How To Be Who You Really Claim To Be, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO299
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about a dream I had the other day and how it changed my life. I don t always get a good night's rest, but when I do, it can have a massive impact on my life in a positive way.
Transcript
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I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
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Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
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What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host.
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And this is the motherfucking CEO Project. I almost forgot what the fuck I was doing there.
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That's how fucking busy I am right now. Here's the deal, guys.
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I want to share with you guys a little bit about something I experienced the other day,
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which I thought was extremely powerful. I don't sleep very well, as a lot of you guys know.
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And you don't need to send me a bunch of stuff and say, oh, try this and try that. I fucking tried it.
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I've had three surgeries. I've done all the shit. I got basically uncurable insomnia. It is what it is.
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It'll probably kill me one day. But that's why I try to do as much as I can now.
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So here's the thing. I actually did sleep well the other night. And sometimes when I sleep well,
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I actually have dreams. And you guys are probably like, oh, dude, you actually have dreams. Yeah,
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I never. You don't have dreams when you don't sleep well. You probably don't realize that.
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You know, for someone who suffers from like severe insomnia, they literally never sleep.
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And when they do sleep, it's not good sleep. So I I had this dream. And as you guys know,
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I'm on my 75 hard program. Today is like day 52. And I started this program to help people
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understand what they needed to do to gain the things that they are lacking, which are causing them
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to not be able to build the lives that they want. And the things I'm talking about are the skills.
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And I use that term on purpose, the skills of intestinal fortitude, grit, endurance, confidence,
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self-esteem, self-belief, the ability to persevere, the ability to push through.
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Okay. That's what 75 hard is about. It's about retraining your mind so that you can build a
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foundation upon which all the other amazing successes that you want in your life can be
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built. This could mean your family successes. This could mean your financial success. This could
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mean your fitness success. It could mean your spiritual success. The point is that the foundation
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has to be in place. And it's popular these days for everybody to feel entitled to those skills,
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right? I deserve it. I watched a video on Instagram last night by a very famous woman who is telling
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people they deserve to feel good. You do not deserve to feel fucking good if you're not doing the things
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things that you are supposed to do that earn the feeling of feeling good. Okay. You don't deserve
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it. And that's what this program is about. It's about understanding one, you don't deserve it. And
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two, what do you need to do to actually get it instead of all this other nonsense that all these
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fuckers are preaching. Okay. So here's the thing. I've been 52 days into this. All right. You know,
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I show my physical progress. I got a lot of amazing, uh, just genuine heartfelt compliments and I
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appreciate those. But the thing is guys, is that the inside transformation is 1 million times more
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powerful than that. And so, and this is what I want to talk about. I was having this dream.
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All right. And in the dream, I was hanging out with some of my buddies, MC salmon, you were there.
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All right. You were in the dream and I will give you credit. You weren't drinking cause you were on
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your 75 hard. So me and you were in this dream and there was a couple other people and I can't
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remember who it was, but I knew you were there. And, uh, we, somebody gave me a shot. Okay. And I
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took the shot. And, and by the time I realized that I took the shot, I had swallowed half of it.
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And then I spit the rest out and I started freaking out because I realized that I had just fucked up my
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50 days of progress. And I had to start over from the beginning on the 75 hard program.
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And I woke up, dude, I was sweating. I was panicking. I like looked around and I realized
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it was just a dream. And the sense of release that I had from knowing that it was just a dream
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was like, cause you guys have all felt that before. You know, you guys have all had those
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crazy bad dreams. You wake up, you think they're real. Uh, sometimes you have crazy good dreams and
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you wake up and think they're real. This was like terrifying dream. And I woke up, I realized that
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it was just a dream. And I was like, Holy shit. And it dawned on me how much of a transformation I was
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actually having mentally, because I have now gone from somebody who constantly craved a good time,
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constantly craved bad food, constantly wanted, you know, was waiting until the next cheat meal or the
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next fix of whatever it is that, that, that, you know, gets me excited, which for me, it's drinking
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and eating. Um, and I'm not saying I'll never drink or eat again. I will, but it will be on my terms
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that I'm making the decision to do those things versus those things, making the decision for me
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to do those things. And it got me thinking about something that is just so powerful that I wanted
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to, uh, I wanted to talk to you guys about because this is what it's really about guys. This, and I was
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blown away. I was like, Holy shit, man, this program is working way better than I thought it would.
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And this is not a plug for 75 hard. If you're not doing it, I don't really care, but I am telling
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you that if you do the program, you will cultivate all the aforementioned skills that will help you
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build the foundation. I want to illustrate to you in a very simple, uh, concept about how powerful this
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is to changing your life. Every single other human that, you know, all of them, every single one.
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Okay. They work to take the most efficient route. They work to get the job done with the least amount
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of effort. They are trying to do the least amount of whatever it is they do, whether it be in their
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fitness, whether it be in their business, whether it be in their relationship to not have shit get
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fucked up. Okay. And I want to make you realize something that's everybody else. That's literally
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the rest of the world. What if you, instead of being like everybody else decided that you were going to
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invest in building the skills and building the character that would actually force you to take
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the hardest route? Because when you take the hardest route on purpose, you are literally widening the gap
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between you and everybody else. While everybody else is conditioning their minds to do the least,
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that is still acceptable. You are conditioning your mind to do the most to win. Now I want you to think
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about that in terms of your job, your career, in terms of how good of a husband you are, how good of a
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father you are, how good of an athlete you are, what you do in your daily life. What if you could
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retrain your thought process to actually go the extra mile to the point where you are having fucking
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dreams about fucking up by taking a sip of alcohol versus the people who are having dreams about having
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the alcohol? I want you to think about how powerful that is in every area of your life. You are conditioning
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yourself to be mentally tough, to be mentally resilient, to be mentally strong. And guys, that's
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the name of the game because all the other successes that you're trying to build are built upon this
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foundation. Now, I wanted to share this perspective with you because I don't think a lot of people
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actually realize what 75 hard is supposed to do. They think it's another weight loss challenge.
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They think it's a way to get in shape. There's plenty of ways to get in shape, but the reason
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you never get in fucking shape is because you have this mentality of trying to go the least amount
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of time possible without another fucking cheat or without a drink or without something that is going
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to quote unquote, be a reward. Well, I think that you shouldn't fucking be rewarded until you finish
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the fucking job. How about that? And a lot of people are out there say, well, you need cheat days to do
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this and you need this. Dude, I thought the same thing. I was the biggest proponent of that, but
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I'm going to tell you my physical results have been three times faster now than they were before when
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I was doing cheats and all this other shit and half-assing my way through the program and I'm
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getting sharper every day and I'm getting stronger every day and my workouts are getting better every
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day and my ideas are getting better every day and my confidence and my self-esteem and my self-worth
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and my fortitude and my grit and my perseverance, my creativity, my dominance is getting better every
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day while everybody else's is getting weaker. Now it's your life. You can choose what it is you want
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to do and this isn't for everybody, but everybody can do it. Everybody can accomplish this. Everybody can
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dedicate 75 days of their life to gain a skill that will literally allow them to do anything that they
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want from this point forward. That is a very, very minuscule price to pay. I could tell you that right
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now, especially coming from someone who is completely undisciplined. No, wait, let me correct that.
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Who used to be completely undisciplined when it came to their food and their alcohol and their
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training. I've always been good at business. I've at least always put in the time to get good at
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business. I've always read. I've always, you know, worked as hard as I could, but the truth is I was
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leaving a lot on the table and now what I figured out is that I was actually operating at 30% of my
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capacity. So if I was operating at 30% of my capacity and I was able to accomplish what it is
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that I've been able to accomplish. And let's say you've been operating at 30% of your capacity and
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you've accomplished what you've accomplished. What could we accomplish running at 80, 90, 100% capacity?
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It is unlimited. It is un-fucking-limited. And a lot of you guys are seeing this program through a
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different light. You are still applying the same principles that you applied to all the other
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quote-unquote programs or challenges that you are applying to this. That's why some of you have had to
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start over nine fucking times. If you have to start over nine fucking times, you're not taking
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it serious. You're not ready. You need to start and you need to finish. You need to give it your
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all. You need to put 110% into it as cliche as that sounds because that's what you're going to get out of
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it. This is not about losing weight. This is not about reading a book. This is not about lifting some
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weights. This is about learning how to do everything you do the right way, the hard way, so it produces
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the most possible result. And it's about creating that character trait and those skills to a point where
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they're automatic. Right now, it is not hard for me to go through a day without eating fucking french fries.
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Two months ago, it was hard as fuck. Right now, it is not hard for me to say no to people.
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Two months ago, it was a little bit harder. Right now, it is not hard for me to look in the mirror and
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say, dude, I'm fucking proud of you. Two months ago, I was not proud of me because as successful as I
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had become, by your guys' standards, I was not who I claim to be. And being who you claim to be,
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when you look in the fucking mirror and you see your own eyeballs looking back at you,
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is the most important quality that you can possess. Because when you are who you say you are,
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who you think you are, you have ultimate confidence. You have ultimate belief. You have ultimate
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ability to do whatever it is that you want to do. And my point in sharing this, guys, is this.
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This program works. This program doesn't only work, it works so successfully that I was blown
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away by that experience I had. Okay? If you are struggling with confidence, if you are struggling
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with self-esteem, if you are struggling with the imposter syndrome, feeling like you're a fraud all
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the time, feeling like you don't deserve the credit that you have and you don't deserve the life that you
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have, if you are struggling with belief, if you are struggling thinking that you're not worthy,
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the reason you feel you're not worthy is because you've never done anything worthy. This is your
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opportunity. This is your opportunity to not only fix that, but every other fucking hole that you have
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in the bottom of your boat that's keeping you from getting where it is you want to go.
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I'm living this shit. I'm proof of this shit. And I am no different than you. I am the same dude
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you are. I struggle. I get depressed. I get frustrated. I get mad. I get unsure. I get loss of confidence.
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I get embarrassed. I get scared. I'm like everybody else, guys. And I'm telling you, if you want to change it,
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commit. And it will change. This program is going to change the fucking world. But before it can change
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the world, it's got to change you. And by you changing you, you're not only changing you,
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you're changing the history of every single person that you will ever come in contact with.
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You're changing the history of your kids, the history of your family, the history of your friends and
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loved ones. You're changing your financial history, your physical history, your emotional
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history, your spiritual history. And all it costs you is 75 fucking days. Not only is it nothing,
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it's your obligation to follow through on this. All right. You guys are out there trying to spend
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programs on fucking masterminds and money programs and fitness programs and supplements and all this other
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shit before you're actually fixing the core issue. And the core issue is you have not developed these
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skills that I've mentioned in this podcast to the point where you can actually produce results in the
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other area of your life. If those skills were present, all the other shit would be working. This,
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you've all heard the saying, it's like putting the cart before the horse, your confidence, your
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self-esteem, your fortitude, your grit, all the shit, your belief, all those things, they're the
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horse. You guys are missing that point. You could put all you want in that fucking cart. You could put
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all the knowledge of success. You could put all the knowledge of fitness. You could put all the
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knowledge of healthy relationships. You could put all the shit, all the shit, everything you want in
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that cart. But guess what? It ain't moving without a horse to pull it. And those skills that I'm talking
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about that this program will cultivate, will cultivate. And by the way, it costs you nothing.
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Will cultivate are your horse. Most of you guys are out there putting fucking spinner rims on your
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motherfucking cart and stereos in your cart instead of watering your horse and feeding your horse or even
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getting a motherfucking horse for some people. Guys, I want you to know I've been there, man. I've been
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there. I've had a few wins. I've done a few cool things, but guys, I have been there and I ain't going
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back. And if you don't want to fucking be there anymore, commit to this program. You have everything
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to gain. Everything. And I think that's worth 75 days.