Conflict Creates You, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO187
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Summary
So many of you out there try to eliminate all conflict in your life because it's a negative thing and you don't have enough energy left to do the things that you need to do to become a better human being. In fact, most people spend so much time trying to avoid the conflict in their life, or looking at it through a negative set of lenses, that they get in a terrible mood when conflict presents itself. And I would argue that's because their perspective is wrong.
Transcript
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what is up guys you listen to the MF CEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking
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paying attention which I really love all right guys here's the deal
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so many of you out there try to eliminate all conflict in your life and I want to point something
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out to you I don't think this is going to take very long to explain how you view conflict in your
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life has so much to do with what energy you're putting out what progress you're making and how far
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along you're going to be able to get okay you have never ever watched a movie in your life
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that didn't have conflict you've never read a good story that didn't have conflict
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you've never been a part of anything that gave you extreme pleasure and extreme joy that didn't
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have to do with overcoming some sort of conflict but yet most people look at conflict as a negative
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thing most people spend so much time trying to avoid the conflict in their life or looking at it
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through a negative set of lenses that they get in a terrible mood they get totally thrown off course
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they get totally disrupted whenever any sort of conflict presents itself and I would argue that's
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because their perspective your perspective is wrong average people look at conflict as a negative thing
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they dwell on it they get angry about it they get frustrated about it they do everything they can to
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avoid it in fact they spend so much energy trying to avoid conflict that they don't have energy left to
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do the things that are positive successful people people who are great people who they make movies about
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people who they write books about look at conflict differently they see conflict as an opportunity
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they see conflict as the way that they are going to become great they understand that conflict is going to
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produce the lessons which are then going to produce the skills that you need to succeed they don't see conflict
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as a negative thing they don't see conflict as something to be scared of they don't see conflict as
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something that's going to drag them down or annoy them or frustrate them they understand that conflict is going
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to create them they understand that everything they are and everything they will become is going to come
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from conflict you're going to struggle you're going to be frustrated you're going to have things that you need
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to overcome that's life and if you are naive enough to think that you can avoid all the conflict
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all the frustration and everything that comes with it you're also going to be the person who learns
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nothing who accomplishes nothing and who becomes nothing because they spend their entire lives avoiding
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the one thing that creates greatness which is conflict
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you don't want to be that person you don't want to be the person who whines and cries and
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complains about how hard things are you don't want to be the person who thinks that they can get
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through the day or get through the hour without having at least a small little conflict something
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that annoys you something that frustrates you something that you see that you could take something from
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instead of looking at conflict as a negative thing instead of being frustrated instead of being
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through any sort of conflict whether it be mental or physical
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are going to teach you a skill or give you a benefit that is going to allow you to become
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and understand that conflict is what makes your story great
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and conflict is what is going to create the legacy of you