How Millionaires Create Mental Toughness Through Adversity in Business, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO168
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about a recent motorcycle accident that happened to one of my good friends, Cole Wright. Cole was in a motorcycle accident last night and is now recovering in the ICU at St louis University Hospital.
Transcript
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what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host
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and i am the motherfucking ceo uh guys today um i've got a little bit of a story that's kind of
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going on right here with our company uh and one of the guys in our company i want to share with
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you guys um a lot of you guys have seen on my facebook uh and my instagram that one of our
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guys cole wright was in a real bad motorcycle accident last night um broke his pelvis broke
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some bones and his spine uh has a lot of internal injuries um he's in intensive care here at st
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louis university hospital um he's gonna live and and luckily it looks like he's not going to be
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paralyzed or anything like that he's going to be on crutches uh and have to go through a lot of
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physical therapy for the next year um but i spoke to cole this morning via text and he said something
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to me once i text him i said hey man how's everything going uh you know how you hanging in there and he's
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like i'm great i really appreciate the text like really enthusiastically and what that got me
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thinking about guys and what i what i told him uh we talked back and forth for a minute but i told him
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you know that as much as this sucks um you know these kind of things that happen to you these very
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extremely extreme uh situations that that are very hard to overcome these big obstacles
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these things end up being some of the best things that happen to you and i told him i said i don't
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expect you to see that today but through his recovery and through his work and through his coming back from
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that he's going to have created a story that is going to inspire and encourage people
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to overcome their own obstacles whatever those might be and i'm a real firm believer that you're
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not going to find one really successful person out there that doesn't have a real story of overcoming
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obstacles because just like in the weight room without resistance you can't grow you know your muscles are
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not going to grow without weight resistance your your uh mental uh fortitude and strength and ability
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and skills are not going to grow without resistance and that's why every single person you meet
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who is very successful athlete or a very successful business guy or whatever they have a story of
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overcoming extreme obstacles okay it's not because they're making them up it's because those obstacles
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are what eventually help determine and develop and uh you know create the skills and the fortitude
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and the persistence that's needed to succeed and you know in a lot of ways as bad as this is for cole
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right now it really is going to be a big blessing because he has a long road ahead of him and here's
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the thing about cole's recovery that he doesn't understand yet is that there's going to be days where he
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doesn't feel like doing rehab like right now everybody's cheering him on and they're saying yeah cole we're
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praying for you we're pulling for you you know let's get well soon and he feels good just like
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any of us would but once that fades out and it will fade out you know he's going to have to deal with
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the step by step by step recovery process and that's going to be a very lonely road it's going to be a
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tough road and there's going to be days where cole doesn't want to get out of bed to go to physical
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therapy he doesn't want to go do the work that needs to be done and as positive as a guy of a guy
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as he is i know there's going to come times where he doesn't want to do it but here's the thing and
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this is what's great about situations like this he doesn't have a fucking choice okay he doesn't have
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a choice but to go through the rehab he doesn't have a choice but to work through the pain he doesn't
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have a choice but to try to overcome all the little obstacles that he's going to have to overcome over
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the next 12 months he doesn't have a fucking choice and that's where people that succeed in
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life whether it be financially or any other area but this is an entrepreneurial podcast so primarily
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we're talking about financial success successful people don't give them give themselves a choice but
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to succeed they look at it very parallel as if they were somebody who was recovering from a
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significant injury or obstacle that had to do the work and that's what cole is going to learn through
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this process now cole's a very determined guy he's a very tough guy he's a very strong guy and he's a
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great guy here at the company but it's going to develop his mental acuity and his ability to
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persevere and his ability to fucking have grit to the point where the other things that come through
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his life are going to be that much easier and guys when you're working as an entrepreneur and you're
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working as a business person and you're financially driven and you want to succeed you guys have to
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get to the point where you're not giving yourself a choice it is i am going to fucking succeed no
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matter what i have to do no matter how hard it is no matter how difficult the road no matter how many
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obstacles stand in my way no matter how many people stand in my way no matter what on the days i don't
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feel like it guess what i'm still getting up i'm still putting my fucking work boots on and i'm still
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going out and kicking fucking ass that's what people who succeed do and a lot of times these people who
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succeed in life develop this ability to persevere and put their backs against the wall and give
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themselves no other options you know go back and listen to zero option mentality but to succeed
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by choice you know there's two ways to fucking have a zero option mentality there's one way you
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could be injured like cole is and literally not have a choice your choice is to either get better
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or fucking be in a wheelchair or be handicapped or be physically uh you know uh disabled for the rest of
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your life which i know he's not going to do so he doesn't have a fucking choice but in success
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people who are extremely driven extremely successful and extremely um well accomplished they have the
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ability to mentally flip that switch to where they don't have a choice but to do the things they need
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to do if you talk to them it will sound really fucking weird okay because they'll talk as if they don't
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have a choice they will talk as if they don't succeed the world is going to fucking end and they
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have they have conditioned themselves to believe this as fact okay they think that if they don't
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succeed their world will end and you know what their world will end because that's how much fucking
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pride and how much focus and how much intensity and how much drive and how much value they put on success
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to where if they don't get to where they want to go their life will have been a waste and guys i'm telling
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you right now success is hard being successful is very very hard it takes every fucking bit of your focus
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every bit of your energy every bit of your concentration every single bit of your fucking soul
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is required to get where you want to go and that's why in this situation that i'm talking about with my
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friend cole i'm actually really thankful because this fucking situation that he's dealing with
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which seems like it's going to be terrible is actually going to end up being the best thing that ever
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happens to him and guys you guys if you could develop the perspective of your obstacles actually
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being a workout for your brain for your fortitude for your intensity for your ability to persevere
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and see them as a benefit as opposed to seeing them as some negativity or an obstacle or some sort of
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thing that's holding you back how much more positive would you feel about your journey how much more
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positive would you feel if every time someone stood in your way or every time a situation didn't work
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out you didn't look at it as like oh shit man this situation sucks blah blah blah no you say you
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know what this is great because i have an opportunity to grow i have an opportunity to get stronger i have
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an opportunity to get better that my competitors and the people that i'm going to be competing against
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my entire fucking life don't have which puts me in an extreme advantage
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how valuable is that mindset how much happier would you be how much stronger would you be how much more
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impactful would you be to the people around you with that level of thinking guys your obstacles are
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not obstacles your obstacles are tools for you to use for you to get stronger whether it be mentally
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physically psychologically it doesn't matter emotionally your obstacles are there to teach you
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they're there to mold you they're there to forge you into a fucking machine but unfortunately most people
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don't look at obstacles that way they look at obstacles as this negative thing life hates me
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the universe hates me god hates me i'm unlucky i'm i'm the worst that there is bad things only happen
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to me and that's because you're choosing to see things the wrong way you're choosing to pick the
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perspective of you're a victim as opposed being a fucking battle hardened motherfucking warrior that is
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going to kick ass and you are so thankful for these obstacles that they are going to make you stronger
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more effective and more successful over the course of your life i challenge you guys to see your
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obstacles as a great thing i challenge you guys to see your problems as a great thing i challenge you
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guys to quit being victims and fucking pussies and whiny little crybabies about every bad thing that
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happens to you and start being thankful that you have the opportunity to grow get stronger get more
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focused get more skilled and kick more ass because of every hardship you face