75. Building An Empire Through Resistance
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Summary
In this episode of The Realists, Andi Frisella talks about the value of being a high achiever and why it's important to have a moral right to be high achievers. He also talks about how important it is to realize that not everybody has the same drive and drive drive as you do, and why you should focus on the things you have in your life to help other people achieve their dreams and goals.
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch
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cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye
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to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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guys today we just got a short real talk episode okay um before i get into what i'm going to talk
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about i'd like to remind you guys just really quick uh first of all i appreciate everybody
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listening and subscribing and uh you know spreading the word about the show we don't advertise the show
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this show is grassroots homegrown straight up we provide value people share it that's how we do it
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and we've been able to be one of the top shows in the world for a number of years because of that
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and that's because of you um you you guys know that we ask the fee right and the fee here is real simple
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it's not money um it's when you feel like you've got value when you laughed when you learned something
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when you enjoyed the show when it brought you a different perspective uh when it made you think
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it made you question things um all we ask is that you talk about the show and spread it around
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that's it uh and i just want to say you guys are doing a great job of that and i wanted to say thank
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you for doing so um you know this isn't uh something that i do because i get paid to do it this is
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something that i actually spend a lot of money to do to provide value and a lot of people always ask me
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they're like well why do you do this show why do you why do you give what you give and just put it
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out there well the reason is is because i realized after i sat down in 2014 and 15 to start writing some
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books with vaughn that not everybody has learned some of the things i've been fortunate enough to
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learn you know i didn't grow up in a quote-unquote traditional home my parents were divorced i had you
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know step parents involved um both my families grew up owning businesses small businesses and
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i got to see a lot of things now you know we didn't always have the you know traditional family
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shit going on a lot of times it was a shit show but the flip side of that was i got to learn a lot
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of things that i you know wouldn't have learned otherwise and what i try to do is basically help you
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guys realize and learn some of these skills that i was fortunate enough to learn uh growing up but
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also mostly through my business experience for the last 22 years and one of the things that i've learned
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more than any of the other things can be scaled to all of us it can be scaled to every single person
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out there that's listening that wants to be better you guys know what it's like to start to dream
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big to start to think big to start to want to do more in life and earn more in life and you know
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what happens the very first time you tell your friends and family that you're going to do x whatever
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x is x is your life plus whatever it is you're looking to bring into it to make it better right what
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happens oh man you sure you want to do that you know that's going to take that's going to take a long
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time you know that's going to be really hard you know not everybody makes it very few people make
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it right we start hearing these kind of things and while the people that care about us are telling
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us these things because they care and they don't want us to see us fall on our faces it's very
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discouraging and it's very frustrating and it's very hurtful and i want to tell you guys that never
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goes away okay i posted a quote this weekend that said mediocre people don't like high achievers and
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in return high achievers don't like mediocre people that's a quote by nick saban one of the best coaches
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to ever walk on this planet all right and what does it mean does it mean that we hate mediocre people
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if we're trying to to get there no that's not what it means because as high achieving individuals
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as people who aspire to be high achievers the the moral the morally right thing for us to do
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is to help other people see how to win as well i believe that in my heart but what that quote does
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mean is that you are going to face resistance you are going to face comments you are going to face
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negativity and what you have to realize is that that's a part of building something greater
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when you start out and you say you're going to do all of these things you have to understand that
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when other people who you've been familiar with your whole entire life hear those things they don't
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hear hey andy's going to go out and build this business and improve his life and improve other
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people's lives they don't hear that what they hear is oh andy thinks he's too good for me oh he this
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isn't enough for him and it makes people feel insecure all right and we're all going to hear it
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and we're all going to hear it at all levels it doesn't matter if you're the day one entrepreneur
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or you're the day 1000 entrepreneur or you're the day 10 000 entrepreneur this shit always happens
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okay and guys we have to realize that if we're going to be successful if we're going to build something
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that dealing with negativity is just part of it but how do you deal with it what do you do
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do you argue with people online do you get into the mix and fight back and forth no that's not what you
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do the game is always one on the field it's not one in the comment section it's not one in the likes
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it's not one in the reviews it's not one anywhere else but in the real world you guys have to realize
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that when you start so if people are attacking you and people are being negative towards you
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and people want to see you lose and that's how you feel what do you do do you pout do you cry do you
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feel sorry for yourself no you get the fuck up and you execute at a higher level you have to be able to
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take those negative thoughts and use them and put them into productive action that's going to
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translate into wins on the field in the real world not on instagram not on fucking youtube comments
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not on text message arguments none of that shit is where it counts where it counts is where your actions
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go and guys let me tell you it doesn't matter what somebody's saying about you it doesn't matter what
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someone thinks about you it doesn't matter what your friends from high school think it doesn't matter
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what your aunt lucy thinks it doesn't matter what matters is is how you execute are you executing on a
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day by day by day by day basis and that's hard right now because the temperature in society is one
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of weakness it's one of softness it's one of villainizing success the whole society right now
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everything around us celebrates mediocrity it celebrates being average it celebrates being like
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everybody else and if you want to be different than anybody else then you're greedy you're an
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asshole you're a prick you're cocky you're arrogant you're all these negative things and you're really
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not any of those negative things all you're doing is doing what you know is going to be best for you
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okay so my message here is really simple guys understand that that quote by nick saban is something that
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you can pull out of your library that you keep in your brain every time someone says something negative
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about you true or not true it doesn't matter and most of the time it's not true most of the time it's just
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bitterness most of the time it's jealousy most of the time it's envy and it's materializing into words
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so what can you do well let me tell you what I do every single negative comment that's said about me
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that I hear about I don't get mad I get focused I don't get mad I get productive I don't get mad I
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execute because I know that the best thing that I can do while other people are saying negative things
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about me is to get better and that's the best thing that you can do as well so when you think about
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all these people who have shit to say about your life when you think about all these people who you
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feel like are quote unquote hating on you think of that quote by nick saban mediocre people don't like
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high achievers and in return high achievers don't like mediocre people that means it's expected when
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you start getting those comments what does that really mean what it really means is that other
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people are starting to see you as a high achiever they're starting to see you as someone who's winning
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they're starting to see you as someone who's actually doing it and that's a good thing okay we can
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only win guys when we focus on the positive we can only win when we're productive we can only win
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when we take the negativity that we hear that we feel that we see and turn it into execution that's
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what champions do they hear the negative then they take it they chew it up they swallow it and it comes
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out of them in form of things that will produce an actual result if you can master that skill if you
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can master the skill taking other people's negative energy digesting it and then letting it come out of
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you in the terms of positive action and positive momentum and positive results you have a lifetime of
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energy you have a lifetime of people feeding you things information feelings emotions that are going
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to produce a better result for you and the people that surround you okay this is a very difficult thing
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to do and it's a very easy thing to hear because what's our first reaction when we hear negativity
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we get all upset why the fuck are they saying that why are they doing that that's not true
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well it doesn't matter if it's true it doesn't matter if it's true what are you gonna do what are you
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gonna do when you're running a 10 million dollar company or you're running a 20 million dollar
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company or 100 million dollar company are you gonna you're gonna reach out and try to smooth over
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every single thing that someone doesn't like about you it's impossible you can't do it because
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you're busy working on your company so you have to remember mediocre people don't like
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high achievers that's the reality we can do all we can to lift them up we can do all we can to bring
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them along we can do all we can to offer the hand but if they don't take the hand there's nothing you
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can do you can't save those people so i want you to remember that every time someone talks shit
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every time someone says something that hurts your feelings every time someone says something that's
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not true every time someone says something that gets under your skin remember two things
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one that means you're executing that means you're worthy of talking about that means you're doing
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something right and as hard as that is to swallow it's the truth and the second thing to remember is
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this take the opportunity to master the skill of pivoting and producing positive action out of
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negativity when people say things that hurt you when people say things that frustrate you when people
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lie about you and they will they will especially when you get to a point where other people see it as
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success people are going to chip away they're going to chip away your character they're going to chip away
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at what you do they're going to call you all kinds of names when you hear those things instead of
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wasting your energy getting upset because that's what most people do most people get really upset
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they get really mad they spend the rest of their day in a bad mood instead of doing that use it as
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fuel say dude i'm going to swallow that okay now what can i do to be better okay i can do this i can do
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this and i can do this today that are going to make me better and take that anxiety take that frustration
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take that anger and go out and execute with it the people that do that can't be beat it's impossible
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so guys listen man one of the biggest questions i get still and i you know i understand man like it's
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hard to hear these things it's hard to see people that you think are your friends you know take little
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passive swipes or say negative things about you right it sucks but let me tell you something
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that's just never going to go away because now on day one they're going to laugh on on year 22
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like me then instead of them laughing they're going to be saying you know what andy changed
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he ain't the same guy i knew no shit i ain't the same guy that's the fucking point i work my ass off to
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get where i'm at you're going to work your ass off to get where you're at and we shouldn't feel guilty
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about what we've done to get where we go especially when it brings and improves the lives of people
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around us so instead of getting mad when people say things that are you know not nice or they
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disrespect you or they talk shit remember mediocre people don't like high achievers and high achievers
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don't like mediocre people that's the bottom line here if you could tell yourself that every single
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time you hear something that frustrates you that makes you angry that pisses you off and you can
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then take that and have some peace with that and then because you're still going to remember it right
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you can't just wash that shit out of your brain if you're like me you're going to remember it forever
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and i love that shit you know why because every time i don't want to work out every time i don't want
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to get that project done every time i don't want to have that meeting and i could cancel any
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motherfucking meeting i want at any time every time i want to do that you know what i remember
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i remember the shit people say about me i remember the negativity i remember the lies i remember the
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unfairness that people showed me and i execute on that point better than i would have without it
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that's how champions build championship caliber lives that's how greatness comes about
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you could believe all this positive shit on the internet you want but the truth is people hate
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people hate anything that isn't them and the truth of the matter is you ain't trying to be them so what
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the fuck you worried about it for there ain't nothing to worry about the only thing you need to worry
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about are the two things i mentioned here one mediocre people ain't ever going to give you props like you
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want them to it ain't ever going to fucking happen and i hate to say it like that but it's the truth
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okay people are not going to celebrate you while you're doing it they're only going to celebrate you
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after it's so fucking obvious that you did what you said you're going to do that they have to crush
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their own ego to admit that they were wrong and sometimes that never happens and it's not worth waiting for
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because if you're trying to prove yourself to these people over and over and over again
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you're going to have a very empty existence so my advice is this take the negativity chew it up real
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good real good get the taste of it in your mouth swallow it down digest it let it come out of you
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and productive action and let your life shove it down every motherfucker's throat that ever fuck with
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till
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existed while i i'm from where you can't trust so welcome