REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 07, 2016


Dr. Seuss Was Right, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO99


Episode Stats

Length

13 minutes

Words per Minute

159.2259

Word Count

2,216

Sentence Count

4

Misogynist Sentences

3

Hate Speech Sentences

2


Summary

In this episode of the MFCEO Project, I talk about the importance of being authentic, and how being authentic is the key to success. Being authentic is not only a competitive advantage, it s a key to your success.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I want to be a motherfucking hustler, you better ask somebody
00:00:03.780 What is up guys, you're listening to the MFCEO Project
00:00:15.740 I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO
00:00:19.960 Guys, today is Friday fire
00:00:23.280 Sometimes it's Thursday Sunday, sometimes it's Friday fire
00:00:26.380 Really just depends on what we got going on
00:00:28.600 This isn't my day job
00:00:29.800 So to speak
00:00:30.920 But, I do have something I want to talk to you about
00:00:34.840 If this is your first time listening, welcome
00:00:37.780 This is a podcast that is based around entrepreneurship
00:00:43.220 It is based around the mentality of succeeding
00:00:47.000 It is based around what the hippie population would call self-help
00:00:52.420 It kind of encompasses all of those things
00:00:55.740 Some people call it motivation
00:00:57.520 You know, I don't know
00:01:00.880 I think it's more practical knowledge, mindset, information that you need to use
00:01:05.840 In order to get yourself in a place mentally to be successful at whatever it is you do
00:01:11.300 The reason I say it's an entrepreneurial podcast
00:01:15.220 Is because you are the entrepreneur of you
00:01:19.100 You are the CEO of you
00:01:20.220 And you should be the motherfucking CEO of you
00:01:25.180 Which means you should go through life with confidence
00:01:28.200 You should go through life with swagger
00:01:29.920 And you should go through life feeling fucking good
00:01:32.980 About who you are and what you stand for
00:01:36.260 And guys, that's what I want to talk to you about
00:01:39.260 It leads right into what I want to talk to you guys about today
00:01:44.580 Which is being authentic
00:01:46.200 Alright
00:01:46.920 I get tagged in a lot of posts
00:01:50.080 And I do look at these tags
00:01:51.960 And I go to people's pages
00:01:53.400 And I see the things they are talking about
00:01:57.120 And I see the posts they are making
00:01:59.200 And I see a lot of people trying to emulate other personalities
00:02:04.540 When trying to develop their own online personality
00:02:08.420 Guys, you're making a huge mistake
00:02:11.260 Being authentic
00:02:12.780 Being real
00:02:13.920 Being who you are
00:02:15.780 Is your competitive advantage
00:02:18.980 You are unique
00:02:20.660 You are different
00:02:21.820 You have a different thought process
00:02:23.600 You have a different voice
00:02:24.820 You have a different way of communicating
00:02:26.400 And if you're true to that way
00:02:30.080 Other people who are just like you
00:02:32.760 Will resonate with you
00:02:34.120 If you go through life
00:02:35.380 Trying to be someone else
00:02:37.580 Or trying to pretend to be like someone else
00:02:39.820 What you're doing
00:02:41.460 Is basically becoming a watered down version
00:02:44.640 Quote unquote
00:02:46.220 The next best thing
00:02:47.480 Which guys, that's not a recipe for success
00:02:49.700 You can't be the next best anything
00:02:52.100 And succeed
00:02:52.900 Alright
00:02:53.640 So I want to talk to you a little bit
00:02:55.680 About why this happens
00:02:56.780 And where this comes from
00:02:57.940 You know
00:02:58.220 When we're little
00:02:58.840 We've all had the children's books
00:03:01.500 Right?
00:03:02.120 The Dr. Seuss books
00:03:03.360 When I was little
00:03:04.960 I can remember reading Dr. Seuss books
00:03:07.420 And the theme always was
00:03:08.920 Be yourself
00:03:10.560 But what happened
00:03:13.000 When you went to school the next day
00:03:14.980 Wearing what you wanted to wear
00:03:16.280 Instead of what everyone else was wearing
00:03:18.380 Or what was cool
00:03:19.180 You get laughed at
00:03:21.320 You get made fun of
00:03:23.180 You get your ass stuffed in a locker
00:03:25.680 And guess what guys
00:03:27.300 That doesn't feel very good
00:03:28.580 And so began the journey of conformity
00:03:32.140 For us to avoid being criticized
00:03:35.320 We worked to fit in
00:03:37.520 We worked to go unnoticed
00:03:39.120 We worked to blend in
00:03:41.180 And become camouflaged to society
00:03:43.180 And guys
00:03:43.820 That is the first thing that we start doing wrong
00:03:47.020 We buffer down who we really are
00:03:50.120 We tone down our personality
00:03:52.080 We deny our true desires
00:03:54.640 We deny our true dreams
00:03:56.880 And we develop this alternate persona
00:03:59.280 That isn't really us at all
00:04:00.960 We lie to ourselves
00:04:02.940 Our friends
00:04:03.920 Our families
00:04:04.780 About who we really are
00:04:06.240 And what we really want
00:04:08.000 In order to avoid
00:04:09.280 The negative commentary that comes
00:04:11.660 With standing out
00:04:13.100 But think about the price
00:04:17.000 Paid
00:04:18.160 To be safe
00:04:20.100 And protected
00:04:21.760 From all the little snickers and comments
00:04:23.720 All the dreams you had
00:04:26.320 Will never be
00:04:28.260 All the lessons
00:04:29.500 That you could have learned
00:04:31.160 You'll never learn
00:04:33.280 All the greatness
00:04:34.320 That you could have achieved
00:04:36.820 Will never be achieved
00:04:38.520 An average
00:04:40.360 Mundane
00:04:41.340 Dull
00:04:42.160 Existence
00:04:43.060 Filled with regret
00:04:43.860 And the ever present thought
00:04:45.820 Of what could have been
00:04:47.560 Is the price that you pay
00:04:51.100 For conforming
00:04:52.600 All for the fear
00:04:54.720 Of a little giggle
00:04:55.640 Or a laugh
00:04:56.780 Or a negative remark
00:04:58.020 That might not even ever happen
00:04:59.860 And if it does
00:05:00.940 It comes from a person
00:05:02.640 Who won't fucking matter
00:05:04.520 Five years from now
00:05:06.060 Makes a lot of sense
00:05:09.300 Doesn't it guys
00:05:10.080 Being your authentic self
00:05:13.280 Isn't just some sort of
00:05:14.740 Good idea
00:05:15.620 Or bonus
00:05:16.740 That allows you to be happier
00:05:18.380 And more fulfilled
00:05:19.240 It is an absolute
00:05:21.000 Requirement
00:05:22.400 Of success
00:05:23.780 Contrary to what you've been told
00:05:26.220 Or taught your entire life
00:05:27.700 If you want to succeed
00:05:29.180 You have to quit trying
00:05:30.880 To be like everyone else
00:05:32.820 You have to start being
00:05:34.800 Who you really are
00:05:36.320 Authenticity is not
00:05:38.000 Only healthy
00:05:38.920 And good for you
00:05:40.220 And good for your mentality
00:05:41.480 And confidence
00:05:42.420 And self esteem
00:05:43.460 It's a key part
00:05:44.840 Of being trusted
00:05:45.880 Guys
00:05:48.080 Worker B's
00:05:49.200 In business
00:05:49.760 Worker B's
00:05:50.580 In this world
00:05:51.120 They are a dime a dozen
00:05:52.860 Yes men
00:05:53.760 Are a dime a dozen
00:05:55.040 People
00:05:55.700 Who will do anything
00:05:57.460 Say anything
00:05:58.120 Jump
00:05:58.640 For a dollar
00:05:59.340 They're everywhere
00:06:00.420 They're not leaders
00:06:01.800 They're the cogs
00:06:03.320 You don't want to be
00:06:04.320 A fucking cog
00:06:05.380 Okay
00:06:06.440 You're only valuable
00:06:07.980 When you have the balls
00:06:09.080 To be authentic
00:06:10.220 You have to be who you are
00:06:11.820 You have to tell the truth
00:06:13.420 You have to speak up
00:06:14.780 And be
00:06:15.320 Who the fuck you are
00:06:16.900 In your heart
00:06:17.780 Because authenticity
00:06:19.300 Guys
00:06:19.840 Equals trust
00:06:21.120 And trust over time
00:06:23.120 Equals loyalty
00:06:24.340 And it means loyalty
00:06:25.420 From your customers
00:06:26.360 Loyalty from your employees
00:06:28.040 Loyalty from your employers
00:06:29.720 And loyalty guys
00:06:31.580 Is the most valuable asset
00:06:33.480 That you could ever obtain
00:06:35.340 It can only be obtained
00:06:36.840 By not being full of shit
00:06:39.240 Now guys
00:06:43.100 I know
00:06:43.740 This goes against
00:06:45.140 What
00:06:45.740 Most people
00:06:47.420 Do
00:06:48.480 And I want you to
00:06:50.420 Think about
00:06:51.040 And self examine
00:06:52.220 How you're living your life
00:06:54.300 Are you wearing the things
00:06:57.320 You really want to wear
00:06:58.300 Are you driving the car
00:06:59.960 You really want to drive
00:07:00.920 Are you admitting
00:07:02.020 The things you really want
00:07:03.520 In life
00:07:04.120 Or are you suppressing
00:07:06.640 All those things
00:07:07.720 Okay
00:07:08.920 Because here's what happens
00:07:10.440 There's a metaphysical aspect
00:07:12.040 To what we're talking about here
00:07:13.500 A lot of people have an issue
00:07:16.980 And I'm just using this
00:07:17.920 As an example
00:07:18.640 A lot of people have an issue
00:07:20.700 With admitting
00:07:23.160 That they want to make
00:07:24.380 A lot of fucking money
00:07:25.340 Okay
00:07:26.820 Because money
00:07:28.480 Is a polarizing topic
00:07:30.060 You have
00:07:31.160 On one hand
00:07:31.980 Most people
00:07:33.220 Want a lot more fucking money
00:07:34.420 If you stood in a room
00:07:35.580 Full of
00:07:36.200 500 people
00:07:37.600 And I pulled out
00:07:38.400 500 dollars
00:07:39.120 And I said
00:07:39.420 Who fucking wants
00:07:40.220 An extra 500 dollars
00:07:41.980 Most of these motherfuckers
00:07:44.460 In the room
00:07:44.880 Are going to raise their hand
00:07:45.840 And say
00:07:46.100 I'll take an extra 500 bucks
00:07:47.560 Who the fuck won't
00:07:48.760 But
00:07:50.160 When you get them
00:07:51.680 Talking about their lives
00:07:53.020 And you get them
00:07:53.480 Talking about money
00:07:54.840 They say things like this
00:07:56.660 Oh you know what
00:07:58.180 I don't want money
00:08:00.040 I don't need money
00:08:01.000 I have enough money
00:08:02.240 I enjoy the simple things
00:08:04.140 I enjoy these things
00:08:05.340 And then here's what happens
00:08:06.280 Here's you
00:08:06.780 Listening to this shit
00:08:07.600 And you're agreeing with it
00:08:08.860 Oh I agree
00:08:09.580 I agree
00:08:09.960 I agree
00:08:10.400 You know what
00:08:10.820 I don't need any money
00:08:11.500 You know
00:08:12.040 I'm happy
00:08:12.760 I'm just a simple guy
00:08:13.980 Blah blah blah blah
00:08:14.880 Blah blah blah blah
00:08:15.300 But in your heart
00:08:16.560 You want money
00:08:18.880 You want to make money
00:08:20.180 You want to drive different shit
00:08:21.540 You want to go different places
00:08:22.800 You want to live an above average financial life
00:08:25.220 You want to contribute more
00:08:26.760 You want to give more
00:08:27.660 You want to be the motherfucker
00:08:29.000 That other people depend on
00:08:30.820 You want to be the fucking man
00:08:33.700 But guess what
00:08:36.460 You ain't gonna be the man
00:08:37.620 Because you're sitting there
00:08:39.480 Agreeing with Mr. Fucking Average
00:08:41.740 And you're sending the universe
00:08:44.480 Conflicting signals
00:08:45.680 You're telling the universe
00:08:47.340 I don't want money
00:08:50.140 I don't want success
00:08:52.220 I don't really want to be the fucking man
00:08:53.860 And guess what
00:08:55.620 If those are the signals you send
00:08:58.940 That's what you're gonna fucking get
00:09:00.340 So guys
00:09:01.680 You have to be congruent
00:09:02.980 With your feelings
00:09:03.720 You have to be
00:09:04.580 In line
00:09:05.620 With what you really want
00:09:07.020 And you have to stand up
00:09:08.680 For those things
00:09:09.540 In person
00:09:11.880 When those topics come up
00:09:13.500 Okay
00:09:15.300 Now speaking on which
00:09:17.460 Just because I used that example
00:09:19.040 Clearly
00:09:20.180 There's nothing wrong
00:09:22.320 With making fucking money
00:09:23.340 I just want to say that right now
00:09:24.860 You know
00:09:25.100 Today's the popular
00:09:25.960 It's the popular thing now
00:09:27.700 To like condemn
00:09:28.640 People who want to be money
00:09:30.920 Want to make money
00:09:32.000 They call them materialistic
00:09:33.220 They call them selfish
00:09:34.140 They call them greedy
00:09:35.040 They you know
00:09:36.300 They say oh
00:09:36.860 You don't have your priorities in check
00:09:38.220 Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah
00:09:39.360 Same motherfuckers
00:09:40.680 That can't pay their fucking rent
00:09:41.860 Can't put the right food on the table
00:09:43.420 For their kids
00:09:44.000 Can't take their kids on vacation
00:09:45.260 Can't do all the shit
00:09:46.660 That they really want to do
00:09:47.620 Those are the guys
00:09:48.600 I was just talking about
00:09:49.540 Those are the people
00:09:50.600 Who know that they want money
00:09:51.780 In their heart
00:09:52.420 But they
00:09:53.980 Like to vocalize
00:09:56.280 How it's immoral
00:09:57.460 Or how it's wrong
00:09:58.300 Or how it's this or that
00:09:59.440 And that's why
00:10:00.120 They don't have any
00:10:00.640 So guys
00:10:02.160 Staying on the track
00:10:05.340 Of being authentic
00:10:06.160 You have to be
00:10:08.020 Okay with who you are
00:10:09.440 You have to learn
00:10:10.380 To be okay with who you are
00:10:11.460 You have to be honest
00:10:12.620 With who you are
00:10:13.440 Because not only
00:10:14.300 Does it create value
00:10:15.740 Not only does it create trust
00:10:17.740 Not only does it create
00:10:19.260 A situation where
00:10:21.040 You will earn more money
00:10:22.920 In whatever you are
00:10:23.680 Because people know
00:10:24.900 You're not full of shit
00:10:25.840 You're also sending
00:10:27.760 Congruent signals
00:10:28.660 To the universe
00:10:29.400 That's going to help
00:10:30.520 Bring you more
00:10:31.500 Of what it is
00:10:32.720 You truly want
00:10:33.680 I'm a firm believer
00:10:36.180 That most people
00:10:36.900 Never get what they really want
00:10:38.380 Because they're not
00:10:39.440 Okay
00:10:40.500 Being authentic about it
00:10:42.200 I could give you
00:10:43.960 A million stories
00:10:44.920 About the universe
00:10:45.760 And the law of attraction
00:10:47.000 And all these other things
00:10:49.500 That I believe
00:10:50.700 Play a role in success
00:10:52.160 But I notice
00:10:53.320 That most people
00:10:54.160 Are afraid to be
00:10:55.720 Who they really are
00:10:56.960 In their heart
00:10:57.480 And guys
00:10:58.180 It's not an option
00:11:00.900 It's not something
00:11:01.940 I'm suggesting
00:11:02.660 It's something you have to be
00:11:04.380 Okay
00:11:05.240 Like I said
00:11:06.320 Your biggest asset
00:11:07.740 Is who the fuck you are
00:11:09.460 Your biggest competitive advantage
00:11:11.080 Is who you are
00:11:12.400 Your biggest quality
00:11:14.920 Biggest amount of value
00:11:16.260 That you can bring
00:11:17.300 To any situation
00:11:18.620 Is being exactly
00:11:20.040 Who you are
00:11:21.380 Your best brand
00:11:22.740 That you can create
00:11:23.620 Is who you are
00:11:25.140 Okay
00:11:27.340 And the reason
00:11:28.000 Most people
00:11:28.680 Can never really become
00:11:30.040 A leader
00:11:30.600 Or never really become
00:11:31.720 A good CEO
00:11:33.380 Or operator
00:11:34.700 Of an organization
00:11:35.820 Or somebody
00:11:36.520 That other people follow
00:11:37.820 Is because
00:11:38.920 They have been
00:11:40.200 They have been conditioned
00:11:41.860 To try
00:11:43.120 And be like everyone else
00:11:44.720 And guess what guys
00:11:45.740 Nobody fucking follows
00:11:47.420 People who are just
00:11:48.640 Like everybody else
00:11:49.440 There's nothing special
00:11:51.240 About the person
00:11:52.360 Who's just like
00:11:53.380 Everyone else
00:11:54.180 But the beauty of it is
00:11:57.960 Is that
00:11:58.680 Your true self
00:12:00.620 Your authentic self
00:12:02.400 Is different
00:12:03.660 Enough
00:12:04.740 To stand out
00:12:07.020 If
00:12:07.740 You learn
00:12:09.200 How to let
00:12:10.340 That personality
00:12:11.780 Come through
00:12:12.580 If you learn
00:12:13.900 How to be transparent
00:12:15.280 With who you are
00:12:16.440 If you
00:12:17.400 Learn
00:12:18.460 To be honest
00:12:21.680 With yourself
00:12:22.400 And honest
00:12:23.060 With those around you
00:12:24.140 But most people
00:12:26.620 Can never make that jump
00:12:27.900 Most people
00:12:28.760 Are always scared
00:12:29.660 Of the negative comment
00:12:31.060 Or the disapproval
00:12:32.360 Or the laughter
00:12:33.380 And so what do they do
00:12:35.360 They live a life
00:12:37.740 They didn't want
00:12:38.700 They didn't ever wish for
00:12:40.780 They become someone
00:12:42.740 They're not proud of
00:12:43.880 They become someone
00:12:45.660 They're embarrassed of
00:12:47.160 They don't learn
00:12:48.920 How to lead their kids
00:12:49.820 They don't learn
00:12:50.360 How to lead their family
00:12:51.380 It's just bad shit guys
00:12:54.580 Learn to be authentic
00:12:56.760 Let who you are
00:12:59.500 Develop into something great
00:13:01.400 Be okay
00:13:03.120 With allowing that process
00:13:05.060 To happen
00:13:05.640 It's not easy
00:13:07.220 It's not something
00:13:07.960 That just happens
00:13:08.680 In one day
00:13:09.360 Oh now I am who I am
00:13:10.820 But notice
00:13:12.060 As you go
00:13:13.060 When you find yourself
00:13:14.480 Agreeing with shit
00:13:15.640 Publicly
00:13:17.560 Or verbally
00:13:18.220 That you don't necessarily
00:13:19.340 Agree with
00:13:19.880 Stop fucking doing it
00:13:21.180 When you find yourself
00:13:23.780 Doing things
00:13:24.460 You don't really want to do
00:13:25.840 Don't fucking do them
00:13:27.740 When you find yourself
00:13:29.820 And I'm not talking about
00:13:30.560 Going to work too
00:13:31.280 Because I know a lot of you
00:13:32.000 Motherfuckers are like
00:13:32.480 Well I don't feel like
00:13:33.000 Going to work
00:13:33.420 No motherfucker
00:13:34.440 Go to work
00:13:35.080 That's not what I'm
00:13:36.000 Talking about
00:13:36.540 Learn to be authentic
00:13:37.780 Learn to be who you are
00:13:39.240 It's your greatest
00:13:40.200 Fucking asset
00:13:41.940 This is for the Hustlers
00:13:45.600 This is for the Hustlers
00:13:46.780 Now back to the G's
00:13:48.160 This is for the G's
00:13:49.320 Thank you for the Hustlers
00:13:49.820 I'm sorry
00:13:50.160 I'm sorry
00:13:50.320 I'm sorry
00:13:51.040 I'm not talking about
00:13:51.520 I'm sorry
00:13:52.100 I'm sorry
00:13:52.320 I'm sorry
00:13:52.820 I'm sorry
00:13:53.100 I'm sorry
00:13:53.920 I'm sorry
00:13:54.520 I'm sorry