REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 05, 2026


985. Q&AF： Dealing With Pressure, Leading Without Losing Your Identity & Realigning Yourself


Episode Stats

Length

56 minutes

Words per Minute

182.68494

Word Count

10,251

Sentence Count

47

Misogynist Sentences

8

Hate Speech Sentences

26


Summary

In this episode of Q&A, we have Andy Purcell on the show to talk about the 75 Hard Program and how it has changed his life. 75 Hard is the world's most famous mental transformation program and is the most famous program in history. If you haven't completed the program, you should definitely get started.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists
00:00:20.220 Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society
00:00:23.640 And welcome to motherfucking reality
00:00:25.740 Guys, today we have Q and AF
00:00:28.500 That's where you submit the questions
00:00:30.000 And we give you the answers
00:00:32.160 You can submit your questions a couple different ways
00:00:34.580 Tell them how, DJ
00:00:35.580 Hey guys, you can email these questions in to askandy at andyfricella.com
00:00:39.780 You can also click the link in the description below
00:00:41.700 Submit your questions that way
00:00:42.800 Or drop them in the comments of the Q and AF videos
00:00:46.760 On Andy Purcell and Motivation on YouTube
00:00:48.880 Don't forget, if you are a YouTube connoisseur
00:00:54.500 We have put the Q and AFs on their own channel
00:00:58.500 It's called Andy Purcell and Motivation
00:01:00.400 So go over there, hit subscribe
00:01:02.400 And you'll get that content as well
00:01:04.520 Guys, if this is your first time listening
00:01:06.840 We have shows within the show
00:01:08.700 We've got CTI, which will be live tonight at 7 o'clock
00:01:13.880 We also do those on Thursday nights at 7 o'clock live
00:01:18.040 Then we have Real Talk
00:01:20.000 Real Talk's just 5 to 20 minutes of me giving you some Real Talk
00:01:22.600 And then we have 75 Hard Versus
00:01:26.280 That is where people who have completed 75 Hard
00:01:28.740 Come on the show
00:01:29.940 They talk about how they were before
00:01:31.420 How they are now
00:01:32.720 And how they use the 75 Hard program
00:01:34.700 To transform their life
00:01:36.920 Now if you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard
00:01:39.540 It is the initial phase of the Live Hard program
00:01:42.600 Which is the world's most famous mental transformation program in history
00:01:47.580 And you can get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed
00:01:51.660 There's also a book available at andyfricella.com
00:01:55.280 Called The Book on Mental Toughness
00:01:56.780 I'd highly recommend it
00:01:57.820 Especially for those of you who need to know the in-depth ins and outs of how, why, what
00:02:05.360 You don't have to have the book
00:02:07.260 Again, you get the program for free at episode 208
00:02:09.760 But the book is very good
00:02:11.980 Let's see
00:02:14.060 With that being said
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00:02:30.340 Yeah
00:02:31.000 What's happening, dude?
00:02:32.500 We're live tonight
00:02:33.180 I'm excited
00:02:34.440 You know
00:02:35.060 Yeah
00:02:35.640 Wait, you tired?
00:02:38.920 Yeah, I'm a little sleepy
00:02:39.660 Still waking up
00:02:40.340 It was a long night, man
00:02:43.280 Yeah
00:02:43.560 What'd you do?
00:02:45.380 It was mother-in-law's birthday
00:02:46.920 So we did a little shindig
00:02:49.820 And that turned to me being up till five this morning
00:02:53.220 Oh yeah?
00:02:53.720 Did you have a couple beverages?
00:02:55.200 I had a few beverages
00:02:56.120 Yeah?
00:02:56.660 Yeah, a few beverages
00:02:57.460 A few beverages by themselves
00:02:59.340 I don't miss that, bro
00:03:00.720 Yeah, no
00:03:01.340 No
00:03:01.900 I don't miss that feeling at all
00:03:03.480 I actually don't feel terrible
00:03:05.160 I'm just a little tired
00:03:06.060 I just don't like that cloudy feeling, man
00:03:08.080 Yeah
00:03:08.380 Yeah
00:03:09.300 This is the first show of 2026
00:03:14.260 When we come with Q&AF
00:03:15.960 Is it?
00:03:16.640 Yeah
00:03:16.920 Is it really?
00:03:19.020 Yeah
00:03:19.240 Shit
00:03:19.740 It is
00:03:20.280 No
00:03:20.700 On Q&AFs, yeah
00:03:22.460 Yeah
00:03:22.820 Shit, it is
00:03:24.580 Yeah
00:03:24.800 Maybe there is a little cloud, huh?
00:03:26.480 Yeah
00:03:26.640 Yeah, man
00:03:29.320 It is
00:03:29.880 It's, yeah
00:03:30.740 Well, it's great
00:03:31.700 And as always
00:03:34.140 Well, how are you doing?
00:03:35.300 You good?
00:03:36.040 Yeah
00:03:36.260 Yeah
00:03:36.720 Yeah
00:03:37.140 Feel good?
00:03:37.900 Playing good?
00:03:38.340 Look good?
00:03:39.500 Doing what I can do, man
00:03:40.820 75 hard's going?
00:03:42.420 Oh yeah, that's a thing
00:03:43.400 Fuck, a shit ton of people are starting 75 hard today
00:03:47.020 So, you know, if that's you, just know you're not alone
00:03:51.800 There is a ton
00:03:52.660 I think it's the biggest
00:03:53.500 I think it's the biggest amount we ever had started
00:03:56.280 Which is interesting because according to everybody else
00:03:59.020 It's a fad
00:04:00.000 It's dangerous
00:04:00.540 Fads don't continue to grow, bro
00:04:02.140 Great programs do
00:04:03.540 That's right
00:04:04.060 And that's why it has been, you know, as big as it has been for the last six years
00:04:10.200 It's because it fucking works
00:04:11.660 And, you know, this is the time of year where we see everybody try to attack 75 hard
00:04:19.200 And make adjustments
00:04:20.140 And, you know, hop on the hype train
00:04:22.540 And use it for traffic
00:04:23.660 And say they don't like it
00:04:25.560 Which is insane
00:04:26.740 Because if you have clients as a trainer
00:04:30.380 And you don't want them to actually get results
00:04:33.620 You're not a very good trainer
00:04:35.920 And the program is made for you to plug in all of your programming right along with it
00:04:41.340 So if I were a trainer
00:04:42.840 I would maybe recommend actually working with the program
00:04:47.080 It's not hurting you
00:04:48.140 It helps your clients
00:04:49.540 It helps them transform the ultimate issue
00:04:53.120 Which is their mind
00:04:54.280 And makes everybody's job a lot more effective
00:04:58.280 So, and if you see that kind of shit
00:05:01.320 Just let them know, bro
00:05:02.220 You know, we're getting to the point where people kind of know
00:05:06.140 Yeah
00:05:06.540 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:07.340 Oh, for sure
00:05:07.860 Like, you can't go to people who, you know, have completed Ironmans
00:05:14.340 And done Ironman training and has changed their fucking life
00:05:17.280 And say, oh yeah, Ironmans look shitty
00:05:19.720 That's not healthy for you
00:05:20.720 Right
00:05:20.980 Like
00:05:21.780 It's not sustainable
00:05:22.780 Yeah, whatever, dude
00:05:24.140 Oh yeah, by the way
00:05:25.680 Speaking of sustainable
00:05:27.300 This is literally the 10th anniversary of me losing 110 pounds
00:05:34.940 Okay
00:05:35.840 So
00:05:36.440 I'm keeping it off
00:05:37.260 Yeah
00:05:37.600 When I was 36 years old
00:05:39.200 I was 350 fucking pounds
00:05:41.120 Okay
00:05:41.820 And I've kept it off for 10 years
00:05:45.720 Using the principles of the program
00:05:48.000 So if we want to talk about what sustainable means
00:05:50.480 It's about correcting the issue and keeping it away
00:05:54.980 You know
00:05:55.640 That's right
00:05:56.360 It's interesting how people believe that
00:05:58.340 You know, you should just be able to go on a diet
00:06:01.440 And it'll fix it forever
00:06:03.260 That doesn't fix anything
00:06:04.800 Okay
00:06:05.440 That might change the physical
00:06:07.000 But until you change the mental
00:06:09.040 Until you figure out that this is a discipline problem
00:06:13.040 This is a mental toughness problem
00:06:14.740 And that these skills of discipline, grit, fortitude, perseverance
00:06:19.520 Mental toughness
00:06:21.020 These are perishable skills that you have to stay on top of over the course of your life
00:06:26.360 They're not just magically there for, you know
00:06:30.240 You do 75 days and it stays there forever
00:06:32.760 That's why the Live Hard program has multiple phases to it
00:06:37.060 Because you're going to do 75 days
00:06:39.040 Then you've got 30 days phase one
00:06:40.960 Then you have a mandatory break
00:06:42.440 And that mandatory break is so that you can realize that this isn't something that is fixed forever
00:06:49.160 Yeah, just how perishable that shit is
00:06:50.740 Correct
00:06:51.140 And if you don't practice it on a daily basis
00:06:53.460 It goes away very fast
00:06:55.320 Then it has another 30 day phase
00:06:58.140 Then it has another 30 day phase
00:07:00.040 At the end of your year
00:07:02.120 So this whole program is designed to keep you sharp throughout the year
00:07:06.440 Which is fucking sustainable
00:07:09.680 So it's, you know, it's just people that don't understand
00:07:13.420 Or, you know
00:07:14.320 You know what's not sustainable?
00:07:16.080 Paper straws
00:07:17.320 Yeah, I fucking noticed that
00:07:18.580 That's not
00:07:19.100 That's some bullshit
00:07:22.080 You saw Florida's banning them
00:07:23.480 Are they really?
00:07:24.760 Yeah
00:07:24.900 Good for them
00:07:25.320 Good for them
00:07:26.180 We should ban that shit everywhere
00:07:27.260 Do we do that here in Missouri?
00:07:30.580 No, no
00:07:31.220 I mean, some places do, right?
00:07:32.840 I don't go to those places
00:07:33.840 But we don't go to those places
00:07:35.240 Bro, paper straw is pretty much the worst thing ever
00:07:38.080 No, for sure
00:07:38.700 Like, it gets a little bit of liquid in it
00:07:40.440 And then it starts, like, coming apart
00:07:41.800 You gotta chug your shit in, like, three minutes, bro
00:07:43.540 Yeah, it's gross
00:07:44.020 Or you're fucked
00:07:44.300 It's fucking gross
00:07:45.120 And then, you know, if you don't chug your shit in three minutes
00:07:47.860 There's little pieces of straw floating in your drink
00:07:50.760 I don't want that
00:07:51.360 No, it's gross, dude
00:07:52.380 Yeah
00:07:53.220 Anyway
00:07:54.260 Yeah, we just ripped off a tangent there
00:07:56.740 Yeah
00:07:57.320 But yeah, man, guys
00:07:58.540 It's Monday
00:07:59.400 So let's make some people better
00:08:01.260 Let's do it
00:08:01.940 With three good ones
00:08:02.720 Okay
00:08:03.180 I have them for you
00:08:04.640 Alright, I know you do
00:08:05.780 Yeah
00:08:06.200 Let's get into these, man
00:08:08.480 Guys, Andy, question
00:08:09.440 Number one
00:08:10.960 Andy, I don't explode
00:08:14.180 But
00:08:15.520 I hold everything in
00:08:17.000 Stress, anger, resentment
00:08:18.960 I just bury it
00:08:20.120 And just keep moving
00:08:21.000 Lately
00:08:21.460 I can feel it leaking out
00:08:24.100 In weird ways
00:08:25.160 Like
00:08:25.500 I'm starting to be short with people
00:08:27.580 That I care about
00:08:28.420 How do you deal with the pressure
00:08:30.460 Without either blowing up
00:08:32.500 Or shutting down completely?
00:08:33.940 I guess
00:08:34.160 How do you handle those emotions
00:08:35.460 While you're in the building phases of life?
00:08:38.280 Well, first of all
00:08:39.020 We're always in the building phase of life
00:08:40.540 You don't get to a place where
00:08:42.060 Automatically you look around and say
00:08:43.800 Oh, okay, I'm done
00:08:44.900 That's like
00:08:45.780 This is the common misunderstanding of people
00:08:48.740 Whether it's your business
00:08:51.220 Whether it's your diet
00:08:52.360 Whether it's your training
00:08:53.540 Whether it's your personal relationships
00:08:55.500 Whether it's your spirituality
00:08:57.840 These things are always a work in progress
00:09:01.260 This idea
00:09:02.420 That typically comes from younger people
00:09:05.800 Because
00:09:06.160 And it's no fault of their own
00:09:07.860 They lack perspective
00:09:09.160 But they think they're going to get to a point
00:09:11.680 And everything's just going to be set
00:09:14.340 You know, like
00:09:15.420 Okay
00:09:15.880 We built the house
00:09:17.660 The house is done
00:09:18.660 Like that's not how your life works
00:09:21.140 Okay
00:09:21.760 Your life is always a work in progress
00:09:24.620 And so
00:09:25.240 We all go through these different learning lessons
00:09:29.340 At different points in time in our life
00:09:31.280 Nobody
00:09:32.340 Has it all figured out at 25
00:09:35.000 Or 35
00:09:35.880 Or 45
00:09:36.620 Or 55
00:09:37.420 Or even 85
00:09:38.920 Okay
00:09:39.780 My dad's 80 years old
00:09:41.200 He still learns new shit every single day
00:09:43.260 Alright
00:09:43.820 He's still working on things
00:09:45.900 He's still trying to improve
00:09:47.340 And I actually think
00:09:49.000 That that mentality
00:09:50.400 Is very parallel to people
00:09:53.220 Who live very long and productive lives
00:09:55.940 Alright
00:09:56.600 When people think they're done
00:09:59.080 And we see this all the time
00:10:00.380 Right
00:10:00.660 Like they sell their business
00:10:01.920 And they retire
00:10:02.740 And then, you know
00:10:03.600 In two years they're dead
00:10:04.860 Right
00:10:05.600 Or they're going to gain 200 fucking pounds
00:10:08.200 Yeah
00:10:08.600 Or
00:10:08.980 Miserable
00:10:10.500 You can take it on the other end of the spectrum
00:10:12.720 You know
00:10:13.560 The guy who
00:10:14.480 Was the all-American athlete
00:10:16.700 In high school and college
00:10:18.200 And then you see him at 30 years old
00:10:20.300 And he's 400 pounds
00:10:21.800 And broke
00:10:22.540 Okay
00:10:23.340 The minute you start thinking
00:10:25.280 That your life is complete
00:10:26.780 Is the minute it starts falling apart
00:10:28.580 And so we have to understand
00:10:30.320 That this is a process
00:10:32.120 That never ends
00:10:33.600 And once you accept that
00:10:35.320 Once you accept that
00:10:36.340 That's the way it's going to be
00:10:37.980 It stops hurting
00:10:39.760 It stops feeling like
00:10:41.420 You're behind
00:10:42.300 It stops feeling like
00:10:43.720 You know
00:10:44.460 That friction
00:10:45.680 Yeah
00:10:46.040 Like you just have to understand the game
00:10:48.460 And the biggest thing
00:10:49.620 That people struggle with
00:10:51.000 Is trying to play
00:10:52.980 A different game
00:10:54.020 Outside of the reality
00:10:55.540 Of how it works
00:10:56.380 We can listen to
00:10:58.260 You know
00:10:58.800 Mary Take It Easy
00:11:01.100 Therapy Lady
00:11:01.960 On the internet
00:11:02.640 And we can listen to
00:11:03.760 David Goggins
00:11:04.560 And we can listen to
00:11:05.840 Andy
00:11:06.280 And we can listen to
00:11:07.220 Fucking Tony
00:11:07.920 And we can listen to
00:11:08.740 All these guys
00:11:09.400 But at the end of the day bro
00:11:11.360 The truth is the truth
00:11:12.860 And the system works the way it is
00:11:14.940 And reality is reality
00:11:16.220 Reality is
00:11:17.560 The same for you
00:11:18.720 As it is for me
00:11:19.920 No different than gravity
00:11:21.840 Okay
00:11:22.440 If we
00:11:23.180 We can argue about
00:11:25.060 How gravity is
00:11:26.100 You can say
00:11:27.280 Oh it's not that real
00:11:28.440 And I can say
00:11:29.000 No it's pretty real
00:11:29.900 And we can go outside
00:11:31.600 And you're going to fall
00:11:32.340 Just the same way I fall
00:11:33.360 Okay
00:11:34.060 So we have to understand
00:11:35.160 That the game works
00:11:36.800 The same for everybody
00:11:38.180 It's the same set of
00:11:39.880 Fucking rules
00:11:40.460 You may have started off
00:11:41.560 In a different place
00:11:42.420 But the rules are the same
00:11:44.580 Okay
00:11:45.380 So thinking that
00:11:46.560 You're going to be the person
00:11:47.640 That the rules change for
00:11:49.740 Is a
00:11:51.640 It's an egotistical
00:11:53.460 Arrogant thought
00:11:54.340 It's the same for everybody
00:11:56.100 And
00:11:56.880 When we talk about
00:11:59.160 You know
00:12:01.040 What it actually takes
00:12:02.700 And where you should be
00:12:04.460 Everybody's at a different point
00:12:08.980 In a different place
00:12:09.800 So
00:12:10.340 I don't know how old this person is
00:12:12.180 Does it say
00:12:12.740 Okay
00:12:13.640 You're learning the lesson now
00:12:15.640 Of how to deal with
00:12:16.800 Pressure
00:12:17.480 Okay
00:12:18.340 And that doesn't put you behind
00:12:19.600 That doesn't mean you're wrong
00:12:20.800 That doesn't mean you're doing something bad
00:12:22.660 It means you just haven't learned a lesson yet
00:12:24.660 I'm someone
00:12:25.960 Who has typically matured much later
00:12:29.120 Than people my age
00:12:30.800 Okay
00:12:31.300 I've always been like 10 years behind
00:12:33.380 Like
00:12:33.680 I was laughing at
00:12:34.860 You know
00:12:35.160 Dick jokes
00:12:35.840 When I was
00:12:36.320 Well I still do
00:12:36.980 Right
00:12:37.460 So like
00:12:38.420 I
00:12:39.140 I can relate to that
00:12:41.220 And
00:12:41.540 You've just got to understand
00:12:43.920 That that's normal
00:12:45.240 It's
00:12:45.680 Everybody deals with it
00:12:47.160 I mean bro
00:12:48.240 How many times
00:12:50.100 Have you wanted to blow up on shit
00:12:52.540 That you didn't
00:12:53.400 Right
00:12:53.940 You have great emotional control
00:12:55.280 Oh thank you
00:12:56.040 Yeah you do
00:12:56.640 You know
00:12:57.280 Dude I've never seen you lose your temper
00:12:59.440 I've never seen you
00:13:00.680 You know
00:13:02.460 Even when you're upset
00:13:03.400 You know what I'm saying
00:13:04.480 You keep it under control
00:13:05.640 That's not something I'm the best at
00:13:07.740 Okay
00:13:08.260 I struggle with that sometimes
00:13:09.580 We all have like points
00:13:11.160 That are harder for other people
00:13:12.460 Because of how we're wired and set up
00:13:14.340 And so
00:13:15.420 I've had to learn
00:13:16.780 And by the way
00:13:17.960 I don't have it mastered
00:13:18.840 But I've had to learn
00:13:20.260 I have made a lot of improvements
00:13:21.700 Oh for sure
00:13:22.480 Of how to
00:13:23.720 Control these frustrations
00:13:25.600 And these pressures
00:13:26.360 To make sure that I don't take it out
00:13:28.220 On people that don't deserve it
00:13:31.260 Yeah
00:13:31.400 And sometimes people do deserve it
00:13:33.360 Yeah
00:13:33.540 By the way
00:13:34.140 Yeah
00:13:34.380 But at the end of the day
00:13:36.840 This is about finding ways
00:13:38.540 That work for you
00:13:40.520 That help you relieve some of that pressure
00:13:43.120 Okay
00:13:43.780 And what I found for me
00:13:45.820 Is lifting weights
00:13:47.440 Helps a lot
00:13:48.560 Okay
00:13:49.100 When I am
00:13:50.120 Very stressed
00:13:51.620 And very
00:13:52.420 Heavy
00:13:53.880 And borderline angry
00:13:55.900 When I lift weights
00:13:57.400 An hour later
00:13:58.780 I feel a lot better
00:13:59.880 Walking works very well for me
00:14:02.640 Okay
00:14:02.960 Like when I'm very
00:14:03.880 Very stressed
00:14:04.660 If I go for a walk
00:14:06.160 For an hour dude
00:14:06.900 Most of the problems
00:14:08.100 Solve themselves
00:14:08.920 Alright
00:14:09.640 But I think ultimately
00:14:12.040 The issue here is awareness
00:14:13.860 It's being able to know
00:14:15.800 When that pressure is getting near
00:14:18.980 Where it's going to explode
00:14:20.680 And then doing some things
00:14:21.980 To keep it from getting up to that level
00:14:23.660 Yeah
00:14:23.980 Right
00:14:24.460 So
00:14:24.920 That's gold
00:14:27.440 Because what you're saying effectively is
00:14:29.420 Imagine if
00:14:31.340 Because everybody has fucking stress
00:14:32.880 Right
00:14:33.080 Like everybody has that
00:14:33.800 But imagine
00:14:34.440 The way to deal with that
00:14:35.940 Is by doing something
00:14:36.820 That's still pushing you fucking forward
00:14:38.780 That's the whole thing
00:14:39.820 That's where I'm getting
00:14:40.700 So
00:14:41.160 We got to understand
00:14:42.940 That these
00:14:43.700 This pressure
00:14:45.380 Is not something
00:14:46.340 To be avoided
00:14:47.220 It's something
00:14:48.400 To utilize
00:14:49.320 For us to be more successful
00:14:50.980 And more productive
00:14:51.880 So when you start
00:14:53.240 To feel these ways
00:14:54.440 And you get negativity
00:14:56.020 And you get pressure
00:14:57.600 And you get frustration
00:14:59.140 And you can feel it start to rise
00:15:02.380 You have to be aware enough
00:15:04.240 To take that negative energy
00:15:05.960 Which by the way
00:15:07.060 Isn't really negative
00:15:08.220 It's just how you perceive it
00:15:09.700 And utilize it
00:15:10.880 In a productive action
00:15:12.020 Every single person
00:15:13.820 That's ever become
00:15:14.860 What you admire
00:15:16.160 Any of you watching
00:15:17.560 Or listening
00:15:18.240 They understand
00:15:20.080 How to productively
00:15:21.900 Deal with negativity
00:15:23.180 Or pressure
00:15:24.320 They understand
00:15:25.420 How to leverage it properly
00:15:27.100 Because unfortunately
00:15:28.540 Contrary to what
00:15:30.180 The internet will tell you
00:15:31.440 Not everything is good
00:15:33.100 Not everybody
00:15:34.240 Claps for you
00:15:35.120 Not everybody
00:15:35.980 Cheers for you
00:15:36.760 Not everybody
00:15:37.520 Wants you to win
00:15:38.360 Not everything
00:15:39.340 Goes your way
00:15:40.180 There's going to be
00:15:40.980 All kinds of things
00:15:41.900 That punch you
00:15:42.500 In the fucking mouth
00:15:43.440 Over and over
00:15:44.180 And over again
00:15:44.880 And if you don't learn
00:15:46.140 How to leverage those
00:15:47.120 Into productive action
00:15:48.280 You are going to lose
00:15:50.540 To people who do
00:15:51.620 And so instead of
00:15:53.280 Letting it crumble
00:15:54.180 Or instead of letting it
00:15:55.420 Spill over into
00:15:57.100 Outbursts to people
00:15:59.300 That don't deserve it
00:16:00.380 You need to learn
00:16:01.200 How to recognize
00:16:02.120 When the pressure's
00:16:03.000 Almost near the breaking point
00:16:04.740 And then go
00:16:06.260 Use that energy
00:16:08.020 To be productive
00:16:09.160 A lot of times
00:16:11.000 The pressure that we feel
00:16:12.700 Is coming from
00:16:14.140 Things that we know
00:16:15.240 We're supposed to do
00:16:16.260 But haven't done yet
00:16:17.380 Did you ever notice
00:16:18.680 How you've got
00:16:19.940 This one thing
00:16:20.880 That is really
00:16:21.980 On your mind
00:16:22.700 And you know
00:16:23.200 It needs to be done
00:16:24.140 And you keep
00:16:25.040 Thinking about it
00:16:25.820 But you know
00:16:26.260 It's not that big a deal
00:16:27.320 It's not that big a deal
00:16:28.340 Let's just say
00:16:29.200 It's something simple
00:16:30.000 Like mowing the grass
00:16:31.020 Right
00:16:31.300 Your grass gets
00:16:32.440 A little long
00:16:33.100 And you're looking
00:16:34.520 At the grass
00:16:35.140 You're like
00:16:35.420 Ah I got another
00:16:36.460 Couple days
00:16:36.980 Before I can mow it
00:16:37.720 And then you let
00:16:38.580 Those couple days
00:16:39.280 Go by
00:16:39.700 And it gets
00:16:40.420 Way bigger
00:16:41.500 And then you're like
00:16:42.980 Fuck it's pretty bad
00:16:44.040 This is going to be
00:16:45.240 A pain in the ass
00:16:46.060 To mow
00:16:46.460 And then you put
00:16:47.960 It off then
00:16:48.500 And then it gets
00:16:49.140 Even worse
00:16:49.720 And then before
00:16:50.660 You know it dude
00:16:51.380 You're out there
00:16:52.500 With the push mower
00:16:53.380 Flopping the
00:16:54.280 Motherfucker around
00:16:55.240 Trying to cut the grass
00:16:56.460 Cursing yourself
00:16:58.140 Yeah
00:16:58.440 Because you could
00:16:59.420 Have just handled it
00:17:00.140 When it was
00:17:00.580 When it was
00:17:01.340 You know
00:17:02.640 Small
00:17:03.020 Yeah right
00:17:03.600 But
00:17:04.060 The minute you get
00:17:06.360 Done with that
00:17:07.160 All of that anxiety
00:17:08.800 And all of that
00:17:09.420 Pressure is over
00:17:10.340 And this
00:17:11.020 Goes into
00:17:12.280 Work
00:17:13.560 This goes into
00:17:14.440 Your fitness
00:17:15.020 This goes into
00:17:16.080 Your communication
00:17:17.840 And your relationships
00:17:18.820 This goes into
00:17:19.980 Conversations that
00:17:21.040 You know you should
00:17:21.740 Have but you're
00:17:22.320 Afraid to have
00:17:23.060 There's all these
00:17:24.300 Things that make
00:17:25.020 The pressure go up
00:17:26.080 And a lot of times
00:17:27.320 That pressure going up
00:17:28.380 Is just an indicator
00:17:29.340 It's a reminder
00:17:30.200 It's a little thing
00:17:31.020 That's pointing at you
00:17:32.260 Saying hey
00:17:32.880 This needs to be addressed
00:17:34.220 And if you learn to
00:17:35.440 Listen to that quickly
00:17:36.480 The pressure stays low
00:17:38.460 But if you let it get high
00:17:40.720 It's going to make you
00:17:41.980 Feel uncomfortable
00:17:42.620 And that's the game
00:17:43.740 That's how it's
00:17:44.480 Supposed to be
00:17:45.260 You intuitively know
00:17:47.080 The things that are
00:17:47.920 Supposed to be done
00:17:48.920 You know you're
00:17:49.980 Fucking fat
00:17:50.780 You know you're
00:17:51.900 Fucking lazy
00:17:52.660 You know your life
00:17:53.960 Doesn't look the way
00:17:54.820 You want it to look
00:17:55.600 You know that
00:17:56.640 You know things
00:17:57.520 Need to be addressed
00:17:58.260 You know you're not
00:17:59.180 Giving your all
00:17:59.820 At your job
00:18:00.320 Everybody fucking
00:18:01.400 Knows that
00:18:01.980 But very few people
00:18:03.740 Proactively address it
00:18:05.220 And understand how to
00:18:06.660 Leverage those feelings
00:18:07.680 Into productive action
00:18:08.840 And my hope for you guys
00:18:10.360 This year is that
00:18:11.320 This becomes the time
00:18:12.540 Where you actually
00:18:13.840 Figure out that there
00:18:15.220 Is no easy way
00:18:16.180 There is no quick way
00:18:17.580 There is no permanent way
00:18:19.140 It's a constant process
00:18:20.780 It's a constant set of actions
00:18:24.480 It's a constant sculpting
00:18:26.800 Of the perfect life
00:18:28.020 You know it's an ongoing process
00:18:31.760 And there's not a person
00:18:33.240 Who has ever lived
00:18:35.220 That has ever gotten
00:18:37.520 To a point in their life
00:18:39.000 Whether they be
00:18:39.780 60, 70, 80 years old
00:18:41.560 And said
00:18:43.880 Oh you know what
00:18:44.660 It's great
00:18:45.360 That didn't become
00:18:46.540 Miserable later
00:18:47.360 Do you ever notice
00:18:48.900 That when people
00:18:49.540 Are older
00:18:50.200 Like you know
00:18:50.940 Our grandparents
00:18:51.620 They're pretty
00:18:53.160 Like some of them
00:18:54.260 Can be pretty fucking
00:18:55.080 Angry and bitter and shit
00:18:56.360 Bitter assholes
00:18:57.140 Do you know
00:18:57.580 Do you know why
00:18:58.600 It's because they
00:18:59.400 Stopped moving forward bro
00:19:00.740 And now they're
00:19:01.320 Only looking backwards
00:19:02.340 They're only looking backwards
00:19:04.040 They're only thinking
00:19:05.040 About the things they missed
00:19:06.220 They're only thinking
00:19:07.340 About the things
00:19:07.960 They didn't do
00:19:08.580 They're only thinking
00:19:09.500 About the chances
00:19:10.200 They didn't take
00:19:10.940 And yeah that's going
00:19:12.340 To make you angry
00:19:13.100 So you have to
00:19:14.180 Accept the fact
00:19:15.240 That if you want
00:19:16.280 To be fulfilled
00:19:17.100 And you want
00:19:17.940 To be successful
00:19:18.780 And you want
00:19:19.720 To live the life
00:19:20.620 That you know
00:19:21.180 You could live
00:19:21.880 And should live
00:19:22.640 You're going
00:19:23.860 To have to accept
00:19:24.700 The process
00:19:25.320 And the process
00:19:26.160 Is ongoing
00:19:26.880 It never ends
00:19:27.760 And I want to
00:19:28.800 I want to talk
00:19:29.240 On this piece too
00:19:30.060 You know
00:19:30.540 Because he's talking
00:19:31.240 About being short
00:19:31.780 With people
00:19:32.120 Things like that
00:19:32.820 And you know
00:19:33.080 I know you touched
00:19:33.620 On like the emotional
00:19:34.540 Control aspect
00:19:35.400 Of this a little bit
00:19:36.360 But I think this is
00:19:37.780 Important too
00:19:38.240 And it's something
00:19:38.740 That I know
00:19:39.280 You you deeply
00:19:40.160 Care about
00:19:40.800 I feel that
00:19:42.880 You know
00:19:43.160 When that pressure
00:19:43.860 Comes and when
00:19:44.540 The stress comes
00:19:45.360 I think it also
00:19:46.500 Comes down to your
00:19:47.200 Intent right
00:19:47.960 Like you can be
00:19:49.100 Pissed off
00:19:49.560 But I know
00:19:50.260 That your intent
00:19:50.920 Still in the right
00:19:51.540 Place so it's like
00:19:52.360 We're all on the
00:19:53.220 Same team here
00:19:53.840 Yeah well now
00:19:54.580 We're crossing
00:19:55.120 Into like a
00:19:55.700 Leadership
00:19:56.080 Yeah
00:19:56.720 Discussion right
00:19:57.900 Like sometimes
00:19:59.960 In leadership
00:20:00.800 You do got to get
00:20:01.780 You do got to
00:20:02.680 Get a little rowdy
00:20:03.400 You do got to
00:20:04.440 Push motherfuckers
00:20:05.340 Your job as a
00:20:06.820 Leader is to
00:20:07.780 Live the standard
00:20:08.600 And then hold
00:20:09.320 Other people to
00:20:10.160 The standard
00:20:10.660 And those are
00:20:12.000 Two very important
00:20:13.140 Points okay
00:20:14.520 A lot of people
00:20:15.920 Try to hold the
00:20:16.680 Standard without
00:20:17.180 Living it themselves
00:20:18.000 And then they
00:20:18.820 Wonder why other
00:20:19.440 People won't do it
00:20:20.340 Well other people
00:20:21.220 Aren't doing it
00:20:21.780 Because you're not
00:20:22.340 Fucking doing it
00:20:23.120 Okay so if you're
00:20:24.220 A leader and
00:20:25.060 You're running a
00:20:25.700 Team or you have
00:20:27.100 Your family and
00:20:28.380 You say oh you
00:20:29.000 Guys should be
00:20:29.540 Doing this they're
00:20:30.620 Not gonna do it
00:20:31.300 Till you do it
00:20:31.960 And this is the
00:20:32.660 Problem that we
00:20:33.320 Face as a culture
00:20:34.140 We have this
00:20:35.380 Attitude that
00:20:36.720 People are waiting
00:20:38.740 For someone else
00:20:39.600 To do all the
00:20:40.440 Shit and they
00:20:42.480 Think that they
00:20:42.980 Cannot do it
00:20:43.620 Themselves this
00:20:44.940 Is why culture
00:20:45.920 Sucks this is why
00:20:47.000 America looks the
00:20:47.920 Way it does right
00:20:48.620 Now this is why
00:20:49.780 When you go to
00:20:50.280 Walmart
00:20:50.740 Seven out of
00:20:52.140 Ten people
00:20:52.740 Fucking eight
00:20:53.560 Out of ten
00:20:53.980 People are
00:20:55.000 Obese okay
00:20:56.280 This this is
00:20:57.020 Why this is
00:20:58.200 Why when you
00:20:58.740 Go to work
00:20:59.340 Nine out of
00:21:00.680 Ten of the
00:21:01.060 People that
00:21:01.460 You work with
00:21:02.060 Are lazy as
00:21:02.660 Fuck it's
00:21:03.540 Because they
00:21:04.480 Don't have an
00:21:05.000 Example to look
00:21:06.000 At and see what
00:21:06.880 The fuck that
00:21:07.440 Looks like to
00:21:08.020 Actually be
00:21:08.560 Productive so
00:21:09.620 It's literally
00:21:10.220 Impossible to
00:21:11.140 Lead without
00:21:11.680 Living standard
00:21:12.480 Yourself and
00:21:13.820 Then also holding
00:21:14.580 People accountable
00:21:15.360 So yeah dude
00:21:17.400 There's a time
00:21:18.000 And a place
00:21:18.600 For these things
00:21:19.360 But they're
00:21:21.220 Strategic they're
00:21:22.420 Not just fly
00:21:23.440 Off the cuff
00:21:24.100 And when you
00:21:24.580 Really have
00:21:25.560 When you really
00:21:27.260 Have it mastered
00:21:28.220 You know exactly
00:21:30.320 When that's
00:21:30.980 Supposed to be
00:21:31.620 Applied right
00:21:32.760 So it's not a
00:21:34.480 I'm just upset
00:21:36.020 Because I'm upset
00:21:36.880 It's I have
00:21:39.320 To I have to
00:21:40.380 Put a fire
00:21:41.300 Under some
00:21:41.740 Asses so
00:21:42.760 This part of
00:21:43.400 Me has to
00:21:43.940 Come out
00:21:45.100 Right now
00:21:45.500 Right
00:21:46.120 But yeah
00:21:46.920 The intent
00:21:48.260 100% is what
00:21:49.860 Matters because
00:21:50.560 People know
00:21:51.360 If you're just
00:21:52.180 Being a dickhead
00:21:53.160 Right
00:21:53.400 Or if you're
00:21:54.380 Actually pushing
00:21:55.100 To be better
00:21:55.680 They know that
00:21:56.380 And when you
00:21:57.160 Live the standard
00:21:57.940 Yourself
00:21:58.600 People are much
00:22:00.100 More receptive
00:22:01.500 To that good
00:22:02.620 Intent than if
00:22:03.800 You're not living
00:22:04.500 It if you're not
00:22:05.220 Living it
00:22:05.740 The intent can't
00:22:06.900 Even be good
00:22:07.520 Because what you're
00:22:08.300 Pointing at is
00:22:08.920 You're saying you
00:22:09.480 Motherfuckers do
00:22:10.180 The work and I'm
00:22:11.160 Not going to do
00:22:11.640 Shit that's not
00:22:12.780 The right intent
00:22:13.520 The right intent
00:22:14.600 Is I'm going to
00:22:15.760 Live the best
00:22:16.900 Standard that I
00:22:17.640 Can in my
00:22:18.520 Fitness in my
00:22:19.660 Mental in my
00:22:20.700 Finances in my
00:22:21.660 Spiritual in my
00:22:22.520 Relationships and
00:22:23.840 I'm going to set
00:22:25.060 That standard and
00:22:26.140 Then I also expect
00:22:27.300 You to live that
00:22:28.500 Standard as well
00:22:29.220 That's a different
00:22:29.920 Thing than just
00:22:31.020 Pointing the finger
00:22:31.860 And screaming at
00:22:33.440 People yeah you
00:22:34.480 See what I'm
00:22:34.800 Saying
00:22:35.040 Absolutely dude
00:22:35.640 Absolutely I love
00:22:37.060 It kind of flows
00:22:38.060 Into this next
00:22:38.600 Question a little
00:22:39.220 Bit guys Andy
00:22:40.580 Question number
00:22:42.100 Two hey Andy
00:22:43.140 Thank you for
00:22:44.380 All that you do
00:22:45.040 Because of the
00:22:46.520 Things you teach
00:22:47.360 I've changed my
00:22:48.660 Entire outlook in
00:22:49.740 My life actually
00:22:50.780 Putting your
00:22:51.460 Lessons into
00:22:52.460 Practice I've been
00:22:53.500 Promoted by my
00:22:54.420 Company and
00:22:55.480 Basically I've been
00:22:56.240 Trusted to replicate
00:22:57.340 Myself in the
00:22:58.220 Company everything you
00:22:59.340 Talk about I now
00:23:00.300 Lead a team of
00:23:01.160 Eight people but
00:23:02.920 I'm having some
00:23:04.380 Leadership issues I
00:23:06.180 Feel uncomfortable
00:23:07.000 Telling people no
00:23:08.120 Holding them
00:23:08.880 Accountable or
00:23:09.600 Calling out bad
00:23:10.420 Performance I
00:23:11.180 Don't want to be
00:23:11.600 The nice guy
00:23:12.260 Leader who lets
00:23:13.680 Things slide but I
00:23:14.700 Also don't want to
00:23:15.640 Turn into an
00:23:16.320 Asshole so how do
00:23:17.480 You learn to lead
00:23:18.580 Without losing
00:23:19.420 Yourself do you
00:23:21.360 Actually care about
00:23:22.180 Your people or not
00:23:23.080 That's the question
00:23:24.940 You got to ask
00:23:25.760 Okay because if
00:23:27.320 You're passive and
00:23:28.180 You won't say no
00:23:29.060 And you let shit
00:23:29.760 Slide guess what
00:23:31.280 You don't really
00:23:32.080 Give a fuck about
00:23:32.760 Those people that's
00:23:34.280 The truth okay
00:23:35.520 Because if you did
00:23:36.960 You would want
00:23:37.580 Them to get better
00:23:38.280 You'd be willing
00:23:39.060 To have conversations
00:23:40.120 That are a little
00:23:40.800 Awkward to make
00:23:41.900 Them better you
00:23:42.780 Would be willing
00:23:43.400 To hold standards
00:23:45.340 That make them
00:23:46.220 Better you would
00:23:47.140 Want them to earn
00:23:47.980 More money you
00:23:48.580 Would want them to
00:23:49.300 Be higher skilled
00:23:50.220 You would want
00:23:50.820 Them to get better
00:23:52.080 And that comes
00:23:53.440 From a place of
00:23:55.840 Care and this is
00:23:57.100 What I talk about
00:23:57.840 All the time you
00:23:58.680 Know kindness and
00:24:00.720 And being good to
00:24:03.100 People is not
00:24:05.260 Nice platitudes
00:24:06.600 And friendly things
00:24:08.460 To say all the
00:24:09.220 Time you know if
00:24:10.380 They're doing good
00:24:11.200 Yeah you tell them
00:24:12.480 They're doing good
00:24:13.180 But if they're not
00:24:14.280 Doing good and you
00:24:15.360 Actually care about
00:24:16.260 Them you have an
00:24:17.120 Obligation to tell
00:24:18.080 Them where they're
00:24:18.700 Not doing good and
00:24:20.240 Anybody who actually
00:24:21.820 Wants to win will be
00:24:22.960 Receptive to that
00:24:23.920 Right so by you
00:24:26.420 Being a passive
00:24:27.840 Leader and you
00:24:28.740 Having problems
00:24:29.600 Saying no and you
00:24:31.140 Not being able to
00:24:32.180 Critique and you not
00:24:33.280 Being able to have
00:24:34.140 You know some
00:24:36.660 Awkward conversations
00:24:37.760 With people you end
00:24:39.140 Up in a position
00:24:39.860 Where your people
00:24:40.520 Don't grow they
00:24:41.220 Don't perform they
00:24:41.960 Don't do any better
00:24:42.740 And you know you
00:24:45.300 Fail them and this
00:24:47.200 Comes down to how
00:24:47.880 Much you actually
00:24:48.580 Care so if you
00:24:51.480 Really care about
00:24:52.320 People and you
00:24:52.920 Really care about
00:24:53.580 Your team which you
00:24:54.660 Should you have to
00:24:56.220 Understand that this
00:24:57.080 Is a requirement of
00:24:58.020 Caring it's the truth
00:24:59.040 And we've grown up
00:25:00.580 In the last 20 years
00:25:01.720 In this society that
00:25:02.880 Says you know
00:25:03.620 Kindness is niceness
00:25:06.180 Meaning things that
00:25:08.240 Don't hurt people's
00:25:09.240 Feelings things that
00:25:10.680 Don't press them things
00:25:12.020 That don't call them
00:25:12.960 Out you know be
00:25:14.220 Kind be be be a
00:25:16.060 Good person being
00:25:19.100 Kind in a in a
00:25:21.040 Dynamic of where you
00:25:22.200 Care about people and
00:25:23.100 You're trying to get
00:25:23.800 Them to improve and
00:25:25.140 Better their lives is
00:25:28.100 The truth it's it's
00:25:30.520 Not the the non
00:25:31.660 Truth if you don't
00:25:32.980 Tell the truth you
00:25:33.820 It's impossible to be
00:25:35.080 Kind it's impossible
00:25:36.380 So a lot of you
00:25:38.300 Guys think that
00:25:39.800 You're being kind by
00:25:41.100 Letting these people
00:25:41.840 Off the hook when in
00:25:43.200 Reality you're creating
00:25:44.300 A life for them
00:25:45.200 That's going to be
00:25:46.660 Far more difficult
00:25:47.480 It's going to be far
00:25:49.120 Less fruitful far
00:25:50.200 Less fulfilling and
00:25:51.580 Ultimately cost them
00:25:54.360 A lot and so if you
00:25:55.820 Really care about
00:25:56.460 People you're going
00:25:57.060 To have the ability to
00:25:57.980 Have those conversations
00:25:58.860 Yeah dude let's
00:26:00.040 Let's go back
00:26:00.780 Let's go back in the
00:26:02.860 Timeline a little bit
00:26:03.780 Right because when
00:26:04.720 You started in business
00:26:06.640 It was just you and
00:26:07.540 Chris for six years
00:26:08.980 Right before you you
00:26:11.620 Had your first employee
00:26:12.860 Right we had a couple
00:26:14.380 That helped us out
00:26:15.180 Along the way between
00:26:16.140 But they were friends
00:26:16.900 Friends right yeah
00:26:17.820 But like like real
00:26:18.920 Official employees yeah
00:26:20.080 Real real employees
00:26:21.160 Six years in how how
00:26:23.480 Hard like what made
00:26:25.000 You understand this
00:26:25.860 Lesson more than
00:26:26.500 Anything how hard
00:26:27.200 How quick did that
00:26:27.940 Come you know from
00:26:29.360 The moment you got
00:26:29.960 Your first employee
00:26:30.640 Well I didn't know
00:26:31.680 That when I got my
00:26:32.400 First employee what I'm
00:26:33.480 Saying to you I didn't
00:26:34.960 Know yeah okay so you
00:26:37.240 Know I was the guy who
00:26:38.340 Came in and and and you
00:26:40.020 Know wave the big stick
00:26:41.500 And said do this or else
00:26:42.760 And uh that wasn't the
00:26:45.920 Right way either you know
00:26:47.560 Was it effective yeah it's
00:26:49.840 Effective but it doesn't
00:26:51.160 Create uh a mutually
00:26:54.580 Beneficial relationship to
00:26:56.740 Where people start to
00:26:57.860 Respect and admire you
00:26:59.760 Because you're actually
00:27:00.740 Holding them to a
00:27:01.600 Standard and so this was
00:27:04.760 Learned over the course of
00:27:05.800 Time and there was a lot
00:27:07.160 Of turnover whenever I
00:27:08.300 First started having
00:27:09.040 Employees because I was a
00:27:10.340 Bad leader and then I
00:27:11.740 Developed you know uh the
00:27:14.060 Understanding that there
00:27:15.300 Was an obligation for me
00:27:16.560 To develop these people
00:27:18.380 Not just try to get them
00:27:19.860 To perform for the
00:27:20.780 Betterment of the company
00:27:21.700 And whenever I started
00:27:23.180 To figure that out things
00:27:24.780 Started changing it became
00:27:26.140 A real relationship and
00:27:27.440 Ultimately what what
00:27:28.700 Really dawned on me that
00:27:30.700 Made me flip that
00:27:31.680 Perspective was that and
00:27:34.640 This is a very key thing
00:27:35.980 For all the leaders out
00:27:36.860 There I stopped trying to
00:27:41.400 Coach them or lead them
00:27:47.960 From a place of you're
00:27:51.240 Going to stay here your
00:27:52.220 Whole life and I started
00:27:54.180 Recognizing that it was my
00:27:56.660 Job to equip them with the
00:27:59.600 Skills and with the
00:28:00.820 Understanding that even if
00:28:02.540 They left they could look
00:28:04.220 Back and say that's where I
00:28:05.420 Learned the most all right so
00:28:07.280 Whenever I switched it from
00:28:09.160 Like this scarcity thing
00:28:11.140 Where I don't want my
00:28:11.800 Employees to leave so I
00:28:12.920 Gotta I gotta you know
00:28:14.360 Teach them only this and
00:28:15.960 Not that and this and
00:28:16.900 Like try to like protect
00:28:17.960 It and started like really
00:28:19.720 Just pouring into them and
00:28:21.000 Saying hey man look and I
00:28:22.780 Say this openly I've said
00:28:23.760 This openly for a long
00:28:24.840 Time I know not everybody's
00:28:27.280 Going to stay in our
00:28:28.040 Companies that's not
00:28:29.360 Reality but here's what I
00:28:30.860 Do know I do know that
00:28:33.580 When they go from here to
00:28:35.220 There or anywhere else I
00:28:36.960 Want them to succeed so I'm
00:28:39.080 Going to pour into them as
00:28:40.100 Much as possible and I
00:28:41.460 Think a lot of leaders
00:28:42.360 Really fuck this up because
00:28:43.820 They have the idea that you
00:28:45.700 Know especially if you're
00:28:47.180 An intrapreneur they have
00:28:49.180 The idea that you know this
00:28:51.860 Person might get so good he
00:28:53.000 Might take my job right that's
00:28:56.180 Actually a good a good thing
00:28:57.680 He's not going to take your
00:28:58.760 Job if you like this question
00:29:00.520 Here being able to replicate
00:29:03.000 When you're an effective
00:29:04.680 Performer being able to
00:29:07.600 Replicate that and other
00:29:08.700 People is the most valuable
00:29:10.180 Skill and any company worth
00:29:11.920 A shit will recognize that
00:29:13.860 And pay you very handsomely
00:29:16.120 For that so we have to
00:29:19.420 Understand that if we really
00:29:21.180 Want to be effective dude we
00:29:22.360 Have to make everybody around
00:29:23.660 Us better and we have to do
00:29:25.420 So with the right intent and
00:29:26.660 We have to do so with the
00:29:27.860 Idea that we're doing it in
00:29:30.140 The long game okay so even if
00:29:32.200 They leave even if they go
00:29:33.500 Somewhere even if they do
00:29:34.600 Do whatever they want to do
00:29:36.300 They're going to look back and
00:29:37.700 They're going to say bro that's
00:29:38.820 That's the guy I learned the
00:29:40.060 Most from and if we really
00:29:41.920 Look back for those of you
00:29:43.240 That played sports and we
00:29:45.960 Look back on the coaches that
00:29:47.940 We fucking hated at the time
00:29:51.180 Those are the coaches that you
00:29:52.940 Look back 5 10 20 years and
00:29:55.080 You're like man that dude
00:29:57.180 Really cared about me not me
00:29:58.620 Because of that I learned a
00:29:59.860 Lot from that person and that's
00:30:02.280 That's a tough thing to swallow
00:30:04.220 Because you want everybody to
00:30:06.340 Like you right now you want
00:30:07.660 Everybody to be happy with you
00:30:09.020 Right now but that's not the
00:30:12.260 Goal the goal is performance the
00:30:14.000 Goal is winning the goal is
00:30:15.260 Developing and the goal is
00:30:16.720 Setting these people up for
00:30:18.400 Them to be high functioning high
00:30:20.540 Earning high standard individuals
00:30:22.660 No matter where they go and once
00:30:24.140 You flip that mindset and you
00:30:26.060 Understand that that's your your
00:30:27.600 Obligation as a leader it gets
00:30:29.600 Real easy to coach people up
00:30:31.080 Because you're not trying to
00:30:32.020 Hold anything back right you
00:30:33.380 See what I'm saying and both
00:30:34.300 Typically you you realize you
00:30:35.600 Come to the understanding to
00:30:36.440 Like those are the coaches those
00:30:37.920 Are the people that care the
00:30:38.540 Most yeah out of anybody
00:30:40.120 Absolutely let me ask you this
00:30:41.780 Because I know we talk about
00:30:43.020 Entrepreneurship you know there's
00:30:46.740 Very little barrier or entry I
00:30:48.720 Guess but it's not for
00:30:49.740 Everybody no is leadership the
00:30:51.980 Same right like which is the
00:30:53.760 Arc like can anybody be a
00:30:55.120 Leader like can anybody truly be
00:30:57.180 A leader or no I think so I
00:30:59.640 I wasn't a natural leader yeah I
00:31:01.780 Wasn't someone who who was
00:31:03.380 Vocal or I was always scared I
00:31:06.360 Like take me take us back to
00:31:08.060 Sports right like I was a good
00:31:09.720 Player great but I wasn't a good
00:31:11.860 Leader right okay I didn't I
00:31:13.980 Didn't have the confidence to
00:31:15.280 Look around at the other guys on
00:31:16.660 The team and say hey
00:31:17.520 Motherfuckers we got to do
00:31:19.100 Better but you know why I didn't
00:31:20.640 Have the confidence to do that
00:31:21.900 Because I wasn't doing all I
00:31:23.840 Could okay so when you are doing
00:31:26.260 All that you can and you know
00:31:28.120 That you're living at a high
00:31:29.500 Standard and you know that
00:31:30.640 You're doing what you're
00:31:31.380 Supposed to do it becomes real
00:31:33.420 Easy to look around at
00:31:34.460 Everybody and be like guys what
00:31:35.600 The fuck okay this is not
00:31:37.740 Acceptable the reason that we
00:31:40.140 Struggle becoming leaders is
00:31:42.860 Because we're not living the
00:31:44.000 Standard ourselves so and here's
00:31:46.560 The other thing when you live the
00:31:48.200 Standard yourself you don't have
00:31:50.980 To be this vocal leader people see
00:31:52.820 It right leadership isn't about
00:31:55.060 Convincing people it's about
00:31:56.360 Showing people and that's a
00:31:58.140 Complete different thing okay you
00:32:01.660 You can't stand there as someone
00:32:04.560 Who's not living the standard and
00:32:06.240 Point down the road that
00:32:07.460 Everybody's supposed to go down
00:32:08.860 When you haven't gone down it
00:32:10.240 Yourself and expect them to be
00:32:11.460 Enthusiastic about going you're
00:32:13.080 Right all right right so it's more
00:32:15.300 Like hey guys I've been down this
00:32:16.620 Road let's fucking go you're
00:32:17.960 Going to get here too and so to
00:32:21.180 Answer your question yes I do
00:32:23.360 Believe that everyone can be a
00:32:25.820 Leader in some aspect okay let's
00:32:27.840 Say you're driving the forklift in
00:32:29.580 The warehouse but you know when
00:32:32.360 You put the forklift away you take
00:32:34.180 Care of it you clean it up you make
00:32:35.760 Sure that you're not hitting the
00:32:37.180 The pallet racks you make sure that
00:32:39.500 You're you know like other guys who
00:32:42.060 Operate forklifts all of a sudden
00:32:43.420 They start to do these things as
00:32:44.740 Well so like this isn't that it goes
00:32:49.720 Along with human nature bro people
00:32:51.820 Don't want to be the outsider they
00:32:53.980 Want to be the insider and when we
00:32:55.920 Break this down to what our mission
00:32:57.860 Is here with the show with the
00:32:59.600 Operator standard with everything
00:33:00.820 That we do it's about becoming
00:33:03.260 Personally excellent so that other
00:33:04.920 People will join into that line of
00:33:06.900 Work they will join into that path and
00:33:09.800 When you get enough people that are
00:33:13.580 Doing a thing is proven psychology
00:33:16.720 Psychology that other people want to
00:33:18.660 Join it so this idea that's killing
00:33:22.420 America right now is that someone
00:33:25.340 Else is going to take care of it and
00:33:27.100 No one else is no one's going to take
00:33:28.700 Care of your household no one's going
00:33:30.460 To lead your kids no one's going to be
00:33:32.300 The standard no one's going to be the
00:33:33.740 First guy of their friend group to you
00:33:35.840 Know like these are things that matter
00:33:37.400 And they matter a lot so yeah dude
00:33:40.080 Everybody can lead but I think most
00:33:42.780 People lack the confidence to lead
00:33:44.640 Because they don't live the standard
00:33:45.880 Themselves I love it dude think about
00:33:47.960 It like this dude let's just take a
00:33:51.240 Very basic example we talk about this
00:33:53.280 A lot on CTI but we're going to talk
00:33:55.060 About it right now let's say you live
00:33:58.560 In a regular neighborhood okay and
00:34:00.340 You've got your neighbor to the left
00:34:02.160 And your neighbor to the right and you
00:34:04.920 Guys all kind of sit out on the cooler
00:34:06.900 At night and you drink a beer and you
00:34:08.540 Hang out with and watch the kids you
00:34:10.080 Know play roller hockey or whatever they
00:34:11.460 Do in the street right
00:34:12.420 All of a sudden you stop drinking the
00:34:18.920 Beers and you hang out with your
00:34:20.600 Friends but you're drinking water okay
00:34:22.560 And then all of a sudden you know you
00:34:25.000 Start working out and they start making
00:34:26.580 Funnier they're like DJ what the fuck
00:34:28.240 You doing now like what you too good
00:34:29.860 For us but six months later DJ shows up
00:34:34.060 And he's down a hundred pounds and all
00:34:37.040 Of a sudden he's making more money and
00:34:38.420 Then you know we're not sitting on the
00:34:40.840 Cooler with a piece of shit truck in the
00:34:42.680 Driveway anymore we're sitting on the
00:34:44.620 Cooler with a brand new
00:34:45.720 Chevy Tahoe
00:34:47.440 LTZ okay and your neighbors are like
00:34:50.740 What the fuck is going on with you why
00:34:52.420 What and you say well i'm doing this and
00:34:54.860 This and this and this and this and this
00:34:56.560 And things are getting better and
00:34:58.000 Now all of a sudden it's not DJ is too
00:35:00.600 Good for us it's man fucking DJ starting
00:35:02.380 To kick some ass bro what are you doing
00:35:04.700 Okay and now they start to ask and now
00:35:07.480 All of a sudden you got fit DJ
00:35:09.320 Instead of fat DJ and you got DJ
00:35:11.360 Who's making some more money and you got
00:35:13.000 DJ who's who's becoming you know
00:35:14.880 A different person right in front of
00:35:16.440 Their fucking face all right and then
00:35:19.000 All of a sudden what happens these guys
00:35:20.780 Some of them will start to join
00:35:22.840 They'll say fuck i want a new truck
00:35:24.180 Dude i don't like being fat i want to
00:35:26.500 See my dick out yeah right for real
00:35:28.380 Dude no real shit and then and then all
00:35:30.280 Of a sudden where there was
00:35:32.480 One there was two and now there's two
00:35:34.640 So you got the so it's you and the
00:35:36.580 House to the left you guys are both
00:35:37.980 Getting it done what do you think is
00:35:39.340 Going to happen to the guy on the right
00:35:40.420 Okay he's going to join in too and this
00:35:43.560 Is what we have to understand in culture
00:35:46.380 Okay how you live and how you lead and
00:35:49.880 How you represent yourself matters way
00:35:53.220 More than you think it does and all of
00:35:55.940 This propaganda that we've been faced
00:35:57.680 With our whole entire lives to make us
00:36:00.060 Feel like we're irrelevant it doesn't
00:36:03.940 Matter just enjoy your freedom and
00:36:06.220 Enjoy your life all of these things have
00:36:09.520 Taught us that we don't have control
00:36:11.260 Of our own reality when in fact we
00:36:13.180 Control everything that dictates our
00:36:15.680 Reality reality isn't dictated by a
00:36:18.140 Bunch of dudes in washington dc it's
00:36:20.340 Dictated by what you eat how you move what
00:36:24.440 You drink what you put in your mind who
00:36:26.800 You associate with what actions you take
00:36:29.280 These are the things that dictate our
00:36:32.840 Reality to a percentile of 98 percent and
00:36:37.740 We control those things and if you don't
00:36:40.740 Believe that you're denying reality you're
00:36:43.140 Denying how it actually works you are
00:36:45.520 Copping out and you are giving control
00:36:50.560 Over the propaganda machine by just
00:36:53.520 Accepting a reality that you're not ever
00:36:55.400 Happy with so when we look at like
00:36:57.540 Society and we look at like what's
00:36:59.340 Going on we have to understand that the
00:37:02.080 Reason that society looks like shit is
00:37:05.220 Because we look like shit when when we
00:37:08.240 You know when we look around we say why
00:37:10.080 Does nobody care it's because we don't
00:37:11.580 Care when we look around and there's
00:37:13.320 Litter all over the street it's because
00:37:14.720 You didn't pick it up when we look
00:37:16.520 Around their shopping carts and all
00:37:18.220 Over the parking lot it's because you
00:37:19.560 Didn't put them away because once those
00:37:21.800 Things become the standard everybody
00:37:23.640 Joins in and when we talk about what
00:37:26.000 It's going to take to fix our country
00:37:27.540 This is what it's going to take it takes
00:37:30.080 Personal excellence and once people
00:37:32.580 Grasp that concept and we get enough
00:37:35.260 People out there living at the standard
00:37:36.820 Which by the way is getting much better
00:37:38.620 Things will change and they do change
00:37:42.160 Ask anybody who's transformed their
00:37:44.480 Lives what happened you had some people
00:37:46.300 That didn't but you had some people that
00:37:47.860 Did too okay and now all of a sudden
00:37:50.140 Their lives look better and the people
00:37:52.140 That they know in their network start to
00:37:53.900 Join in so this is a this is a spider
00:37:57.340 Web a ripple effect that nobody really
00:38:00.000 Ever thinks about because we've been
00:38:02.220 Propagated to believe that our actions
00:38:03.900 Don't matter when in reality our actions
00:38:05.520 Are the only thing that matters why do
00:38:07.360 You think they spend so much time so much
00:38:09.540 Money so much energy so much propaganda
00:38:12.340 Convincing us for 16 years in school
00:38:15.580 That we're you know really not going to
00:38:17.280 Be anything and that the government's
00:38:19.160 Our friend and every they'll take care
00:38:20.960 Of everything that's propaganda bro to
00:38:22.980 To remove the understanding that we are
00:38:26.220 In control and we we as a country have
00:38:29.340 Lost that all right and if we want it
00:38:32.640 Back and we want a culture back that
00:38:34.640 Actually is a high trust high functioning
00:38:37.040 High success clean functioning society we
00:38:43.740 Have to be that ourselves okay so there
00:38:46.360 Is no blaming anybody else but ourselves
00:38:48.500 And it's not ourselves collectively it's
00:38:51.180 You as an individual and if people come
00:38:53.520 To me all the time they're like why do
00:38:55.300 You care so much why is this such a big
00:38:57.380 Deal well it's a big deal because I can
00:38:59.480 See what what's going to happen if if we
00:39:01.480 Don't stand up look a lot of people don't
00:39:04.220 Have the perspective of what it looked
00:39:05.600 Like 40 years ago or 30 years ago compared
00:39:08.480 To what it looks like now I do have that all
00:39:11.060 Right and I'm telling you it was much
00:39:13.800 Better than so if we want it to get better we
00:39:17.820 Have to be better and when the people get
00:39:19.920 Better and control the culture everything
00:39:22.500 Else improves downstream of culture politics
00:39:24.900 Is downstream of culture everything commerce
00:39:28.020 Every everything is downstream of culture culture is the
00:39:32.140 Most important thing and culture is made up of
00:39:35.000 Individuals and if you have shitty individuals
00:39:36.880 You're gonna have shitty culture if you have
00:39:38.540 High and high functioning high standard
00:39:40.240 Individuals high standard culture that's it
00:39:42.540 That is it it's that simple but we have to
00:39:45.380 Understand what role we play as individuals in
00:39:47.340 That I love it dude
00:39:48.820 I love it let's get to our third and final
00:39:52.600 Question for you Andy guys Andy question number
00:39:55.560 Three Andy I say I value honesty and integrity
00:40:00.100 But I've caught myself cutting corners when no
00:40:03.080 One's watching nothing illegal just small
00:40:05.240 Stuff but it bothers me more than I expected
00:40:08.040 How do you realign your character when you
00:40:11.060 Notice yourself drifting I know you speak a
00:40:13.280 Lot of businesses having core values and how
00:40:16.280 Important they are to the culture do I need
00:40:18.640 To just set some for myself internal core
00:40:22.300 Values that's great question yes of course
00:40:25.580 But that's really not the reason people allow
00:40:29.560 Things to slides because again they
00:40:31.260 Misunderstand the game you know when we talk
00:40:33.760 About winning all right winning is not
00:40:37.700 Complicated it's very simple dude this is
00:40:41.240 Why the best coaches in the world say the
00:40:45.360 Same shit you listen to Nick Saban all right Nick
00:40:49.580 Saban says the same shit it's one snap at a
00:40:54.520 Time we're gonna run this one play and we're
00:40:58.020 Gonna run it so many times that we cannot get
00:41:01.340 It wrong it's not we run it so many times to
00:41:04.720 Where we get it right and then oh it's great we
00:41:07.060 Run it so many times that every single time that
00:41:10.440 We run it it's almost impossible to fuck up that
00:41:13.640 Is the understanding of what winning is okay
00:41:17.420 Kurt Signally from from Indiana who's beating
00:41:21.660 Everybody's ass same thing we play one snap at a
00:41:25.700 Time okay now I want you to take that idea and I
00:41:28.300 Want you to apply it to a single day all right we
00:41:31.280 Are all playing a 24-hour game this is not a 10-year
00:41:35.480 Game it's not a five-year game it's not a one-year
00:41:38.940 Game it is a 24-hour game and if we can win one day we
00:41:44.820 Can win our life because all we have to do is replicate
00:41:47.660 Those wins over and over and over and over again so it's
00:41:51.560 Not understanding the game when it comes to winning now when
00:41:54.760 It comes to what this man is talking about you have to
00:41:58.360 Understand there are things within the game that increase
00:42:03.240 Our ability to execute or decrease our ability to execute I
00:42:07.480 Want you to think about it for a minute like deposits and
00:42:10.360 Withdrawals okay so you worked really hard to develop this
00:42:16.540 Standard of discipline in your life and you've put a lot of investment
00:42:20.420 You've you've built up a really nice score inside of your life of
00:42:26.520 Discipline think of it like a john madden game right this guy can run
00:42:29.660 Speed 95 he's 98 agile he's you know 10 intelligence whatever right
00:42:35.860 68 but but let's say you get to discipline and his disciplines a 90 okay
00:42:42.240 And by the way very dumb people can win very dumb people can win in fact a lot
00:42:48.780 Of very dumb people win because they don't overthink the fucking game so
00:42:52.660 You understand that you have a 90 discipline all right and you feel i'm a
00:42:58.700 Disciplined person well here's what you don't understand is that every time
00:43:02.680 You cut that corner every time you walk by that shopping cart every time you walk
00:43:08.340 By that litter you know that it should be addressed okay a lot of people aren't
00:43:14.520 Aware and the people who aren't aware it doesn't affect their score all right but
00:43:19.580 When you're aware it does affect your score because you fucking know that it's
00:43:23.480 Wrong so every time you walk past one of these things that gets addressed even
00:43:27.800 If you identify it as something small and insignificant you're making a
00:43:32.160 Withdrawal from your score so when you walk past that shopping cart your score goes
00:43:36.540 From a 90 to an 89 okay and then on the way out you walk past that cup that's
00:43:41.460 Some piece of shit left in the parking lot and now it goes from a fucking 89 to an
00:43:46.540 88 okay and then you do something else and it goes to an 87 and this is why
00:43:51.340 Discipline is something that has to be practiced on a daily basis by doing the
00:43:57.000 Things that you know need to be done to make investments in that score now let's
00:44:02.440 Take it the opposite way and you're a 90 all right and you see that shopping cart and it's out
00:44:07.360 There and you're like fuck
00:44:08.400 All right, i'll take care of it myself
00:44:11.900 Now it goes from a 90 to a 91
00:44:14.240 Okay, and then on the way out you see that same cup and you're like man what the fuck and you pick that cup up
00:44:20.840 It goes from a 91 to a 92 but here's the thing that people don't understand
00:44:24.760 There's 10 people that saw you pick up that cup
00:44:27.500 There's 10 people that saw you put that shopping cart away
00:44:30.980 So it's not just about making the investment or making the deposit or the withdrawal
00:44:35.460 It's about who sees you make the deposit or the withdrawal so
00:44:39.580 These little things that you have a trouble passing up on
00:44:43.800 The reason you're cutting those corners is because you don't understand how it affects you when you build a high discipline level
00:44:49.760 You naturally want to protect it
00:44:51.220 So if you want to protect that high discipline level that you've that you've built and you understand that little things take away from it
00:44:57.580 You're going to be much more likely to not cut the corners. Yes. Yeah. Okay
00:45:01.200 So this is how you have to think of it
00:45:03.060 And this issue that this person's talking about is a very common issue and this is also why
00:45:08.980 People who are very disciplined and then you know find themselves in this place where their life sort of fell apart
00:45:15.580 It's because you're not aware of how it works. You're misunderstanding the game
00:45:19.800 Same reason why people have a problem winning dude. They think they could set a goal today
00:45:24.660 There's a lot of people listening today that are saying i'm going to change my life this year
00:45:28.320 But they said it last year and they said it the year before and they said it the year before that and they said it the year before that and they said it
00:45:34.740 The year before that and they can't understand why shit isn't working out for them
00:45:39.640 Well shit's not working out for you because you don't understand that this is a 24-hour game
00:45:43.340 And when you win the day and then you win the next day and then you win the next day
00:45:47.980 And then you win the next day and let's say you lose a day and then you win another day
00:45:51.320 That compounds into your overall result
00:45:54.760 Okay, so
00:45:56.200 Typically how people do this they say this year i'm going to lose a hundred pounds and then
00:46:01.800 a week goes by
00:46:03.920 And they they repeated the same pattern, right? They they got to they got to wednesday and they're like, oh fuck
00:46:10.640 Drink sure does sound good. You know, i'm going to order a pizza. I've had a rough day
00:46:15.700 And and then they're like fuck I failed. Well, you know what i'll start again on monday
00:46:19.820 All right, and then what happens is that they repeat that cycle over and over and over again
00:46:25.620 And by the time, you know march comes around they're up another 10 pounds, but they're telling themselves. Well, you know what?
00:46:32.500 It's only march i've got the rest of the year to do it. So i'll just go extra hard and
00:46:38.440 They keep going down the same path. They don't change and then they're up another 10 pounds
00:46:43.980 And this is how this is how I went from
00:46:46.400 You know got all the way up to 350 pounds because I kept cutting myself off
00:46:50.740 Every wednesday and starting over on monday and then between wednesday and monday. I'm like well i'm starting monday
00:46:56.800 So i'm gonna get everything in that I can
00:46:58.760 And and uh, i'm gonna start monday. So I and I meant it
00:47:02.940 I meant I was gonna start monday, but when monday came around
00:47:06.000 It didn't really happen
00:47:08.520 So when we think about why people fail and why their situation continues to get worse
00:47:13.860 It's because they don't understand
00:47:16.020 That that that how to play the game. Okay
00:47:19.220 And here's the cool thing
00:47:21.160 This is the coolest part about it
00:47:23.240 When you start to understand the game
00:47:25.720 And you start to understand that i'm winning on a 24-hour basis, okay
00:47:31.760 What happens is is that over the course of time if you continue to win every single day
00:47:39.060 All right, and you win your weeks and then you win your months
00:47:42.380 What happens is is that winning becomes the standard, okay?
00:47:46.380 It's not something that you pursue
00:47:48.560 It's not something that you're after. It's something that you become
00:47:52.980 And that's where the power really lies when you can take this winning standard of getting the day one every single day
00:48:01.160 And it becomes who you are automatically
00:48:03.500 You're there is there isn't this like
00:48:06.340 Negativity or pressure or anxiety or frustration eating at you anymore
00:48:13.880 Because you know you're doing what you're supposed to do and you're seeing it result in
00:48:19.700 uh, you're seeing it produce real results so
00:48:22.960 Think if you could take yourself from where you are right now
00:48:27.120 To a place where winning wasn't something that you even had to try to do it just became
00:48:32.900 Your life
00:48:34.640 Yeah, and that's what happens when you understand the game and you start to create this identity
00:48:39.180 Of uh, you know, i'm a fucking winner, okay?
00:48:42.380 And when your identity starts to to develop into this idea of like well, dude, i'm winning I win every day
00:48:48.300 Now you've become extra powerful because now no longer are you saying well, I hope I win or I could do this
00:48:54.680 Yeah, you end up on tv like kurt signelli from uh, from indiana and he's like, yeah
00:49:00.180 I fucking win bro google me like and people are like, oh, he's so cocky
00:49:05.020 No, he's not cocky. He's stating a fucking fact
00:49:08.380 I fucking win
00:49:10.300 Here's my track record. This is what we do in the operator standard by the way, but it's not open
00:49:16.020 So you can't join right now and let me ask you this because I want to I want to make sure we're setting some realistic expectations
00:49:21.560 Specifically on this the the proverbial metaphorical bank account of discipline, right?
00:49:27.720 Is it a true one-on-one ratio, right? Like look and I ask that because like I I think of it very similar to like losing weight, right?
00:49:35.000 Or or a health journey, right?
00:49:36.460 Like it's gonna take some time for you to build up and get to where you want to be
00:49:39.920 But a couple of fuck-ups here and there cheat meals here and there that's gonna set you back way more
00:49:45.460 You know, you know, I'm saying so like is it a true one-on-one input output when it comes to the discipline stuff
00:49:50.300 Missing that shopping cart versus putting that shopping cart back up. Is it a true?
00:49:54.680 You know plus one yes
00:49:56.160 It is because I'm saying yes, because it's not about the task
00:50:00.180 It's about the awareness. Okay, it's not about how hard the task is. It's about the fact that you did it
00:50:07.260 Yeah, okay
00:50:07.860 So whether or not it's pushing the shopping cart into the corral or i've got this big pile of rocks that I got a shovel from here
00:50:16.420 To there and it's going to take me eight hours, but I know it needs to be done
00:50:19.720 The discipline is still the same that you gain because it's about the awareness of shit that needs to be done and then you addressing it
00:50:26.480 Just doing it. So it don't even matter what the task is. No, it's doing it. Yeah, I love it. Bigger tasks
00:50:30.980 your question is more so like
00:50:33.820 Do certain things can certain things damage you and take you back further, right?
00:50:39.860 Yes, they can
00:50:42.040 But that is different than what we're talking about
00:50:45.440 Okay, so like if you are to like one of the commonalities in in, uh, you know diet culture is
00:50:51.760 Well, if you fucking go
00:50:53.620 Monday through friday and great, you could do whatever you want on the weekends. That's not true
00:50:57.960 Okay, because mathematically the weekends represent
00:51:01.680 uh, 27% almost 30% of your fucking week
00:51:05.660 Okay, so if you're doing it 60% of the time, what's that grade in your what's what's a 60% in school?
00:51:12.560 Yeah, right
00:51:13.120 It's a fucking f right. Okay, so we have to understand that you can wipe out a week's progress
00:51:19.520 With 30% of poor performance. That's the truth
00:51:23.200 but
00:51:24.140 That's not the same question
00:51:27.540 As what we're talking about with discipline that becomes the awareness that you have
00:51:32.480 To handle things big or small when you know, they need to be handled and those make
00:51:37.400 Deposits or withdrawals
00:51:39.280 Units at a time not mass units at a time
00:51:42.500 You don't get any more discipline from shoveling the rocks that you do from putting the shopping cart away
00:51:47.360 You see what i'm saying? Absolutely
00:51:49.120 Absolutely. Yeah, because you're you're just aware that you're getting you're aware that it needs to be done and you're handling it
00:51:54.860 And every time that you handle the things that need to be done, you're making a deposit everything
00:51:59.260 You don't you're making a withdrawal and most people aren't aware of that and that's why they feel discipline
00:52:04.720 One week and then six weeks later. They can't figure out why shit fell apart
00:52:09.340 Well, it's because the little things that you passed up along that whole entire way that you knew needed to be addressed
00:52:16.420 leaked into the things that actually dictate what your results are
00:52:20.620 Okay, so let's say you walk by the shopping cart you walk by the cup
00:52:24.200 Like we talked about
00:52:25.400 That leads into well, it's just one meal
00:52:28.480 It's just one drink
00:52:30.320 And then that leads into i'll start again on monday and then that leads into you know what i'll start after uh
00:52:37.640 The wedding or i'll start, you know
00:52:39.800 March 1st or i'll start this bro. There's only one fucking time to start and that's right motherfucking now
00:52:45.360 And if you can't fucking pick that up and do that, you're not going to win. That's reality
00:52:49.300 There's nothing casual about winning dude
00:52:51.620 That's that's the biggest misunderstanding in culture
00:52:54.460 People think that they can casually win. They think that they can kind of want to win and win
00:52:59.300 There's nobody that's ever won. There's nobody that's ever been fit. There's nobody that's ever been rich
00:53:04.160 There's nobody that's ever done
00:53:05.380 Anything that you want to do but haven't done yet that did it casually. It's not reality
00:53:11.660 So this uh this thing this thinking in society
00:53:15.040 That everybody deserves to win and everybody will win with a casual effort is
00:53:21.180 It's fucking stupid dude. It's a gross misunderstanding of the game
00:53:25.480 It's total arrogance
00:53:27.100 It's total disrespect to everybody else that's trying to achieve the goal
00:53:31.260 And it's you believing that you're much better than you are and quite honestly, you're not
00:53:35.760 So we have to understand yes, there's people competing for what we want. Yes, there's a limited amount of spots at the top
00:53:42.700 Yes
00:53:43.520 Everything fucking matters in getting there and you will never get there being casual about it
00:53:48.820 It's just not the real way it works. So
00:53:51.900 if you want to be
00:53:53.900 A winner and you want to have a big fat bank account
00:53:57.520 You want to be in shape and you want to have the life that you think you want
00:54:00.320 You better understand that
00:54:02.040 or
00:54:03.360 You could just be like everybody else and accept it because i'm going to tell you this
00:54:08.240 You know, what's worse than losing
00:54:10.160 Is having all of these dreams and all of these goals and everything that you want to do
00:54:14.640 And never fucking doing them and then keep telling yourself i'm going to do them one day
00:54:19.040 You'll waste your whole motherfucking life
00:54:20.500 So either accept right now that you're going to be a fucking winner and do it or accept right now that you're not and just live your life
00:54:27.560 Because the worst thing you can do is think about all of these things that you want to be and never fucking execute on
00:54:33.340 That's worse than losing
00:54:35.660 Yeah, it is worse than losing because it's agonizing
00:54:38.780 It's agonizing
00:54:40.140 It will eat you fucking alive losing at least you can say oh at least I fucking tried
00:54:44.220 I know or you could just say yeah, you could just say whatever fuck. This is what I accept
00:54:49.320 Yeah, I accept a mediocre life. I accept a subpar life
00:54:52.860 But then you can't be mad at people who don't accept that right right so
00:54:57.740 uh
00:54:59.260 Yeah, man, I mean look dude
00:55:01.360 It's it's very simple
00:55:03.520 um
00:55:04.780 People overcomplicate it
00:55:07.180 It takes a lot of effort
00:55:12.220 But anybody can do it and um
00:55:16.700 You know
00:55:18.700 I I certainly wouldn't want to be one of these people that
00:55:21.180 That talks about all these things they're going to do and then lives in that nether
00:55:25.580 Another, you know region of like fucking, you know, I want to do it, but i'm not doing it
00:55:31.260 That's that's going to destroy someone's life
00:55:33.740 Yeah, so either accept that you're going to win or accept that you're not going to win
00:55:37.980 And stop talking about it. Love it, dude
00:55:40.700 I love it, man. Well guys, andy that was three
00:55:43.980 Yep, that's a hell of a way to start a week, dude. Yep. All right, guys, we will see you tonight at seven
00:55:49.500 Don't be a hoe
00:55:51.420 Let's try the shot
00:55:52.220 Yeah
00:55:53.340 Went from sleeping on the floor
00:55:55.020 Now my jewelry box froze
00:55:56.700 Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove
00:55:58.380 Counted millions in the cold
00:56:00.060 Bad bitch, booted swole
00:56:01.740 Got her on bankroll
00:56:03.340 Can't fold, that's a no
00:56:05.020 Headshot, case closed