Real Coffee with Scott Adams - Episode 1384 Scott Adams： Loneliness Epidemic, Fact-Checking as Propaganda, UFO Origins Predicted, and eQUITy

00:00:00.520 Well, everybody, you know what time it is?

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00:00:47.460 Oh.

00:00:50.300 That's good stuff.

00:00:51.840 So if you had some kind of a betting service,

00:00:58.420 and you could place a bet,

00:00:59.900 what are the odds that Scott would ever be

00:01:03.980 in a national news story about Monica Lewinsky?

00:01:09.820 Well, that happened.

00:01:11.380 So it turns out that my tweet,

00:01:14.200 in response to a Monica Lewinsky tweet,

00:01:16.920 put me in the news.

00:01:18.800 Fox News and some other places carried it.

00:01:21.840 What are the odds?

00:01:24.220 I mean, really.

00:01:26.460 Now, I told this story on Locals,

00:01:30.700 the subscription service where I tell all my naughty stories

00:01:34.420 and the stuff that I don't want to put here.

00:01:37.640 But I think I could tell you this story.

00:01:40.760 Think about the following coincidences.

00:01:42.840 Number one,

00:01:45.280 I'm in a national news story

00:01:47.600 about Monica Lewinsky.

00:01:50.020 Number two,

00:01:51.680 I once shook hands with Bill Clinton.

00:01:55.040 So I've actually touched the hand

00:01:56.940 that touched Monica Lewinsky. 0.58

00:02:01.220 Now, probably a lot of people shake hands with presidents,

00:02:04.980 but I met him once after a speech.

00:02:08.040 So I gave a warm-up speech for Bill Clinton,

00:02:10.920 and I was just on the dais, do you call it?

00:02:14.480 And he went down and shook everybody's hands,

00:02:17.200 said hi.

00:02:17.600 You might also know that I once visited the Oval Office

00:02:23.440 to chat with President Trump.

00:02:27.100 And when I was there,

00:02:28.120 Ivanka was waiting for the president to come in,

00:02:30.480 and she had shown me into the Oval Office,

00:02:33.140 and she was showing me some of the decoration choices.

00:02:36.520 And I may be misremembering this,

00:02:40.200 but it could be just because it's too perfect.

00:02:44.680 You know, sometimes you remember things

00:02:46.180 that you want to remember,

00:02:47.500 even if they didn't happen.

00:02:49.560 But I would swear that Ivanka told me

00:02:53.160 that the carpet was Bill Clinton's carpet.

00:02:56.960 Because I guess each president gets to choose

00:02:59.880 from a warehouse of stuff

00:03:01.480 which things from prior presidents

00:03:03.700 and prior administrations they want in the Oval Office.

00:03:06.940 So I think Bill Clinton's rug was in there.

00:03:10.940 Now, I couldn't really check.

00:03:12.980 I didn't bring a blacklight or a CSI team

00:03:16.200 to find out if it really was Bill Clinton's rug,

00:03:19.260 but I have a memory of it,

00:03:21.420 either real or false.

00:03:23.820 And so there was that,

00:03:25.880 but an even weirder coincidence.

00:03:28.400 Do you remember the story of Linda Tripp?

00:03:31.060 She was the one who convinced Monica,

00:03:33.820 I think, to go public.

00:03:34.700 But Linda Tripp got her advice 1.00

00:03:37.440 from a literary agent named Goldberg.

00:03:42.580 Now, what are the odds

00:03:43.920 that I would know that literary agent?

00:03:47.360 But I did.

00:03:49.020 I believe she's deceased.

00:03:51.020 But she was married to an executive

00:03:52.600 in my cartoon syndication company.

00:03:54.500 So I've actually eaten a meal

00:03:56.440 with the woman who broke 0.65

00:03:58.820 the Monica Lewinsky story.

00:04:02.360 I also know Jake Tapper.

00:04:05.940 You may know that Jake

00:04:07.340 is also a very skilled cartoonist.

00:04:10.560 He has a very deep talent stack,

00:04:12.460 it turns out.

00:04:13.400 And he's been a guest cartoonist

00:04:15.380 for the Dilbert comic

00:04:16.320 on two separate weeks

00:04:17.740 and two different years.

00:04:18.680 And Jake Tapper once dated

00:04:22.800 Monica Lewinsky

00:04:24.340 before she was famous.

00:04:27.560 So what are the odds

00:04:29.280 that I would have so many connections

00:04:31.480 to a small cluster

00:04:33.560 of presidential blowjobs?

00:04:37.180 We must be living in a simulation.

00:04:39.900 There couldn't be that many connections.

00:04:42.020 By coincidence, could there?

00:04:46.720 Well, yes, there could.

00:04:48.360 But it's fun to think about it.

00:04:50.780 So here's some more news stories.

00:04:53.200 I have a prediction about the UFOs.

00:04:57.460 Number one, I don't think they're real.

00:05:00.380 So I'm still solidly on the side

00:05:02.760 that says there's nothing up there.

00:05:06.020 Just nothing.

00:05:07.620 Now, I would love to be wrong.

00:05:09.320 If there's anything I would like

00:05:12.240 to be wrong about,

00:05:14.060 it's aliens.

00:05:15.740 I would love to be wrong about that.

00:05:18.420 But I'm going to stick with my belief

00:05:21.360 that it's a psychological phenomenon

00:05:24.640 along with a number of maybe visual

00:05:27.920 or optical oddities.

00:05:29.800 Some of them might be fake.

00:05:31.700 Some of them might be false memories.

00:05:33.460 Who knows?

00:05:34.480 But what if there are real ships?

00:05:40.060 Here's my prediction.

00:05:41.940 If they're real,

00:05:43.320 meaning that there's actually

00:05:44.520 a physical something,

00:05:46.900 they're from the ocean.

00:05:49.640 Here's why.

00:05:51.840 We have not explored the ocean,

00:05:54.280 so something could be hiding there forever.

00:05:57.380 Suppose there were alien,

00:05:59.200 as the conspiracy theorists say,

00:06:03.820 alien astronauts who helped,

00:06:05.580 I don't know, build the pyramids

00:06:07.380 or helped with early civilization,

00:06:10.480 you know, beating off the animals

00:06:12.860 so that humans could be the dominant species.

00:06:17.040 Maybe they've always been here.

00:06:19.120 Or they've been here for a billion years.

00:06:23.080 Maybe they just live underwater

00:06:24.700 because it would be safer.

00:06:27.320 If you live underwater,

00:06:29.120 no hurricanes, no sunburns,

00:06:32.060 no animals trying to eat you.

00:06:34.840 You know, if you had the technology to do it.

00:06:37.120 Now, you played an alien, Scott.

00:06:41.880 How could you not believe?

00:06:42.900 Well, that's true.

00:06:43.640 I have played an alien on television.

00:06:46.100 Now, could it be Atlantis?

00:06:47.820 Or at least could Atlantis be based on something like that?

00:06:51.380 Well, we don't know.

00:06:52.200 We do know that there was a video of a UFO

00:06:55.140 that appeared to be going into the water.

00:06:57.400 We know there are stories of UFOs emerging from the water

00:07:02.040 without leaving much of a ripple.

00:07:04.840 So, now, some people saw my tweet on this topic

00:07:08.420 and said,

00:07:09.440 but Scott, how could they forge any metals without fire?

00:07:15.060 No, I don't mean that they live literally in the water.

00:07:18.120 I said, under the water,

00:07:21.940 meaning in some kind of a contained area

00:07:24.500 that may or may not have oxygen

00:07:26.740 because who knows if they need it.

00:07:29.980 But I'm sure that they can figure out a way to,

00:07:32.820 you know, if they can live under the ocean,

00:07:34.800 undetected for millennia,

00:07:37.100 I feel like they could make metal, right?

00:07:40.980 So, and Mark says, what about propulsion?

00:07:44.720 There seems to be no sign of propulsion.

00:07:46.380 Well, Stixenhammer did a comment on my tweet this morning

00:07:50.480 that says it might be some kind of electromagnetic force,

00:07:56.640 meaning if the rocket ship knows how to interact

00:08:00.420 with the Earth's magnetic force,

00:08:02.760 it might be a maglev situation.

00:08:06.740 Is that possible?

00:08:08.780 I don't know.

00:08:10.760 But if we're talking about stuff we don't understand,

00:08:15.080 well, you can throw in some more stuff

00:08:17.160 we don't understand, the propulsion.

00:08:21.820 In a fitting move,

00:08:24.300 the U.S. Army shut down the comments section,

00:08:27.960 or at least they blocked the comments

00:08:29.520 on their woke YouTube videos

00:08:32.540 trying to get recruitment.

00:08:34.940 Now, you may have seen the video.

00:08:36.380 There's one of them

00:08:37.020 in which a woman talks about her two moms

00:08:40.380 and how she joined the military.

00:08:44.280 And it's all very female-oriented 0.99

00:08:47.460 and very woke and very,

00:08:49.800 what would you say,

00:08:52.040 very, I don't know,

00:08:54.820 very open-minded, I guess.

00:08:56.720 And we like all of those things.

00:08:59.820 I like being open-minded.

00:09:01.460 I like not discriminating.

00:09:03.980 I like everybody having equal opportunity.

00:09:08.360 But apparently this doesn't look like

00:09:13.140 it's dangerous enough to scare our enemies

00:09:16.800 because it looks a little soft.

00:09:19.180 As Ted Cruz noted in his own tweet,

00:09:22.040 he said that the Army is turning our fighting people

00:09:26.460 into pansies was his word.

00:09:29.000 Now, how did he not get cancelled for that?

00:09:33.160 I'm trying to figure out

00:09:34.460 how does Ted Cruz still have a job

00:09:37.640 after using that word, pansies?

00:09:41.400 Because isn't that...

00:09:43.520 Where's the LGBTQ people saying, 1.00

00:09:47.020 hey, you can't say that?

00:09:48.600 Now, in my opinion,

00:09:51.100 he didn't mean anything about being gay.

00:09:55.120 He was just saying,

00:09:56.440 it's just a colloquial word

00:09:57.780 for not being tough and dangerous, I guess.

00:10:01.600 But I'm kind of surprised

00:10:02.720 he didn't get attacked for that.

00:10:04.520 Or maybe he did,

00:10:05.300 and I haven't seen it,

00:10:05.960 but it's not any kind of a national story.

00:10:08.360 Kind of surprising.

00:10:09.380 I don't know why.

00:10:10.940 But apparently that didn't go over

00:10:12.760 so well for the Army,

00:10:14.120 so they're going to stop that.

00:10:15.380 Now, here's a counterpoint.

00:10:17.520 Counterpoint is this.

00:10:19.360 I think it was Balaji Srinivasan

00:10:22.940 who said this on tweet

00:10:24.060 that the future of warfare

00:10:25.980 is probably drones.

00:10:29.400 Do you need to be 200 pounds

00:10:32.860 of fighting muscle

00:10:33.960 to operate a drone?

00:10:36.760 Probably not.

00:10:38.500 So is there any reason

00:10:40.220 to believe that our Army

00:10:41.620 wouldn't be 90% female in the future? 1.00

00:10:44.100 If they're operating drones,

00:10:47.320 why not?

00:10:48.720 You don't have to carry heavy things.

00:10:50.540 Because basically,

00:10:51.480 carrying heavy things

00:10:52.400 is what it comes down to, right?

00:10:54.680 Suppose the military comes up

00:10:56.520 with better ways

00:10:57.500 to carry heavy things.

00:10:59.400 They got the robot dog

00:11:00.960 carrying the heavy stuff

00:11:02.280 so you don't have to, whatever.

00:11:03.460 But I would not assume

00:11:05.920 that there would be

00:11:08.380 any degradation of readiness

00:11:10.200 based on women in the military. 1.00

00:11:13.320 And if you think so,

00:11:14.880 you might be thinking

00:11:15.660 of the old military

00:11:16.520 where you had to pick up

00:11:17.480 a big old heavy sword.

00:11:19.320 But modern military,

00:11:20.620 it's entirely feasible

00:11:22.260 that we just don't need men

00:11:24.120 for, I don't know,

00:11:25.760 in the future,

00:11:27.020 50% of the jobs,

00:11:28.680 maybe you just don't need men. 0.97

00:11:31.900 All right.

00:11:33.460 I heard some bad news

00:11:36.720 and then some good news.

00:11:38.240 I tweeted them both.

00:11:39.860 I'm hoping the good news

00:11:41.040 cancels the bad news.

00:11:42.080 The bad news is that

00:11:42.860 the telehealth executive orders

00:11:45.740 that Trump did during the pandemic

00:11:47.740 that said you could do

00:11:49.040 video doctoring across state lines

00:11:52.040 without any special licenses or fees,

00:11:55.760 apparently they had timers on them,

00:11:58.520 meaning that each state

00:11:59.800 will revert back to the old way

00:12:02.180 when a date is hit,

00:12:04.340 which I believe those dates

00:12:05.580 are being hit.

00:12:07.860 What the hell?

00:12:10.200 What was the point

00:12:11.440 of doing this very smart thing

00:12:13.800 to fix this obvious problem

00:12:15.460 and then have it revert

00:12:17.060 back to the problem?

00:12:17.960 Well, the good news

00:12:19.580 that I found out later,

00:12:21.420 Jonah Shoemate filled me in,

00:12:23.960 that there are two bills,

00:12:25.360 at least two bills,

00:12:26.300 percolating to fix this

00:12:27.900 and then make it permanent

00:12:29.040 to allow telehealth

00:12:30.140 across state lines.

00:12:31.360 The good news is

00:12:32.560 they're bipartisan.

00:12:34.160 So at least one of them

00:12:35.140 that I saw

00:12:35.920 is a bipartisan bill.

00:12:38.020 We've got a Democrat

00:12:38.880 and Republican backing them.

00:12:40.720 So I feel as if

00:12:42.500 the incompetence

00:12:43.620 which I worried about

00:12:44.680 may not have to be a problem.

00:12:47.420 So there might be

00:12:48.640 a couple of politicians

00:12:50.140 who are just fixing a problem.

00:12:52.040 Thank you.

00:12:53.100 So if you do that,

00:12:54.360 thank you.

00:12:55.600 You know what's weird

00:12:56.620 about my job?

00:12:57.560 Lots of things.

00:12:59.700 But one of them is

00:13:00.600 I get quoted a lot.

00:13:04.000 Meaning if you go to

00:13:04.920 one of the famous quote sites,

00:13:07.540 there are lots of them,

00:13:08.840 chances are you will see

00:13:10.260 a bunch of quotes from me.

00:13:12.300 And every now and then

00:13:13.200 I'll see a quote

00:13:14.000 that's attributed to me

00:13:15.420 and I'll say to myself,

00:13:16.660 really?

00:13:17.760 Did I say that?

00:13:19.300 I don't remember saying that.

00:13:21.140 Or in some cases

00:13:22.100 they might be quotes

00:13:23.400 from someone else

00:13:24.380 that got attributed to me.

00:13:26.540 But there is one

00:13:28.580 that I feel is

00:13:29.720 very appropriate

00:13:31.060 to 2021

00:13:32.380 and to a problem

00:13:34.280 that a lot of us

00:13:35.180 are suffering from.

00:13:37.820 And I'm going to develop

00:13:39.340 this as we go.

00:13:40.360 So wait for the big point

00:13:41.700 to be developed.

00:13:43.620 But here's the quote

00:13:44.540 that apparently

00:13:45.440 I said at some point.

00:13:46.860 I don't deny it,

00:13:48.140 but maybe somebody

00:13:49.080 said it before I did.

00:13:50.340 Maybe I copied it.

00:13:51.360 I don't know.

00:13:52.400 But the quote is this.

00:13:53.600 Everybody is somebody

00:13:55.460 else's weirdo.

00:13:58.360 Everybody

00:13:58.960 is someone else's weirdo.

00:14:02.440 Do you ever feel to yourself,

00:14:04.420 man, I am so weird.

00:14:06.220 If anybody found out

00:14:07.600 how weird I am,

00:14:09.400 I'd be in trouble.

00:14:11.740 Because man,

00:14:12.600 I'm so weird.

00:14:14.120 Well, I would like

00:14:14.940 to introduce to you

00:14:16.040 the basket case theory.

00:14:19.460 Something I developed

00:14:20.640 when I was a young man

00:14:21.660 to explain what I was witnessing.

00:14:24.760 And it goes like this.

00:14:26.380 If you meet a stranger,

00:14:28.120 could be somebody

00:14:28.800 you want to date

00:14:29.500 or just somebody

00:14:31.020 you work with.

00:14:32.020 Maybe just a friend.

00:14:33.140 When you meet them,

00:14:34.580 don't they seem

00:14:35.240 pretty complete?

00:14:37.160 Have their act together

00:14:38.060 pretty well?

00:14:39.220 Man, that stranger.

00:14:40.680 I wish I could be

00:14:41.560 like that stranger

00:14:42.360 because that stranger

00:14:43.980 doesn't have anything

00:14:44.740 weird about them.

00:14:46.060 And they've got

00:14:46.560 their act together

00:14:47.340 and on the inside

00:14:48.880 pretty confident

00:14:49.980 and pretty capable.

00:14:51.660 And then time goes by

00:14:55.120 and you learn

00:14:56.720 more about your date

00:14:58.380 or your friend

00:14:59.840 or your co-worker

00:15:00.580 and suddenly

00:15:02.280 there's a flaw.

00:15:04.820 Oh, I didn't see that

00:15:05.920 on day one

00:15:06.440 but there does seem

00:15:07.780 to be a flaw.

00:15:09.880 Maybe a little weirdness.

00:15:12.820 Day ten,

00:15:14.100 well, it looks like

00:15:14.900 there's more than one flaw.

00:15:17.080 Two years later,

00:15:18.800 well, I guess

00:15:19.700 everybody's fucked up. 0.99

00:15:20.760 That's the basket case theory.

00:15:24.800 Everybody looks good

00:15:26.100 until you get to know them.

00:15:28.780 Once you get to know

00:15:29.900 a human being,

00:15:31.480 there are always

00:15:32.060 basket cases.

00:15:33.960 Always.

00:15:34.980 Just different kinds

00:15:36.000 of baskets.

00:15:37.220 As soon as you realize

00:15:39.080 that every fucking person 0.93

00:15:41.740 is a basket case,

00:15:44.220 you're free.

00:15:45.120 you're free.

00:15:49.440 What is it that bothers you

00:15:50.920 more than anything

00:15:51.800 as long as you're healthy

00:15:53.340 and you have a job?

00:15:55.340 What bothers you

00:15:56.160 more than anything

00:15:57.100 is what people think of you

00:15:59.020 or what you think

00:15:59.880 they think of you

00:16:00.640 or what they might think of you

00:16:02.460 or how they would treat you

00:16:03.920 if you did this embarrassing thing.

00:16:08.200 They're not better than you.

00:16:11.140 Basket case theory.

00:16:12.300 They're not better than you.

00:16:15.040 They're just people

00:16:15.620 you don't know that well.

00:16:17.400 That's it.

00:16:19.140 There's nothing else

00:16:20.200 to the story.

00:16:21.360 You just don't know them

00:16:22.580 that well.

00:16:23.280 If you did,

00:16:24.580 you wouldn't be impressed.

00:16:27.040 I'll tell you,

00:16:27.820 one of the most common things

00:16:30.200 that people say to me

00:16:31.340 as a celebrity type,

00:16:34.460 when they get to know me,

00:16:36.160 they say some version of,

00:16:38.300 gosh,

00:16:38.640 you're just like

00:16:39.340 a regular person.

00:16:41.140 Well,

00:16:41.420 why wouldn't I be?

00:16:43.380 There's nobody

00:16:44.000 who's not a regular person

00:16:45.220 except maybe

00:16:45.840 Michael Jackson wasn't.

00:16:47.660 You know,

00:16:47.900 if you get famous

00:16:49.120 when you're too young,

00:16:49.960 you can be kind of weird.

00:16:51.940 But,

00:16:52.600 even Michael Jackson,

00:16:53.960 was he weirder than me?

00:16:55.820 Probably not.

00:16:56.980 Just different weirdness.

00:16:58.400 Was he weirder than you?

00:17:01.120 Probably not.

00:17:02.720 Just different weirdness.

00:17:03.800 And so,

00:17:06.920 there's something

00:17:09.040 connecting this weirdness

00:17:10.900 and self-esteem issue

00:17:12.520 with a massive problem

00:17:15.960 we're having in the country

00:17:17.060 right now.

00:17:18.560 Massive problem.

00:17:20.900 Loneliness.

00:17:22.460 The loneliness problem

00:17:24.200 is now the epidemic.

00:17:27.560 You know,

00:17:27.760 the virus is,

00:17:29.040 we're doing a good job on that.

00:17:31.340 So,

00:17:32.120 you know,

00:17:32.260 great job,

00:17:33.280 country.

00:17:33.800 And world,

00:17:35.060 working on that.

00:17:36.240 But,

00:17:36.720 people

00:17:38.260 are so

00:17:40.380 freaking lonely.

00:17:42.860 And it's not entirely

00:17:44.240 because they're not with people.

00:17:46.220 Because they are.

00:17:48.080 They are with people.

00:17:49.960 How many of you

00:17:50.980 in the comments

00:17:51.820 are having a

00:17:53.480 crisis of loneliness

00:17:55.000 right now?

00:17:56.500 In the comments,

00:17:58.200 tell me how many of you

00:17:59.280 are feeling lonely

00:18:00.220 in a way that you've

00:18:01.620 never felt before.

00:18:02.520 like just,

00:18:04.480 you know,

00:18:04.800 a whole new level

00:18:05.640 of loneliness.

00:18:06.860 Look at the comments now.

00:18:08.480 Now,

00:18:08.940 you'll see some no's

00:18:09.880 and that's good.

00:18:11.360 But look how many

00:18:12.320 say yes.

00:18:14.280 Right?

00:18:14.920 I'm thankful

00:18:15.700 that there are

00:18:16.300 any no's there at all.

00:18:17.900 Maybe

00:18:18.140 half of them are no's.

00:18:20.080 Something like that.

00:18:21.420 But,

00:18:22.680 if,

00:18:23.500 and then somebody says,

00:18:24.480 all my life.

00:18:25.220 Yeah.

00:18:25.400 And,

00:18:27.360 because of loneliness,

00:18:29.860 I think you're also

00:18:30.780 seeing more addiction.

00:18:33.320 Right?

00:18:33.860 One way to

00:18:34.680 make the pain

00:18:35.760 go away

00:18:36.280 is some kind

00:18:38.020 of addiction.

00:18:39.780 And,

00:18:40.320 how many of you

00:18:41.660 watch this

00:18:43.020 live stream

00:18:43.780 because it makes you

00:18:45.180 feel less lonely?

00:18:48.140 In the comments,

00:18:49.860 answer that question

00:18:50.820 for me.

00:18:51.320 Do you watch

00:18:51.840 this live stream

00:18:52.860 in large part

00:18:54.760 because it makes

00:18:56.180 you feel less lonely?

00:18:58.000 Now,

00:18:58.500 I'll tell you that,

00:18:59.600 you know,

00:19:00.000 I have people

00:19:00.800 in my house

00:19:01.480 so I'm not,

00:19:03.060 like,

00:19:03.260 physically alone.

00:19:04.920 But,

00:19:05.540 I've started to watch,

00:19:07.000 I guess,

00:19:08.200 what you would call

00:19:08.780 POV or point of view

00:19:10.560 video,

00:19:11.840 mostly on YouTube,

00:19:13.100 in which I want

00:19:14.520 somebody's face

00:19:15.780 looking into the camera

00:19:16.900 like I am right now

00:19:17.940 and talking to you

00:19:19.720 as if I'm talking

00:19:20.520 to one person.

00:19:22.040 And you can find

00:19:22.680 lots of YouTube videos

00:19:23.720 where somebody's

00:19:24.380 explaining something.

00:19:25.920 I can't watch

00:19:26.820 interviews anymore

00:19:27.780 because if I watch

00:19:29.740 an interview,

00:19:30.320 I'm watching two people

00:19:31.220 talk to each other

00:19:32.200 and I'm not part of it.

00:19:34.300 But if I watch

00:19:35.120 one person

00:19:35.820 talking to me,

00:19:37.960 I could probably

00:19:39.320 even watch one

00:19:39.980 of those makeup videos,

00:19:41.640 you know,

00:19:41.860 which are huge

00:19:42.780 because it's just

00:19:43.620 somebody putting on

00:19:44.340 their makeup

00:19:44.760 and just talking to you.

00:19:47.000 I would totally

00:19:47.840 watch that.

00:19:48.620 It has nothing

00:19:49.040 to do with the makeup.

00:19:49.780 And I think

00:19:52.480 there's something

00:19:53.060 happening

00:19:53.600 that's bigger

00:19:55.220 than what we understand

00:19:56.500 because clearly

00:19:58.480 the pandemic

00:19:59.320 made us more lonely,

00:20:01.800 right?

00:20:02.000 So there's an obvious

00:20:03.000 thing going on there.

00:20:03.960 But there's something

00:20:04.920 else going on

00:20:06.060 because there's

00:20:07.340 a second epidemic

00:20:08.440 and I think

00:20:09.320 it's connected.

00:20:11.180 Two epidemics

00:20:12.440 that are interacting

00:20:13.640 with each other

00:20:14.380 and none of them

00:20:15.080 have to do

00:20:15.480 with the virus

00:20:16.100 directly.

00:20:16.840 So one is

00:20:18.120 the loneliness

00:20:18.640 and the other

00:20:20.120 is narcissism.

00:20:22.080 I believe

00:20:22.920 narcissism

00:20:23.960 has gone

00:20:25.180 from something

00:20:26.560 that people had

00:20:27.580 and you could

00:20:28.140 stay away from them

00:20:28.960 to something

00:20:30.420 closer to an epidemic.

00:20:32.380 And I think

00:20:33.060 social media

00:20:33.720 has done that.

00:20:35.360 So what I've learned

00:20:36.900 about this

00:20:38.180 narcissism thing

00:20:39.380 is I used to think

00:20:40.240 it was people

00:20:40.720 who thought

00:20:41.100 they were great.

00:20:42.480 And if that's

00:20:42.980 where you think

00:20:43.620 that that,

00:20:44.160 if that's what

00:20:44.580 you think it means,

00:20:45.300 then you have to

00:20:46.240 catch up

00:20:46.680 just like I did.

00:20:47.900 It's not about

00:20:48.760 people thinking

00:20:49.280 they're great.

00:20:50.760 That's just like

00:20:51.500 a little bit of it.

00:20:53.260 It's about people

00:20:54.260 who have broken

00:20:55.120 self-esteem.

00:20:56.340 Just completely

00:20:57.020 broken.

00:20:58.160 And the way

00:20:58.840 that they deal

00:20:59.380 with their broken

00:21:00.160 self-esteem

00:21:00.900 is by belittling

00:21:02.760 other people,

00:21:04.120 one-upping them,

00:21:05.140 bragging,

00:21:06.200 putting them down,

00:21:07.480 shutting them down,

00:21:08.920 thwarting them

00:21:09.700 in any way you can.

00:21:11.580 Now,

00:21:11.900 I used to

00:21:13.980 look at those

00:21:14.680 people because

00:21:15.240 they're everywhere.

00:21:16.980 But man,

00:21:17.920 are there more

00:21:18.540 of them?

00:21:19.880 There are,

00:21:20.760 right?

00:21:21.360 And I think

00:21:22.060 it's because

00:21:22.580 people who

00:21:23.140 might have been

00:21:23.680 sort of on the

00:21:24.800 border of being

00:21:25.560 that way

00:21:25.980 just got pushed

00:21:27.120 over the edge

00:21:27.720 by social media.

00:21:29.520 Imagine living

00:21:30.220 in a world

00:21:30.640 where everybody

00:21:31.220 is criticizing

00:21:32.240 everybody for

00:21:33.320 everything.

00:21:34.440 That's our world.

00:21:35.820 We live in a world

00:21:36.740 where everybody

00:21:37.340 is criticizing

00:21:38.060 everybody for

00:21:38.940 everything.

00:21:39.660 Imagine that.

00:21:42.180 How would you

00:21:42.740 like to be

00:21:43.140 a teenager

00:21:43.700 and be

00:21:45.120 criticized

00:21:45.540 on everything?

00:21:48.460 The shirt

00:21:49.180 you wore

00:21:49.760 that one day,

00:21:51.440 the embarrassing

00:21:52.420 thing you did

00:21:53.220 just once

00:21:54.020 but somebody

00:21:55.040 saw it,

00:21:56.380 the,

00:21:56.660 you know,

00:21:58.340 you're not as

00:21:58.880 pretty or as

00:21:59.820 handsome or

00:22:00.420 as strong or

00:22:01.180 good at sports

00:22:02.020 as this other

00:22:02.680 person.

00:22:03.640 It's got to be

00:22:04.520 devastating.

00:22:06.180 Devastating.

00:22:07.580 Yeah,

00:22:07.820 and it's,

00:22:08.400 and there's just

00:22:08.860 more of it

00:22:09.480 because it's

00:22:09.940 in your face 0.50

00:22:10.580 and you're

00:22:11.360 seeing these

00:22:11.840 impossible images

00:22:13.200 of people

00:22:13.780 who you want

00:22:14.620 to be like

00:22:15.120 but you're

00:22:15.500 not,

00:22:16.600 et cetera.

00:22:17.980 So,

00:22:19.260 there's somebody

00:22:21.280 out here

00:22:21.620 watching this

00:22:22.300 right now.

00:22:23.440 You might be

00:22:23.980 watching it live

00:22:24.800 or somebody

00:22:25.300 might be

00:22:25.620 showing it

00:22:26.020 to you.

00:22:27.320 But,

00:22:28.060 I'm kind of

00:22:28.560 talking to you,

00:22:29.720 talking to you

00:22:30.360 directly.

00:22:31.440 You're feeling

00:22:32.220 super lonely,

00:22:33.900 you might be

00:22:34.680 addicted,

00:22:35.740 and you're

00:22:36.380 trying to figure

00:22:36.860 a way out.

00:22:38.600 And you're

00:22:39.260 thinking,

00:22:39.800 what the hell

00:22:40.780 do I do?

00:22:41.940 I'm trapped,

00:22:42.720 I'm lonely,

00:22:43.980 and maybe

00:22:44.920 addicted.

00:22:45.940 And I have

00:22:46.320 low self-esteem.

00:22:47.700 And all these

00:22:48.480 people who are

00:22:49.240 doing better

00:22:49.680 than me

00:22:50.140 are beating

00:22:51.060 up on me

00:22:51.700 and they're

00:22:52.360 controlling me

00:22:53.120 with their,

00:22:53.880 with their,

00:22:54.780 their opinions

00:22:56.580 are actually

00:22:57.420 just breaking

00:22:58.140 my brain.

00:22:58.800 I can't stop

00:22:59.320 thinking about

00:22:59.860 what they said

00:23:00.360 about me.

00:23:01.480 Is that you?

00:23:02.280 Yeah,

00:23:04.380 that is you.

00:23:06.020 And,

00:23:06.640 I'm going to

00:23:07.020 give you

00:23:07.560 at least

00:23:08.660 a few tricks.

00:23:10.160 This will

00:23:10.520 just be a start.

00:23:11.520 It's not going

00:23:11.880 to fix anybody

00:23:12.580 instantly.

00:23:13.860 But I'll give you

00:23:14.420 a few tricks

00:23:15.100 for escaping

00:23:16.180 that.

00:23:17.220 Okay?

00:23:18.020 Some brain

00:23:18.740 hacks,

00:23:19.320 some life

00:23:19.840 hacks. 0.51

00:23:20.900 And it goes

00:23:21.600 like this.

00:23:22.940 Number one,

00:23:25.080 always remember

00:23:26.060 the basket

00:23:26.920 case theory.

00:23:28.920 The person

00:23:29.800 who's talking

00:23:30.480 to you

00:23:30.920 and is

00:23:32.100 insulting

00:23:32.460 you,

00:23:33.420 they're

00:23:33.780 broken.

00:23:36.240 Did you

00:23:36.880 say to

00:23:37.180 yourself,

00:23:37.700 oh my

00:23:38.020 goodness,

00:23:38.520 somebody

00:23:38.940 who's

00:23:39.300 normal

00:23:39.760 is

00:23:40.900 criticizing

00:23:41.500 me?

00:23:42.360 Do you

00:23:42.680 know how

00:23:42.880 many times

00:23:43.240 that's

00:23:43.540 happened?

00:23:44.460 How many

00:23:44.980 times has

00:23:45.420 a person

00:23:45.820 who's got

00:23:46.600 it together

00:23:47.080 and they're

00:23:48.020 normal and

00:23:49.260 they're

00:23:49.500 criticizing you?

00:23:50.360 How many

00:23:50.600 times has

00:23:51.000 that ever

00:23:51.400 happened?

00:23:52.780 Do you

00:23:53.100 think a lot?

00:23:54.300 Because the

00:23:54.660 answer is

00:23:55.060 zero.

00:23:56.260 It's never

00:23:56.700 happened.

00:23:58.020 Nobody who

00:23:59.080 has their

00:23:59.500 act together

00:24:00.340 is

00:24:01.200 criticizing

00:24:01.840 you in

00:24:02.440 cruel

00:24:02.940 ways.

00:24:03.800 But you

00:24:04.260 are getting

00:24:04.640 criticized

00:24:05.040 in cruel

00:24:05.620 ways.

00:24:06.160 You're

00:24:06.300 being judged

00:24:06.900 not by

00:24:08.400 good people.

00:24:10.240 You're

00:24:10.420 being judged

00:24:11.240 by thoroughly

00:24:12.300 broken people

00:24:13.420 who are

00:24:14.260 acting out.

00:24:15.380 They're

00:24:15.800 taking out

00:24:16.360 their pain

00:24:17.080 on you.

00:24:19.000 If you

00:24:19.720 imagine that

00:24:20.460 they're

00:24:20.680 complete

00:24:21.220 somehow

00:24:21.820 good people,

00:24:23.260 well that

00:24:23.620 feels pretty

00:24:24.160 bad.

00:24:24.900 Because you

00:24:25.260 don't want

00:24:25.620 somebody that

00:24:26.160 you respect

00:24:26.780 or at least

00:24:27.260 think is

00:24:27.660 normal to

00:24:28.860 be judging

00:24:29.340 you, that

00:24:29.900 feels

00:24:30.160 terrible.

00:24:31.720 They don't

00:24:32.560 exist.

00:24:34.380 They don't

00:24:34.840 exist.

00:24:36.260 That thing

00:24:37.000 that somebody

00:24:37.480 said, well

00:24:38.800 it was

00:24:39.460 said, the

00:24:40.920 words exist,

00:24:42.120 but there's

00:24:42.760 no such

00:24:43.320 thing as

00:24:44.500 an unbroken

00:24:45.500 person saying

00:24:46.380 that kind

00:24:46.920 of stuff.

00:24:47.720 They are

00:24:48.300 just completely

00:24:49.340 broken.

00:24:51.000 And you

00:24:51.680 should have

00:24:52.320 pity on

00:24:53.560 them, and

00:24:54.800 your first

00:24:55.340 thought should

00:24:55.920 be empathy,

00:24:57.220 not feeling

00:24:58.420 bad.

00:25:00.480 So that's

00:25:01.100 your first

00:25:01.460 trick.

00:25:01.980 Remember the

00:25:02.440 basket case

00:25:03.120 theory?

00:25:03.940 Nobody's

00:25:04.380 good.

00:25:06.800 It just

00:25:07.340 doesn't exist.

00:25:08.440 And trust

00:25:08.840 me, the

00:25:09.160 older you

00:25:09.620 get, the

00:25:10.620 more people

00:25:11.100 you meet,

00:25:11.680 the more

00:25:11.960 you'll know

00:25:12.320 this is

00:25:12.680 true.

00:25:13.440 There are

00:25:13.800 no complete

00:25:14.540 people, just

00:25:15.280 broken people.

00:25:16.360 And they're

00:25:16.640 the ones, the

00:25:17.780 more broken

00:25:18.360 they are, the

00:25:18.940 more they're

00:25:19.280 going to come

00:25:19.600 after you,

00:25:20.520 because they

00:25:20.960 need that.

00:25:21.580 They need to

00:25:21.960 push you down

00:25:22.580 so that they

00:25:23.040 can feel

00:25:23.400 good for

00:25:23.800 today.

00:25:25.840 So that's

00:25:26.560 trick one.

00:25:27.260 Everybody's

00:25:27.720 broken.

00:25:29.100 Number two,

00:25:30.480 low self-esteem

00:25:31.420 is like a

00:25:32.560 virus.

00:25:33.920 You catch

00:25:34.640 it from

00:25:35.280 other people.

00:25:37.940 You didn't

00:25:38.720 get your low

00:25:39.380 self-esteem

00:25:40.080 necessarily,

00:25:41.780 because you

00:25:42.680 were born

00:25:43.120 with it.

00:25:43.880 I mean,

00:25:44.200 there's got

00:25:44.600 to be a

00:25:44.900 genetic

00:25:45.200 component

00:25:45.820 here.

00:25:46.500 But mostly

00:25:47.380 it comes

00:25:47.800 from narcissists

00:25:48.900 who have

00:25:49.860 their own

00:25:50.300 broken

00:25:50.700 self-esteem,

00:25:51.520 and they

00:25:52.360 want you

00:25:52.740 to have

00:25:53.020 a broken

00:25:53.420 self-esteem,

00:25:54.300 and if you

00:25:54.620 don't have

00:25:54.960 it, they're

00:25:55.200 going to

00:25:55.380 give it

00:25:55.620 to you.

00:25:56.340 You catch

00:25:57.140 it from

00:25:57.540 other people,

00:25:58.620 and you

00:25:59.580 can get

00:25:59.940 rid of it,

00:26:00.440 just like

00:26:00.780 you can

00:26:01.080 get rid

00:26:01.420 of the

00:26:01.640 freaking

00:26:01.900 coronavirus.

00:26:03.140 You do

00:26:04.340 have a

00:26:04.800 constitution,

00:26:06.380 you do

00:26:06.800 have immunity,

00:26:08.520 but it

00:26:09.060 takes a

00:26:09.400 little while,

00:26:10.020 just like

00:26:10.380 any cold.

00:26:11.500 The cold

00:26:12.060 wins for a

00:26:12.700 while, and

00:26:13.000 then your

00:26:13.260 natural

00:26:13.580 immunity

00:26:13.960 takes over.

00:26:15.760 Your

00:26:16.200 natural

00:26:16.620 immunity

00:26:17.060 can get

00:26:18.620 you away

00:26:19.080 from this

00:26:19.700 low self-esteem

00:26:21.000 that you

00:26:21.300 caught from

00:26:21.880 other people.

00:26:23.480 It's not

00:26:24.180 in you,

00:26:25.220 it's something

00:26:25.780 you caught,

00:26:26.920 and you're

00:26:27.600 going to

00:26:27.720 beat the

00:26:28.040 shit out

00:26:28.420 of it.

00:26:30.160 Just like

00:26:30.900 your immune

00:26:32.120 system will

00:26:32.840 beat the

00:26:33.260 shit out

00:26:33.600 of the

00:26:33.820 coronavirus,

00:26:34.900 for 99%

00:26:35.820 of you,

00:26:36.380 plus.

00:26:38.080 Number two,

00:26:40.080 be good at

00:26:40.760 a few things

00:26:41.400 that you can

00:26:41.880 control.

00:26:43.800 There's nothing

00:26:44.560 better for your

00:26:45.320 self-esteem than

00:26:47.120 knowing that if

00:26:48.060 you work hard on

00:26:48.980 something,

00:26:50.140 whatever it is,

00:26:51.540 that you can

00:26:52.060 become one of

00:26:52.740 the good ones.

00:26:53.780 Not the best in

00:26:54.640 the world, but

00:26:55.320 better than other

00:26:55.940 people.

00:26:57.200 And the things

00:26:57.880 that you can

00:26:58.320 control the

00:26:58.960 most are

00:26:59.780 diet,

00:27:02.680 fashion

00:27:03.280 choices,

00:27:05.280 haircut,

00:27:08.700 fitness.

00:27:10.900 You can

00:27:11.680 control the

00:27:12.440 fuck out of

00:27:13.060 those things.

00:27:14.280 If you're not

00:27:14.920 good at fashion,

00:27:15.740 find somebody who

00:27:16.440 is, get some

00:27:17.160 advice.

00:27:17.540 Don't know

00:27:18.340 how to

00:27:18.580 exercise?

00:27:19.480 Find somebody

00:27:20.180 who can,

00:27:21.200 have them

00:27:21.680 tell you how.

00:27:22.760 Don't know

00:27:23.140 how to eat

00:27:23.520 right?

00:27:24.160 Find somebody

00:27:24.880 who knows,

00:27:25.800 have them

00:27:26.160 tell you how.

00:27:27.120 My book,

00:27:27.640 Catafield Almost

00:27:28.280 Everything and

00:27:28.820 Still Went Big,

00:27:29.980 would give you

00:27:30.720 a leg up on

00:27:31.580 developing your

00:27:32.360 own system to

00:27:33.240 do those

00:27:33.660 things.

00:27:34.600 Find some

00:27:35.340 things that you

00:27:36.080 can completely

00:27:36.920 control, and

00:27:38.600 control the

00:27:39.180 fuck out of

00:27:39.740 them.

00:27:40.660 Just control

00:27:41.540 the fuck out

00:27:42.260 of them.

00:27:43.560 Because that's

00:27:44.400 where you get

00:27:44.940 your self-esteem.

00:27:45.980 because if

00:27:48.080 you look at

00:27:48.700 I'm actually

00:27:51.720 a really good

00:27:52.360 example for

00:27:53.000 this, and

00:27:53.980 I'm going

00:27:54.200 to say

00:27:54.440 something

00:27:54.860 astonishingly

00:27:57.040 lacking

00:27:58.660 humility, but

00:28:00.320 the point is

00:28:01.620 to help you

00:28:02.040 here for a

00:28:02.520 moment.

00:28:04.100 I'm a person

00:28:05.180 who's good at

00:28:05.820 a lot of

00:28:06.220 things.

00:28:07.720 A lot of

00:28:08.400 things.

00:28:09.420 It was a

00:28:09.960 pretty long

00:28:10.420 list.

00:28:10.740 I actually

00:28:10.980 made a list

00:28:11.460 the other

00:28:11.740 day because

00:28:12.600 I was

00:28:12.820 wondering what

00:28:13.860 would be on

00:28:14.240 the list.

00:28:14.620 So, if

00:28:16.220 you made a

00:28:16.560 list of

00:28:16.860 things that

00:28:17.360 the press

00:28:18.180 has called

00:28:19.140 me and

00:28:19.620 asked for

00:28:20.000 my expert

00:28:20.620 opinion on,

00:28:22.220 you'd be

00:28:22.620 kind of

00:28:22.940 surprised.

00:28:23.540 It's across

00:28:24.060 economics,

00:28:25.380 business,

00:28:26.700 humor,

00:28:27.500 politics,

00:28:28.240 persuasion.

00:28:29.880 But, how

00:28:31.200 many things

00:28:31.800 are there

00:28:32.260 that you

00:28:33.620 could be

00:28:34.180 good at?

00:28:34.860 Like, what

00:28:35.400 are all of

00:28:36.920 the things

00:28:37.280 that humans

00:28:37.840 can do?

00:28:39.180 It's gigantic,

00:28:40.660 right?

00:28:41.260 It's like

00:28:41.680 millions of

00:28:42.900 things that

00:28:44.080 people can

00:28:44.600 do, and

00:28:45.820 I'm good

00:28:46.220 at almost

00:28:47.480 zero.

00:28:48.840 Like, if

00:28:49.280 you took

00:28:49.560 all of my

00:28:50.300 skills and

00:28:51.500 compared it

00:28:51.980 to all the

00:28:52.420 skills that

00:28:53.060 anybody could

00:28:53.620 have in the

00:28:54.140 world, it

00:28:55.240 rounds to

00:28:55.860 zero.

00:28:56.960 It doesn't

00:28:57.520 round even

00:28:57.980 to one

00:28:58.360 percent.

00:28:59.580 It's just

00:29:00.580 zero.

00:29:02.080 And I'm

00:29:03.200 an example

00:29:03.640 of somebody

00:29:03.980 who has

00:29:04.200 pretty high

00:29:04.660 skills in

00:29:05.440 a variety

00:29:06.120 of fields,

00:29:07.400 and it

00:29:07.680 still rounds

00:29:08.080 to zero.

00:29:09.440 But it

00:29:09.960 still makes

00:29:10.320 me feel

00:29:10.680 good that

00:29:11.700 there are a

00:29:11.980 few things

00:29:12.400 I could

00:29:12.660 do well.

00:29:13.340 And that's

00:29:13.580 why I

00:29:13.920 concentrate on

00:29:14.620 fitness and

00:29:15.720 diet, and

00:29:16.700 you know, in

00:29:17.940 the case of

00:29:18.360 a guy, if

00:29:19.040 you get your

00:29:19.580 fitness and

00:29:20.240 diet right and

00:29:20.900 keep your

00:29:21.320 hair short,

00:29:21.920 you're probably

00:29:22.260 pretty good

00:29:22.800 fashion-wise.

00:29:25.540 So control

00:29:26.980 the things you

00:29:27.680 can control,

00:29:28.740 get good at

00:29:29.340 them, and

00:29:30.200 remember that

00:29:30.940 nobody's good

00:29:31.640 at much.

00:29:33.560 Nobody,

00:29:34.680 nobody,

00:29:35.720 zero people,

00:29:37.240 are good at

00:29:37.960 much.

00:29:39.360 Take Tiger

00:29:39.940 Woods.

00:29:40.280 Is he

00:29:41.800 good at

00:29:42.080 driving?

00:29:44.180 Right?

00:29:45.580 Tiger Woods,

00:29:47.080 most skilled

00:29:47.940 golfer of

00:29:48.880 all time.

00:29:49.920 Can't drive a

00:29:50.600 fucking car.

00:29:52.180 Can't keep

00:29:52.720 his wife.

00:29:53.880 Can't keep

00:29:54.360 his dick in 0.98

00:29:54.820 his pants.

00:29:55.660 Right?

00:29:56.060 There's no

00:29:56.560 such thing as 0.74

00:29:58.060 complete good

00:29:58.940 people.

00:29:59.800 They just

00:30:00.140 don't exist.

00:30:01.660 Right?

00:30:02.120 You could

00:30:02.620 become president

00:30:03.440 and have all

00:30:04.280 the flaws in

00:30:04.900 the world.

00:30:05.300 Have you

00:30:05.440 ever heard

00:30:05.720 of any

00:30:06.100 presidents who

00:30:07.940 had any

00:30:08.380 character flaws?

00:30:09.300 Have you

00:30:10.040 heard of

00:30:10.300 that?

00:30:11.880 All of

00:30:12.580 them.

00:30:13.080 All of

00:30:13.540 them.

00:30:13.720 Every one

00:30:14.080 of them.

00:30:14.580 No

00:30:14.820 exceptions.

00:30:15.960 All right.

00:30:16.780 Here's some

00:30:17.440 more.

00:30:19.040 Use your

00:30:19.620 despair to

00:30:22.320 find freedom.

00:30:24.760 Use your

00:30:25.780 sadness,

00:30:28.160 loneliness,

00:30:30.460 depression,

00:30:32.020 and despair

00:30:33.540 to buy your

00:30:35.640 freedom.

00:30:35.940 Do you know

00:30:37.740 how to do

00:30:38.060 that?

00:30:38.340 And by the

00:30:40.060 way, freedom

00:30:40.500 feels really

00:30:41.080 good.

00:30:42.200 Here's how.

00:30:43.500 Do you

00:30:43.720 remember that

00:30:44.220 day you were

00:30:44.900 lonely and

00:30:45.960 sad and

00:30:46.940 neurotic and

00:30:47.640 anxious and

00:30:48.320 depressed and

00:30:49.380 every other bad

00:30:50.060 feeling in the

00:30:50.580 world and if

00:30:51.740 only you could

00:30:52.440 talk to that

00:30:53.360 guy or that

00:30:55.000 girl, the 0.95

00:30:55.720 person of your

00:30:56.620 affection?

00:30:58.180 If you feel

00:30:59.080 like you're

00:30:59.480 going to die

00:31:00.100 anyway, just

00:31:01.960 do it.

00:31:03.320 You're free.

00:31:04.080 go up to

00:31:06.740 that person

00:31:07.320 that you

00:31:08.080 think is

00:31:08.480 going to

00:31:08.740 turn you

00:31:09.160 down and

00:31:10.460 guess what?

00:31:10.920 They probably

00:31:11.300 will.

00:31:12.540 Doesn't matter.

00:31:13.800 Doesn't matter.

00:31:15.400 Everybody's

00:31:15.920 failing all over

00:31:16.580 the world all

00:31:17.060 the time.

00:31:18.140 Go up to

00:31:18.640 that person and

00:31:19.400 say to yourself

00:31:19.980 before you walk

00:31:21.240 up, my whole

00:31:22.700 life is garbage

00:31:24.280 right now.

00:31:25.340 I'm sad.

00:31:26.820 I'm lonely.

00:31:27.940 I'm neurotic.

00:31:29.780 Let's mix it

00:31:30.660 up a little

00:31:31.000 bit.

00:31:31.560 Let's shake

00:31:31.900 the box.

00:31:33.620 Let's just

00:31:34.240 see what

00:31:35.680 happens.

00:31:37.460 Leave your

00:31:38.120 box.

00:31:39.380 Walk directly

00:31:40.120 up to that

00:31:40.600 person that

00:31:41.280 is way better

00:31:42.080 than you in

00:31:42.760 your broken

00:31:43.880 mind.

00:31:44.800 They're not

00:31:45.240 way better

00:31:45.660 than you, but

00:31:46.140 you think they

00:31:46.620 are.

00:31:47.400 Say, you

00:31:48.480 know, I

00:31:49.620 just wondered

00:31:50.000 if you'd like

00:31:50.480 to go out to

00:31:50.900 dinner with

00:31:51.300 me.

00:31:51.640 I think

00:31:51.900 it'd be

00:31:52.140 fun.

00:31:54.180 What

00:31:54.620 happens?

00:31:55.560 Well, let

00:31:56.760 me tell you

00:31:57.120 a story.

00:31:58.780 That happened

00:31:59.280 just like

00:31:59.760 that.

00:32:00.360 I'm going

00:32:01.160 to divert

00:32:02.280 a little

00:32:02.560 bit.

00:32:04.060 Years ago

00:32:04.720 when I was

00:32:05.060 single, I

00:32:05.520 lived in

00:32:05.940 San Francisco,

00:32:07.200 had no

00:32:07.820 social life

00:32:08.560 whatsoever,

00:32:09.620 no game.

00:32:10.720 It was before

00:32:12.220 online dating.

00:32:13.840 I mean,

00:32:14.180 meeting somebody

00:32:14.980 was really,

00:32:16.000 really hard

00:32:16.560 pre-internet.

00:32:18.460 And I

00:32:19.420 joined a group

00:32:20.180 called the

00:32:20.720 Spinsters.

00:32:22.360 Well, I

00:32:22.740 didn't join

00:32:23.160 them.

00:32:23.480 I went to

00:32:24.080 an event

00:32:24.460 that they

00:32:24.760 had.

00:32:25.280 Spinsters

00:32:25.660 were young

00:32:26.440 women who 0.99

00:32:27.300 were single,

00:32:28.080 and they

00:32:28.480 had an

00:32:28.840 ironic name,

00:32:29.820 the Spinsters.

00:32:30.840 And they

00:32:31.120 would have

00:32:31.340 these big

00:32:31.700 parties in

00:32:32.260 San Francisco

00:32:32.840 and other

00:32:33.320 places, I

00:32:33.840 think.

00:32:34.320 And they

00:32:34.580 would invite

00:32:35.340 men, and

00:32:36.340 it was just

00:32:36.760 basically a way

00:32:37.740 to meet

00:32:37.980 people.

00:32:38.860 So I

00:32:39.200 went to

00:32:39.460 one of

00:32:39.640 these events

00:32:40.360 with my

00:32:40.920 friend,

00:32:41.740 Josh, and

00:32:42.960 we walked

00:32:43.360 in, and

00:32:43.680 we looked

00:32:44.040 around, and

00:32:44.500 we said

00:32:44.780 to ourselves,

00:32:46.320 hmm, not

00:32:47.120 exactly the

00:32:49.360 most attractive

00:32:50.060 room.

00:32:51.760 I don't want

00:32:52.460 to be unkind,

00:32:53.280 but it

00:32:53.620 wasn't exactly

00:32:54.640 what we were

00:32:55.160 hoping for,

00:32:56.360 with one

00:32:57.500 exception.

00:32:59.240 Across the

00:32:59.860 room, there

00:33:00.300 was one

00:33:00.860 unusually

00:33:01.820 attractive

00:33:02.280 woman, and 0.99

00:33:04.960 she sort

00:33:05.520 of stood

00:33:06.160 out as

00:33:06.980 the most

00:33:07.720 attractive

00:33:08.160 woman in

00:33:08.940 the entire

00:33:09.460 place.

00:33:10.860 And so I

00:33:11.420 said to my

00:33:11.880 friend, well,

00:33:12.700 this is a

00:33:13.180 disaster.

00:33:14.800 I mean,

00:33:15.000 basically, I'm

00:33:16.440 paraphrasing, but

00:33:17.300 we wasted our

00:33:18.820 night.

00:33:19.240 I'm just going

00:33:19.740 to go over to

00:33:20.340 the most

00:33:20.740 attractive woman 0.99

00:33:21.520 in the room,

00:33:22.100 and I'll

00:33:24.480 flame out in

00:33:25.280 about a

00:33:25.620 second and a

00:33:26.200 half, and

00:33:27.220 then we'll be

00:33:27.600 done.

00:33:28.440 We just go

00:33:28.980 home.

00:33:30.220 So I walked

00:33:30.760 directly up to

00:33:31.940 the most

00:33:32.280 attractive woman 0.99

00:33:33.080 in the room,

00:33:34.300 and she was my

00:33:35.760 girlfriend for

00:33:36.340 11 months.

00:33:38.940 Now, if you

00:33:41.140 had asked me

00:33:41.640 what were my

00:33:42.160 odds, I would

00:33:43.260 have said pretty

00:33:43.640 close to zero,

00:33:45.120 pretty close to

00:33:45.880 zero.

00:33:46.940 And it turns out

00:33:47.920 that other people

00:33:48.760 were intimidated

00:33:49.700 and didn't

00:33:50.360 talk to her.

00:33:52.440 I heard this

00:33:53.180 problem that

00:33:53.660 Cher had a

00:33:54.380 problem that

00:33:54.900 men were

00:33:55.300 intimidated, you

00:33:56.380 know, years

00:33:57.000 ago, and so

00:33:58.240 she had trouble

00:33:58.920 getting a date.

00:33:59.840 They were just

00:34:00.180 intimidated.

00:34:01.200 Now, why was

00:34:02.480 I able to

00:34:03.060 walk up to

00:34:03.860 someone that I

00:34:04.640 could normally

00:34:05.140 not walk up

00:34:05.800 to?

00:34:06.440 It's because I'd

00:34:07.100 given up.

00:34:08.240 I had absolutely

00:34:09.300 given up.

00:34:10.600 There was

00:34:11.000 nothing for me

00:34:11.900 here.

00:34:12.740 I just said,

00:34:13.620 well, doesn't

00:34:14.440 matter.

00:34:15.460 I don't know

00:34:16.160 her.

00:34:16.820 If she turns

00:34:17.400 me down, nothing

00:34:19.040 lost.

00:34:19.700 The moment

00:34:20.780 you realize

00:34:21.640 that your

00:34:22.280 despair is

00:34:24.240 your freedom,

00:34:26.140 you're free.

00:34:28.820 Have you

00:34:29.360 heard the

00:34:29.680 phrase, freedom

00:34:30.580 is just another

00:34:31.300 word for nothing

00:34:32.300 left to lose?

00:34:34.520 You've heard

00:34:35.120 that, right?

00:34:35.700 It's a famous

00:34:36.340 song.

00:34:36.960 Freedom is just

00:34:37.640 another word for

00:34:38.960 nothing left to

00:34:39.720 lose.

00:34:41.480 How about that

00:34:42.440 college class you

00:34:43.480 were going to

00:34:43.800 sign up for?

00:34:44.740 How about that

00:34:45.380 sport you wanted

00:34:46.100 to get involved

00:34:46.720 in?

00:34:47.000 How about that

00:34:47.380 motorcycle you

00:34:48.080 wanted?

00:34:48.560 Too dangerous,

00:34:49.240 right?

00:34:49.700 You're free.

00:34:52.460 Every one of

00:34:53.420 you who is

00:34:54.000 depressed and

00:34:55.120 anxious, you're

00:34:57.480 free.

00:34:58.340 Because nothing

00:34:59.260 you do will be

00:35:00.560 worse than the

00:35:01.100 way you feel

00:35:01.560 right now.

00:35:02.580 Nothing.

00:35:03.760 Do something.

00:35:04.780 Do something

00:35:05.440 dangerous.

00:35:07.020 Not dangerous

00:35:07.660 physically.

00:35:08.440 The motorcycle

00:35:09.000 might be a bad

00:35:09.840 recommendation.

00:35:11.500 Do something

00:35:12.200 psychologically

00:35:13.380 dangerous.

00:35:14.540 Take a chance.

00:35:15.280 Put yourself

00:35:15.920 out there.

00:35:16.500 Flame out.

00:35:17.040 Get killed. 0.53

00:35:18.620 Just get

00:35:19.760 smashed.

00:35:22.040 Just go do

00:35:22.960 it.

00:35:23.700 You're free.

00:35:25.020 You're free.

00:35:26.980 All right.

00:35:28.020 If you want to

00:35:28.840 meet people,

00:35:29.420 here's the best

00:35:29.920 way to do it.

00:35:30.440 You have to

00:35:30.760 join activities.

00:35:32.840 There is no

00:35:33.880 other way to

00:35:35.420 meet people and

00:35:37.020 form lasting

00:35:38.320 friendships.

00:35:39.400 Hear this

00:35:40.020 clearly.

00:35:41.140 There's no

00:35:41.980 other way to

00:35:42.680 do it.

00:35:43.080 You have to

00:35:44.040 join an

00:35:44.720 activity, a

00:35:46.160 club, a

00:35:47.080 sport, a

00:35:48.240 gym, an 0.99

00:35:49.840 organization, a

00:35:50.920 political

00:35:51.260 movement, nothing

00:35:53.540 else.

00:35:54.800 Right?

00:35:55.140 You can't just

00:35:56.020 make a friend.

00:35:58.160 Like, good

00:35:58.580 luck.

00:35:59.920 You could

00:36:00.300 try.

00:36:01.300 But I don't

00:36:01.680 think I've

00:36:02.040 ever seen it

00:36:02.520 work.

00:36:03.400 Hi, Bob.

00:36:05.840 Hearing good

00:36:06.680 things about you.

00:36:07.280 I think we

00:36:07.740 could be

00:36:08.040 friends.

00:36:09.200 It doesn't

00:36:09.540 work.

00:36:10.660 Do something.

00:36:12.220 Join a

00:36:12.740 thing.

00:36:13.780 Make a

00:36:14.180 sport.

00:36:15.200 Form a

00:36:15.560 club of

00:36:15.980 your own.

00:36:17.860 Why would

00:36:18.480 you not

00:36:18.840 form a

00:36:19.260 club of

00:36:19.660 your own?

00:36:20.040 Because you're

00:36:20.400 afraid nobody

00:36:20.940 would come,

00:36:21.420 right?

00:36:22.200 What's the

00:36:22.640 difference?

00:36:23.600 You're as

00:36:23.980 good as

00:36:24.380 dead.

00:36:25.580 You're

00:36:25.860 depressed.

00:36:26.480 You're

00:36:26.620 anxious.

00:36:27.080 You hate

00:36:27.320 your life.

00:36:28.200 You're

00:36:28.400 thinking about

00:36:28.860 putting a

00:36:29.300 I can't

00:36:30.100 say that

00:36:30.440 here, but

00:36:30.920 you're

00:36:31.380 thinking about

00:36:31.960 maybe life

00:36:33.480 isn't worth

00:36:33.940 it.

00:36:34.200 I won't

00:36:34.440 say more

00:36:34.820 than that.

00:36:35.900 You're

00:36:36.220 free.

00:36:37.520 You're

00:36:37.960 absolutely

00:36:38.640 free.

00:36:39.620 Go have

00:36:40.000 some fun.

00:36:41.480 Now, I

00:36:41.920 got to tell

00:36:42.280 you, I've

00:36:42.620 used this

00:36:43.020 technique a

00:36:43.880 number of

00:36:44.300 times, and

00:36:45.760 man, does

00:36:46.220 it work.

00:36:47.040 It really

00:36:47.660 works.

00:36:48.600 You're

00:36:48.880 free.

00:36:49.740 Just remember

00:36:50.340 that people

00:36:50.820 criticizing you

00:36:51.640 are narcissists. 0.50

00:36:52.700 They are

00:36:52.980 broken.

00:36:54.080 Get yourself

00:36:54.700 some friends.

00:36:55.460 It will

00:36:55.680 help most of

00:36:56.300 your problems.

00:36:57.480 Most of

00:36:57.800 your problems

00:36:58.360 are you

00:36:59.700 don't have

00:36:59.960 good friends.

00:37:00.960 Most of

00:37:01.400 your problems.

00:37:02.380 Go get

00:37:02.700 some activities.

00:37:03.440 Get some

00:37:03.700 friends.

00:37:04.020 All right.

00:37:05.280 In this

00:37:05.600 same vein, and

00:37:10.460 I've got a

00:37:10.980 few more

00:37:11.260 minutes here,

00:37:12.920 I saw a

00:37:14.460 tweet on

00:37:14.860 this, and

00:37:15.240 I'd just

00:37:15.640 like to

00:37:15.940 amplify it.

00:37:16.720 We're going

00:37:17.100 to spend a

00:37:17.520 lot of

00:37:17.700 time criticizing

00:37:18.440 our leaders

00:37:19.180 for the

00:37:22.000 pandemic

00:37:22.360 response.

00:37:23.320 I just

00:37:23.860 feel like we

00:37:24.360 need some

00:37:24.740 humility about

00:37:25.600 that, because

00:37:26.640 I just don't

00:37:27.500 think it was

00:37:28.180 reasonable to

00:37:28.960 imagine all

00:37:29.700 of our leaders

00:37:30.340 were going to

00:37:30.900 guess right,

00:37:32.080 because they

00:37:32.580 didn't have

00:37:32.980 data.

00:37:33.900 There was a

00:37:34.200 lot of

00:37:34.460 guessing.

00:37:35.780 So let's

00:37:37.300 give them a

00:37:37.940 break.

00:37:39.800 We do have

00:37:40.820 to be rough

00:37:43.340 about looking

00:37:44.240 at what went

00:37:44.780 wrong.

00:37:45.320 You just

00:37:45.620 have to do

00:37:46.060 that.

00:37:47.000 But I

00:37:47.900 think in

00:37:48.400 terms of

00:37:48.780 the people,

00:37:50.220 you can still

00:37:50.760 say they

00:37:51.120 made a

00:37:51.460 mistake, but

00:37:52.780 I think the

00:37:53.200 people were

00:37:53.760 good.

00:37:55.480 I was just

00:37:57.460 going to say

00:37:57.820 Cuomo.

00:37:59.820 Say what

00:38:00.500 you will about

00:38:01.360 Governor

00:38:01.740 Cuomo.

00:38:02.980 he didn't

00:38:04.860 want anybody

00:38:05.480 to die.

00:38:07.200 He worked

00:38:08.080 really hard.

00:38:09.960 He's smart.

00:38:11.000 He's well-meaning.

00:38:13.060 Did he make

00:38:13.900 a mistake?

00:38:14.500 Well, he

00:38:15.400 argues no.

00:38:17.200 There are

00:38:17.880 extenuated

00:38:18.580 circumstances, he

00:38:19.860 would say.

00:38:21.080 But I don't

00:38:22.320 feel like we

00:38:22.960 need to have

00:38:24.560 an answer to

00:38:25.180 that.

00:38:26.320 Because the

00:38:26.880 answer I

00:38:27.340 want is, did

00:38:28.220 the leader

00:38:28.640 take it

00:38:29.100 seriously?

00:38:29.560 Did he

00:38:30.100 work all

00:38:31.400 day and

00:38:31.780 all night?

00:38:32.880 Was he

00:38:33.820 capable or

00:38:34.660 she? 0.98

00:38:35.640 Yes.

00:38:36.620 Did he

00:38:37.140 care?

00:38:37.900 Yes.

00:38:39.980 Did he

00:38:40.620 make a

00:38:41.320 horrible

00:38:41.680 mistake?

00:38:42.320 Maybe.

00:38:43.500 Maybe.

00:38:45.020 But I

00:38:45.980 don't think

00:38:46.300 you can

00:38:46.540 hate him

00:38:46.820 for that.

00:38:48.280 You

00:38:48.500 could

00:38:48.640 hate the

00:38:48.920 outcome.

00:38:50.340 There's a

00:38:51.100 funny movement

00:38:51.700 going on to

00:38:52.540 make Democrats

00:38:53.880 accept their

00:38:54.740 own thinking.

00:38:56.220 And it

00:38:56.520 goes like

00:38:56.920 this.

00:38:57.600 That if

00:38:59.040 you're a

00:38:59.480 company or

00:39:00.160 a college

00:39:00.720 that doesn't

00:39:01.520 have enough

00:39:01.980 diversity, and

00:39:03.540 you're a

00:39:04.180 white member

00:39:05.840 of that

00:39:06.460 group, let's

00:39:08.140 say you're a

00:39:08.540 white person

00:39:09.140 who's a

00:39:10.060 professor at

00:39:10.740 Harvard.

00:39:11.800 I'll just

00:39:12.140 pick that.

00:39:13.000 Now let's

00:39:13.320 say you

00:39:13.600 thought that

00:39:14.020 Harvard did

00:39:14.580 not have

00:39:14.900 enough

00:39:15.100 diversity in

00:39:16.200 the teachers.

00:39:17.800 You should

00:39:18.540 quit.

00:39:19.620 If you

00:39:20.160 take it

00:39:20.520 seriously,

00:39:22.340 then equity

00:39:23.740 is the

00:39:28.400 important

00:39:28.700 part.

00:39:29.460 If you

00:39:30.020 don't take

00:39:30.560 it seriously

00:39:31.120 and you're

00:39:31.740 going to

00:39:31.960 keep your

00:39:32.600 nice white

00:39:33.720 person job

00:39:34.480 at the top

00:39:35.080 of the heap

00:39:35.560 and you're

00:39:36.460 complaining about

00:39:37.200 other people

00:39:37.880 who should do

00:39:39.100 more at the

00:39:39.680 bottom to

00:39:40.380 make things

00:39:40.800 more equal,

00:39:41.720 well, fuck

00:39:42.120 you.

00:39:43.160 Fuck you.

00:39:44.740 Right?

00:39:45.200 If you've

00:39:45.560 got a nice

00:39:46.060 job and

00:39:46.760 you're

00:39:46.960 complaining

00:39:47.340 about the

00:39:47.900 lack of

00:39:48.300 diversity,

00:39:49.140 quit your

00:39:49.480 job and

00:39:51.000 help a

00:39:51.860 black or

00:39:52.900 brown person

00:39:53.440 get your

00:39:53.820 job.

00:39:54.780 If you're

00:39:55.240 serious about

00:39:55.900 it, if

00:39:56.740 you're not

00:39:57.020 serious about

00:39:57.600 it, shut 0.98

00:39:57.900 the fuck

00:39:58.220 up.

00:39:59.020 We don't

00:39:59.360 care.

00:40:00.700 All right?

00:40:01.500 So put

00:40:02.640 the quit

00:40:03.100 inequity and

00:40:04.140 let's hold

00:40:04.600 the rich

00:40:06.300 white people

00:40:07.020 to their

00:40:07.960 own philosophy.

00:40:11.280 We're not

00:40:11.700 asking them to

00:40:12.460 do anything

00:40:13.060 that isn't

00:40:13.680 consistent with

00:40:14.920 their own

00:40:15.380 beliefs.

00:40:15.880 That's all

00:40:16.240 we ask.

00:40:17.140 Just follow

00:40:18.120 your own

00:40:18.540 beliefs and

00:40:19.220 we will

00:40:19.640 respect you

00:40:20.760 for that.

00:40:22.160 Glenn

00:40:22.440 Greenwald had

00:40:23.080 a...

00:40:24.100 I feel

00:40:24.800 like I

00:40:25.100 mention Glenn

00:40:25.680 Greenwald

00:40:26.140 every day

00:40:27.400 and it's

00:40:28.740 worth it

00:40:29.300 every day.

00:40:31.100 If you

00:40:31.760 want to

00:40:32.880 follow one

00:40:33.860 really good

00:40:34.800 Twitter account,

00:40:36.540 follow Glenn

00:40:38.100 Greenwald.

00:40:39.140 It's just like

00:40:40.080 a global

00:40:41.580 treasure at

00:40:42.320 this point.

00:40:43.380 So he was

00:40:43.960 talking about

00:40:44.380 fact-checking.

00:40:45.460 PolitiFact, I

00:40:46.240 guess, had

00:40:46.820 fact-checked the

00:40:48.400 idea that the

00:40:49.800 virus could have

00:40:50.920 escaped from the

00:40:51.640 lab, they

00:40:52.620 called it a

00:40:53.180 debunked

00:40:53.800 conspiracy

00:40:54.240 theory.

00:40:55.560 So they

00:40:56.100 used to

00:40:56.460 call it a

00:40:56.920 debunked

00:40:57.560 conspiracy

00:40:58.100 theory, but

00:40:59.960 now they

00:41:00.480 say that

00:41:01.520 qualified people

00:41:03.080 say it's at

00:41:03.780 least something

00:41:04.740 we need to

00:41:05.200 look into.

00:41:06.380 So PolitiFact

00:41:07.060 changed their

00:41:07.760 fact from

00:41:08.380 total debunked

00:41:09.360 conspiracy

00:41:09.820 theory to,

00:41:10.980 oh yeah, all

00:41:11.380 the smart

00:41:11.720 people are

00:41:12.080 saying this,

00:41:13.360 that it

00:41:13.640 might be

00:41:13.940 true, that

00:41:14.720 it escaped

00:41:15.060 from the

00:41:15.420 lab.

00:41:17.180 And Glenn

00:41:17.900 points out

00:41:18.720 accurately,

00:41:19.860 that fact-checking,

00:41:21.120 I'll just read

00:41:21.820 his words because

00:41:22.540 he says it so

00:41:23.200 well, he

00:41:24.180 goes, fact-checking

00:41:24.940 like virtually

00:41:25.640 everything the

00:41:26.500 corporate media

00:41:27.320 does to

00:41:28.280 feign superiority

00:41:29.580 is a total

00:41:30.820 scam, just

00:41:32.060 another way for

00:41:32.740 them to

00:41:33.140 smuggle their 1.00

00:41:34.420 own ideologically

00:41:35.540 driven

00:41:36.100 disinformation and

00:41:37.800 conspiracy theories

00:41:38.960 under a more

00:41:40.040 elevated facade.

00:41:42.260 I love that

00:41:43.420 turn of words,

00:41:44.920 an elevated

00:41:45.620 facade.

00:41:46.260 Like, that's

00:41:48.200 some good

00:41:49.020 writing right

00:41:49.540 there.

00:41:50.780 Like, you

00:41:51.700 can write for

00:41:52.640 a long time

00:41:53.480 without coming

00:41:55.040 up with a

00:41:55.620 phrase under

00:41:56.420 a more

00:41:56.840 elevated facade.

00:41:58.440 That's just

00:41:59.000 good writing.

00:42:00.220 Anyway, you

00:42:03.660 see this all

00:42:04.340 the time.

00:42:05.240 So the way

00:42:05.680 to make your

00:42:06.280 fake news look

00:42:07.140 legitimate is to

00:42:08.060 have a fake

00:42:08.560 fact-checking

00:42:09.240 organization telling

00:42:10.220 people it's

00:42:11.220 legitimate.

00:42:12.380 It's like the

00:42:13.140 greatest scam.

00:42:14.780 You know, if

00:42:15.140 people are not

00:42:15.740 trusting you,

00:42:16.840 form an

00:42:17.200 organization of

00:42:18.100 people who

00:42:18.580 say you're

00:42:18.960 good.

00:42:21.560 Now, Rasmussen

00:42:22.800 weighed in on

00:42:24.500 social media to

00:42:26.140 point out that

00:42:26.920 it's very similar.

00:42:28.460 Rasmussen tweets,

00:42:29.900 this sounds

00:42:30.440 eerily like the

00:42:31.620 digital pollsters

00:42:32.620 rating and

00:42:33.260 grading schemes.

00:42:34.800 Fame, superiority,

00:42:36.040 and prowess,

00:42:36.620 coupled with

00:42:37.140 smug and

00:42:37.640 atrocious in-house

00:42:38.600 election forecasting.

00:42:40.460 So Rasmussen

00:42:41.560 points out that

00:42:43.200 while Rasmussen is

00:42:44.380 unusually accurate

00:42:45.780 compared to most

00:42:46.880 pollsters, they

00:42:48.220 get the most

00:42:49.440 abuse from

00:42:50.540 other pollsters

00:42:51.640 because the

00:42:54.560 other pollsters

00:42:55.060 don't want you to

00:42:55.700 think that they're

00:42:56.220 bad and Rasmussen

00:42:57.160 is more accurate.

00:42:58.740 So watch out for

00:42:59.740 your fake polls and

00:43:01.120 your fake fact

00:43:01.900 chicken.

00:43:02.720 It's going to be a

00:43:03.240 lot of it.

00:43:04.280 Have you noticed

00:43:04.900 on Amazon, if

00:43:07.160 you're a book

00:43:07.660 author or if you've

00:43:08.540 read reviews, have

00:43:10.020 you noticed that

00:43:10.640 there will always be

00:43:11.560 this kind of

00:43:12.360 review?

00:43:13.300 It goes like

00:43:14.600 this.

00:43:15.600 I really like the

00:43:17.480 author of this

00:43:18.100 book for some

00:43:19.180 other thing, but

00:43:20.680 this book, everything

00:43:22.520 is wrong about it

00:43:23.640 because he gets all

00:43:24.860 the wrong answers and

00:43:25.880 he's not the one

00:43:26.620 who's qualified to

00:43:27.620 talk about this

00:43:28.340 thing.

00:43:29.220 But I sure am.

00:43:31.080 And so I, as the

00:43:32.280 reviewer, will tell

00:43:33.620 you how much better I

00:43:35.060 could have written

00:43:35.600 this book and how

00:43:37.420 the sections I

00:43:38.380 didn't like really

00:43:39.220 should have been

00:43:39.760 edited out and if

00:43:41.260 only it could have

00:43:42.100 been written more

00:43:43.440 along the great

00:43:44.960 thinking that is

00:43:45.780 common to people

00:43:46.560 like me and less

00:43:48.180 like the bad

00:43:48.860 thinking from this

00:43:49.700 author.

00:43:50.800 Have you seen

00:43:51.280 those?

00:43:53.180 Every book review.

00:43:55.240 You know, or

00:43:55.600 every book gets

00:43:57.360 some of those.

00:43:58.860 And those are

00:43:59.940 narcissists.

00:44:01.300 Those are people

00:44:02.180 who are broken and

00:44:04.100 they're finding every

00:44:05.260 avenue they can to

00:44:06.960 assert some

00:44:07.620 superiority.

00:44:08.200 So they write a

00:44:09.580 review, give you a

00:44:10.400 one star, that

00:44:11.680 tells you, you

00:44:12.420 know, if I had

00:44:13.680 written this book I

00:44:14.400 would have done a

00:44:14.880 better job.

00:44:16.240 It has nothing to

00:44:17.280 do with reviewing

00:44:17.900 the book.

00:44:18.780 It's about a 0.56

00:44:19.620 narcissist who is

00:44:20.840 broken, flailing

00:44:22.860 out and trying to

00:44:23.880 fix the pain

00:44:24.660 they're in because

00:44:25.800 they can't

00:44:26.240 understand why

00:44:27.000 this author is

00:44:27.740 getting money and

00:44:28.500 fame when they're

00:44:29.960 getting none of

00:44:30.540 that and they're

00:44:31.040 so much smarter,

00:44:32.140 so much smarter

00:44:32.820 than all these

00:44:33.320 authors with

00:44:33.860 their best-selling

00:44:34.460 books.

00:44:34.780 So, I used to

00:44:38.040 be bothered by

00:44:38.800 it, but only

00:44:40.620 recently have I

00:44:41.500 come to understand

00:44:42.300 that these are

00:44:43.080 just broken

00:44:43.640 people.

00:44:44.900 No more

00:44:45.560 different than a

00:44:46.400 street person who

00:44:47.560 throws a rock at

00:44:50.740 you.

00:44:51.200 I mean, you don't

00:44:51.660 like the rock, but

00:44:53.500 you look at the

00:44:54.000 street person and

00:44:54.760 you should have

00:44:55.360 more empathy or

00:44:56.300 pity than

00:44:57.500 anger.

00:45:02.600 Haters gonna hate.

00:45:03.500 Yes, but I

00:45:04.980 think the hate

00:45:05.440 comes from a

00:45:06.120 specific place.

00:45:07.220 It comes from a

00:45:07.980 broken self-esteem

00:45:09.140 and it is my

00:45:10.660 hypothesis that

00:45:12.360 there are more

00:45:12.920 people with

00:45:13.640 broken self-esteems

00:45:15.220 because of social

00:45:16.120 media than at

00:45:17.660 any time in

00:45:18.240 history and that

00:45:19.880 all of these

00:45:20.460 broken people are

00:45:21.760 flailing out at

00:45:23.300 everybody else until

00:45:24.260 we're all broken.

00:45:25.440 It's basically

00:45:26.260 self-esteem as a

00:45:27.720 virus.

00:45:28.840 It's a

00:45:29.560 freaking virus.

00:45:31.120 The broken

00:45:31.620 people are breaking

00:45:32.520 as many people as

00:45:33.360 they can touch

00:45:34.040 because it makes

00:45:35.040 them feel better.

00:45:36.900 So, there's your

00:45:38.920 advice.

00:45:43.160 Criticism is just

00:45:45.000 a flag that says

00:45:46.000 I'm broken.

00:45:48.020 Right?

00:45:48.420 Now, there's such a

00:45:49.160 thing as valid

00:45:49.800 criticism, but you

00:45:50.780 know when you see

00:45:51.580 it, right?

00:45:52.740 Somebody says,

00:45:53.600 you know, here's

00:45:54.720 another way you

00:45:55.260 could have done

00:45:55.680 this.

00:45:56.060 It would have been

00:45:56.420 faster.

00:45:57.440 Well, that's okay.

00:45:59.580 Or, you know,

00:46:00.700 oh, that's not the

00:46:02.040 hat I would have

00:46:02.640 worn.

00:46:03.180 This other one

00:46:03.680 would go with

00:46:04.160 your outfit.

00:46:05.520 Maybe that's

00:46:06.220 being helpful.

00:46:07.540 But you can tell

00:46:08.380 the narcissist

00:46:09.000 they're just

00:46:09.900 broken.

00:46:11.280 Don't let it

00:46:11.920 break you.

00:46:13.120 You've got some

00:46:13.920 techniques now.

00:46:15.560 And I think

00:46:16.480 you're going to be

00:46:17.700 a lot better

00:46:18.280 when it's over.

00:46:19.700 Go get yourself

00:46:20.280 some friends and

00:46:21.040 you'll find your

00:46:21.560 mental health

00:46:22.260 problems feel a

00:46:24.100 lot better.

00:46:25.160 Go get involved

00:46:25.800 in something.

00:46:26.700 Join a group.

00:46:27.300 form a group.

00:46:28.720 Be the boss.

00:46:29.880 Make your own

00:46:30.340 group.

00:46:31.280 That is your

00:46:32.300 advice for the

00:46:32.880 day, and I

00:46:33.940 will talk to

00:46:34.400 you.

Real Coffee with Scott Adams - May 23, 2021

Episode 1384 Scott Adams： Loneliness Epidemic, Fact-Checking as Propaganda, UFO Origins Predicted, and eQUITy

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