How to Know When You've "Made" It, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO184
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In this episode of the Motherfucking Ceo Project, Andy and I discuss the importance of early education in our society and why it's so important that we teach our children early values. We also talk about why Andy is writing a children's book series called "The Hardworking Tales" and why he thinks parents need to start teaching their kids early about what it takes to be successful.
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what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am
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the motherfucking ceo guys today is thursday thunder you know what that means but before
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we get into it we've got a little bit of housekeeping we have got a ton of testimonials
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sent in for the testimonial contest i just want to say thank you guys i appreciate it we are going
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to close the contest out on october 31st so if you haven't sent in your one minute video uh
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that what we're looking for is a one minute video testimonial of how the content on the podcast has
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changed your life for the better how it affects your perspective how it's affected your results
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what kind of progress you've seen and we need that one minute video an email the video or the link
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to testimonials at the mfceo.com again october 31st is the deadline um guys i haven't said this in a
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while but i want to bring it back up you know we don't charge for this it's something we do for
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free i dedicate a lot of time to it and uh you know tyler and vaughn and and the guys involved in
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producing this they don't work for free so i do this because i want to make a difference i do this
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because i care i do this because i have a problem with the way that people are educated in our system
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here in the united states and you know probably all over the world to believe that they are special
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that the world loves them that they're destined to be you know successful and they don't have to do
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anything and they're just special little snowflakes and what happens is is you know people grow up
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thinking this because this is what they hear and this is what what they teach at school and they teach
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that everything is fair and everything always works out and then you know you get out of school you get
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into the real world and the real world stomps on your fucking throat and i see it all day long
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because i have employees that are of that age a lot of them i deal with a lot of young men and women
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who are brought up in this system they come into the real world and quite honestly they have no
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fucking clue by no fault of their own about what it really takes to be successful and so the real
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education starts and why i do this is because i want that education to start a little bit earlier i want
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people to grasp the concepts of what it's going to take to be successful earlier than the first time
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they get stepped on you know when they're out in the real world okay that's why i do this and in
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return for the thousands of hours that i've put out there guys i would ask that you refer a friend
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if you have a like-minded friend if you have somebody who uh you think would be down with this type
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of information who would be affected positively by this type of information all i ask is that you
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tell them about it send them a link send them uh you know tag them in a post uh refer them to the
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podcast okay this is a movement this is something i'm trying to grow uh not for financial gain but for
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the betterment of society and that's also why i write children's books you know a lot of people ask
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andy why don't you write an adult book i'll buy it blah blah blah well here's the deal
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by the time you're reading in a quote-unquote adult book you've been ingrained with 20 years
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of bullshit and my idea with the book for children initially came from my frustration of having to fly
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around the country and speak to people about the way things really are and then have them walk out
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the door and do the same fucking shit they were doing the day before that i get tired of that i
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don't like that the biggest way you can repay me is by building something out of yourself all right
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so when we were flying back from after my fucking 500 speaking engagement where i was literally pissed
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off about how people you know get real happy and excited about it while you're speaking but then they
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go out and don't do shit the idea came to me that we needed to address the problem a little bit
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earlier we needed to help parents who may not understand how to teach their children the proper
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values to be successful we need to give them a tool we need to create something for them so that
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they could start that process early and i felt like that while it might be cool to write a new york
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times bestseller and it might be cool to to work the book circuit and it might be cool to say hey
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i've got i wrote these books for adults but the reality is it's not going to make the difference
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that this is going to make and that's why i do it so guys um the amazon the the books uh
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the otis and charlie's hardworking tale series books we just launched the second book it's available
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on amazon um it's called uh play to win and obviously you know you know the theme but if you're a
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parent who has uh you know the the desire for their kids to have a tremendous advantage over
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the other people that they're going to grow up with this is a great place to start if you're a
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parent who wants to teach their kids the right things but isn't sure how to go about it this is
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the tool for you all right that's why we wrote these we wrote this with that thought in mind we want
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to help you guys fix the problem before it becomes a fucking problem so check it out it's on amazon
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right now uh it's in pre-order stage right now so they don't have the books they aren't shipping but
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if you order the book it will ship as soon as possible all right with that being said guys um
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you know in the the journey of becoming successful people have um multiple stages that they go through
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they have stages of uncertainty they have stages of fear they have stages of um you know confidence
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they have stages of their inflated ego where they think they're better than they are
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uh they have stages where the world humbles them and they realize that they aren't as good as they
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thought they were these are all things that we all go through we all go through times like this all
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of us you know and while you may be listening and you may be in that phase of i'm not sure what i'm
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doing or i feel like a fraud or i feel like i'm trying to figure it out and somebody else has the
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answer realize that nobody has the fucking answer realize that all of us are in the same boat
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all of us are uncertain all of us really don't know what the fuck we're doing the difference
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between people who are doing things and and that appear to be successful and you if you're feeling
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this way is the fact that they execute and you're not okay i know some very successful business people
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who are not very smart they're just not i was just talking about this with my brother this morning
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i know many many people who just aren't very smart but what they do is they do the x's and o's
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they they they take care of doing the things that need to be done they make the calls they make the
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emails they show up okay and a lot of you guys think there's some sort of magic to success because when
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you don't have success and you're in the beginning or you're in the first few years you have this
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mentality that there's something that everybody else has that you don't and we all go through that
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phase we all know what that feels like we all know what it's like to be uncertain and to think that you
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know the other guy has this advantage that we don't have the only advantage that the other guy has
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is that he's doing it and you're not all right and once you figure that out things are going to start
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to happen all right and so we move into that middle phase where things are starting to happen
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we're gaining some confidence we're we're doing some good shit we might be making some money
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all right and then we're actually taking real data and we're analyzing it and we're learning how to
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replicate and grow all right and we go through that phase as well and that might that doesn't you don't
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have to own a company to go through this this can be you're in a company all right you figured out
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how to be valuable you figured out how to get a couple pay raises you figured out how to get some
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promotions and you know then then you move into the third phase and third phase is this
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you think you're the shit you think you're irreplaceable you think your company is the
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fucking best you think you know everything okay and you do have some things to look at and say yeah
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I did that yeah I grew that yeah I got those raises yeah I got those promotions but here's the problem
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when you get to that mentality you stop learning okay this is the biggest problem that I see with
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business owners and people in general they believe their own headlines they see themselves as the
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superhero dude who's figured shit out and they don't continue to do the things that got them to that
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place in the first place okay and what you have to realize guys is that in the big scheme of things
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in the big end-all be-all scheme of things you're not that fucking important you're not that great
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you just like every other seven billion people on this earth are going to die
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we have to remember that that no matter what we do no matter what successes we have no matter how
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much money we make no matter how many people we help no matter how big the impact there's always
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more work to do we can always get better we can always do more
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you can always reinvent yourself into a more effective and efficient being but when you're
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sitting on your high horse and thinking you're the shit and thinking you're amazing and thinking
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you're great you are asking for the world to knock the shit out of you you're asking the world to take
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away all your success you are asking the world to humble you okay success to me like I say many many
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times is about the pursuit of fulfillment of one's true potential we're constantly progressing we're
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constantly evolving we're constantly learning new skills and making new connections with people our
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potential is always expanding and that means it's literally impossible to fulfill our potential so
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since we can't fulfill our potential we have to dedicate to the pursuit of fulfillment and if you guys
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understand that and understand that you will never be as great as you possibly can be because you
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will constantly be measuring yourself on a moving scale and you decide to dedicate yourself to a
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process that ultimately has no real end now you have developed the mindset of a champion
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real champions on this earth they may only have a dozen moments in their entire life where they sit back
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and observe their accomplishments and feel proud they understand that the real pride that you're going to
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experience in your whole entire life is the internal commitment that you have made to be the best version of
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yourself we live in an era of instant gratification and internet champions and and this mindset that I'm
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talking about guys is so fucking rare because nobody is willing to commit to something that a they don't
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understand and b that they can't fucking win you see people all the time they're celebrating these
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minor successes they're celebrating these little victories they got a promotion they got a pay raise
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they hit x amount of dollars in sales the company grew 20 percent the company hit a million dollars in
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sales the company hit 10 million dollars in sales and what do you see you see these people celebrating
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like they just conquered the fucking earth they're going out they're partying they they have this big
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celebration they think they're awesome and they go on holding on to this little bitty victory that is very
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insignificant as if it's going to carry them their entire lives and that's the problem guys that's where most
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people fail that's where most people fuck up they don't understand that this journey never ends they
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think that once they hit where their goal is once they buy that car once they buy that house once they
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make x amount of money once they hit x amount of sales they think they've made it they think that they
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can sit on the beach like a fucking corona commercial kick their feet up and celebrate their victory
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and let me tell you something guys you just can't do it that's the quickest way to get your ass beat
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that i can possibly think of you're always going to have people chasing you success is a sliding scale
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you're always going to have competition that's working to take what you have and put it in their
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trophy case you're never going to have this situation where you quote unquote made it
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i think that's the biggest fallacy in the whole mentality of success that there is there is no i made it
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i don't celebrate people in my own office don't understand that concept people in my own office
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they celebrate shit and they understand that you know these things are significant they can't
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understand why i don't celebrate i don't celebrate because i don't consider myself successful i know
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that our potential as a company and my potential as a human is not even fucking scratched
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i'm not sitting at the bar or having a dinner or having a party celebrating how great i am
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for building a company that's going to do 165 million dollars this year from nothing i don't think that's
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great we should be doing three billion dollars in sales right now okay i don't look at the thousands
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of people that our company has helped and think oh man we're doing a really good job i say dude why
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i see you guys celebrating for things that aren't worth celebrating and you have to be very careful
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are you at the proper point where you should be celebrating or are you hanging on to victories
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and thinking you're the greatest and thinking you're more significant than you are and more
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valuable than you are and you're losing your edge to someone else is someone else celebrating the same
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shit you're celebrating is your main competition going to be so happy that when they hit where you are
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that they quit working you better fucking hope they do if you're out celebrating but i bet you they don't
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there's that saying and i don't know who said it but you should work work every day like somebody's
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working 24 hours a day to take it away from you and that is one of the truest sayings of success
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because there's somebody that is there is a company out there that's trying to take what you built
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there are people out there trying to take your fucking job that's reality we don't live in a situation
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or a society or an economy that allows for you to celebrate and be happy and and think you're the greatest
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if you're not working to get better on a daily basis if you're not pursuing the fulfillment of your own
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true potential you are losing there is no maintaining you can't stay where you are you're either getting
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better or you're getting fucking passed by people who are that's the reality of life that's the reality of business
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that's the reality of entrepreneurship every time you kick back and you think you're the greatest and
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you think you're the shit and you think you're the best at what you do there is somebody that's one inch
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behind you that gets better than you that's the championship mentality that's why somebody like
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jerry rice was the greatest receiver of all time in the nfl you know why because he worked as if he was
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still trying to make the fucking team every day
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and you'll notice that with any great champion i could name them all michael jordan kobe bryant
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whoever you want to name those guys weren't just champions they weren't born that way they worked
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harder than anybody else when they won a nba championship or they won a super bowl sure they took
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one day to celebrate and guess what they did the day after they got to fucking work
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and that's one of the biggest differences i see between champions people who make a lot of money people
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who are very successful people who work their way up the corporate ladder who create executive
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positions and make lots of money people who create amazing companies people who are amazing athletes
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that's the biggest difference i see between them and everybody else they don't fucking hang on to
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celebrations they don't let small victories carry them they don't fall under the delusional mentality
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that small victories will carry them because they won't and if you want to be the guy who's caught up
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on what they did 20 years ago in the homecoming football game and live your whole life drinking a
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fucking beer sitting on your cooler in your fucking driveway that's fine this shit here this podcast here
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we're for improving we're for getting better we're for celebrating for a minute and then getting back
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if you're down with that mentality you will have no problem in life but don't let your peers don't let
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your friends don't let your co-workers convince you that you should be celebrating this fucking huge
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celebration every time you get a little victory
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i think that's the problem with the whole mentality of this society whether it be fitness whether it be
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business whether it be anything people did one fucking good thing and they think they won
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and for every minute that you think you won you're getting your ass kicked you just don't see it yet
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stop thinking you're more significant than you are have the confidence i'm not saying have no
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confidence have confidence to do your job have confidence that it can be done because i can promise
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you if you're listening to this you have what it takes i'm not saying that what i'm saying is
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realize that a you're going to die b you're insignificant
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and see if you want to continue to get better you better remember that shit
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celebrate little things temporarily but don't let them fucking carry you to the land of wasted potential
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