In this episode of the MFCEO Project, I talk about why I'm taking a break from speaking and why I don't want to be a part of any more events like PitchFests or other networking events.
00:00:00.400I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.880Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.880What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host.
00:00:18.340And I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, it's been a minute. It has been a minute.
00:00:23.880But let me tell you something. There's reasons why it's been a minute.
00:00:28.420And the main reason is this. Unlike most of the other guys out there that just crank content, crank content, crank content, say the same fucking shit over and over again.
00:00:39.240Number one, I got real jobs. I run real companies. And I don't run companies that just sell you information on how to be successful.
00:00:49.320I'm talking about a real company that ships products, that does things other than the info.
00:00:55.180Right now, it's real popular to call yourself an entrepreneur if you just create fucking information on how to do shit and then sell it to other people.
00:01:04.000And then talk about how much money you made, being successful, selling people the courses on how to do shit.
00:01:11.340To me, that shit has played the fuck out.
00:01:14.160So, usually around this time of year, we get real busy here with the business that we do because we're gearing up for next year.
00:01:23.400And that's the reason why I had to take a little bit of time off.
00:01:25.840The other thing is this. You know, I begin a lot of you guys asking me when I'm going to speak, where I'm going to speak, what I'm going to do.
00:01:37.660And as a lot of you know, Emile and I have partnered on the Arte Syndicate, which is a super, super high-level entrepreneurial society that we're pouring a lot of time and resources into.
00:01:52.520One of the things that Ed and I talked about when we started this was getting away from the entrepreneur space.
00:02:05.680You know, right now, you have lots of people selling events and having, you know, these quote-unquote entrepreneur events.
00:02:13.600And you go to them, you pay a lot of money, you go there hoping to learn some shit.
00:02:18.940And what happens whenever you go to them? You get sold.
00:02:23.080You have 25 fucking speakers that go up on stage and then pitch you on, you know, they tell you just enough information and then pitch you to buy some more shit.
00:02:32.220And, you know, these entrepreneur events are expensive. They cost a lot of fucking money.
00:02:37.860And Ed and I have both agreed to basically just not be a part of anything like that anymore.
00:02:43.240If we're going to be a part of an event, they're going to teach you.
00:02:47.200If you see my name on the poster, if you see Ed's name on the poster, that's something that you can go to and you can learn.
00:02:55.160These pitch fests, this whole fucking entrepreneurial society and the way it's going, it's just not something that I vibe with.
00:03:01.260It's not something I want to be a part of.
00:03:02.900It's not something I want to be intertwined with.
00:03:05.160And for that reason, I'm going to be doing things differently.
00:03:11.080I won't be out doing as many things because the reality is, is these guys, they want to pay me to come in and headline their fucking events.
00:03:17.740So you guys will all come and then all they do is try to sell you shit.
00:03:21.100And I'm not going to do that to you guys.
00:03:27.440I just wanted to get that off my chest.
00:03:29.180The thing I want to talk to you guys about today, and it's not going to take long, is something that I've been hearing very, very frequently from people.
00:03:49.680And one of the most common questions, one of the biggest issues I see with a lot of you guys who are more towards the beginning and even the middle of your entrepreneur journey is this.
00:04:01.720You ask yourself the question of what if, okay?
00:04:07.520What if I do all this work and I don't get the result I want?
00:04:13.180What if I go to the gym and I work out, you know, for an hour a day and I eat right and I do all this shit and I don't get in shape?
00:04:23.200What if I put all this time and energy into a relationship and it doesn't work out?
00:04:28.060We can literally say what if about any aspect of our lives and use it as a way to cop out of doing what is necessary.
00:04:42.080This is the most common mistake people make about success.
00:04:49.240They look at success as if it's a magical thing and as if they can go out and do every single step that is necessary and they somehow won't get the result because the powers that be, God, the universe, whatever it is, has deemed them unsuccessful.
00:05:11.360And let me tell you something, guys, that's just not fucking true.
00:05:17.680There's millions of people who are dumber than you, less educated than you, lazier than you, that have gone out and done the shit that you want to do because they didn't ask themselves, what if I do this and this doesn't happen?
00:05:33.280Guys, this is mental torture, all right?
00:05:36.760This is, we talk, you know, you hear all right now, it's popular, talk about abuse.
00:05:43.000It's self-mental abuse because it's one thing to analyze where it is you're going.
00:05:49.480It's one thing to have an educated guess of where it is you're going.
00:05:53.420It's a complete different thing to fill yourself with anxiety, fill yourself with questions, fill yourself with uncertainty because you don't know where it is you're going.
00:06:06.720But let me let you in on a little secret.
00:06:09.200Nobody who has built anything ever knew exactly where they were going to end up.
00:06:19.440Now, you might have guys tell you, yeah, I fucking knew exactly where I was going and it worked out perfectly because they want to tell you how great they are and how smart they are and how much smarter they are than you.
00:06:31.280And they're probably doing that so they can sell you some fucking courses on how to do shit.
00:06:35.960But the truth of the matter is, guys, that's just not reality.
00:06:40.200Successful entrepreneurs, they look at the situation, they analyze the landscape, they look out and they say, hey, you know what?
00:06:46.920But if we do this and we do this and we do this and we keep doing these things, eventually we're going to end up somewhere over here.
00:07:13.240Now, I see people do this all the time in fitness, too, by the way.
00:07:17.600These people will they'll make a plan and then they'll look at the plan and they'll say, all right, I still haven't lost even one pound yet, but I don't know if this is the right plan.
00:07:27.780It's going to get me looking like the rock.
00:07:30.140So then they start messing with the plan and then they're like, well, I don't you know, I don't know if this is the right plan on the second version.
00:07:36.020And then they say that third version and then they just keep doing that and they never actually get started.
00:07:43.560If you go to the gym and you fucking work out with intensity for 40 minutes a fucking day, if you watch what you eat and stop stuffing bullshit down your fucking throat every day and stop eating like a fucking hippopotamus.
00:07:59.100Guys, what's going to happen in six months?
00:08:03.380Are you going to be closer to the rock or further away?
00:08:14.580But one thing I can remember my dad telling me about putting, all right, putting on the green, like putting is what wins, what makes you good at golf.
00:08:24.900OK, he would say, imagine around the hole that the hole is actually the size of a bucket or actually the size of a, you know, of a, of a, you know, three foot in diameter versus fucking the size of a golf ball.
00:08:43.640You just imagine there's a bigger hole.
00:08:46.160OK, and if you don't know exactly how to hit it into the small hole, you just try to hit it into the imaginary bigger hole.
00:08:52.480OK, now, are you better off hitting it into the bigger hole and missing than you would be not hitting the ball at all?
00:09:29.760A lot of you guys are sitting there right now saying, well, what if I do this and what if I do that and I could do this and I could do that.
00:09:36.720When the reality is you should just be doing fucking something because fucking something is going to get you closer to where you want to be.
00:09:43.100And you're going to develop knowledge by doing that.
00:09:48.640OK, and here's the other part to that equation.
00:11:20.940And that those little things like those little things, like the things that we do with our team, the friends that we make, the dinners, the stories, the failures, the successes, the trips, the vacations, the all the challenges that we overcome together.
00:11:37.940That's what makes success so fucking cool.
00:11:48.300And so many of you guys are trying to skip this process of learning as you're going because you're trying to overanalyze it, that you're missing the point.
00:11:58.920And the point is that the journey and the friends that you make and the challenges you overcome and the bonds that you create and the fun that you have, that all creates your fucking story.
00:12:13.820OK, and would you want to have success?
00:12:15.960Would you really want to have millions of dollars with no fucking story to share about it?
00:12:21.600Would you want to have the house, a car and somebody be like, well, how'd you get it?
00:12:31.000OK, you guys need to quit with the fucking overnight bullshit.
00:12:35.620Quit thinking about how long it's going to take.
00:12:38.820Quit thinking about that you're never going to make it because you could see all the what ifs.
00:12:44.700All right, dude, anything great that's ever been fucking accomplished in humanity could have easily been dismissed with a conversation about what if we do this and this doesn't work the way that we want.
00:14:21.520Because that's the skill that successful people have that unsuccessful people don't.
00:14:27.900They're able to take the shit that goes wrong and make it go right.
00:14:32.100And you can't do that when you're sitting there focusing about what if, what if, what if, what if.
00:14:37.360You can only do that when you're in the fucking game, when you're on the battlefield and you're running full force towards where it is you want to go.
00:14:45.380Sometimes you're going to step in a pothole.
00:14:47.620Sometimes you're going to sprain an ankle.
00:14:49.580Sometimes you're going to fall on your face.
00:14:51.140Sometimes you're going to go 10 miles in one direction and realize you went the wrong fucking way.
00:14:56.560But you're still going to be better off than the person who's sitting back, twiddling their fucking thumbs, saying, well, I could have done that if I really wanted to.