REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 18, 2016


You Are In Control, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO86

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In this episode of Thursday Thunder, I talk about how I went through some of the most difficult years of my life and how I managed to come out the other side of it all. I m proud of where I am now and how far I ve come, but I m not proud of how I got here.

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00:00:00.000 I want to be a motherfucking hustler. You better ask somebody. 1.00
00:00:11.480 What's up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am the
00:00:17.380 motherfucking CEO. Guys, if you're listening to this podcast, I want you to be an MFCEO as well. 0.99
00:00:26.440 That's the point here. The point here is to use the lessons that we talk about in a way that will
00:00:33.280 help mold you, help guide you, help you find confidence, help you find belief, and ultimately
00:00:38.740 help progress your life. You don't have to be a business owner to benefit from this podcast,
00:00:43.540 even though a lot of the principles that we talk about are entrepreneurial. But at the end of the
00:00:49.920 day, guys, you are the entrepreneur of you. You should be the CEO of you. And I want you to be
00:00:57.340 the motherfucking CEO of you because life is way too fucking short guys to go through it like a 1.00
00:01:03.620 fucking pussy. Okay. You want to go through it with swagger. You want to go through it wrecking 1.00
00:01:07.540 shit. You want to go through it being King motherfucking Kong. All right. So don't listen 1.00
00:01:12.800 to this and think, Oh, this is just about business. It's not. It's about your life. And today on
00:01:18.820 Thursdays, as you guys know, we have Thursday thunder and today's Thursday thunder. I just want
00:01:24.180 to talk a little bit about, about some of the things I went through and what it's been like for me and
00:01:30.420 just bring some points home for you guys that I don't think you might realize. All right, guys,
00:01:36.300 I've been in business for 17 years now. And yes, most people call me successful. I don't feel that
00:01:44.960 way. Cause I feel like we're just beginning, but most people by their definition, we've been
00:01:49.500 successful. You know, I've got a couple of toys and the truth is, is if I never wanted to work another
00:01:56.220 day again, I could do that. Okay. There was no social media when I started and when it finally did
00:02:02.300 come around, I had already made it in most people's eyes. Okay. The really difficult years,
00:02:07.300 they were behind me. All right. So I understand where you look at where I'm at and you look at
00:02:13.540 where you're at and you can't understand how I got from where you are to where I am. I get that.
00:02:19.900 That's normal thinking guys. Everybody thinks that, but you have, it's just like, you know,
00:02:25.200 the mystery of faith when it comes to religion, you have to have faith that the plan will fucking 0.99
00:02:30.700 work. Okay. Besides my friends and my family, no one saw our humble beginnings. Okay. You weren't 0.99
00:02:37.960 there to witness the struggle that was endured, right? The sacrifices that were made, the extra
00:02:43.560 jobs I had to work just to keep the lights on at our business, the piss stained mattress I slept on
00:02:49.200 in the back of my store, the maxed out credit cards, the banks, every single one of them denying us
00:02:55.020 for loans. Okay. The girlfriends that dumped me for being a fucking loser and a dreamer. Okay. The
00:03:01.500 mistakes I made every single day. You weren't there to see that. All you guys see is the shiny toys
00:03:08.840 and this, the quote unquote success, the jets, the Rolls Royce, the Lamborghini, my awesome fucking 0.97
00:03:15.220 Snapchat, right? That's what you see. You didn't see this shit that I'm talking about. I could have 0.94
00:03:20.160 given up at any time and worked a normal job and nobody would have blamed me. The truth is I could
00:03:26.240 have worked at McDonald's the first 10 years we were in business and made more fucking money, but I 0.98
00:03:30.940 didn't. Instead, I stuck with it. And because I stuck with it, I built a group of extremely successful 0.97
00:03:39.600 companies that lead their respective industries in quality and service. We employ and help take care
00:03:45.160 over 120 people internally and over 2000 sales reps globally and their families. And you know what guys
00:03:52.380 that feels pretty fucking good. So yeah, I'm damn proud of where I am so far, but it could have easily 0.82
00:03:58.500 never happened. And you know what? Just like your dreams could easily never happen. Okay. I could have
00:04:05.820 come up with a million and one reasons to quit and the world would have said, Andy, that's okay. This wasn't
00:04:11.840 meant to be. Absolutely nothing is meant to be. You have to make it fucking be. And you know what
00:04:20.120 separates the winners from the losers in this world? The difference is that winners are honest with
00:04:25.140 themselves about the effort that they put in, about the execution that they execute on. They don't lie
00:04:31.340 to themselves about the effort they are putting in. They don't blame anything but themselves when they
00:04:36.120 don't get the result thereafter. They don't complete one measly task and expect success. They don't do
00:04:42.380 something for six months or a year and quit and try something else and then do the same thing over and
00:04:47.880 over and over again their whole lives. They don't say things like, Oh, I'm trying my best or it's not my
00:04:53.680 fault. Instead, they recognize their own lack of effort. They take responsibility for it and they fix the
00:05:00.440 fucking issue. That's what winners do. And I want you guys to do something tonight, a little homework 1.00
00:05:07.820 assignment. And I want you to make this a habit. If you have the courage to stand in front of your
00:05:14.280 mirror before you go to bed tonight. And I want you to think about your day. And I want you to look
00:05:19.680 yourself in the eyes and ask yourself, did I execute on every single opportunity, every single second
00:05:28.700 of today. And I want you to be honest. And if you said yes, you execute on every single opportunity
00:05:37.980 and you got the most out of every single second of this day, then bro, you are fucking delusional 0.97
00:05:45.080 because nobody is perfect every day. Only you can hold yourself back from getting what you want. 0.97
00:05:54.340 And the way you hold yourself back is by lying to yourself and convincing yourself that you're
00:06:00.620 putting in this great amount of work and great amount of effort and contributing this great
00:06:05.320 amount of value. When in reality you aren't, that's why most people never make it. Success is mental.
00:06:13.980 It's a mindset. It's something that you control. Okay. Let me repeat that. You are in control,
00:06:21.980 not your parents, not your teachers, not your boss, not your circumstances. You are in control.
00:06:30.720 And I know it's hard to admit when there are a million and one things you could point at in life
00:06:35.220 and say, I didn't want that, but that's what I got anyway. But the truth of the matter is, is that
00:06:42.080 somehow your decisions that you've made in the past have ultimately led you to the result you are
00:06:48.180 experiencing now. But guys, you are still not a result of your circumstances. You are the result
00:06:55.020 of the choices that you have made. You are the result of the old you and the choices that person
00:07:01.180 made. And that's who you are today. That doesn't have to be who you are from here on out. The biggest
00:07:08.300 lie society sells us is that we aren't in control. I get emails every single day from people asking for
00:07:15.240 advice. And the most common thing that they all believe is that when it comes to success,
00:07:22.080 someone or something else, some power is in control of their life. They look at it like a lottery.
00:07:28.920 They look at it like luck. They look at it like circumstance, but they sure as fuck don't look at it 0.99
00:07:34.060 like I'm in control of it. And guys, unless you believe you're in control, you ain't ever going to get 0.91
00:07:40.400 it. Okay. Unsuccessful people believe there's some sort of magical success fairy that flies around
00:07:47.680 and taps people on the head and chooses who gets to make it and who doesn't. Okay. I myself used to
00:07:54.720 believe that when I was in the beginning stages of business, I used to think, man, I wonder if I'll
00:07:59.660 ever make it. And I used to think, man, that'd be nice if I can, if I'm lucky enough to be the ones to
00:08:03.500 make it. But looking back and if you find anybody who's been able to build something great, they will
00:08:09.200 tell you that their success is a result of the actions that they've taken. And it's very, very
00:08:15.800 clear to see once you've gone through the process. Okay. The reality of this belief that it's lottery
00:08:22.540 and success fairy stuff that we're talking about is that it's a defense mechanism that allows you to
00:08:29.160 defer the personal responsibility to that something or someone else as to why you aren't one of the
00:08:35.540 chosen few. So you don't have to man the fuck up and admit the truth to yourself. And that truth 0.91
00:08:41.040 obviously being you are in control. I see so many people give up before they get started because of
00:08:48.260 this belief. They look at the size of the job, the dream, the goal, the task, and they think there's
00:08:54.380 no way I could ever do that. That wasn't meant for people like me. And that's the difference between
00:09:01.320 successful people and unsuccessful people. Successful people look at a huge project, a huge dream, a huge
00:09:09.080 goal. And instead of cowering down and making excuses to why it can't be done, they make a plan. And they
00:09:17.140 execute on that plan weekly, daily, hourly, 24, seven, 365 until they get what the fuck they're after. 0.99
00:09:28.920 They understand three key points. One, they are in control. Two, if they don't make it, it's their own 0.99
00:09:39.740 fault. And three, it's all about execution day in, day out over long periods of time. The only way to
00:09:49.820 eat an elephant guys is one bite at a time. Every single day is a win or a loss. Did you do what you
00:09:59.020 needed to do today? Because that's all that matters. And when you string enough wins in a row, you create a
00:10:05.640 habit of winning. When you create a habit of winning, it's no longer a struggle to win. It becomes
00:10:12.420 effortless. Winning becomes who you are. This is how success is forged, guys. You are in control.
00:10:21.580 There is no magic. There is no luck. It's one day at a time, one win at a time until you make winning
00:10:28.980 who the fuck you are. 1.00