Material Goals： Inspirational or Selfish？, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO183
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Summary
In this episode of The MFCEO Project, I cover a topic that has been on my mind for a while now. It's not a long message, but it's a short and sweet one that will give you some clarity and freedom of thought.
Transcript
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What is up guys, you're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am
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the motherfucking CEO. Today is Tuesday, and I'm actually recording this on a Tuesday,
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the day that this will be published, which is unusual for us. Usually we record a few
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days in advance. We actually had, I was traveling, we had a lot of meetings going on today, yesterday,
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and tomorrow regarding a bunch of things that have to do with my quote unquote real businesses.
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And we were going to say to just pass up on doing a podcast today and just pick right back up on
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Thursday. But you know what? I woke up this morning thinking about something, and instead of going
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right to the gym like I do when I wake up, I came here to record this podcast because I feel like
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the message is very important. Yesterday, I made some posts on my Insta story, and if you're not
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following me at Andy Fursella on Instagram, you should be because it's fucking cool. But
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it got me thinking. I made some posts about some of the things I've been hearing about material things,
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and I just want to hit on this. It's not going to be a long message. It's going to be something
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real short, real sweet, and hopefully it'll unlock some freedom of thought for you.
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I, when I was, I don't know, I guess in 2011, I bought my first Lamborghini, and I think maybe
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it was 2011, 12. I can't remember exactly the year. I bought my first Lambo, and I used to
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drive, and before that, I had an Aston Martin and an R8 and some other cool shit, but nobody in my
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company ever knew that I owned it, and nobody, none of my friends ever knew that I owned that shit.
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Like, I would literally park those cars in my garage, drive them, like, you know, when I went
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and did my own personal stuff, I would never drive them to work. I would never tell them anybody I had
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them. I would never show it to anybody, and the reason that I never did that was because
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of society's pressure on material things. You know, I didn't want people to think that I was,
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A, materialistic, or B, you know, some people think, like, when you drive a nice car, other people
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think you're making too much money, so they won't support you, which is bullshit. I've learned that
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from experience. I just was embarrassed, and I was ashamed in a weird way, and I know it doesn't
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really make sense, that I had nice shit, and I want to cover that topic this morning with you guys
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and how I see it now versus how I saw it then. You know, society's going to tell you guys that
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there's something morally wrong with having material goals. I did a poll on my Insta story yesterday.
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I said, hey, does material objects motivate you? Do those things make you motivated? And I said,
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don't lie, because there's nothing wrong with having cool shit, and, you know, like, I think it was
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like 80% to 20%. 80% said yes, 20% said no, but then I had a bunch of people DM me and comment on my
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page that said, well, I voted no because I really want to make a difference, and I voted no because I
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don't really want a Lamborghini, but I want a truck, and I voted no because I want to make an
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impact, and I don't really care about material things, and I voted no because I want to have
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experiences over material things. All right, well, let me cover those fucking points for you guys and
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make it real fucking clear. There is nothing wrong with having material goals, and there is absolutely
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nothing wrong with you using those material goals to be motivated, and there's nothing wrong about
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sharing that with people, okay? Are there going to be people who think that that's wrong? Yes. Are there
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going to be people who think they're too noble, quote-unquote, to admit that they are driven by having
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material success? Yes, but I'm going to tell you right now, being successful is fucking hard, and
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becoming financially to a point where you can afford those luxuries that whatever they are for you
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is going to take every ounce of your energy that you possibly have, so why would you not use all the
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fuel that you have in your heart? Why would you not admit to yourself what you really want? Because
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there's a problem with this, guys. When you really want something materialistic, but you deny it publicly,
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you don't say it, it makes it that much harder to get. It puts the energy out in the universe that says,
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I don't really like material things, okay? You're sending conflicting messages, and when you send
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that, it makes it that much more of a grind to get, so you have to understand that there are a number
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of things about this that you need to understand, okay? Lots of people are going to tell you it's not
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okay. Lots of people are going to tell you you're greedy. Lots of people are going to tell you you're
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materialistic. Lots of people are going to tell you you have your priorities out of whack, but I'm going
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to tell you that they are all full of shit. Notice that that never comes from somebody who's actually
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successful. You don't ever see a guy living in the house that you want to live in, or driving the car
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you want to drive, or wearing the watch you want to wear, saying, oh man, you know what? You're fucked
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up for thinking those goals, do you? You only see the people who are unsuccessful in their own goals.
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You only see the people who use their lack of success as a shield of nobility and try to twist
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it into some sort of message like, oh, well, I could have those things, but you know, I choose not to
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have bullshit. You couldn't fucking cut it, and now you're telling other people that they shouldn't do
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it either. That's the truth, okay? So, and I get it. Some people aren't motivated by material things,
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but let me explain something to you. People that say this, oh, well, I'm more motivated by making an
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impact. I'm more motivated by having experiences. Well, motherfucker, have you ever driven a different
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exotic car to work every fucking day and had the experience and the thrill and the happiness of
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actually appreciating that car and seeing people drive by you with thumbs up, or every time you pull
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up to the gas station, 20 little fucking kids come up and want to take pictures with your car and sit in
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the car and then they ask you how you afforded the car and you tell them your story about working
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hard and then they walk away saying, you know what? I'm going to fucking work hard. I'm going to do
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that. I'm going to become successful. I'm going to work. That's exactly what happened to me. When I
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was fucking eight years old, I saw a white Lamborghini Countach at a gas station and it fucking changed my
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life. That's when I decided I was going to be successful. When I was fucking eight, because I saw
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somebody who had the fucking balls to buck what society says and drive a fucking Lamborghini.
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It's inspiring. It impacts people. It changes people. Okay. Your success is a message to the
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world that says, Hey, you can do this too. Look what I did. It shows people it's possible. And you know
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what doesn't, you know, what shows people nothing is possible. Somebody who walks around saying, Oh,
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you shouldn't have material things. Material things are bad. They don't have good experiences.
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I would tell you right now that having material success, A, it's very motivating. B, it's okay.
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C, it impacts people in a way that you cannot possibly impact any other way.
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So when you're trying to morally justify your success, remember this, there's going to be a lot
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of people who see what you want to, you know, what you're accomplishing and what you do. And they
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don't care what the fuck you say that you could preach success all fucking day long.
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But people are going to look at what you do. And this brings me to another point. There's
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big name entrepreneurs out there right now that a lot of you guys fucking follow that
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say shit like, well, I don't like stuff and I don't need stuff and I don't want stuff.
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But if you pay attention to those motherfuckers, snap stories, they're flying on private jets.
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They live in a nice fucking house. They live, they have extravagant offices. They spend money
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on all these other things that are material things. You don't need to fly on private jets.
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You don't need to fucking live in a fucking $4 million fucking house. You don't need to
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have extravagant offices. That's material shit too. And all these people who are telling
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you, oh, well, it's not about the stuff. Well, I agree. It's not about the stuff, but the
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stuff can be a very powerful motivator and a very powerful way to impact people if you utilize
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it correctly. Now I'm not talking about all you fake motherfuckers out there who are 19
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years old thinking you're a life coach, renting shit, trying to take pictures. I'm talking
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about you people who are legit entrepreneurs, who are going to grow businesses, who are going
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to find success and who are going to live the life they designed. All right. Maybe you don't
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want to drive a Lambo and that's fine. Maybe you don't want to drive a Ferrari. That's fine.
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Maybe you don't want to travel private. That's fine too. But what I'm saying is this,
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whatever your goals are, no matter what they are, they're okay. Okay. It's okay for you to have
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those goals. You have to figure out what motivates you. You have to figure out what, what is going
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to give you that extra drive when you don't feel like doing it. And I read something, um, I read
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something funny the other day that said, if you're doing it for the stuff, you don't have a fucking
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chance. Or if you like the stuff, you don't have a fucking chance. Bullshit. I like the fucking
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stuff. And you know what? I'm doing all right. So there you go. Motherfucker. Keep telling people
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that fucking ain't okay to like stuff. No, it's fucking a perfectly. Okay. I love my stuff. I love
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walking into my garage every day and having the first world problem of deciding which fucking car
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I'm going to drive. You know what? You're going to have problems either way. You're going to have
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fucking problems where you could pay your bills. You're going to have problems where, you know,
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what are you going to eat? Or can I order this off the menu? Or you could have problems
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like this. I don't know which fucking Lambo to drive today. I don't know if I want to drive
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the fucking Aventador or if I want to drive the rolls, which problems would you rather
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fucking have? Cause I could tell you all day, cause I've had both problems, which ones I'd
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rather fucking have. And they're the ones I have now. So don't let people who are, uh, you
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know, holier than thou or more noble or, you know, they try to be this extra good person
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in public eye saying that they don't like stuff and you don't need stuff and you shouldn't
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want stuff because that's bullshit. A, those people like stuff. B, it's okay for you to
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like stuff too. And if that's what motivates you, if cars motivate you, if watches motivate
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you, if houses motivate you, if vacations motivate you, that's fine. But realize that you
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do not have to choose between material goals and experience goals like society's trying to
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paint it. Oh, I'm all about impact. I'm all about experience. Motherfucker. There's lots
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of impact experience that comes with fucking material shit. You don't have to pick between
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the two. You can have both. All right. And let me tell you something. The only way to make
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the money that you can make to have the material things that you want is to make an impact is
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to create an awesome experience is to solve people's problems is to help people. That's the
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only way you can make the money. So if you get to a point where you're able to afford this cool
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shit that you secretly want, that you're too afraid to tell anybody that you want because society
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fucking shits on it, I'm going to tell you that you're already making an impact, making a great
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experience, solving problems and helping people because that's the only way to fucking make real
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money these days. One comes from the other. Okay. And you don't see one motherfucker out there that
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has all the material shit that is constantly fucking people over and screwing people nowadays.
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It doesn't happen. If somebody can afford to drive a fucking Lambo, if somebody can afford to fucking
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have 20 fucking exotic cars and live in a nice fucking house and fly private everywhere they want to
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go and go on good vacations and do things for their friends, like bail them out of debt and fucking
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help them get their life started. And I do all those things. Guess what? The reason I'm able to do all
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those things is because I make an impact on the other side. I provide positive experience. I give
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tremendous value and I solve fucking problems better than fucking anyone else in my, in my area.
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That's why I'm able to do that shit. So quit thinking it's one or the other. Quit thinking that
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you're a bad person for wanting material shit. Quit thinking that you're, there's something wrong
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with your motivation. There's nothing wrong with your motivation. You know what's wrong? There's
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something wrong with the people who are telling you there's something wrong with that motivation.
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Anybody who's truly built something from zero to fucking whatever, not walking into a business
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at X million dollars, not inheriting their mom's business. I'm talking about somebody who's built
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something from scratch. You will never hear that motherfucker say to you, well, that you
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shouldn't have that goal. You shouldn't have that. You shouldn't have, you shouldn't want material
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things. That's not, that's not the right thing. You should be doing it because of this. You'll never
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hear those persons say that. You know why? Because those motherfuckers know how hard it is.
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And they know that you should use every fucking ounce of motivation that you possibly can
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to get where you want to go. And they don't know that you even should use that. They know that
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you're going to have to use that. They know that you are going to have to pull from every possible
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area of motivation that you could possibly have, whether that be people telling you you can't,
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whether it be the positive impact you're going to make, whether it be material shit, whether it be
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the vacations you want to go on, the life you want to live, or the dreams you want to have.
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All of those things are going to have to contribute to your motivation at some point or another.
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You're going to have to pull from all of that. And anybody who's built something from zero to
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success, wherever that success is that they can afford to live the life they want, they will tell
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you, you are going to need all of those motivations. So don't hide your motivations because you think
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other people that you may look up to on online shit on them or think, or don't think it's cool.
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You're going to need those and there's nothing wrong with those. And remember, the only way you're
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ever going to be able to afford those is if you make the impact with people, if you solve fucking
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problems, if you help people, if you provide real value, it all goes together. So if you're doing
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all those things, what's wrong with having material shit for yourself? Nothing.