REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Battleground Mentality, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the

00:00:11.640 motherfucking CEO guys today we're going to talk about something that I get asked a lot about

00:00:17.800 you know it's it has to do more with mentality than it does with a practical tool but you know

00:00:26.140 what isn't mentality and the way you see things and the way you condition yourself to see things

00:00:32.460 and view the world isn't that a practical tool in itself it helps you see things a little bit

00:00:37.940 differently it helps you adjust to things it helps you deal with things that happen to you

00:00:44.000 and I think that developing the right mentality can be practical if it's thought of as practical

00:00:49.660 so today we're going to talk about something that is really more so how I view things because a lot

00:00:57.800 of you guys ask me you know why are you so intense why do you have you know this kill kill kill

00:01:03.960 mentality you know shouldn't you be seeing things more of a you know an easygoing way it seems like

00:01:10.140 you're always stressed or you're always so intense and you know I think it's important to kind of

00:01:17.740 dissect where that comes from in a in a in a organized practical way because I think a lot

00:01:25.180 of people think it's just it's it's just ranting and raving and and and not a specific mentality

00:01:31.800 uh so today we're going to dive into that as always I'm joined by my co-host Vaughn the pastor of

00:01:39.200 disaster what's going on my man things are really good and I totally agree that mentality is uh is

00:01:44.380 practical it's like that old saying that's been around forever so a thought reap an action so your

00:01:49.860 your mind influences what you do so clearly it's practical you know what I would argue that most

00:01:55.240 people miss out on perfecting the way to think about things because they don't see it as quote

00:02:03.360 unquote useful or practical like they would see maybe a course uh or a episode on let's say sales or

00:02:11.160 customer service but at the end of the day how you think about things is going to affect and direct

00:02:18.500 your entire life it's going to affect your relationships it's going to affect your the

00:02:23.120 way you do business it's going to affect your fitness it's going to affect your health it's going

00:02:27.020 to affect your mental health it's going to affect really everything and shape everything that has to do

00:02:33.440 with your entire life um and really what's more practical than that you know what I mean too much

00:02:40.500 yeah right so um you know what I want to get into guys is is something that I call the battleground

00:02:50.300 mentality all right and it it really is a summary of the way that my brain is wired personally and

00:02:57.020 the way that I see most successful people that I know are also wired it they may not be as loud or

00:03:05.640 uh you know as outspoken but when you break down the way they think about things and you break down

00:03:11.480 the way that they actually process thoughts you're going to find that the commonalities are consistent

00:03:17.780 amongst these two groups um and the first group guys is a group that I call the whiners all right and

00:03:26.000 the whiners they don't live in real life they live in ideal life okay they live and react and make

00:03:33.320 decisions based upon the way that they wish life was okay they think of earth and this world and this

00:03:40.640 life as a big giant playground like we're just hanging out we're we're uh we're chilling we're having a good

00:03:47.880 time and for that reason when things that are bad happen they are surprised you know they're surprised

00:03:54.860 when they experience conflict they're surprised when they experience adversity they're surprised

00:04:00.660 when they experience the unexpected all right and they're surprised when they get hurt by these things

00:04:08.880 and I'm going to tell you right now guys if you go through life operating in the in the world

00:04:17.020 and making decisions based upon the way you wish the world was you're going to get hurt consistently

00:04:24.040 you're going to get smashed consistently you're going to get stomped on consistently because you're not

00:04:30.700 operating with what is okay and that leads us to the second group the second group is the group of

00:04:38.120 people that I described a little bit earlier you know the winners all right these are the people who

00:04:42.460 are doing things they're the people who are creating things they're the people who find success in all

00:04:47.600 areas of life whether that be in their fitness their relationships their business they're the people that you look at

00:04:53.780 and you say man that motherfucker's got his shit together and he just seems like everything that he does

00:04:58.940 turns into gold all right and there's a reason why there are these so-called alchemists out there

00:05:06.260 in the world that we all observe the people who always seem to win it's because they have ideals

00:05:12.580 but they deal in the real okay they take life and see life and operate within life's boundaries

00:05:21.360 as it is they don't look at it how they think it should be and make decisions based upon that

00:05:26.960 they look at it how it is right or wrong good or bad regardless of what they feel it should be

00:05:34.040 they decide and act and react upon what they observe and what actually is now these people

00:05:41.780 they're not all stiff and they don't it's not like they don't know how to enjoy themselves

00:05:45.620 they're not serious all the time they understand how to have a good time and i would argue

00:05:50.180 better than anybody but they also understand what a battleground mentality is they understand that

00:05:57.260 conflict that adversity that things that are going to be unexpected they understand to expect those things

00:06:06.060 okay and when they get hurt and they get punched on and they get stomped on they deal with it

00:06:11.640 they don't act like it's not supposed to happen they understand that that's part of the game

00:06:16.940 they understand that that's part of life they understand that getting your fucking throat stomped

00:06:22.500 on once in a while is going to happen but they also understand that it's how they react to those

00:06:29.340 things that ultimately determine what those things ultimately mean and affect their lives

00:06:35.840 okay now obviously the second group the winners those are the people that we're going to talk

00:06:43.240 about today those are the people that we're going to talk about how and why do they have this certain

00:06:48.880 mentality that we're going to label the battleground mentality for sake of this episode and we're going

00:06:54.240 to talk about how you cultivate that mentality over the course of everything that you do all right

00:07:01.420 this isn't like and a lot of you guys who you know are a little softer mentality there's nothing wrong

00:07:07.320 with being a little softer but you've grown up in a world where you probably had idealistic parents

00:07:12.280 and you had people who told you that everybody should be fucking friends and everybody should

00:07:16.020 be nice to each other and the world you know is this really nice place where everybody gets along

00:07:20.540 and that's just not reality and so for some of you when you hear this you think it's like some sort of

00:07:26.480 heartless mean way to think but at the end of the day this is the only way that you're going to be

00:07:34.340 able to provide enough for your family your friends the people that you care about on a consistent basis

00:07:42.000 because if you're operating in an area that isn't actually what it is you know you're operating in this

00:07:49.720 magical place that you think is ideal that you think is the way that it should be versus operating in a place

00:07:56.080 of the way that it is it's not that you know you're heartless it's that you actually have a bigger heart

00:08:04.780 because you're having to understand and deal with the things that are and that takes a lot more fucking

00:08:10.100 heart than it does to pretend things are a certain way yeah you know you mentioned that people always

00:08:16.180 ask why are you so intense what I would say too is that you get that question a lot because you are

00:08:21.460 outwardly passionate you know very animated but I think people are insane if they don't think that

00:08:28.580 someone who's mild-mannered like a well like the late Steve Jobs or or Bill Gates or even somebody

00:08:35.440 who's older and more gentile like uh Warren Buffett if they think those guys aren't intense they're

00:08:40.920 insane they're just they just don't show they just don't show it they don't manifest it in the same

00:08:45.020 way right so you know that's I think that's a big misconception because I know it is because

00:08:50.780 I know a lot of a lot of very successful people a lot of very high level top level financially

00:08:56.680 successful people um all of them are like that all of them are highly competitive all of them have the

00:09:03.100 battleground mentality all of them embody the points that we're going to talk about in this episode and

00:09:09.140 basically uh unpack so that people can start to think about um and there's really only four major

00:09:14.520 points to this but all of them possess this and they might not verbalize it the same way they

00:09:19.800 might not be this aggressive uh loud intense voice um they might not have a voice at all

00:09:27.860 but when you break it down and you get these people behind closed doors and you see how they operate and

00:09:32.840 you talk to them they all possess these qualities all of them it's not some of them have some of these

00:09:39.020 qualities every single one of them has these exact qualities and that's why this episode

00:09:44.300 is so practical for people because they can understand like you don't have to be this

00:09:49.700 aggressive crazy motherfucker to have these qualities you could have these qualities too

00:09:55.500 but and you could be a reserved more quiet person you know what I mean but it's about how you think

00:10:00.560 about things and how you react to things that's what's going to end up making it you know work for

00:10:05.740 you anyway absolutely and you're obviously going to put the emphasis on the people with the

00:10:09.640 battleground mentality but I do want to say that the analogy of the of the playground is really

00:10:15.840 perfect because especially with um I've got two young girls my wife and I have two young girls and

00:10:20.500 a playground is literally you just go from amusement to amusement with no real purpose other than just

00:10:26.660 to entertain yourself and it really is designed for people who lack focus for for children you know

00:10:32.400 yeah but dude you gotta if you really think about this and break it down like if we're gonna

00:10:36.520 like really think let's think like 10,000 foot view this world was designed by smart motherfuckers

00:10:45.680 okay it was designed on purpose and I'm talking about the way people are raised the way people are brought

00:10:53.560 up to think the way they are trained because let's face it that's what fucking school is from the time

00:10:59.500 you're in kindergarten or preschool all the way till you graduate high school and college you are being

00:11:04.460 trained to think a certain way okay and because for hundreds of years we have been taught and brought

00:11:14.220 up under this exact way of thinking everybody sees it as normal okay and when you see something as

00:11:21.160 normal we don't question it and when we don't question things we leave our lives up to become the

00:11:28.380 product of someone else's decisions which are the smart motherfuckers I mentioned a few minutes ago

00:11:34.680 they're the people who are designing the system all right and I'm not trying to sound like some

00:11:39.400 anarchist here but realize that you are a product of a system designed by people that are much fucking

00:11:47.560 smarter and wealthier than you and you are designed to be brought up to think a certain way to see things

00:11:54.300 this is right and wrong a certain way and then to go out and be a productive member of this society that

00:12:00.700 was designed by someone else most likely with their benefit in mind absolutely and people don't put

00:12:08.960 enough emphasis on thinking about it like that no you're right see it as normal so what they do is they spend

00:12:14.300 their entire life going from what you just said amusement to amusement to amusement to amusement

00:12:20.020 which is designed to keep people from thinking big so that they can never realize the system that

00:12:27.180 they're a part of so that they have to go to college they have to get a regular job they have to get

00:12:33.180 married they have to have kids they have to pay off their student loans and they become trapped in this

00:12:38.540 debt circle to where they don't have a choice even if they do start to see the big picture and my goal

00:12:44.660 here is to get you to see it before it's too late and the system is so insidious that when you do have

00:12:49.920 somebody who who breaks free of it and and is living the way that they're supposed to live they look

00:12:55.980 so weird that the people in power can say look at that guy he's he's he's an idiot like you know what

00:13:03.000 the earth is round we all know it's flat exactly but you know what it takes a different level of

00:13:09.340 thinker to see the world at that at that 10 000 point you know foot view because when you start to

00:13:16.140 see it and you become aware and we talk about you know i've used this analogy before it's like take

00:13:20.180 the red pill take the blue pill like in the matrix once you take that fucking awareness pill and you

00:13:24.960 see shit for how it is man it's a different kind of life because i'm going to tell you right now

00:13:29.800 people you're going to look at people different you're going to look at the way people act different

00:13:34.120 you're going to have less people that you want to associate different because you

00:13:37.820 are going to have a hard time associating with people who are living within the quote-unquote

00:13:42.000 matrix versus people who are aware of what's actually going on and like dude that's a that's

00:13:47.460 not a fucking popular place to live and and do when you are aware and you are seeing things for what

00:13:54.100 it is and you are seeing the big picture and you are seeing how fucking sheepish most people are

00:14:00.260 it becomes very lonely it becomes a lonely place you know what i'm saying yeah and that's just reality

00:14:08.240 so you have to make your choice but i can tell you this if you are fortunate enough to have the courage

00:14:18.420 to become aware and see the world for what it is you can manipulate it to be whatever you want

00:14:25.120 and that's awesome that's powerful that's worth all the other bullshit that you have to go through

00:14:32.940 it's just that most people will never go through it right i think the funniest thing about it is

00:14:37.700 it's it's known as the safe way but if you break it down like you are right now like dude yeah it's

00:14:42.620 normal now to be in debt to carry these student loans like everything that's all normal and safe

00:14:47.900 dude that's what our parents taught us was normal right that's what they were taught was normal and

00:14:51.840 their parents taught their parents and it's all part of a system so that we could create a series of

00:14:57.240 worker bees that work within a system that never get rewarded you know that's why in our company like

00:15:03.540 i continue to grow my company and create opportunities within my company because i don't feel

00:15:07.440 right being a part of that system like i was meeting with a very successful friend of mine a very very

00:15:11.860 successful friend of mine uh a few weeks ago at his house he's got a 17 million dollar fucking house

00:15:17.880 all right we're sitting and he's we're the same age we're sitting in his house and he's telling me how

00:15:25.280 he just bought his first uh he bought his first exotic car which was a ferrari and he has 600

00:15:30.600 employees and he's like dude you know are people gonna like hate me because i'm driving a ferrari and

00:15:38.180 i'm like well let me ask you this does your company provide upward mobility to where people can earn six

00:15:45.440 and seven figures in in your company if they work their asses off and he's like no and i said okay well

00:15:50.080 some of the people in your company are going to hate you you know i'm saying yeah how do you respond

00:15:56.560 well i mean he he started questioning how he he started questioning how he could create

00:16:01.680 a better company which is a great response yeah i remember you struggling with that yeah i did and

00:16:09.480 it was the time we've talked about this like 20 times him and i now because now because like this

00:16:14.240 has evolved into a much bigger conversation like how how do i convert my company to a place

00:16:19.540 where people aren't just surviving but what they can actually thrive and dude that's what so so for

00:16:26.320 me and like i'm gonna get to your point here in a second like dude when i bought my first lamborghini

00:16:30.560 i had the lamborghini for like a year and a half before people even knew that i had it and the only

00:16:34.200 reason i had to come out and admit that i had it is because one of my employees saw me at a restaurant

00:16:38.220 getting out of it and so i i was really scared to like let people know because i didn't know how they

00:16:43.280 would react well the result of that ended up being you know i had to look at myself was i creating

00:16:50.420 opportunity for my people to where they could actually one day afford those kinds of things for

00:16:55.600 themselves and at that time i couldn't i wasn't honestly doing that um now there's not a company

00:17:04.320 on earth that has more upward mobility of than our companies there's no fucking way you know there's

00:17:09.140 dudes that there's literally dudes that start off here at seven dollars an hour that are now going

00:17:13.560 to be millionaires in the next 12 months that's the truth um so now i feel great about everything i do

00:17:20.280 because i'm creating fucking massive opportunity but you know my point in in bringing this whole thing up

00:17:27.520 is that you know you have to realize that you know once you start seeing

00:17:36.420 the world for what it is from a career standpoint if you're a business owner you have an obligation

00:17:43.380 to create a situation that's different a situation that bucks that trend or breaks that mold

00:17:50.860 and that's how you're going to build a successful company these days because there's too much

00:17:55.000 opportunity otherwise otherwise why the fuck would anybody want to work for anybody

00:17:58.700 that's a great point there's so many resources out there exactly right why not just go

00:18:03.440 right so if you're not in the business of creating opportunity for other people

00:18:06.980 i.e your own people dude you're not going to be able to run a company because people are going to

00:18:11.640 quit and they're going to go do their own shit right you know what i mean so this is a great precursor

00:18:16.900 to your first point yeah the the first point is is that successful people see things for what they

00:18:23.280 are they have the ideals but they live in the real and that's not pessimism a lot of people listen to

00:18:29.460 that and they say oh you're being pessimistic because if we really cared about the world we'd want to

00:18:33.260 change it to be this great thing all right well good here's the problem with that you only live

00:18:37.400 to be like 85 years old if you're fucking lucky okay so do you want to contribute your whole life

00:18:41.800 to try to change something or do you want to and that's a noble thing i mean some of the greatest

00:18:46.580 names in history spent their whole lives trying to change the world no problem with that i think

00:18:51.280 that's a noble thing and there has to have people we have to have people in this world that will do

00:18:55.300 that i'm not one of those motherfuckers i want to enjoy my life i want to make an impact on a

00:19:01.340 different level i want to i want to help other people enjoy their lives i want to help hundreds

00:19:06.080 of thousands of people feel better with the way that they live their lives not only the way they

00:19:11.020 think the way they act but their fitness and everything that i do i want the hundreds of

00:19:14.860 employees that we have and and uh you know outside reps which are in the thousands now to be financially

00:19:20.680 successful so i'm doing that by looking at the way things are and reacting and and and making my

00:19:29.560 decisions based around the way things are well let me just say this i i i think you're not being

00:19:37.100 fair to yourself because you absolutely do want to change the world you're just doing it you're

00:19:42.340 starting from a different place the other people are starting from a pie in the sky idealism and

00:19:47.260 you're starting from a okay here's the real world we're gonna this is how we're gonna operate but i i

00:19:52.060 think you're actually doing yourself a disservice to say that you're you're not wanting to change the

00:19:56.160 world but what i'm saying is is like from a fucking yes pie in the sky standpoint you know and people

00:20:03.920 think they're going to change the world by going out and doing a demonstration or going out stomping

00:20:08.540 their fucking feet and making fucking facebook statuses and this and other bullshit the way you

00:20:13.240 change the world is by impacting people on a real fucking level and the way you impact people on a

00:20:17.680 real fucking level is by dealing with the way things really are not the way things you wish they

00:20:22.700 were you see what i'm saying absolutely and you know pessimists they'll they'll say things and and

00:20:28.780 you know they'll they'll they'll make excuses and and they'll say all these whiny little things and

00:20:33.800 you know things look bad and i expect you know that they're gonna end up bad so you know what i'm not

00:20:39.420 really gonna do that because i know it's gonna end up bad anyway you know a realist they're not gonna

00:20:45.000 say you know things are bad or good they're gonna say hey this is just the way it is and because this is

00:20:49.560 the way it is these are going to be the strategies that i take and the reactions and the decisions

00:20:54.480 that i make based upon the way things really are which are going to produce this result they're

00:20:59.920 manipulators of reality they're not fucking powders they're not crybabies they're not whiners they take

00:21:07.180 the shit that is and then they produce a positive outcome and that's that's powerful it is you know

00:21:14.460 people think that whenever i say being a realist over an idealist is powerful no you don't understand

00:21:21.340 how powerful it is because really it goes back to when we talked about alchemy a couple weeks ago

00:21:25.720 it's taking the shit and turn into fucking shinola man you're taking dog shit you turn into gold nuggets

00:21:32.140 that's that's what realists do that's what realist entrepreneur thinkers do that's what people with

00:21:37.740 battleground mentality do they take the worst possible scenario and they don't say oh that's the worst

00:21:42.820 possible scenario they say well this is what we have to deal with and this is what we got to do

00:21:47.180 and this is and this is what we got to do to produce that result so guess what they go fucking do that

00:21:51.560 they don't sit around and whine about oh well you know what that's that's this guy's fault and it

00:21:57.280 should be this way that's trump's fault you know it should be this way this way this way well guess

00:22:02.440 what motherfucker it ain't that way now what what you're talking about reminds me of an ancient story

00:22:08.660 that i read one time where a where a mighty king sent out a scout to to check out the the opposing

00:22:13.740 army so the scout goes out and he comes back and he he basically says uh well they have this this this

00:22:19.700 number of troops and man i just don't think there's any way we're going to be able to beat them

00:22:24.960 and the king just kind of pointed his finger and had the scout's head lopped off immediately and

00:22:31.100 basically looked at the rest of them and said your job is to tell me what's out there your job is not

00:22:37.620 to assess whether we're going to win or lose and i think that's what you're saying is your job just

00:22:42.760 go out there assess what's there be objective and then say okay how can we make this the best

00:22:47.400 possible situation exactly every time and everything that you do on a daily basis your wife leaves you

00:22:54.980 well there's no use of crying about it how about this how about let's look at the good shit now i'm

00:23:00.920 single i can go out find a better fucking wife i can go out and have some fun with my boys i go out and

00:23:06.120 do the things i wasn't able to do you see what i'm saying but instead what do they do they go on

00:23:10.940 fucking facebook and they say oh my wife shouldn't have left me because i'm a good dude well clearly

00:23:15.240 either you're not a good dude and she didn't think so or clearly she's fucked up either way it doesn't

00:23:20.520 really fucking matter now you know what i mean it is let's move on yeah and that's the problem so many

00:23:26.440 of these motherfuckers on the fucking world especially on fucking facebook whine and cry and bitch about

00:23:32.420 shit that already happened the fuck you're gonna do now deal with it you know i don't give a fuck

00:23:39.980 that your parents beat your ass when you were a kid i don't give a fuck that you were molested as a kid

00:23:46.420 i don't give a fuck that your teachers called you stupid what the fuck are you doing about it now

00:23:51.700 that's what the world gives a fuck about nobody fucking cares and is it a tragedy that those things

00:23:58.540 happen absolutely i'm not arguing that but what i am arguing is wasting your whole entire fucking life

00:24:04.680 dwelling on the past tragedies of your life complaining as if you're the only motherfucker

00:24:10.480 that ever had to deal with these things and then wasting your whole fucking life because somebody else

00:24:17.120 did something to you 20 fucking years ago it's it makes no sense i posted this great quote the other

00:24:23.400 day on instagram chuck swindoll says maybe 10 maybe life is 10 what happens to you but it's at least 90

00:24:32.540 how you respond to it yeah it and that's maybe it's more like probably two percent what happens to you

00:24:39.200 98 how you respond but at the end of the day the people who fucking win they look at shit for what it

00:24:45.580 is and they say you know what that sucks that happened but here's what i'm gonna do about it and they go

00:24:50.080 out and they fucking make good shit happen yeah you know i know you like to read great biographies and

00:24:54.600 i i just we need to pound this point in you read the biographies of these great people these people

00:24:59.640 who have accomplished just things that are beyond our imagination and very often they come from brutal

00:25:06.200 circumstances and then you compare them to almost always almost always right and then you compare them

00:25:11.220 to people who grew up in really comfortable circumstances and haven't made anything okay so what's your

00:25:15.780 what's your take on that why do you think that is well because we grow stronger through struggle

00:25:21.580 100 yeah and see the average motherfucking pessimist pussy will read that shit and they say oh all these

00:25:28.280 people make up these stories of adversity everybody's always got a story blah blah blah no motherfucker the

00:25:34.040 worst fucking stories produce the strongest motherfucking people and i'm sorry that you're so big of a

00:25:39.880 pussy that you can't fucking deal with one little thing when other people have dealt with thing after

00:25:44.300 thing after thing after thing after thing and trust me i know i'm not the fucking most i didn't grow up

00:25:49.440 the hardest fucking life you know did i have some bad shit happen to me that probably would have

00:25:53.920 crumbled most people no fucking question but you know what i know you did i've heard your whole story

00:25:58.820 but but the point is is you know there's people that are 10 times worse than me that have built 10

00:26:03.700 times more success you know what i'm saying but you're right because the the people who make excuses

00:26:08.620 will always say yeah but when you look at people like you know the greats you're dealing with people

00:26:14.460 who are so talented and they're just different from everybody else they're these outliers who are

00:26:20.700 just destined to be right they decided to not be a fucking victim yeah and they they and they are

00:26:25.600 going to succeed because of their fucking story not in spite of their story right you know what i mean

00:26:32.360 well you probably remember when we had neo davis on and i was giving him every opportunity

00:26:37.760 that i could basically just because he he grew up in a pretty rough neighborhood and had all these

00:26:43.600 things against him and he just wouldn't have anything of it you know he was just like no i mean

00:26:48.040 yeah it was rough neighborhood yeah i didn't have a father figure yeah yeah yeah but who cares life is

00:26:52.460 no different than a fucking muscle the more stress the more anxiety the more fucking work you put a

00:26:58.520 fucking muscle through the bigger the stronger it gets no different for your brain no different for your

00:27:03.260 fucking soul it's just what it is people who go through shit are the ones who become shit period

00:27:10.320 so point number one is they have ideals but they live in the real yeah so point number two

00:27:16.180 it's not that people who have the battleground mentality don't like to have a good time

00:27:24.040 they do but they also understand that earth is a battleground our life is a battle our life is going

00:27:32.680 to be a struggle we're going to have hard times okay we don't we don't look at life as if it's some

00:27:39.820 sort of fucking game we're serious about it all right it's just like being in battle now i've never

00:27:45.280 been in the military but i can promise you this every motherfucker that has that has actually been shot at

00:27:50.040 they don't sit in the fucking trench and think oh man this is really fucking fun no they're sitting

00:27:55.320 there and they understand this every single one of my thoughts and actions right now are going to

00:28:00.420 dictate whether i live or fucking die okay it's not like oh it would be nice for me to live or oh it

00:28:08.080 would be nice for me to get out of this they say fuck all right this is serious i've got to fucking

00:28:14.060 make decisions right now that are going to fucking allow me to keep breathing and that's what i'm going

00:28:18.260 to fucking do no matter what else whatever it takes i'm going to fucking make sure that i survive this

00:28:23.960 okay they think through every fucking action they think through every consequence their training

00:28:29.920 their training and their mental preparation helps them carry through these situations okay and and like

00:28:36.700 you know people like oh you're comparing everyday life to life and death yeah that's what fucking

00:28:41.560 successful people do they think through every action they understand that every action is a

00:28:45.840 produce an outcome they understand that this is important and this is fucking serious on a daily

00:28:50.660 basis they don't go weeks at a time without thinking about their future they think about it on a

00:28:55.500 fucking day by day action by action basis it's a fucking battle and they know it's a fucking battle

00:29:00.760 okay and they're alert about being in this situation they're not mindless they're paying attention

00:29:08.020 they're concentrating they're fucking focused and they're allowing themselves not to get distracted

00:29:13.480 from what their ultimate destination is all right and so many people now they they go to fucking

00:29:22.000 social event let's go back to the big picture shit i was talking about a minute ago uh wednesday night

00:29:27.040 social event thursday night ladies night friday night drinks with the bros saturday night uh

00:29:32.760 fucking club night sunday fun day uh monday hungover tuesday not as hungover wednesday back to the social event

00:29:41.080 and they fucking spend their whole life going from distraction to distraction to distraction

00:29:45.220 and then they put 20 years into that and wonder why they're fucking digging anywhere

00:29:48.820 it's because you're not alert you're not taking it serious you're not fucking focused and sure as fuck

00:29:55.480 you're not paying attention because you don't have a strategy for victory okay any army any fucking soldier

00:30:02.580 on earth that goes into real battle has a fucking plan to win they have a strategy they have an outcome

00:30:09.120 that they're after and most of you people get so fucking distracted from day-to-day life that you

00:30:14.380 don't even have a fucking strategy for victory you don't even think about it you think that if you

00:30:19.180 think good thoughts and you're nice to people that eventually you're going to end up where you fucking

00:30:24.200 want to be and that's just not the fucking case is being nice to people and thinking good thoughts

00:30:29.000 beneficial absolutely but you have to follow that up with the fucking strategy and action you can't go

00:30:35.200 through your life floating in the fucking wind like a fucking flower child and expect to end up

00:30:41.500 somewhere that's where you want to be it just doesn't work that way so you have to understand

00:30:47.700 that like dude while there is a time to enjoy your life because this is what the fucking critics say

00:30:52.160 right oh well that sounds like it's not a lot of fun i don't know if i would enjoy that kind of life

00:30:56.800 you know i would that's that's just not very very pleasant of a life well here's the deal you're

00:31:03.380 going to pay the price either way you could pay the price now you could put in the work now you can

00:31:08.080 do the things required now you could pay attention now you could focus now or you could have a good

00:31:14.960 time now and later you're going to fucking struggle when when you're fucking 40 50 60 years old and it's

00:31:21.420 actually more difficult for you to make an income and survive because the workplace doesn't like

00:31:27.260 that sort of workforce and you know we can make all the laws and all the fucking you know legislation

00:31:33.240 we want but the reality is is dude if you don't have it going by the time you're 50 years old you're

00:31:37.540 gonna it's hard to fucking make it it's just reality and you know you you you could pay the price now

00:31:46.980 or you could pay the price then and it's up to you that's reality so uh so you're uh you're a little

00:31:54.600 younger than i am but you recognize the name general norman schwartzkopf yeah i uh i saw him speak in

00:32:02.360 public and um you're talking about being serious that this being a matter of life and death he said in

00:32:10.960 this how how is this not a matter of life and death right right so he said he said in this speech

00:32:16.740 he said there's really not a ton of difference between war and life the only difference is that

00:32:21.340 war makes the possibility of your death more immediately immediate and more urgent but the

00:32:27.340 reality is you can live through a war you can live through multiple wars and guess what someday you're

00:32:31.820 still going to die right so you ought to approach life with the same seriousness that a soldier

00:32:36.660 approaches war dude a sense of urgency a sense of intensity a sense of hunger a sense of will to

00:32:41.580 win on a daily basis you know but people don't do that and then they wonder why they're not getting

00:32:47.740 anywhere this isn't an option like this thinking that i'm giving you is not a fucking optional way

00:32:52.960 to think it's not like oh well andy you're very intense and we just look at it different all right

00:32:57.580 motherfucker well come find me in 20 years and let me know where the fuck you are because if you don't

00:33:01.840 go through life with this sort of mentality at least some version of it you're going to get fucking

00:33:05.600 spanked by people who have it like me so you definitely you know i'm saying yeah so you

00:33:11.940 mentioned killing the enemy so we're going to have some idiot out there who thinks that you're

00:33:15.740 literally telling talking about killing people but what are some of the enemies that you're talking

00:33:19.880 about complacency fucking laziness all right not doing the shit that you need lack of discipline

00:33:25.920 not doing the shit that needs to be done when it needs to be done okay i'm not literally talking

00:33:30.960 about killing people but i'm talking about killing all the fucking character qualities inside of you

00:33:35.780 that keep you from where you want to be all right you know we could put a hundred bad qualities in

00:33:42.140 there but at the end of the day we all have our fucking enemies we all have our enemies like for me

00:33:47.840 it you know it's alcohol like dude if i fucking drink too much alcohol i get really fucking lazy

00:33:52.940 if i get lazy i don't work out then i don't eat right then i'm not focused in a spiral fucking bad

00:33:58.340 shit happens now does that mean i don't drink no i fucking love to drink but i fucking know

00:34:02.900 to keep it in check you know what i mean and i i work on battling those kind of enemies on a daily

00:34:09.500 basis you have to figure out what it is for you for you it might be a fear of something and most

00:34:15.020 likely it is you're probably scared of trying you're scared of failing you're scared of looking

00:34:19.420 stupid you know those things are part of becoming something how the fuck are you going to get

00:34:25.060 any better if you never look stupid it's impossible it's impossible but yet so many people will go on

00:34:32.640 and live the life designed by the fucking man quote unquote the man all right and live a life they

00:34:40.040 don't even want because they're too afraid to go out and fall on their fucking face that's your

00:34:45.300 fucking enemy that's the enemy that you need to kill so with mentioning all these character qualities

00:34:51.020 obviously it goes without saying that the greatest enemy that anybody has is always themselves themselves

00:34:56.380 always themselves you know and it's it's always it's it's popular right now to verbalize that enemy

00:35:01.700 you know oh i got all these haters motherfucker you don't have no haters you haven't done anything

00:35:05.800 you got people flattening the tires on your car or fucking poisoning your dogs or fucking burning

00:35:11.520 your houses down no well then you don't have any fucking haters quit being a pussy

00:35:17.500 point number three well let me restate point number two okay point number two they know that

00:35:24.840 there's a time to play but the earth is a battleground they know that the earth is a battleground

00:35:30.360 point number three people who have the battleground mentality are not surprised by conflict they expect

00:35:39.640 it okay can you imagine a soldier on the battlefield saying oh hey why the fuck are these guys firing at

00:35:46.020 me why why aren't they just letting us walk across there and just do whatever we want okay because

00:35:51.660 you're on a fucking battlefield you're there for conflict you have to understand that bad shit is

00:35:58.920 going to happen you're going to have resistance you're going to have things that are there to slow

00:36:03.640 you down you're going to have people try to step in your way you're going to have all these things

00:36:08.320 you're going to have injuries you're going to have uh you know you're going to get sick you're going to

00:36:14.280 have setbacks you're going to have people quit on you you're going to get fucking fired these are

00:36:19.920 all things that happen expect it the biggest problem with most people is they think that the

00:36:27.980 ride is going to be fucking smooth and they and when it's not smooth they end up with some sort of

00:36:33.500 fucking like to me it's something i can't even relate to because i i expect the bad shit so much

00:36:40.500 that the fact that p anybody would think it's going to be smooth is like it's like makes me

00:36:47.440 fucking giggle maybe it's just because i've been doing this for 20 years you know what i mean but

00:36:51.640 like the amount of tolerance of fucking adversity that these people are are not willing to deal with

00:37:00.580 it makes me fucking laugh it's like bro you're you're you're you've been doing this for six months

00:37:06.180 and you had a couple little bad things happen to you and now you're going to quit like dude you

00:37:13.000 don't have it you still have what it fucking takes you know people who are successful

00:37:18.020 know and expect adversity and they know how they're going to react when adversity happens

00:37:24.800 they know that when bad shit happens that they're going to stand the fuck up dust the fuck off and keep

00:37:31.080 moving forward they're not going to sit down and whine they're not going to go on facebook every day when

00:37:36.080 something bad happens and fucking post about it they're going to keep their mouth shut they're

00:37:40.280 going to keep their head down and they're going to do the fucking work that's what successful people

00:37:45.260 do they don't wait around for other people to come help them they don't ask for people to help them

00:37:50.320 they don't start a go fund me fucking page they don't fucking whine they don't bitch they don't pout

00:37:55.360 they just do what needs to be done and they move fucking forward okay this isn't you know the

00:38:01.320 utilizing conflict and adversity to improve it's not an optional part of success it's necessary part

00:38:09.040 of success and it's also not some special skill or talent that people have to deal with adversity

00:38:15.580 it's a fucking choice you choose to react a certain way you choose to fix yourself when bad shit happens

00:38:24.720 you choose to examine yourself when shit that you did causes bad shit to happen to you and then guess

00:38:32.620 what you adjust you dust off and you move forward okay this is a choice this isn't a skill this isn't

00:38:39.300 a talent it's a way of thinking that you have to have all right you have to understand that when bad

00:38:46.080 shit happens and it's going to happen that you're going to react in a way that benefits you over the

00:38:52.980 course of the long term all right expect the bad shit expect the adversity expect the resistance

00:39:00.120 those things are part of you getting better i'm the one who is uh in charge of reading through all

00:39:07.840 the questions that we ended up uh that we end up addressing on on the forsella factor yeah and it's

00:39:13.900 amazing to me how many of those are rooted in wrong expectations because we have questions like

00:39:19.860 well what do i don't what if i don't have the perfect business plan or what if what if i make

00:39:24.260 a mistake or what if people don't like my you know my product the first time out and it's just this

00:39:30.240 it's just i don't know if it's naivety or arrogance that they think they're going to get it right the

00:39:34.240 first time i think it's the expectation of society right now being that it's the instant gratification

00:39:41.960 mentality that's being put out by all these so-called other entrepreneur gurus you know get become a

00:39:47.940 millionaire in 12 months from your fucking basement uh become this and that uh buy my course do this

00:39:53.480 be a baller in fucking two weeks like people think they got to hit a home run and and they don't they

00:39:58.540 just got to hit a bunch of fucking singles yeah sounds good so when they get when they experience

00:40:04.820 conflict they expect it they're ready for three yeah they're ready for it yeah right so and the fourth

00:40:10.820 point and the final point of the battleground mentality is is when they get wounded they fucking deal

00:40:16.680 with it okay again it's all about expectations this is a battle you're on the battlegrounds of

00:40:24.280 your life you have to understand that you are going to get hurt you're going to have injuries you're

00:40:30.080 going to have things that happen to you you're going to have people leave you you're going to have

00:40:33.440 girlfriends wives significant others leave you you're going to you're going to have fucking

00:40:37.780 employees quit on you you're going to have people do mean shit to you you're going to have family

00:40:42.040 members not believe in you you're going to have blah blah blah blah blah blah happen and guess what

00:40:47.500 you're going to have to fucking pick up and go back to fucking work all right people when you're

00:40:53.840 when you're a fucking soldier and and and imagine this like you're a soldier in the fucking military

00:40:59.640 and you're fighting a battle and you fucking twist your ankle okay and then you raise your hand

00:41:04.940 to enemy and you say hey guys hey sorry i uh i twisted my ankle over here i'm out yes i'm out

00:41:10.880 of the game so please stop shooting at me that's that's the mentality of what we're talking about

00:41:15.920 here all right you're going to get fucking hurt you're going to have bad things happen and it's

00:41:20.340 going to happen a lot nobody gets to go to fucking war and battle with the ideal situation of feeling

00:41:25.640 perfect they're not fucking uh iron man they're not invincible they're not walking through with no

00:41:31.680 injuries no fucking uh nagging things like dude people like to act like they're little fucking

00:41:37.580 nagging issues in their life like they're the only one that fucking has them just because you verbalize

00:41:43.300 this shit on facebook doesn't mean you're the only one that has them true strength true fucking warriors

00:41:49.500 true people who live with the battleground mentality they don't go through life bitching and whining so

00:41:55.120 you're never going to know that they have these nagging injuries they understand that nagging injuries

00:41:59.580 are just part of every fucking day life okay and and let me get this straight there's there's there's

00:42:05.980 nagging injuries and then there's things that require attention all right you know think like

00:42:10.840 like serious wounds this would be like you know in real life it would be things like depression

00:42:16.060 or cancer or things that are that are serious those things need to be addressed you can't like brush

00:42:22.940 those off and say oh you're being a pussy when you're when you're had these serious issues so don't sit

00:42:28.560 here and be like oh andy you're being such a hard ass and you're blah blah no but you have to

00:42:33.460 delineate between shit that is critical and shit that is non-critical you know and so many people

00:42:40.320 like to make the non-critical things critical they like they like to you know they they like to say oh

00:42:46.900 well this happened to me so i can't fucking do this today or you know this this my my one of my

00:42:53.240 employees quit on me so you know i i've had a real hard time for the last seven years the economy

00:42:58.580 was bad in 2007 it's 2017 bitch right what now you know what i'm saying right there's critical shit

00:43:06.580 there's non-critical shit you getting fucking cancer needs to be addressed you having serious

00:43:12.800 depression where you want to kill yourself every day that needs to be fucking addressed okay but you

00:43:18.440 being upset because something happened so what what are you going to do there's critical and

00:43:25.740 non-critical issues on the opposite end of the spectrum you mentioned your boy who twists his

00:43:30.840 ankle and wants out of the game i talked to a military physician one time who told me that with a lot of

00:43:36.440 the elite uh soldiers you know like the navy seals they actually have the opposite problem they could be

00:43:42.340 in war and they could have like an arm blown off and a leg blown off and they're still battling and

00:43:48.540 they've got to teach those guys okay listen at some point you got to bandage yourself right you got to go

00:43:53.840 get some help but it's that mentality that wins battles and it's that mentality that makes them the

00:44:01.000 elite soldiers they are and that's the same mentality that makes high achievers in any area of life high

00:44:06.140 achievers that's what we're talking about here because a lot of people are gonna be like oh you're

00:44:10.100 talking about this like it's war well it is sort of like war because the mentality of achieving and

00:44:16.760 winning is still the same you've got to have the same principles in play and as i mentioned earlier

00:44:21.780 in the podcast you know these things that we're talking about they're not optional they're not they're

00:44:29.380 not optional character qualities these are things that are necessity for winning they're a necessity for

00:44:36.280 success and anybody who tells you different either isn't successful or not telling you the whole truth

00:44:42.220 because i've yet to meet a successful person that doesn't have the four pillars of the battleground

00:44:49.180 mentality in place in their brain okay the four pillars are being a realist having ideals but living in the

00:44:56.560 real number two know that there's a time to play but understand that this is serious shit okay number three

00:45:03.700 expect adversity expect conflict and know how you're going to react and number four when you get hurt you

00:45:11.260 fucking deal with it and you keep moving

00:45:13.060 every successful person i know possesses those four pillars they don't have three they don't have two

00:45:20.860 they don't have a little bit of four they have all of four and they live them in a daily basis day in and day out

00:45:27.860 in every single thing that they do every single thing regardless of their personality i i feel like i just

00:45:35.540 need to emphasize that andy isn't saying you have to become andy you don't have to become you'll never

00:45:41.480 become me well that's true no but i'm not saying that i'm saying that everybody is who they are and

00:45:46.180 they they possess their certain outward character traits you know there's so many people i know that are

00:45:53.180 reserved and don't fucking say anything that possess these things that are super ultra successful

00:45:59.600 well wouldn't you say dan fleshman is like that oh yeah yeah for sure outwardly very mild mannered

00:46:05.840 super nice guy but but he's killing it on a day-to-day basis and everything that he does yeah you know and

00:46:12.240 it's every successful person every single one that you've ever heard on the show every single one that

00:46:18.240 you've consumed their content every single one that you've looked up to that's legitimate and built a

00:46:23.000 legitimate business possesses these four pillars there's no question absolutely so you want to

00:46:28.660 give any uh time to promote the for sell a factor there yeah yeah guys keep submitting your questions

00:46:34.580 for sell a factor uh the website is askthemfceo.com go on there submit your questions uh you know on the

00:46:42.100 youtube show we it's a q a format so it's a little bit different than this uh make sure you're subscribed

00:46:46.960 to youtube you can do that on that website as well uh that's going to be our big initiative moving

00:46:51.200 forward um to bring you guys more real practical feedback to the issues that you're specifically

00:46:58.320 having sounds good well i think that's about all that uh there's to say on the matter for the time

00:47:05.040 being yeah yeah guys uh as always you know we don't charge for anything so if you have uh if you found

00:47:12.180 this valuable if this is something that you enjoyed please bring me a friend that's all i ask

00:47:17.040 you know make a post send me a like-minded friend we're trying to grow this movement we're tired of

00:47:22.480 the pussification of this fucking earth uh and i know you are too or you wouldn't be listening to

00:47:26.640 this so guys do that and then i will see you next time

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