REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 985. Q&AF： Dealing With Pressure, Leading Without Losing Your Identity & Realigning Yourself

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00:02:31.000 What's happening, dude?

00:02:32.500 We're live tonight

00:02:33.180 I'm excited

00:02:34.440 You know

00:02:35.060 Yeah

00:02:35.640 Wait, you tired?

00:02:38.920 Yeah, I'm a little sleepy

00:02:39.660 Still waking up

00:02:40.340 It was a long night, man

00:02:43.280 Yeah

00:02:43.560 What'd you do?

00:02:45.380 It was mother-in-law's birthday

00:02:46.920 So we did a little shindig

00:02:49.820 And that turned to me being up till five this morning

00:02:53.220 Oh yeah?

00:02:53.720 Did you have a couple beverages?

00:02:55.200 I had a few beverages

00:02:56.120 Yeah?

00:02:56.660 Yeah, a few beverages

00:02:57.460 A few beverages by themselves

00:02:59.340 I don't miss that, bro

00:03:00.720 Yeah, no

00:03:01.340 No

00:03:01.900 I don't miss that feeling at all

00:03:03.480 I actually don't feel terrible

00:03:05.160 I'm just a little tired

00:03:06.060 I just don't like that cloudy feeling, man

00:03:08.080 Yeah

00:03:08.380 Yeah

00:03:09.300 This is the first show of 2026

00:03:14.260 When we come with Q&AF

00:03:15.960 Is it?

00:03:16.640 Yeah

00:03:16.920 Is it really?

00:03:19.020 Yeah

00:03:19.240 Shit

00:03:19.740 It is

00:03:20.280 No

00:03:20.700 On Q&AFs, yeah

00:03:22.460 Yeah

00:03:22.820 Shit, it is

00:03:24.580 Yeah

00:03:24.800 Maybe there is a little cloud, huh?

00:03:26.480 Yeah

00:03:26.640 Yeah, man

00:03:29.320 It is

00:03:29.880 It's, yeah

00:03:30.740 Well, it's great

00:03:31.700 And as always

00:03:34.140 Well, how are you doing?

00:03:35.300 You good?

00:03:36.040 Yeah

00:03:36.260 Yeah

00:03:36.720 Yeah

00:03:37.140 Feel good?

00:03:37.900 Playing good?

00:03:38.340 Look good?

00:03:39.500 Doing what I can do, man

00:03:40.820 75 hard's going?

00:03:42.420 Oh yeah, that's a thing

00:03:43.400 Fuck, a shit ton of people are starting 75 hard today

00:03:47.020 So, you know, if that's you, just know you're not alone

00:03:51.800 There is a ton

00:03:52.660 I think it's the biggest

00:03:53.500 I think it's the biggest amount we ever had started

00:03:56.280 Which is interesting because according to everybody else

00:03:59.020 It's a fad

00:04:00.000 It's dangerous

00:04:00.540 Fads don't continue to grow, bro

00:04:02.140 Great programs do

00:04:03.540 That's right

00:04:04.060 And that's why it has been, you know, as big as it has been for the last six years

00:04:10.200 It's because it fucking works

00:04:11.660 And, you know, this is the time of year where we see everybody try to attack 75 hard

00:04:19.200 And make adjustments

00:04:20.140 And, you know, hop on the hype train

00:04:22.540 And use it for traffic

00:04:23.660 And say they don't like it

00:04:25.560 Which is insane

00:04:26.740 Because if you have clients as a trainer

00:04:30.380 And you don't want them to actually get results

00:04:33.620 You're not a very good trainer

00:04:35.920 And the program is made for you to plug in all of your programming right along with it

00:04:41.340 So if I were a trainer

00:04:42.840 I would maybe recommend actually working with the program

00:04:47.080 It's not hurting you

00:04:48.140 It helps your clients

00:04:49.540 It helps them transform the ultimate issue

00:04:53.120 Which is their mind

00:04:54.280 And makes everybody's job a lot more effective

00:04:58.280 So, and if you see that kind of shit

00:05:01.320 Just let them know, bro

00:05:02.220 You know, we're getting to the point where people kind of know

00:05:06.140 Yeah

00:05:06.540 You know what I'm saying?

00:05:07.340 Oh, for sure

00:05:07.860 Like, you can't go to people who, you know, have completed Ironmans

00:05:14.340 And done Ironman training and has changed their fucking life

00:05:17.280 And say, oh yeah, Ironmans look shitty

00:05:19.720 That's not healthy for you

00:05:20.720 Right

00:05:20.980 Like

00:05:21.780 It's not sustainable

00:05:22.780 Yeah, whatever, dude

00:05:24.140 Oh yeah, by the way

00:05:25.680 Speaking of sustainable

00:05:27.300 This is literally the 10th anniversary of me losing 110 pounds

00:05:34.940 Okay

00:05:35.840 So

00:05:36.440 I'm keeping it off

00:05:37.260 Yeah

00:05:37.600 When I was 36 years old

00:05:39.200 I was 350 fucking pounds

00:05:41.120 Okay

00:05:41.820 And I've kept it off for 10 years

00:05:45.720 Using the principles of the program

00:05:48.000 So if we want to talk about what sustainable means

00:05:50.480 It's about correcting the issue and keeping it away

00:05:54.980 You know

00:05:55.640 That's right

00:05:56.360 It's interesting how people believe that

00:05:58.340 You know, you should just be able to go on a diet

00:06:01.440 And it'll fix it forever

00:06:03.260 That doesn't fix anything

00:06:04.800 Okay

00:06:05.440 That might change the physical

00:06:07.000 But until you change the mental

00:06:09.040 Until you figure out that this is a discipline problem

00:06:13.040 This is a mental toughness problem

00:06:14.740 And that these skills of discipline, grit, fortitude, perseverance

00:06:19.520 Mental toughness

00:06:21.020 These are perishable skills that you have to stay on top of over the course of your life

00:06:26.360 They're not just magically there for, you know

00:06:30.240 You do 75 days and it stays there forever

00:06:32.760 That's why the Live Hard program has multiple phases to it

00:06:37.060 Because you're going to do 75 days

00:06:39.040 Then you've got 30 days phase one

00:06:40.960 Then you have a mandatory break

00:06:42.440 And that mandatory break is so that you can realize that this isn't something that is fixed forever

00:06:49.160 Yeah, just how perishable that shit is

00:06:50.740 Correct

00:06:51.140 And if you don't practice it on a daily basis

00:06:53.460 It goes away very fast

00:06:55.320 Then it has another 30 day phase

00:06:58.140 Then it has another 30 day phase

00:07:00.040 At the end of your year

00:07:02.120 So this whole program is designed to keep you sharp throughout the year

00:07:06.440 Which is fucking sustainable

00:07:09.680 So it's, you know, it's just people that don't understand

00:07:13.420 Or, you know

00:07:14.320 You know what's not sustainable?

00:07:16.080 Paper straws

00:07:17.320 Yeah, I fucking noticed that

00:07:18.580 That's not

00:07:19.100 That's some bullshit

00:07:22.080 You saw Florida's banning them

00:07:23.480 Are they really?

00:07:24.760 Yeah

00:07:24.900 Good for them

00:07:25.320 Good for them

00:07:26.180 We should ban that shit everywhere

00:07:27.260 Do we do that here in Missouri?

00:07:30.580 No, no

00:07:31.220 I mean, some places do, right?

00:07:32.840 I don't go to those places

00:07:33.840 But we don't go to those places

00:07:35.240 Bro, paper straw is pretty much the worst thing ever

00:07:38.080 No, for sure

00:07:38.700 Like, it gets a little bit of liquid in it

00:07:40.440 And then it starts, like, coming apart

00:07:41.800 You gotta chug your shit in, like, three minutes, bro

00:07:43.540 Yeah, it's gross

00:07:44.020 Or you're fucked 0.93

00:07:44.300 It's fucking gross

00:07:45.120 And then, you know, if you don't chug your shit in three minutes 0.53

00:07:47.860 There's little pieces of straw floating in your drink

00:07:50.760 I don't want that

00:07:51.360 No, it's gross, dude

00:07:52.380 Yeah

00:07:53.220 Anyway

00:07:54.260 Yeah, we just ripped off a tangent there

00:07:56.740 Yeah

00:07:57.320 But yeah, man, guys

00:07:58.540 It's Monday

00:07:59.400 So let's make some people better

00:08:01.260 Let's do it

00:08:01.940 With three good ones

00:08:02.720 Okay

00:08:03.180 I have them for you

00:08:04.640 Alright, I know you do

00:08:05.780 Yeah

00:08:06.200 Let's get into these, man

00:08:08.480 Guys, Andy, question

00:08:09.440 Number one

00:08:10.960 Andy, I don't explode

00:08:14.180 But

00:08:15.520 I hold everything in

00:08:17.000 Stress, anger, resentment

00:08:18.960 I just bury it

00:08:20.120 And just keep moving

00:08:21.000 Lately

00:08:21.460 I can feel it leaking out

00:08:24.100 In weird ways

00:08:25.160 Like

00:08:25.500 I'm starting to be short with people

00:08:27.580 That I care about

00:08:28.420 How do you deal with the pressure

00:08:30.460 Without either blowing up

00:08:32.500 Or shutting down completely?

00:08:33.940 I guess

00:08:34.160 How do you handle those emotions

00:08:35.460 While you're in the building phases of life?

00:08:38.280 Well, first of all

00:08:39.020 We're always in the building phase of life

00:08:40.540 You don't get to a place where

00:08:42.060 Automatically you look around and say

00:08:43.800 Oh, okay, I'm done

00:08:44.900 That's like

00:08:45.780 This is the common misunderstanding of people

00:08:48.740 Whether it's your business

00:08:51.220 Whether it's your diet

00:08:52.360 Whether it's your training

00:08:53.540 Whether it's your personal relationships

00:08:55.500 Whether it's your spirituality

00:08:57.840 These things are always a work in progress

00:09:01.260 This idea

00:09:02.420 That typically comes from younger people 0.91

00:09:05.800 Because

00:09:06.160 And it's no fault of their own

00:09:07.860 They lack perspective

00:09:09.160 But they think they're going to get to a point

00:09:11.680 And everything's just going to be set

00:09:14.340 You know, like

00:09:15.420 Okay

00:09:15.880 We built the house

00:09:17.660 The house is done

00:09:18.660 Like that's not how your life works

00:09:21.140 Okay

00:09:21.760 Your life is always a work in progress

00:09:24.620 And so

00:09:25.240 We all go through these different learning lessons

00:09:29.340 At different points in time in our life

00:09:31.280 Nobody

00:09:32.340 Has it all figured out at 25

00:09:35.000 Or 35

00:09:35.880 Or 45

00:09:36.620 Or 55

00:09:37.420 Or even 85

00:09:38.920 Okay

00:09:39.780 My dad's 80 years old

00:09:41.200 He still learns new shit every single day

00:09:43.260 Alright

00:09:43.820 He's still working on things

00:09:45.900 He's still trying to improve

00:09:47.340 And I actually think

00:09:49.000 That that mentality

00:09:50.400 Is very parallel to people

00:09:53.220 Who live very long and productive lives

00:09:55.940 Alright

00:09:56.600 When people think they're done

00:09:59.080 And we see this all the time

00:10:00.380 Right

00:10:00.660 Like they sell their business

00:10:01.920 And they retire

00:10:02.740 And then, you know

00:10:03.600 In two years they're dead

00:10:04.860 Right

00:10:05.600 Or they're going to gain 200 fucking pounds

00:10:08.200 Yeah

00:10:08.600 Or

00:10:08.980 Miserable

00:10:10.500 You can take it on the other end of the spectrum

00:10:12.720 You know

00:10:13.560 The guy who

00:10:14.480 Was the all-American athlete

00:10:16.700 In high school and college

00:10:18.200 And then you see him at 30 years old

00:10:20.300 And he's 400 pounds

00:10:21.800 And broke

00:10:22.540 Okay

00:10:23.340 The minute you start thinking

00:10:25.280 That your life is complete

00:10:26.780 Is the minute it starts falling apart

00:10:28.580 And so we have to understand

00:10:30.320 That this is a process

00:10:32.120 That never ends

00:10:33.600 And once you accept that

00:10:35.320 Once you accept that

00:10:36.340 That's the way it's going to be

00:10:37.980 It stops hurting

00:10:39.760 It stops feeling like

00:10:41.420 You're behind

00:10:42.300 It stops feeling like

00:10:43.720 You know

00:10:44.460 That friction

00:10:45.680 Yeah

00:10:46.040 Like you just have to understand the game

00:10:48.460 And the biggest thing

00:10:49.620 That people struggle with

00:10:51.000 Is trying to play

00:10:52.980 A different game

00:10:54.020 Outside of the reality

00:10:55.540 Of how it works

00:10:56.380 We can listen to

00:10:58.260 You know

00:10:58.800 Mary Take It Easy 0.84

00:11:01.100 Therapy Lady 0.99

00:11:01.960 On the internet

00:11:02.640 And we can listen to

00:11:03.760 David Goggins

00:11:04.560 And we can listen to

00:11:05.840 Andy

00:11:06.280 And we can listen to

00:11:07.220 Fucking Tony

00:11:07.920 And we can listen to

00:11:08.740 All these guys

00:11:09.400 But at the end of the day bro

00:11:11.360 The truth is the truth

00:11:12.860 And the system works the way it is

00:11:14.940 And reality is reality

00:11:16.220 Reality is

00:11:17.560 The same for you

00:11:18.720 As it is for me

00:11:19.920 No different than gravity

00:11:21.840 Okay

00:11:22.440 If we

00:11:23.180 We can argue about

00:11:25.060 How gravity is

00:11:26.100 You can say

00:11:27.280 Oh it's not that real

00:11:28.440 And I can say

00:11:29.000 No it's pretty real

00:11:29.900 And we can go outside

00:11:31.600 And you're going to fall

00:11:32.340 Just the same way I fall

00:11:33.360 Okay

00:11:34.060 So we have to understand

00:11:35.160 That the game works

00:11:36.800 The same for everybody

00:11:38.180 It's the same set of

00:11:39.880 Fucking rules

00:11:40.460 You may have started off

00:11:41.560 In a different place

00:11:42.420 But the rules are the same

00:11:44.580 Okay

00:11:45.380 So thinking that

00:11:46.560 You're going to be the person

00:11:47.640 That the rules change for

00:11:49.740 Is a

00:11:51.640 It's an egotistical

00:11:53.460 Arrogant thought

00:11:54.340 It's the same for everybody

00:11:56.100 And

00:11:56.880 When we talk about

00:11:59.160 You know

00:12:01.040 What it actually takes

00:12:02.700 And where you should be

00:12:04.460 Everybody's at a different point

00:12:08.980 In a different place

00:12:09.800 So

00:12:10.340 I don't know how old this person is

00:12:12.180 Does it say

00:12:12.740 Okay

00:12:13.640 You're learning the lesson now

00:12:15.640 Of how to deal with

00:12:16.800 Pressure

00:12:17.480 Okay

00:12:18.340 And that doesn't put you behind

00:12:19.600 That doesn't mean you're wrong

00:12:20.800 That doesn't mean you're doing something bad

00:12:22.660 It means you just haven't learned a lesson yet

00:12:24.660 I'm someone

00:12:25.960 Who has typically matured much later

00:12:29.120 Than people my age

00:12:30.800 Okay

00:12:31.300 I've always been like 10 years behind

00:12:33.380 Like

00:12:33.680 I was laughing at

00:12:34.860 You know

00:12:35.160 Dick jokes

00:12:35.840 When I was

00:12:36.320 Well I still do

00:12:36.980 Right

00:12:37.460 So like

00:12:38.420 I

00:12:39.140 I can relate to that

00:12:41.220 And

00:12:41.540 You've just got to understand

00:12:43.920 That that's normal

00:12:45.240 It's

00:12:45.680 Everybody deals with it

00:12:47.160 I mean bro

00:12:48.240 How many times

00:12:50.100 Have you wanted to blow up on shit

00:12:52.540 That you didn't

00:12:53.400 Right

00:12:53.940 You have great emotional control

00:12:55.280 Oh thank you

00:12:56.040 Yeah you do

00:12:56.640 You know

00:12:57.280 Dude I've never seen you lose your temper

00:12:59.440 I've never seen you

00:13:00.680 You know

00:13:02.460 Even when you're upset

00:13:03.400 You know what I'm saying

00:13:04.480 You keep it under control

00:13:05.640 That's not something I'm the best at

00:13:07.740 Okay

00:13:08.260 I struggle with that sometimes

00:13:09.580 We all have like points

00:13:11.160 That are harder for other people

00:13:12.460 Because of how we're wired and set up

00:13:14.340 And so

00:13:15.420 I've had to learn

00:13:16.780 And by the way

00:13:17.960 I don't have it mastered

00:13:18.840 But I've had to learn

00:13:20.260 I have made a lot of improvements

00:13:21.700 Oh for sure

00:13:22.480 Of how to

00:13:23.720 Control these frustrations

00:13:25.600 And these pressures

00:13:26.360 To make sure that I don't take it out

00:13:28.220 On people that don't deserve it

00:13:31.260 Yeah

00:13:31.400 And sometimes people do deserve it

00:13:33.360 Yeah

00:13:33.540 By the way

00:13:34.140 Yeah

00:13:34.380 But at the end of the day

00:13:36.840 This is about finding ways

00:13:38.540 That work for you

00:13:40.520 That help you relieve some of that pressure

00:13:43.120 Okay

00:13:43.780 And what I found for me

00:13:45.820 Is lifting weights

00:13:47.440 Helps a lot

00:13:48.560 Okay

00:13:49.100 When I am

00:13:50.120 Very stressed

00:13:51.620 And very

00:13:52.420 Heavy

00:13:53.880 And borderline angry

00:13:55.900 When I lift weights

00:13:57.400 An hour later

00:13:58.780 I feel a lot better

00:13:59.880 Walking works very well for me

00:14:02.640 Okay

00:14:02.960 Like when I'm very

00:14:03.880 Very stressed

00:14:04.660 If I go for a walk

00:14:06.160 For an hour dude

00:14:06.900 Most of the problems

00:14:08.100 Solve themselves

00:14:08.920 Alright

00:14:09.640 But I think ultimately

00:14:12.040 The issue here is awareness

00:14:13.860 It's being able to know

00:14:15.800 When that pressure is getting near

00:14:18.980 Where it's going to explode

00:14:20.680 And then doing some things

00:14:21.980 To keep it from getting up to that level

00:14:23.660 Yeah

00:14:23.980 Right

00:14:24.460 So

00:14:24.920 That's gold

00:14:27.440 Because what you're saying effectively is

00:14:29.420 Imagine if

00:14:31.340 Because everybody has fucking stress

00:14:32.880 Right

00:14:33.080 Like everybody has that

00:14:33.800 But imagine

00:14:34.440 The way to deal with that

00:14:35.940 Is by doing something

00:14:36.820 That's still pushing you fucking forward

00:14:38.780 That's the whole thing

00:14:39.820 That's where I'm getting

00:14:40.700 So

00:14:41.160 We got to understand

00:14:42.940 That these

00:14:43.700 This pressure

00:14:45.380 Is not something

00:14:46.340 To be avoided

00:14:47.220 It's something

00:14:48.400 To utilize

00:14:49.320 For us to be more successful

00:14:50.980 And more productive

00:14:51.880 So when you start

00:14:53.240 To feel these ways

00:14:54.440 And you get negativity

00:14:56.020 And you get pressure

00:14:57.600 And you get frustration

00:14:59.140 And you can feel it start to rise

00:15:02.380 You have to be aware enough

00:15:04.240 To take that negative energy

00:15:05.960 Which by the way

00:15:07.060 Isn't really negative

00:15:08.220 It's just how you perceive it

00:15:09.700 And utilize it

00:15:10.880 In a productive action

00:15:12.020 Every single person

00:15:13.820 That's ever become

00:15:14.860 What you admire

00:15:16.160 Any of you watching

00:15:17.560 Or listening

00:15:18.240 They understand

00:15:20.080 How to productively

00:15:21.900 Deal with negativity

00:15:23.180 Or pressure

00:15:24.320 They understand

00:15:25.420 How to leverage it properly

00:15:27.100 Because unfortunately

00:15:28.540 Contrary to what

00:15:30.180 The internet will tell you

00:15:31.440 Not everything is good

00:15:33.100 Not everybody

00:15:34.240 Claps for you

00:15:35.120 Not everybody

00:15:35.980 Cheers for you

00:15:36.760 Not everybody

00:15:37.520 Wants you to win

00:15:38.360 Not everything

00:15:39.340 Goes your way

00:15:40.180 There's going to be

00:15:40.980 All kinds of things

00:15:41.900 That punch you

00:15:42.500 In the fucking mouth

00:15:43.440 Over and over

00:15:44.180 And over again

00:15:44.880 And if you don't learn

00:15:46.140 How to leverage those

00:15:47.120 Into productive action

00:15:48.280 You are going to lose

00:15:50.540 To people who do

00:15:51.620 And so instead of

00:15:53.280 Letting it crumble

00:15:54.180 Or instead of letting it

00:15:55.420 Spill over into

00:15:57.100 Outbursts to people

00:15:59.300 That don't deserve it

00:16:00.380 You need to learn

00:16:01.200 How to recognize

00:16:02.120 When the pressure's

00:16:03.000 Almost near the breaking point

00:16:04.740 And then go

00:16:06.260 Use that energy

00:16:08.020 To be productive

00:16:09.160 A lot of times

00:16:11.000 The pressure that we feel

00:16:12.700 Is coming from 1.00

00:16:14.140 Things that we know

00:16:15.240 We're supposed to do

00:16:16.260 But haven't done yet

00:16:17.380 Did you ever notice

00:16:18.680 How you've got

00:16:19.940 This one thing

00:16:20.880 That is really

00:16:21.980 On your mind

00:16:22.700 And you know

00:16:23.200 It needs to be done

00:16:24.140 And you keep

00:16:25.040 Thinking about it

00:16:25.820 But you know

00:16:26.260 It's not that big a deal

00:16:27.320 It's not that big a deal

00:16:28.340 Let's just say

00:16:29.200 It's something simple

00:16:30.000 Like mowing the grass

00:16:31.020 Right

00:16:31.300 Your grass gets

00:16:32.440 A little long

00:16:33.100 And you're looking

00:16:34.520 At the grass

00:16:35.140 You're like

00:16:35.420 Ah I got another

00:16:36.460 Couple days

00:16:36.980 Before I can mow it

00:16:37.720 And then you let

00:16:38.580 Those couple days

00:16:39.280 Go by

00:16:39.700 And it gets

00:16:40.420 Way bigger

00:16:41.500 And then you're like

00:16:42.980 Fuck it's pretty bad

00:16:44.040 This is going to be

00:16:45.240 A pain in the ass

00:16:46.060 To mow

00:16:46.460 And then you put

00:16:47.960 It off then

00:16:48.500 And then it gets

00:16:49.140 Even worse

00:16:49.720 And then before

00:16:50.660 You know it dude

00:16:51.380 You're out there

00:16:52.500 With the push mower

00:16:53.380 Flopping the

00:16:54.280 Motherfucker around

00:16:55.240 Trying to cut the grass

00:16:56.460 Cursing yourself

00:16:58.140 Yeah

00:16:58.440 Because you could

00:16:59.420 Have just handled it

00:17:00.140 When it was

00:17:00.580 When it was

00:17:01.340 You know

00:17:02.640 Small

00:17:03.020 Yeah right

00:17:03.600 But

00:17:04.060 The minute you get

00:17:06.360 Done with that

00:17:07.160 All of that anxiety

00:17:08.800 And all of that

00:17:09.420 Pressure is over

00:17:10.340 And this

00:17:11.020 Goes into

00:17:12.280 Work

00:17:13.560 This goes into

00:17:14.440 Your fitness

00:17:15.020 This goes into

00:17:16.080 Your communication

00:17:17.840 And your relationships

00:17:18.820 This goes into

00:17:19.980 Conversations that

00:17:21.040 You know you should

00:17:21.740 Have but you're

00:17:22.320 Afraid to have

00:17:23.060 There's all these

00:17:24.300 Things that make

00:17:25.020 The pressure go up

00:17:26.080 And a lot of times

00:17:27.320 That pressure going up

00:17:28.380 Is just an indicator

00:17:29.340 It's a reminder

00:17:30.200 It's a little thing

00:17:31.020 That's pointing at you

00:17:32.260 Saying hey

00:17:32.880 This needs to be addressed

00:17:34.220 And if you learn to

00:17:35.440 Listen to that quickly

00:17:36.480 The pressure stays low

00:17:38.460 But if you let it get high

00:17:40.720 It's going to make you

00:17:41.980 Feel uncomfortable

00:17:42.620 And that's the game

00:17:43.740 That's how it's

00:17:44.480 Supposed to be

00:17:45.260 You intuitively know

00:17:47.080 The things that are

00:17:47.920 Supposed to be done

00:17:48.920 You know you're

00:17:49.980 Fucking fat

00:17:50.780 You know you're

00:17:51.900 Fucking lazy

00:17:52.660 You know your life

00:17:53.960 Doesn't look the way

00:17:54.820 You want it to look

00:17:55.600 You know that

00:17:56.640 You know things

00:17:57.520 Need to be addressed

00:17:58.260 You know you're not

00:17:59.180 Giving your all

00:17:59.820 At your job

00:18:00.320 Everybody fucking

00:18:01.400 Knows that

00:18:01.980 But very few people

00:18:03.740 Proactively address it

00:18:05.220 And understand how to

00:18:06.660 Leverage those feelings

00:18:07.680 Into productive action

00:18:08.840 And my hope for you guys

00:18:10.360 This year is that

00:18:11.320 This becomes the time

00:18:12.540 Where you actually

00:18:13.840 Figure out that there

00:18:15.220 Is no easy way

00:18:16.180 There is no quick way

00:18:17.580 There is no permanent way

00:18:19.140 It's a constant process

00:18:20.780 It's a constant set of actions

00:18:24.480 It's a constant sculpting

00:18:26.800 Of the perfect life

00:18:28.020 You know it's an ongoing process

00:18:31.760 And there's not a person

00:18:33.240 Who has ever lived

00:18:35.220 That has ever gotten

00:18:37.520 To a point in their life

00:18:39.000 Whether they be

00:18:39.780 60, 70, 80 years old

00:18:41.560 And said

00:18:43.880 Oh you know what

00:18:44.660 It's great

00:18:45.360 That didn't become

00:18:46.540 Miserable later

00:18:47.360 Do you ever notice

00:18:48.900 That when people

00:18:49.540 Are older

00:18:50.200 Like you know

00:18:50.940 Our grandparents

00:18:51.620 They're pretty

00:18:53.160 Like some of them

00:18:54.260 Can be pretty fucking

00:18:55.080 Angry and bitter and shit

00:18:56.360 Bitter assholes 1.00

00:18:57.140 Do you know

00:18:57.580 Do you know why

00:18:58.600 It's because they

00:18:59.400 Stopped moving forward bro

00:19:00.740 And now they're

00:19:01.320 Only looking backwards

00:19:02.340 They're only looking backwards

00:19:04.040 They're only thinking

00:19:05.040 About the things they missed

00:19:06.220 They're only thinking

00:19:07.340 About the things

00:19:07.960 They didn't do

00:19:08.580 They're only thinking

00:19:09.500 About the chances

00:19:10.200 They didn't take

00:19:10.940 And yeah that's going

00:19:12.340 To make you angry

00:19:13.100 So you have to

00:19:14.180 Accept the fact

00:19:15.240 That if you want

00:19:16.280 To be fulfilled

00:19:17.100 And you want

00:19:17.940 To be successful

00:19:18.780 And you want

00:19:19.720 To live the life

00:19:20.620 That you know

00:19:21.180 You could live

00:19:21.880 And should live

00:19:22.640 You're going

00:19:23.860 To have to accept

00:19:24.700 The process

00:19:25.320 And the process

00:19:26.160 Is ongoing

00:19:26.880 It never ends

00:19:27.760 And I want to

00:19:28.800 I want to talk

00:19:29.240 On this piece too

00:19:30.060 You know

00:19:30.540 Because he's talking

00:19:31.240 About being short

00:19:31.780 With people

00:19:32.120 Things like that

00:19:32.820 And you know

00:19:33.080 I know you touched

00:19:33.620 On like the emotional

00:19:34.540 Control aspect

00:19:35.400 Of this a little bit

00:19:36.360 But I think this is

00:19:37.780 Important too

00:19:38.240 And it's something

00:19:38.740 That I know

00:19:39.280 You you deeply

00:19:40.160 Care about

00:19:40.800 I feel that

00:19:42.880 You know

00:19:43.160 When that pressure

00:19:43.860 Comes and when

00:19:44.540 The stress comes

00:19:45.360 I think it also

00:19:46.500 Comes down to your

00:19:47.200 Intent right

00:19:47.960 Like you can be

00:19:49.100 Pissed off

00:19:49.560 But I know

00:19:50.260 That your intent

00:19:50.920 Still in the right

00:19:51.540 Place so it's like

00:19:52.360 We're all on the

00:19:53.220 Same team here

00:19:53.840 Yeah well now

00:19:54.580 We're crossing

00:19:55.120 Into like a

00:19:55.700 Leadership

00:19:56.080 Yeah

00:19:56.720 Discussion right

00:19:57.900 Like sometimes

00:19:59.960 In leadership

00:20:00.800 You do got to get

00:20:01.780 You do got to

00:20:02.680 Get a little rowdy

00:20:03.400 You do got to

00:20:04.440 Push motherfuckers 1.00

00:20:05.340 Your job as a

00:20:06.820 Leader is to

00:20:07.780 Live the standard

00:20:08.600 And then hold

00:20:09.320 Other people to

00:20:10.160 The standard

00:20:10.660 And those are

00:20:12.000 Two very important

00:20:13.140 Points okay

00:20:14.520 A lot of people

00:20:15.920 Try to hold the

00:20:16.680 Standard without

00:20:17.180 Living it themselves

00:20:18.000 And then they

00:20:18.820 Wonder why other

00:20:19.440 People won't do it

00:20:20.340 Well other people

00:20:21.220 Aren't doing it

00:20:21.780 Because you're not

00:20:22.340 Fucking doing it

00:20:23.120 Okay so if you're

00:20:24.220 A leader and

00:20:25.060 You're running a

00:20:25.700 Team or you have

00:20:27.100 Your family and

00:20:28.380 You say oh you

00:20:29.000 Guys should be

00:20:29.540 Doing this they're

00:20:30.620 Not gonna do it

00:20:31.300 Till you do it

00:20:31.960 And this is the

00:20:32.660 Problem that we

00:20:33.320 Face as a culture

00:20:34.140 We have this

00:20:35.380 Attitude that

00:20:36.720 People are waiting

00:20:38.740 For someone else

00:20:39.600 To do all the

00:20:40.440 Shit and they

00:20:42.480 Think that they

00:20:42.980 Cannot do it

00:20:43.620 Themselves this

00:20:44.940 Is why culture

00:20:45.920 Sucks this is why

00:20:47.000 America looks the 0.96

00:20:47.920 Way it does right

00:20:48.620 Now this is why

00:20:49.780 When you go to

00:20:50.280 Walmart

00:20:50.740 Seven out of

00:20:52.140 Ten people

00:20:52.740 Fucking eight

00:20:53.560 Out of ten

00:20:53.980 People are

00:20:55.000 Obese okay 0.93

00:20:56.280 This this is

00:20:57.020 Why this is

00:20:58.200 Why when you

00:20:58.740 Go to work

00:20:59.340 Nine out of

00:21:00.680 Ten of the

00:21:01.060 People that

00:21:01.460 You work with

00:21:02.060 Are lazy as

00:21:02.660 Fuck it's

00:21:03.540 Because they

00:21:04.480 Don't have an

00:21:05.000 Example to look

00:21:06.000 At and see what

00:21:06.880 The fuck that

00:21:07.440 Looks like to

00:21:08.020 Actually be

00:21:08.560 Productive so

00:21:09.620 It's literally

00:21:10.220 Impossible to

00:21:11.140 Lead without 0.80

00:21:11.680 Living standard

00:21:12.480 Yourself and

00:21:13.820 Then also holding

00:21:14.580 People accountable

00:21:15.360 So yeah dude

00:21:17.400 There's a time

00:21:18.000 And a place

00:21:18.600 For these things

00:21:19.360 But they're

00:21:21.220 Strategic they're

00:21:22.420 Not just fly

00:21:23.440 Off the cuff

00:21:24.100 And when you

00:21:24.580 Really have

00:21:25.560 When you really

00:21:27.260 Have it mastered

00:21:28.220 You know exactly

00:21:30.320 When that's

00:21:30.980 Supposed to be

00:21:31.620 Applied right

00:21:32.760 So it's not a

00:21:34.480 I'm just upset

00:21:36.020 Because I'm upset

00:21:36.880 It's I have

00:21:39.320 To I have to

00:21:40.380 Put a fire

00:21:41.300 Under some

00:21:41.740 Asses so 1.00

00:21:42.760 This part of

00:21:43.400 Me has to

00:21:43.940 Come out

00:21:45.100 Right now

00:21:45.500 Right

00:21:46.120 But yeah

00:21:46.920 The intent

00:21:48.260 100% is what

00:21:49.860 Matters because

00:21:50.560 People know

00:21:51.360 If you're just

00:21:52.180 Being a dickhead

00:21:53.160 Right

00:21:53.400 Or if you're

00:21:54.380 Actually pushing

00:21:55.100 To be better

00:21:55.680 They know that

00:21:56.380 And when you

00:21:57.160 Live the standard

00:21:57.940 Yourself

00:21:58.600 People are much

00:22:00.100 More receptive

00:22:01.500 To that good

00:22:02.620 Intent than if

00:22:03.800 You're not living

00:22:04.500 It if you're not

00:22:05.220 Living it

00:22:05.740 The intent can't

00:22:06.900 Even be good

00:22:07.520 Because what you're

00:22:08.300 Pointing at is

00:22:08.920 You're saying you

00:22:09.480 Motherfuckers do 1.00

00:22:10.180 The work and I'm

00:22:11.160 Not going to do

00:22:11.640 Shit that's not

00:22:12.780 The right intent

00:22:13.520 The right intent

00:22:14.600 Is I'm going to

00:22:15.760 Live the best

00:22:16.900 Standard that I

00:22:17.640 Can in my

00:22:18.520 Fitness in my

00:22:19.660 Mental in my

00:22:20.700 Finances in my

00:22:21.660 Spiritual in my

00:22:22.520 Relationships and

00:22:23.840 I'm going to set

00:22:25.060 That standard and

00:22:26.140 Then I also expect

00:22:27.300 You to live that

00:22:28.500 Standard as well

00:22:29.220 That's a different

00:22:29.920 Thing than just

00:22:31.020 Pointing the finger

00:22:31.860 And screaming at

00:22:33.440 People yeah you

00:22:34.480 See what I'm

00:22:34.800 Saying

00:22:35.040 Absolutely dude

00:22:35.640 Absolutely I love

00:22:37.060 It kind of flows

00:22:38.060 Into this next

00:22:38.600 Question a little

00:22:39.220 Bit guys Andy

00:22:40.580 Question number

00:22:42.100 Two hey Andy

00:22:43.140 Thank you for

00:22:44.380 All that you do

00:22:45.040 Because of the

00:22:46.520 Things you teach

00:22:47.360 I've changed my

00:22:48.660 Entire outlook in

00:22:49.740 My life actually

00:22:50.780 Putting your

00:22:51.460 Lessons into

00:22:52.460 Practice I've been

00:22:53.500 Promoted by my

00:22:54.420 Company and

00:22:55.480 Basically I've been

00:22:56.240 Trusted to replicate

00:22:57.340 Myself in the

00:22:58.220 Company everything you

00:22:59.340 Talk about I now

00:23:00.300 Lead a team of

00:23:01.160 Eight people but

00:23:02.920 I'm having some

00:23:04.380 Leadership issues I

00:23:06.180 Feel uncomfortable

00:23:07.000 Telling people no

00:23:08.120 Holding them

00:23:08.880 Accountable or

00:23:09.600 Calling out bad

00:23:10.420 Performance I

00:23:11.180 Don't want to be

00:23:11.600 The nice guy

00:23:12.260 Leader who lets

00:23:13.680 Things slide but I

00:23:14.700 Also don't want to

00:23:15.640 Turn into an

00:23:16.320 Asshole so how do

00:23:17.480 You learn to lead

00:23:18.580 Without losing

00:23:19.420 Yourself do you

00:23:21.360 Actually care about

00:23:22.180 Your people or not 1.00

00:23:23.080 That's the question

00:23:24.940 You got to ask

00:23:25.760 Okay because if

00:23:27.320 You're passive and

00:23:28.180 You won't say no

00:23:29.060 And you let shit

00:23:29.760 Slide guess what

00:23:31.280 You don't really

00:23:32.080 Give a fuck about

00:23:32.760 Those people that's

00:23:34.280 The truth okay

00:23:35.520 Because if you did

00:23:36.960 You would want

00:23:37.580 Them to get better

00:23:38.280 You'd be willing

00:23:39.060 To have conversations

00:23:40.120 That are a little

00:23:40.800 Awkward to make

00:23:41.900 Them better you

00:23:42.780 Would be willing

00:23:43.400 To hold standards

00:23:45.340 That make them

00:23:46.220 Better you would

00:23:47.140 Want them to earn

00:23:47.980 More money you

00:23:48.580 Would want them to

00:23:49.300 Be higher skilled

00:23:50.220 You would want

00:23:50.820 Them to get better

00:23:52.080 And that comes

00:23:53.440 From a place of

00:23:55.840 Care and this is

00:23:57.100 What I talk about

00:23:57.840 All the time you

00:23:58.680 Know kindness and

00:24:00.720 And being good to

00:24:03.100 People is not 0.98

00:24:05.260 Nice platitudes

00:24:06.600 And friendly things

00:24:08.460 To say all the

00:24:09.220 Time you know if

00:24:10.380 They're doing good

00:24:11.200 Yeah you tell them

00:24:12.480 They're doing good

00:24:13.180 But if they're not

00:24:14.280 Doing good and you

00:24:15.360 Actually care about

00:24:16.260 Them you have an

00:24:17.120 Obligation to tell

00:24:18.080 Them where they're

00:24:18.700 Not doing good and

00:24:20.240 Anybody who actually

00:24:21.820 Wants to win will be

00:24:22.960 Receptive to that

00:24:23.920 Right so by you

00:24:26.420 Being a passive

00:24:27.840 Leader and you

00:24:28.740 Having problems

00:24:29.600 Saying no and you

00:24:31.140 Not being able to

00:24:32.180 Critique and you not

00:24:33.280 Being able to have

00:24:34.140 You know some

00:24:36.660 Awkward conversations

00:24:37.760 With people you end

00:24:39.140 Up in a position

00:24:39.860 Where your people

00:24:40.520 Don't grow they 1.00

00:24:41.220 Don't perform they

00:24:41.960 Don't do any better

00:24:42.740 And you know you

00:24:45.300 Fail them and this

00:24:47.200 Comes down to how

00:24:47.880 Much you actually

00:24:48.580 Care so if you

00:24:51.480 Really care about

00:24:52.320 People and you

00:24:52.920 Really care about

00:24:53.580 Your team which you

00:24:54.660 Should you have to

00:24:56.220 Understand that this

00:24:57.080 Is a requirement of

00:24:58.020 Caring it's the truth

00:24:59.040 And we've grown up

00:25:00.580 In the last 20 years

00:25:01.720 In this society that

00:25:02.880 Says you know

00:25:03.620 Kindness is niceness

00:25:06.180 Meaning things that

00:25:08.240 Don't hurt people's

00:25:09.240 Feelings things that

00:25:10.680 Don't press them things

00:25:12.020 That don't call them

00:25:12.960 Out you know be

00:25:14.220 Kind be be be a

00:25:16.060 Good person being

00:25:19.100 Kind in a in a

00:25:21.040 Dynamic of where you

00:25:22.200 Care about people and

00:25:23.100 You're trying to get

00:25:23.800 Them to improve and

00:25:25.140 Better their lives is

00:25:28.100 The truth it's it's

00:25:30.520 Not the the non

00:25:31.660 Truth if you don't

00:25:32.980 Tell the truth you

00:25:33.820 It's impossible to be

00:25:35.080 Kind it's impossible

00:25:36.380 So a lot of you

00:25:38.300 Guys think that

00:25:39.800 You're being kind by

00:25:41.100 Letting these people

00:25:41.840 Off the hook when in

00:25:43.200 Reality you're creating

00:25:44.300 A life for them

00:25:45.200 That's going to be

00:25:46.660 Far more difficult

00:25:47.480 It's going to be far

00:25:49.120 Less fruitful far

00:25:50.200 Less fulfilling and

00:25:51.580 Ultimately cost them

00:25:54.360 A lot and so if you

00:25:55.820 Really care about

00:25:56.460 People you're going

00:25:57.060 To have the ability to

00:25:57.980 Have those conversations

00:25:58.860 Yeah dude let's

00:26:00.040 Let's go back

00:26:00.780 Let's go back in the

00:26:02.860 Timeline a little bit

00:26:03.780 Right because when

00:26:04.720 You started in business

00:26:06.640 It was just you and

00:26:07.540 Chris for six years

00:26:08.980 Right before you you

00:26:11.620 Had your first employee

00:26:12.860 Right we had a couple

00:26:14.380 That helped us out

00:26:15.180 Along the way between

00:26:16.140 But they were friends

00:26:16.900 Friends right yeah

00:26:17.820 But like like real

00:26:18.920 Official employees yeah

00:26:20.080 Real real employees

00:26:21.160 Six years in how how

00:26:23.480 Hard like what made

00:26:25.000 You understand this

00:26:25.860 Lesson more than

00:26:26.500 Anything how hard

00:26:27.200 How quick did that

00:26:27.940 Come you know from

00:26:29.360 The moment you got

00:26:29.960 Your first employee

00:26:30.640 Well I didn't know

00:26:31.680 That when I got my

00:26:32.400 First employee what I'm

00:26:33.480 Saying to you I didn't

00:26:34.960 Know yeah okay so you

00:26:37.240 Know I was the guy who

00:26:38.340 Came in and and and you

00:26:40.020 Know wave the big stick

00:26:41.500 And said do this or else

00:26:42.760 And uh that wasn't the

00:26:45.920 Right way either you know

00:26:47.560 Was it effective yeah it's

00:26:49.840 Effective but it doesn't

00:26:51.160 Create uh a mutually

00:26:54.580 Beneficial relationship to

00:26:56.740 Where people start to

00:26:57.860 Respect and admire you

00:26:59.760 Because you're actually

00:27:00.740 Holding them to a

00:27:01.600 Standard and so this was

00:27:04.760 Learned over the course of

00:27:05.800 Time and there was a lot

00:27:07.160 Of turnover whenever I

00:27:08.300 First started having

00:27:09.040 Employees because I was a

00:27:10.340 Bad leader and then I

00:27:11.740 Developed you know uh the

00:27:14.060 Understanding that there

00:27:15.300 Was an obligation for me

00:27:16.560 To develop these people

00:27:18.380 Not just try to get them

00:27:19.860 To perform for the

00:27:20.780 Betterment of the company

00:27:21.700 And whenever I started

00:27:23.180 To figure that out things

00:27:24.780 Started changing it became

00:27:26.140 A real relationship and

00:27:27.440 Ultimately what what

00:27:28.700 Really dawned on me that

00:27:30.700 Made me flip that

00:27:31.680 Perspective was that and

00:27:34.640 This is a very key thing

00:27:35.980 For all the leaders out

00:27:36.860 There I stopped trying to

00:27:41.400 Coach them or lead them

00:27:47.960 From a place of you're

00:27:51.240 Going to stay here your

00:27:52.220 Whole life and I started

00:27:54.180 Recognizing that it was my

00:27:56.660 Job to equip them with the

00:27:59.600 Skills and with the

00:28:00.820 Understanding that even if

00:28:02.540 They left they could look

00:28:04.220 Back and say that's where I

00:28:05.420 Learned the most all right so

00:28:07.280 Whenever I switched it from

00:28:09.160 Like this scarcity thing

00:28:11.140 Where I don't want my

00:28:11.800 Employees to leave so I 0.92

00:28:12.920 Gotta I gotta you know

00:28:14.360 Teach them only this and

00:28:15.960 Not that and this and

00:28:16.900 Like try to like protect

00:28:17.960 It and started like really

00:28:19.720 Just pouring into them and

00:28:21.000 Saying hey man look and I

00:28:22.780 Say this openly I've said

00:28:23.760 This openly for a long

00:28:24.840 Time I know not everybody's

00:28:27.280 Going to stay in our

00:28:28.040 Companies that's not

00:28:29.360 Reality but here's what I

00:28:30.860 Do know I do know that

00:28:33.580 When they go from here to

00:28:35.220 There or anywhere else I

00:28:36.960 Want them to succeed so I'm

00:28:39.080 Going to pour into them as

00:28:40.100 Much as possible and I

00:28:41.460 Think a lot of leaders

00:28:42.360 Really fuck this up because

00:28:43.820 They have the idea that you

00:28:45.700 Know especially if you're

00:28:47.180 An intrapreneur they have

00:28:49.180 The idea that you know this

00:28:51.860 Person might get so good he

00:28:53.000 Might take my job right that's

00:28:56.180 Actually a good a good thing

00:28:57.680 He's not going to take your

00:28:58.760 Job if you like this question

00:29:00.520 Here being able to replicate

00:29:03.000 When you're an effective

00:29:04.680 Performer being able to

00:29:07.600 Replicate that and other

00:29:08.700 People is the most valuable

00:29:10.180 Skill and any company worth

00:29:11.920 A shit will recognize that 1.00

00:29:13.860 And pay you very handsomely

00:29:16.120 For that so we have to

00:29:19.420 Understand that if we really

00:29:21.180 Want to be effective dude we

00:29:22.360 Have to make everybody around

00:29:23.660 Us better and we have to do

00:29:25.420 So with the right intent and

00:29:26.660 We have to do so with the

00:29:27.860 Idea that we're doing it in

00:29:30.140 The long game okay so even if

00:29:32.200 They leave even if they go

00:29:33.500 Somewhere even if they do

00:29:34.600 Do whatever they want to do

00:29:36.300 They're going to look back and

00:29:37.700 They're going to say bro that's

00:29:38.820 That's the guy I learned the

00:29:40.060 Most from and if we really

00:29:41.920 Look back for those of you

00:29:43.240 That played sports and we

00:29:45.960 Look back on the coaches that

00:29:47.940 We fucking hated at the time

00:29:51.180 Those are the coaches that you

00:29:52.940 Look back 5 10 20 years and

00:29:55.080 You're like man that dude

00:29:57.180 Really cared about me not me

00:29:58.620 Because of that I learned a

00:29:59.860 Lot from that person and that's

00:30:02.280 That's a tough thing to swallow

00:30:04.220 Because you want everybody to

00:30:06.340 Like you right now you want

00:30:07.660 Everybody to be happy with you

00:30:09.020 Right now but that's not the

00:30:12.260 Goal the goal is performance the

00:30:14.000 Goal is winning the goal is

00:30:15.260 Developing and the goal is

00:30:16.720 Setting these people up for

00:30:18.400 Them to be high functioning high

00:30:20.540 Earning high standard individuals

00:30:22.660 No matter where they go and once

00:30:24.140 You flip that mindset and you

00:30:26.060 Understand that that's your your

00:30:27.600 Obligation as a leader it gets

00:30:29.600 Real easy to coach people up

00:30:31.080 Because you're not trying to

00:30:32.020 Hold anything back right you

00:30:33.380 See what I'm saying and both

00:30:34.300 Typically you you realize you

00:30:35.600 Come to the understanding to

00:30:36.440 Like those are the coaches those

00:30:37.920 Are the people that care the

00:30:38.540 Most yeah out of anybody

00:30:40.120 Absolutely let me ask you this

00:30:41.780 Because I know we talk about

00:30:43.020 Entrepreneurship you know there's

00:30:46.740 Very little barrier or entry I

00:30:48.720 Guess but it's not for

00:30:49.740 Everybody no is leadership the

00:30:51.980 Same right like which is the

00:30:53.760 Arc like can anybody be a 1.00

00:30:55.120 Leader like can anybody truly be

00:30:57.180 A leader or no I think so I

00:30:59.640 I wasn't a natural leader yeah I

00:31:01.780 Wasn't someone who who was

00:31:03.380 Vocal or I was always scared I

00:31:06.360 Like take me take us back to

00:31:08.060 Sports right like I was a good

00:31:09.720 Player great but I wasn't a good

00:31:11.860 Leader right okay I didn't I

00:31:13.980 Didn't have the confidence to

00:31:15.280 Look around at the other guys on

00:31:16.660 The team and say hey

00:31:17.520 Motherfuckers we got to do 1.00

00:31:19.100 Better but you know why I didn't

00:31:20.640 Have the confidence to do that

00:31:21.900 Because I wasn't doing all I

00:31:23.840 Could okay so when you are doing

00:31:26.260 All that you can and you know

00:31:28.120 That you're living at a high

00:31:29.500 Standard and you know that

00:31:30.640 You're doing what you're

00:31:31.380 Supposed to do it becomes real

00:31:33.420 Easy to look around at

00:31:34.460 Everybody and be like guys what

00:31:35.600 The fuck okay this is not

00:31:37.740 Acceptable the reason that we

00:31:40.140 Struggle becoming leaders is

00:31:42.860 Because we're not living the

00:31:44.000 Standard ourselves so and here's

00:31:46.560 The other thing when you live the

00:31:48.200 Standard yourself you don't have

00:31:50.980 To be this vocal leader people see

00:31:52.820 It right leadership isn't about

00:31:55.060 Convincing people it's about

00:31:56.360 Showing people and that's a

00:31:58.140 Complete different thing okay you

00:32:01.660 You can't stand there as someone

00:32:04.560 Who's not living the standard and

00:32:06.240 Point down the road that

00:32:07.460 Everybody's supposed to go down

00:32:08.860 When you haven't gone down it

00:32:10.240 Yourself and expect them to be

00:32:11.460 Enthusiastic about going you're

00:32:13.080 Right all right right so it's more

00:32:15.300 Like hey guys I've been down this

00:32:16.620 Road let's fucking go you're

00:32:17.960 Going to get here too and so to

00:32:21.180 Answer your question yes I do

00:32:23.360 Believe that everyone can be a

00:32:25.820 Leader in some aspect okay let's

00:32:27.840 Say you're driving the forklift in

00:32:29.580 The warehouse but you know when

00:32:32.360 You put the forklift away you take

00:32:34.180 Care of it you clean it up you make

00:32:35.760 Sure that you're not hitting the

00:32:37.180 The pallet racks you make sure that

00:32:39.500 You're you know like other guys who

00:32:42.060 Operate forklifts all of a sudden

00:32:43.420 They start to do these things as

00:32:44.740 Well so like this isn't that it goes

00:32:49.720 Along with human nature bro people

00:32:51.820 Don't want to be the outsider they 1.00

00:32:53.980 Want to be the insider and when we

00:32:55.920 Break this down to what our mission

00:32:57.860 Is here with the show with the

00:32:59.600 Operator standard with everything

00:33:00.820 That we do it's about becoming

00:33:03.260 Personally excellent so that other

00:33:04.920 People will join into that line of

00:33:06.900 Work they will join into that path and

00:33:09.800 When you get enough people that are

00:33:13.580 Doing a thing is proven psychology

00:33:16.720 Psychology that other people want to

00:33:18.660 Join it so this idea that's killing

00:33:22.420 America right now is that someone

00:33:25.340 Else is going to take care of it and

00:33:27.100 No one else is no one's going to take

00:33:28.700 Care of your household no one's going

00:33:30.460 To lead your kids no one's going to be

00:33:32.300 The standard no one's going to be the

00:33:33.740 First guy of their friend group to you

00:33:35.840 Know like these are things that matter

00:33:37.400 And they matter a lot so yeah dude

00:33:40.080 Everybody can lead but I think most

00:33:42.780 People lack the confidence to lead

00:33:44.640 Because they don't live the standard

00:33:45.880 Themselves I love it dude think about

00:33:47.960 It like this dude let's just take a

00:33:51.240 Very basic example we talk about this

00:33:53.280 A lot on CTI but we're going to talk

00:33:55.060 About it right now let's say you live

00:33:58.560 In a regular neighborhood okay and

00:34:00.340 You've got your neighbor to the left

00:34:02.160 And your neighbor to the right and you

00:34:04.920 Guys all kind of sit out on the cooler

00:34:06.900 At night and you drink a beer and you

00:34:08.540 Hang out with and watch the kids you

00:34:10.080 Know play roller hockey or whatever they

00:34:11.460 Do in the street right

00:34:12.420 All of a sudden you stop drinking the

00:34:18.920 Beers and you hang out with your

00:34:20.600 Friends but you're drinking water okay

00:34:22.560 And then all of a sudden you know you

00:34:25.000 Start working out and they start making

00:34:26.580 Funnier they're like DJ what the fuck

00:34:28.240 You doing now like what you too good

00:34:29.860 For us but six months later DJ shows up

00:34:34.060 And he's down a hundred pounds and all

00:34:37.040 Of a sudden he's making more money and

00:34:38.420 Then you know we're not sitting on the

00:34:40.840 Cooler with a piece of shit truck in the

00:34:42.680 Driveway anymore we're sitting on the

00:34:44.620 Cooler with a brand new

00:34:45.720 Chevy Tahoe

00:34:47.440 LTZ okay and your neighbors are like

00:34:50.740 What the fuck is going on with you why

00:34:52.420 What and you say well i'm doing this and

00:34:54.860 This and this and this and this and this

00:34:56.560 And things are getting better and

00:34:58.000 Now all of a sudden it's not DJ is too

00:35:00.600 Good for us it's man fucking DJ starting

00:35:02.380 To kick some ass bro what are you doing 0.96

00:35:04.700 Okay and now they start to ask and now

00:35:07.480 All of a sudden you got fit DJ

00:35:09.320 Instead of fat DJ and you got DJ

00:35:11.360 Who's making some more money and you got

00:35:13.000 DJ who's who's becoming you know

00:35:14.880 A different person right in front of

00:35:16.440 Their fucking face all right and then

00:35:19.000 All of a sudden what happens these guys

00:35:20.780 Some of them will start to join

00:35:22.840 They'll say fuck i want a new truck

00:35:24.180 Dude i don't like being fat i want to

00:35:26.500 See my dick out yeah right for real

00:35:28.380 Dude no real shit and then and then all

00:35:30.280 Of a sudden where there was

00:35:32.480 One there was two and now there's two

00:35:34.640 So you got the so it's you and the

00:35:36.580 House to the left you guys are both

00:35:37.980 Getting it done what do you think is

00:35:39.340 Going to happen to the guy on the right

00:35:40.420 Okay he's going to join in too and this

00:35:43.560 Is what we have to understand in culture

00:35:46.380 Okay how you live and how you lead and

00:35:49.880 How you represent yourself matters way

00:35:53.220 More than you think it does and all of

00:35:55.940 This propaganda that we've been faced

00:35:57.680 With our whole entire lives to make us

00:36:00.060 Feel like we're irrelevant it doesn't

00:36:03.940 Matter just enjoy your freedom and

00:36:06.220 Enjoy your life all of these things have

00:36:09.520 Taught us that we don't have control

00:36:11.260 Of our own reality when in fact we

00:36:13.180 Control everything that dictates our

00:36:15.680 Reality reality isn't dictated by a 0.64

00:36:18.140 Bunch of dudes in washington dc it's

00:36:20.340 Dictated by what you eat how you move what

00:36:24.440 You drink what you put in your mind who

00:36:26.800 You associate with what actions you take

00:36:29.280 These are the things that dictate our

00:36:32.840 Reality to a percentile of 98 percent and

00:36:37.740 We control those things and if you don't

00:36:40.740 Believe that you're denying reality you're

00:36:43.140 Denying how it actually works you are

00:36:45.520 Copping out and you are giving control

00:36:50.560 Over the propaganda machine by just

00:36:53.520 Accepting a reality that you're not ever

00:36:55.400 Happy with so when we look at like

00:36:57.540 Society and we look at like what's

00:36:59.340 Going on we have to understand that the

00:37:02.080 Reason that society looks like shit is

00:37:05.220 Because we look like shit when when we

00:37:08.240 You know when we look around we say why

00:37:10.080 Does nobody care it's because we don't

00:37:11.580 Care when we look around and there's

00:37:13.320 Litter all over the street it's because

00:37:14.720 You didn't pick it up when we look

00:37:16.520 Around their shopping carts and all

00:37:18.220 Over the parking lot it's because you

00:37:19.560 Didn't put them away because once those

00:37:21.800 Things become the standard everybody

00:37:23.640 Joins in and when we talk about what

00:37:26.000 It's going to take to fix our country

00:37:27.540 This is what it's going to take it takes

00:37:30.080 Personal excellence and once people

00:37:32.580 Grasp that concept and we get enough

00:37:35.260 People out there living at the standard

00:37:36.820 Which by the way is getting much better

00:37:38.620 Things will change and they do change

00:37:42.160 Ask anybody who's transformed their

00:37:44.480 Lives what happened you had some people

00:37:46.300 That didn't but you had some people that

00:37:47.860 Did too okay and now all of a sudden

00:37:50.140 Their lives look better and the people

00:37:52.140 That they know in their network start to

00:37:53.900 Join in so this is a this is a spider

00:37:57.340 Web a ripple effect that nobody really

00:38:00.000 Ever thinks about because we've been

00:38:02.220 Propagated to believe that our actions

00:38:03.900 Don't matter when in reality our actions

00:38:05.520 Are the only thing that matters why do

00:38:07.360 You think they spend so much time so much

00:38:09.540 Money so much energy so much propaganda

00:38:12.340 Convincing us for 16 years in school

00:38:15.580 That we're you know really not going to

00:38:17.280 Be anything and that the government's

00:38:19.160 Our friend and every they'll take care

00:38:20.960 Of everything that's propaganda bro to

00:38:22.980 To remove the understanding that we are

00:38:26.220 In control and we we as a country have

00:38:29.340 Lost that all right and if we want it

00:38:32.640 Back and we want a culture back that

00:38:34.640 Actually is a high trust high functioning

00:38:37.040 High success clean functioning society we

00:38:43.740 Have to be that ourselves okay so there

00:38:46.360 Is no blaming anybody else but ourselves

00:38:48.500 And it's not ourselves collectively it's

00:38:51.180 You as an individual and if people come

00:38:53.520 To me all the time they're like why do

00:38:55.300 You care so much why is this such a big

00:38:57.380 Deal well it's a big deal because I can

00:38:59.480 See what what's going to happen if if we

00:39:01.480 Don't stand up look a lot of people don't

00:39:04.220 Have the perspective of what it looked

00:39:05.600 Like 40 years ago or 30 years ago compared

00:39:08.480 To what it looks like now I do have that all

00:39:11.060 Right and I'm telling you it was much

00:39:13.800 Better than so if we want it to get better we

00:39:17.820 Have to be better and when the people get

00:39:19.920 Better and control the culture everything

00:39:22.500 Else improves downstream of culture politics

00:39:24.900 Is downstream of culture everything commerce

00:39:28.020 Every everything is downstream of culture culture is the

00:39:32.140 Most important thing and culture is made up of

00:39:35.000 Individuals and if you have shitty individuals

00:39:36.880 You're gonna have shitty culture if you have

00:39:38.540 High and high functioning high standard

00:39:40.240 Individuals high standard culture that's it

00:39:42.540 That is it it's that simple but we have to

00:39:45.380 Understand what role we play as individuals in

00:39:47.340 That I love it dude

00:39:48.820 I love it let's get to our third and final

00:39:52.600 Question for you Andy guys Andy question number

00:39:55.560 Three Andy I say I value honesty and integrity

00:40:00.100 But I've caught myself cutting corners when no

00:40:03.080 One's watching nothing illegal just small

00:40:05.240 Stuff but it bothers me more than I expected

00:40:08.040 How do you realign your character when you

00:40:11.060 Notice yourself drifting I know you speak a

00:40:13.280 Lot of businesses having core values and how

00:40:16.280 Important they are to the culture do I need 0.84

00:40:18.640 To just set some for myself internal core

00:40:22.300 Values that's great question yes of course

00:40:25.580 But that's really not the reason people allow

00:40:29.560 Things to slides because again they

00:40:31.260 Misunderstand the game you know when we talk

00:40:33.760 About winning all right winning is not

00:40:37.700 Complicated it's very simple dude this is

00:40:41.240 Why the best coaches in the world say the

00:40:45.360 Same shit you listen to Nick Saban all right Nick

00:40:49.580 Saban says the same shit it's one snap at a

00:40:54.520 Time we're gonna run this one play and we're

00:40:58.020 Gonna run it so many times that we cannot get

00:41:01.340 It wrong it's not we run it so many times to

00:41:04.720 Where we get it right and then oh it's great we

00:41:07.060 Run it so many times that every single time that

00:41:10.440 We run it it's almost impossible to fuck up that

00:41:13.640 Is the understanding of what winning is okay

00:41:17.420 Kurt Signally from from Indiana who's beating

00:41:21.660 Everybody's ass same thing we play one snap at a

00:41:25.700 Time okay now I want you to take that idea and I

00:41:28.300 Want you to apply it to a single day all right we

00:41:31.280 Are all playing a 24-hour game this is not a 10-year

00:41:35.480 Game it's not a five-year game it's not a one-year

00:41:38.940 Game it is a 24-hour game and if we can win one day we

00:41:44.820 Can win our life because all we have to do is replicate

00:41:47.660 Those wins over and over and over and over again so it's

00:41:51.560 Not understanding the game when it comes to winning now when

00:41:54.760 It comes to what this man is talking about you have to

00:41:58.360 Understand there are things within the game that increase

00:42:03.240 Our ability to execute or decrease our ability to execute I

00:42:07.480 Want you to think about it for a minute like deposits and

00:42:10.360 Withdrawals okay so you worked really hard to develop this

00:42:16.540 Standard of discipline in your life and you've put a lot of investment

00:42:20.420 You've you've built up a really nice score inside of your life of

00:42:26.520 Discipline think of it like a john madden game right this guy can run

00:42:29.660 Speed 95 he's 98 agile he's you know 10 intelligence whatever right

00:42:35.860 68 but but let's say you get to discipline and his disciplines a 90 okay

00:42:42.240 And by the way very dumb people can win very dumb people can win in fact a lot

00:42:48.780 Of very dumb people win because they don't overthink the fucking game so

00:42:52.660 You understand that you have a 90 discipline all right and you feel i'm a

00:42:58.700 Disciplined person well here's what you don't understand is that every time

00:43:02.680 You cut that corner every time you walk by that shopping cart every time you walk

00:43:08.340 By that litter you know that it should be addressed okay a lot of people aren't

00:43:14.520 Aware and the people who aren't aware it doesn't affect their score all right but

00:43:19.580 When you're aware it does affect your score because you fucking know that it's

00:43:23.480 Wrong so every time you walk past one of these things that gets addressed even

00:43:27.800 If you identify it as something small and insignificant you're making a

00:43:32.160 Withdrawal from your score so when you walk past that shopping cart your score goes

00:43:36.540 From a 90 to an 89 okay and then on the way out you walk past that cup that's

00:43:41.460 Some piece of shit left in the parking lot and now it goes from a fucking 89 to an 0.90

00:43:46.540 88 okay and then you do something else and it goes to an 87 and this is why

00:43:51.340 Discipline is something that has to be practiced on a daily basis by doing the

00:43:57.000 Things that you know need to be done to make investments in that score now let's

00:44:02.440 Take it the opposite way and you're a 90 all right and you see that shopping cart and it's out

00:44:07.360 There and you're like fuck

00:44:08.400 All right, i'll take care of it myself

00:44:11.900 Now it goes from a 90 to a 91

00:44:14.240 Okay, and then on the way out you see that same cup and you're like man what the fuck and you pick that cup up

00:44:20.840 It goes from a 91 to a 92 but here's the thing that people don't understand

00:44:24.760 There's 10 people that saw you pick up that cup

00:44:27.500 There's 10 people that saw you put that shopping cart away

00:44:30.980 So it's not just about making the investment or making the deposit or the withdrawal

00:44:35.460 It's about who sees you make the deposit or the withdrawal so

00:44:39.580 These little things that you have a trouble passing up on

00:44:43.800 The reason you're cutting those corners is because you don't understand how it affects you when you build a high discipline level

00:44:49.760 You naturally want to protect it

00:44:51.220 So if you want to protect that high discipline level that you've that you've built and you understand that little things take away from it

00:44:57.580 You're going to be much more likely to not cut the corners. Yes. Yeah. Okay

00:45:01.200 So this is how you have to think of it

00:45:03.060 And this issue that this person's talking about is a very common issue and this is also why

00:45:08.980 People who are very disciplined and then you know find themselves in this place where their life sort of fell apart

00:45:15.580 It's because you're not aware of how it works. You're misunderstanding the game

00:45:19.800 Same reason why people have a problem winning dude. They think they could set a goal today

00:45:24.660 There's a lot of people listening today that are saying i'm going to change my life this year

00:45:28.320 But they said it last year and they said it the year before and they said it the year before that and they said it the year before that and they said it

00:45:34.740 The year before that and they can't understand why shit isn't working out for them

00:45:39.640 Well shit's not working out for you because you don't understand that this is a 24-hour game

00:45:43.340 And when you win the day and then you win the next day and then you win the next day

00:45:47.980 And then you win the next day and let's say you lose a day and then you win another day

00:45:51.320 That compounds into your overall result

00:45:54.760 Okay, so

00:45:56.200 Typically how people do this they say this year i'm going to lose a hundred pounds and then

00:46:01.800 a week goes by

00:46:03.920 And they they repeated the same pattern, right? They they got to they got to wednesday and they're like, oh fuck

00:46:10.640 Drink sure does sound good. You know, i'm going to order a pizza. I've had a rough day

00:46:15.700 And and then they're like fuck I failed. Well, you know what i'll start again on monday 0.53

00:46:19.820 All right, and then what happens is that they repeat that cycle over and over and over again

00:46:25.620 And by the time, you know march comes around they're up another 10 pounds, but they're telling themselves. Well, you know what?

00:46:32.500 It's only march i've got the rest of the year to do it. So i'll just go extra hard and

00:46:38.440 They keep going down the same path. They don't change and then they're up another 10 pounds

00:46:43.980 And this is how this is how I went from

00:46:46.400 You know got all the way up to 350 pounds because I kept cutting myself off

00:46:50.740 Every wednesday and starting over on monday and then between wednesday and monday. I'm like well i'm starting monday

00:46:56.800 So i'm gonna get everything in that I can

00:46:58.760 And and uh, i'm gonna start monday. So I and I meant it

00:47:02.940 I meant I was gonna start monday, but when monday came around

00:47:06.000 It didn't really happen

00:47:08.520 So when we think about why people fail and why their situation continues to get worse

00:47:13.860 It's because they don't understand

00:47:16.020 That that that how to play the game. Okay

00:47:19.220 And here's the cool thing

00:47:21.160 This is the coolest part about it

00:47:23.240 When you start to understand the game

00:47:25.720 And you start to understand that i'm winning on a 24-hour basis, okay

00:47:31.760 What happens is is that over the course of time if you continue to win every single day

00:47:39.060 All right, and you win your weeks and then you win your months

00:47:42.380 What happens is is that winning becomes the standard, okay?

00:47:46.380 It's not something that you pursue

00:47:48.560 It's not something that you're after. It's something that you become

00:47:52.980 And that's where the power really lies when you can take this winning standard of getting the day one every single day

00:48:01.160 And it becomes who you are automatically

00:48:03.500 You're there is there isn't this like

00:48:06.340 Negativity or pressure or anxiety or frustration eating at you anymore

00:48:13.880 Because you know you're doing what you're supposed to do and you're seeing it result in

00:48:19.700 uh, you're seeing it produce real results so

00:48:22.960 Think if you could take yourself from where you are right now

00:48:27.120 To a place where winning wasn't something that you even had to try to do it just became

00:48:32.900 Your life

00:48:34.640 Yeah, and that's what happens when you understand the game and you start to create this identity

00:48:39.180 Of uh, you know, i'm a fucking winner, okay?

00:48:42.380 And when your identity starts to to develop into this idea of like well, dude, i'm winning I win every day

00:48:48.300 Now you've become extra powerful because now no longer are you saying well, I hope I win or I could do this

00:48:54.680 Yeah, you end up on tv like kurt signelli from uh, from indiana and he's like, yeah

00:49:00.180 I fucking win bro google me like and people are like, oh, he's so cocky

00:49:05.020 No, he's not cocky. He's stating a fucking fact

00:49:08.380 I fucking win

00:49:10.300 Here's my track record. This is what we do in the operator standard by the way, but it's not open

00:49:16.020 So you can't join right now and let me ask you this because I want to I want to make sure we're setting some realistic expectations

00:49:21.560 Specifically on this the the proverbial metaphorical bank account of discipline, right?

00:49:27.720 Is it a true one-on-one ratio, right? Like look and I ask that because like I I think of it very similar to like losing weight, right?

00:49:35.000 Or or a health journey, right?

00:49:36.460 Like it's gonna take some time for you to build up and get to where you want to be

00:49:39.920 But a couple of fuck-ups here and there cheat meals here and there that's gonna set you back way more

00:49:45.460 You know, you know, I'm saying so like is it a true one-on-one input output when it comes to the discipline stuff

00:49:50.300 Missing that shopping cart versus putting that shopping cart back up. Is it a true?

00:49:54.680 You know plus one yes

00:49:56.160 It is because I'm saying yes, because it's not about the task

00:50:00.180 It's about the awareness. Okay, it's not about how hard the task is. It's about the fact that you did it

00:50:07.260 Yeah, okay

00:50:07.860 So whether or not it's pushing the shopping cart into the corral or i've got this big pile of rocks that I got a shovel from here

00:50:16.420 To there and it's going to take me eight hours, but I know it needs to be done

00:50:19.720 The discipline is still the same that you gain because it's about the awareness of shit that needs to be done and then you addressing it

00:50:26.480 Just doing it. So it don't even matter what the task is. No, it's doing it. Yeah, I love it. Bigger tasks

00:50:30.980 your question is more so like

00:50:33.820 Do certain things can certain things damage you and take you back further, right?

00:50:39.860 Yes, they can

00:50:42.040 But that is different than what we're talking about

00:50:45.440 Okay, so like if you are to like one of the commonalities in in, uh, you know diet culture is

00:50:51.760 Well, if you fucking go

00:50:53.620 Monday through friday and great, you could do whatever you want on the weekends. That's not true

00:50:57.960 Okay, because mathematically the weekends represent

00:51:01.680 uh, 27% almost 30% of your fucking week 0.98

00:51:05.660 Okay, so if you're doing it 60% of the time, what's that grade in your what's what's a 60% in school?

00:51:12.560 Yeah, right

00:51:13.120 It's a fucking f right. Okay, so we have to understand that you can wipe out a week's progress

00:51:19.520 With 30% of poor performance. That's the truth

00:51:23.200 but

00:51:24.140 That's not the same question

00:51:27.540 As what we're talking about with discipline that becomes the awareness that you have

00:51:32.480 To handle things big or small when you know, they need to be handled and those make

00:51:37.400 Deposits or withdrawals

00:51:39.280 Units at a time not mass units at a time

00:51:42.500 You don't get any more discipline from shoveling the rocks that you do from putting the shopping cart away

00:51:47.360 You see what i'm saying? Absolutely

00:51:49.120 Absolutely. Yeah, because you're you're just aware that you're getting you're aware that it needs to be done and you're handling it

00:51:54.860 And every time that you handle the things that need to be done, you're making a deposit everything

00:51:59.260 You don't you're making a withdrawal and most people aren't aware of that and that's why they feel discipline

00:52:04.720 One week and then six weeks later. They can't figure out why shit fell apart

00:52:09.340 Well, it's because the little things that you passed up along that whole entire way that you knew needed to be addressed

00:52:16.420 leaked into the things that actually dictate what your results are

00:52:20.620 Okay, so let's say you walk by the shopping cart you walk by the cup

00:52:24.200 Like we talked about

00:52:25.400 That leads into well, it's just one meal

00:52:28.480 It's just one drink

00:52:30.320 And then that leads into i'll start again on monday and then that leads into you know what i'll start after uh

00:52:37.640 The wedding or i'll start, you know

00:52:39.800 March 1st or i'll start this bro. There's only one fucking time to start and that's right motherfucking now 0.91

00:52:45.360 And if you can't fucking pick that up and do that, you're not going to win. That's reality

00:52:49.300 There's nothing casual about winning dude

00:52:51.620 That's that's the biggest misunderstanding in culture

00:52:54.460 People think that they can casually win. They think that they can kind of want to win and win

00:52:59.300 There's nobody that's ever won. There's nobody that's ever been fit. There's nobody that's ever been rich

00:53:04.160 There's nobody that's ever done

00:53:05.380 Anything that you want to do but haven't done yet that did it casually. It's not reality

00:53:11.660 So this uh this thing this thinking in society

00:53:15.040 That everybody deserves to win and everybody will win with a casual effort is

00:53:21.180 It's fucking stupid dude. It's a gross misunderstanding of the game

00:53:25.480 It's total arrogance

00:53:27.100 It's total disrespect to everybody else that's trying to achieve the goal

00:53:31.260 And it's you believing that you're much better than you are and quite honestly, you're not

00:53:35.760 So we have to understand yes, there's people competing for what we want. Yes, there's a limited amount of spots at the top

00:53:42.700 Yes

00:53:43.520 Everything fucking matters in getting there and you will never get there being casual about it

00:53:48.820 It's just not the real way it works. So

00:53:51.900 if you want to be

00:53:53.900 A winner and you want to have a big fat bank account

00:53:57.520 You want to be in shape and you want to have the life that you think you want

00:54:00.320 You better understand that

00:54:02.040 or

00:54:03.360 You could just be like everybody else and accept it because i'm going to tell you this

00:54:08.240 You know, what's worse than losing

00:54:10.160 Is having all of these dreams and all of these goals and everything that you want to do

00:54:14.640 And never fucking doing them and then keep telling yourself i'm going to do them one day

00:54:19.040 You'll waste your whole motherfucking life

00:54:20.500 So either accept right now that you're going to be a fucking winner and do it or accept right now that you're not and just live your life

00:54:27.560 Because the worst thing you can do is think about all of these things that you want to be and never fucking execute on

00:54:33.340 That's worse than losing

00:54:35.660 Yeah, it is worse than losing because it's agonizing

00:54:38.780 It's agonizing

00:54:40.140 It will eat you fucking alive losing at least you can say oh at least I fucking tried

00:54:44.220 I know or you could just say yeah, you could just say whatever fuck. This is what I accept

00:54:49.320 Yeah, I accept a mediocre life. I accept a subpar life

00:54:52.860 But then you can't be mad at people who don't accept that right right so

00:54:57.740 uh

00:54:59.260 Yeah, man, I mean look dude

00:55:01.360 It's it's very simple

00:55:03.520 um

00:55:04.780 People overcomplicate it

00:55:07.180 It takes a lot of effort

00:55:12.220 But anybody can do it and um

00:55:16.700 You know

00:55:18.700 I I certainly wouldn't want to be one of these people that

00:55:21.180 That talks about all these things they're going to do and then lives in that nether

00:55:25.580 Another, you know region of like fucking, you know, I want to do it, but i'm not doing it

00:55:31.260 That's that's going to destroy someone's life

00:55:33.740 Yeah, so either accept that you're going to win or accept that you're not going to win

00:55:37.980 And stop talking about it. Love it, dude

00:55:40.700 I love it, man. Well guys, andy that was three

00:55:43.980 Yep, that's a hell of a way to start a week, dude. Yep. All right, guys, we will see you tonight at seven

00:55:49.500 Don't be a hoe 1.00

00:55:51.420 Let's try the shot

00:55:52.220 Yeah

00:55:53.340 Went from sleeping on the floor

00:55:55.020 Now my jewelry box froze

00:55:56.700 Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove 0.97

00:55:58.380 Counted millions in the cold

00:56:00.060 Bad bitch, booted swole 1.00

00:56:01.740 Got her on bankroll

00:56:03.340 Can't fold, that's a no

00:56:05.020 Headshot, case closed

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 05, 2026

985. Q&AF： Dealing With Pressure, Leading Without Losing Your Identity & Realigning Yourself

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