REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 19, 2018


How Perfectionism Sabotages Your Success, with Andy Frisella - MFCE0247


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14 minutes

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Word count

2,201

Sentence count

167

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4

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In this episode, we talk about being a perfectionist and why it's a bad thing. You can't expect perfection in the early stages of your business or in your personal life. You have to chase perfection, and you have to be willing to work for it.

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00:00:00.420 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.580 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
00:00:19.980 Today is Thursday Thunder. If you're new here, guess what?
00:00:25.440 We're gonna rip off your fucking face. We're gonna throw it in the trash. 0.55
00:00:30.000 We're gonna give you a new fucking face. How about that? 0.89
00:00:33.860 Here, look. We have two different podcasts.
00:00:37.080 We have Tuesday podcasts, which are a little bit longer, usually about an hour,
00:00:43.520 usually a little bit more practical in nature.
00:00:47.760 And I say practical, I mean you could take the lesson and go apply it to your business.
00:00:55.040 Thursday Thunders are also practical podcasts, but they're more mindset podcasts.
00:00:59.080 And today, we've got one for you.
00:01:02.560 Now, guys, we don't charge for this. I don't run ads.
00:01:06.460 I don't run 27 fucking ads before I get going with content.
00:01:11.180 I could, but I don't.
00:01:12.940 Because this is a project for me, and it's one that I care deeply about,
00:01:16.600 and I'm passionate about.
00:01:18.280 And it's something that I want you to absorb as much as possible.
00:01:23.420 Now, because I don't run ads, I pass up a lot of money.
00:01:28.800 Seven figures, easily, for where this podcast is ranked.
00:01:32.340 And I, in turn, would like to ask something of you for doing this podcast and not charging for it,
00:01:40.200 and not ruining your day with 700 ads.
00:01:42.900 I would like to ask that if you get value from this podcast, that you recommend it to a friend.
00:01:50.060 Now, that does not mean listen to 100 episodes and tell one friend.
00:01:53.560 I'm asking for one friend per episode.
00:01:56.520 Now, a lot of you guys have been very diligent about doing this,
00:01:59.880 and a lot of you guys haven't,
00:02:01.000 because I can tell you I have millions and millions and millions of people that listen to this podcast.
00:02:06.040 And then, whenever I see posts, I get, like, you know, 20 posts per episode of people who actually follow through and do this.
00:02:13.740 And, by the way, I do look for that.
00:02:15.720 So, guys, if you're doing it, I appreciate it.
00:02:18.040 If you're not doing it, I would appreciate it if you did it.
00:02:20.780 Now, what we're going to get into today is something that is super, super, super relevant to the way most of you guys think.
00:02:30.960 We always talk about excellence.
00:02:32.560 We talk about arte.
00:02:34.020 And one of the things that I quote the most is Vince Lombardi's quote,
00:02:38.140 who said, chase perfection.
00:02:41.680 Chase perfection.
00:02:43.400 But the key word there is not perfection.
00:02:46.080 It's chase.
00:02:47.260 Okay?
00:02:47.740 You have to chase perfection.
00:02:50.220 You cannot expect it.
00:02:52.240 And you can't expect it in the early stages of your business and your project and your mission
00:02:58.220 or whatever it is you're trying to do.
00:03:00.980 All right?
00:03:01.520 You're never going to have the perfect business plan.
00:03:04.020 You're never going to do anything perfect in your business or your life, especially in the beginning.
00:03:10.760 You know it.
00:03:11.900 I know it.
00:03:12.900 So, if you're waiting to be perfect in whatever it is you're doing, that's not excellence.
00:03:20.060 It's an excuse.
00:03:21.920 Okay?
00:03:22.200 And it fools a lot of people.
00:03:24.400 But it doesn't fool me.
00:03:26.340 I get it.
00:03:28.000 Being a perfectionist is desirable.
00:03:30.720 And it's sort of like this badge that people like to say.
00:03:33.940 I'm a perfectionist.
00:03:35.160 But here's the problem with quote unquote being a perfectionist for where most of you guys are in your journey.
00:03:42.500 All right?
00:03:43.140 And I'm going to break this down for you in just a minute.
00:03:46.020 But here's how most of you think.
00:03:48.060 Most of you think like this.
00:03:50.660 I have this idea.
00:03:52.380 I have this business plan.
00:03:54.260 I have this goal that I want to achieve.
00:03:57.280 And I've never done this goal.
00:04:00.060 I've never went out and started this kind of business.
00:04:02.640 I've never done whatever it is I want to do.
00:04:05.120 But I expect myself to be the best at it from the beginning.
00:04:11.560 And I don't want to look like a fool to my friends and family.
00:04:15.940 But you know in your heart you can't go out and do this without looking like a fool at some point.
00:04:21.520 So what do you do?
00:04:22.920 You don't fucking do it.
00:04:24.600 And that's the problem that most of you face.
00:04:27.320 All right?
00:04:27.640 Now when we talk about being a perfectionist and expecting this perfection without the experience that you would normally have to have to become an expert at this certain thing.
00:04:41.140 You have to understand that you are skipping out on major, major character qualities that are going to keep you from being successful.
00:04:52.360 First off, you lack humility.
00:04:55.160 Okay?
00:04:55.420 You have the idea that you're going to be the one guy in the face of the fucking earth who is so smart and so talented that you've come up with the foolproof business plan.
00:05:05.720 It's never going to fucking fail.
00:05:08.420 You're never going to hit a speed bump.
00:05:10.320 You're going to look like a champion.
00:05:12.020 You're going to look like the best.
00:05:13.580 And you're going to be making tens of millions of dollars out the get-go.
00:05:17.520 What is that?
00:05:18.980 That's arrogant.
00:05:19.860 That's you putting your value higher than every single other motherfucker that's ever went out and done something for no reason.
00:05:30.420 And that means you lack humility.
00:05:32.320 And when you lack humility, you lack the ability to learn.
00:05:35.920 And when you lack the ability to learn, you lack the ability to actually become an expert at what it is you're trying to become.
00:05:44.600 So you have to understand, humility is necessary.
00:05:50.460 Okay?
00:05:50.980 Understanding that you're not that good at what you do is okay.
00:05:55.580 Because that quality is going to serve you over the course of your business career because it's going to allow you to become better.
00:06:05.500 It's going to allow you to chase the perfection.
00:06:08.620 And it's going to allow you to become the person that you want to become when you first start out on day one.
00:06:16.880 But you've got to remove the arrogance.
00:06:19.160 You've got to remove the idea that you're going to get it right from the first play.
00:06:23.920 It's not going to happen.
00:06:25.480 You're going to fall on your face.
00:06:27.080 People are going to laugh.
00:06:28.480 People are going to make fun of you.
00:06:30.060 People are going to talk shit.
00:06:31.700 People are going to discourage you.
00:06:33.760 They're going to make you feel bad.
00:06:35.500 And guess what?
00:06:36.300 We all go through that.
00:06:38.480 All of us go through it.
00:06:41.020 But I'll tell you another thing.
00:06:42.760 There's nothing better than when 10 years down the road those same motherfuckers are asking you for a fucking job. 1.00
00:06:48.980 All right?
00:06:49.340 So remember that.
00:06:50.900 Secondly,
00:06:51.420 your arrogance makes you think that you're going to avoid the day-to-day mess that is part of the development of every single business,
00:07:04.560 every single goal,
00:07:06.500 every single success path.
00:07:09.700 Okay?
00:07:10.420 Going down the path of success,
00:07:12.480 whether it be in business or anything else,
00:07:14.560 is a fucking train wreck every single day.
00:07:18.160 Even when things are going great,
00:07:20.720 it's chaotic.
00:07:21.680 Even when things are the best they've ever been,
00:07:24.220 it's hard.
00:07:25.520 Okay?
00:07:26.160 And you have to understand that that is the daily battle that you're signing up for.
00:07:31.000 If you think you're going to have the perfect business plan because you're arrogant
00:07:34.900 and it's going to allow you to avoid all the shit 0.61
00:07:37.680 and you think you're the first person on earth that's going to avoid all the shit that all of us, 0.53
00:07:42.960 the rest of the people on earth who have done anything,
00:07:45.460 have had to go through,
00:07:46.760 you are one stupid son of a bitch. 0.99
00:07:50.940 And that's the bottom line.
00:07:52.940 Okay?
00:07:53.180 Thirdly,
00:07:55.400 and probably the most important,
00:07:57.360 is that if you can think you can avoid having to learn something new
00:08:01.360 and you think you can avoid the mess of the daily chaos of business,
00:08:04.920 it probably means that you want to avoid those things.
00:08:09.640 Agree?
00:08:10.620 Yes.
00:08:11.200 I know you all agree.
00:08:12.420 Okay?
00:08:12.860 And that makes you fucking lazy.
00:08:14.620 And that makes you a fucking pussy 1.00
00:08:16.100 because you're trying to find the shortcut.
00:08:19.780 You're trying to find the path of least resistance.
00:08:22.480 You're trying to find the easiest way to succeed,
00:08:25.920 which means you are not going to have the grit and the perseverance
00:08:30.480 and the things that it takes when things get hard to weather the storm.
00:08:37.380 Can't make it without those things.
00:08:39.560 And if you're constantly finding yourself not willing to get your hands dirty
00:08:44.220 and not willing to get in the game and fight
00:08:47.060 and not willing to figure out how to win no matter how much effort it takes
00:08:51.540 and you constantly find yourself looking for the easiest path
00:08:55.280 and you constantly find yourself avoiding work
00:08:58.580 and you constantly find yourself trying to develop the perfect plan
00:09:03.080 that's going to circumvent all the hard shit,
00:09:05.480 you might as well not even fucking try
00:09:08.100 because you're never going to fucking make it. 0.90
00:09:10.180 And that's the truth.
00:09:11.920 I've seen literally thousands of people,
00:09:15.620 thousands of people start businesses and fucking fail
00:09:20.760 because they try to circumvent the shit that the rest of us
00:09:25.020 are just willing to fucking deal with. 0.81
00:09:28.400 You got to decide right now.
00:09:31.040 Am I willing to fight every day?
00:09:34.040 Am I willing to live a life of chaos even when things are great?
00:09:37.980 Am I willing to be a firefighter and put out fires every fucking day?
00:09:44.900 Am I willing to live that way?
00:09:46.780 Am I willing to live that way?
00:09:48.280 Am I willing to be called stupid or a dreamer or crazy or insane
00:09:55.440 by all my friends and family?
00:09:57.640 Am I willing to constantly be questioned
00:10:00.340 by the people that I respect and care about
00:10:04.460 about my intentions and my work ethic and my drive and my dreams?
00:10:11.260 Am I willing to deal with that sort of life
00:10:15.620 to get the life that I truly want?
00:10:19.620 If the answer is yes, you're going to be good.
00:10:24.380 You're going to be good.
00:10:25.600 But I can promise you all this shit that I just mentioned
00:10:29.480 is going to be relentless.
00:10:32.540 Relentless.
00:10:34.140 Until it's totally, 100% undeniable that you are winning.
00:10:41.800 When everybody else sees you winning, that shit will stop.
00:10:44.780 People will go from questioning your intentions
00:10:49.840 and questioning your dreams
00:10:51.620 and calling you crazy
00:10:53.240 to saying, oh, dude, I'm so proud of you.
00:10:56.560 Oh, man, I'm so happy for you.
00:10:59.900 And guess what?
00:11:01.060 That feels pretty fucking good.
00:11:03.740 I have it every day.
00:11:06.140 And so does anybody else who's gone through this shit.
00:11:09.380 That's your job.
00:11:10.520 Your job is to understand
00:11:13.360 you're going to fall on your fucking face. 0.99
00:11:16.560 You're going to be laughed at.
00:11:19.000 But you've got to be humble enough to understand
00:11:21.840 that that's part of the deal.
00:11:23.900 You've got to be humble enough to understand
00:11:26.160 that you can't skip that part.
00:11:28.760 You've got to be willing to deal with those things.
00:11:31.320 You've got to be willing to understand
00:11:33.320 that no matter how great things are,
00:11:36.340 it's always going to be hard.
00:11:37.560 No matter how fucking great your business is going,
00:11:42.100 it's always going to be hard.
00:11:43.720 And you know what?
00:11:45.680 When it's going bad, it's really fucking hard.
00:11:49.340 Fuck when it's going great.
00:11:54.220 But, dude, you guys need to check yourselves, man.
00:11:56.740 You think you're going to be the first motherfucker
00:11:58.580 that comes out with the perfect plan
00:12:00.800 and wins without any resistance.
00:12:03.640 And because of that,
00:12:04.900 you're not even going to get started.
00:12:08.560 You're going to look like a fucking fool.
00:12:10.640 Deal with it.
00:12:12.040 You're going to struggle.
00:12:13.380 Deal with it.
00:12:14.960 You're going to have a hard fucking time
00:12:17.440 understanding why everybody that you love and respect
00:12:21.260 doubts you.
00:12:22.980 Deal with it.
00:12:25.720 You're going to have 10 years
00:12:27.580 of not being able to pay your fucking bills, 0.99
00:12:30.440 of shopping for cheap clothes and cheap cars,
00:12:34.220 and figuring out how to survive.
00:12:36.100 Deal with it.
00:12:40.460 It's all part of the game.
00:12:42.940 And too many motherfuckers out there,
00:12:44.960 and I'm talking to a lot of you,
00:12:46.520 think you're going to buy a program
00:12:48.080 or buy a course
00:12:49.520 or fucking buy someone's Bitcoin
00:12:51.780 or whatever the fuck it is, 0.56
00:12:53.840 and you're not going to be able to,
00:12:55.680 you know,
00:12:56.260 you won't have to deal with this shit. 0.70
00:12:58.080 It's just not the way it is.
00:13:00.280 Life is a fucking test.
00:13:01.640 And you could choose to crumble
00:13:03.380 or you could choose to get stronger.
00:13:05.360 And that's it.
00:13:07.020 That's what this is all about.
00:13:10.460 You trying to be perfect,
00:13:12.240 you trying to be the first person ever
00:13:14.340 to skip all this shit with the perfect plan
00:13:16.740 because you're so fucking smart
00:13:18.080 really makes you one of the dumbest motherfuckers 0.97
00:13:20.440 on the face of the earth.
00:13:21.260 And I want you to think about that.
00:13:24.820 So you can either get in the pool
00:13:26.140 and fucking swim with us, 0.95
00:13:27.400 or you could sit on the sideline
00:13:28.840 and keep developing your fucking plan 0.97
00:13:30.700 that will never fucking be
00:13:32.380 what you want it to be.
00:13:33.660 And those are your two choices.
00:13:34.820 I want you to think about it.