REAL AF with Andy Frisella


The #1 Thing You're Doing That Is Sabotaging Your Success, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO260


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Summary

In this episode, we talk about the importance of being bad at things, and why you should be bad at them too. I mean, if you want to be good in business, you gotta do a lot of shit really good. And one of those things is to develop your skills. And another one is to grow your business. And we cover both of those in this podcast.


Transcript

00:00:00.400 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.900 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
00:00:20.120 Guys, the goal here, if you're new, is to get you to become the motherfucking CEO of you.
00:00:27.400 And now, you might be wondering, like, oh, yeah, we're a business podcast.
00:00:31.120 But you know what? To be good in business, you gotta do a lot of shit really fucking good.
00:00:35.240 And one of those things is, you've gotta develop yourself.
00:00:38.620 Another one of those things is, you've gotta develop your skills.
00:00:41.460 And we cover both of those things in this podcast.
00:00:44.880 So don't tune out because you think, oh, I don't own a business, or I don't have aspirations to own a business.
00:00:52.420 Because the truth is, is you're running a business every day, and that business is you.
00:00:56.680 And the skills, and the techniques, and the concepts, and everything that we talk about here
00:01:02.660 are all gonna be applicable to you, no matter what it is you do.
00:01:07.940 Whether you're working in a company, and you wanna move up, or whether you own your own company,
00:01:12.900 you wanna grow it, all these things are the same, okay?
00:01:16.500 We started this podcast because, quite honestly,
00:01:19.940 I was really tired of the false information,
00:01:24.860 and the idealist concepts that are being taught to our kids.
00:01:28.580 I run a pretty big company.
00:01:30.640 I have a lot of employees that are what you would call millennials.
00:01:34.880 And guess what? We fucking dominate.
00:01:36.520 You know why we dominate?
00:01:37.680 Because we corrected some of the bad shit they've been taught their whole life, okay?
00:01:41.660 So, if you wanna dominate, this is the same thing that I tell my teams.
00:01:48.020 This is the same concepts we talk about at our meetings.
00:01:51.000 I get emails, and texts, and DMs all the time from people
00:01:56.520 who are wanting to come sit in on one of our company meetings,
00:01:59.800 and they wanna know why we're doing so good,
00:02:01.420 or how we're able to grow, or how we did this, or that.
00:02:03.960 Look, I'm giving it to you here for free, all right?
00:02:06.480 I'm giving you, my playbook is here.
00:02:08.300 There's nothing that I keep from you, okay?
00:02:10.740 And all I ask in return is that you tell your friends about the podcast, all right?
00:02:17.360 Now, I'm not saying you have to tell all your friends,
00:02:20.060 but I'm asking that if you get value out of this podcast,
00:02:24.080 that for every podcast you listen to, you tell a new person.
00:02:26.740 That's it. That's all I ask.
00:02:28.320 And I think that's a pretty fair price,
00:02:31.520 because I'm giving you information that can make you millions of fucking dollars
00:02:34.680 over the course of your life, could lead a higher quality life,
00:02:37.640 could make you more happy, more fulfilled,
00:02:40.180 and leave a better legacy than what you're leaving now,
00:02:43.860 and I'm giving it to you for free.
00:02:45.240 So, that's that.
00:02:46.580 Now, today is Thursday Thunder,
00:02:48.320 and if you're new, we usually do two podcasts a week.
00:02:51.260 Recently, we've been doing three.
00:02:52.900 We're trying to figure out what we're gonna do,
00:02:55.360 but we're always gonna have Thursday Thunder,
00:02:57.300 and Thursday Thunder is just, you know, a little bit of a rant, so to speak.
00:03:01.780 And today, I want to rant about something that I see everywhere.
00:03:07.100 I see this literally everywhere, all right?
00:03:13.160 I swear to you, when I'm telling you this,
00:03:18.280 I enjoy being bad at things.
00:03:22.900 I love being bad at things, okay?
00:03:27.320 Because when you're bad at things,
00:03:29.820 you have blue sky opportunity to get better, all right?
00:03:34.840 There's tons of potential there to grow.
00:03:37.600 There's tons of movement that you can make forward, all right?
00:03:42.860 And that's exciting to me,
00:03:44.780 and I'm gonna tell you why it's exciting to me,
00:03:46.800 and why you should also learn to enjoy being bad, all right?
00:03:52.940 In my business, when I started in 1999,
00:03:57.000 by the way, I failed eight other businesses before that.
00:04:00.400 When I started our company, we were fucking bad, all right?
00:04:04.040 And we were bad for a long time, all right?
00:04:07.000 I didn't like being bad then,
00:04:09.740 because I was scared shitless.
00:04:11.860 I was scared that if I was continuing to be bad,
00:04:14.960 that, you know, we would lose everything,
00:04:17.600 we would lose our opportunity,
00:04:18.460 and I'd end up being, you know,
00:04:19.620 not what I desired to be in my life.
00:04:22.240 And we went the first 10 years,
00:04:26.600 you know, we didn't make much money.
00:04:28.640 We calculate, Chris and I calculated it,
00:04:30.220 we made $58,000 a piece
00:04:32.300 for the first 10 years in business, okay?
00:04:35.880 And I'm not talking about we made that every year.
00:04:37.640 If you took all the money we made
00:04:39.040 from year one to year 10,
00:04:40.740 we made it 58 grand, all right?
00:04:42.540 That's the truth.
00:04:44.900 First three years, we didn't get paid.
00:04:47.340 The next seven years, we got $695 a month each,
00:04:50.640 and that's what we did.
00:04:51.380 And we worked other jobs to keep the stores open.
00:04:54.520 The stores would not have survived
00:04:55.860 if we had not worked those other jobs.
00:04:59.180 And we slept in the back of that store
00:05:00.920 on and off over the course of years.
00:05:04.040 And we sucked at a lot of things that we did.
00:05:06.140 And you know what?
00:05:06.860 I did not enjoy it then.
00:05:08.700 I did not enjoy being bad.
00:05:10.320 And I wish I had.
00:05:11.640 I wish I had.
00:05:12.720 I wish I had the belief in myself at that time
00:05:16.220 that eventually I would become good.
00:05:17.820 And this is why most of you guys don't enjoy being bad.
00:05:20.900 But here's what happens as you become more successful
00:05:24.280 and as you start to figure things out.
00:05:26.300 You start to get better at what it is that you're doing, okay?
00:05:30.380 So now here we are, 20 years in business.
00:05:34.020 Next year will be 20 years.
00:05:37.220 And in my world, there's not much shit that I'm bad at.
00:05:42.520 That's the truth.
00:05:43.300 Like, I don't get to be bad at very many things anymore
00:05:45.740 because I'm consumed with the things I'm good at, all right?
00:05:50.220 What does that mean, though?
00:05:51.820 That means it can get very monotonous and very boring
00:05:54.940 because now I have the belief
00:05:57.960 that I'm going to get where I want to go.
00:05:59.980 And now I have the skills.
00:06:02.080 Now it's just a matter of time working its course, okay?
00:06:06.240 And that can be very boring.
00:06:08.200 So I look back now from where I'm at at this point in time,
00:06:12.440 and I wish I could go back to my 19 or 20-year-old self
00:06:17.020 and say, hey, look, dude, you're going to fucking make it.
00:06:19.440 You need to enjoy this time of being bad
00:06:22.640 and not have so much anxiety
00:06:24.000 and just work on your skills
00:06:25.400 and keep getting better and keep improving.
00:06:27.700 Because the truth of it is, guys,
00:06:29.700 is that being bad at shit
00:06:31.560 is the most exciting shit that you could do in your life.
00:06:35.100 And this is coming from someone
00:06:36.220 who's done pretty well so far in his life.
00:06:38.380 I've accomplished pretty much everything
00:06:40.620 I've ever wanted to accomplish so far.
00:06:42.300 And I'm certainly going to accomplish everything
00:06:44.640 that I want to accomplish over the course of my life.
00:06:49.560 Now, I know that sounds weird.
00:06:53.800 And I know it doesn't make sense.
00:06:55.960 But I can tell you when I look back
00:06:58.020 on my entrepreneurial journey
00:06:59.940 that the most fun I had
00:07:05.760 was the little victories I learned along the way.
00:07:08.760 It was figuring out the roadmap.
00:07:10.420 It was figuring out what I was doing, right or wrong.
00:07:13.780 It was figuring out how to handle our customers.
00:07:16.560 It was figuring out how to have employees.
00:07:19.680 And so many of you guys are in such a hurry
00:07:21.760 to figure all that shit out
00:07:23.100 that you're missing out on the excitement
00:07:25.180 that it actually has, just like I did.
00:07:26.880 Okay, so now I do things.
00:07:29.600 Like I made a post yesterday about shooting a bow.
00:07:32.940 You know, I never shot a bow.
00:07:34.500 I'm not a hunter.
00:07:35.440 I've never killed any animals, okay?
00:07:37.700 That's not the intent.
00:07:38.900 The intent is to be good at shooting a fucking bow.
00:07:41.780 And guess what?
00:07:42.420 I'm not very good.
00:07:43.920 And that's why I like it.
00:07:44.900 Because I know I have so much room to improve
00:07:47.540 and it's going to be exciting to get better, all right?
00:07:50.660 And the true fulfillment
00:07:52.160 and the true fucking good shit about success
00:07:56.340 and building something
00:07:57.540 is not getting to the point where you have the money
00:08:01.240 or you have the cars or you have the house
00:08:03.280 or you have the big company.
00:08:05.180 It isn't all that shit.
00:08:07.180 It really is, like they say,
00:08:09.640 as cheesy as it sounds, the journey.
00:08:13.340 It is the little bitty victories
00:08:16.020 that you have along the way, okay?
00:08:18.340 Those things, I could tell you,
00:08:21.460 are going to be the most rewarding things
00:08:24.440 that you're going to find
00:08:25.680 over the course of your next 20 years
00:08:28.420 trying to build your career
00:08:30.200 or build your business or build your life.
00:08:33.320 And some of us, I'm guilty of this.
00:08:36.420 And this is why I'm telling you as a precaution.
00:08:38.760 Some of us do, we are so focused
00:08:42.700 and we're so driven
00:08:43.740 and we're so in a hurry to get the life
00:08:47.860 that we miss out on a lot of the cool shit
00:08:50.860 along the way.
00:08:52.460 And this all stems from us
00:08:56.260 not wanting to be bad at things,
00:09:00.140 not liking to be bad at things.
00:09:02.280 And guys, this is not just,
00:09:04.420 this is not just in your career.
00:09:06.300 This is in your life, okay?
00:09:08.380 How many business owners,
00:09:10.000 people with ambition,
00:09:11.120 people that want to succeed,
00:09:12.420 which you wouldn't be listening
00:09:13.960 to this podcast
00:09:15.280 if you weren't in that group.
00:09:16.860 You're already one of those people.
00:09:19.660 Those people have a tendency
00:09:22.580 to miss out on so much cool shit
00:09:24.680 because they're uber competitive
00:09:26.780 to the point where they can't enjoy
00:09:29.640 being bad at something
00:09:30.960 and improving, all right?
00:09:33.280 And I just want to share this lesson with you.
00:09:35.540 It's a little bit different
00:09:36.500 than what I would normally talk about,
00:09:38.620 but I want to save you
00:09:40.600 the next 20 years
00:09:43.160 while you're building this, okay?
00:09:45.880 Imagine how your life would be different,
00:09:49.000 how you would feel different,
00:09:50.940 how you would enjoy your life
00:09:52.940 if someone came to you,
00:09:56.960 like let's say a genie or Jesus
00:09:59.060 or God or whoever it is
00:10:01.240 with all the power in the world
00:10:03.320 and said, hey, you know what?
00:10:05.700 You're going to get where you want to go.
00:10:08.560 It's 100% stone-cold,
00:10:11.500 written in fucking stone
00:10:13.860 that you are going to get
00:10:15.440 where it is you want to go.
00:10:19.680 How would you feel differently?
00:10:21.740 How would you live differently?
00:10:25.920 I promise you,
00:10:27.140 a lot of you guys
00:10:27.840 would take a lot more time
00:10:30.220 to enjoy the process
00:10:31.880 if you knew
00:10:33.000 that you were going to get
00:10:35.440 where you want to go.
00:10:36.280 And the problem with this, guys,
00:10:37.700 is you will get
00:10:39.400 where you want to go.
00:10:41.100 If you do the fucking work,
00:10:43.300 if you do it day in and day out
00:10:45.100 and you're effective
00:10:46.320 and you have the ability
00:10:47.500 to learn from your mistakes,
00:10:49.040 there is no way
00:10:50.980 that you cannot get
00:10:52.640 where you want to go.
00:10:53.720 But the problem with this is
00:10:55.360 is that society has convinced
00:10:58.060 every single motherfucker
00:11:00.020 in this country
00:11:00.960 and across the world
00:11:02.060 that there's people
00:11:04.300 that are the haves
00:11:05.640 and there's people
00:11:06.600 that are the have-nots.
00:11:08.300 And you know what?
00:11:09.080 If you're not one of the haves,
00:11:10.300 you have no chance of being one
00:11:14.040 by just, you know,
00:11:16.260 doing your thing.
00:11:17.300 You got to get lucky.
00:11:18.400 You got to win the lottery.
00:11:19.640 You got to be a celebrity.
00:11:21.140 You got to do this, this, this.
00:11:22.820 All we're fucking told
00:11:24.540 are the glory stories,
00:11:26.380 the shit that is truly unbelievable.
00:11:28.200 And because it's unbelievable,
00:11:30.740 we don't believe
00:11:32.140 that we can accomplish those things.
00:11:34.900 And that's what keeps people
00:11:36.700 from ever doing what it is
00:11:38.440 they want to do.
00:11:39.400 So they're like,
00:11:40.040 why the fuck even try
00:11:41.340 if it's impossible?
00:11:43.020 And I'm going to tell you,
00:11:44.200 that's the biggest bullshit lie
00:11:47.120 that we are ever taught
00:11:48.520 over the course of our lives.
00:11:50.780 Being told that it's mystical
00:11:53.080 or it's luck
00:11:54.380 or it's, you know,
00:11:56.300 whatever it is
00:11:58.100 that's not in your control
00:12:00.220 is told to you
00:12:01.940 for a reason, by the way.
00:12:03.880 It's told to you
00:12:04.820 because the real world
00:12:06.680 needs fucking worker bees.
00:12:08.800 The real world needs employees.
00:12:10.880 The real world needs people
00:12:12.160 to show up
00:12:12.780 and just do their fucking job
00:12:14.240 and shut the fuck up.
00:12:15.840 And that's what you're fucking taught.
00:12:18.560 You're not,
00:12:19.360 think about what you're taught in school.
00:12:21.140 You're taught like,
00:12:22.140 well, if you get a degree
00:12:23.180 from college,
00:12:24.000 you might be lucky enough
00:12:25.500 to get a $60,000 a year job.
00:12:27.280 And if you work hard,
00:12:28.040 you can make a hundred grand.
00:12:29.240 And that's the fucking roof.
00:12:31.640 That's the roof.
00:12:32.400 And you say,
00:12:32.740 well, I want to make 10 million.
00:12:33.820 Well, you know what?
00:12:34.720 Just like my guidance counselor told me,
00:12:36.460 you know what?
00:12:37.860 That's for the cream of the crop.
00:12:39.240 That really isn't for you, Andy.
00:12:41.080 Motherfucker,
00:12:41.660 it is for me.
00:12:43.360 And guess what?
00:12:44.300 It's for you too.
00:12:45.720 But you can't talk yourself out of it
00:12:47.660 because you think
00:12:49.640 you're going to be bad at it
00:12:50.680 at the beginning.
00:12:51.640 You can't talk yourself out of it
00:12:53.200 because you think it's impossible.
00:12:55.620 You can't,
00:12:55.980 you guys have to wake the fuck up.
00:12:58.880 You've got to start realizing
00:13:00.300 that all the shit
00:13:01.760 that you've been told
00:13:03.040 and spoon fed
00:13:04.220 and thrown at you
00:13:06.200 over and over and over again
00:13:07.380 by your teachers,
00:13:08.240 by your aunts and uncles,
00:13:09.280 by your mom and dad,
00:13:10.280 by your fucking,
00:13:11.460 by these companies
00:13:12.320 is all a fucking lie
00:13:14.320 designed to control you.
00:13:17.500 That's what we're dealing with here.
00:13:19.640 Okay?
00:13:20.280 And that makes us say,
00:13:21.900 well, hey, look,
00:13:22.600 you know what?
00:13:23.940 Why would I even want to try
00:13:25.480 something that I'm going to be bad at
00:13:26.980 if I could never make it anyway?
00:13:30.020 Why would I even want to start a business
00:13:31.720 if I'm going to be terrible at it?
00:13:33.180 And you know what?
00:13:33.760 I don't think I could even make it anyway.
00:13:35.860 The stars would have to align perfectly
00:13:37.780 and Jesus would have to flow down
00:13:39.720 on his fucking cloud
00:13:40.640 and, you know,
00:13:41.580 let me rub his beard.
00:13:42.880 You know, like,
00:13:43.560 that's what people think.
00:13:45.820 And that's why they never try.
00:13:48.080 But guys,
00:13:48.760 what I'm trying to show you
00:13:50.080 and I want you to think about
00:13:51.160 is think about something
00:13:52.420 that you've become decent at.
00:13:54.020 And dude,
00:13:54.480 a lot of you guys
00:13:55.320 are really good at things.
00:13:56.920 You just don't give yourself credit for it.
00:13:59.120 But like,
00:13:59.720 let's brag on ourselves for a minute.
00:14:01.960 What are you really good at?
00:14:03.480 What's something
00:14:04.120 that you were really good at at one time?
00:14:05.940 Maybe you were a football player.
00:14:07.260 Maybe you were a dancer.
00:14:08.420 Maybe,
00:14:09.420 you know,
00:14:10.080 who knows what it is.
00:14:10.940 Maybe you were a writer.
00:14:12.040 Maybe you were,
00:14:13.000 you know,
00:14:13.360 whatever.
00:14:14.460 Think about the first time
00:14:15.780 you went out on that football field.
00:14:18.040 You weren't fucking great.
00:14:19.880 You sucked.
00:14:20.660 And you were scared.
00:14:21.780 And everybody else was scared.
00:14:23.120 And you thought you were the only person
00:14:24.520 that was scared.
00:14:27.080 That's the truth.
00:14:28.020 That's what,
00:14:28.420 that's what life is.
00:14:29.720 Everybody out there
00:14:30.760 that is pretending like
00:14:32.440 they have their shit together for you
00:14:33.700 that makes you feel like dog shit
00:14:35.920 is just as scared as you are.
00:14:38.520 The difference is,
00:14:39.500 is there are certain people
00:14:40.320 that are willing to move ahead
00:14:41.700 being scared
00:14:42.780 and understand
00:14:43.560 that they're gonna be bad
00:14:44.760 and they're humble enough
00:14:46.060 to know
00:14:46.680 that they don't know
00:14:47.840 but they're aggressive enough
00:14:48.980 to go ahead anyway.
00:14:50.760 And that's where you gotta
00:14:51.480 find yourself, guys.
00:14:52.520 And it all starts
00:14:53.400 with trying to enjoy
00:14:54.980 challenges.
00:14:56.980 Trying to enjoy
00:14:58.160 things you're not good at.
00:14:59.920 Trying to enjoy
00:15:01.020 learning new things
00:15:02.320 and becoming better.
00:15:04.740 You know,
00:15:05.140 think about
00:15:05.640 fucking one time
00:15:06.820 when you lost
00:15:07.420 20 pounds
00:15:08.040 or 30 pounds.
00:15:08.860 You guys who have done that,
00:15:10.420 was that not the fucking
00:15:11.140 best thing you ever did?
00:15:12.580 Why was it the best thing
00:15:13.660 you ever did?
00:15:14.420 Because it was hard!
00:15:18.800 But yet you spend
00:15:19.880 every fucking moment
00:15:21.420 trying to take
00:15:22.120 the easy route.
00:15:25.040 Explain that logic to me.
00:15:26.920 You know
00:15:27.760 that the hardest shit
00:15:29.140 produces the best result.
00:15:32.640 And you know
00:15:33.360 to get good
00:15:33.980 at the hardest shit
00:15:34.760 you're gonna have to be
00:15:35.540 bad at it
00:15:36.200 for a long time.
00:15:38.860 But you're still
00:15:40.700 not willing
00:15:41.200 to do that
00:15:42.040 even though
00:15:43.280 you know
00:15:43.860 and you've experienced
00:15:44.840 through all of your life
00:15:46.080 that the hardest
00:15:47.220 things you did
00:15:48.080 were the most rewarding.
00:15:52.480 So why are you
00:15:53.400 running from the
00:15:53.980 fucking hard?
00:15:55.920 Why are you
00:15:56.620 hiding from
00:15:57.240 the tasks
00:15:58.100 that are gonna
00:15:58.740 improve you?
00:16:00.820 Because somewhere
00:16:01.700 along the line
00:16:02.480 you got a negative
00:16:03.240 association
00:16:04.000 with shit being hard
00:16:05.760 and you being
00:16:06.640 bad at it.
00:16:07.360 And if you
00:16:08.260 want to be
00:16:08.640 successful
00:16:09.220 you're gonna
00:16:10.600 have to fix it.
00:16:11.580 And that can
00:16:11.940 start with
00:16:12.460 you know
00:16:13.760 like what I'm
00:16:14.620 doing
00:16:14.780 shooting a bow.
00:16:15.920 It could start
00:16:16.360 with trying to
00:16:16.840 run a mile.
00:16:17.760 It could start
00:16:18.140 with trying to
00:16:18.580 walk a mile.
00:16:19.600 It could start
00:16:20.080 with anything
00:16:20.780 that whatever
00:16:22.020 it is in your
00:16:22.700 mind that you
00:16:23.460 have a fucking
00:16:24.260 fear of
00:16:25.060 and you just
00:16:26.820 go in and
00:16:27.220 trying it
00:16:27.800 and working a
00:16:29.260 little bit
00:16:29.620 and seeing
00:16:30.140 improvement.
00:16:31.120 That's how
00:16:31.640 confidence is built.
00:16:32.620 I'm sick
00:16:37.160 of seeing
00:16:37.460 people fail
00:16:38.200 because they're
00:16:39.240 so scared
00:16:39.940 of being bad.
00:16:40.800 They're so
00:16:41.280 afraid of
00:16:41.900 showing the
00:16:42.980 world that
00:16:43.560 they're not
00:16:44.020 good at
00:16:44.460 something
00:16:44.820 that they
00:16:47.140 don't even
00:16:47.420 do it.
00:16:48.180 And what's
00:16:48.500 that cost
00:16:49.080 you?
00:16:49.580 What's that
00:16:49.900 cost you?
00:16:51.120 It costs
00:16:51.500 you your
00:16:51.840 fucking life.
00:16:53.280 It costs
00:16:53.720 you not only
00:16:55.100 your financial
00:16:55.740 life, it costs
00:16:56.480 you your
00:16:56.780 happiness, it
00:16:57.520 costs you
00:16:58.060 friendships, it
00:16:59.400 costs you
00:16:59.760 relationships, it
00:17:00.620 costs you
00:17:01.000 fulfillment.
00:17:01.460 Dude, your
00:17:02.400 whole fucking
00:17:03.180 dream life that
00:17:04.440 you're thinking
00:17:04.980 of is out
00:17:05.820 there.
00:17:06.400 It's out
00:17:06.880 there.
00:17:07.940 You just
00:17:08.660 haven't stepped
00:17:09.160 up to the
00:17:09.620 fucking plate
00:17:10.300 yet.