REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 29, 2017


How to Become Self-Aware And Unlock Your True Potential, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO169

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Andy Frisella
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Mark Bell
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14 minutes

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2,794

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In this episode of The Momfucking Ceeo Project, I talk about how you can become more successful in any area of your life by holding yourself accountable for the things you are trying to accomplish. I also talk about the importance of accountability on a micro level and why most people fail to achieve their goals.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
00:00:11.500 motherfucking ceo guys uh normally on tuesdays we have a much longer podcast uh that's going to be 0.56
00:00:19.820 you know typically an hour to sometimes even two hours long um and those are very helpful and i 0.97
00:00:26.420 get that and i know you guys enjoy those but i started thinking over the weekend you know what
00:00:31.620 would be the thing that would provide the most value to you in the shortest amount of time and
00:00:38.420 i started trying to think about you know some key phrases some key ideas and concepts that i've used
00:00:46.840 to you know work through the process of building something or becoming better becoming more
00:00:53.880 successful in any area um one of the things that that i wanted to talk about was something that
00:01:01.860 my friend mark bell and i talked about a little bit on our podcast that we did a couple weeks ago
00:01:07.060 but more so on the phone him and i had hopped on the phone over the weekend and we were talking
00:01:11.640 about uh different types of training and we were just kind of going back and forth and having some
00:01:19.000 good conversations um spoke for about an hour or so and one of the things that we we talked about was
00:01:28.940 the idea of holding yourself accountable okay a lot of people nowadays and entrepreneurs you follow
00:01:35.640 all these entrepreneur guys and you hear them say self-awareness and you go self-awareness self-awareness
00:01:41.420 self-awareness and they say that over and over again but how the fuck do you become self-aware
00:01:46.060 right how do you develop that skill is it something you're born with is it something that you 0.82
00:01:50.680 create is it something you can practice and him and i were talking and you know one thing that him
00:01:57.160 and i have both done over the course of our lives without really realizing it until we kind of
00:02:01.760 extrapolate it out by just talking to each other is something that's really simple and it's really
00:02:07.060 simple for me to teach you how to do this too okay we all have our goals we all have big desires we all
00:02:13.620 have the things we want that we want to accomplish but we also are realistic enough to understand that
00:02:19.900 these things take time there's a process to them there's a level of patience to them and there's a
00:02:25.820 level of accountability on a micro level on a day by day hour by hour level that most people just don't
00:02:33.800 fucking have which is why most people never achieve their goals so guys what i want to teach you is a 0.89
00:02:39.640 little phrase that i've used and a little phrase that mark has used to be very successful in all 0.98
00:02:45.320 areas of life and it's something that you say to yourself okay and this is about guys holding yourself
00:02:50.920 accountable it's about taking a step back and evaluating what you're doing on an action by
00:02:58.320 action basis not even a time basis like a day an hour i'm talking about every little action all right 1.00
00:03:04.900 and that's to do this and this is something that i want you to bury into your fucking brain 0.98
00:03:09.800 for the rest of your life and if you can do that you're gonna find that your success comes a lot more 0.99
00:03:16.180 quickly and a lot more easily for you and that's to do this when you're about to do something when
00:03:22.400 you're about to take an action you need to ask yourself how is this going to help me how is this going
00:03:28.940 to hurt me okay how is this action i'm about to take going to help me achieve whatever goal it is
00:03:36.400 i'm trying to accomplish okay if that's in business how is watching the walking dead for seven hours a
00:03:44.600 night that i just clicked it on netflix how is this going to help me get closer to my goal how is this
00:03:50.760 going to hurt me get closer to my goal okay it's not going to help me a b it's going to hurt me because
00:03:57.080 this is time i could be spending on personal development reading watching youtube videos
00:04:01.720 learning new skills to be successful or working on my business okay and if you learn let's say you're
00:04:08.520 on a diet you know how is this uh extra handful of uh raisins going to help me is it going to is it
00:04:16.660 going to help me is it going to make me more healthy is it going to help me lose weight is it
00:04:19.680 going to help me be in a better spot than i am today tomorrow or is it going to put me out of you
00:04:25.000 know my caloric intake range is it going to you know be too much sugar for what i'm trying to do
00:04:29.820 how is it going to keep me from getting where i want to go all right and and all these little things
00:04:34.680 guys that people do basically mindlessly are what ultimately costs them their big dreams okay because 0.98
00:04:42.400 your big dreams aren't built one in one day you don't just wake up one day and have a huge fucking 0.99
00:04:48.680 bank account and wake up one day and you're ripped and and jacked and tan and juicy as fuck it doesn't 0.99
00:04:54.520 happen okay it's little processes along the way and to control those little processes one of the 0.99
00:05:00.880 ways that you can become self-aware is to step back and coach yourself by asking yourself how is this
00:05:07.780 going to help me and how is this going to hurt me before every little action all right if you're if 0.79
00:05:14.440 you're on a diet program and all your friends are going out to fucking eat you go out to eat and you're 0.95
00:05:19.220 about to order at the menu how does this how does this decision help me how does it hurt me and do 0.98
00:05:24.720 that on a micro level do it on a level that is consistent on an action by action basis and if you
00:05:30.900 can put that into your brain and actually question yourself before you make these decisions guys it's
00:05:36.760 going to be a lot easier and a lot more effective for you to follow through on what the actions need to
00:05:41.300 be for you to hit your goals okay so that's the first thing how can this help me how can this hurt me
00:05:47.100 the second thing that i want to give you guys is a phrase that is very very helpful
00:05:53.400 to removing doubt in your goals okay and this is something that's very important all of us set
00:06:01.740 these big goals all of us set these huge goals that we want to achieve all of us are trying to do 0.97
00:06:06.200 these big things but we tell ourselves shit like this man one day i'm going to be a millionaire or one 0.97
00:06:14.440 day i'm going to make five hundred thousand dollars or one day i'm going to make ten million dollars 0.95
00:06:18.720 and we set these big goals one day i'm going to own a lamborghini one day i'm going to be
00:06:23.200 financially free whatever the fuck that means for you okay and we set these big giant goals but then 0.89
00:06:29.100 what we do is in our brain we tell ourselves this all right we say man i wonder if i'm going to
00:06:37.400 actually ever hit that be a millionaire or i wonder if i'm actually ever going to be that guy
00:06:41.600 who drives a lamborghini or i wonder if i'm actually ever going to be that guy that's
00:06:45.380 financially free and not having to worry about his bills or i wonder if i'm ever going to be a guy who
00:06:49.980 owns uh you know a 20 million dollar company or whatever your goal is or i wonder if i'm actually
00:06:55.300 going to hit my my 50 pound weight loss goal and we start questioning ourselves guys and there's a
00:07:00.740 problem with that because when we start questioning ourselves we're instilling doubt in our brains and
00:07:07.580 especially in our subconscious that is keeping us from going full force towards the goal all right
00:07:14.960 is it easier to go towards a goal that you know 100 you're going to achieve and pour all your energy
00:07:21.000 into it or is it easier for you to pull back and not put all your energy into it and all your resources
00:07:27.460 and all your time and all your knowledge because you think it might not happen because there's a
00:07:32.240 slight doubt in your brain okay do you understand what i'm saying because big goals guys they take big
00:07:36.660 energy it takes all your effort it takes all your your thought all your focus all your time and for
00:07:43.520 you to go all in you've got to be able to remove the doubt and so guys i want to i want to teach you
00:07:48.700 something that i learned along the road um that really helped me remove the doubt from my goals and
00:07:54.800 you guys have heard me if you've listened to the podcast in the past you know that i 1000 know that
00:08:01.060 we're going to build a multi-billion dollar brand out of first form i 1000 know that i'm going to be
00:08:07.220 a billionaire one day it's not a question i don't doubt it and i'm going to teach you how to not doubt
00:08:13.520 your goals either okay this is how i do this in a company with what i do on my daily critical task
00:08:21.520 which if you haven't listened to uh win the day episode 107 of this podcast you need to go listen
00:08:27.200 to that and start practicing what we talk about there but in addition to the critical tasks i
00:08:31.960 perform a day i also perform a critical mental task whenever i think about the big goals that i have
00:08:37.940 and that is what i do is i i don't doubt myself by saying man i wonder if i'm actually going to be able
00:08:45.720 to build a billion dollar company or i wonder if i'm actually going to ever make a billion dollars or i
00:08:50.400 wonder if i'm ever actually going to you know get down to 245 pounds which is my goal that's not what
00:08:55.760 i say to myself my internal dialogue is not that way my internal dialogue goes like this i am in the
00:09:02.620 process of becoming a billionaire i am in the process of building a multi-billion dollar company 0.91
00:09:09.360 i am in the process of getting my shit together and looking like the fucking rock i'm already doing 0.97
00:09:16.280 what it takes on a daily basis so think about your goals right now as i'm saying this whatever 0.96
00:09:20.860 your big goals are and instead of saying i wonder if i'm going to achieve them say i'm in the process
00:09:25.840 of achieving them and see how much better that feels to you okay it's going to remove the doubt
00:09:30.820 it's going to put yourself in a position where you're able to push all your resources onto the
00:09:36.400 fucking table which is what it's going to take for you to achieve these big goals so it's not just a 0.96
00:09:41.880 mental you know mind game that i'm trying to you know tell you guys to trick on yourself i'm trying 0.99
00:09:47.780 to let yourself teach you guys how to let yourself go all in without hesitation all right i'm teaching
00:09:54.360 you how to really truly believe in yourself and guys it's extremely important because if you don't
00:10:01.060 have true confident belief in your goals and i mean from your heart and we're i'm not even going to
00:10:07.540 get into the metaphysical and quantum physical law of attraction you know aspects of this conversation
00:10:12.460 i'm going to talk about the actual actionable aspects to what i'm talking about if you don't
00:10:19.100 believe in your heart you're always going to hold some chips off the table you're always going to hold
00:10:24.240 back your true potential you're always going to hold back what you could truly give and guys when you
00:10:29.120 hold back what you could truly give you're not going to get what you could truly get and that's the
00:10:34.040 problem so stop wondering if and start telling yourself you're in the process of and then use
00:10:41.100 the daily critical task to make sure that you actually are in the process of you know so guys
00:10:46.540 those are two phrases that i think can really help you guys free up some of your positive energy and focus
00:10:53.780 and get yourself on the right track all right don't you know don't sit there and doubt yourself and think
00:11:00.280 about all the things that you're doing ask yourself simple questions tell yourself simple statements
00:11:05.580 how is this action right now whatever it is you're doing is your action helping you towards your goal 1.00
00:11:12.500 or is it hurting you okay when you're about to put a big old pile of fucking french fries in your mouth 0.98
00:11:17.560 is it helping you or is it hurting you when you're about to pick up the phone and make that call that you 0.98
00:11:22.000 don't really want to make is it helping you or is it hurting you when you're about to go do cardio and you
00:11:26.960 really don't feel like doing it is that going to help you or is that going to hurt you you know when
00:11:30.960 you're about to read that extra chapter in the book tonight instead of watch the walking dead is that
00:11:35.880 helping you or is that hurting you and if you can learn to ask yourself on an action by action basis
00:11:41.520 you develop awareness of what you're doing and when you develop awareness of what you're doing
00:11:46.880 you get into the process of executing on the right actions and guys the second part is you stop doubting
00:11:54.040 yourself if you're following through on the first part and then you're following through on what we
00:11:58.200 talk about in episode 107 you can follow through you are you could tell yourself that you are in the
00:12:05.260 process of because you are in the process of you are executing on the daily critical tasks you are doing
00:12:12.220 the things that it takes more often than not that are going to help you versus hurt you towards your goal
00:12:17.940 and if you're doing those things that's what matters that's what's going to get you where you want to go
00:12:23.240 that means you are actually in the process of becoming whatever it is you want to become just
00:12:29.140 because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it's not going to happen and you guys have to let yourself
00:12:34.120 off the hook with the doubt so that you could truly believe and so that you could truly go in
00:12:38.260 on all in on all your resources in order to achieve your goals so guys that's my two points i wanted to
00:12:44.220 share with you i know it's a shorter podcast it's not generally a uh motivation thursday thunder type
00:12:52.120 podcast it's a very practical couple things here um and guys i want you guys to understand that you
00:12:58.520 know being successful although it seems uh really fucking hard it's really not complicated man it might 0.66
00:13:05.100 take some effort it might take consistency it might take time but the formula is very simple all right
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