REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 917. Q&AF： Too Late At 38？, Motivating People Through Resistance & Feeling Behind

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00:02:24.660 you want and that you know you should be living so uh with that being said uh we ask very simply that

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00:02:42.820 on brother nothing dude what's up with you oh you know it's been a great day just getting shit done 0.89

00:02:47.940 um i rode a little yamaha for the first time which one uh logan's logan's yeah you got you got that 0.59

00:02:56.420 bike yeah how is it it's all right it's been one piece still yeah i almost didn't come back yeah

00:03:01.840 mm-hmm it's smaller than what you said it is but that thing's fast man oh yeah those like little

00:03:06.280 street bikes are different i'm used to the hogs yep yep i know you are anyway yeah them big white 1.00

00:03:15.860 hogs you like to ride yeah yeah yeah anyway um so people are probably wondering why we're having 0.95

00:03:23.540 q and af in the middle of the week uh that's because it is time for all of you to start

00:03:30.500 participating in the revolution which is the revolution and the rebellion of personal excellence

00:03:38.000 we have to understand that if we as humans are going to thrive and even survive at this point we have

00:03:45.720 to become everything they don't want us to become they want us to be fat we have to become fit they want

00:03:53.340 us to be stupid we have to become intelligent they want us to be dependent we have to become 0.94

00:03:58.020 independent they want us to hate each other we have to work together these are things that are 0.99

00:04:03.200 required for humanity to progress and your story your outcome what you do on a daily basis is the

00:04:12.780 revolution and you have to understand that we all play a part in that there is no opting out there is

00:04:19.640 no oh well i don't have a big following this doesn't have shit to do with your following this

00:04:24.840 has to do with the example that you set this has to do with what the people around you observe this

00:04:30.180 has to do with what they see so they can know that certain things are possible for them and we as

00:04:37.260 humans have an obligation to set that standard and that obligation and that duty has been forgotten

00:04:44.460 by a lot of people especially here in america so with that being said we are going to focus

00:04:52.500 much more on personal development at least giving you guys a couple shows a week of that uh until we get

00:04:59.460 this new podcast launched which is imminent so yeah what okay man dude yeah you got me you know what

00:05:09.380 i'm ready to punch through a wall bro oh yeah let's make some people better yeah let's uh you

00:05:15.980 know like i said punching holes through drywall we have a kyle cool we're gonna get on the phone

00:05:20.260 let's go let's give kyle a call here we go

00:05:22.380 hello kyle what's up dude oh what's up dj what's going on bro how are you

00:05:37.620 i'm all right let me get to an area that's not so damn noisy

00:05:41.680 no you got caught me on a roof on a roof

00:05:47.840 you on the roof yes sir can you hear me okay yeah don't jump don't do it it ain't that bad bro

00:05:56.500 how's it going fellas doing good kyle how you doing bro i'm good man good 0.97

00:06:08.480 i actually got some some rain up here in washington state right now shit dude 0.87

00:06:13.680 isn't it i think it's isn't it always raining up there 0.96

00:06:17.060 yeah i usually get probably two weeks in the spring and two weeks in the fall 0.65

00:06:22.720 it's actually like comfortable weather for me to work the rest is either hot as shit or below 12

00:06:29.860 oh no that sounds pleasant yeah you're why you're on the roof yeah

00:06:34.980 so that's why you're on the roof yeah all right so what can we help you with brother

00:06:41.840 so uh i'm gonna forget what i wrote i imagine i had something to do with changing direction on my

00:06:48.940 life though because i'm at that point now at 38

00:06:52.640 i've done this for 20 years of my life uh six of those were as an entrepreneur when i was real young 0.95

00:07:00.320 and stupid lost my business during the recession 0.88

00:07:04.720 but uh when my wife had her boy uh her kidneys failed so i had to get you know a good job with 0.99

00:07:13.140 you know awesome health benefits so went to the union refers and been doing that for the last 13

00:07:19.520 years and now she's finally got her transplant so we're able to have a little bit more freedom and

00:07:26.260 and figure out like what we want to do because in all honesty i am just bored of roofing man

00:07:33.300 and uh i got a few things lined up but the problem is it's going to be a pay cut

00:07:41.480 right off the bat until i work my way up

00:07:44.480 and at 38 giving my family the lifestyle you know i'm coaching my boy right now is the last year i get

00:07:54.080 to coach him until he goes to high school uh do i just suck it up and keep doing what i'm doing

00:08:01.040 giving them the lifestyle they become accustomed to or figure out something else

00:08:06.780 and is it too late at 38 to start from somewhere a whole new industry and work my way up

00:08:14.500 well look man uh that's that's a lot and i think a lot of people get to be the age that you're at

00:08:24.520 and they start to consider these things that you're considering is this really what i want to do is this

00:08:30.100 really what i want my life to be um

00:08:32.660 you're it's not too late all right so let's just get that out of the way uh especially with the

00:08:40.640 technology that's available today the scale at which someone can enter a business build a business

00:08:48.320 and bear fruit with that business is much quicker than it used to be um it's significantly 0.96

00:08:56.560 quicker than what it was when you were uh you know doing this shit back in 2008 all right so 0.87

00:09:04.080 the reality of the situation that you have to deal with right now is do i want to take a step back 0.97

00:09:13.320 for three years

00:09:15.800 to take a step forward for the next 50 and if you think about it like that it's the answer is very

00:09:25.200 obvious okay and a lot of people ruin their lives because they don't want to take a step back

00:09:32.140 when they have to to move forward and the reality of success is that at points in time along our journey

00:09:41.760 we have to take steps back and sometimes that looks like for an entrepreneur that would look like

00:09:48.280 not getting paid for a year or two i've gone through a number of phases like that my entrepreneurial

00:09:53.740 journey where i don't get paid from the companies in order to let that money work for me in other ways

00:10:00.860 for you know an employee for someone else that might look like you know downsizing your car downsizing

00:10:08.700 your apartment downsizing your house you know um but i think it's important dude to think about this

00:10:17.680 in a scale of decades not in a scale of the immediate discomfort that it might cause you or your

00:10:25.680 family um let's be real bro material shit as cool as it is house car lifestyle it's really not that

00:10:35.540 important and once you've experienced any of it it's not it's not a huge deal uh being satisfied with 0.90

00:10:43.360 where you are what you do what you accomplish and fulfilled with what you do with your life is far

00:10:49.720 more important than taking a step back financially for a few years while you figure something out

00:10:55.860 now with that all being said it's very important that you know where you're going to go from here 0.97

00:11:03.260 and don't just say hey i'm going to jump off this cliff because i don't want to fucking do this thing 0.97

00:11:09.600 anymore uh and then not know what to do because that will that will end up in a place that's not very 0.66

00:11:14.800 good so um my advice bro is like if you were my brother and i was saying hey kyle look man uh 0.92

00:11:24.020 you fucking hate what you do okay you don't like it you're over it you've already done it do you think 0.96

00:11:30.540 you could do it for another 30 years what's your answer no okay physically i mean well no you can't 1.00

00:11:39.740 bro mentally or physically let's say you could do it physically for another 30 years you know what 1.00

00:11:44.460 you're gonna think at the end of 30 years fuck i could have done so much other shit you know what 0.99

00:11:51.680 i'm saying and like bro you i can hear it in your voice bro you're this path for you is exhausted 0.99

00:11:57.260 it's going to require you to make some changes but at the end of the day brother you know

00:12:02.440 i think you already know what you need to do yeah i just the issue is i spent 20 years

00:12:10.300 becoming a master at what i do right and that's you know roofing construction uh-huh whatever right

00:12:17.000 uh all my other skill sets like i'm i'm good with computers i got great discipline work ethic all

00:12:24.220 that that's that's all well and good but i have no other marketable skills besides what i put on my

00:12:29.820 resume for the last 20 years i can't go into a different industry just say i'm disciplined i got

00:12:36.460 grit and fortitude but in spades is there not how do i market that's where it's not you know half of

00:12:45.160 what i it depends on what you're trying to do what do you what do you want to do what are your when you

00:12:50.400 said you had other things to do what were they well i got one option at uh long shorman and five six

00:12:59.000 years coming to captain of boat and the other is pretty much entrepreneurship that's really my only

00:13:04.760 other options you don't think that you've learned enough skill about construction and roofing to

00:13:10.040 do your own thing as an entrepreneur in that in that lane oh yeah i just got to find the money to do it

00:13:19.380 well i mean bro that's everybody's problem right everybody's problem is they got to find the money to

00:13:26.260 do it like you're gonna have to back the fuck up off your financial obligations and reinvest and start

00:13:32.560 small that's that's what it takes dude listen at the end of the day here's what it is you can either

00:13:41.420 continue you can continue to do what you do you already said you don't like it you already said

00:13:45.800 you're tired of it okay yeah you can go be a longshoreman like you said that sounds pretty cool i think

00:13:53.540 that'd be fun but i bet if you did that for five six years you're gonna say i don't like this either

00:13:59.220 okay it sounds cool because it's new and at the end of the day you've already started a business

00:14:07.700 it failed that doesn't mean that you're a bad entrepreneur most entrepreneurs go through

00:14:14.680 failure after failure after failure but you got to understand that that comes with a different level

00:14:19.860 of anxiety stress um you know it's just a different life man and i can't tell you what life

00:14:28.620 you're going to be the happiest to live but what i can tell you is that if you're thinking what you're

00:14:33.980 thinking now in two years it's going to be worse in four years it's going to be worse in eight years

00:14:39.520 it's going to be worse and you're going to have to decide and make a decision brother and then just

00:14:44.260 stick with it because at your age you know this is probably we're getting to the point where you know

00:14:50.620 just talking real you probably only got one chance to redo your life at this age so it's not like

00:14:58.460 you're going to have another one at 60 you know what i mean um and that's where i'm at yeah absolutely

00:15:04.080 yeah so it's important that you think you know decades ahead bro where what do you want to say about

00:15:10.920 your life when you are 60 what do you want to say when you're 70 do you want to say i spent my

00:15:17.540 whole life doing roofing even though i hated it or do you want to say i had the balls to change 0.70

00:15:25.780 something up and i did whatever the fuck it takes to work i can tell you this dude if you're not all in 0.89

00:15:30.900 on making whatever decision that you want to make from here work no matter what you shouldn't make any 0.92

00:15:38.980 moves because you'll end up flat on your face but you already said you have discipline grit this that

00:15:44.360 the other you know you ask how to market that i mean marketing that comes from your own

00:15:53.040 displaying of results of what you've already created so i mean bro i i don't i can't tell you

00:16:02.820 what to do with your life but i can tell you that if you continue down the same path that you're on

00:16:09.940 you're going to have regrets and most people don't want that

00:16:15.700 oh you're absolutely right and yeah you you're right earlier i do know what i need to do yeah bro i

00:16:28.420 know you do you're you're not you you already do know it's just it's uncomfortable and you got to

00:16:33.700 realize bro that most people will fucking stay in that uncomfortable situation their entire lives 0.96

00:16:39.620 and then fucking just eat the regret later and say oh i had a good life and dude if we're being real 1.00

00:16:45.420 that's bitch shit that's bitch ass shit that's pussy shit okay you're not a you're you haven't 1.00

00:16:53.160 you got to have the courage to be look man if you don't have the courage to become what it is you 1.00

00:17:00.680 want to do or become what it is you want to become it's going to be you that has to fucking go in the 0.99

00:17:05.320 hole with the regret so it's all about what you want to deal with for me you know i i don't want to 0.99

00:17:13.940 have to fucking wonder if i went hard i don't want to have to wonder if i had courage i don't want to 0.94

00:17:18.800 have to wonder if i was just being afraid and for me when i start to feel like i need to make a move 0.98

00:17:25.300 or make a decision or move forward i just fucking do it because the minute i start thinking about it 0.91

00:17:31.660 i know about myself it's just going to grow and grow and grow and grow and grow until it gets so 0.95

00:17:37.400 uncomfortable that i have to move anyway so bro i i understand where you're at and i understand your

00:17:44.200 hesitancy because real consequences ride on it and and that's okay dude you could say hey i want to

00:17:50.640 stay in this another year and then i'm going to do this i'm going to wait until my son gets out of high

00:17:55.400 school and then i'm going to do this but i just don't want you to go for another 30 years bro and be 0.97

00:18:01.320 like fuck i wish i had done something different that's all i'm saying well i appreciate it man thank you 0.93

00:18:10.300 guys yeah i mean what do you think bro no i mean you said it it's exactly what i got to do i mean 0.99

00:18:18.180 i'm going to regret it either way i spent my life my entire working career working my balls off and

00:18:26.020 being uncomfortable as it is so i'm either uncomfortable doing this or uncomfortable

00:18:29.400 making a change for the better there you go easy bro and on top of it man like those skills that

00:18:35.880 you learned are valuable skills they're going to be more valuable the next three or four years

00:18:40.140 anyway because so much technology is going to replace these pencil pusher jobs you know there's

00:18:46.400 an opportunity for you right now to move into as a roofing entrepreneur and innovate the roofing space

00:18:54.120 i mean right now like right now is the perfect time for it there's going to be new technology there's

00:18:59.660 going to be new equipment there's going to be new ways to do things and these older guys they're not

00:19:04.540 going to adjust they're going to say just like everything that happens you know we don't need

00:19:08.580 cars because we got horses and that's going to be that's going to be a major opportunity in

00:19:14.040 construction people who start construction companies or start uh blue collar tradesmen jobs who are

00:19:19.700 willing to innovate and build businesses off of the technology available are going to beat these older

00:19:25.380 guys who you know we dude look i grew up around construction too we all know the kind of guys that do it

00:19:31.360 they're like this hey that's not how we used to do it we did it like this and that's how we're going 0.63

00:19:36.060 to do it and we're going to do it like that until fucking the wheels fall off they're not very open 0.91

00:19:40.220 to to evolution and if you can be you know that's where you're that's where your lane is you know the 0.99

00:19:46.060 shit you you you are already keeping up with technology you said you're good with computers 0.98

00:19:51.360 pour yourself a little bit more into that start thinking about how you can innovate the roofing business 0.98

00:19:56.020 marketplace and and work towards something like that dude like that way you can look back and say

00:20:00.780 well you know i i i didn't waste my life i went to school for 20 years for this that makes me a

00:20:06.420 fucking expert you know so dude i personally see lots of options for you i just think you gotta you've 0.86

00:20:13.780 gotta push past that playing the middle right like the the playing of the middle the uncertainty 0.99

00:20:20.840 that's what exhausts people that's what wears people out and um you know you you've just got

00:20:27.060 to decide hey this is my plan this is what i'm going to do and you got to go do it if you if you 0.98

00:20:31.340 waffle it'll fucking fail you know what i mean 0.98

00:20:34.240 yes i do guys i can't i can't thank you enough i appreciate all your time and what you do for 0.94

00:20:42.740 everybody so well look man you're going through a natural part of life and i think you got a great

00:20:48.020 opportunity in front of you it's just about making that commitment going and making it work

00:20:52.540 so thank you again man i appreciate it brother all right see you kyle thanks bro brother

00:20:59.040 all right see you did something i was thinking about during that that conversation and and you

00:21:05.960 pointed this out to me years ago but just on the the idea of just being a little uncomfortable

00:21:12.660 it actually helps propel you forward it keeps that drive alive almost right man you can't win

00:21:19.380 without it yeah you can't win without it this is something that people have to understand

00:21:24.200 you in the beginning it's very easy to

00:21:28.320 move forward because you don't have an option all right when you're when you're broke and you don't 0.92

00:21:36.200 have shit going on for you you have to eat you got to pay your bills so you have to go do things 0.91

00:21:44.040 when you get in a situation like kyle's in where he's making a decent living he's working hard he's 0.99

00:21:52.260 getting paid he's taking care of his family that allows him a certain level of comfort which makes

00:21:58.140 it harder to make the decision all right so the pressure i call it zero options mentality

00:22:04.600 is required to succeed and a lot of people they will say well if this doesn't work then i'll do

00:22:11.380 this well if that doesn't work then i'll do this and they make all these contingencies and because

00:22:16.740 they have these contingencies they don't go all in on the initial plan which is what's required for

00:22:22.200 it to work and the real trick is that whenever you start to become successful and you start to build

00:22:28.320 some you know means you can afford dinner and a decent car and a nice house and you're not starving

00:22:35.980 that's where it becomes extremely important for you to leverage inside of your own mind the idea

00:22:45.160 that you don't have any other choice but to do it and that may require you fabricating a story or

00:22:52.840 taking extra responsibility for the people that work for you right like i know that i'm not

00:22:59.200 legitimately responsible for everybody's life but the story i tell myself so that i get out of bed and 0.99

00:23:05.860 go hard is that if i don't get out of bed and go hard these motherfuckers are going to starve 1.00

00:23:11.120 and so that's that i'm that's not acceptable to me so that's a zero option mentality that i'm developing 0.98

00:23:18.120 you see what i'm saying absolutely and so in the beginning it's easy because you actually have

00:23:23.720 zero options but where you where kyle is you know that now you have options so it's like really hard

00:23:29.600 to fucking move and it's especially hard when you've worked so hard to have stability to take a 0.87

00:23:36.740 little bit of that off the table to move forward on what you actually want to do and sometimes for 1.00

00:23:41.580 some people the right move is to stay right where the fuck you are because you're not going to fully 0.91

00:23:46.860 commit to anything else so that's why it's such a hard question for me to answer for him because 0.98

00:23:52.460 i'm not him yeah you know what i'm saying if i were him knowing how i am i would absolutely do what i

00:23:59.960 said i would stay in it and while i'm in it i would fucking start fabricating a plan around how we're 0.92

00:24:07.120 going to innovate the roofing business something i know a lot of everything about i'm a master like in 0.68

00:24:12.800 his words how are we going to do this with technology how are we going to do this with

00:24:17.720 with the changes that are coming what's the roofing industry going to look like in five years how can i

00:24:23.140 get there before everybody else and that's where i'm working if i'm him yeah absolutely come down on 0.95

00:24:29.620 the fucking gas station taquitos yeah start saving up some bro a little goes a long way you know it's 0.99

00:24:34.580 like what fucking ramsey says you know fucking no no starbies yeah that's right you know what i'm saying 0.99

00:24:38.900 right so i mean dude you know a lot of people tease dave ramsey but like dave ramsey is it gives a lot 0.98

00:24:46.640 of really good practical advice for people to free up their income and their debt to be free at

00:24:55.600 something later and i actually agree with them i think most people live beyond their means they get 0.99

00:25:00.880 caught up in this fucking bullshit rat race they have way more shit than they actually need to be happy 0.99

00:25:06.180 it's short-lived and it puts them in a financial bind that that enslaves them for their entire life 1.00

00:25:13.620 and the truth of the matter is is like the good shit that you really want that requires passing on 0.99

00:25:19.420 the fucking jordans that requires passing on the on the you know the five series beamer or whatever 0.99

00:25:25.900 the fuck you're trying to flex in front of your neighbors with like dave ramsey's selling a 15 million 0.99

00:25:31.460 dollar fucking mansion in nashville right now it's badass but he didn't get there by you know uh 1.00

00:25:38.200 stretching himself thin up until that point right so you have to understand like you know you can have 0.99

00:25:44.460 these little luxuries but these little luxuries that you're stretching to have keep the big life

00:25:49.400 that you want from happening yeah and there's a lot of truth to that yeah there's a fine line of like 0.98

00:25:54.580 being able to tread right now once you get enough offense going and you're fucking just 0.97

00:25:58.540 you're you know you're printing that's a different thing right but like when you're first start getting 0.90

00:26:03.920 started you're trying to work out of where kyle is that's required it's it's what it is and a lot of

00:26:10.400 people will fucking trap themselves their whole life because their ego won't allow them to take a

00:26:14.740 couple steps back they don't want to be seen driving a used car they don't want to downsize their house 0.99

00:26:19.820 because they're afraid of what their fucking friends will say you know i'm saying you shouldn't be 0.99

00:26:23.740 worried about that you should be thinking about what they're going to say when you roll up in your 0.99

00:26:28.440 fucking brand new fucking roles yeah right because you innovated the roofing business right that's 0.99

00:26:32.940 real shit man yeah that's real i love it man well guys let's get question number two going uh we have 0.99

00:26:38.300 a write-in um question number two uh good morning andy and dj a little background on myself i'm a 47 0.99

00:26:46.720 year old mom wife veteran deputy rancher and all-time follower of your content i'm on my fourth 75

00:26:56.400 heart and seek mental toughness and control on the daily my question for your expertise knowing your

00:27:03.860 mindset and experience um i have adult sons um and other friends and family that i know for a fact

00:27:12.380 need 75 hard in their life one son struggles with weight and has attempted 75 hard two times

00:27:18.800 but when failing makes excuses to get back on board uh i find myself having a zero empathetic

00:27:26.240 attitude towards the people that refuse to do the work to help themselves how do you help and support

00:27:32.360 people that you care for when you know what they need to do to help themselves but they refuse to do

00:27:37.480 it i find myself biting my tongue in so many conversations to basically save my relationship

00:27:42.960 with them but it stresses me out because i want to just be real with them and i'm sure i would not

00:27:49.040 come across the right way i would appreciate your thoughts on this um in hopes that you have ideas

00:27:53.280 on how to approach it have a kick-ass day uh here i'll solve it to you in three words tell the truth 0.99

00:27:59.740 if the fucker's fat tell me he's fucking fat when i was 350 pounds none of my friends told me i was fat 0.99

00:28:06.520 and you know what i wish they had i had to listen to the internet tell me fat and when the internet 1.00

00:28:11.580 was telling me i was fat i was like fuck i guess i'm fat and i lost 100 motherfucking pounds okay so 0.99

00:28:16.940 my answer to you is probably not the answer that you would like it's probably not the socially accepted 1.00

00:28:21.620 answer but i would bully the fuck out of them until they stopped putting food in their fucking mouth 1.00

00:28:26.220 and get off their fat ass and started fucking working if you really care about them if you really 1.00

00:28:31.240 care about them okay here's the thing they're never going to do it by you just saying oh i really 1.00

00:28:39.480 would like to see you do that that is not enough pressure it's not enough pressure they have to feel 1.00

00:28:45.560 like shit about themselves they have to look in the mirror and say fuck i'm a fat fucking lazy slob 0.99

00:28:53.060 and however you can facilitate them learning to uh observe that on their own the quicker they 1.00

00:29:01.160 will change and that's just reality and people don't like that they say it's mean they say it 1.00

00:29:05.820 might be mean but you know what's meaner than that allowing someone to be a fat piece of shit 1.00

00:29:11.140 who fucking won't do the work who constantly complains about being fat and unhealthy and doesn't you know 1.00

00:29:17.860 know what to do um but you say you love and careful yeah that you say you love and care for but you 0.99

00:29:23.580 keep you keep you know babying them and and you know like i don't hurt their feelings it's not you

00:29:29.940 don't have to i'm just telling you how i would do it i'm not saying how you need to do it but that's 0.97

00:29:34.920 how i would do it i'll make fun of them yeah until they fucking stopped i mean how much weight are you 0.99

00:29:39.720 down i'm down 45 pounds yeah and it's because i call you a fat fuck every single day it's part of 0.99

00:29:45.360 it so do these guys yeah well it's mainly if my dad does it a lot actually listen dude if you really 0.99

00:29:51.460 care about people you tell them the truth otherwise it's fake care you care about yourself

00:29:55.020 okay if you don't want to offend people with the truth it's because you lack the courage or the care

00:30:01.480 that you claim to have to actually deliver the truth in a meaningful way i have zero empathy for

00:30:08.860 people like that as well and the reason that i have zero empathy for people like that as well is

00:30:13.700 because i have conquered that problem for myself and i realize that if i can conquer that problem for

00:30:19.120 myself so can anybody so i totally agree with you and i think you're putting too much weight into being

00:30:27.740 quote unquote nice or whatever you think that is but i i just see things different bro i see

00:30:37.460 i see kindness and niceness pretty much different than what everybody else sees it as like i see kindness

00:30:45.240 and niceness as the truth i think if you actually care about someone you will tell them the truth

00:30:49.980 i i think if you actually want someone to be happy and you know what they need to change you will tell 0.97

00:30:56.040 them the truth and i think people that don't are full of shit yeah i think too like it's also important 0.93

00:31:04.040 to to make like to continue to be that example for them oh yeah i mean that's that's you know what i'm 0.98

00:31:09.580 saying yeah because i mean that's a big say it was his kids uh it's her sons yeah how old are they

00:31:13.660 uh it didn't say she's she's 47 so they're probably 20 yeah somewhere in there yeah so uh 0.96

00:31:19.360 yeah they're old enough to fucking they can take it here's the reality too they should realize like

00:31:25.980 look dude if you're overweight in a significant way your life experience is completely different than 0.98

00:31:33.760 what it would be if you were in shit completely different so people who are fit people who are 0.81

00:31:39.020 healthy people who take care of themselves send a message to everybody in every situation whether 0.98

00:31:45.760 it be the people they work for whether it be their potential mates in a relationship whether it be their

00:31:51.920 friend group anybody their kids they are sending a completely different message which brings back a

00:31:59.100 completely different quality of life and when i was 350 pounds i would have argued that and i did argue

00:32:05.520 that i said hey you know what i'm a great entrepreneur you know how much better i got

00:32:10.440 when i lost 100 fucking pounds you know how much more money i made you know how much more opportunity i 0.90

00:32:15.900 got like it's not comparable and uh if you want the best for your sons you should probably explain to 0.97

00:32:24.120 them like things that are going to matter to them you know like hey um

00:32:29.260 do you like girls it's very simple i'm being serious that's real do you like girls yeah i like 0.99

00:32:36.760 girls well do you know why you're not getting any because you can't see your own dick okay and like 1.00

00:32:42.640 that's the truth yeah listen if you're fat you're going to have a limited selection of women unless 1.00

00:32:48.520 you are insanely hilarious like shane gillis that's real okay that's real uh but you're 0.99

00:32:54.960 no no girls want to when they're that age they don't or any age they don't want to fucking 1.00

00:33:01.640 i know there's chubby chasers and shit but like i'm just saying in general your your opportunities 0.99

00:33:07.240 are going to be limited in every in every area yeah or during the winter time when it's colder out 0.97

00:33:11.900 they need a little bit more warmth yeah maybe yeah i mean that's something that i told myself when i

00:33:16.360 was fat yeah it's real man you know it's real i just don't think

00:33:21.740 you know i think if someone had sat down and explained it to me when i was 20 years old and

00:33:30.400 said if you don't get in shape you're not going to make money and you're not going to meet girls

00:33:34.560 i would take it serious because that's what i cared about at 20 yeah you know what i mean

00:33:39.180 just tied to something they actually care about yeah that's real man you know what i wanted to ask

00:33:43.740 you this because i feel like a common thing out there too but also remember 75 hard isn't for 0.84

00:33:48.340 fucking fitness it's a fucking mental transformation program so also you should be explaining to them 0.90

00:33:55.160 in a very real way that if you don't learn how to follow through on your plans you're never going 1.00

00:34:02.700 to be successful in anything and that's what that program fucking solves it solves the problem of 0.87

00:34:07.680 adherence and when people can't adhere to any plan they can't be successful in anything so we have to 0.96

00:34:13.700 build our discipline and our toughness and our grit and our fortitude everything that contributes

00:34:20.080 to our ability to follow through on the plans that we set forth for ourselves in order for us to have

00:34:26.360 a fulfilling successful life if you can't adhere to very simple things such as i'm not going to put 0.99

00:34:34.760 x in my fucking mouth and i'm going to get off the couch and walk for an hour like if you can't 0.99

00:34:41.800 do these things you can't you don't have you can't do anything you understand absolutely man you 1.00

00:34:49.020 can't do anything so you have to fix the problem of adherence before you start saying oh i'm going 0.98

00:34:54.960 to do this or i'm going to do that or i'm going to do this or i'm going to do a shit because you 1.00

00:34:59.020 can't even control what goes in your fucking mouth you know you know what i'm saying like a lot 1.00

00:35:03.860 of people are like oh well that this program's better for what there's not a better program in the 1.00

00:35:08.440 world to teach fucking discipline that's why there's billions of fucking hashtags all over 0.99

00:35:13.660 the goddamn internet i love it man well i just get tired of it i love it yeah i mean bro do your kids 0.99

00:35:20.480 want to be fat or do they not do your kids want to be broke or do they not do your kids want to 1.00

00:35:26.580 fucking get pussy or do they not i'm sure they want to say yes to all of those things whether your mom 1.00

00:35:33.600 tells you probably not you know that's probably not what they want to hear yeah hey boys you want 1.00

00:35:38.840 to get some want to get some pussy 1.00

00:35:39.960 what bro it's the truth it's the truth people don't like the truth you just say it like this 1.00

00:35:48.800 no i'm gonna say it like i say it fucking be miserable or fucking fix it i love it man 0.99

00:35:54.980 it either you either are you aren't it is or it isn't they're either doing it or they're not doing 0.99

00:36:01.760 it like that's it and i don't know like how to soft hand feed somebody the truth to where it's

00:36:10.720 going to affect them in a way like have you ever has anybody ever fucking ever ever ever i want 0.99

00:36:16.140 everybody to fucking think about it have you ever had a polite conversation with someone and then they 0.88

00:36:20.360 completely fucking change their behavior do you have you ever seen a football coach walk on the 0.99

00:36:25.500 fucking field with a bunch of grown men and saying hey guys i'd really appreciate it if you went out 0.99

00:36:31.200 there and you execute the play and i really appreciate that you did it perfectly and if you 0.99

00:36:35.460 ever seen a coach that does it like that win okay so the truth of the matter is is this is what people

00:36:43.340 respond to people respond to confrontation they respond to directness they respond to truth 0.86

00:36:50.360 and they respond to it in a when you present it in a way like hey man i fucking care about you 0.97

00:36:57.160 but you're a turd okay and you need to fucking fix it and that's what i've found works the best 0.97

00:37:04.660 whether it be in a team or whether it be as an individual i've never had a team and i've never had 0.99

00:37:09.520 an individual as much as they've cried about sometimes the way that the message is delivered

00:37:15.000 i've never had someone respond properly to i really would like to see you

00:37:21.220 be a little more healthy i've never seen it no there's a there's a reason that when you go to 1.00

00:37:29.040 fucking boot camp they say get your fucking ass on that motherfucking spot right now and it's because 1.00

00:37:35.440 most people are so fucking pussy and so soft that they that's the only thing they can fucking respond to 1.00

00:37:42.440 is the the fear that something might actually happen to them if they don't yeah yeah that's 1.00

00:37:48.860 real well i think too it's like you know ultimately man you can't want it more than somebody else wants

00:37:53.600 yeah that's it for themselves yeah that comes in time you know um 0.99

00:37:57.700 you gotta want it man yeah well i mean bring your fucking kids up here i'll fucking tell them the truth 0.99

00:38:04.680 i'm just be real most y'all parents no offense to this lady that wrote this in but most y'all parents 1.00

00:38:11.000 the reason your kids suck is because you suck you won't have real conversations with them you 0.99

00:38:15.700 won't hold the line you don't live a life that that that you think they should live and then you 1.00

00:38:20.440 expect them to just magically sprout into these amazing individuals it's not going to fucking happen 0.90

00:38:25.340 bro so it's real man that's real let's get call number uh two question number three let's knock this 0.94

00:38:32.860 out uh we got john let's get john on the phone

00:38:38.800 hello this is john hey john what's going on man dj what's going on buddy i can't call it just another

00:38:49.220 day you know just a squirrel trying to find a nut what's going on with you oh just checking boxes man

00:38:55.360 working away yeah where you calling from uh north idaho north idaho we got we got all right we got 0.88

00:39:02.180 washington now we got idaho all right i don't go to lane all right that's sick man yep yeah 0.51

00:39:09.200 well we got the big dog here how can we help oh boy andy how you doing i'm doing good brother how are

00:39:18.100 you good man good good i got one for you today i uh something that i maybe i should give you a little

00:39:26.940 backstory on uh four years in business um and uh doing construction excavation work stuff like that

00:39:35.120 and uh you know you see guys come and go new businesses then you see guys that end up you know

00:39:42.320 sticking around and uh you get a little competitive with them seeing them you know scoring jobs or landing

00:39:48.780 jobs you've bid on or wanted and you know whether it pisses you off and fuels the fire a little bit i

00:39:54.140 always thought that was normal but um a buddy of mine started doing the same thing and at first i

00:40:00.620 was kind of helping them out and you know teaching them tricks to trade and whatnot and uh i found

00:40:07.040 myself getting you know starting to get annoyed when he was landing jobs um because it seems like

00:40:13.040 you know everyone and his mother knows everybody that's looking for the kind of work we do 0.97

00:40:17.360 and uh it started kind of making me feel like shit am i am i a piece of shit for thinking this 0.97

00:40:23.900 way or you know is it okay to think this way should i just use it to be more competitive and try harder or 0.97

00:40:30.740 you know i'm kind of just don't know what to do with it you mean negative feelings

00:40:36.980 yeah you know or just you know he'll get a you know all my my uncle's buddies building five houses 0.97

00:40:44.240 and he's got all this work for me and i'm just like motherfucker are you kidding me so this this 0.96

00:40:49.220 was your best friend that started the same business as you you helped him and now got it yep 0.97

00:40:54.540 well i mean why is he doing better than you

00:40:58.620 well i've asked myself that and it you know

00:41:04.300 it honestly it feels like it just comes down that he just knows more people um well you know i feel

00:41:13.860 like i go out grinding and knocking doors and calling dropping off flyers and then he'll call me

00:41:19.080 up and be like oh yeah my uncle's brother's got got this property for me to do all this work on and

00:41:23.940 then it's just like well all the time well first of all is it true is what he's saying true

00:41:32.000 second of all uh well it doesn't matter but i mean these are questions that you should ask yourself 0.98

00:41:39.160 one okay is he full of shit okay because i have a lot of people that that you know and by the way 0.96

00:41:46.560 a lot of you know their names because they happen to be pretty famous on the internet who tell me all 0.99

00:41:51.820 kinds of shit they're doing uh and and they're usually full of shit and it never materializes 0.95

00:41:57.260 and i never see it and uh you know we're doing this so we're doing that and we got this this and 0.99

00:42:02.600 this and this and this valuation and that and then nothing ever changes in their life so that's a natural

00:42:08.460 thing amongst people who want to be competitive is that people will flat out lie to you and make you

00:42:13.520 feel like shit um secondly if it is true why is it true well you answered the question it seems like 0.93

00:42:24.120 he knows more people than me so if that's the problem then what you have is an awareness problem 1.00

00:42:32.300 you need more people to know who the fuck you are so what are you going to do to make that happen 0.99

00:42:37.680 how are you going to solve that problem because if it's just as simple as more people know him or he 0.99

00:42:44.080 knows more people then you have you know exactly what it's going to take to get business you you i

00:42:49.740 mean assuming that's what it is okay uh i don't know if that's what it is i don't know i don't know if 0.98

00:42:58.300 if he's actually having more work i don't know if he's full of shit i don't know if the real 0.94

00:43:07.120 problem is is that he knows more people but i think deep down you probably know exactly why 0.94

00:43:14.880 he's doing more than you and i think you need to be honest with yourself about what that is and then

00:43:20.640 address that problem because if i was blessed enough to be able to recognize where i was

00:43:27.760 failing then i would put my attention into that area so that that would get my business on the level

00:43:35.680 of where i would want it to be but at the same time like your goal what is your goal your goal

00:43:42.360 isn't to like outdo this guy right like that's not that's not a real goal or your real goal should

00:43:50.920 be your goal and your goal should be so fucking big that you're consumed with how well you have to 0.86

00:43:58.640 execute to achieve that goal all right and like i say all the time there's so many people that waste

00:44:06.400 their time and their energy when our time and our energy are our most valuable resource we only get

00:44:12.120 limited amounts of it every single day on a 24-hour period all right and if we spend it watching you

00:44:19.100 know steve's business and steve's business we fucking is doing all these things and we're getting 0.96

00:44:25.960 jealous and we're getting that feeling in our stomach where everything's on fire and this and that 0.94

00:44:30.880 uh we don't have the energy to work on our own shit and what i do to handle these things is i make sure 0.91

00:44:40.880 that i have a massive plan that i need to work on and then i make sure that when i do get competitive 0.97

00:44:50.140 or i do get jealous or i do start to get aggravated at other people's shit that the minute i feel that 0.84

00:44:58.040 coming on i go to my plan and start executing on my plan and i think that productivity pivot is one of 0.90

00:45:06.180 the most valuable things anybody can learn how to do because one we're no longer looking over here

00:45:13.900 we're focused on our own thing number two i don't care what anybody says the most valuable

00:45:21.300 energy that we get is the dark side negative energy so i would say the fact that you're getting pissed

00:45:28.720 off is pretty good i think that's a great asset i would much rather work with someone who felt that 0.98

00:45:35.760 way than someone who just like oh well you know fuck steve's steve's doing it and i'm just happy for 1.00

00:45:41.740 them i would much rather work for the guy who says i'm gonna fucking stomp on steve's motherfucking 0.99

00:45:47.220 throat with how successful i'm gonna be those people win yeah and the the the reason that those 0.99

00:45:54.320 people win is because eventually they figure out how to harness the attention and the the energy and

00:45:59.000 the attention the right way so you know don't think that i don't think there's anything wrong with 0.99

00:46:03.940 you bro like if you and i were partners i'd be like fuck yeah bro i love the john fucking john's got 0.99

00:46:09.860 that fire in him bro i love that shit dude like that not many people have that dog bro and when 1.00

00:46:15.700 you have it you got to figure out how to use it because you will hear people say things like this 0.99

00:46:21.100 well that negativity will burn you down if you're not careful says the guy with no money in his bank

00:46:27.280 account all right the yeah the reality is dude is being a competitor is part of being successful

00:46:34.140 in business and you're obviously a competitor because right or wrong it bothers you when other

00:46:40.020 people win there's this famous saying in the movie no country for old men where uh is it no country no

00:46:49.240 it's there will be blood the movie there will be blood he says uh he said you ever seen that movie

00:46:54.920 oh yeah okay you know at the part there's a part in the movie where uh uh the main character uh daniel 0.86

00:47:01.640 uh day lewis goes it's not just that i want to win i want everybody else to fucking lose i don't want 0.94

00:47:09.260 anybody to have anything and like bro that's the extreme nature of a competitor and while they may not 0.93

00:47:15.780 mean that literally like i really don't want people to starve but you know i want to fucking win bro 0.90

00:47:23.200 like i'm trying to fucking win and yeah that's the mindset yeah bro that's a healthy way to think 0.96

00:47:29.440 when you're in business and other people depend on you i mean that's a great way to be and these other 0.99

00:47:34.540 fucking people on the internet writing all this feel good you know fucking bullshit gets our minds 1.00

00:47:43.440 fucked up like we're competitors that's what we're supposed to do you don't fucking talk to a gladiator 1.00

00:47:48.680 right before he's going out into the fucking uh arena and say hey i hope you have a peaceful 1.00

00:47:53.660 journey my son like no you're gonna be like hey motherfucker you better swing that axe as hard as 1.00

00:47:58.080 you fucking can and cut that dude's fucking head off like are you gonna die yeah you know what i'm 1.00

00:48:02.220 saying like literally yeah like this is just something that most people aren't cut out for 1.00

00:48:07.140 which is why the most of the advice out here is so fucking off from what it should be so anyway to 0.94

00:48:13.920 summarize my little rant here bro one i think it's awesome that you're that you burn hot number two 0.99

00:48:19.760 all you got to do is harness that into your own shit it doesn't matter if your buddy's doing it for 0.98

00:48:24.800 real or not but just remember he's probably lying or exaggerating at least half as much and for me i 0.99

00:48:31.640 have to i have to yeah yeah bro i have to remember that because dj knows this i'll get so fucking pissed 0.99

00:48:38.880 off dude that like and then i have to remind myself well they're probably lying at least half

00:48:44.260 of it's lying so you know take that energy pour it into your mission create your mission that's so

00:48:52.400 big so fucking powerful that it's going to take your whole entire life to do it and you won't have 0.95

00:48:57.820 time to worry about what the fuck that's doing and the pro the thing you got to be careful of right 0.99

00:49:02.180 here is that you want to make sure that you don't become beholden to this guy's limits by continuing 0.97

00:49:09.000 to compete with this guy who doesn't really have a big plan a lot of people will really fuck up their

00:49:14.760 lives by competing with the wrong person because the wrong person isn't committed to like a big vision

00:49:21.800 so like you know like is it really a win beating someone who's really not got that big of a thing going

00:49:29.520 that's not really a win so you know let's get clear about about what's a win for john what's john

00:49:36.880 trying to do and then focus on those things and then when you get when you get jealous and you get

00:49:42.560 mad and you get angry like we all do anybody who says they don't they're liars uh take that energy

00:49:48.340 and focus it on your plan bro and and before you know it you'll be so far ahead of everybody else who

00:49:54.600 used to piss you off you'll forget that they used to piss you off because a whole new group

00:49:59.500 of people will piss you off yeah it's the truth like i used to get mad at like local people that 0.99

00:50:06.500 would do stuff right and then it would be like national people and now like i look at fucking 0.99

00:50:11.060 people that i honestly shouldn't be looking at at this point and i'm like fuck that guy yeah right 0.98

00:50:15.340 right you know like but why are you still on the phone when i ask you this yeah how should he be 0.97

00:50:19.860 handling his best friend like i mean does does he keep it cordial with them yeah i mean look bro i'd make 0.82

00:50:24.620 fun of them i'm like oh yeah fucking five houses all right yeah i know you got all the connections 0.96

00:50:30.240 bro okay donald trump you know like i'd fucking make fun of them but like you know yeah dude i got 1.00

00:50:36.960 friends that are full of shit we all got friends that are full of shit part part of being friends 1.00

00:50:42.820 with people is how good a full of shit they are like do they tell a good story like can they make 1.00

00:50:47.540 you laugh are they good people like the dude fish fish stories you know like they they cut the 1.00

00:50:54.180 biggest one yeah bro it's it's fucking it's as old as time like you're not gonna you're not gonna 1.00

00:50:59.600 change people's you know like i i like people like that i like people that are a little full of shit 0.99

00:51:05.380 they got funny stories you know you can't really take them too serious you know and then when they 0.98

00:51:10.280 start exaggerating their shit you know you got to call them on it and i think that's what makes 0.99

00:51:13.860 good friendships yeah you know yeah so yeah that's true that's good shit man yeah and bro also 1.00

00:51:20.580 i think there's more to that too like a real winner like a real fucking winner they want to be friends 0.99

00:51:26.560 with other people that are winning even though it pisses you off right people will say i want all my 0.95

00:51:30.920 other friends to win yeah you do but not because you want them to win it's because you've learned 0.98

00:51:36.200 about yourself that when other motherfuckers win that are in your vicinity you are so competitive 0.98

00:51:41.980 that you know you will fucking step up to compete with that person so like my friends good to have 0.99

00:51:47.600 those my friends the people i associate with are all successful people but do not think for a 0.98

00:51:54.120 fucking second that i'm not trying to fucking beat them you know what i'm saying like it's and they 0.97

00:52:00.120 know that and i know that about them it's understood yeah it's understood but they're also the same 0.99

00:52:05.180 people that if i called and i said hey man um i need to fucking borrow you know money because i'm 0.97

00:52:13.040 low on cash they'd all be like all right how much you need you know what i mean right yeah so you know

00:52:18.840 it's it's just about learning where you fit in the game and how to navigate these different personalities

00:52:24.600 and then you know most importantly how to harness our own fire in the right direction and uh bro i don't

00:52:31.180 think you're a bad guy for thinking that i think you know i think you're an honest guy for thinking

00:52:35.340 that and i think there's very few honest people that will communicate what you just did here on 0.87

00:52:41.000 the show and what i did back to you but i know for a fucking fact all the names all the people that 0.97

00:52:48.340 you look up to and maybe watch on social media they're all the same they just don't say it on the 0.98

00:52:53.500 internet they're all competitive they all want to win they all fucking hate when other people win 1.00

00:52:59.200 and then they they act nice about it right like it's bullshit fuck yeah like i will straight up 1.00

00:53:06.280 tell them like i'll be like hey i'm gonna fucking beat you bro like i'm gonna beat your ass and 1.00

00:53:10.760 they'll be like oh you think so like yeah i really do and then we'll smoke a cigar right you don't say 1.00

00:53:15.820 like so yeah it's all good bro you know the best friends you're ever gonna have are the people you

00:53:20.880 compete with that's the truth the best friends in the world that i've developed over the course of

00:53:26.080 25 years in business are people that i've people that i've competed with because there's a natural

00:53:31.920 fucking respect that you have that's mutual you know what i mean yeah yeah that's good i haven't 0.89

00:53:39.180 thought of that before that's awesome yeah so how old are you bro uh just turned 32 oh bro yeah 0.99

00:53:45.540 i didn't figure most of this shit out till i was like after 40 so like you're way ahead bro you're 0.76

00:53:51.320 doing good thank you yeah love it man all right john hey man get a little uh get a little swimming 0.95

00:53:59.380 at lake for us up there it's a beautiful spot you're at i will absolutely all right brother well

00:54:05.300 hey man uh keep the fire going dude that that'll take you places take you a lot further well it'll

00:54:13.560 take you a lot further than having inner peace yeah crystals and shop i'm gonna learn how to use that

00:54:18.040 dark energy you've been talking about i think it's i think it's 80 percent of most of the successful

00:54:23.700 people's energy is dark energy they just don't fucking admit it so that's my experience from being 0.94

00:54:31.780 around people behind the scenes love it man yeah i heard it from the first time from your your show 0.91

00:54:39.300 a couple years ago yeah talking about it it was badass i've listened to it a few times well 0.90

00:54:44.520 that means you're one of us so uh so yeah yeah and and if you're fucked up so am i so we can be 0.97

00:54:51.380 fucked up together so that's what it takes yeah that's right all right brother well hey man i 0.96

00:54:57.260 appreciate you calling in dude and uh appreciate all the good work you're doing up there and the 0.92

00:55:01.040 hard work you're doing keep it up you know we need that in the world we will absolutely thank you

00:55:06.220 all right brother we'll talk to you soon all right see ya see you dj see you brother

00:55:10.720 yeah i just wanted to ask that that friend question man because i feel like some people 0.96

00:55:15.500 like well all right well fuck that guy i won't ever talk to him again nah but to your point like 0.97

00:55:19.240 you can use that person not only that why would i not want to talk to him if he's giving me all 1.00

00:55:23.780 kinds of good energy to use sometimes you got to piss yourself off on purpose fuck man yeah like bro 0.99

00:55:30.720 when you're really good like there's stories about michael jordan doing this yeah michael jordan when 0.99

00:55:35.960 michael jordan was at the peak of his career nobody was talking shit on jordan nobody was coming 0.98

00:55:40.640 out saying bro i'm gonna hold jordan to fucking eight points it's not fucking happening bro so 0.99

00:55:45.460 because everybody talks shit and everybody respect him so much he started telling himself stories he 0.99

00:55:50.880 fucking would make up stories about what people said about him and then go out on the court and look 1.00

00:55:56.100 at the motherfucker in the eye and be like i fucking heard what you said about me and the guy's like 1.00

00:56:00.640 what michael yeah and he's like i fucking heard it i saw in the paper i read it like there's nothing 1.00

00:56:06.620 in the paper you know like but this is the psychotic nature of ultra competitors bro like you have to 0.94

00:56:13.160 figure out how to flip the switches on in internally to get the result that you want and sometimes that 1.00

00:56:21.060 requires a fucking paranoia imagination like where you're making shit up like man these motherfuckers 1.00

00:56:28.120 they all think they can fucking come take my shit and like you know i might go talk to them and 1.00

00:56:31.920 they're like fuck dude i never even thought about that like i was actually gonna quit my business you 1.00

00:56:37.360 know like dude like you just it's just part of being competitive bro so like we have to fucking 1.00

00:56:43.220 understand that you know that that is that's part of it dude you know sometimes you got it goes back

00:56:50.580 to what we're saying about zero options sometimes you you have to manufacture that intensity and that 0.98

00:56:56.840 urgency and that competitiveness especially when you're dominant like when you're beating the fuck

00:57:02.800 out of everybody and everybody knows it now you got to make something up to prove you know what i mean 0.92

00:57:07.920 but what i said is the truth bro there's never been a fucking there's never this polite niceness 0.95

00:57:16.280 and courtesy shit that everybody types on the internet that doesn't win it's impractical advice it's 0.94

00:57:23.560 written by people who've never won it's idealistic it sounds good listen dj nice i'm just telling you 0.99

00:57:29.240 it's it's written by people who have never won and the only motherfuckers who have ever won doing it 0.99

00:57:35.740 are these therapists who promise this idealistic bullshit and purposefully victimize people and 1.00

00:57:42.680 keep them trapped in their little business cycle that's the only motherfuckers that win with idealism 1.00

00:57:47.400 everybody else wins with reality they win with like hey uh you either do that or you're gonna lose 1.00

00:57:53.420 all your shit i mean bro i was just writing this fucking instagram post uh a day or two ago 0.99

00:58:01.140 i haven't posted yet but the truth of the matter is most people aren't afraid enough of losing 1.00

00:58:07.300 most people haven't taken the time to consider what their life will look like if they don't change it

00:58:15.400 and if they could zoom into the future 10 20 30 years from now and like just live one day

00:58:22.520 in the life of what their current habits are creating they would change instantly they would 0.90

00:58:29.240 change fucking yesterday but because they can't feel it and because they can't notice it and because 0.98

00:58:35.840 it's progressive and slow and imperceptible people just ride it out not realizing that it's going to 0.98

00:58:43.260 cost them fucking everything down the road okay people should be terrified of losing you if you are if 0.95

00:58:50.100 you don't have anything going for you right now you should be fucking terrified it is not just going 0.99

00:58:57.020 to work out it is not this magic fucking fairy is not going to fly down and hand you an inheritance 0.99

00:59:03.680 or get you your shit together like you should be afraid and enough and people aren't they're told 0.98

00:59:10.840 every day it's going to be okay no it's not it's not going to be okay unless you make it okay and that's 0.96

00:59:16.700 what the world needs to understand that's what people need to understand and if the if people

00:59:20.720 were properly afraid of what their life was going to look like by continuing on the path they're on

00:59:26.060 then they would do something about it today and that's my point of that question too with the two

00:59:31.880 uh the two sons if they knew what their life was going to look like at 25 at 30 at 35 at 40 at 45 0.97

00:59:40.080 because they're unwilling to change now versus what their life could look like they would fucking 0.97

00:59:46.660 change but you know who's going to tell them mom's not going to tell them because she doesn't want to 0.99

00:59:52.720 hurt their fucking feelings you know what sometimes people need their fucking feelings hurt that's the 0.99

00:59:58.340 reality that's real man guys that's a little midweek pickup right there man yeah i love it man go get 1.00

01:00:05.620 better yeah all right guys don't be a hoe show the show 1.00

01:00:10.760 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in 1.00

01:00:18.180 the cold bad bitch booted slow got her on bank road can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed 1.00

01:00:25.420 you 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 07, 2025

917. Q&AF： Too Late At 38？, Motivating People Through Resistance & Feeling Behind

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 07, 2025

917. Q&#x26;AF： Too Late At 38？, Motivating People Through Resistance &#x26; Feeling Behind

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917. Q&AF： Too Late At 38？, Motivating People Through Resistance & Feeling Behind