REAL AF with Andy Frisella


How to Know When You've "Made" It, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO184


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In this episode of the Motherfucking Ceo Project, Andy and I discuss the importance of early education in our society and why it's so important that we teach our children early values. We also talk about why Andy is writing a children's book series called "The Hardworking Tales" and why he thinks parents need to start teaching their kids early about what it takes to be successful.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am 0.84
00:00:14.060 the motherfucking ceo guys today is thursday thunder you know what that means but before 0.58
00:00:19.240 we get into it we've got a little bit of housekeeping we have got a ton of testimonials 0.97
00:00:26.240 sent in for the testimonial contest i just want to say thank you guys i appreciate it we are going
00:00:31.620 to close the contest out on october 31st so if you haven't sent in your one minute video uh
00:00:39.280 testimonial to testimonials at the mfceo.com that's testimonials at the mfceo.com now is the time to do
00:00:50.440 that what we're looking for is a one minute video testimonial of how the content on the podcast has
00:00:58.040 changed your life for the better how it affects your perspective how it's affected your results
00:01:02.960 what kind of progress you've seen and we need that one minute video an email the video or the link
00:01:09.180 to testimonials at the mfceo.com again october 31st is the deadline um guys i haven't said this in a
00:01:19.860 while but i want to bring it back up you know we don't charge for this it's something we do for
00:01:24.160 free i dedicate a lot of time to it and uh you know tyler and vaughn and and the guys involved in
00:01:31.040 producing this they don't work for free so i do this because i want to make a difference i do this
00:01:36.960 because i care i do this because i have a problem with the way that people are educated in our system
00:01:45.020 here in the united states and you know probably all over the world to believe that they are special
00:01:51.380 that the world loves them that they're destined to be you know successful and they don't have to do
00:01:58.480 anything and they're just special little snowflakes and what happens is is you know people grow up
00:02:05.360 thinking this because this is what they hear and this is what what they teach at school and they teach
00:02:09.680 that everything is fair and everything always works out and then you know you get out of school you get 0.99
00:02:14.680 into the real world and the real world stomps on your fucking throat and i see it all day long 0.99
00:02:20.140 because i have employees that are of that age a lot of them i deal with a lot of young men and women 0.99
00:02:25.380 who are brought up in this system they come into the real world and quite honestly they have no
00:02:31.100 fucking clue by no fault of their own about what it really takes to be successful and so the real 0.83
00:02:38.540 education starts and why i do this is because i want that education to start a little bit earlier i want 0.98
00:02:43.700 people to grasp the concepts of what it's going to take to be successful earlier than the first time
00:02:51.660 they get stepped on you know when they're out in the real world okay that's why i do this and in
00:02:57.040 return for the thousands of hours that i've put out there guys i would ask that you refer a friend
00:03:02.260 if you have a like-minded friend if you have somebody who uh you think would be down with this type
00:03:08.200 of information who would be affected positively by this type of information all i ask is that you
00:03:15.760 tell them about it send them a link send them uh you know tag them in a post uh refer them to the
00:03:22.580 podcast okay this is a movement this is something i'm trying to grow uh not for financial gain but for
00:03:30.460 the betterment of society and that's also why i write children's books you know a lot of people ask
00:03:36.260 andy why don't you write an adult book i'll buy it blah blah blah well here's the deal
00:03:40.280 by the time you're reading in a quote-unquote adult book you've been ingrained with 20 years 0.94
00:03:47.560 of bullshit and my idea with the book for children initially came from my frustration of having to fly
00:03:57.140 around the country and speak to people about the way things really are and then have them walk out 0.99
00:04:04.360 the door and do the same fucking shit they were doing the day before that i get tired of that i 0.99
00:04:09.260 don't like that the biggest way you can repay me is by building something out of yourself all right 0.99
00:04:14.420 so when we were flying back from after my fucking 500 speaking engagement where i was literally pissed 0.94
00:04:21.280 off about how people you know get real happy and excited about it while you're speaking but then they 0.98
00:04:26.520 go out and don't do shit the idea came to me that we needed to address the problem a little bit 0.60
00:04:31.460 earlier we needed to help parents who may not understand how to teach their children the proper 0.99
00:04:41.620 values to be successful we need to give them a tool we need to create something for them so that
00:04:47.880 they could start that process early and i felt like that while it might be cool to write a new york
00:04:54.640 times bestseller and it might be cool to to work the book circuit and it might be cool to say hey
00:04:59.840 i've got i wrote these books for adults but the reality is it's not going to make the difference
00:05:04.800 that this is going to make and that's why i do it so guys um the amazon the the books uh
00:05:10.860 the otis and charlie's hardworking tale series books we just launched the second book it's available
00:05:16.720 on amazon um it's called uh play to win and obviously you know you know the theme but if you're a
00:05:25.000 parent who has uh you know the the desire for their kids to have a tremendous advantage over
00:05:32.920 the other people that they're going to grow up with this is a great place to start if you're a
00:05:37.880 parent who wants to teach their kids the right things but isn't sure how to go about it this is
00:05:43.000 the tool for you all right that's why we wrote these we wrote this with that thought in mind we want
00:05:49.140 to help you guys fix the problem before it becomes a fucking problem so check it out it's on amazon 0.92
00:05:55.820 right now uh it's in pre-order stage right now so they don't have the books they aren't shipping but 0.62
00:06:01.320 if you order the book it will ship as soon as possible all right with that being said guys um
00:06:08.340 you know in the the journey of becoming successful people have um multiple stages that they go through
00:06:24.700 they have stages of uncertainty they have stages of fear they have stages of um you know confidence
00:06:31.740 they have stages of their inflated ego where they think they're better than they are
00:06:36.680 uh they have stages where the world humbles them and they realize that they aren't as good as they
00:06:41.360 thought they were these are all things that we all go through we all go through times like this all
00:06:47.060 of us you know and while you may be listening and you may be in that phase of i'm not sure what i'm
00:06:53.800 doing or i feel like a fraud or i feel like i'm trying to figure it out and somebody else has the
00:06:59.480 answer realize that nobody has the fucking answer realize that all of us are in the same boat 0.93
00:07:06.280 all of us are uncertain all of us really don't know what the fuck we're doing the difference 0.97
00:07:12.020 between people who are doing things and and that appear to be successful and you if you're feeling
00:07:19.340 this way is the fact that they execute and you're not okay i know some very successful business people
00:07:26.680 who are not very smart they're just not i was just talking about this with my brother this morning
00:07:33.900 i know many many people who just aren't very smart but what they do is they do the x's and o's
00:07:40.580 they they they take care of doing the things that need to be done they make the calls they make the
00:07:46.820 emails they show up okay and a lot of you guys think there's some sort of magic to success because when
00:07:53.860 you don't have success and you're in the beginning or you're in the first few years you have this
00:07:59.860 mentality that there's something that everybody else has that you don't and we all go through that
00:08:06.240 phase we all know what that feels like we all know what it's like to be uncertain and to think that you
00:08:12.020 know the other guy has this advantage that we don't have the only advantage that the other guy has
00:08:16.040 is that he's doing it and you're not all right and once you figure that out things are going to start
00:08:21.380 to happen all right and so we move into that middle phase where things are starting to happen
00:08:25.780 we're gaining some confidence we're we're doing some good shit we might be making some money
00:08:30.440 all right and then we're actually taking real data and we're analyzing it and we're learning how to
00:08:35.800 replicate and grow all right and we go through that phase as well and that might that doesn't you don't
00:08:40.120 have to own a company to go through this this can be you're in a company all right you figured out
00:08:46.040 how to be valuable you figured out how to get a couple pay raises you figured out how to get some
00:08:50.120 promotions and you know then then you move into the third phase and third phase is this 0.99
00:08:55.260 you think you're the shit you think you're irreplaceable you think your company is the 0.99
00:09:01.380 fucking best you think you know everything okay and you do have some things to look at and say yeah 1.00
00:09:09.520 I did that yeah I grew that yeah I got those raises yeah I got those promotions but here's the problem 0.99
00:09:15.320 when you get to that mentality you stop learning okay this is the biggest problem that I see with
00:09:22.280 business owners and people in general they believe their own headlines they see themselves as the
00:09:29.880 superhero dude who's figured shit out and they don't continue to do the things that got them to that 0.52
00:09:37.500 place in the first place okay and what you have to realize guys is that in the big scheme of things 0.97
00:09:44.860 in the big end-all be-all scheme of things you're not that fucking important you're not that great 0.93
00:09:53.080 you're not the best 0.99
00:09:56.240 you just like every other seven billion people on this earth are going to die 1.00
00:10:05.580 you're a speck of dust I'm a speck of dust 0.98
00:10:12.200 we have to remember that that no matter what we do no matter what successes we have no matter how
00:10:22.940 much money we make no matter how many people we help no matter how big the impact there's always
00:10:30.200 more work to do we can always get better we can always do more
00:10:36.840 you can always reinvent yourself into a more effective and efficient being but when you're 1.00
00:10:46.900 sitting on your high horse and thinking you're the shit and thinking you're amazing and thinking 1.00
00:10:53.320 you're great you are asking for the world to knock the shit out of you you're asking the world to take 1.00
00:11:02.240 away all your success you are asking the world to humble you okay success to me like I say many many 0.96
00:11:11.740 times is about the pursuit of fulfillment of one's true potential we're constantly progressing we're
00:11:21.120 constantly evolving we're constantly learning new skills and making new connections with people our
00:11:27.900 potential is always expanding and that means it's literally impossible to fulfill our potential so
00:11:34.980 since we can't fulfill our potential we have to dedicate to the pursuit of fulfillment and if you guys
00:11:43.780 understand that and understand that you will never be as great as you possibly can be because you
00:11:49.960 will constantly be measuring yourself on a moving scale and you decide to dedicate yourself to a
00:11:57.500 process that ultimately has no real end now you have developed the mindset of a champion
00:12:07.900 real champions on this earth they may only have a dozen moments in their entire life where they sit back
00:12:16.480 and observe their accomplishments and feel proud they understand that the real pride that you're going to
00:12:24.720 experience in your whole entire life is the internal commitment that you have made to be the best version of
00:12:32.580 yourself we live in an era of instant gratification and internet champions and and this mindset that I'm
00:12:39.240 talking about guys is so fucking rare because nobody is willing to commit to something that a they don't 1.00
00:12:46.960 understand and b that they can't fucking win you see people all the time they're celebrating these 0.96
00:12:53.920 minor successes they're celebrating these little victories they got a promotion they got a pay raise 0.98
00:13:01.360 they hit x amount of dollars in sales the company grew 20 percent the company hit a million dollars in
00:13:10.000 sales the company hit 10 million dollars in sales and what do you see you see these people celebrating 0.94
00:13:16.800 like they just conquered the fucking earth they're going out they're partying they they have this big 0.96
00:13:23.980 celebration they think they're awesome and they go on holding on to this little bitty victory that is very 0.99
00:13:32.340 insignificant as if it's going to carry them their entire lives and that's the problem guys that's where most
00:13:42.780 people fail that's where most people fuck up they don't understand that this journey never ends they
00:13:52.100 think that once they hit where their goal is once they buy that car once they buy that house once they 0.95
00:13:58.220 make x amount of money once they hit x amount of sales they think they've made it they think that they 0.96
00:14:05.000 can sit on the beach like a fucking corona commercial kick their feet up and celebrate their victory 1.00
00:14:12.440 and let me tell you something guys you just can't do it that's the quickest way to get your ass beat 0.99
00:14:19.120 that i can possibly think of you're always going to have people chasing you success is a sliding scale 0.65
00:14:27.080 you're always going to have competition that's working to take what you have and put it in their
00:14:33.760 trophy case you're never going to have this situation where you quote unquote made it
00:14:41.820 i think that's the biggest fallacy in the whole mentality of success that there is there is no i made it
00:14:50.040 there is no i'm here there is no arriving
00:14:53.740 i don't celebrate people in my own office don't understand that concept people in my own office 0.89
00:15:04.260 they celebrate shit and they understand that you know these things are significant they can't 0.92
00:15:11.300 understand why i don't celebrate i don't celebrate because i don't consider myself successful i know 1.00
00:15:20.440 that our potential as a company and my potential as a human is not even fucking scratched 0.94
00:15:25.900 i'm not sitting at the bar or having a dinner or having a party celebrating how great i am
00:15:35.020 for building a company that's going to do 165 million dollars this year from nothing i don't think that's
00:15:41.520 great we should be doing three billion dollars in sales right now okay i don't look at the thousands
00:15:49.820 of people that our company has helped and think oh man we're doing a really good job i say dude why 0.97
00:15:55.620 aren't we helping millions of fucking people 0.92
00:15:57.960 i see you guys celebrating for things that aren't worth celebrating and you have to be very careful 0.99
00:16:08.040 are you at the proper point where you should be celebrating or are you hanging on to victories
00:16:14.900 and thinking you're the greatest and thinking you're more significant than you are and more
00:16:19.260 valuable than you are and you're losing your edge to someone else is someone else celebrating the same 0.95
00:16:25.620 shit you're celebrating is your main competition going to be so happy that when they hit where you are 0.98
00:16:34.220 that they quit working you better fucking hope they do if you're out celebrating but i bet you they don't 0.99
00:16:40.320 there's that saying and i don't know who said it but you should work work every day like somebody's 0.91
00:16:48.440 working 24 hours a day to take it away from you and that is one of the truest sayings of success
00:16:53.500 because there's somebody that is there is a company out there that's trying to take what you built 0.97
00:16:58.820 there are people out there trying to take your fucking job that's reality we don't live in a situation 0.98
00:17:06.180 or a society or an economy that allows for you to celebrate and be happy and and think you're the greatest 0.99
00:17:13.600 if you're not working to get better on a daily basis if you're not pursuing the fulfillment of your own
00:17:21.800 true potential you are losing there is no maintaining you can't stay where you are you're either getting
00:17:28.700 better or you're getting fucking passed by people who are that's the reality of life that's the reality of business 0.93
00:17:35.900 that's the reality of entrepreneurship every time you kick back and you think you're the greatest and 0.99
00:17:43.080 you think you're the shit and you think you're the best at what you do there is somebody that's one inch 0.99
00:17:47.720 behind you that gets better than you that's the championship mentality that's why somebody like 1.00
00:17:56.100 jerry rice was the greatest receiver of all time in the nfl you know why because he worked as if he was 0.99
00:18:04.980 still trying to make the fucking team every day
00:18:08.600 and you'll notice that with any great champion i could name them all michael jordan kobe bryant 0.98
00:18:17.100 whoever you want to name those guys weren't just champions they weren't born that way they worked
00:18:25.540 harder than anybody else when they won a nba championship or they won a super bowl sure they took 0.98
00:18:34.720 one day to celebrate and guess what they did the day after they got to fucking work 0.92
00:18:42.100 and that's one of the biggest differences i see between champions people who make a lot of money people 0.97
00:18:49.640 who are very successful people who work their way up the corporate ladder who create executive
00:18:55.260 positions and make lots of money people who create amazing companies people who are amazing athletes 0.87
00:19:00.960 that's the biggest difference i see between them and everybody else they don't fucking hang on to 0.84
00:19:07.320 celebrations they don't let small victories carry them they don't fall under the delusional mentality
00:19:15.260 that small victories will carry them because they won't and if you want to be the guy who's caught up
00:19:23.240 on what they did 20 years ago in the homecoming football game and live your whole life drinking a 1.00
00:19:29.160 fucking beer sitting on your cooler in your fucking driveway that's fine this shit here this podcast here 1.00
00:19:35.960 this movement here is not for fucking you 1.00
00:19:38.740 we're for improving we're for getting better we're for celebrating for a minute and then getting back 0.99
00:19:48.980 to work
00:19:49.460 if you're down with that mentality you will have no problem in life but don't let your peers don't let 0.99
00:19:59.300 your friends don't let your co-workers convince you that you should be celebrating this fucking huge 0.99
00:20:05.880 celebration every time you get a little victory 0.99
00:20:08.760 i think that's the problem with the whole mentality of this society whether it be fitness whether it be 0.97
00:20:17.440 business whether it be anything people did one fucking good thing and they think they won 0.94
00:20:23.080 you didn't win 0.99
00:20:26.380 and for every minute that you think you won you're getting your ass kicked you just don't see it yet 0.99
00:20:33.560 stop thinking you're more significant than you are have the confidence i'm not saying have no 0.99
00:20:42.300 confidence have confidence to do your job have confidence that it can be done because i can promise
00:20:48.260 you if you're listening to this you have what it takes i'm not saying that what i'm saying is
00:20:54.160 realize that a you're going to die b you're insignificant 1.00
00:20:59.080 and see if you want to continue to get better you better remember that shit 1.00
00:21:04.160 celebrate little things temporarily but don't let them fucking carry you to the land of wasted potential 0.99
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