931. Q&AF： "Balance" With A Busy Schedule, Handling Salary Frustrations & How To Work With A Team
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In this episode of The Realists, DJ and Andy discuss the new F1 movie "Days of Thunder" and how it compares to the old days of F1. Also, DJ gives some movie recommendations, and Andy gives his thoughts on the new movie "Brokeback Mountain".
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What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists to say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality guys. Today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give
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you the answers. Now you could submit your question a few different ways. DJ is going
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to tell you how. Guys, the first way is you can email your questions into askandy at andyfricella.com
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be done to solve these problems in the world. Other times we're going to have real talk.
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Real talk is just 520 minutes of me giving you some real talk. And then we have 75 hard
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verses and we have an awesome episode coming up for you guys this week. If you're unfamiliar
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at Andy for seller.com. That is not free, but it is far more in depth. So, uh, yeah, I think
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What's going on, man? Nothing, dude. Yeah. I, so, um, I have another movie recommendation
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for you. Really? Okay. And, uh, you know, speaking that I'm like two for two right now,
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No, I, uh, dude. Oh man. Yeah. It's a threesome. I got a, uh, another movie recommendation for
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you. Yeah. Um, since I'm two for two right now with you on movie recommendations, you
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are, you are two for two. Yeah. Kingdom of heaven. Yes. And broke back mountain. You said
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you really like that one. I asked you not to repeat. No, no, but really, I watched this
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movie last night. I didn't sleep well last night. Um, I don't know what it was weird,
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but I was on YouTube and there is a free movie on YouTube with ads. It's called nefarious
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with, uh, Patrick, uh, Flannery and what's his name? Sean Patrick Flannery. Yes. From,
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uh, Boondot Sinks. Yeah. Okay. He's like the main, it's him, dude. I don't even want to
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get into it. It's good. You have to watch it. All right. Absolutely. Have to watch it.
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Okay. Um, it's all I got. No, it's a really good movie. I'm telling you, if you guys have
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seen it, let us know in the comments. It's a really good movie. Okay. It's a mind fuck
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man. Have you seen a new F1 movie yet? I've not. It's on Amazon. Is it? I watched it.
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Everybody's talking about how good it is. I haven't seen it. Yeah. All it is is days of
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thunder remade. Is it? Yeah. I probably hate it. It's exactly the same scenes. It's like the
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same movie. Oh, they took the same plot line. Yeah. It's the same plot line. It's
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like, dude is like a washed up driver. Then he gets a ride in the big show, you
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know, him and the other driver hate each other. Then they go to dinner and they
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play poker and they get, start getting along. And then he gets in a wreck, the
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other, the young driver. And then like they win. Like it's the fucking same story,
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dude. Yeah. It's the same story. So what was better? Day of the thunder? Yes. Yeah.
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I'm watching this. I mean, dude, for you young guys, you probably never seen days
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of thunder, but I mean, straight rip off, bro. Yeah. Real talk. I mean, cool repeats
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itself or at least attempts to. Yeah. Right. Days of thunder is way better. Yeah. Well,
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I don't know, man, but you got to watch it. Nefarious. Yeah. Watch it. Okay. You'll
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love it. You'll thank me. Okay. All right. Let's do the show. Fuck. I got it. Nefarious shit,
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man. Who's in it. Yeah. All right. Um, yeah. All right. Well, let's, uh, let's, let's get
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into some Q and A's, man. It's, it's, it's a beautiful Monday, um, labor day. Happy labor
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day to everybody out there. And, um, let's make some people better. Let's do it. Let's
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knock these out, man. Guys. Andy question number one, Andy. How my question is, how do
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you sustain a healthy balance working out, working 12 to 14 hours a day, six days a week
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operate dump trucks. And I want to improve on myself. I'm not overweight. Um, but it
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is hard to keep at it with a changing schedule. So I guess just balancing like, what's this
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idea of balance that people are talking about that I always want. I don't know. You tell
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me, dude, uh, who makes up this rule about balance and everybody has to have this same balance.
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Like who wrote this thing? Like, Oh, we got to have a healthy balance. Who fucking defines
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a healthy balance? Wouldn't a healthy balance be determined by what your desired outcome is
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and how to get there. Okay. Like this trying to take extraordinary goals and ambitions and
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plug them into the idea of balance that everybody else lives by does not work. The reason it doesn't
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work is because they're looking for one outcome and you are looking for a different outcome. And
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this would be the same thing if I were to say, Hey, uh, I'm driving to Boston. You're driving
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to California. Let's take the same fucking route. Like that doesn't work. So what is this with
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you fuckers that makes you think that you're going to have balance and also win at a big
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level? Now you can have balance and you can get by and you can live a good life and you
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can sit by the pond and whistle fucking tunes or whatever you do. But bro, that's not going
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to get you the prize too. Okay. You don't get to have your cake and eat it too. That is
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not how the fuck the world works. And it is so overdone and overcooked and ridiculous at
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this point in time that people have not figured out that you can't have both. You can't build
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amazing shit and also have balance. It's just not real. And anybody who tells you different
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hasn't built anything. Okay. Now, can you do things to optimize the amount of time that
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you're going to get? Yes, you can. That's why I developed the power list. That's what it
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does. You can get it for free at episode 16. There is also amazing app on iTunes, wherever
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apps you get, wherever you get your apps, you can get it there. This product, this system
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allows you to create productivity over the course of time day in and day out and still have free
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time. Okay. Being busy is not the same as being effective. The more effective you are, the more
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free time you have, the more busy you are, the less free time you have. Busy equals broke. Effective
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equals rich. Rich in money, rich in time, rich in opportunity. Okay. So we have to define and think
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about what it is we are actually talking about here. We are talking about being effective. If you are
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effective, you will have time to do things with your friends, with your families. The problem is y'all
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think that fucking being busy is how you get there and that's not the truth. Okay. So, and then on top
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of that, there's going to be times where there's zero balance, no matter how effective you are during
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the day. Like when you're in startup mode or you're in build mode, there's no balance, bro. It's every
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day, all day, as much as you can do. And it's like that for a long time in the beginning. It's a grind.
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Yeah. A hundred percent, dude. It doesn't fucking, the rules don't change because you want them to
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change. They don't change because your favorite therapist you follow on the internet says that
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whatever you're doing is unhealthy. Okay. Well then be like them, but you don't want to be like them.
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You want to have that lifestyle and then you want to have all the other shit too. And that is not how
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the fuck it works, bro. And I'm so fucking tired of people asking this stupid ass question. Okay.
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I've answered it for 10 fucking years. Every guru dude out there tries to tell you that you can
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fucking become a gazillionaire and an hour a day. They're lying. They're misleading you.
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All of this shit on the internet is bullshit. Okay. You have to pay the price. And not only do
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you have to pay the price, you got to pay the price. Well, meaning the actions you take have to
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be executed at a high level. Like this is not that hard to understand. You just don't want to understand
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it. You want it to be that you can fuck off half the time and still get where you want to go. And that
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just doesn't work. Okay. So I don't know what it is with you guys. I don't really understand this,
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but you ain't ever going to get there with that mentality. The mentality should be like this.
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How the fuck do I get there? Period. Okay. Because it is very hard to get there. It's not easy.
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It's not guaranteed. There's nothing about it that's fair. It's very difficult. It takes your entire life,
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all of your motherfucking energy. And to think that you can get there with balance too is a
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ridiculous belief. And it's insulting to anybody who's been down the path. Cause quite honestly,
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you don't have any skills. You don't have any experience. You don't have the fucking tools.
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You don't have the resources. You don't have the connections. And somehow you think you're going
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to get there with less effort than even the people who do like, it's, it's so ridiculous. And this is
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like, this is the problem with glorifying entrepreneurship. This is the problem with
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glorifying success. And all of these dumb ass coaches out there that lie to people about what
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it actually takes so that they can sell them their little system and they can make money all the while,
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the person who's buying the system, it never works for them. And then they think I'm not cut out for
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success. I'm not cut out to win. I'm not cut out to be that person. I'm wanting to be deep down
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inside when in reality, you're just being lied to about the fucking game. Okay. And if you knew the
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actual rules, you would understand what it took to get there and you wouldn't stop and yourself and
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say, Oh, well, I guess I don't have what it takes. This is like the diet industry. Okay. The diet
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industry survives because easy, quick, instant, 20 pounds in fucking one week. And everybody knows
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this bullshit, but what happens? Somebody who doesn't know anything starts to buy this shit.
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They don't lose any weight. And who do they blame? They don't blame the company for lying to them.
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They don't blame the marketer. They blame themselves and they say, shit, well, I guess I'm
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just different. I guess I'm just going to be fat. And in entrepreneurship, they're saying this,
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I guess this isn't for me. I guess I can't make money. I guess I can't succeed. When in reality,
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lots of people have the potential to succeed, but they're being lied to about the price they have to
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fucking pay. Okay. So get this in your head, the bigger, the life that you're trying to build,
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the less fucking balance you're going to have. Okay. And the more balance you have,
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the smaller the life you're going to build. That's the reality when it comes to quote unquote
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success. Now I'm not trying to fucking talk about, Ooh, what the fine success it's fulfilled,
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you know, city grounding on the earth is the new rich. No motherfucker. I'm talking about rich,
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rich. I'm talking about fucking money. I'm talking about the real success of what we talk about.
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I'm not talking about this bullshit fucking feel good nonsense. You know how people are,
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bro. Oh yeah. Oh, the fucking new rich is peanut butter and jelly. No, it ain't. The new rich is
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a big ass bank account, bitch. You know what I'm saying? Like it's always been that way. That's
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the only fucking rich. Sending your kids to schools. You want them to go. Now you could be fulfilled.
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That's a different thing. Yeah, that's different, bro. But like, I can't stand this fucking saying
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inner peace is the new rich. That's rich for you. Whatever, bro. I don't give a fuck,
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but stop trying to convince people that there's nobility and being less than what they could be
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and less than what they should be. Because that idea is what's killing the motherfucking world.
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Okay. Every single motherfucking person that lives out there has this vision of who they were supposed
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to be. That was placed in their heart by God. And we get beat by society and our friends and our family.
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And we get convinced that that's ridiculous. Would you tell God that's ridiculous?
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I don't think you would. Okay. Becoming that version of yourself takes courage. Becoming of
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that version of yourself takes strength and grit and discipline and consistency. And it's hard,
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but it's worth it. And it's what you're supposed to do because the reality is other people will win
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or lose because of what you did with yourself and what you did with your life. And it's very easy
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to convince yourself that you don't matter. Well, yeah, because they spend trillions of dollars trying
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to convince you of that. And if you didn't matter and your life was irrelevant, then why would they
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spend so much time, energy, and money convincing you of that fact? Your results and your life are the
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biggest thing that you will ever do because it's going to determine what the next generation sees
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and does. And if you don't respect that, if you don't, if that doesn't motivate you to get off your
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fucking ass and build something, then dude, I'm sorry. You just don't have it. Go sit at McDonald's,
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bro. And fucking eat happy meals. You know, be happy. Yeah, dude, just fucking accept,
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accept your reality. That's the problem. We have so many of these people that they don't want to
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accept the reality. The reality is you either pay the price now, or you're going to pay it a different
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way later. Right? That's it. So yeah. Uh, if you, you could do things to optimize balance, bro.
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But like this idea of balance is, is ridiculous. How do you balance working 10 hours a day working
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out do like, bro, lots of people do that. Like, what do you mean? How do you just do it? You get
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your shit organized, get the power list out, make it a fucking priority. Like, see, I've, I've, I've,
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and you can tell me if I'm right or wrong, Andy, I'll listen to you. Like your word is gold, bro.
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But this is something that I've done and this might help. I don't know. But like, I've, I've
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gotten away from thinking about life in that way of balance. Like I look at it more like on a macro
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scale of that's how it should be. You know what I'm saying? It's like, okay, well for these 10
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years, bro, that's correct. I'm going to like, it means it's going to be late nights. Correct.
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There's going to be some, some, some missed parties. There's going to be like, I got to go right
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now. I got 10 years, bro. And then in 10 years, then we could talk about, okay, well now can I work
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on this? That's right. Yeah. Like that's exactly how it should be looked at. But how most people
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look at it is balance over the course of 24 hours. Right. Right. How, how highly successful
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people look at it. They look at it as a balance over the next 30 years. I'm going to pay the price
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now so that later I can have more balance in my life. I can do things I enjoy when my kids
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are 10, 12 years old. I can do the things that they need to do. This is reality, dude. And like,
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if you can't do it or you're not willing to cool, but like the games rules don't change just because
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you don't fucking like them, you know? And, uh, I, I feel like a lot of the questions we get
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are just people that want to hear some sort of like confirmation that their little way of seeing
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things is correct. And the rules are going to bend just for them. And they have, yeah, dude,
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it's not like that. The rules are the fucking rules. It's like gravity, dude. Like you may
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not like gravity. I, you know, I don't fucking, I don't like gravity. Okay. Well, that doesn't
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mean it's not going to smash your fucking face if you fall off the edge of a building. Right.
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You know, like, I don't know, man. Uh, but yeah, it's, there's distinct differences upon
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how people evaluate balance and how successful they are. I mean, there's a correlation there,
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right? Dude, I just look at, I would rather work my ass off now than be fucking 50 something
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and having have to and have to and have to. Yeah. Well, dude, I mean, you see it every
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day. Like how many of these people, I mean, how many of these people are completely
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fucking themselves and don't realize that like, dude, when you're 50, you're going to be working
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at fucking Taco Bell, but you're cause you're going to have to, you know what I mean? So anyway,
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dude, like, yeah. Uh, I say this all the time, but you guys should all remember this. All these
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memes and all these fucking feel good bullshit. All that does is cloud your mind. All it does is
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soften your edge. All it does is remove your focus. And I would argue that the more content you consume
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from people who are trying to make you feel good and find peace and find happiness. And this in like
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this very soft way, the less successful you're going to be, bro, because it dulls your edge.
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It makes you think things should be a certain way for you when you've picked a completely different
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fucking path. And then you end up in this situation where you're extremely frustrated because you're
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like, well, I should feel peaceful, but I'm fucking, this is so hard. No, you're trying to mix the rules
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of two different fucking games, bro. You understand? Like, dude, this, this is, this confuses the fuck out of
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people. And dude, it ain't it. It just ain't. You got every fucking fuck face on the internet telling people how to
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win and they never fucking won. I don't, I don't know what to tell you, man. It's real, bro. Yeah. Like it's, it gets
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frustrating, dude. Yeah. Just because you don't like the rules doesn't mean they aren't the rules.
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That's real, man. Guys, let's get, uh, let's get another question in, bro. Uh, guys, any question
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number two, Andy, I could really use your perspective on something. Uh, so I've been with a
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company for seven years and worked my way up from store manager to area manager, and now into upper
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management along the way. I've taken on everything from hiring onboarding and training to employee
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development. And I've become the person people turn to when something needs to get done. Uh, the company
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has grown from four stores to 17 during my time here. Uh, and I've always stepped up without hesitation
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when the business needed me, here's where I'm struggling. I just found out that two of my male
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peers who started about the same time as me, um, and were promoted earlier are making more than I am.
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And their bonus percentage is 15% higher. Now keep in mind, I am paid very well. I feel very greedy
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even, uh, even feeling this way. Um, I've never believed gender played a role in my career, but
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seeing this has really shaken me. I've always given 110%, um, and never let money, uh, stop me from
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doing what's right for the company. But now that I know I'm being compensated less while doing just as
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much, if not more, um, I really mean I'm doing a shit ton more. I find it harder to keep going the
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extra mile. What would you do in my situation? Uh, well, are you sure it has to do with gender or are they
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better negotiators than you? Do they voice their frustrations better than you? You said, Oh, I don't
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want to be greedy. Well, you've obviously felt that for a while that you probably needed to make more
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money. Why have you not said anything? Why have you not gone in and say, Hey, Joe and Steve make
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more than me and I'm kicking their fucking asses. If you're so bad ass, why the fuck are you not doing
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that? Okay. I would say it probably has little to do with gender. And I would say it probably has a
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lot to do with lack of communication because if you had come to me and, and these are assuming
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everything you said was true facts. Okay. Assuming all was true and you are highly influential and
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very much a part of my company going from four stores to 17 stores, I'm taking care of you.
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Yeah. I'm going to fucking make sure you got what you need. And not only am I going to make sure you
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got what you need, I'm going to make sure you got more than what you need because I don't want you
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worried about shit. I want you worried about what we're doing here. Okay. And that's the way people
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treat valuable employees. And you know, it's, it's completely different than, than non-valuable
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employees, non-valuable employees, take up space, air, and resources, valuable employees are
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investments. You fucking make sure that they don't go anywhere. Okay. And if the company's not doing
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that, it means two things, either one, you're not vocal enough about what it is that you're doing
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and you're not tooting your own horn to the people who matter, meaning not your peers. You don't go
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around to your peers. I'm the fucking best. That's cancer. That's not leadership. I don't
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think you do that because you wouldn't have been able to grow the way that you said you've
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grown by doing that. And the other one is, is that, uh, you know, you need to take that
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into your superiors and say, Hey, because nobody's going to toot your fucking horn unless you toot
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it. And I would have my fucking stats. I would have my data. I would have my KPIs and I would
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have my case made for why I should be making more money. And I would be prepared to leave
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if they didn't give it to me. That's the truth. Oh, that's a tough one. Yeah. Well, there's
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plenty of companies that hire someone like that. You fucking come work for me. If you really did
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all that shit, I'm always looking for people that build shit. Okay. That's assuming what you
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said was facts. Okay. Because also I'm going to say a lot of times people believe they're more
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valuable than they actually are. And they will take credit for things in companies, not realizing
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that those same things would have happened with or without them. So, you know, I don't know if
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you're that kind of a person or not, but I'm going to take you at your word and say, you were highly
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responsible for this. It's either a, um, you're not tooting your own horn or B you're probably in
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the wrong company. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Dude. I mean, one thing I was thinking too,
00:25:03.980
like, could it also be to that? Like Steve and you know, Joe dirt or whoever, like they
00:25:10.160
are bringing other things to the table that you're not aware of that, you know, is bringing
00:25:14.120
value somehow. Everybody likes to go to this fucking gender race fucking shit. I don't
00:25:21.220
give, listen, I want to win. People who run companies want to fucking win. The competition
00:25:29.260
is hard. It's very, it's the hardest fucking thing ever. Do you really fucking think that
00:25:36.300
somebody is going to risk not succeeding when they have their whole life and their whole
00:25:41.440
financial future and their whole thing on whether or not the motherfuckers are male or
00:25:45.800
a female or fucking black or white or fucking this or that. Those people don't last in business
00:25:50.840
because they're fucking stupid. Okay. I want the best motherfucking players. It's, it's
00:25:57.420
like the NFL dude. I don't give a fuck, bro. If we got a tailback and it happens to be a
00:26:02.600
woman and she can run faster than anybody else and run the fuck over everybody. I'm putting
00:26:06.200
her in a fucking game, bro. Yeah. Like dude, no one gives a fuck. That's the shit people that
00:26:12.820
have excuses say. That's the shit that people say when they, you know, look at things and
00:26:19.320
they're like, Oh, this isn't fucking fair. It's not fair. That's why you have to be so
00:26:24.420
fucking good and so undeniable that when the conversation comes up, it's like, I'm taking
00:26:31.500
fucking Pat Mahomes, bro. It's, it's Pat Mahomes. Yeah. Like it is what it is. I'm not fucking
00:26:36.620
losing. That's undeniable. And people don't realize when we talk about undeniable, we're not
00:26:42.800
talking about a little bit better. We're talking about so much better than every motherfucker
00:26:47.340
that walks in that building, whether they work there or don't work there, understand
00:26:51.400
who the motherfucker is right when they walk in. That is undeniable. Undeniable is a thousand
00:26:57.800
steps above everybody else. It is not slightly above. Okay. Not close. No. So, you know, look,
00:27:07.600
I don't think it's cause of gender. Your boss wants to fucking win. They're growing the company.
00:27:14.260
They went from four to 17 stores. They want to win. Okay. So if you're that, if you're that much
00:27:21.880
of a key of the equation, he's going to recognize, or she's going to recognize that they need to
00:27:26.640
fucking pay you. And if, if they don't, and you really are that person, they're fucking stupid.
00:27:33.260
Okay. And you know, but I think it probably has to do with you not making a case for yourself the
00:27:40.560
way they maybe have done. Yeah. And I'm going to, I'm going to ask you that too, because like,
00:27:43.660
you know, dude, let me tell you something. Yeah. Mo now, most people who run companies will not
00:27:49.700
pay someone unless they ask. Okay. And most employees are uncomfortable asking, which creates
00:27:59.920
this dynamic of frustration. Okay. And so the employee doesn't communicate. It's unreasonable
00:28:05.980
expectations. The, the, the employee doesn't communicate. The boss feels like everything's
00:28:11.560
cool. And then all of a sudden the employee fucking bounces. They fucking underpaid me. They
00:28:16.480
fucked me. They bullshit. You fucked you. You didn't fucking say a goddamn word. You just sat
00:28:21.520
there and took it. If you got a problem with what you're getting paid, you should make a fucking
00:28:25.460
undeniable case. Why is you get paid more? And you should take it to your leadership. That's the
00:28:30.180
truth, but it has to be real. It has to be stats. It has to be data. It cannot be. I think I'm doing
00:28:37.180
better than everybody else. I feel it. Yeah. Yeah. Fuck. I work hard. I show up on time. Yeah. You're
00:28:43.300
supposed to bitch. Like, fuck. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Look, go tell them what you want.
00:28:56.740
Period. Yeah. Like, yeah, I do. I was thinking this too, man. Cause like, again, like I'm with
00:29:02.600
you pretty much every day, bro. Like, and I see what you have to go through. Like, dude, there's a
00:29:07.460
major, there's a major lesson in, in the development of an employee to teach them that
00:29:14.440
they have to do what I just said to their own horn. Hold on. No, they've got to make a case
00:29:20.200
data, reality, statistics, points on the board, a real case. Why do you think that is important
00:29:31.140
for an employee's development? Because eventually you're going to have to negotiate deals and
00:29:36.440
eventually you're going to have to handle finances if you continue to move up the chain. And so
00:29:41.800
an intelligent leader will not fucking give someone a raise until they make a case for
00:29:48.060
it because it, it's part of their development. That's a whole nother play there. Yeah.
00:29:53.640
No, I was just thinking, I think, I think too, along your lines though, of just like the
00:29:56.800
disconnection though, it's like, there's a, there's a false assumption that like, you know,
00:30:02.040
that your owner or your operator, whoever is supposed to know and be aware of all these
00:30:06.480
interests, like in every little space, you just grew from four to 17 stores. How many
00:30:10.780
more employees is that? And so he's supposed to, all right, Hey, Hey, yeah, yeah. Come
00:30:14.940
in here. I know, you know, you ain't said nothing in a while. Let me, bro. I had an employee
00:30:18.060
recently come up to me and tell me that they, they, that they weren't being treated fairly
00:30:22.040
and all this shit. Right. And I'm like, well, I don't, how much do you get paid? I don't even
00:30:29.820
fucking know. Right. You know, I don't know. I have no idea. Exactly. Exactly. Exactly.
00:30:36.080
That's what, that's my point. It's like being tapped in and I'm like, it's not fair. Well,
00:30:39.180
have you brought that to anybody? Well, no, no. Have you said anything to anybody? No.
00:30:44.000
Right. Have you? Well, what the fuck man? Right. Right. Right. And that's where they
00:30:49.080
go and build their own stories and they start believing. And then it's you fuck them.
00:30:52.900
Yeah. Right. Right. When we like, dude, no offense to this woman here, but she's already
00:30:56.740
started to build that story. She's already started to build the story that the reason
00:31:00.520
she's not paid equally is because she's a woman, which data nationally does not actually
00:31:06.180
back that up at all. True. Okay. So you're making a story in your head that may not be
00:31:11.860
true. And if it is true, it means you work for a shitty company because a real company that
00:31:15.520
wants to fucking win doesn't give a fuck who, what color, race, gender. I don't give a fuck,
00:31:21.920
bro. I'm on here every day talking about, I don't care. Winners win. Winners win, bro.
00:31:28.840
And the best player plays and the people who own companies want to fucking grow and make
00:31:33.060
money. And they're going to put like, this whole idea is so absurd to me. Oh, you're
00:31:38.500
discriminating against me because I'm black. What the fuck are you talking about, bro?
00:31:42.700
I want to fucking win. Can you do the job? You show up late to work, bro. Like, what do
00:31:46.560
you want me to do? Oh, well. Sorry, that's for tomorrow. Sorry. Listen, that's not exclusive
00:31:54.720
to any race. That's a character thing. Yeah, for sure. And, you know, and then people will
00:31:59.300
show up on time for fucking six months. I'm like, I didn't fucking showed up on time for
00:32:03.020
six months. It's like, yeah, that's how you don't get fired. That's the baseline. That's
00:32:08.160
not extra. Yeah, it's baseline. That's real, man. Fuck. That's real. I love it, man. We got
00:32:13.480
one more question, bro. Final question. Guys, Andy, question number three. Andy, I have
00:32:20.060
always been able to go after anything I wanted and getting it by working hard and relying
00:32:27.240
on myself. I've never felt like I needed anyone else for anything. However, as a business
00:32:34.500
owner to a service plumbing company, I've come to realize that I do need others for my
00:32:40.200
success. I need customers to want to do business with my company. I need them to trust me that
00:32:45.400
I will fix their issues efficiently and for a fair price. I need them to refer me to others.
00:32:50.520
I need them to entrust my abilities and allow me to show them that I am an honest business
00:32:55.260
owner and that I will conduct myself in a professional manner. I need suppliers to trust
00:32:59.920
me and give me accounts that will allow my business to be competitive within the industry.
00:33:03.740
So my question is, how do I internally accept the fact that I need others to help me so that I can
00:33:11.740
become successful? I struggle with needing anyone and being vulnerable and even more so conducting
00:33:18.040
myself in the manner of needing others. I do not want to come off as a struggling business, but
00:33:23.400
Jesus Christ, bro, this is the most ridiculous shit I've ever fucking heard. Okay, I'm just going
00:33:27.500
to stop you right here. What the fuck are you talking about? Are you going to go play in the NFL
00:33:32.080
and run the fucking football down the field by yourself? You get fucking killed. Business is a
00:33:36.620
team sport. Part of being successful is working with other people. In fact, it's the main part.
00:33:42.340
You can't do everything on yourself. That's a small minded mentality and it's also an insecure
00:33:47.100
mentality. No one thinks you're vulnerable because fucking are struggling business because you do what
00:33:52.940
everybody else in the world does and fucking work with people. Right. Like that's fucking insane,
00:33:57.300
bro. Do you know, do you, do you, do you understand how ridiculous that fucking sounds?
00:34:01.640
It's insane. You're going to be the only person ever to build a fucking awesome plumbing company by
00:34:06.060
yourself. No customers. Like what the fuck are you talking about, dude? Okay. Let me give you the
00:34:12.920
answer to your question. It's real simple. Change your perspective, change your framework from this.
00:34:19.380
I don't need any people. I'm a big, tough guy. I could handle myself. I can do all this shit to
00:34:26.120
this. I love working with people. I fucking love talking to customers. I love the people I go to
00:34:32.320
work with. I love my vendors. I love my suppliers. I dude, every time you see him be excited. Hey DJ,
00:34:41.000
what's up, man? You know, how's business for you? Your day will be so much more fulfilling and so much
00:34:47.500
more fun and you will make so much more money by just changing your perspective from I'm a big,
00:34:54.500
tough guy. I got to fucking do everything on my own. And otherwise I'm a bitch to man. This is so
00:35:00.920
cool. I get to do all this great shit with all these awesome people every day, dude. I could be
00:35:05.740
working by myself, being miserable and not having anybody to talk to. I get to wake up today and I get
00:35:11.080
to go to work and I get to see this person and that person. And I get to talk to them about this,
00:35:15.040
that, this like, bro, that's a fucking privilege. Not everybody has that man. And like, I'm going
00:35:22.200
to tell you this, the times I've struggled in business the most are the times I've lied to
00:35:27.060
myself about what I have to do. I look at it like, fuck, I got to go in and I got to handle this
00:35:32.400
problem or I got to this and this and this. And now as I've gotten older, I've started to see it
00:35:36.800
like this. You know what? This guy's such an idiot for doing this, but like, he's a young
00:35:42.420
guy. He doesn't fucking know. So now I get to help him and I get to save him from doing this
00:35:46.120
shit later on. You know, I changed my framework. Yes. So you got to change your frame, dude. And
00:35:52.580
you got to realize that like the, I'm going to tell you guys this too. Let me, I'm going
00:35:56.300
to be really fucking honest. I've made a fuck ton of money. Everybody knows that it's no
00:36:01.180
secret. I'm very wealthy. I've been very successful in almost everything I've done since
00:36:08.120
the time I was 19 years old. The best part of that entire journey is the people you get
00:36:18.720
to do it with. It's the people you get, it's the vendors, it's the customers, it's the people
00:36:24.540
you talk to, the relationships you build, the friends you make. It's the best. It's
00:36:31.060
the best part of it. So just embrace it, dude. And stop thinking like overanalyzing yourself.
00:36:38.600
Like you're not going to be the first person that does this on your own. Nobody's going
00:36:42.480
to think you're vulnerable or weak because you're doing things that everybody else in
00:36:47.200
the history of fucking earth has had to do, bro. You get what I'm saying? This is an ego
00:36:53.020
problem. You need to humble yourself. Okay. You think you're fucking so good and so strong
00:36:58.000
and so tough and so independent. You probably were raised by an old school fucking man who
00:37:04.560
said this shit. Blue collar man who said, Oh, real man doesn't. Okay, cool. You're trying
00:37:10.640
to do something different, bro. And, and the truth of the matter is those people are fucking
00:37:14.840
miserable. Nobody likes them. They don't have friends. They walk around grumpy all the time.
00:37:20.560
They walk around being kind of dicks, you know? Nope. Like, you know, it's like the
00:37:26.240
motherfucker you meet. We all know the type. Hey man, what's up? How you doing? Well, living
00:37:31.480
the dream. It's like, all right, well fuck off then. You know, like, you know, I mean,
00:37:37.460
that's the truth. So like, dude, you got to change your frame, man. And the cool thing
00:37:43.060
is, is once you start treating people like that, not only are you having more fun and you're
00:37:46.600
happier, more fulfilled, but you're way more successful because those people want to help
00:37:51.060
you. You know what I'm saying? Bro, winning is a team fucking sport. Okay. Even when it's
00:37:56.240
not a team sport, it's a team sport. Tennis, team sport or no? Yes. Coaches, travel, training
00:38:03.160
organization, trainers, recovery, team sport, race car driving, individual or team sport.
00:38:09.660
Massive teams. That's right. You've seen it up firsthand. Okay. People don't fucking think
00:38:15.220
like that. Yeah. Okay. There is not anything out here that you can win at a high level on
00:38:20.160
your own. It's impossible. Nothing. I can't think of anything. Fucking you. Oh, you're an
00:38:25.100
accomplished author. Okay. Well, who edited the book? Who marketed the book? Who did this?
00:38:29.480
Who published it? Yeah. It's team. Yeah. It's always team, bro. You can't win without it.
00:38:34.700
All right. So bro, humble yourself like for real. Realize that you, you, you can, you're not
00:38:43.340
weak. You're not a bitch. You don't struggle. You're doing business and business requires
00:38:48.960
relationships and relationships. When seeing through the right lens are very fulfilling
00:38:54.360
and fun. And when you're having fun, you make more money. It's just the truth. Okay.
00:39:00.680
So stop that stupid ass shit. That's the dumbest shit I ever heard, bro. I love it. Yeah.
00:39:07.440
I mean, shit, man. You know, I want you guys to win, dude. Like, this is why I do this stuff.
00:39:11.840
You know, I don't do, you know, I don't show, I'm not a, I'm not a, like, I don't show my
00:39:16.860
shit and cars and life. And I want you to see what the fuck is at the other end. If you
00:39:22.240
want it, you know, and that doesn't come from doing things on your own or trying to have
00:39:30.300
balance like everybody else. Like, dude, Tom Brady's life and Joe, the fucking plumber's
00:39:40.860
life look two different ways. And whatever outcome you're desiring requires a certain
00:39:48.140
path. And when you try to fill your head with information from everybody who's on a different
00:39:53.540
path, that's only going to fuck you up mentally. Okay. And you have to realize that dude, as
00:39:59.220
an entrepreneur, as someone who's ambitious, as someone who has big goals, you know, the
00:40:03.900
data says, oh, 10% of people are entrepreneurs. No, they're not. It's like, serious entrepreneur
00:40:10.460
is like 2%. Okay. Everybody likes to say they're an entrepreneur. I own a fucking, you know, a
00:40:16.840
drop shipping. Like, dude, no, no, listen, people are not going to understand, dude. They're not
00:40:25.420
going to understand. And by the way, they don't want to understand. Stop explaining yourself.
00:40:32.500
Stop worrying about what they think. They do not give a fuck about your reasons for doing
00:40:39.120
it. They want to talk you out of doing it so they can feel better about not doing it
00:40:43.680
themselves. So you have to stop listening to everything and everyone and reading all this
00:40:50.960
stupid shit on the internet about healthy balance and this and that and this, because it's going
00:40:56.340
to get you into a place you don't want to be. And then you're going to look around and be
00:40:59.640
like, why the fuck did I never get where I wanted to go? Wouldn't you rather just get
00:41:14.000
I got nothing else, dude. It's just like, I love it. It's like, fuck. Like, I just don't
00:41:18.800
understand this. I just don't understand this mentality, dude. I don't understand this mentality
00:41:23.040
of I want to be a pro football player, but I want to work like I'm, you know, selling
00:41:29.780
snow cones. Like, what are you talking about, man? And by myself. Yes. Like, what are you
00:41:34.400
talking about? You're talking about two different things. Stop trying to take the actions of
00:41:40.060
everybody else and think you're going to have an exceptional result. Everybody else talks
00:41:44.420
about all this shit. And you, if you talk and think like them, you're going to be like
00:41:48.340
them. It's not that hard to understand. You got to, if you want to win, you better listen
00:41:53.280
to motherfuckers of built real shit. Not some asshole who's just selling you some nonsense
00:41:56.740
on the internet. Yeah. That's real, bro. I love it, dude. Yeah. I love it too. But like,
00:42:02.380
I want to, sometimes I want to fucking grab you motherfuckers by the hair and look you in
00:42:07.240
the eyes and be like, what the fuck are you thinking? Yeah. Like it's not that hard, bro.
00:42:13.220
It's really not. It's really not. You just have to understand you are on a different path
00:42:20.060
than everybody else. You are on a different path. You can't listen to your mom. You can't
00:42:25.920
listen to your aunt. You can't listen to your cousin. You can't listen to your friends.
00:42:30.380
You're on a different path, bro. And it takes different actions and it takes different thoughts
00:42:34.060
and it takes a different kind of life. And that life ain't for everybody. And if it ain't
00:42:37.900
for you, that's okay too. But you're not going to get the X, the, the excellent, uh, exceptional
00:42:44.340
result with, you know, like there's a saying, bro, you're not going to get a million dollar
00:42:49.380
result with fucking minimum, minimum wage work ethic. It's not going to fucking happen.
00:42:53.840
No, that's real, bro. All right. Well, that's a hell of a way to start a week. Yeah. Yeah.
00:42:59.640
Stop, stop being ridiculous guys. Like, I feel like I just yelled at everybody for fucking
00:43:05.460
40 minutes. They love it though. They like, they like it. Yeah. It's fine. We got a bunch
00:43:09.340
of fucking weirdos. All right. Listen, I just want you guys to win, bro. And I want you guys
00:43:14.140
to know the reality of it. And I want you to understand that most of these people out here
00:43:17.280
aren't telling you because their idea of winning is how to sell you some sort of solution that
00:43:24.220
isn't even fucking real, man. Anyway. All right. CPI tomorrow. Go on and kick ass.
00:43:32.400
Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a pole. Fuck a stove. Counted
00:43:38.120
millions in the cold. Bad bitch. Booted swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold. Doesn't know.