh how do you get more customers i can answer that in a general sense not knowing exactly
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what you have going on you know i could tell you where most people fuck this up most people fuck
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this up and they think they're going to launch something they think they're going to make a
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product they think they're going to have a big launch and they're going to get a thousand customers
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today and dude that's not how this works you guys have to think of the game differently and it's
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always one customer at a time when we think about how word of mouth spreads now versus how word of
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mouth spread 25 years ago it's a completely different game when you consider how it spread
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a hundred years ago it's a completely different game but the principles still exist the same if you
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service a customer you have one customer you make a product that they're happy with you fulfill their
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needs in a way that are remarkable meaning that they will actually share and speak about and tell people
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about that person will tell people the story of your brand about you about your product and then
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you will have two customers okay now we are fortunate to live in an environment where we have technology
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through this little phone that we all carry in our pockets to spread messages more quickly so
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in the old days where you would have you know no internet no social media no cell phone you know
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those stories took years and years and years and years and years to spread and you had to do what you do
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at a high level for a much longer time for people to accept how good your shit was now we live in an
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era where people can push a button on their phone and talk to everybody they've ever known in their
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whole entire life and tell a great story about your product your brand your service and you instantly
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all right and you need to leverage that as much as you can and the way you leverage that is by taking
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the one or two customers or five customers or 100 customers that exist and treating them in such a way
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that they tell an incredible story about you and your company and your clothing brand um how do you
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scale culture around your brand well your brand's got to mean something it can't just be a shirt with
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a saying on it now it could be and you could sell that and like let's just say you're uh you're you're
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somebody who makes shirts on the trend right like you make a shirt based on something that's
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happening inside called like hot hot to all right like that's what's hot right now and you sell a
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bunch of those shirts okay you're getting sales but you're not going to build culture around that
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unless you do that so consistently that people know you're the go-to person for the funny shirts
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all right but in reality what you have to do is you have to decide what your brand looks like what it
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feels like what it stands for and then you have to effectively tell that story and live that story
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through the way that you do business this is a long conversation i mean this is a workshop i could
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go over this for two or three days in a row maybe a week in a row and not teach you everything there
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is to know and this is why rt syndicate exists but you know just that little direction i think will
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help you a lot stop thinking you can get a hundred customers at a time and start focusing on that one
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customer at a time and servicing them in such a way which by the way is the right way to do business
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it's the ethical way to do business it's serving them in such a way that they tell the story about
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you your brand and what it means to them and that will get you more customers i love it i love it guys
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andy question number two uh hi andy um i'm a mechanical engineer with seven years experience
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i recently moved from a worldwide company with thousands of employees to a small company with 30
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employees and i am one of two engineers uh it is me and my supervisor on the engineering side and my
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new company the owner or ceo is passionate about the design of our products and tends to micromanage
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the engineering side for example sometimes he will force me to design something his way even though i can
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prove to him that his ideas present several issues uh basically since he is the boss it's his way
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uh that's one issue but the other one that bothers me is he will make comments like quote i'm holding
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you responsible if this product fails so basically i'm being told that i'll be accountable even though
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i'm being forced to design things a certain way that i don't agree with if shit really hits the fan i'm
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nervous about what could happen any advice on how to navigate this uh yeah on the first point well
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that's the way business goes um if you want to design products your way and you want to do things
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your way you should go build your own 30 company or 30 employee company and do that okay right now you're
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a fucking employee which means if a customer if your owner your ceo or whoever wants things done a certain
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way he's paying you to do those things a certain way now your job as a value employee is to raise the
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objections and to show hey i don't know that this will work or i don't know this is the best idea
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and what it sounds like is that you have a hard time bringing that to your supervisor without you
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feeling like you're going to get in trouble to do so so what i would recommend is having a little bit
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more of a backbone understand that he wants first of all i think it's great that he's passionate enough
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to micromanage okay instead of you being upset that this person wants to have their hands on it
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maybe you should be thankful that this person cares so much about the company and about the direction of
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the brand and where it's going to go and how that's going to affect you and your family maybe
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you should be grateful for that instead of complaining about it because there's most places
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the ceo is off-site all the time they're at home they're on the lake they're on the boat they're
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fucking off they're in italy they're not helping you that person whether you agree with them or not
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is helping you so while they might be quote-unquote micromanaging and it might be annoying try to be
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thankful for it because i'm sure he's not micromanaging because he wants to fucking lose
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right okay so that's the first thing i would say the second thing i would say is what i said you know
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already which is you're an employee and you get paid to do things a certain way um but if you want
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to be a super valuable employee you should point out the objections that you have based upon your
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expertise and potentially your supervisor who's been doing something that you do for much longer
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than you have has probably already thought those through and maybe knows exactly why he wants to do
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them that way versus why you want to do them your way there's so many times where a young person who
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is a skilled person like a designer or someone with technical skill like an engineer who believes
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that they know because they went to school exactly what needs to be done and this person who's been
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doing something for their entire fucking life doesn't understand because they didn't go to school
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here's the reality there's probably a very good reason that that person is telling you no we don't want
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to do it that way and i will bet that the reason is is because they did it that way before and it
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produced a negative outcome and what's happening in my opinion in this scenario is there's bad
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communication on both parts the ceo or the owner of the supervisor is is not telling you why we
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shouldn't do things that way so it's leaving you confused and you make it feels like you're being
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micromanaged instead of working together on a project the difference between micromanaging and
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working together on a project is communication hey this is why we can't do this because last time
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we did this 10 years ago when you were 12 uh it fucking did this and this and this and we fucked
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it up okay that's a teaching moment that a lot of ceos don't do because they just want to get the
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shit done right so there's communication issues on both sides here but the second part of it is you
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should understand that your value as a paid employee is increased by bringing things to the
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supervisor that will improve the brand and you have to have the nuance and the ability to understand
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the difference between you wanting to do things your way or you wanting to do things that are good
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for the brand because your ego which you have is the same as that person's ego and naturally as human
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beings we want our decisions to be chosen because there are decisions but in reality on a team which
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a business is a team it doesn't matter whose decision we go with as long as it's the right one and
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everybody benefits from it so your job is to communicate the objections you have and then find out
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why they have objections to it in a positive way that is that is uh non-threatening non-disrespectful
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and constructive and so instead of you sitting here saying i don't know what to do i would open
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up dialogue with your supervisor and say hey look i know i don't know everything okay but here's what
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i'm seeing here what why do you see it differently because maybe he maybe he just doesn't see it the
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way you see it or maybe there's a good reason that they're saying no but either way there's communication
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here and any technical skilled person i'm going to give you some free advice whether you're a graphic
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designer a videographer you design apparel you fucking you know you're an engineer you're you're
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a technical person you have to understand that the person who is running the company or supervising you
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even though they may not have that skill to sit down at a computer and do the thing they probably
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understand the result that's needed much more than you do just because you understand how to sit at a
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computer and design a graphic doesn't mean that you understand what the right graphic is to attach
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itself to the brand or the customer does that make sense they have the vision yes so you have to respect
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that a lot of people with technical skill because they think they're they have technical skill will look
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at their supervisor and be like that guy's a fucking idiot he doesn't know what the fuck he's doing
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well how the fuck did he get where he is then you think he just got lucky you see what i'm saying
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so have communication open it up be respectful be open-minded be willing to learn and most importantly
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realize that we're on the same team and you should be very grateful for that ceo that wants to walk
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by your desk and say hey this needs to be this way that needs to be this way while it might be annoying
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to you that person wants to fucking win more than most ceos and you'll find that out if you go work at
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other places like you already have why'd you leave that first place right right you see what i'm
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saying so you're you're the way i'm hearing this is you're not really happy either way you're not
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happy when no one pays attention to you and you're not happy when someone does so what the fuck maybe
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it's a you problem dude i thought about two things here when i was thinking about this and like
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you know the first thing that came to mind you touched on a little bit this ego thing here right
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but like you don't want to get a big head you don't want you how damn it
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um what no but what it made me think of one of the one it made me like it made me think of two
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things and the first thing is like you know sometimes you're not able to see your full potential
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and the other your boss does yeah you know so like you may think that what you just delivered was the
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you know the best shit since sliced bread it might be your best and it might be yeah but because you lack
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the perspective in the experience you don't know the result that's going to produce right right
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and i can because i and i can like just from personal experience working with you right like
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i've been with you for a while i've seen this at play right i've seen people deliver something and
00:26:08.400
it's like no fix it right and it's like well what the fuck man what's wrong with it exactly and then
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there's this this this is this and then they'll say well i don't know well yeah you wouldn't know
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because you haven't been doing this 25 years right but i don't expect you to know that that's why i'm
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telling you to change it right and they take that in they come back and the the next product that
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deliver to you it's 10 times better yeah right so or they quit trying hard because they think that
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you're going to reject all their ideas and they remove all value from their from their existence
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in your role right okay so don't be that person when someone gives you criticism and someone gives
00:26:40.600
you a framework or someone gives you some advice who's older than you has been doing it longer than
00:26:45.400
you you should give them the benefit of the doubt that that's a pretty smart motherfucker
00:26:49.160
like my dad who's fucking 80 years old sometimes he says shit and it sounds crazy but you know how
00:26:55.840
many times he's been wrong zero the motherfucker's always right and you know why he's always right
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because he's lived on this motherfucking earth twice as long as me he's just seen it yeah he's seen
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you can't replace that no and that leads into my second point too because he says he's pretty new to
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this company there is a thing there's an aspect of trust here too right like you have like you maybe you
00:27:17.800
just haven't been there long enough to truly trust that your ceo or your leader knows what the fuck
00:27:22.740
they're doing like it bro if you tell me maybe you shouldn't take the job if you don't trust them
00:27:26.460
well i'm saying like i mean but like that takes time to build right i think a body of work should
00:27:31.960
speak for itself yeah you know if you walk into a company that's built from the ground up such as
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maybe i don't know the companies i've built and you automatically think you know more than me you're
00:27:41.700
probably making a pretty ignorant mistake yeah you know what i'm saying now there's probably a whole
00:27:46.960
lot i can learn from that person as well but i can promise you this if someone puts something in
00:27:52.040
front of my face at this point in time there's a 98 chance i'm going to tell you if it's going to
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work or not because i've been doing this since i was 19 years old you see what i'm saying right so and
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and that's where like the technical knowledge people and the experienced people disconnect it's
00:28:08.880
all about communication dude i love it i love it uh well guys andy our third and final question
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question number three uh hey andy and dj love what you guys do love the loo i went to logan
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university in chesterfield long before it was called logan university uh we loved every minute
00:28:26.720
of our time there except for that goddamn provale cheese you watch your goddamn mouth how about that
00:28:32.840
provale cheese he's hating on provale cheese that's just the shit um anyway uh he says anyways i'm
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nearing my 50th birthday and i've worked my ass off uh to provide for my family for the past 23 years
00:28:48.340
i got a great wife a great family for absolute beast for kids uh one's pro soccer player and two
00:28:54.940
full rock college athletes damn big house uh great practice two grand babies life is good damn you've
00:29:01.520
been killing it bro fucking killing it man uh my question is as a high performer like yourself
00:29:08.120
how do you prevent the quote unquote it's good enough uh how do you prevent that thought from
00:29:15.540
creeping into your mind because most nights i just want to come home float in the pool have a cocktail
00:29:20.420
and enjoy the fruits of my labor so how do you prevent this this this idea from creeping in that
00:29:25.900
it's good enough well sometimes it is good enough sometimes it is good enough and let me tell you when
00:29:31.560
that time is because it's a lot different than what most people think when when you have enough
00:29:36.220
money in your bank account that you can live at the lifestyle you want for the rest of your life
00:29:41.580
and then have that exact amount of money left over okay for emergencies not talking about an extra
00:29:48.220
100 grand i'm talking about double what you think it's going to cost then it's good enough okay because
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there's going to be things that come up there's going to be things you want to do there's going to
00:29:58.500
be things you want to buy there's going to be lifestyle improvements and when you're at that level
00:30:02.740
at 50 years old you might i just had a friend of mine i had a friend of mine who's 53 years old
00:30:07.340
who's made hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of millions of dollars sitting on stacks of cash
00:30:11.940
going through a hard time in his life and business he's got so much money he can't fucking spend it
00:30:17.720
all right and i looked at him and i'm like why are you doing this to yourself you don't have to do
00:30:21.800
this you see what i'm saying but most people think it's good enough when they're fucking 25
00:30:26.900
okay and most people think it's good enough when they're 30 and then when they're 35 and then they
00:30:32.440
buy into this idealistic culture of i'm just going to float through life i'll figure it out
00:30:37.340
you know i whatever happens happens and then they run out of money and they get in a panic and they
00:30:42.660
don't know what to do and i'm going to tell you someone who's you know gone through a large part of
00:30:46.400
my life with no money there's nothing worse than the financial pressure of having no money
00:30:50.300
having no money okay money is extremely important so sometimes it is good enough and and dude if
00:30:57.400
you're a high achiever you're going to need to redirect that focus into something else maybe it's
00:31:02.300
a charity maybe it's a sport maybe it's a hobby like i have another very good friend of mine who who
00:31:09.020
was very successful in business and retired pretty early and went for four or five years with nothing
00:31:15.380
to do and was going crazy and then started a gun company a custom gun company where they make the
00:31:20.120
nicest firearms in the world and now he's happy doing that you see what i'm saying when you're
00:31:24.940
built to fucking go to battle you have to have a project to work on and as entrepreneurs high
00:31:30.680
achieving people we have to have a project bro we have to have a purpose we have to have a mission
00:31:36.300
we have to have an enemy to defeat and if we don't have those three things we're fucking miserable
00:31:40.740
that's what high achieving people are built for so if you're going to replace you know whatever it is
00:31:46.440
you've been doing which you sound like you might be a little bored with you got to find
00:31:49.960
something else to replace it with all right that's going to that's going to satisfy those
00:31:53.860
things or you're going to be miserable um this idea of like going to the beach and just retire
00:31:59.220
bro that bro yeah have you have you ever gone on a beach vacation yeah once okay after like three
00:32:05.780
days it's fucking stupid it gets old yeah like bro and you think you're going to go down like if
00:32:10.860
that's what you feel like you're missing in life just go to fucking cancun for three days just go
00:32:14.680
do it real quick come back yeah um but dude you know the the thing is that people here here's the
00:32:22.520
fundamental reality is that people greatly misjudge what it's actually going to take and they also
00:32:32.320
misjudge how much money they need to make and how hard it is going to be to make that money
00:32:39.580
the the the idea of what it takes versus what it actually takes is almost polar opposites in culture
00:32:48.820
right now we have all these people on the internet telling all these people who are just desperate to
00:32:53.960
make some extra money that it's easy quick pain-free and you're going to be rich and i'm going to make
00:33:00.580
you rich and all of that shit is a lie that is all a fucking lie all of it okay becoming successful
00:33:08.000
is way harder than you think it takes way longer than you think it takes everything you got and if
00:33:14.160
you don't give it everything you got you're not going to make it and even if you do give it everything
00:33:18.320
you got if your skills aren't good enough such as the first guy in the first question you won't make
00:33:23.260
it so you got to have the recipe of all of these things to make it we got we got to remember dude
00:33:28.700
winning is rare it's not this thing that everybody gets to do the internet makes people believe
00:33:34.740
that winning is so common and so it's it's they make it seem like it's the default no losing is
00:33:41.740
the default bro being broke is the default you have to work your fucking ass off to not be one of those
00:33:47.840
people and most people are broke and they don't know it they don't they don't they don't realize
00:33:52.300
that you're in the broke category you know what i'm saying like when you're barely making it and
00:33:56.980
you're living in an apartment and you're stretching and you have 200 bucks left after you pay all your
00:34:01.220
bills guess what motherfucker you're broke okay so what do you have to do to move from this situation
00:34:07.860
okay you have to get more skills you have to provide more value whether that be inside of your
00:34:14.080
own company or a company that you work within and you have to be undeniably great so how do you do that
00:34:20.500
well that takes an investment on your own time you can't go out and party with your friends
00:34:24.640
all these people that you see driving mercedes and bmws and bentleys and all this shit these
00:34:30.840
motherfuckers didn't go out every fucking day of their life they didn't do all this shit that poor
00:34:35.080
people do and i'm i hate to say it like that but like bro going to the bar every weekend that's poor
00:34:40.460
people shit it just is and i'm not trying to be an asshole i'm just being real like wealthy people
00:34:45.480
do not fucking do that okay so you if you want to talk about like fake it till you make it it's not
00:34:51.420
fake it till you make it like one of these dumbasses on the internet where they go out and
00:34:54.820
spend every dollar they have to present themselves as some sort of successful person that's not what
00:35:00.380
that means fake it till you make it means fake the behavior of wealthy people until the wealthy until
00:35:05.240
the behavior starts producing a result and so what do wealthy people do wealthy people associate with
00:35:11.440
other wealthy people wealthy people make sure that their shit gets done wealthy people don't abuse
00:35:16.440
substances they might drink they might smoke a little but it's not an irregular thing
00:35:20.200
okay what else do they do uh they work harder than most people you know the funny thing is is that
00:35:25.880
the people i know that don't have to work another day in their life happen to also be the hardest
00:35:31.320
working fucking people i know what do you what do you think that means that doesn't mean they got
00:35:36.660
successful and decided to work harder than everybody it means they started working harder than everybody
00:35:40.640
20 years ago when they were nobody and they've kept that habit and now they materialized all this
00:35:46.660
success and people think it's like it's like a coincidence it's not a coincidence okay the reason
00:35:53.160
that the people who have the most money wake up every single day and work harder than everybody else
00:35:58.140
is because they developed that habit when they were broke all right and these are just the realities of
00:36:02.740
becoming successful and i'm not saying that everybody has to become a mega millionaire like dude that's not
00:36:08.320
what everybody wants some people just want to have a little more money and some people just want to
00:36:12.880
you know have a little more freedom and that's okay too i'm not sitting here on my pulpit saying
00:36:17.980
all you people that don't have money are pieces of shit but if you want more money that's what the
00:36:23.020
fuck it takes and if you want to be wealthy it takes a lot more than that and it really takes
00:36:27.820
the entire focus of your life if you think of it as like a professional sport right to be a wealthy
00:36:33.360
person that would be the equivalent of being on the all-star team all right well what's it take
00:36:38.360
to become an all-star player in baseball it takes 20 years of fucking work as a kid it takes you
00:36:44.700
making the team then it takes you starting over to become great at that level and then eventually
00:36:50.420
you become an all-star and you make a whole bunch of money okay that's the same thing in life and
00:36:54.720
business you got to work for a long time doing shit you don't want to do when you when you don't
00:36:59.220
want to do it then you get a shot and when you get the shot you have to keep getting better and it has
00:37:05.300
to be undeniable like and that's why baseball is such a great sport or professional sports is such
00:37:10.220
a great example because it's driven by actual statistics you know this motherfucker rushed for
00:37:16.220
2,000 yards the last three years you know this guy hit 340 for the last seven years you know this guy
00:37:22.600
hit 50 home runs like it's undeniable and when you think of your career and your business and life like
00:37:28.120
that it becomes more real on what it actually takes like dude this idea that you can just
00:37:36.540
somehow like and this comes from broke parents all right broke parents teach their kids this which
00:37:42.440
makes them broke this idea that you're going to just work somewhere and show up every day and i show
00:37:50.080
up on time i do my job no shit that's the fuck you get paid for okay that's what you're supposed to do
00:37:57.380
like that's the bare minimum bro and just because you show up every day for 40 years doesn't guarantee
00:38:04.060
you anything other than what you already are getting you have to get better you have to provide
00:38:09.140
more and i didn't make the fucking rules bro i'm just telling you what they are okay and it has to
00:38:13.820
be undeniable you have to be able to walk into your superior's office and fucking hold up a piece of
00:38:18.620
paper and say look what i did i did this i did this i did this i did this i did this fucking pay me man
00:38:25.540
or i'm gonna go over here where they're gonna pay me you see what i'm saying and that's do they not
00:38:30.520
do that in baseball that's exactly what they do they not do that in football that's exactly okay
00:38:34.460
if you want to know how life really works in business just pay attention to how it is sports
00:38:39.660
is it's the same thing we could talk about all this society stuff about what's fair and what's not
00:38:45.220
fair and who's got privilege and who's got this and who's got that who was born here who was born
00:38:51.020
there you know what fucking matters what stats are you putting up what's your scoreboard say
00:38:56.520
that's all that fucking matters bro and whether that takes you a year or five years or 10 years
00:39:01.880
that's all that matters and when you can hold up the results of that and say this is where it is
00:39:05.640
you get paid okay and there is no situation in life where a high-skilled person gets fucked over
00:39:13.000
like this is a this is a fucking lie your parents told you oh work for the man for 30 years and
00:39:19.940
fucking you know walk away with the cheap gold wash they don't give a fuck about you so why are you
00:39:24.700
putting in any work gee i can't wonder why you never achieved anything okay just because your parents
00:39:30.500
are bitter fucking losers doesn't mean you have to be all right they're telling you that you're
00:39:36.540
believing that's the way it is and then you're not even trying and you're showing up at work talking
00:39:40.700
about oh i showed up on time that's your win i showed up on time in fact i don't give a fuck
00:39:48.040
what time you showed up i care about those results that's what everything's driven by bro so if you
00:39:53.840
can't fucking put numbers on the scoreboard you're worth less if you put big numbers on the scoreboard
00:39:59.060
you're worth more i don't know how to explain this any more clear than that and people have such a hard
00:40:04.640
time fucking getting it you know like that like just because you work somewhere for five years
00:40:10.920
doesn't entitle you to anything dude fucking nothing man huh nothing entitles you to absolutely
00:40:18.040
i know bro man but like you know you got to be good and you got to be undeniable and it that's the
00:40:24.300
only way to win i love it man i love it like do you think that these guys play pro sports bro like
00:40:29.780
you ever ever have you ever seen a pro sports contest baseball hockey football basketball soccer
00:40:37.820
a contest of competition have you ever seen the losing team an mma fight have you ever seen the
00:40:44.440
losing fighter walk up after the fight and be like bro i should have won i tried harder i should have
00:40:50.320
won i'm i'm black i should have won i'm a woman they get laughed out of the fucking game bro it's not
00:40:57.320
even a thought i know but in business in people's career these are actual thoughts that people think
00:41:02.700
i try hard so i should get paid well you can try hard all you want if your skills are low and you
00:41:09.540
suck that doesn't matter you have to try hard and have skills and you know how you get skills by reps
00:41:16.120
and putting in time on your own and taking time on the weekend and learning your craft and reading at
00:41:21.440
night and doing all these things that the other wealthy people are doing okay so let's clear this
00:41:27.640
up you have the wrong perception of what it takes what it takes is way more than what you think it is
00:41:34.180
and as long as you do you're willing to do that which people who become wealthy are willing to do
00:41:38.720
whatever the fuck it takes that's the bottom line if you're willing to do that you'll get that if you're
00:41:42.680
willing to do half of that you'll get half of that if you're willing to do a quarter of that you'll get
00:41:46.280
a little more than what you got now and that's the way it fucking works man i love it man i love it
00:41:55.360
went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions
00:42:02.680
in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed