REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Recalibrate, Part 3： Motivation, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO115

00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the 0.96

00:00:17.820 mother fucking ceo guys if this is your first time listening welcome this is not your typical 0.95

00:00:24.220 podcast okay we're not going to bring some dude in here who's done a couple things and ask him 0.99

00:00:29.220 some questions and uh you know he's going to tell you all the shit that you did that you're likely 0.83

00:00:34.280 not going to do and entertain you for 45 fucking minutes no that's not what we do here all right 0.99

00:00:39.280 we discuss practical steps to be successful we just give you practical advice practical stories 0.99

00:00:46.460 help you understand what it's going to take for you to be successful fuck hearing about everybody

00:00:52.880 else's success how are you going to make yours that's what we're going to talk about and why

00:00:56.840 is this podcast relevant to you because we are all the ceo of our life and i'd rather you be the 1.00

00:01:03.500 motherfucking ceo than be some boring ass pussy ceo okay everybody wants to go through life with a 1.00

00:01:10.020 swagger everybody wants to go through life with confidence everybody wants to go through life 1.00

00:01:14.200 being somebody that's what we're going to talk about and that's what i want you to do because

00:01:19.000 what fun is going through life being a wallflower you know wishing you could be all these other 0.98

00:01:22.700 things when you can't be shit because you're too scared to all right today as always i'm here with 0.98

00:01:29.220 my co-host vaughn kohler what's up man i've got a really important decision to make tonight 0.98

00:01:33.720 which nickname i should use today well you can you can use what paler uh pastor von diesel the pastor

00:01:40.280 of disaster dj dj god did you hear the new one that's going around which one it's i actually like

00:01:46.400 this one a lot oh god it's a reference to my my role relative to you is the new the new uh term

00:01:54.000 for me is the calm before the storm oh you made that up no it's it's the biggest it's breaking the

00:02:00.880 internet did you make it up it sounds pretty made up it's breaking the internet it's got way too much 0.95

00:02:04.440 your own fucking nicknames vaughn it's right up there with chloe kardashian and everything she's doing 1.00

00:02:09.000 what's she doing i have no idea i just know that they're all popular all right so everything i said 0.99

00:02:14.640 about the podcast two minutes ago is irrelevant we're talking you just ruined it we're talking

00:02:18.340 about the kardashians and vaughn's made up nicknames so yeah yeah but my back to my decision

00:02:23.760 so my decision is i've got bachelor night tonight because my wife is out so i'm either gonna watch

00:02:30.820 it's a wonderful life or straight out of compton the new straight out of compton yeah i haven't seen

00:02:35.040 it yet sal told me it was good you know it's good and i'd watch that one of these days i you know

00:02:41.020 just for the delight of our listening audience i'm just gonna bust into you know i don't know maybe

00:02:46.480 i will you won't i don't know it probably hurt my my overall street cred oh yeah yeah it'll hurt it so

00:02:53.700 much yeah so we've been working the last couple weeks to uh sort of get you guys prepared and focused

00:03:03.060 on some ideas going into the new year um it's a lot of review but the thing about what we talk

00:03:10.840 about is you can't just hear it once which is why you can go back and listen to different episodes

00:03:14.380 about different things multiple times which many of you do because i know because you tell me um

00:03:19.000 that's really cool i like that i appreciate that um this is a tool and i want you to use it but

00:03:24.880 the last few weeks have been a little different usually focus on a very specific topic

00:03:29.120 and we get in real hard on that and then the last few weeks we've covered um you know

00:03:34.940 more of a wide ranging uh angle of topics that we've we've kind of put into you know one podcast

00:03:44.040 so that you guys can think about these things going into the new year because the truth of the matter is 0.93

00:03:48.720 is most of you guys didn't do shit this year all right you all talked like you're gonna do a bunch 0.98

00:03:52.800 of shit in the beginning of the year you didn't do shit and now you're talking about what you're 0.99

00:03:55.920 gonna do next year you know here we are halfway through the month you already pissed away the 0.99

00:03:59.780 first 15 fucking days and you're gonna wait until january 1st and then you're gonna come up with 0.94

00:04:04.520 every excuse possible as to why you're not gonna start now so we're gonna try to get into you know 1.00

00:04:10.420 some material that can help you make up your fucking mind to quit being such a pussy am i right or wrong 1.00

00:04:16.440 you're right okay so we talked about success we talked about greatness today we're actually going to 1.00

00:04:21.060 talk about something that i know you have a pretty strong opinions on and that is the motivation

00:04:25.100 or the issue of motivation yeah okay so before we get into your particular strong opinions let's

00:04:31.020 take a step back for a second and i just want you to tell me what you think is the number one problem

00:04:35.700 with the whole motivation industry the success zombie phenomenon okay um and i made that phrase and

00:04:44.660 now you're starting to see that phrase everywhere okay success zombie what is it it's the dude who 0.98

00:04:49.740 follows all the motivational people likes all the shit always comments man i fucking needed that today 0.97

00:04:56.180 thank you uh you know buys all the books buys all the programs buys all the this that and the other 0.99

00:05:02.300 and then doesn't do a goddamn thing that's a success zombie they're constantly consuming success 0.65

00:05:08.660 without actually doing anything to further their success they think that they're going to buy that thing 0.97

00:05:14.320 or read that thing or go to this seminar or do this thing and all of a sudden their success is going

00:05:22.760 to become automatic you know they're trying to figure out basically what it comes down to is they're 0.80

00:05:28.280 trying to figure out how to cut out the fucking work right which can't do so they go from thing to 0.97

00:05:33.220 thing to thing to thing to thing and always wondering why it never works for them and i'm holding up my 0.97

00:05:38.180 fingers like richard nixon in quotes it never works for them it never worked for me that didn't 0.98

00:05:44.260 work for me well you know why it didn't work for you because you didn't fucking do it right 0.94

00:05:47.580 everything fucking works for the most part you just got to do it you got to do it long enough 0.92

00:05:51.440 you know so my biggest my biggest thing is that um there's far too much of that so 0.97

00:05:58.080 in terms of how you fit into that whole general i mean yeah so i'm a fucking enabler 0.86

00:06:04.540 you know what i'm saying like because just because the way i speak like the way i speak the way i

00:06:10.760 the way i communicate what i write the way i write it's motivational and i know that and people

00:06:16.560 dig that and i get that they dig it but what i don't like is that i'm feeding into that whole i'm

00:06:23.960 giving those people fucking life right you know what i'm saying and content and you know they say 0.97

00:06:29.220 shit like oh you know how can i repay you give this for free you can repay me my going out and doing 0.99

00:06:33.420 something you know i do that shit as much for me as i do for anybody really what you're seeing is me 1.00

00:06:40.220 thinking out loud about myself you know i struggle with the same shit every successful person struggles 0.99

00:06:47.000 with the same shit that i talk about on this podcast or in my instagram or on my facebook posts 0.98

00:06:52.120 they may not admit that they struggle with it but i can promise you they do because i know because 0.99

00:06:56.800 guess who they fucking call when they're having problems with it me because they think i'm this 0.93

00:07:01.300 fucking expert about it we all have the same struggles and really what i'm telling you is 0.99

00:07:05.480 that i struggle with the same shit and i write the shit for myself and if you happen to like it good 0.99

00:07:09.240 if you don't like it good you know what i mean right well it is interesting though because when i 0.99

00:07:14.680 asked you that question you immediately went to what was wrong with sort of the crowd the the spectators

00:07:18.920 of the listenership well what i'm curious about what you think is wrong with the motivational

00:07:22.720 industry yeah that's what i was talking about standard i mean like dude it's it's no different than 0.96

00:07:28.340 than the fucking weight loss people like and and you're you know i sell fucking weight loss products 0.99

00:07:34.220 you know but i also offer the support and the knowledge and the education needed for people to 0.98

00:07:38.460 get actual results the motivational industry is the same thing they know that they write a program

00:07:46.260 and sell it no matter if it's good or bad it doesn't have to be good it doesn't it doesn't matter

00:07:51.380 people are going to buy it because they're looking for that thing and when the people don't follow

00:07:56.920 through because they didn't do it they're not going to blame the person because they know in their

00:08:02.760 heart it's their own fault so they don't ask for a refund or they don't ask for a uh you know they

00:08:08.320 don't say that it didn't work because they didn't do the work and it's easy to combat somebody who 0.92

00:08:12.240 says oh that didn't work by just saying you didn't fucking do it you know what i mean right 0.92

00:08:16.240 so you got all these dudes out there that they're slick ricky and they you know they make up a 0.99

00:08:21.040 program they sell it to people and they take rented cars and rented fucking airplanes and put the shit on 0.99

00:08:26.280 their instagram page and stand in front of it and pretend that they're somebody and take advantage 0.98

00:08:32.880 of these people right and dude the problem with that is just like it is with the weight loss people

00:08:37.860 you sell somebody a product you sell them another product you sell them another product and all three 0.89

00:08:41.800 of those products don't work what do people really start thinking now they start thinking fuck there's

00:08:46.200 something wrong with me i can't lose the weight or i can't be successful it's me no it's not you 0.99

00:08:51.840 it's that these motherfuckers are lying to you you see what i'm saying absolutely and that's the 0.99

00:08:56.440 problem so that's us very that's why you don't see me doing you know all this shit i don't do info 1.00

00:09:02.040 products and i don't do books all the time like i don't do buy my seminar and all this shit i don't 0.96

00:09:07.920 do that shit you know i i create if i'm gonna sell a book it's gonna be a book that's useful for a tool 0.90

00:09:13.060 like our the children's books right you know what i mean that can help create a culture over a long 1.00

00:09:17.940 time am i gonna get rich off of that no fuck no i'm not making shit off of it right but it's to 0.92

00:09:23.140 serve a purpose but most of these dudes understand how to utilize the internet to make a lot of 0.98

00:09:28.920 fucking money off of people that have you know no confidence no knowledge no hope and probably no 0.93

00:09:33.280 money too and just take their money and that's i don't know it's just not cool in my opinion so 0.99

00:09:39.280 with that in mind i mean we have a we have an ever-increasing listenership and there are millions of

00:09:43.680 people that are now listening to us and by the way guys that's not an exaggeration and it's not a

00:09:47.780 boast it's fact i mean it's we're yeah it's awesome we literally have millions of people

00:09:52.220 downloading so my question is because if if this is one of if this is the first podcast which by the

00:09:57.760 way the millions of people downloading is a testament to our audience because we don't

00:10:02.780 fucking advertise the podcast we're not running facebook ads we're not running any kind of 0.96

00:10:06.020 advertising right that's a testament to you guys listening paying the fee you know if you're this 0.98

00:10:10.640 your first time the fee all we ask for here is that you that you recommend the podcast to a friend

00:10:15.580 if you found the podcast entertaining useful something that you enjoyed please recommend it

00:10:21.140 to a friend because that's how we grow we grow totally organically here so you know that's all

00:10:25.780 on them you know for doing that so thank you guys yeah no that's a great point so real quick and then

00:10:30.680 i'll jump right into my my specific questions but if this is the first podcast episode that a new

00:10:36.140 listener listens to and you just talked about the predatorial nature of of a lot of the uh the

00:10:42.600 motivational industry what in your mind is the difference between that and the mfco what should

00:10:47.700 people expect when they listen to stuff well that we do first of all i mean there's a million

00:10:54.080 different differences but the biggest one is i've actually built a business that's a business i don't

00:11:00.100 i didn't get wealthy from selling people info products about how to get wealthy which is what most of

00:11:05.300 these dudes do you know what i mean my cars i post those are my cars the planes i fly on those are our 0.99

00:11:11.760 planes okay the shit that we do that's our shit like that's not some rented photo shoot shit that's 0.99

00:11:17.120 my fucking life you know what i mean and if you follow me on snapchat you know that because i post 0.99

00:11:21.080 it all but the point is is that um that's the biggest difference the biggest difference is i've 0.99

00:11:26.400 actually built something from the ground up with my business partner and my crew here with the team

00:11:30.780 you know i didn't do a bomb on myself you got i got tremendous awesome individuals that work for me

00:11:36.200 that have fucking helped build an awesome deal and we've done it from the ground up and there's a real 0.86

00:11:39.800 fucking a lot of lessons there you know what i mean how are these guys supposed to know that all 0.99

00:11:44.080 they've done is sell you an info product they're regurgitating shit from other people that they 0.99

00:11:47.680 don't even fucking know about you know that's why you can't you go see these guys talk live and they 1.00

00:11:52.060 sound like fucking ass clowns you know what i mean whereas you go talk to somebody you like you come 1.00

00:11:56.540 to watch me or if you came to our gary v event or me and gary dude we gave out fucking thousands of 1.00

00:12:01.520 dollars worth of worth of uh information out i mean dude tens of thousands of dollars worth of

00:12:06.440 information out because you know what i don't agree with everything gary says i like gary

00:12:10.880 but he's built a fucking business from the ground up a couple of them so have i and there's a big 0.95

00:12:15.880 difference between those kind of guys and guys who just sell fucking info shit right you know what i 0.98

00:12:19.920 mean that's the biggest difference that you're going to get the second biggest difference is you're not 0.99

00:12:23.400 going to get me trying to sell you some shit every five fucking minutes because i don't really care 0.99

00:12:27.600 because i've already made money doing this other thing and i continue to make money doing that 0.99

00:12:30.300 right so i don't depend on that so if i don't depend on that and i don't have to sell it the odds are i'm 0.60

00:12:35.620 going to tell you the fucking truth the way it is i'm not holding anything back a lot of these dudes 0.94

00:12:39.160 hold shit back because they want to sell it later you know what i mean absolutely get an open product 0.98

00:12:43.700 here and and you can't possibly leave out the other aspect which is that we're very balanced we don't 0.98

00:12:48.880 just talk about dreams and goals we talk about the reality that you're gonna have to work for those 0.96

00:12:52.120 yeah no it's not just saying hey close your eyes and envision this shit it's hey close your eyes 0.98

00:12:57.200 envision this shit now let's create a plan from there to here on how we're going to do it right 0.99

00:13:01.300 and we do all those things here right so recently on facebook you posted uh 1.00

00:13:07.140 that you don't understand the people who say i just need someone to kick me in the ass if you need 1.00

00:13:13.060 somebody to kick you in the ass as you said it the whole world's going to kick your ass that's right 1.00

00:13:17.360 and by the way for those of you i'm just quoting andy yeah that's why but so i want to start right 1.00

00:13:22.580 away by talking about emotions because most most of the time uh people aren't motivated because they

00:13:28.660 don't feel like doing something and i know you've said before that you are very self-motivated but

00:13:33.480 let's face it some people aren't okay um so my question for you what i'd love you to talk about

00:13:40.300 a little bit is even if you your personality didn't necessarily need to learn how to motivate yourself

00:13:47.120 because that comes more naturally to you what have you learned over the course of being an entrepreneur

00:13:53.060 and kind of pursuing success over the last 15 20 years that has helped you overcome emotion or just

00:14:02.280 the feeling of i just don't feel like doing something today well the difference between people

00:14:06.840 who do really big things and people who don't is not doing it when you're motivated it's doing it when

00:14:12.240 you're not motivated it's doing it when the last thing that you want to do on the face of the earth

00:14:16.140 is to take another fucking step forward towards your goal you know and you could come up with a 0.97

00:14:21.400 trillion reasons you know i want to watch tv i want to go drink beer i want to go do this i want to go 0.98

00:14:26.640 do that but successful people don't do that they do the things that need to be done whether you're

00:14:33.160 feeling like you need to do it or whether you don't and that's just a that's the differentiating

00:14:36.980 factor you know the factor of of if if the factor of success was what can you do when you're 0.99

00:14:42.780 motivated there'd be a lot more motherfuckers that are you know creating awesome shit after 1.00

00:14:46.760 spending an hour on instagram right you know i'm saying right but it's not that way and and so i 0.99

00:14:52.060 think the trick is you know and what it ultimately comes down to is instant gratification versus delay

00:14:56.220 gratification is people understanding that concept and learning how to use it you know most people will

00:15:01.260 always pick the instant gratification you know what's going to taste good now what's going to feel good

00:15:05.520 now what's going to make me feel better now versus what's good for me for the next five years

00:15:11.380 in the next 10 years and the trick that i've found is that you need to start looking at your

00:15:17.440 delayed gratification actions as instant gratification so what i mean by that is like

00:15:23.660 you start to go you know you're you're you're trying to get in shape and you know you don't feel like

00:15:28.700 going to work out but instead you overcome that feeling of not going to work out and you go work

00:15:33.100 out and then you feel great you enjoy that instant gratification you got from that you see what i'm

00:15:36.960 saying yeah or like if you work oh i don't want to make those five calls and send those five extra

00:15:41.260 emails it's 10 o'clock at night but you know what i'm going to do it anyway and then you do it and

00:15:47.680 then you feel great and then you're like yeah i got that you know what i'm saying and that's where

00:15:51.880 your instant gratification great feeling comes from instead of it coming from that negative area

00:15:55.980 doesn't produce results you see what i'm saying absolutely yeah so that's something that i've learned

00:16:01.020 to do um and i don't always do it man there's times when there's times when i fuck up and i do the 0.84

00:16:06.360 fucking wrong thing but those times are rare you know very rare especially in business they don't

00:16:11.200 ever happen but in fitness it happens you know what i mean other areas it happens yeah it's about 0.92

00:16:16.140 training yourself to think a certain way well speaking of training yourself i you know you've

00:16:20.260 often said and we we said this a while back and kill it every day and i think you said this and

00:16:26.140 when uh win the day that you have to find out what works for you and i i'm kind of curious what

00:16:33.360 you think about something so i i've been trying to discipline myself to get up at five o'clock

00:16:38.200 and in the morning and to be honest with you it's been killer or it was killer but for the last two

00:16:44.180 weeks i found a solution and it was it was actually i shout out to big ty russ because he gave me this

00:16:50.060 idea is that i determined that it was actually easier for me to get up at four o'clock than it was

00:16:57.700 to get up at five o'clock so for the last two weeks i've been getting up at four o'clock my mornings

00:17:02.020 have been awesome so i'm curious if if for me the principle is is that very often you're not going

00:17:07.820 to want to feel like doing something but if you can structure your your day in a way that that you're

00:17:14.040 doing things at the time where you're most likely to probably do it whether you feel like it or not

00:17:19.660 that seems like it's helpful you know what i'm saying does that make sense i mean yeah man i mean

00:17:24.320 why would you not do that yeah i mean to me that's common sense like well because i think most people

00:17:29.000 who are still building confidence i think they think they need to do it like somebody else dude 0.72

00:17:34.040 i'm gonna tell you here's a here's a stone cold fucking rule the earlier in the day you do it 0.97

00:17:38.140 the more likely it is to get done yeah no matter what it is yeah whether it's working out whether 0.97

00:17:42.580 it's cardio whether it's you know making calls emails whatever meetings the earlier in the day you

00:17:49.680 get it done the more likely it is to be done because during the day as you know and all everybody

00:17:55.660 knows shit happens right we get we get phone calls we didn't expect we get news we didn't expect 0.73

00:18:01.300 things happen that we didn't expect to happen and that throws us off our routine and it's very 0.98

00:18:06.320 basically what we're doing is we're going through the day and let's say let's say it's a workout right

00:18:11.000 i'm gonna work out at six o'clock at night and that's my plan and it all goes really good up until

00:18:16.100 three o'clock and i get this phone call that you know my grandma's in the hospital and then i get

00:18:19.640 another phone call that you know um so-and-so's in town for just one night and you get all these

00:18:26.700 different things that happen then all of a sudden you put that off you know what i mean it's a it's

00:18:31.840 it's an item that you can you know it's an expendable item on your list now because these

00:18:36.080 other things have taken priority so what you you know what i figured out is that you know make those

00:18:41.340 things a priority not only in priority but in time of day that you do them because they're more

00:18:47.300 likely to get done like i the first thing i do is work out in the morning because like i know 0.98

00:18:52.700 that's like the fucking least likely thing that's the first thing i'll push off my plate if shit gets 0.85

00:18:57.780 busy so as long as i get it done right away there's no time for anything to jump in the way of it 0.95

00:19:02.020 you see what i mean yeah so you know um and that whatever it is that you struggle with like the

00:19:08.940 hardest thing for you to do is what you should do first because that way you're guaranteed to get

00:19:12.120 it done right right i love that it's basically scheduling scheduling the things that you know

00:19:17.180 you need to do at a time that you're most likely to do them and you're not giving your emotions even

00:19:22.080 time to start rationalizing right exactly no i love that wake up and do yeah but you know i i would like

00:19:27.500 to draw out a principle that this is another way that i think you're different from other you know

00:19:31.460 some of these online motivational courses is is that you really do tell people find out what works for

00:19:37.820 you and i think a lot of people fall into the pit of oh they saw some online course that's telling you

00:19:43.220 this is the way you have to do it and so they follow that and it doesn't work for them and then

00:19:47.320 they beat themselves up because they're trying to motivate themselves based on what's what works

00:19:51.440 for somebody else not what works for them i mean there's a million ways to skin a cat right right

00:19:59.640 start at the foot start at the head start at the tail so it doesn't matter as long as a cat gets skin

00:20:04.940 right you know and it is about finding people finding where and what is going to work for you

00:20:11.880 you know like for me working out is something i'll push off my plate so i don't care i i'll do it i

00:20:17.720 have to do first thing or it probably won't get done not even likely it probably won't because i can 0.98

00:20:22.720 tell you after the long after the days i put in at seven o'clock at night i don't want to fucking 0.99

00:20:27.600 work out because actually at seven o'clock at night i'm in the midst of my day still you know i'm in the 0.97

00:20:33.120 midst of emails on calls and texts trying to fucking you know play uh conductor to the symphony 0.94

00:20:39.140 that i'm in charge of right why do i want to jump out of that game and go to the gym at that time i 0.98

00:20:43.940 don't want to fucking do that i want to jump in and go to the gym when there's not much going on so 0.97

00:20:49.140 i don't miss anything because i like what i do it's not like i don't like it like when i when i'm in 0.98

00:20:53.660 that zone of like being conductor to all these moving parts i want to fucking stay in it i don't want 0.91

00:20:58.480 to go disrupt it so it's you know for me that's why i have to do it that way right 0.67

00:21:02.940 that makes a lot of sense i don't quit not do the workout because i'm like saying oh i don't 0.66

00:21:07.960 want to fucking work i like working out yeah it's just i don't want to jump out of what i'm doing 0.97

00:21:11.860 at that time right right so let's break the obstacles to motivation into two categories we'll 0.94

00:21:19.340 do internal and external so internally it seems like the one thing that paralyzes most people from

00:21:25.220 action is self-doubt or feeling like a fraud how have you learned to deal with that dude i think

00:21:31.900 everybody feels like a fraud i think everybody who's doing anything is all because i just i don't

00:21:38.380 know like i i think it has to do and i don't know this i'm this is a guess for me i think it has to

00:21:45.520 do that when we're little we're usually raised to ask for things like we ask for permission i mean 0.80

00:21:50.080 the fucking school you got to ask for permission to take a leak you know what i mean like so we're 0.98

00:21:54.860 used to asking things and we're used to being validated by other people and for that reason 0.99

00:22:01.100 it feels like when we try to go out and do something on our own that we have to get validation from

00:22:05.220 someone higher up than us to us for us to not feel like we're out we're stepping out of bounds for

00:22:12.960 ourselves you know like like i would have to like talk to an entrepreneur above me and there's millions

00:22:18.940 of them you know and getting like that guy be like dude you're doing really good you know what i mean

00:22:22.780 like i need that validation from him like to feel official and that never comes because

00:22:27.980 especially in business it never comes because most people in business are super competitive and they 0.93

00:22:33.540 just don't give out fucking compliments you know what i mean and because they don't want somebody to 0.97

00:22:37.560 fucking compete with them or come up and be like when people when people go to a real entrepreneur 0.99

00:22:43.740 like i don't care how they act they can act like oh i really want you to fucking succeed blah blah blah 0.99

00:22:48.400 i love you like some of these dudes try to make it seem like like it's fluffy and blah blah blah 1.00

00:22:53.420 yeah i could tell you for a fact those same motherfuckers won't return your fucking text 1.00

00:22:57.360 when you text them or won't fucking have you on their show when you got a big big event for them 1.00

00:23:01.600 even though you had them on your show when they had a big event because they're competitive you know 0.81

00:23:05.940 what i mean right right and that's just the way it works so you're not going to ever get validation

00:23:10.440 you're not going to get fucking uh you know somebody who you look up to saying yeah you're doing 0.95

00:23:16.180 really fucking good and if they tell you you're doing good i'd be careful because i think the 0.95

00:23:20.080 people tell you do good just to make you relax a little bit right you know what i mean right 0.97

00:23:24.000 there's not many people out there who tell you the truth so validation is is a it's a extinct animal

00:23:29.900 it doesn't exist you know so you have to get over the fact that you feel fraudulent because

00:23:34.020 you're gonna fucking feel that way until you start believing in yourself and dude it took me a long 0.87

00:23:39.020 time for that like for even even with this like people would comment on my instagram like dude 0.98

00:23:44.200 fucking listen to the podcast was fucking awesome and like i'd be like it was okay like i don't even 0.92

00:23:49.920 know what the fuck i'm doing you know and now i'm like now dude i'm confident that i could fucking 0.99

00:23:55.460 speak with anybody in the world and fucking probably beat them probably do a better job yeah and that's 0.99

00:23:59.740 not being cocky that's factual from what i observed you know there's there's guys out there who i think 0.99

00:24:03.980 are really good eric thomas fucking tony robbins you know those guys inky johnson is a fucking amazing 0.91

00:24:10.160 speaker those guys are on another level like i'm on that level but there's not many guys on 0.93

00:24:14.100 that level right you know what i mean right and uh but i don't want to miss this it wasn't you 0.97

00:24:19.480 didn't need validation from some none of those guys called me and said andy you're a fucking great 0.91

00:24:23.680 speaker right let's let's assume that they would that still is not going to be enough the only true 0.82

00:24:28.740 validation is action and results yes right yeah it's going to be coming from you whatever it is 0.97

00:24:33.780 you're doing right a lot of motherfuckers showing up to see you do it or pay you to do it right 0.91

00:24:38.660 that's where it comes from right you know and then you start believing a lot like like you know 0.99

00:24:43.520 you let you know if i do an event it sells out and we got fucking you know a bunch of people there 0.98

00:24:48.020 and we sold out tickets i'm like wow okay people do care about this shit right and that's that's 0.94

00:24:53.800 important right this ties into a lot of what what you're saying the other day about confidence 0.96

00:24:58.840 what did you say it's confidence is the result of 0.85

00:25:02.200 dude confidence is the result of doing shit that scares the shit out of you until it doesn't scare

00:25:08.480 you right okay and until you do it right yes so dude it's not confidence is not a 0.96

00:25:14.560 a born with asset or character trait it's something you obtain it's a skill it's a knife that you

00:25:20.940 sharpen it's something that you work on and it comes from doing things that you're not comfortable

00:25:26.180 doing until you do them very well and then you get confidence whether that be anything in life

00:25:31.600 and you enjoy doing it because you're good at it yes and dude that's confidence i mean

00:25:36.040 people think like how'd you how do you like not i'm not talking about people saying to me but i hear

00:25:41.580 people say this other people like how do you get confidence like well you know and they assume that 0.95

00:25:46.020 people are like this guy's got such great confidence about him like yeah i bet he fucking built that 0.96

00:25:50.660 shit from nothing right i bet he went through some hard shit to build that because i bet i've met very 0.99

00:25:55.260 few people that are confident that if any that were born confident right you know the world beats 0.99

00:26:01.580 the shit on all of us in one way or another absolutely so if you've got confidence for 0.95

00:26:06.020 for no reason it's usually either either you're being fake or um you just haven't had the world 1.00

00:26:13.320 step on your fucking balls yet right right and this is this is one area where i honestly i take issue 0.99

00:26:18.240 with most of most of the motivational gurus out there because everybody talks so much about how 1.00

00:26:24.360 confidence is believing in yourself and in my opinion i mean if you're if your focus is

00:26:29.440 always on yourself and believing in yourself how do you believe in yourself on you do stuff that 0.97

00:26:34.660 right that's what i'm saying what kind of stuff do you do the shit you're good at that you already 0.84

00:26:38.920 know you can do does that build confidence you you stretch yourself you you you you put yourself out 0.99

00:26:44.900 of the comfort zone you know how to tie your fucking shoes right yeah like you could tie them 0.97

00:26:49.040 without even looking at your shoes without even looking okay so when you tie your shoes today did 0.99

00:26:52.800 you feel more confident about your ability to tie shoes i didn't even think about it it was 0.99

00:26:55.500 exactly because you already know how to do it right when you were fucking two and your mom taught 1.00

00:26:59.540 you how to tie your fucking shoes we celebrated that shit right until you figured out how to 1.00

00:27:04.120 fucking do it and now all of a sudden it's automatic right that's confidence absolutely that's how it 1.00

00:27:08.920 works absolutely but i also feel like there's another side of confidence and and this ties into 0.99

00:27:13.140 what you say all the time which is you have to provide value to people and what i what i have told

00:27:17.820 people what is that if you're you know if you're questioning yourself or you're or you're you know

00:27:22.780 have some sort of self-doubt maybe you've got too much of your emphasis on me maybe you need to put

00:27:28.500 the emphasis on the other person and just be like listen this isn't about me this is about providing

00:27:32.760 providing value to another person that's a great point you know yeah because what do you have to

00:27:36.800 fear if you're providing genuine value to somebody else i talk to my sales staff about this all the 0.96

00:27:41.140 time our goal in our company is to get people fucking results what results i don't care most people 0.95

00:27:48.060 want to gain muscle or lose fat some people want to do both some people they want to talk to 0.99

00:27:52.000 somebody some people need help moving some people want to go to fucking have a beer i don't give a 0.98

00:27:57.180 fuck help them right get the result they're looking for you want to build a successful company build it 0.95

00:28:03.520 around that absolutely build it around providing so much value that people because that's called into 0.98

00:28:09.080 sales you know most people are afraid of sales because they know that what they're selling isn't

00:28:13.800 any real value so there's like a trickery trying to happen there you know but when you go provide

00:28:19.040 real value or something you believe in there shouldn't be anything at all they're holding

00:28:23.520 you back nope and then when you see people get the result you've brought value which gives you

00:28:28.000 confidence that what you're offering is awesome and then you become awesome you know what i mean 0.98

00:28:32.940 absolutely people don't they just don't they don't get it like dude these these fucking terms that 0.99

00:28:40.460 some of these motherfuckers use like self-awareness and fucking confidence most people don't even know what the 0.99

00:28:44.960 fuck that means right it's just a word they use you know break those words down what does it mean to 1.00

00:28:50.740 be self-aware what does it mean to have confidence you know what i mean what does it mean to have 0.99

00:28:54.960 empathy which is the popular word now what does it mean most people can't answer that question no 0.95

00:29:00.380 because they're just yeah because they're just fucking sheep dude yeah yeah absolutely yeah it's a 0.98

00:29:06.440 fucking one sentence soundbite and and it gets fucking you know a million comments and likes 0.99

00:29:11.660 and none of the motherfuckers know what they're talking about yeah that's a success on me and 1.00

00:29:16.640 you know here's my issue here's my issue with that the people that do that shit know they're doing it 1.00

00:29:21.360 they know that the people that they're that they're attracting aren't really going to go out and get 0.99

00:29:26.320 results right so really they're no better than the dude selling fucking snake oil you know better 0.95

00:29:32.300 right they're no better yeah they're worse in some ways because the the dude selling no because 0.95

00:29:36.700 the fucking full circle is going to come around to where the person blames himself like i said in the 0.86

00:29:41.080 beginning and they're going to say you know what i did this dude's program three times it didn't 0.99

00:29:44.980 work it must be me right and they're going to be fucked right that's why people who are fat stay 1.00

00:29:50.380 fucking fat you don't think the people who are fucking fat try to lose weight no they all try to lose 1.00

00:29:55.240 weight but they try to lose weight by eliminating the work they try to go buy you know a pill or a 1.00

00:30:03.220 fucking program or something a waist trainer some bullshit you know and do we sell i know people 1.00

00:30:09.320 are thinking like you own a supplement company you're saying yeah we sell fucking fat burners 1.00

00:30:12.120 because they do work if you fucking work with them but if you don't do the work don't fucking buy them 1.00

00:30:16.600 because you're an idiot because if that's if that exists somebody out there would be a fucking 1.00

00:30:20.760 gazillionaire and there isn't one like that right you know the work is always part of the deal but 1.00

00:30:26.940 you know you have you can't prey on people's it's just not morally right you know what i mean and and

00:30:36.080 dude you know these people who are trying to lose weight they fucking try over and over and over 0.99

00:30:41.240 again eventually say fuck it i'm fat that's why they get like that i don't care what anybody says 1.00

00:30:46.760 man nobody's happy feeling like that no absolutely not you know dude i'm fucking i was 330 fucking 0.99

00:30:52.440 pounds at the beginning of the year and like dude i was fucking miserable i just didn't talk about how 0.95

00:30:55.880 miserable i was well i can tell i mean you're you're oh you've always had a lot of energy to your

00:31:00.160 personality but i can tell i could literally tell how much more positive you are now that 0.53

00:31:06.040 yeah because i want to fucking kill myself every day yeah like dude i'm not gonna i'm not gonna 0.97

00:31:10.220 be somebody who wants to fucking put on a fake smile and be like oh i'm fucking so happy because 0.99

00:31:14.760 i'm happy with my fucking curves no you're not you're not right right you know and dude that's 1.00

00:31:21.860 that's i just i don't buy into that shit like dude tell the truth right it's not about physical 0.99

00:31:26.640 looks about how you fucking feel like if you're not doing this is a good point okay 0.99

00:31:31.440 people hear what i just said and i think i'm like fucking fat shaming or something i'm not 0.99

00:31:36.720 because what i'm saying is that it's about what you feel like i don't care if you're fucking fat 0.99

00:31:42.260 because if you're working out every day and you're eating right and you're still fucking heavy 0.97

00:31:45.300 you're gonna feel good that you're doing those things that are positive for your body they're gonna 0.99

00:31:48.680 build confidence in you right right but if you're one of these people who doesn't do shit and 0.99

00:31:52.920 you're like oh i fucking love that i'm fat blah blah blah dude you're lying right 0.99

00:31:56.400 fucking lying right and that's not fat shaming that's that's the truth i've fucking been there 0.99

00:32:00.740 right you know what i mean i think you're spot on dude i know i'm spot on because i've fucking been 0.99

00:32:06.200 there yeah so this is good stuff really good stuff i want to i want to recap okay so like dude what 0.82

00:32:11.940 i'm saying is this is important to fucking do things so that you feel confident and good 0.84

00:32:15.280 absolutely like you can't just float through life and say i'm so happy with this because you never 0.93

00:32:18.900 feel good absolutely so that's what i'm saying no i i i pick up on what you're saying so in terms of

00:32:24.480 those of you who are struggling with motivation okay point is you don't need validation you just

00:32:32.340 need the validation of action um if you are struggling with self-doubt get your focus off

00:32:39.360 yourself and on other people and providing value to them so that's internal those are the things that

00:32:45.160 i think drag people down internally keep them from being motivated to actually do things what about

00:32:49.660 externally so to me it seems like victories and defeats play a huge role in motivation like so

00:32:57.340 when you win you want to win more and when you lose you want to give up i know we've talked about

00:33:03.020 this before some gurus say that when people are first starting out you know you should want to give

00:33:07.860 them a taste of victory right away and that that will get things rolling and i know you know i'm a

00:33:13.600 grew up in kansas so i'm a k-state fan when it comes to football and i know that when bill

00:33:18.300 snyder turned around the k-state football program which was like literally historically the worst

00:33:23.460 one of the things he did was he intentionally scheduled fairly easy easy games so that people

00:33:29.140 got used to winning what are your thoughts about that in terms i think it's important i think i think 0.88

00:33:34.700 that's not a bad idea there's a big difference between giving somebody a fucking trophy for last 0.86

00:33:38.140 place or showing somebody they could be successful and giving them a little bit of confidence keep 0.95

00:33:42.460 going big huge difference you know i'm not somebody who's so hard-headed and you know oh you got 1.00

00:33:48.160 to fucking be this strong guy and blah don't be a pussy like i'm not right so far that way right 1.00

00:33:54.740 that i don't think that you're supposed to train people properly i mean it's important for them to 1.00

00:33:58.420 have little victories you know and celebrate little victories but it's also important not to celebrate 0.88

00:34:04.380 those little victories when the time has passed that those things should be a fucking automatic 0.98

00:34:08.320 right john wooden ucla coach who's won more ncaa championships than anybody in any fucking sport 0.98

00:34:15.620 right more championships okay he used to start practice first day practice first thing they did 0.96

00:34:22.140 was putting how to put your socks on correctly okay how to fucking we're talking about basketball 0.96

00:34:27.140 how to put your socks on correctly then he would explain why because you're going to run an average 0.80

00:34:32.140 of six something miles during a basketball game if your socks aren't on just right you could develop 0.98

00:34:37.640 blisters which will keep you from being able to play okay so let's start with the very basic shit 0.96

00:34:44.580 and dude you know what they go down the line all have their socks on correct and he'd be like good 0.99

00:34:48.940 job everybody good but you better fucking believe that three months into the season he's not fucking 0.99

00:34:54.200 congratulating people for putting their fucking socks on right you see what i'm saying that's an 0.96

00:34:58.120 incredible illustration right yeah so you know it's important like when i first started playing guitar 0.98

00:35:03.760 when i was 30 years old i didn't know anything okay so i went in there and like dude for me even

00:35:10.580 still to watch these dudes that fucking play guitar that play it so well that it's like it looks 0.90

00:35:15.600 effortless like my teacher he used to be able to and he still can he'd hear a song that he never heard 0.99

00:35:21.480 before and fucking play it hear it one time and play it and i'm like dude that is like the most 0.93

00:35:27.440 incredible thing i've ever seen and i used to say that and i would say that is an incredible talent 0.98

00:35:33.020 and he would get so fucking pissed off when i said that because it's not a talent he's played for 40 0.98

00:35:38.520 fucking years see what i mean right so when i went in there you know he would you know he'd be like 0.99

00:35:45.280 okay well this is a g chord and this is like you put like this and like dude i'd fucking strum the 0.99

00:35:49.840 guitar and he'd be like that's awesome you did it and i'm like looking at him and i'm like the fuck 0.99

00:35:55.020 man you're playing like all this shit and i'm here making one noise it don't even sound right you're 0.99

00:35:59.940 telling me but he's doing that so that i believe that i could get to that point i totally believe in 0.99

00:36:05.660 that right i mean how could you not believe so for the sake of the astric holes among us 0.97

00:36:10.240 how is that because i mean you said you believe in small little victories how is that different

00:36:15.660 from what you've said sometimes where you don't agree with the whole setting small manageable goals

00:36:20.140 for yourself because your goal shouldn't be to put your socks on right your goal should be to

00:36:25.580 fucking win an ncaa championship okay so you're saying what your goal my goal shouldn't be to go in 0.99

00:36:31.560 and get fucking play one g chord on the fucking guitar my goal should be to be fucking keith urban 0.99

00:36:36.160 you know what i'm saying like dude that's that's what i'm saying like set your goals big but celebrate 0.99

00:36:42.200 a little along the way it's not yeah just because you fucking lost five pounds and your goal is to 0.99

00:36:47.580 lose 50 doesn't mean you fucking are victorious it doesn't mean you go out and eat a fucking ice cream 0.99

00:36:52.040 or fucking pizza yeah it means you fucking say acknowledge it say dude all right maybe i can do this 0.99

00:36:58.340 and move on yeah you know it's it's about building confidence it's a totally different thing it is a 0.99

00:37:04.160 totally different thing but did you just use the example of keith urban keith urban is probably the

00:37:09.100 greatest guitar player on the face of the earth i thought keith urban was a country music he is

00:37:13.260 he's probably the really yes he's one of the top guitar players on the face i had no idea yeah oh he's

00:37:19.360 better than like jimmy hendrix and those guys he's he's considered one of the top guitar i'm not saying

00:37:23.600 he's better than jimmy hendrix but i mean he's at this time of people who are alive on the planet

00:37:28.720 he is one of the best guitar players on planet earth as in the guy that sings i want to kiss a

00:37:33.100 girl yes every person who plays guitar knows what i'm talking about okay well i i'm not doubting you

00:37:37.580 i just i the only thing i think of him is brad paisley is too is that right yeah interesting all

00:37:42.120 right very cool so all right moving right along so simon sinek has the famous phrase find your why

00:37:49.000 okay another fucking catchphrase that most people don't understand right i totally get it we're 0.98

00:37:54.340 gonna break it down i totally get it and now it's time for people look at the fucking book 0.98

00:37:58.900 and by the way it's a pretty good book yeah okay it's not one of my top top books but it's a good 0.95

00:38:04.820 book right i get it but people look at the fucking title of the book they assume that they already know 0.95

00:38:13.740 what it means and they don't read it and then they start using it you gotta find your why it's all 0.99

00:38:17.820 about your why blah blah if i hear someone motherfucker talk about their why i'm gonna 1.00

00:38:21.560 punch them in the fucking eyeball like dude shut up you don't even know what you're talking about 1.00

00:38:26.060 right well let's explain it to them because i as i understand it and and true confessions i've read 1.00

00:38:31.400 articles about it i've not read the book but my understanding is that to really motivate action

00:38:37.280 you have to understand why you're doing something dude why would you do something if you don't know

00:38:40.620 the purpose right so what are your thoughts and my point if you don't believe in the purpose and you

00:38:44.980 don't if the purpose isn't in your heart you're gonna do things far less effectively and far less

00:38:51.280 thoroughly than you would if the purpose was something that you were completely passionate

00:38:56.540 about all right and purpose drives everybody you know at the bottom level of the economy people got 0.98

00:39:02.300 to fucking eat so they go to work at mcdonald's and they fry fucking french fries and they make enough 0.94

00:39:08.120 money to survive all right at the top level of economy those people contrary to what most people think 1.00

00:39:14.980 are doing things for a purpose mark zuckerberg don't give a fuck about the billions of billions 0.97

00:39:20.200 and billions of dollars he's worth now i don't know that for a fact but i'm pretty fucking sure 0.75

00:39:24.660 what he does care about and what he's passionate about what drives him and what his why is connecting

00:39:30.080 people developing something that has never been developed being an innovator and doing things in 0.84

00:39:36.080 our inventing a whole new fucking industry that's his purpose and he believes in that purpose 0.72

00:39:42.000 and because of that purpose he's made a billion of dollars at the low end of the economy those 0.97

00:39:48.680 people's purpose is to survive and quote unquote make money that's why they make so little that's

00:39:53.300 purpose-driven people make the most money money-driven people make the least and people people will argue 0.97

00:39:59.540 with that they'll be like oh i'm a fucking financial advisor i love money i make 200 grand a year well i hate 0.98

00:40:05.280 to break it to you bro but 200 grand a year in the big picture ain't fucking shit so you could think you're a 1.00

00:40:10.680 big shot and wherever the fuck you're from but i know people that wipe their ass with 200 grand a 0.99

00:40:14.860 year they make 200 grand a fucking hour that's making money you see what i'm saying yeah and 1.00

00:40:20.680 those people who are making 200 grand an hour they're not doing it by worrying about how much 0.92

00:40:24.440 they're making they're doing it by worrying about their why their passion their purpose what they love

00:40:30.020 and being the best at that and that's what they fucking do that's that's why this the phrase you know 1.00

00:40:36.720 let your passion another catchphrase this this this fucking episode should be called stupid 1.00

00:40:41.720 fucking catchphrases that you don't know what the fuck you mean you know but that's why you have 1.00

00:40:47.080 people who are so passionate are always at the top and people who fucking work for money are always 0.99

00:40:53.740 make it have a struggle with money right you know what i mean so there are 7.25 billion people in the

00:40:58.480 world and every one of them might have a different why but i'm just curious about this let's suppose that

00:41:03.480 somebody says andy i totally get what you're saying i haven't i haven't discovered my specific

00:41:08.800 why yet but is there one universal motivation that you think every human being could connect with

00:41:17.000 that would motivate their actions you know what i'm saying while they're waiting to figure out what

00:41:22.860 their specific why is is there one universal driving motivation there's two ways to look there's two

00:41:27.800 things i could say here yeah that's a really good question i think there is okay one if that's where

00:41:35.320 you are okay you don't know what it is you want i would start learning the practical skills of success

00:41:41.620 you know what i mean and the practical skills of running a business like things like money management 0.54

00:41:45.820 marketing uh you know everything all the shit you have to do accounting uh you know managing people 0.67

00:41:56.540 because at the end of the day those skills are going to come in play if you're going to take 0.84

00:42:00.700 your passion to the maximum all right so let's say you don't know what to do start studying and being

00:42:05.380 around people who are good at leadership who are good at managing who are good at teaching cultural

00:42:10.260 values and show people how to actually work um how to market how to get your word out how to connect

00:42:16.620 with people because those skills are always good that's why you see so many lawyers and so many 0.97

00:42:20.720 fucking chiropractors that come out of school and can't do shit because they don't ever study those 0.99

00:42:24.880 things on their own they get their degree and they're like oh well i'm a fucking lawyer well 1.00

00:42:29.680 you guess what motherfucker you're also a business owner you didn't do shit to learn that 0.99

00:42:33.160 right you know what i mean because you're right and ultimately even if you're working for someone 1.00

00:42:36.680 else you're eventually going to have to fucking unless you're a public defender you're going to 0.93

00:42:39.940 have to get out and and do your business right you know these dudes who are big shot lawyers 0.99

00:42:44.720 they don't they're not working for a firm dude they are the firm yeah you know and these guys

00:42:49.960 it's just so that's what i would do by the way i should add too that there's a whole industry

00:42:54.580 called medical practice industry and the reality is is that most people who run practices the business

00:43:00.540 aspect actually make more than the doctors well of course well that's what i'm saying so it so it

00:43:05.960 behooves people to learn learning skills right exactly um especially management because i'm going to tell

00:43:13.240 you no matter what leadership and management and sales if you go learn those three skills and master

00:43:19.320 those three skills and a great place to learn those skills is in a retail environment because

00:43:23.500 you get it on a on a micro level it's it's very right very cut and dry um you know retail jobs are

00:43:31.320 great for teaching those skills uh but if you could master those three you know sales management and

00:43:37.580 leadership you could be pretty fucking skill heavy for whatever it is you decide you want to do

00:43:42.860 right um the other answer to your question is you know i think that if people don't know what to do 0.65

00:43:52.740 and they don't want to do that you know as far as they're not going to go out and study these skills

00:43:58.760 which you should um you know most people don't ever come and find their passion they don't ever they

00:44:06.660 don't ever they don't ever look for more because they you know like we've talked about a million

00:44:13.760 times most people just do what their parents do and they do what's expected of them and they do what

00:44:19.580 they're supposed to do and and they're so they're not searching for anything outside of that so they

00:44:24.100 never really find it so um you have to actively you know try to find something you think is cool that

00:44:31.600 you believe in you know and really man i think a lot of people find those in their natural interests

00:44:36.560 like what are you googling or what are you watching on youtube like what pay attention to what you're 0.93

00:44:41.580 doing right you know like for me like i watch a ton of youtube it's all car shit like i would love to 0.88

00:44:46.840 do something with cars you know what i mean and don't hit me up with no business plans about cars i mean

00:44:50.860 i would love to do something with cars but i'm talking about like i want to own lamborghini yeah

00:44:55.380 fucking own a lamborghini right so right what did i answer what you asked well yeah i mean it did 0.81

00:45:04.260 you did answer i was talking so much i forgot no no you did i just i guess what i was saying is that 0.96

00:45:08.680 you know everybody's always saying one of two things either i don't know what to do or i don't

00:45:14.240 know what my ultimate motivation is and what i was gonna what i kind of what i was driving at is

00:45:18.800 don't you think on some level we could all connect to the motivation of just i mean it sounds oh yeah

00:45:25.280 go ahead dude i the the ultimate connectivity i think of people is to get is to give and help

00:45:30.460 yeah i think that people uh is that really what you're gonna say yeah yeah i mean that's people

00:45:35.060 you know dude i would be totally fine honestly like making no more money and then i make right now

00:45:43.700 and doing nothing more than helping other people like homeless or like you know and that's what i'm

00:45:50.900 trying to do with like our uh our charity that we're doing with dan fleischman yeah um with the

00:45:56.280 backpacks and then also uh um you know what i get to do on a daily basis is pretty pretty intertwined

00:46:03.520 with that purpose which is why we're good at it um because we have a lot of people who are coming to

00:46:08.140 us for results they're out of shape they don't feel good they're not confident they're stressed we help

00:46:13.940 them with those problems you know somebody wants to lose 100 pounds dude we've had thousands and

00:46:17.920 thousands and thousands of people and i'm not fucking exaggerating it's probably tens of thousands 0.65

00:46:21.960 of people that have come bought products off our website called our customer service people and lost 0.93

00:46:28.000 fucking 40 50 60 100 pounds or more and that changes their life so there's a lot of satisfaction in that

00:46:35.260 you know what i mean yeah absolutely so i i enjoy that like i feel like i am between this 0.99

00:46:42.020 this podcast and the project that we're that we're working on and the other things that i do i feel

00:46:47.580 like that i am fulfilling my purpose and i haven't met a person yet that doesn't enjoy being a part of

00:46:54.400 some sort of charitable act or or or being a part of some uh a culture of giving or helping you get

00:47:01.080 what i'm saying absolutely so i do think that people could i think that's a common core for most like 0.99

00:47:05.040 normally wired people i mean there is weird motherfuckers out there that like that kill like other 0.99

00:47:09.660 people's cats and dogs and shit that you just can't fucking help right but normal people yeah i think 0.99

00:47:15.000 i think it's providing good right on that level i mean i know that you and i have talked to me we're 0.99

00:47:20.660 not going to give details to everybody we we've talked about there's some smaller projects that

00:47:25.020 we're going to develop that probably what we'll do is just end up donating a ton of like pretty much

00:47:30.720 all the proceeds to like whatever the the veteran thing that you're part of or or dan fleischman's

00:47:36.540 thing but that stuff's fun you know it makes you feel good to do that kind of stuff but um well

00:47:41.820 before i get to the last last two things i wanted to ask you about uh guys connect with us um andy is

00:47:49.540 at andy frisella on instagram at mfceo dot excuse me dash one on snapchat are you still snapping

00:47:56.580 regularly yeah i just haven't the last couple days okay i was in the hospital yeah yeah that's kind

00:48:01.580 yeah freaky so i i uh i guess i'll just say it because i said it but yeah i have an irregular

00:48:08.520 heartbeat called atrial fibrillation i've had it for a long time since i since i was like 27 um

00:48:14.480 and i had a like an episode of it in the gym so i go to the hospital on uh monday i was sick

00:48:21.000 tuesday i was in the hospital wednesday i was in the hospital in doctor's offices so i haven't

00:48:25.460 snapped at all this week yeah um i'm good i mean everything's cool it's just uh it just happens

00:48:31.180 once in a while it's gonna be scary though that pusitis comes out of nowhere man i know

00:48:33.920 i i my my never mind well facebook is uh facebook.com forward slash andrew frisella 0.96

00:48:41.700 dude you're the one that fucking passed out on the fucking elliptical it had to be 0.99

00:48:44.980 it had to be ambulance to the fucking hospital talk about pusitis yeah 1.00

00:48:49.500 fuck life i'm done yeah i never had to be carried out of the gym in a fucking stretcher bitch 1.00

00:48:54.620 it doesn't it doesn't count if i don't remember it oh yeah it's easy to say that's like all the 1.00

00:48:59.880 ugly girls you banged oh remember i was drunk oh now all of a sudden i bang girls you always 0.98

00:49:04.260 say i bang guys i meant to say dudes oh okay well on that note um so yeah i'm at vaughn kohler 0.96

00:49:11.160 v-a-u-g-h-n-k-o-h-l-e-r tyler is at m-a-i underscore t-y-l-e-r and uh guys we mentioned it earlier if

00:49:21.180 you're new to the podcast uh we're doing something that's kind of the long game for a cultural

00:49:25.620 transformation that is the uh the series of books children's books otis and charlie

00:49:30.420 check out otisandcharlie.com but but more importantly uh just head over to amazon.com

00:49:35.560 and uh and purchase a copy we're gonna do an event yeah the the event i was thinking would

00:49:40.800 be if you want to come to the event it's going to be exclusively for people who buy 15 books

00:49:45.260 so like i don't think we're gonna sell tickets like if you buy 15 books and you could show me

00:49:50.120 your amazon receipt and prove that you got the books yeah we'll let you come yeah because i'm

00:49:55.400 you know that's you know and what i want i want people to give those books to people who have

00:49:59.880 children and have kids and stuff because guys the purpose of the books is to be a tool it's not like

00:50:04.860 hey we just wrote some fucking children's books um and by the way there's no word bad words in there 0.89

00:50:09.560 anything yeah they're children friendly um but the the idea behind what we do here guys is that we want 0.98

00:50:15.620 to impact the world you know we're trying to teach people the values and the culture and the skills

00:50:21.220 they need to be successful in life and that doesn't mean be a successful trillionaire or billionaire even

00:50:27.180 a millionaire it just means to find be able to fucking find success in the areas that they want

00:50:31.340 to be successful and those things are always parallel so um if you read the book you'll understand 0.95

00:50:36.520 the first book is about charlie um who basically is a ambitious little puppy dog and is my real

00:50:45.300 life puppy um and she wants to you know basically buy a certain toy and her brother otis is the lazy 0.94

00:50:53.680 dog and he he wants to sit around his ass all day and it tells the story of how she chooses to go work 0.97

00:50:59.820 and he chooses and it parallels what happens when you do those two things and you know it doesn't 0.99

00:51:04.260 matter if i'm giving away the story because the story's not for you anyway right um but you know it

00:51:08.580 shows from a kid's perspective that if you work fucking hard you get rewarded and if you sit on the 0.97

00:51:15.120 tv your ass on the tv you get nothing right and that's an important lesson it is you know and i 0.99

00:51:21.000 swear to you i mean dude you guys can you guys can trust me or not but i i read that story to my 0.99

00:51:26.760 daughter she's three years old she's highly advanced so she's uh she's picking up everything 0.81

00:51:31.440 she's already accepted into harvard yeah exactly but uh no i mean she first of all she loves it she's

00:51:36.240 in love with with the characters wanted me to read it how does she love the toys what's that how does

00:51:40.500 she love the toys she loves the toys especially since those are the only toys in existence for

00:51:44.940 right now until we get them till we got she's got the prototype of the otis and charlie toys so she

00:51:49.740 she loves them but um oh those are the only ones those are the ones you brought me too yeah so do you

00:51:54.720 have them back i have them back yeah the ones you were looking for the other day both had a set and

00:51:59.020 then it was that same night that i saw him post it on his instagram i can get it back no no no i don't 0.97

00:52:02.980 need it back i'm not gonna take your little kids fucking toys but anyway here's my point 1.00

00:52:06.280 is that i was in i was in the uh the kitchen getting dinner ready and my daughter comes in 1.00

00:52:12.100 with a broom and starts sweeping with the broom and i was like you're full of shit no i'm i swear 1.00

00:52:17.340 to you this this is you're gonna go to hell vaughn no no this is truth i said lila what are you doing 1.00

00:52:22.020 she looks at me she goes i'm working hard daddy i want to be happy in life no way i swear to you 0.97

00:52:27.400 she said that is awesome it is awesome and my my wife and i like holy cow but kids pick up on that

00:52:31.980 stuff awesome it is awesome like and i just got like chills and it is honestly truth i swear to

00:52:36.400 you i guess i shouldn't swear but but i i'm well i know you i know you wouldn't lie no i'm not lying

00:52:41.860 and it's awesome how many shots that you did no no no no i just talked to somebody about that the

00:52:45.740 other day well 30 shots i must do 30 shots yeah don't make me pull out that i'm just gonna have

00:52:50.220 to prove it you know we were in Salt Lake City we were at uh Sundance Film Festival yeah yeah i still

00:52:55.940 got the video of him almost passed out in the limbo i was drunk he's telling us he did 30 shots 0.91

00:53:00.480 new year's 2013 i'm telling you he did three fucking shots at the uh at an irish pub in 0.94

00:53:05.520 manhattan kansas it was 31 shots of water now you just discredited the whole story about your 0.99

00:53:12.640 daughter because everybody knows you're a liar well listen before we totally get off the the subject 0.98

00:53:18.080 so um yeah so anyway so guys i i did i did i did want to say one other thing don't turn it off 0.94

00:53:24.840 we got more how are we doing on time we're fine okay so here here's what i wanted to say though

00:53:30.220 they can come back later if they don't with regard to the the the response has been overwhelmingly

00:53:36.560 positive as i was telling andy and chris we got it we actually got an email from the uh from the

00:53:41.280 distributor who knows all things you know what's typical for wow yeah and he said wow because of

00:53:47.540 the number of orders that we gotten which i'm not going to tell you but it was it was high

00:53:51.040 but every now and then i'm getting an email and this is the email and i want you to speak to this

00:53:56.240 because i think this is really based on a wrong understanding and the question is andy

00:54:01.200 gary v says stay in your lane you're the mf ceo you're not staying in your lane by doing this

00:54:11.520 children's thing and i've gotten a handful of not many but just kind of a handful what what do you say 0.99

00:54:17.740 to that let's say that you have a mental disability if you can't fucking understand what i'm trying to 0.99

00:54:23.000 do here right okay this is that is my lane my lane is to fucking foster change my lane is to 1.00

00:54:29.080 fucking create a new breed of people my lane is to inspire people to be the best that they can 0.95

00:54:36.240 and how can you better inspire people to be the best they can if you're not starting at the very 0.99

00:54:43.100 beginning you know i can write any book i can write a book for 10 years old or 12 year old or 15 year

00:54:50.460 old or 19 year olds i can write a book for adults and i will but this is the long game this isn't

00:54:57.680 fucking you know a side project we're trying to create a revolution you know a revolution of success 0.85

00:55:04.040 and not just financial but in all areas a revolution of greatness you know as defined by our last podcast 0.99

00:55:11.540 you know succeeding in all areas of your life is greatness you know and that how do you not you can't do

00:55:17.780 that if you let people be ingrained with a negative worker bee um you know unsuccessful mindset from the 0.99

00:55:27.360 get-go you just can't so staying in my lane i'm fucking all the way in the middle of my fucking lane 1.00

00:55:32.600 i'm going 150 fucking miles an hour down my lane just because you can't understand what my lane is 0.99

00:55:38.240 doesn't mean i'm not out i'm not out of it absolutely you know and and not only will you write a book or 0.93

00:55:44.280 books you have and we're in the process of of editing those and getting those ready for publication

00:55:49.080 and guys the success book people really write that shit yeah not many i mean not compared to the amount 0.97

00:55:54.460 of uh seven motherfuckers a hard helmet i don't want to hurt themselves out there in society okay so 0.98

00:55:59.880 two more things what last last issue is uh you know we talked about this before in success greatness 0.99

00:56:04.820 those those episodes and pretty much the entire mfceo project that there's a certain faith

00:56:11.000 aspect to motivation and i mean that not in the organized religion sense of the world word but in

00:56:16.320 the sense that i believe very similar yeah yeah but but that i believe that my work will be worth it

00:56:21.080 and you've said a billion times let me give you an example well well hold on let me finish you've

00:56:27.000 said a billion times this isn't magic it's work do the work and you get results period is this really

00:56:34.000 the secret of your motivation that you believe i'll give you an example action produces results i'll give

00:56:39.000 an example yeah 100 it does dude it's fucking physics there to every action there's an equal 0.96

00:56:45.780 reaction you know it's fucking it's the way it works it works with everything look i set my goal 0.98

00:56:52.680 this year to be in better shape than my my goal to be in this year was to be in better fucking shape 0.99

00:56:59.420 than any of our sponsored athletes our male sponsored athletes and if you know i didn't think about 0.99

00:57:06.480 my company i've got some sponsored athletes that look like they're chiseled out of fucking granite 0.95

00:57:10.800 and one of them actually mike kunahan is on the cover of iron man for january so if that gives you 0.97

00:57:16.580 any indication what these dudes fucking look like that was my goal i was 330 fucking pounds my goal was 0.96

00:57:22.900 to look better than him you know what i don't look better than him i don't i don't really honestly 0.98

00:57:28.440 i don't look even close to being better than him not even in in like i don't i don't know like

00:57:33.680 it's it's not comparable like if you took my shirt off and i stood next to him i look like a lump of 0.99

00:57:37.900 fucking shit but here's the thing i work my fucking dick off all year and i've lost 75 fucking pounds 0.99

00:57:45.400 right and you know what i didn't end up exactly where i wanted to be but look how fucking much 0.99

00:57:49.920 better i am than i was you 10x it that's right i didn't maybe i didn't hit where i wanted to be and

00:57:55.000 that's what we talk about setting gigantic goals i might not be where i wanted to be but i am a million

00:58:01.640 times healthier a million times happier a million times more focused and a million times better in

00:58:06.880 every area of my life because i went through and have faith in the process it's the same thing with

00:58:12.120 business it's the same thing in anything you know and just so you know because i know mike listens to 0.99

00:58:18.120 this by fucking may or june i am going to look better than you motherfucker and that's true that i mean 0.99

00:58:24.100 so you know i'm not giving up i just you know i i'm i'm enthusiastically pursuing that goal even 0.99

00:58:35.200 harder now because now i respect it because i see how hard it is so now when i look at him you know i 1.00

00:58:40.740 don't say oh that guy's fucking lucky for blah blah blah i'm like man that motherfucker works his ass 0.99

00:58:44.880 off which he does you know but but uh you know that's a perfect example of you may not end up 0.99

00:58:52.380 exactly where you want to be that's why you set big goals if you're gonna you know if you want to

00:58:55.960 make a million you better try to make 10 million because that way if you fail maybe you made two 0.85

00:59:00.460 and you still are a lot better off than when you were making fucking 20 grand right absolutely it's 0.90

00:59:07.140 been said before but i think this really articulates what what you're trying to say is you know what 0.86

00:59:13.220 would you do if you knew you couldn't fail and that's really what you're saying you can't fail

00:59:17.480 you're you're going to succeed there's a plan to succeed in anything like yeah people have this

00:59:22.760 they have this idea and they they look at the biggest examples of success right like just use

00:59:28.720 financial success because it's easy to to comprehend it for this example they look at bill gates or they

00:59:35.520 look at steve jobs or they look at uh warren buffett and they say i want to be rich and they think 0.90

00:59:40.580 they look at those guys and say those are rich guys well no shit those are the richest guys in 0.98

00:59:45.340 the fucking world okay you probably are never going to be that but that doesn't mean that you 0.99

00:59:52.280 can't make five six seven hundred thousand dollars and live a great life it also doesn't mean you can't 0.99

00:59:57.940 make five six seven million dollars and live a great life those guys are literally making like a 0.90

01:00:03.520 million dollars an hour some crazy shit like that you know i don't i don't need a million emails 0.96

01:00:08.500 telling me the real math i don't give a fuck about the real math i'm just saying i saw a statistic 1.00

01:00:13.240 one time that bill gates could spend his entire life shoveling hundred dollar bills into a fucking 0.99

01:00:17.660 fire and he could never run out of money okay that's a lot of fucking money yeah you shouldn't 0.99

01:00:24.000 really consider that as rich like that's that's on a different fucking level that's an extreme 0.96

01:00:28.860 and when you're comparing yourself to that you know what yeah you might not ever be that but a lot

01:00:33.340 of people compare themselves to that and they think you know i'll never be that so don't even 0.98

01:00:36.260 fucking try right let me tell you man you don't gotta make fucking you don't have to make a million 0.94

01:00:42.120 dollars a year to live an awesome life you know what i mean you dude everybody here is capable of 0.99

01:00:48.160 making a few hundred thousand dollars a year everybody listen everybody absolutely everybody

01:00:52.760 listening has that capability you know what i mean and a few hundred thousand dollars a year if

01:00:58.020 you're making fucking 40 is a it's life-changing amount a life-changing amount completely change your 0.98

01:01:04.300 life you know but if you want to make 200 you should try to make 2 million because things are 0.98

01:01:11.980 going to happen where you might not hit that goal you might try to make 2 million make 20 you don't

01:01:15.240 know but i know this if i hadn't set my goal to beat mike cunahan for the diet this year and my

01:01:21.240 conditioning i'd still be 330 fucking pounds and i'd be sitting here talking about what i should have 0.98

01:01:26.080 done this year like most of you motherfuckers are doing i don't want to live that way and neither 0.99

01:01:30.140 should you well said so last thing i want to talk about and i admittedly i'm going a little a little 0.98

01:01:37.380 heavy and deep here but i think it's important because people people really listen to what you

01:01:41.080 say and i think there's some confusion in some people's minds not because of you but because maybe

01:01:45.420 people are i don't know they're hearing things that aren't really being said so we get a lot of

01:01:51.160 a lot of emails and they're great to read but every now and then we come across i i come across an email

01:01:57.980 where there's somebody's just a little bit confused it's okay especially to be confused well

01:02:03.260 especially uh i think this is relevant because we're you know in the holiday season and sometimes

01:02:08.820 that can be rough for some people could you take a few minutes to explain to people the difference

01:02:14.040 because i got an email from a young kid and it really kind of just really impacted me because he

01:02:18.320 was talking about like he was sharing different symptoms that he that he that were kind of part of

01:02:26.180 his life or his personality and and and as i'm listening to that and he's beating himself up 0.97

01:02:30.680 because he's like i'm not motivated and and i think i'm a pussy yes i just said the word um 0.98

01:02:36.320 and pussy i just now i did um but it's it was clear to me dude in reading this dude was clinically 0.98

01:02:45.220 depressed yeah like this wasn't just being unmotivated you know i'd like to do a whole podcast on that 0.96

01:02:51.340 because i i think there's a lot of people that listen to us that they're good people but they're

01:02:54.940 like beating themselves up it's not a motivation issue i mean why wouldn't why wouldn't you beat

01:02:59.600 yourself up think about what what the society we live in is look at tv man it's doing what i just

01:03:06.420 showed you it's it's showing the extreme of everything it's showing it's showing the kardashians 0.99

01:03:12.080 popularity it's showing bill gates money it's showing all this shit that these people automatically 0.98

01:03:20.300 assume i'll never have right and then they get they're like well fuck it if i never have it i'm 0.99

01:03:25.060 just gonna do what i do every day and what i like now which is i like to get drunk with my friends or 0.99

01:03:29.540 i like to get high or i like to spend 20 hours on fucking internet a day looking at porn i mean dude 0.91

01:03:35.740 people don't they just don't do anything because they're bombarded and guess what when you don't do 0.96

01:03:40.960 anything you're gonna get depressed you gotta do something this is what i was saying about the

01:03:45.500 the heavy fat people earlier right like dude you've got you have got to do things on a daily

01:03:51.080 basis to feel good about yourself you have to earn like we talk about it you have to earn the right

01:03:56.400 to feel good about yourself right and that comes from doing things and when you don't do things you're 0.98

01:04:01.800 gonna be depressed and so our society the way it's set up because they show us all the top level shit 0.92

01:04:07.060 and we're so far away that we can never even imagine us being there when you don't even have to be 0.98

01:04:12.680 there to be really happy that's going to cause us to feel bad about ourselves right and it's going

01:04:17.900 to cause things like depression depression is a lot more than just feeling bad depression is a is a

01:04:24.460 i used to think and a lot of people would be surprised when i hear this because i'm such a 0.97

01:04:29.160 like no excuses dude right i used to think that depression was something for fucking weak people 1.00

01:04:34.860 like i used to think oh people are mentally weak they're pussies they're they're blah blah blah blah 1.00

01:04:40.540 no it's a physiological problem it's a it's a reaction of chemicals in your brain that's not 0.99

01:04:47.420 working correctly and if you've ever experienced real depression you know what i'm talking about

01:04:53.980 you know i've i've dealt with it for almost 20 years and it's been fucking extremely hard and i go 0.94

01:05:00.120 through extreme highs extreme lows and it's a constant battle it's going to be my whole life

01:05:05.320 right you know because my brain is now you know in that it's afflicted that way um

01:05:11.080 you know so if you're one of these people who's experiencing it um you know you've got to realize

01:05:20.060 that you can work through that it's not a death sentence it's not right you know like if you're

01:05:24.460 having thoughts of killing yourself like that's not that's not something that no one nobody else

01:05:30.660 understands right like there's millions of people out there that have those same feelings they just

01:05:34.940 don't talk about it you know and i think it's a subject that needs to be explored more in depth

01:05:41.700 and and talked about because so many people have it but it's so taboo to talk about because nobody

01:05:50.380 wants to feel weak right and nobody wants to show that like oh that guy's not what he says he is or

01:05:55.180 this or that um that so nobody does it and then you have this isolation effect of you know like

01:06:02.380 whoever's listening right now is suffering from depression probably is like well nobody understands 0.83

01:06:06.100 right no there's people that understand man absolutely it's a fucking real thing and really 0.91

01:06:10.080 plenty of people who are willing to do my life changed when i finally said something about it yeah 0.80

01:06:13.520 you know i had a nervous breakdown like a fucking real one like where i ended up like being non-functionable 0.93

01:06:18.740 and i went to my doctor like dude and it was causing physical pain like physical pain on my face 0.98

01:06:24.200 physical pain in my eyes like i it was so bad that i just couldn't fuck dude it was this is not gonna 0.99

01:06:32.740 make sense to people unless you've dealt with it but it was so bad where i was like dude i have to kill 0.98

01:06:37.600 myself because i feel so fucking bad like physically not just mentally like i'm sad like dude my body 0.95

01:06:43.480 fucking hurt my face hurt my head hurt my eyes hurt my neck hurt like it was affecting me in a 0.98

01:06:49.280 physiological way and um dude i had like a fucking breakdown and i ended up going to the fucking 1.00

01:06:56.160 hospital and then i ended up going through all these tests and all this shit and they had fucking 0.99

01:06:59.580 neurosurgeons and fucking neurologists and tests and cat scans and all this shit and it comes back 0.99

01:07:06.680 you're fucking depressed you know what i mean yeah um and they started me on some treatments and 0.99

01:07:12.800 you know dude and fucking literally in like two days two days i was fucking feeling better 0.99

01:07:18.880 you know it's amazing yeah dude and if you don't ever talk about it you can never 0.90

01:07:22.960 you know like it took i like i didn't have the courage to talk about it i had to talk about it

01:07:28.300 i felt like i was dying right you know but what if i had fucking said something five or six years 0.91

01:07:32.860 before that right you know i wouldn't have fucking got to that point because people think like i used 0.97

01:07:38.720 to watch those you know the commercials if you ever have thoughts of suicide and i'd be like who the 0.98

01:07:41.920 fuck has thoughts of suicide but you like literally start having those things pop in your head 0.99

01:07:47.200 right like and you're like oh fuck and then you and then they start telling yourself well 1.00

01:07:51.220 that's that's not what that that's not that that's something else right that's just me 0.99

01:07:55.740 creatively imagining things no dude if you literally have those kind of thoughts you need to go fucking 0.94

01:08:01.080 talk to a doctor and tell them absolutely because like it's it's a problem right and i can tell you 0.97

01:08:07.220 right now i don't have those thoughts anymore and i feel fucking good and i'm able to handle my life 0.79

01:08:11.660 and my stress right you know mine was brought on by years of stress years of like just constant

01:08:19.000 bombardment you know i started off a little bit with a little bit of it you know when i say i've

01:08:23.640 struggled for 20 years you know it's always it was very start off very small and it became this 0.69

01:08:27.740 fucking huge monster that was like uncontrollable you know what i mean and like dude i can remember 0.89

01:08:33.720 i can remember talking to my brother about business and him being like jesus dude you sound like 0.99

01:08:39.680 you're gonna fucking die because i was like so on a different plane of crazy and dude that was 0.99

01:08:47.720 right before uh right before i had that issue where i went and go to see the doctor and 1.00

01:08:53.720 you know not now it's it's manageable right you know for the most part yeah but you gotta be you've

01:09:01.780 gotta you know you you know i would encourage people to have the the courage to say something

01:09:05.700 because um i think between actual having a competent doctor that can help you and actual

01:09:11.580 physical training working out eating right avoiding alcohol is a huge deal for me like if i drink alcohol

01:09:18.260 for the next three or four days i'm fucking i feel depressed again yeah um but i think with fitness and 0.88

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01:11:01.720 whether that mean money or whether that mean uh time or whatever you can afford to give but being a

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01:11:39.400 i've never noticed yeah i'm sure me neither but you know uh those people all have good hearts too

01:11:46.940 right you know what i mean right you know guys so all this to say if you're unmotivated and you're

01:11:52.440 and you're down the dumps i mean yeah it could be that you're lazy and you're not getting stuff done

01:11:58.480 and you need to act you need to pull you out what you need to do man but it could also be no that there 0.99

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01:12:41.120 exactly so you need to be able to differentiate those and that's a self-assessment the bottom line 0.99

01:12:46.220 is you would agree that it's not as simple as just saying oh i must be a pussy not in all the cases 0.98

01:12:52.200 not in all the cases in many of the cases yeah if you're the guy that's sitting home playing call 0.99

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01:13:38.920 you know he he struggles with depression you know what i mean he's open about it he's a good guy to

01:13:43.860 follow actually about this because he is very very transparent with his ups and downs um his his downs 0.80

01:13:51.400 are fucking down you know what i mean and it's it's sad because i love derrick you know what i mean 0.96

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01:13:59.920 he didn't have this up you know most people lose their leg and they would just fucking quit 0.92

01:14:06.240 you know he's turned it into an asset for him he's turned it into a to a way to inspire a way to give

01:14:12.360 back a way to provide value and because of all those things a way to help offset the depression that

01:14:17.680 he's dealt with you know from from this situation you see what i'm saying so it's really cool it's a

01:14:23.700 cool unique thing to watch yeah um you know he's he's the dude would be totally inspiring if he had

01:14:31.240 two legs yeah you know but it's just uh you know he's another guy who's worked through it to become

01:14:38.780 yeah you know something in life yeah that's awesome so will this is this is this the last one before

01:14:45.360 before christmas no this will come out next uh next tuesday no it will be the one it'll be the

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01:14:59.080 aggressively all right well that's it for me yeah anything else no yeah guys if you enjoyed the 0.98

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01:15:24.520 change people so i appreciate it guys i love you guys we'll talk to you next time take it easy

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 20, 2016

Recalibrate, Part 3： Motivation, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO115

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