REAL AF with Andy Frisella - September 02, 2025


932. Real Talkļ¼š The Illusion of Permission (Nobody Owes You The Starting Line)


Episode Stats

Length

17 minutes

Words per Minute

152.31476

Word Count

2,688

Sentence Count

188

Misogynist Sentences

2

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary

In this episode, I give you 5 points that will help you be productive in your 20's and 30's so you don't become one of those people who waste their entire life saying "Tomorrow" and ends up wasting their entire year.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists.
00:00:20.320 Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society and welcome to
00:00:24.480 motherfucking reality.
00:00:25.860 Guys, today we have a real talk.
00:00:29.500 Now I know, I know yesterday I said that we were going to have CTI today, but DJ and Alex
00:00:38.560 decided that they were going to have their baby, so it just totally fucked up our whole
00:00:43.780 schedule and he's probably going to get fired, you know, but it's all good because I'm going
00:00:49.100 to carry the water like I always do and I'm going to give you a real talk today.
00:00:53.480 You know, as I'm recording this, it is September 1st, okay?
00:01:01.940 And I've seen a lot of people online talking about how, oh my God, it's September 1st or,
00:01:11.860 oh, I can't believe it's September 1st and they've wasted their whole year, okay?
00:01:22.140 And that is something that really I'm confused by because the reality is, is that people come
00:01:30.580 along every single year, they say they're going to make these changes, they say they're going
00:01:35.260 to do these things, they say they're going to become all these things that they really
00:01:39.700 want to become and they never, ever do it, okay?
00:01:44.860 And I want to talk to the young people about this real quick because a lot of you guys
00:01:50.220 who are older, you're going to do this your whole life.
00:01:54.080 You're going to do this from now until you're in the hole, all right?
00:01:58.160 And I can't fix some of you guys, but what I can do is I can tell the young people out here
00:02:06.800 the truth of what it's going to take to succeed.
00:02:10.600 And today I have just five little points I want to make to you guys, for you young guys
00:02:17.220 that will help you be productive so you don't become one of these people who waste year after
00:02:25.360 year after year saying tomorrow and, you know, ends up wasting their entire life, which happens
00:02:33.080 all the time, okay?
00:02:35.460 I used to think just like you, that someone was going to come down from the heavens and
00:02:42.180 give me permission.
00:02:43.780 I used to think that someone who was more successful than me was going to come to me and say, Andy,
00:02:49.360 I really believe you have what it takes.
00:02:52.300 Let me take you under my wing and show you how to do this.
00:02:55.360 I believed that success was some sort of club that you got invited into, but it's not, okay?
00:03:06.140 Nobody is going to give you the opportunity.
00:03:10.240 Nobody is going to open the door.
00:03:13.220 You are going to have to break it the fuck down.
00:03:18.080 That is what you have to understand, okay?
00:03:21.860 This idea of waiting, this idea of just hoping that the world works with everything that we
00:03:30.160 want and eventually time will produce this life that we actually want is bullshit.
00:03:36.660 You have to make it happen on your own.
00:03:40.240 And I am speaking to the young people out here.
00:03:43.760 I am speaking to those people who think they have unlimited time.
00:03:48.840 Who think they have a long life.
00:03:52.580 Look, dude, I remember being 22 like it was yesterday.
00:03:57.800 Like it was yesterday.
00:03:59.200 And I know that sounds like some old man shit, but the truth of the matter is it goes fast
00:04:05.860 and you don't have as much time as you think.
00:04:08.060 You just don't.
00:04:09.500 Okay?
00:04:10.140 So the first point is this.
00:04:14.660 Life doesn't give a fuck how young you are.
00:04:17.600 It doesn't care how experienced you are.
00:04:19.460 It doesn't care where you're at.
00:04:20.860 It doesn't care where you came from.
00:04:24.220 None of the shit matters.
00:04:25.760 Okay?
00:04:26.260 And you have to understand no matter what you've been told, no matter what you've been taught,
00:04:31.480 the world does not reward mediocre performance.
00:04:36.280 Okay?
00:04:36.620 It does not hand out participation trophies.
00:04:40.140 No matter how special your teacher said you were, no matter how special your parents say
00:04:45.540 you might be, the world doesn't give a shit.
00:04:48.880 All right?
00:04:49.960 It doesn't care if you don't know anything.
00:04:52.480 It doesn't care if you're trying to figure it out.
00:04:54.880 It doesn't take it easy on you because you're inexperienced.
00:04:58.740 Okay?
00:04:59.100 The clock is ticking no matter what.
00:05:01.940 And you have to understand that when you are young, you have this ridiculous opportunity
00:05:08.920 to get ahead because typically you don't have the same amount of commitments.
00:05:13.220 You don't have the same amount of responsibilities.
00:05:16.040 And unfortunately, we have these people online telling these young people, hey, man, you can
00:05:22.140 use your 20s to fucking do whatever you want.
00:05:24.880 Sure, you can, except then your 30s are going to be a fucking hustle show that you're going
00:05:31.340 to hate because you're going to have to put 20 years of work into 10 to get where you are.
00:05:35.980 And then most people quit and never become what it is they want to become.
00:05:40.100 So you have to understand that just because you're 20 years old, just because you're 25 does
00:05:47.000 not give you the excuse to coast.
00:05:49.620 You should be using this time to be productive and to learn and to try and figure out legitimately
00:05:57.160 what it is you're trying to do.
00:05:59.720 That doesn't mean I'm going to go to a visa four times a year and fuck off.
00:06:04.880 What it means is you're going to think about things.
00:06:07.480 You're going to analyze things.
00:06:08.520 You're going to take actions.
00:06:09.520 You're going to fail.
00:06:10.140 You're going to learn.
00:06:10.800 You're going to get better.
00:06:11.520 And you're going to build a fucking skill set when you're still young.
00:06:15.920 There is no bigger advantage to you than that.
00:06:19.620 OK, I am very, very fortunate that during my 20s, I took my shit relatively serious.
00:06:28.060 I could have went way harder.
00:06:29.760 I could have tried a lot harder.
00:06:31.400 I could have been dedicated.
00:06:32.500 But at the end of the day, I was doing something.
00:06:35.000 And that's something got me here.
00:06:37.700 And according to a lot of you, you want to be a version of that.
00:06:41.000 And I'm going to tell you right now, you cannot do that by saying, oh, I got time.
00:06:46.460 Oh, I got time.
00:06:47.800 Oh, you know what?
00:06:48.440 I'm only 20.
00:06:49.140 I got time.
00:06:50.380 No, you don't.
00:06:51.920 Not if you got big dreams.
00:06:53.360 Not if you got legendary aspirations.
00:06:57.120 OK, and you don't want to be one of these douchebags that leases a Huracan for 144 months
00:07:02.740 and think you made it.
00:07:04.380 I'm talking about real success.
00:07:06.200 I'm talking about 360 success.
00:07:08.160 I'm talking about building the fucking life that you are so motherfucking proud of that
00:07:13.320 you can't be shaken from who the fuck you are.
00:07:18.020 OK, life doesn't care if you're young.
00:07:22.220 That's the first point.
00:07:23.940 OK, the second point I want you to understand is this talent is not enough.
00:07:28.680 OK, you could be smart.
00:07:30.460 You could be intelligent.
00:07:31.400 You could be creative.
00:07:32.680 You could have all the ideas in the world.
00:07:35.020 You could be full of potential.
00:07:36.860 And nobody gives a fuck until you actually build something real.
00:07:41.300 OK, action always beats potential every single motherfucking time.
00:07:46.980 Hard workers will beat talented people that don't work.
00:07:50.480 We've all heard the saying.
00:07:52.140 We've all heard it right.
00:07:54.240 Hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work.
00:07:56.680 Well, most of the fucking talent out there doesn't work.
00:08:00.180 OK, and by the way, you probably don't have that much talent.
00:08:05.700 And the good news is you don't need it.
00:08:08.980 All you need to do is show up every motherfucking day, refuse to quit and then be smart enough to
00:08:16.900 learn from your mistakes and hopefully learn from the mistakes of the people you compete with.
00:08:23.840 And if you can do those things and apply those lessons moving forward and never fucking allow
00:08:30.460 yourself to quit because you built yourself into a fucking machine of discipline and grit and
00:08:37.520 fortitude and endurance, you can't be stopped.
00:08:41.840 You cannot be stopped.
00:08:43.600 OK, so don't get upset that you don't have all the talent.
00:08:48.480 Don't get upset that you got to struggle.
00:08:51.400 Every motherfucker out there that ever became what it is that you might admire came from
00:08:57.360 struggle, came from hardship.
00:08:59.600 They did not have it easy like you think they did, like society says they did.
00:09:04.880 Most of the most successful people in the world had to fight every motherfucking step,
00:09:09.600 which is why they are who they are.
00:09:12.300 So quit thinking because it's hard for you.
00:09:15.400 You got screwed over.
00:09:16.520 You didn't.
00:09:17.320 You got blessed with an opportunity to become great.
00:09:21.540 OK, point number three.
00:09:24.440 Everyone starts ugly.
00:09:27.600 Fucking all of them.
00:09:29.040 OK, nobody knows what they're doing in the beginning.
00:09:31.820 We all look stupid.
00:09:33.300 We're all afraid of getting laughed at.
00:09:35.260 And guess what?
00:09:36.100 We do.
00:09:36.880 But what's worse, getting laughed at or being a fucking loser your entire life?
00:09:44.100 I'll tell you this.
00:09:45.400 I got laughed at the entire time I've been doing this.
00:09:49.680 I get laughed at now.
00:09:51.440 You see the motherfucking comments.
00:09:53.680 You see what people say.
00:09:55.220 I do not give a fuck if someone laughs at me, bro, because you know what?
00:10:02.720 When I walk the fuck out of my house, I get in a fucking Bugatti or another Bugatti or whatever
00:10:09.340 the fuck else I want.
00:10:10.640 And I go to my place of business, which I love and build amazing shit with people I love
00:10:17.320 and create the ultimate life that I've always dreamed about creating, not just for me, but
00:10:23.340 for everyone around me.
00:10:25.340 So I don't give two shits who laughs at it.
00:10:28.340 I don't care.
00:10:29.680 And you shouldn't either.
00:10:31.440 Losers laugh.
00:10:32.660 Winners build.
00:10:33.860 That's the reality.
00:10:35.340 So when we think about how it's going to be along the way, you cannot expect yourself
00:10:41.760 to be great at something when you haven't put in the fucking time or the reps or the energy.
00:10:47.740 It's not going to happen.
00:10:49.760 And I want you to think about this.
00:10:51.820 How arrogant are you to think that you're going to be great at something from the start
00:10:58.320 when all the people you admire had to struggle for years and years and years to get to that point?
00:11:05.700 Do you not understand how arrogant that sounds?
00:11:08.760 You're telling me you're better than all those people?
00:11:10.980 You have more talent than all those people?
00:11:13.200 You get to skip the fucking struggle because of why?
00:11:16.900 Please explain it to me.
00:11:20.000 Because it's bullshit.
00:11:22.240 We all start ugly.
00:11:24.780 We all get our asses kicked.
00:11:26.900 We all get laughed at.
00:11:28.640 We all get made fun of.
00:11:30.320 It's part of the process.
00:11:33.720 And you can't avoid it.
00:11:36.140 Point number four.
00:11:37.120 You have to stop asking advice from people who haven't done what it is you want to do.
00:11:45.080 If your mom or your dad or your uncle or your aunt or your teachers or fucking anyone hasn't done what it is you want to do,
00:11:56.000 you shouldn't listen to them about how to do it because they don't know.
00:12:02.840 And it is no different for all these knuckleheads on the internet selling you how to do this and how to do that.
00:12:10.140 Just because they might be in a better spot or appear to be in a better spot than you right now does not mean that they are actually successful.
00:12:22.040 When you start out in the game, it is easy to look at anybody who appears to have more things going on than you and attribute that to them knowing what they're doing.
00:12:34.500 That is not true, okay?
00:12:38.280 We live in this world of fucking smoke and mirrors, and people have figured out how to appear to be successful without actually being successful.
00:12:47.800 So it's very simple.
00:12:49.760 You have to vet where you're taking your lessons from.
00:12:53.720 If you don't do that, you will end up listening to someone who could potentially cost you everything.
00:13:01.600 And that happens over and over again for some people.
00:13:04.180 Because they simply can't vet their source.
00:13:07.200 They can't figure out that just because someone loves them doesn't mean they know how to win.
00:13:13.820 They can't figure out that just because someone has a fucking hurrican on the internet that these people know how to build a fucking business.
00:13:24.020 Okay?
00:13:24.480 You have to look beneath the surface.
00:13:28.140 What have they done?
00:13:29.620 What have they built?
00:13:30.880 What is their business?
00:13:32.240 Can I shop there?
00:13:33.340 Do they employ people?
00:13:35.220 What's the product like?
00:13:37.100 What's the customer experience like?
00:13:39.440 We could go on and on and on and on.
00:13:42.060 Is this actually real or is this smoke and mirrors?
00:13:46.500 Have they built any real shit or do they just sell courses on how to build real shit?
00:13:53.320 These are things that matter.
00:13:54.840 These are things that will cost you time and energy and effort over and over and over again.
00:14:01.400 And if you listen to too many of them, it will fucking crush you.
00:14:05.740 So you have to understand if they haven't done it, you shouldn't listen to them.
00:14:12.180 That doesn't mean you have to be rude.
00:14:14.080 It doesn't mean you have to be mean.
00:14:16.200 It doesn't mean you got to tell your parents to eat shit.
00:14:19.080 What it means very simply is put some fucking earplugs in when they start telling you how to do shit and understand if they knew how to do it, they would have fucking done it themselves.
00:14:28.360 Okay, and point number five, nobody is fucking coming.
00:14:35.500 Motivation fades.
00:14:37.140 Guidance is rare and it's often wrong.
00:14:40.960 Nobody's going to come wake you up and shake you out of bed and say, here's your critical tasks that you need to do today to become the version of yourself 10 years from now that you ultimately want to become.
00:14:53.060 Nobody's going to check up on you.
00:14:55.080 Nobody's going to hold your hand.
00:14:56.580 Nobody's going to pull you through the motherfucking fire.
00:14:59.900 Nobody.
00:15:01.420 Most of these people haven't even been through it themselves.
00:15:05.100 You're going to have to walk alone a lot of times.
00:15:08.300 You're going to have to make sacrifices.
00:15:10.840 You're going to have to understand for this big goal that you're trying to create, it's going to have a price.
00:15:18.120 That price is going to look different for everybody.
00:15:20.900 For some people, they're going to move on from their friends or their girlfriends and boyfriends or maybe even a wife and husband.
00:15:28.160 Who knows?
00:15:29.820 But winning is fucking hard.
00:15:32.220 And these things cost in real life.
00:15:35.320 But you have to understand, it doesn't matter how you feel.
00:15:44.640 It doesn't matter what people say to you.
00:15:47.660 It doesn't matter if they laugh at you.
00:15:50.180 It doesn't matter if you're tired, if you're sore, if you're beat up.
00:15:54.640 You're going to be all those things and all those things are going to happen.
00:15:58.200 You are going to have to build yourself into someone who can execute regardless.
00:16:05.400 And when you become that version of you who can do what needs to be done, regardless of what's going on in their life, regardless if they're tired, regardless if they're sore,
00:16:19.520 regardless if their husband yells at them or their wife yells at them, regardless if they have all the stress in the world bearing down onto their fucking head,
00:16:30.400 they still get up and execute.
00:16:34.640 They still move forward no matter what.
00:16:38.460 And if you can build yourself into someone who can behave that way, there is not a motherfucking thing on this planet that can stop you.
00:16:51.540 So you have to understand.
00:16:54.280 You have a choice.
00:16:56.160 You can be like everybody else.
00:16:58.540 You can live the life they live.
00:17:00.920 You can listen to them.
00:17:02.480 You can bullshit with them.
00:17:04.020 You can drink your life away and fuck your life away, or you can get real motherfucking serious right now.
00:17:11.260 And you can listen to someone who's actually done a lot of the things that you want to do.
00:17:16.140 And you could start today, right now, real fucking ugly and start building the life that you actually want.
00:17:24.760 Yeah.
00:17:34.020 Got her on bankroll, can't fold, just a no-head shot, case closed.