REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 13, 2024


Audio Exclusive 07： The 3 Realities Of Success I Wish I Knew Earlier

Hosted by
Andy Frisella
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14 minutes

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Summary

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In this episode, we have a real talk about how to become a better version of yourself and how to take the journey to become more successful. In order to be more successful, you need to realize that you are going to be going through a lot of challenges and obstacles in your life and that you will need to learn how to overcome them in order to achieve your goals and dreams. You need to become someone who has discipline, grit, and grit, who has the ability to endure, and who can overcome the challenges that others don t have.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies 0.99
00:00:21.280 the fakeness and delusions of modern society welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we 0.91
00:00:27.440 have a real talk and i'm gonna get right into it okay i know it's saturday we give you these special
00:00:33.480 episodes on saturday i like doing them you like listening to them keep it short and sweet and give
00:00:37.760 you some practical tips uh on how to be successful all right i get a lot of questions from you guys
00:00:44.600 you know especially on q and af and i'm going to answer three basic points that seem to be a
00:00:50.040 commonality amongst a lot of the questions that we get so that we can stop getting these exact
00:00:54.740 questions and get on with some better questions okay the first thing you've got to realize when
00:01:00.880 you set out on the journey to become better is this nobody owes you anything they don't owe you
00:01:09.440 any encouragement they don't owe you any support they don't owe you any claps any cheers and they
00:01:15.700 certainly are not going to motivate you and hold your hand through the journey of success if you
00:01:23.040 think that other people are going to come along and pull you through and give you breaks and give
00:01:30.260 you opportunities you are not understanding how this works this is a journey that you take alone and
00:01:38.680 when you take the journey alone and you push through and you become somebody who has discipline who has
00:01:46.340 grit who has mental toughness who has the ability to endure who has the ability to walk on the unbeaten
00:01:55.620 path eventually other people will join you so for the first what seems like an eternity you are going to
00:02:05.980 be going alone and nobody is going to come along and pull you through and this is a common mistake
00:02:12.540 that we see with all sorts of people that are trying to change their lives they look around they have
00:02:19.720 these good intentions they have these you know plans these dreams these goals and they look around and
00:02:26.280 they're like why is no one helping me why is no one supporting me this isn't fair well guess what it's
00:02:32.840 not fair all right you may have started in a more difficult spot you may have hardships that other
00:02:40.680 people don't face but there is a reality that there are millions of people that have come from places
00:02:47.120 harder than you have come from who have achieved what it is you're trying to achieve and more and every
00:02:53.860 single one of those people went down the path without anybody pulling them along so get this out of your mind
00:03:02.060 understand understand nobody is coming to save you nobody is coming to pull you through all the
00:03:10.800 product all the result all the success that you're going to create from all of these seeds you're planting
00:03:17.620 today that work those seeds that are planted have to be planted while nobody is looking while nobody is
00:03:26.020 watching while nobody is clapping and eventually they produce a harvest where you get to show the world
00:03:34.400 what you've created and by that time people will have joined you and you will not be alone you know if you have
00:03:41.660 to have someone hold your hand if you have to have someone push you down the path if you have to have
00:03:46.940 someone drag you down bro you are going to be mediocre at best for your entire life and that's generous you're
00:03:56.060 probably not even going to be mediocre you're probably not going to get off the ground so understand the only way for
00:04:02.320 you to do this is to build yourself into someone who's capable of going down the path on your own it's on you you got to
00:04:10.560 carry it on your back and that's the way it is so that's point number one point number two okay nobody's
00:04:17.780 going to understand what it is you're trying to do but you all right whenever you start down this path
00:04:25.040 you are going to be called crazy you're going to be called unrealistic you're going to be questioned
00:04:30.680 you're going to be having your friends put doubt in your mind you're going to have people say like
00:04:36.300 well are you sure about that these people don't get it they do not understand what it takes they do
00:04:43.340 not understand what you are trying to do they do not understand why you are trying to do it and for that
00:04:49.360 reason you have to ignore them you have to learn to turn the volume down on what it is they're doing
00:04:56.800 and the best way to turn the volume down on these people is by limiting your access to them and then also
00:05:05.000 continuing to execute the more energy you put into execution the more time you put into what it is
00:05:11.640 you're doing moving yourself forward the less and less and less you can hear them because you're creating
00:05:17.500 more and more distance between you and them just like in a physical reality if someone is standing in
00:05:24.960 front of your face and they're telling you hey man i don't know you need to remember where you came from 0.94
00:05:29.920 you know you're just a broke little fat kid from south county saint louis missouri i don't know if 0.75
00:05:35.120 you're going to be able to do that okay and then you go stand a hundred yards away from them and they 0.81
00:05:40.540 say the same thing can you hear what they're saying now what if you stand a mile away from them what if 0.96
00:05:45.680 you stand 10 miles away it doesn't matter if they fucking scream it you're not going to hear it 0.91
00:05:51.280 so the best way to silence this noise the best way to to make the volume on this go down is for 0.99
00:05:58.320 you to execute and to put distance between those people and where you are and eventually when you've
00:06:04.520 gone on and you've created everything that you want to create you will not be able to hear these
00:06:09.640 people laugh because they'll be in the same spot where you started and you will be a hundred miles down
00:06:16.000 the road okay so that's point number two they're not going to get it no matter how hard you try to
00:06:22.420 explain it no matter how much effort you do into trying to convince people they are not going to get
00:06:28.480 it so you should take all that effort that you put into trying to convince people and you need to put
00:06:33.600 that into execution so that you can create the proper distance so you do not hear the naysayers you do
00:06:40.560 not hear the hate you do not hear the laughter you do not hear the doubt and you can focus on becoming
00:06:46.920 exactly who you want to become and that's how you become it stop wasting your energy trying to convince
00:06:53.900 people stop wasting your energy trying to make people understand they're not going to get it until
00:06:59.520 the entire world gets it and by the way if they do think you're crazy and they do think you're unrealistic
00:07:07.100 and they do think you're nuts that's a great thing because that means that you're thinking far bigger
00:07:13.460 than any of the people around you and that is always a good thing if you follow it up with action
00:07:18.520 so when they say these things in the beginning and you actually can hear them use them to your
00:07:25.300 advantage use them as a reinforcement of the fact that you are on the right path and i know it doesn't
00:07:31.420 feel that way all the time but i promise you that's what it means point number three
00:07:36.560 every single time i tried to cut corners every single time i tried to take the easy path every
00:07:44.700 single time i opted off of the hard path i lost every single time and every single one of those
00:07:53.200 times i wasted valuable time that had i just accepted the reality of the hard path i would have spent that
00:08:00.200 time moving down that path which would have gotten me exponentially further than wasting my time
00:08:06.020 looking for the shortcut losers look for the shortcut their entire lives that's why they never get
00:08:11.720 anywhere it's the hard path that builds you it's the hard path that creates you it's the hard path 1.00
00:08:19.080 that myself and every other motherfucker that you ever looked at and thought damn dude i want what 1.00
00:08:25.220 they have i want that for me that's the path they went on so what makes you think you're going to work 0.99
00:08:31.520 your way around this path what makes you think there's another way the test is the path the skills
00:08:38.460 are gained on the hard path everything that you want is at the end of the path that no one else will
00:08:45.540 take this is the reality and if you spend your life looking for the easy way the quick way the faster way
00:08:54.200 you're going to waste so much time that could have been dedicated on the main path that you're actually
00:09:00.220 not going to accomplish much of anything okay so think about this from a logical standpoint you're
00:09:06.140 still putting in the same effort you're still putting in the work but you're putting in the
00:09:11.380 effort and the work on these paths that do not equate to the result you're looking for because 0.81
00:09:17.880 fundamentally they are built to get around all the hard shit and when you try to get around all the hard 0.73
00:09:25.120 shit you cannot build the skills you need to get where you want to go because all the skills that 0.97
00:09:31.260 you need are built by overcoming the tests that occur while you were on the hard path so even if you 0.77
00:09:39.200 were to get where you want to go with a shortcut with the easier path you wouldn't have the skill set
00:09:46.780 to maintain that or continue past that point okay so you have to understand this is a practical reality
00:09:54.680 you cannot be successful looking for the shortcut you can only be successful by looking where you want
00:10:02.360 to go and saying the quickest way is this path there is obstacles here but these obstacles are going to
00:10:10.340 create the tools the skills the ideas the the abilities that i need to not only maintain the
00:10:18.120 success that i'm about to create but also move past that point because here's the cool thing about
00:10:24.880 success and entrepreneurship and business it is the only game that you can play that the older you get
00:10:31.840 the better you get at it all right i am 1000 times the operator i was even 10 years ago because i
00:10:39.560 continued down the path and now i'm in a position with all these extra skills and resources that are
00:10:46.420 going to allow me to go even further now had i found a way to jump from 34 to 44 without all of those
00:10:54.200 tests i wouldn't have that skill set and now i'd be sitting here not knowing what to do and the other
00:11:00.160 people that are on quote unquote my level of success would have a drastic competitive advantage over me
00:11:07.900 because they went down the path that taught them those skills all right so there's a practical reality 0.93
00:11:13.820 to this every time you go the easy path every time you go the shorter path you will fucking lose this is why 0.95
00:11:23.500 it's important to build yourself into someone who's able to overcome instead of looking for the path of 0.98
00:11:30.380 least resistance build yourself into a fucking weapon that can move down the hard path effectively 0.95
00:11:37.260 regardless of what comes your way and you'll become the kind of person that can achieve anything 0.99
00:11:42.780 if you spend your life looking for the shortcut and you don't build yourself into a person with
00:11:47.900 discipline mental toughness grit fortitude self-esteem self-belief the ability to endure if you do not do that
00:11:54.860 you cannot gain the skills that you need to ultimately succeed okay so this is very practical and by the way
00:12:02.540 here's the coolest thing about this okay if you try to go the easy path no one's going to give a
00:12:09.180 shit what you did you're not going to have any stories you're not going to have any lessons you're not going to 0.90
00:12:12.680 have anything to contribute other than potentially somewhat mediocre result okay and that's highly unlikely all right 0.99
00:12:20.900 but if you take the hard path and you go 20 years down the hard path now you have all these amazing stories you have
00:12:27.700 all these amazing lessons you have all these things to contribute to the people around you and that's the
00:12:33.060 most valuable thing in someone's life the most valuable thing that you can give someone is your
00:12:38.340 knowledge the most fulfilling thing that i personally can do for someone is what i try to do for you guys
00:12:44.620 which is pour into you from my personal experience so that maybe you can avoid some of the hardships that i felt
00:12:52.860 and learn some of the lessons a little more quickly but regardless of how much i teach you
00:12:57.760 regardless of how much i share with you you are still going to have to go down the path for yourself
00:13:03.260 this is the reality and if you do you will have an incredible life story that people will talk about
00:13:10.260 and they will admire and they will be inspired by and dude let me tell you something after you get all 0.93
00:13:15.760 the money and you get all the shit and you get the house and the cars and all this shit there's going to be 0.92
00:13:20.420 other things that you want those things don't mean the same thing once you have them and the thing 0.98
00:13:25.100 that's going to mean the most for you is what you did with your life what is your story what can you
00:13:31.020 share how can you contribute how can you help people be better and that will never happen with you
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