On the Brink, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO155
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Summary
In this episode of the M.E.A.R.K.P. project, we talk about the things that have gotten to us throughout our lives and how they have gotten us to where we are today.
Transcript
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what's up guys you listen to the MF CEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking
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CEO guys today we're going to do something a little different usually on Tuesdays we've got
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the full crew we've got Vaughn got Tyler we talk about a lot of different shit today it's going to
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be a Tuesday thunder all right we're going to get the week started off with some heat
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I want you to think about something I want you to think about all the things that people have said
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to you that have bothered you okay and I want you to like go back to when you were a little bitty kid
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and you know it could have been you were fat it could have been you were stupid it could have been
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you know whatever we all have these things that that people picked on us you know for me
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when I was growing up I was always fat all right I struggled with my weight my whole life I've
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always had people call me a fatso fat ass you know this that the other dude even as an adult I struggled
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my weight and you know I've gotten comments about people saying you know uh you know how fucking fat
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I was and this and that and dude I got picked on basically from when I was I mean as long as I can
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remember you know it started with it started with the people I cared about most it started with my
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cousins you know we would hang out when we were little and kids would say mean shit to me and and
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you know um they would pick on me because I was fucking chubby right I was a chubby little fucker
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and you know what fuck it I like to eat that's the that's that's the truth um
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and when you're little and when you when you are somebody who is uh you know struggling with
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something you know people say oh that's just what kids say and this and that but you remember that
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shit you know you remember that shit and something that I was thinking about this past weekend uh which
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is why I wanted to kind of just take this a different direction today was you know people have
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the ability and the assumption to think that their path or their struggle or their hardships are worse
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than other people's we all have this tendency to to look at what our biggest issues are and say well
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that person doesn't understand or this person doesn't understand or that person doesn't get it
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when in reality guys we all have our struggles we all have our our things that get to us our things
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that you know bother us our things that make us uh feel pain inside and frustrate us and make us angry
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and you know the world can't always see those things sometimes you know people have physical
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handicaps they're missing an arm they're missing a leg they they have some sort of disability
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and the world gets to see what this person struggles with and in most cases the world cannot see what
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people struggle with they only see what is on the outside and so guys I want you to think about
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all the things that people have said to you that people have hurtfully you know purposely tried to hurt you
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to attack you and it's likely that you have one thing or another thing maybe one or two things
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that people have attacked you on your whole entire life and I want you to think about you know all the
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things I'm going to share with you the things that people said to me you know I just covered you know
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the fat thing all right the other thing is is you know I always wanted to be successful I always
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wanted to be an entrepreneur I always wanted to be wealthy I always wanted to have success I I don't
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know where that came from I guess it just it's in my blood it's something I've always wanted I've talked
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about this many times dude from the time that I was fucking in school sixth seventh eighth grade I had
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people making fun of me for those aspirations I had people telling me you'll never be this you'll never
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be that you'll never do this you're crazy and that's real shit you know all the way up until I
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was probably 30 years old when I first you know became what other people would see as successful
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from the outside I had people telling me I was crazy I had people telling me that I was wasting my time
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I had people telling me I needed to get a real fucking job and you know guys we all get beat up
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we all have frustration we all have things that hurt us internally okay we all have things that
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beat us down and make us want to quit all of us it's not just you it's not you know exclusive to you
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your shit isn't any worse than anybody else's shit because we all have shit but what it comes down to
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guys is this people get pushed to the brink all right they get pushed to the edge and it's what you do
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when you get to that edge that determines what you're going to be okay and people get pushed and
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pushed and pushed and they get to the edge and they do one of two things they either a shut down
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completely all right and they go all the way in the direction of the negative that means whatever it
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is that people are telling you like in my instance it's a Andy you're fucking fat motherfucker or Andy
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you're never going to be successful and if I had listened to them I would continue to become more
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out of shape continue to struggle with that even more use that as the excuse for why I haven't been
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able to come successful or B when you get to the edge and you get to the brink and you get to the time
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where you've had enough you start to take productive action in the direction that you know you need to go
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and unfortunately the mass the massive percentage of people the larger percentage of people take
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option a they get pushed to the brink they get pushed to the edge they get pushed all the way over and then
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they just fucking go that way a hundred percent and that's where people end up you know regretting
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their entire existence their entire lives because they listen to what people said they lost all belief
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in themselves they lost all hope in themselves so they just say hey you know what fuck it I am fat
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and you know what fuck it I am not going to be successful so you know what I'll do I'll just go be this
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and they accept this as their new reality because it's been imposed upon them by people who don't
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know what the fuck they're talking about and that's sad and I've been there and I know how that feels
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don't think just because I've made some money and I've built some companies and I've done some shit
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and I've got this loud fucking you know authoritative voice that I don't deal with the same motherfucking
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shit that you do everybody deals with this shit but we all have a choice and what defines who we're
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going to be and whether we're going to be fucking regular Joe motherfuckers who regret their whole
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entire life or we're going to be champions and people who set standards and become role models
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and people who tell people who other people tell fucking stories about comes down to what we do when
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we're on the brink and when you're on the fucking brink it's one of two things it's a go be a bitch
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or b do the fucking work and those are your fucking choices and every single time in my life and I
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don't know why and I can't explain why when I've gotten to the fucking brink I've made the right
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decision I've pushed myself to do the work I've done the things that were the hardest things to do
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which is why I am where the fuck I am and if you want to know what it takes to be successful and
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if you want to know what it takes to make huge changes you need to understand that when you get
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to the same point that I'm talking about where you've had enough you're you're sick and tired of
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your life you look at yourself in the mirror and you're fucking disgusted it's what you do at that
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point that fucking matters so many of you guys give up on all this shit just because you hang out
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with motherfuckers that can't comprehend what the fuck you're trying to do and that's weak
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way more of you guys need to understand that when you get to that point of frustration of anger of
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being pissed off that is tremendous fucking fuel for you to go out and do the shit that you want to do
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your goal should be to become so fucking successful and whatever it is that you're trying to do
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and all those insecurities that you have that all the people who said that shit to you will look
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the other way when you walk into a fucking room all your old quote-unquote friends all your old
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girlfriends who told you you fucking needed to get in shape or you needed to fucking uh you know you
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were lazy or you'll never be anything when you walk into a fucking room those motherfuckers should look
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at the fucking floor that should be your fucking goal and so many of you guys claim to be these
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hard motherfuckers who you know oh I'm gonna show everybody and this and that and then you got your
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friends saying oh well that's not a cool way to be that's not the best way to be fuck that it's a
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great way to be it's the right way to be you need to take everything that everybody said and shove it
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down their fucking throats you know why because it feels fucking good and a lot of people don't talk
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about that because they think there's something wrong with it oh you need to do it for this reason
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or you need to do it for that what the fuck difference does it make is your life better yes is
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your everybody's around you's life better yes so what difference does it make what your fucking
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motivation is positivity is extremely overrated when it comes to motivation I'm a big believer
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and thankful for all the negativity I've dealt with in my life all the people who made it hard
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all the people who fucking made shit much harder than it had to be I love those people I should
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write them a fucking thank you card because if it wasn't for those motherfuckers I wouldn't be
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who the fuck I am you guys need to stop being pussies and start fucking using all the negative shit
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as opposed to whining and crying and thinking that you're the only fucking person on earth that has
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to deal with this stuff and you need to take it and you need to use it and go out and do the shit you
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need to do quit asking me about your fucking haters quit asking me about your family not believing in
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you quit asking me about this and that and all this other bullshit that people fucking say to you and
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take it ball it up and go fucking use it everybody has problems everybody has negativity everybody has
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struggles everybody has frustration you're not the only one and your shit is no fucking harder than anybody
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else's and any story that you have that tells yourself that is a fucking internal mechanism excuse
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your shit ain't any harder you're just choosing not to fucking do it