REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 05, 2018


WHAT IF： The Least Asked Question of the Most Successful People, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO265


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In this episode of the MFCEO Project, I talk about why I'm taking a break from speaking and why I don't want to be a part of any more events like PitchFests or other networking events.

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00:00:00.400 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.880 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host.
00:00:18.340 And I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, it's been a minute. It has been a minute.
00:00:23.880 But let me tell you something. There's reasons why it's been a minute.
00:00:28.420 And the main reason is this. Unlike most of the other guys out there that just crank content, crank content, crank content, say the same fucking shit over and over again.
00:00:39.240 Number one, I got real jobs. I run real companies. And I don't run companies that just sell you information on how to be successful.
00:00:49.320 I'm talking about a real company that ships products, that does things other than the info.
00:00:55.180 Right now, it's real popular to call yourself an entrepreneur if you just create fucking information on how to do shit and then sell it to other people.
00:01:04.000 And then talk about how much money you made, being successful, selling people the courses on how to do shit.
00:01:11.340 To me, that shit has played the fuck out.
00:01:14.160 So, usually around this time of year, we get real busy here with the business that we do because we're gearing up for next year.
00:01:23.400 And that's the reason why I had to take a little bit of time off.
00:01:25.840 The other thing is this. You know, I begin a lot of you guys asking me when I'm going to speak, where I'm going to speak, what I'm going to do.
00:01:37.660 And as a lot of you know, Emile and I have partnered on the Arte Syndicate, which is a super, super high-level entrepreneurial society that we're pouring a lot of time and resources into.
00:01:52.520 One of the things that Ed and I talked about when we started this was getting away from the entrepreneur space.
00:02:05.680 You know, right now, you have lots of people selling events and having, you know, these quote-unquote entrepreneur events.
00:02:13.600 And you go to them, you pay a lot of money, you go there hoping to learn some shit.
00:02:18.940 And what happens whenever you go to them? You get sold.
00:02:23.080 You have 25 fucking speakers that go up on stage and then pitch you on, you know, they tell you just enough information and then pitch you to buy some more shit.
00:02:32.220 And, you know, these entrepreneur events are expensive. They cost a lot of fucking money.
00:02:37.860 And Ed and I have both agreed to basically just not be a part of anything like that anymore.
00:02:43.240 If we're going to be a part of an event, they're going to teach you.
00:02:47.200 If you see my name on the poster, if you see Ed's name on the poster, that's something that you can go to and you can learn.
00:02:55.160 These pitch fests, this whole fucking entrepreneurial society and the way it's going, it's just not something that I vibe with.
00:03:01.260 It's not something I want to be a part of.
00:03:02.900 It's not something I want to be intertwined with.
00:03:05.160 And for that reason, I'm going to be doing things differently.
00:03:09.420 I won't be speaking as much.
00:03:11.080 I won't be out doing as many things because the reality is, is these guys, they want to pay me to come in and headline their fucking events.
00:03:17.740 So you guys will all come and then all they do is try to sell you shit.
00:03:21.100 And I'm not going to do that to you guys.
00:03:22.380 That's not what we're about.
00:03:23.320 It's not what I'm about.
00:03:24.100 It's not what Ed's about.
00:03:25.260 And that's that.
00:03:27.440 I just wanted to get that off my chest.
00:03:29.180 The thing I want to talk to you guys about today, and it's not going to take long, is something that I've been hearing very, very frequently from people.
00:03:39.960 You know, we get a lot of questions.
00:03:42.580 We get a lot of people submitting, you know, their questions, whether it be through DM or through my website or whatever.
00:03:48.700 They just want it answered.
00:03:49.680 And one of the most common questions, one of the biggest issues I see with a lot of you guys who are more towards the beginning and even the middle of your entrepreneur journey is this.
00:04:01.720 You ask yourself the question of what if, okay?
00:04:07.520 What if I do all this work and I don't get the result I want?
00:04:13.180 What if I go to the gym and I work out, you know, for an hour a day and I eat right and I do all this shit and I don't get in shape?
00:04:23.200 What if I put all this time and energy into a relationship and it doesn't work out?
00:04:28.060 We can literally say what if about any aspect of our lives and use it as a way to cop out of doing what is necessary.
00:04:41.740 All right?
00:04:42.080 This is the most common mistake people make about success.
00:04:49.240 They look at success as if it's a magical thing and as if they can go out and do every single step that is necessary and they somehow won't get the result because the powers that be, God, the universe, whatever it is, has deemed them unsuccessful.
00:05:11.360 And let me tell you something, guys, that's just not fucking true.
00:05:16.620 All right?
00:05:17.680 There's millions of people who are dumber than you, less educated than you, lazier than you, that have gone out and done the shit that you want to do because they didn't ask themselves, what if I do this and this doesn't happen?
00:05:33.280 Guys, this is mental torture, all right?
00:05:36.760 This is, we talk, you know, you hear all right now, it's popular, talk about abuse.
00:05:41.120 This is fucking mental abuse.
00:05:43.000 It's self-mental abuse because it's one thing to analyze where it is you're going.
00:05:49.480 It's one thing to have an educated guess of where it is you're going.
00:05:53.420 It's a complete different thing to fill yourself with anxiety, fill yourself with questions, fill yourself with uncertainty because you don't know where it is you're going.
00:06:06.720 But let me let you in on a little secret.
00:06:09.200 Nobody who has built anything ever knew exactly where they were going to end up.
00:06:18.280 Nobody.
00:06:19.440 Now, you might have guys tell you, yeah, I fucking knew exactly where I was going and it worked out perfectly because they want to tell you how great they are and how smart they are and how much smarter they are than you.
00:06:31.280 And they're probably doing that so they can sell you some fucking courses on how to do shit.
00:06:35.960 But the truth of the matter is, guys, that's just not reality.
00:06:40.200 Successful entrepreneurs, they look at the situation, they analyze the landscape, they look out and they say, hey, you know what?
00:06:46.920 But if we do this and we do this and we do this and we keep doing these things, eventually we're going to end up somewhere over here.
00:06:56.240 And that's where we want to be.
00:06:57.360 We want to be over there.
00:06:58.740 OK, and they're going to go ahead and start doing the things that are going to take them there.
00:07:04.220 Let's just look at this from a fitness aspect.
00:07:06.240 Let's say you need to lose 50 pounds.
00:07:08.480 OK, you want to look like the fucking rock when you're done with 50 pounds.
00:07:12.660 All right.
00:07:13.240 Now, I see people do this all the time in fitness, too, by the way.
00:07:17.600 These people will they'll make a plan and then they'll look at the plan and they'll say, all right, I still haven't lost even one pound yet, but I don't know if this is the right plan.
00:07:27.780 It's going to get me looking like the rock.
00:07:30.140 So then they start messing with the plan and then they're like, well, I don't you know, I don't know if this is the right plan on the second version.
00:07:36.020 And then they say that third version and then they just keep doing that and they never actually get started.
00:07:41.420 But the truth of the matter is this.
00:07:43.560 If you go to the gym and you fucking work out with intensity for 40 minutes a fucking day, if you watch what you eat and stop stuffing bullshit down your fucking throat every day and stop eating like a fucking hippopotamus. 0.51
00:07:59.100 Guys, what's going to happen in six months?
00:08:03.380 Are you going to be closer to the rock or further away?
00:08:06.520 You're going to be closer.
00:08:08.160 You know, I used to play a lot of golf growing up.
00:08:11.360 My dad and my brother were great golfers.
00:08:13.540 I was not very good.
00:08:14.580 But one thing I can remember my dad telling me about putting, all right, putting on the green, like putting is what wins, what makes you good at golf.
00:08:24.900 OK, he would say, imagine around the hole that the hole is actually the size of a bucket or actually the size of a, you know, of a, of a, you know, three foot in diameter versus fucking the size of a golf ball.
00:08:43.640 You just imagine there's a bigger hole.
00:08:46.160 OK, and if you don't know exactly how to hit it into the small hole, you just try to hit it into the imaginary bigger hole.
00:08:52.480 OK, now, are you better off hitting it into the bigger hole and missing than you would be not hitting the ball at all?
00:09:00.740 Of course you are.
00:09:02.040 You're close.
00:09:03.220 OK, and then you make fine tune adjustments based off of the feedback that you got from taking the shot in the first place.
00:09:10.600 And that's no different than fucking life.
00:09:12.520 That is no fucking different, no different than business, no different than fitness, no different than anything.
00:09:18.780 You have to quit asking yourself and overanalyzing.
00:09:23.620 And you hear this saying a lot, paralysis by analysis.
00:09:26.780 It's a real thing.
00:09:27.700 A lot of you guys suffer from this.
00:09:29.760 A lot of you guys are sitting there right now saying, well, what if I do this and what if I do that and I could do this and I could do that.
00:09:36.720 When the reality is you should just be doing fucking something because fucking something is going to get you closer to where you want to be. 0.75
00:09:43.100 And you're going to develop knowledge by doing that.
00:09:48.640 OK, and here's the other part to that equation.
00:09:51.060 OK, here's the thing.
00:09:53.280 A lot of you guys want this shit to come instantly.
00:09:56.820 OK, you want shit to come overnight.
00:09:58.760 Yesterday we had a we had a guy named Mike, the boot guy come in and he makes custom cowboy boots.
00:10:06.280 All right.
00:10:07.520 And he does this shit for like World Series championship teams, national championship teams, Super Bowl teams.
00:10:15.180 I mean, super high profile gift.
00:10:17.640 All right.
00:10:17.840 I know a lot of you guys don't understand cowboy boots, but these are like five, six, eight thousand dollar sets of cowboy boots.
00:10:24.920 The totally custom made.
00:10:26.820 All right.
00:10:27.360 And we had 19 guys who had been in our company for longer than five years and we got everybody a custom set of cowboy boots.
00:10:35.460 All right.
00:10:36.280 Now, that sounds like, oh, yeah, that's cool.
00:10:39.620 But let me tell you something.
00:10:41.560 I've had a number of those guys who have come in today, shook my hand, thanked me with tears in their eyes for doing that.
00:10:50.680 All right.
00:10:51.280 And it's not it's not the boots.
00:10:55.080 OK, what they're really thanking me for is the journey that they've been on.
00:10:59.260 All right.
00:11:00.020 And that's what you guys have to understand.
00:11:02.120 Again, as cool as it was to get these dudes set up with this this gift to get them custom boots, though.
00:11:08.900 And when I say custom, they got to design them.
00:11:10.940 OK, they got to do anything they wanted on them.
00:11:13.040 Some are probably going to be ugly.
00:11:14.360 So probably going to be cool.
00:11:15.600 But here's the reality.
00:11:18.220 We got them all set up.
00:11:20.940 And that those little things like those little things, like the things that we do with our team, the friends that we make, the dinners, the stories, the failures, the successes, the trips, the vacations, the all the challenges that we overcome together.
00:11:37.940 That's what makes success so fucking cool.
00:11:42.520 It's not the money.
00:11:43.940 It's not the car.
00:11:45.160 It's not the fucking house.
00:11:46.680 It's none of that shit.
00:11:48.300 And so many of you guys are trying to skip this process of learning as you're going because you're trying to overanalyze it, that you're missing the point.
00:11:58.920 And the point is that the journey and the friends that you make and the challenges you overcome and the bonds that you create and the fun that you have, that all creates your fucking story.
00:12:13.820 OK, and would you want to have success?
00:12:15.960 Would you really want to have millions of dollars with no fucking story to share about it?
00:12:21.600 Would you want to have the house, a car and somebody be like, well, how'd you get it?
00:12:25.760 Well, I fucking won the lottery.
00:12:27.580 Dude, that would suck.
00:12:28.920 That would suck.
00:12:31.000 OK, you guys need to quit with the fucking overnight bullshit. 0.96
00:12:35.620 Quit thinking about how long it's going to take.
00:12:38.820 Quit thinking about that you're never going to make it because you could see all the what ifs.
00:12:44.700 All right, dude, anything great that's ever been fucking accomplished in humanity could have easily been dismissed with a conversation about what if we do this and this doesn't work the way that we want.
00:12:57.020 Every fucking thing.
00:12:59.360 Think about the guy that fucking built the first skyscraper.
00:13:03.400 Hey, what if we fucking build this giant building and it falls down?
00:13:07.420 Well, guess what?
00:13:08.280 If it falls down, the next one we fucking make isn't going to fall down the same way.
00:13:12.320 That's the mentality of fucking champions.
00:13:15.660 And a lot of you guys are missing the point.
00:13:18.300 The key to success is not having the perfect plan.
00:13:21.360 It's not knowing what to do.
00:13:24.100 It's doing the shit when you don't know what to do.
00:13:27.200 And it's doing the shit and being able to observe and take the information and make a better path for yourself later.
00:13:34.780 So, if you're sitting there and you're saying, what if I do all this work and it never works out?
00:13:40.340 What if I neglect my girlfriend right now and I do all this work and I lose her and I never get where I want to go?
00:13:47.780 Well, guess what?
00:13:49.320 With that attitude, you're never going to get where the fuck you want to go anyway.
00:13:52.240 Because people that succeed do shit and people that don't succeed talk about what can go wrong doing shit.
00:14:02.560 Shit's going to go wrong.
00:14:03.720 Bad shit's going to happen.
00:14:05.940 Things are going to be frustrating.
00:14:08.980 You're going to have to learn how to put out fires.
00:14:12.140 Dude, I had a conversation with someone today about how many fires they had to put out.
00:14:17.140 And they said, oh, you know, I was freaking out.
00:14:19.480 And I'm like, good.
00:14:21.520 Because that's the skill that successful people have that unsuccessful people don't.
00:14:27.900 They're able to take the shit that goes wrong and make it go right.
00:14:32.100 And you can't do that when you're sitting there focusing about what if, what if, what if, what if.
00:14:37.360 You can only do that when you're in the fucking game, when you're on the battlefield and you're running full force towards where it is you want to go.
00:14:44.460 And guess what?
00:14:45.380 Sometimes you're going to step in a pothole.
00:14:47.620 Sometimes you're going to sprain an ankle.
00:14:49.580 Sometimes you're going to fall on your face.
00:14:51.140 Sometimes you're going to go 10 miles in one direction and realize you went the wrong fucking way.
00:14:56.560 But you're still going to be better off than the person who's sitting back, twiddling their fucking thumbs, saying, well, I could have done that if I really wanted to.
00:15:06.600 Like everybody else.
00:15:08.660 All right?
00:15:09.400 Quit analyzing everything in your life with the question of what if, what if, what if.
00:15:14.540 And you know what?
00:15:16.140 Start fucking doing shit.
00:15:18.260 Because until you start doing shit, you are just like everybody else.
00:15:23.200 You are just like all the people that you probably think you're better than.
00:15:27.480 You're just like them.
00:15:28.880 You're just like them.
00:15:31.540 You don't want to be average?
00:15:32.940 I don't want to be average.
00:15:33.920 I'm not an average motherfucker.
00:15:34.940 Well, guess what?
00:15:35.300 If you're not doing anything, you are average.
00:15:36.620 You're fucking average.
00:15:37.520 That's reality.
00:15:38.640 Well, I'm waiting for the right time.
00:15:39.740 No, you're not because there is no right time.
00:15:42.460 You've got a choice.
00:15:43.400 Do something or fucking be like everybody else.
00:15:48.260 And that's all you got.