THURSDAY THUNDER： To Hell With Your Excuses, with Andy Frisella, MFCEOTT3
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Summary
In this episode of the MFCEO Project, the CEO and his co-host, Vaughn the Impaler, discuss the 5 most common excuses that people use to explain why they don t get a straight A's in school.
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Hey guys, what's up? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm your host, Andy Frisella,
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and I am the motherfucking CEO. And I'm Vaughn the Impaler. You just fucked up my intro. Oh,
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sorry. Since Vaughn fucked up my intro, I was going to do something really cool,
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but since he fucked it up, I'll just let him take over. You're Vaughn the Impaler?
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Well, evidently I am now. Tell everybody how much you impale.
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Yeah, that could go the wrong direction. I'm here with my co-host Vaughn, the Impaler,
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the pastor of disaster. Yes. What's up, dude? Don't edit any of that out either. I'm not going
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to edit any out. No. I mean, I'm just floundering right now because you've just destroyed my
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self-esteem because I had this great thing planned that we were going to talk about today and you
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just completely shot it down five minutes before we did it. I'm trying to turn you into a little
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bit more like Bob Ross. You remember that dude? Yeah. Yeah, with the afro. I bet you could have
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an afro like that though. Dude, my hair is super curly when it comes out. I believe it. I believe
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it. Okay. So since you got into the habit of shooting things down, I thought we would spend
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a little time with you shooting things down tonight. Okay. Okay. Or I get, I don't know
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why I said tonight. Because you're vibing up the fucking feel. It's Larry King live over
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there, buddy. Yeah, exactly. Vaughn King. All right. What names we got for Vaughn? Vaughn
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the Impaler. Vaughn King. The pastor of disaster. Vaughn Diesel. Vaughn Diesel. Jean-Claude
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Vaughn Dom. That's bad. All right. All right. So do you believe in people making excuses
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for themselves? Oh yeah, totally. Yeah, I figured you do. That's the vibe of this entire podcast.
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So what I thought we'd do, and I really hope you go for this because I don't have any other
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ideas right now, is I'm going to fire out five common excuses and I want you to tell me what
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you think of each one of these excuses. Perfect. Okay. Number one. Sounds exactly like what I want
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to do right now. Okay. Great. All right. So I'm, I'm, I'm meeting one-on-one with Andy. I'm going to
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give you, do we have any more fucking excuses in society? I don't think we do. Let's, let's,
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let's have some more or could. Yeah. I don't think we could. That's what I meant to say. Okay. So
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these are going to be tough. I know you're going to have a hard time tearing these down. Okay. Okay. So
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excuse number one for why someone is not successful. I'm not very smart. I don't get
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straight A's at school. Are you being, are you being serious? Yeah, that's excuse number one.
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That's an excuse. I'm just not very smart. Well, first of all, you must not be very smart because
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that's the worst fucking excuse I've ever fucking heard. Let's be real here. You know, I went through
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school being a C student maximum. If I got a fucking C dude, I was just happy as hell to get a
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C. Yeah. You know, yeah. Um, you know, David Letterman gives out scholarships for C students.
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Look, man, C is average. Yeah. It doesn't mean you're dumb. Yeah. That's how I look at it.
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That's true. So you don't think book smarts translate into hell? No. People think this is one of those
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excuses that people will cultivate and make themselves believe because society's standard
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of what is smart is based upon some numerical grading system. You know, there is a lot of
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things, dude, like I said, I got D's and C's and I'm far more successful than most of the people that
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I know that I went to school with. You know, are there people better than me? Yeah, there are.
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I'm not saying that to brag. I'm just saying that it's not, it's not a true reference point of,
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you know, success, you know, people. And it's sad because, you know, you'll grow up and your
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teachers will tell you that. And I've had people tell me this. I've even posted this on Instagram
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before. I've had people tell me like, Hey, Andy, you're, you're a fucking C student. You know,
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people like you don't go very far in life. And I had, I had a guidance counselor tell me that
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right to my face. You know what I mean? And dude, I had enough, I had enough confidence at the
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time, you know, to not like go bury my head in the sand and think that I was meant to like,
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you know, work on a fucking factory line somewhere or do some mindless job. But the reality is, is
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that, you know, society is geared towards creating worker bees. They make people think that if they
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don't get fucking A's, they're not going to be successful. And the reality is what is an A an A
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is, is an indication of somebody's ability to follow directions. What is school? School is,
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is, is, is a, is a cultivation for somebody to follow directions inside of a system that's
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predetermined for them. An entrepreneur designs their own fucking system. Okay. So when we talk
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about, you know, A's and B's and C's and D's and F's and all this shit, you know, all it is,
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is an indication of how, how will you follow directions? You know? So I would argue my personal
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belief is that I would argue that if you get A's, you know, you're likely to go follow life's
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quote unquote path that you're supposed to be on and do everything you're supposed to. And then
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when you're, you know, in your mid forties, you're going to say, what the fuck? I did everything I
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was supposed to. And here I am. And this is all I got. So, you know, there's going to be people who
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listen to the say, okay, so Andy, if I hear you correctly, you're telling me just to blow off my
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studies. Look, man, it depends on, it depends on what you're going to school for. I mean, if you're
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going to school to be a fucking neurosurgeon, it's probably pretty important that you get A's.
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You know, if you're going to school to be an architect, it's probably pretty important that you learn what you
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need to do. If you're going to school to be a nurse, it's probably pretty important that you do,
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that you do well. You know, don't take my words out of context. You know, anybody listening to this
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that has average intelligence or more knows what I'm fucking saying. Right. All right. So I'm not
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saying, oh, blow off your studies. It depends on what you're going to school for. But if you're going
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to school to be an entrepreneur, to listen to somebody about entrepreneurship, that's never owned a
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fucking business, who's the dummy? You're going to learn far more by going out and opening a
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business. You know, no matter if it's a popsicle stand, lemonade stand, door to door sales,
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multi-level marketing. It doesn't fucking matter. You're going to learn more, you know? So, okay.
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I mean, the bottom line is, is that, you know, thinking that you can't do something because you
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think you're not very smart because society tells you you're not very smart. You know, that's, that's,
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that's something you're going to have to overcome. Period.
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Number two, I was born into poverty and don't have the resources that you rich people do.
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You rich people. You were obviously born with a silver spoon in your mouth, right?
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Yeah. Just like every other fucking person that started a business from nothing and grew it into
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something. You know, this is a funny excuse that I get at the gas station when I pull up in my
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Lamborghini or my Rolls Royce and they say, must be nice. Must be nice. I'm like, yeah, it was fucking
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nice. Sleeping in the back of my store for two fucking years. Not getting paid for 10 fucking
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years. Really nice. When was the last time you did something like that for 10 fucking years?
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When was the last time you dedicated 16 years of your life to something besides eating,
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breathing, or sleeping at all? Most people can never answer that. And that's exactly what I
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fucking say to those people. So I would say you have two choices. You can either choose to look at
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your situation as an obstacle and you could say, man, I don't have these advantages. I don't have
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this. I don't have that. So I can't fucking do it. And then you go live your life, be a fucking
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average dude, you know, sit on the bar stool at four 30 on a Tuesday and talk about how you didn't
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have the advantages. So you couldn't do anything. Or you could look at yourself and say, wow, I've got
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the potential to create a fucking awesome story that inspires millions of people about my success.
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And maybe I could, maybe I could create a, even if it's moderate success for myself,
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create something that my children and my friends and my family is proud of. And that I'm proud of
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that leaves a legacy of what my time here on earth meant. You have two options and those are your two
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options. So you can fucking be nothing, do nothing, stand for nothing, or you can go out and do fucking
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something. And the reality is, is there's never been more opportunity than there is today to be
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successful. There's never been more opportunity than there is today to start a business from
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nothing. There's never been more opportunity than there is today to be successful. And if you can't
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see that, I don't know what the fuck could tell you. Well, Andy, you're right. So I do have a little
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bit of money, but I have a disability. So I can't succeed in life. What does, what's your disability?
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Uh, I have one leg. You have one leg, so you can't succeed in business. You can't Google,
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you can't fucking use a keyboard. You can't use an email. You can't use it. Social media.
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I'm just different. I don't experience life the same way. Here's the bottom line is people are going
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to find fucking excuses in every little thing that they have. Okay. Whether dude, I've heard
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people tell me that, you know, I don't, I didn't grow up with rich parents. I didn't grow up with
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people. People don't invest in me. Look, dude, we grew up with fucking regular middle-class family
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type shit. Me and my business partner, every fucking successful person I know who has grown up
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and started a business from scratch, grew up in a fucking working class family. You know why they were
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able to succeed because they fucking grew up in a situation where people had to work.
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You know, the problem nowadays is that everybody wants to be special. Everybody wants to have
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their fucking, you know, their, their, their special little thing that makes them not able
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to do it. And they'd rather have the attention to, they'd rather have the attention of not being
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able to do it because they fucking missing a leg or they're missing this, or they, they didn't
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have this opportunity. They didn't have that opportunity. And they'd rather have that fucking
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attention than they would have the attention of being successful because they're too pussy
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to do the fucking work. And that's the bottom line. Okay. So you could tell me, and you know,
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you're missing an arm, you're missing a leg, you're doing this, you're doing that. You didn't
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have the financial resources. You didn't have people that believe in you. You didn't have backing.
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You didn't have, uh, whatever. I don't fucking care what it was, but your story is going to be
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developed by overcoming whatever that obstacle is. And while other people, you know, may not have the
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same obstacle that you have, there's plenty of people that have more difficult obstacles
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that have accomplished far more than you probably ever fucking will by just accepting the fact that
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they have that using it to their advantage in some way or somehow and moving forward. And like the
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reality is, is the things that you're trying, I know what you're trying to do. You're trying to get
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me prodded up to talk about this shit. But the reality is, is that everybody in society nowadays,
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you know, look at the statuses on fucking Facebook. Okay. Nine out of 10 fucking Facebook
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statuses is somebody bitching about something or crying about something or spreading some negativity.
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It makes me fucking sick. You know, kids nowadays grow up with their parents telling them they did a
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good job when they fucking lost. No, you didn't do a good job when you fucking lost. Here's what you
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need to do to win. And that's that. But we don't have that anymore in our society. We have a bunch of
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fucking pussies running things, telling everybody that they're special, telling everybody that they're
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delicate flowers, telling everybody that, you know, oh, well, success is for the other guy. It's
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for the Kardashians that you see on fucking TV. Okay. Or it's for the people you see on cribs. It's not
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for you, dude. We're filled with the society of bullshit in every fucking way. And that's the whole
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purpose of the MFCEO project. It's not to fucking, you know, get on here and talk about, you know,
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holding hands and singing kumbaya. It's about get on here and understand that no matter what
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your fucking excuse, no matter what your situation, no matter where you came from, no matter what you
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do. And there's a motherfucker right now listening and saying, but you don't understand. You're right.
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I don't understand. What I do understand though, is that you're too big of a pussy to fucking do
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anything about it. Period. You know, people are fucking pussies, man. You know, most people
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couldn't survive. Most people can't even fucking fathom that other people have bigger challenges
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than them. You know, what about the dude? I was driving through North St. Louis, man,
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which is a predominantly black community where I'm driving through St. Louis and I see these
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fucking 10 year old kids on the fucking corner. And it got me thinking, man, you know, you're on
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the MFCEO project and you're talking about all these people and all this opportunity that's out
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there. And you're talking about, you know, not making excuses and this and that. And I thought
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about, when I looked at those kids, I thought, man, you know, is the information I'm giving out
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really true? Do these people really have an opportunity or am I just talking about certain
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people? Okay. And I thought about it and I thought about it for a couple hours because I was at, I was
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visiting my friend who was downtown St. Louis. And you know, the truth is, is that it would be harder
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for somebody like that because they have less positive around to look at and less positive
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measuring sticks to measure themselves up against. Okay. But the reality of it is, is that
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it's still possible. They could still invest their time in improving. They could still find the role
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models in their community and stick to them. They could still learn from people who are doing things
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right. They could still, you know, do the best that they can in school. They could still work
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to be something more than what they are. And while they may have started at a different place,
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the amount of progress that they can make in their life, it's still the same, you know? So we have
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people all the time who make these fucking excuses, dude, are you going to be Bill Gates? Are you going
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to be fucking, uh, Donald Trump? Are you going to be, uh, what's the Oracle Omaha? What's his name?
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Uh, Warren Buffett, Warren Buffett. No, you might not be, but dude, there's no question that in this
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country at this point in time, every single fucking person can greatly improve where they are from
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where they, where they want to be. You can make that fucking journey and just sit there and cry
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and make excuses about your childhood or your fucking, you know, your accident you got into
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or this or that, unless you're like severely handicapped where you require care 24 seven,
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you mentally can't think you don't have a fucking excuse. It's invalid period. And most people are
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so blessed with so much good and opportunity to, to do good that they take it for granted.
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They're fucking healthy. They're average fucking intelligence. They're, you know,
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they were raised in a decent home. You know what I'm saying? They, they have all these things
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and they take them for granted and they say, Oh, well I can't do it because fucking, I'm not,
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you know, Dale Earnhardt jr. Or I can't do it because I'm not fucking Kim Kardashian.
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Dude, you can't do it cause you're a pussy and you won't do the fucking work. And that's the end
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of the day because it, because even if you work at fucking McDonald's right now, you can make your
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fucking French fries better. You can make the burgers better. You could take pride in what you do at
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that fucking job and increase your position in that job and eventually end up owning a McDonald's
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fucking franchise, which could earn you upwards of a million dollars per year period. And that's a
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fact, you know, and we have people all day long. All they say is, you know, Oh, I can't do it because
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of this. Oh, I can't. No, you choose not to do it. You choose to fucking play call of duty as opposed
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to fucking reading a book. You choose to fucking not do the little things that are required. You
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choose to say things like, Oh, they don't pay me enough to do that. Fuck these guys. You choose
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that shit. And guess what? The people who fucking don't choose that shit are the ones that end up
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succeeding. That's it. There's nothing to it. You know? So any excuse that you want to give
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or say or do or whatever it's bullshit. I don't care what it is. I just don't. I've seen it far
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too many. And I'm not talking about just myself. Go fucking read about people, people who have been
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successful. Everybody has a story and your story is either, you know, I have all this hardship so I
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couldn't make it or it's going to be, dude, I had all this hardship and guess what? I still fucking
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made it. And so can you. And that's what we get into talking about legacy. And we talk about what
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your life is going to mean. We talk about the impact you're going to have for the rest of your
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fucking life. You know, when you're dead, is your life going to actually a fucking matter?
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Well, I could tell you this. If you use your excuses that you fucking had a bad childhood
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as a reason why you couldn't do anything, you sure as fuck aren't going to matter. You're not
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going to make a dent in this world. And that's, that's the end of the story. You know, we could talk
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about excuses all day, but dude, I don't feel bad for one motherfucking person on this earth that makes
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excuses. And if you're listening right now and you're thinking, but you don't understand, no