REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 02, 2019


Why Your Wins Are Actually Destroying Your Success, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO295

Topics
celebration of wins
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Michael Jordan Kobe Bryant Arte Syndicate Tom Brady Ed Milet
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Length

12 minutes

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156.7

Word count

1,926

Sentence count

190

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29

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In this episode of the MFCEO Project, we discuss the difference between being a CEO and being a MFCEEO, and why it's so important to be a badass in whatever it is that you do. We also talk about the importance of setting a good example for the people around you, and how important it is to live up to your potential.

Transcript

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00:00:00.400 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.180 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
00:00:21.640 Guys, the goal of this podcast, which happens to be the number one business podcast in the world. 0.94
00:00:27.840 Thank you guys very much for that, by the way. That is not due to me. It's due to you.
00:00:32.180 Thank you. The goal is to help you guys listening become the MFCEO of your own life.
00:00:42.400 And you might be wondering, what separates a CEO from an MFCEO?
00:00:48.400 Well, basically, you're just a badass. That's what it comes down to.
00:00:52.820 Someone who takes control. Someone who exercises discipline. Someone who is committed. Someone who is dedicated. Someone who is diligent.
00:01:02.640 And someone who realizes that everything that is in their life is a result of their actions.
00:01:11.440 And everything that will be in their life from the future will be a result of the decisions made now.
00:01:18.380 Guys, that's the fact. You are in control. And what we try to do here is bring you some entrepreneurship, bring you some personal development, bring you some good things to think about and good things to do.
00:01:31.020 Practical, conceptual, mental, to be successful, guys, in whatever it is that you do.
00:01:37.080 And the important thing to remember is that your success is defined by you.
00:01:46.000 All right. It is the way I define it and the way we define it here at the MFCEO Project is the pursuit of one's full potential.
00:01:59.400 All right. You're never going to reach your full potential if you keep pursuing it.
00:02:02.840 That's just a fact. But what will happen is you will get better and better and better and better.
00:02:08.020 You will set an example for all the people around you.
00:02:10.600 And I hope you think about how important that really is, because at the end of the day, guys, we're all going to be dead.
00:02:16.660 We're all going to be dust. All right. That's the reality.
00:02:19.740 And what you leave behind, and I'm not talking about just money, and that does matter.
00:02:24.780 But what you leave behind in the way that you live is what's going to matter most to other people around you.
00:02:31.460 And I don't think there's anything more honorable than doing the best that you absolutely can. 0.93
00:02:36.760 Not the whiny bitch voice best that most people do where they say, oh, I'm doing the best that I can. 1.00
00:02:43.600 Not that shit. I'm talking about your real best. 1.00
00:02:46.420 And when you do your real best, you inspire other people to understand that they are not only just like you, but they can be just like you.
00:02:56.820 And that's an obligation that we take very seriously here.
00:02:59.860 So to those of you pursuing that and giving that hell, kudos to you and respect.
00:03:07.000 Now, today's show is a short podcast.
00:03:10.100 We've got some really good full-length podcasts coming up with myself and the whole team here.
00:03:18.180 But before I get into this short podcast, I would like to mention that we do have a really cool opportunity right now.
00:03:26.040 Ed Mylet and I's society that we have started, the Arte Syndicate, which is a very exclusive private group.
00:03:34.380 We do have a public event this Saturday, April 6th, that we do have a live stream for.
00:03:44.020 We've got limited opportunity for the live stream because the bandwidth of the hotel is only X amount.
00:03:50.140 There are a few spots on the live stream left.
00:03:53.500 Probably enough for you to jump in and get on.
00:03:56.540 If you want to get on, you can go to www.artasyndicate.com.
00:04:02.620 The live stream, I believe, is like $200.
00:04:05.660 And I can guarantee you, you're going to get $200 worth of value in the first 10 minutes of the live stream.
00:04:12.920 I can promise you that.
00:04:14.120 This is the kind of stuff that you will learn and give you a peek at what Arte Syndicate is all about.
00:04:21.100 And potentially, it might make you want to apply because it's really, really cool what we're doing.
00:04:27.840 It's not open to the public.
00:04:29.320 You have to apply.
00:04:30.800 And it's pretty hard to get in.
00:04:32.660 But it's a really rewarding group.
00:04:36.660 And I think if you speak to anybody who's in it, they will agree with you.
00:04:40.000 Now, with that being said, what I want to talk about, a lot of you guys have been following me.
00:04:45.440 And you know that I'm doing 75 hard.
00:04:47.840 And I'm seeing people getting to day 20 and day 25.
00:04:53.540 And, you know, they've got some progress.
00:04:55.740 They're doing good.
00:04:57.160 And then they start celebrating, right?
00:04:59.820 They start thinking like, dude, I got this.
00:05:02.040 I got it.
00:05:03.100 I'm going to finish all 75 days.
00:05:05.040 I've done 20 days and it was no problem.
00:05:07.240 So now I got 75 easy. 1.00
00:05:09.640 And then the very next day, oh, shit. 0.99
00:05:12.480 I got to start over because I missed my water. 1.00
00:05:14.940 Oh, shit. 0.99
00:05:15.420 I got to start over because I forgot my progress pick. 0.99
00:05:18.540 This is what happens when you take your eye off the ball.
00:05:23.940 And this is why average people don't win consistently.
00:05:30.080 The reality of average people winning is, yes, average people do win.
00:05:35.640 It happens.
00:05:36.760 It happens sometimes.
00:05:38.460 It happens a few times.
00:05:39.960 Not many times.
00:05:41.020 But one thing is for sure is they don't win all the time.
00:05:47.120 They don't keep winning.
00:05:49.320 They secure a victory and then they let it slip away.
00:05:52.940 But real winners, they win all the time.
00:05:56.200 They keep winning.
00:05:57.340 And it's because they don't make the huge mistake that average people make, which is this.
00:06:03.300 They don't over-celebrate their wins.
00:06:06.040 Now, I've talked about this a lot in the past, and there's a lot of misunderstanding.
00:06:11.740 I like to recognize my progress, but I don't celebrate, and I remain humble in that progress.
00:06:20.700 All right?
00:06:21.040 That means that I'm conscious of the progress I'm making.
00:06:24.540 I'm aware of the progress I'm making.
00:06:26.580 I'm happy about the progress I'm making, but I also realize how far I have to go.
00:06:32.640 All right?
00:06:33.320 Average people don't think like that.
00:06:36.040 And winners think completely different, if we're being honest.
00:06:41.060 You know, winners don't clap and cheer in a way that is disproportionate to the level of success that they've achieved.
00:06:48.520 Average people do this.
00:06:50.300 Average people go three days on a diet, and they say, 0.99
00:06:53.540 Holy shit, dude, I went three days. 0.99
00:06:55.260 I deserve a day off. 1.00
00:06:57.340 Man, go three months, and you deserve a day off.
00:07:01.040 All right?
00:07:01.740 People do this financially.
00:07:03.200 You know, they say, Oh, I've been doing really good at work.
00:07:05.400 I deserve that new pair of Jordans when you're only making $400 a week.
00:07:10.100 That is not proportionate celebration.
00:07:13.720 All right?
00:07:14.060 So, average people celebrate at a disproportionate level to their actual achievement.
00:07:20.480 Successful people do not.
00:07:21.960 Now, that doesn't mean that they don't enjoy the wins.
00:07:25.360 That doesn't mean that they don't take some satisfaction in them.
00:07:28.360 That doesn't mean they don't smile when they win or get happy or get excited.
00:07:32.720 But what it does mean is that they enjoy winning kind of like you and I would enjoy sunsets.
00:07:40.060 All right?
00:07:40.380 Or we enjoy a great college football game.
00:07:42.700 Or chilling on the couch with their dogs, if it's for me.
00:07:45.660 You know, we think that these things are great, but we also know that these things happen all the time.
00:07:53.500 And they are supposed to happen all the time.
00:07:57.100 And if you get to the right level mentally, which is the whole purpose of 75 Hard, which is if you haven't done it,
00:08:03.860 you need to go back and listen to the 75 Hard podcast just a few episodes ago.
00:08:08.900 The thing that's different about people like myself and people who win consistently across the course of their life
00:08:15.900 is that we expect the wins to happen all the time.
00:08:20.400 All right?
00:08:20.760 They don't come as a surprise to myself or very successful people.
00:08:26.500 Wins don't shock winners.
00:08:28.000 They aren't amazed when they got a win any more than Michael Jordan was amazed when he hit a game-winning shot.
00:08:35.720 That's what he expected.
00:08:38.140 That's what we focused on.
00:08:40.380 That's what we acted to do.
00:08:42.540 That's what we worked to do.
00:08:44.340 And because of all those things, we expect to win every time.
00:08:50.960 Zero exceptions.
00:08:52.040 And when you go crazy celebrating your win, it shows the whole world that, yeah, maybe you did get lucky.
00:08:59.420 It shows the whole world that, hey, since you're so surprised by your success,
00:09:03.760 maybe you weren't focused or disciplined or hardworking.
00:09:06.740 And just this once, the universe decided to say, what the hell?
00:09:11.820 I'll let you taste this little bit of success.
00:09:14.080 And by the way, guys, that happens all the time.
00:09:16.880 But I can tell you this.
00:09:18.560 It doesn't happen very often.
00:09:21.700 You're not going to build a lifetime of success.
00:09:24.600 You're not going to build a lifetime of legacy. 1.00
00:09:27.360 You're not going to build a lifetime of fulfillment on that kind of bullshit. 1.00
00:09:31.420 It's just not going to happen. 1.00
00:09:33.480 No sub off the bench who hits a total trash three-point shot at the buzzer out of sheer dumb luck is ever going to the Hall of Fame. 0.97
00:09:43.640 When you over-celebrate, you lose focus. 0.94
00:09:46.560 And actually, what it probably means is that you never had the focus in the first place.
00:09:52.380 True winners, lifetime winners, they never lose focus.
00:09:56.880 They always focus on the goal.
00:09:59.600 They always focus on the process.
00:10:02.000 And they always focus on being the absolute best that they can.
00:10:07.460 And they don't let one single win disrupt their focus on a lifetime and a lifestyle of winning. 0.97
00:10:15.180 Now, I know some asshole out there is going to be listening to this and say, well, what about the guys who win the Super Bowl? 0.99
00:10:21.280 Don't those guys go crazy after the game? 1.00
00:10:24.060 Let me ask you this. 1.00
00:10:25.700 Do they go crazy after one play the first game of the fucking season? 1.00
00:10:29.120 Because that's what you do. 1.00
00:10:33.080 Their celebration is in proportion to what they just accomplished.
00:10:37.820 They just won the epitome, the pinnacle, the best thing that you can win in their area.
00:10:44.340 When you do that in even one area of your life, I'll be okay with you celebrating like that. 1.00
00:10:49.800 But until then, shut the fuck up, put your head down, and do the fucking work. 1.00
00:10:55.380 Because this is what's short-circuiting 99% of you. 1.00
00:11:00.360 Okay?
00:11:00.880 Of course there's a place to really let yourself celebrate.
00:11:04.820 And that's usually the pinnacle goal of what you're trying to reach.
00:11:08.800 And in the context of the NFL, guess what? 0.99
00:11:11.500 The Super Bowl is the fucking pinnacle. 0.99
00:11:14.520 So it makes perfect sense to celebrate like that. 0.99
00:11:17.820 But I can guarantee you this.
00:11:20.180 The greatest of all time, the Bill Belichick's, the Tom Brady's, the Michael Jordan's, the Kobe Bryant's of the world.
00:11:27.200 They might celebrate hard, but they don't celebrate long.
00:11:30.940 Come Monday, come the next morning, they're back at it.
00:11:34.100 They're focused.
00:11:35.020 They're undistracted.
00:11:36.160 They're driven.
00:11:37.240 They're enjoying their progress.
00:11:38.960 They're enjoying their wins.
00:11:40.340 But they're not over-celebrating them.
00:11:43.740 And that's what makes people great.
00:11:46.400 And that's the attitude you have to have toward a single victory if you want to make it a lifestyle and a lifetime of winning.
00:11:56.040 We'll be right back.
00:11:57.300 We'll be right back.
00:12:03.140 We'll be right back.