REAL AF with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am

00:00:13.500 the motherfucking ceo today is thursday thunder and i have as always a very important message

00:00:21.260 for you but before i get into that make sure you're subscribed to the podcast if you're consuming

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00:00:40.880 all right enough of the housekeeping look when i first started in business

00:00:51.680 when i was 19 years old which technically wasn't my first start in business it was my ninth start in

00:01:01.560 business because i had failed nine other quote-unquote companies up until that time

00:01:09.980 so when i first started in business it was really my ninth business

00:01:16.540 but when i started even though i had already failed nine other business and partially because

00:01:22.980 i had failed nine other businesses some of these businesses were simple lemonade stands shit like

00:01:27.660 that some were expensive lessons i had already learned but when i started supplement super stores

00:01:37.060 which is the first business that we started that i still own today and still very successful today

00:01:43.560 i didn't know what the fuck i was doing we went and we built the shelving of our stores from home depot

00:01:55.020 supplies okay uh we ordered the inventory of the store off credit cards all right we started our

00:02:03.680 business very very bare bones and because it was so bare bones and because i didn't know what i was

00:02:10.220 doing and because i had failed other companies all the way up until this time i had no reason to believe

00:02:17.680 i was qualified i had no reason to believe uh that i should be in business i had no reason to believe

00:02:24.280 that i should be giving advice on supplements and you know what at that time i probably shouldn't have

00:02:29.440 and by all accounts i felt like a fraud i felt like i was faking it i felt like i had no reason to believe

00:02:41.460 in myself i felt like everybody else could see through me they could see what i was going through and they

00:02:50.700 could see what i was trying to do but they could also see that i was a fraud

00:02:56.000 when i first started my motivational slash business slash personal development craft

00:03:03.720 which now i get paid a lot of money to do when i go to speak i get a minimum of 75 000 per keynote

00:03:13.460 and sometimes it's in the six figures okay i am a legit speaker but when i started and how i started

00:03:23.700 i started by writing motivational things on facebook i started by writing little statuses

00:03:29.360 on facebook i would write some motivational stuff or some some advice all right and people

00:03:35.800 quote unquote friends quote unquote family would either on my page directly underneath the post

00:03:43.060 say things like this andy what are you trying to do be like tony robbins andy what are you trying

00:03:51.560 to do you trying to be some kind of motivational dude or they would say that shit in person

00:03:57.500 and you know what that would piss me off so fucking bad because here i am i'm thinking i'm like yeah

00:04:03.400 fuck yeah i'm trying to be like tony robbins tony robbins is awesome he's the man okay but i didn't

00:04:08.540 have any qualifications i didn't have some sort of certificate i didn't have the approval to go out

00:04:15.400 and be like that and my close quote unquote family and friends let me know that right away

00:04:21.700 they let me know the minute that i step out of my comfort zone that i need to get back in line

00:04:28.780 i needed to know my role i needed to know who the fuck i was and remember who i was i need to remember

00:04:35.560 that i was just a fat little white kid from missouri that grew up on a gravel road and that i by no means

00:04:41.440 was qualified to give out motivational advice or write motivational statuses or be successful

00:04:47.580 entrepreneur they reminded me of this and because of that it made me sort of step back in line

00:04:56.540 and this is what happens to you and everybody else this is why most people can never succeed this is why

00:05:04.440 most people can never gain real traction because when their immediate circle pushes back

00:05:11.340 on who they're trying to become and what they're trying to become when they try to become it and

00:05:17.220 because it's different from what they know you as and they push back on it they make you feel like a

00:05:27.000 fraud they and it's confusing to us they should support us they should be happy for us they should

00:05:35.140 encourage it but what do they do they don't do that they make little remarks they make little wisecracks

00:05:40.500 they make fun of us and this is why most people can never get started this is why most people can't

00:05:47.000 understand what it takes because they don't get far enough in it to understand what it takes

00:05:54.240 when you first start and you start trying to become who it is you know you already are on the inside

00:06:02.340 people are going to resist you when you first start out you're going to get pushback

00:06:08.960 and a lot of it because you are becoming something in other people's eyes that you aren't

00:06:15.900 you are not being true to who they know you to be even though who they know you to be

00:06:22.380 might not even be who you are because you're conforming yourself up until this point in time

00:06:29.140 to something that they expect not what you expect

00:06:32.340 you have to know who you are you have to know what you are you have to know what you're becoming

00:06:39.840 and you have to believe in what you're becoming and i have my whole purpose of this message is this

00:06:45.960 the resistance is always the most difficult in the beginning every single person that you look up to

00:06:54.820 whether it be jay-z whether it be donald trump whether it be barack obama whether it be a famous movie star

00:07:01.520 whether it be a famous athlete it doesn't fucking matter all of them dealt with what you're dealing

00:07:11.520 with now all of them dealt with their family and friends looking at them funny and saying weird shit

00:07:17.580 and making jokes the difference is all of those people continued to become who it is they're supposed

00:07:25.540 to become and they found great success in it what i want you to understand is that this is normal this

00:07:35.360 is normal shit that anybody who has ever attempted to become great deals with this is what i've dealt

00:07:42.960 with this is what anybody you look up to has dealt with this is what every single person who has become

00:07:49.780 great has dealt with the difference between them and you is that they continued to move when people

00:07:57.040 told them to get back in line they didn't get back in line they continued to become what they knew they

00:08:02.560 were inside of their soul you decide to get back in line shut your mouth and sit on your hands and become

00:08:11.640 nothing that's the difference that's the biggest difference you have to know who you are you have

00:08:21.400 to know what you become you have to know what your product is and what it's going to be and when i say

00:08:28.060 your product i mean you you have to know that who you feel like you are on the inside is who you are

00:08:34.780 if other people aren't seeing that it's because you are encapsulating yourself to protect yourself

00:08:42.340 from their pushback it is normal to feel like a fraud when you start it is normal for you to not feel

00:08:52.020 like the real deal it is normal for you to not feel like you're supposed to be doing it we all go through

00:08:59.520 that you have to understand that's part of the game you have to understand that's part of the deal

00:09:05.940 that's what you signed up for people are going to question you they're going to tell you you're not who

00:09:11.020 you say you are they're going to say you're not being real you're forgetting your roots you forgot where

00:09:16.140 you came from they're going to say all of this stuff but really that's not even true because you've

00:09:22.500 just never showed them who you are you've never showed them what you're about you've never showed

00:09:27.160 them what you're going to become and they don't understand that's all it is they don't understand

00:09:33.940 it's not hate it's confusion here's my friend who's always been this one way and now my friend

00:09:40.840 became that was becoming this other way they're doing new things they're taking new risks they're

00:09:44.760 taking big action they're hanging out with new people and you're going to lose some people

00:09:48.800 you will you're going to lose some friends you're going to lose some family but you know what

00:09:54.120 those people are going to be replaced by people who support and love who you really are they're

00:10:03.100 going to see you taking massive action and they're going to get fired up they're going to see you doing

00:10:07.680 big things and they're going to get fucking excited those are the people who are going to support you

00:10:12.820 those are the people who are going to be fans of yours those are the people who are going to be

00:10:16.880 customers of yours and those are the people who are going to buy your shit

00:10:20.460 so if you have people in your life that don't fucking get it don't worry about it we live in

00:10:28.380 this ideal this idea that we're going to be alone because we lose some people along the way no we're

00:10:33.820 not those people are going to be replaced by people who actually propel us to success versus

00:10:39.020 keeping us from success it's normal to feel this way guys it's normal to feel like you're faking it

00:10:48.080 it's normal to feel like a fraud it's normal to feel like you're not qualified our circle who

00:10:55.100 doesn't see us for who we really are is going to make us feel that way and because we respect them

00:11:01.960 and because we value them and because we see them as important their opinions affect us

00:11:07.360 you're not a fraud you're doing big things you've got the approval to do this

00:11:16.940 from me and you should give yourself approval too nobody was an expert on day one

00:11:24.440 when i first started in business i didn't know fucking shit like if you would have saw me you

00:11:31.080 would not believe where i am now you wouldn't even think i was the same person

00:11:35.140 it's okay to feel that way it's normal just understand you're not a fraud you're just

00:11:44.580 choosing to show people who the fuck you really are

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Feeling Like a Fraud？ Here's How to Stop, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO195

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