00:26:22.680that's why because it would be something difficult for your wife1.00
00:26:29.560but it would make you happy so she's not going to fucking do it0.96
00:26:33.720that's my point oh my god amazing you guys that was like quintessential scott0.94
00:26:44.900um and so based on what he was saying you know that ai chat gpt whatever he called it
00:26:53.780so you guys were probably right it was about 2022 and yes that was the year scott got divorced from
00:27:02.260christina and he was you know he was cranky uh and those times and so but he taught us a lot
00:27:11.140and he still had his thoughts well thought out. And, um, I was laughing, so I'm not going to say
00:27:18.960who, cause I don't want to expose anyone on here, but in the beloved, somebody said, Oh yeah.
00:27:24.660How'd you say it? You said, that's, that's my wife. I call it the three C's criticize,
00:27:30.340condemn and complain. And, um, so I just thought it was interesting because a lot of you guys
00:27:36.960remember this clip the same person that talked about the three c's said that they also post this
00:27:42.840clip on x often just because he knows it's going to make the women crazy not in the great kind of
00:27:48.880way but i you know i find it interesting and i find it somewhat accurate owen did you uh
00:27:54.660you know what what did you think about that you know i think i do think scott was a little jaded
00:28:03.760on men and women's relations and i you know disagreed with him on some things and tried to
00:28:11.740point him in a more positive direction in some cases i mean i told him about allison armstrong
00:28:16.260which i would recommend to everybody go listen to those audiobooks or um you know i think their
00:28:22.260audiobooks that she has are mostly from like seminars or conferences that she does with
00:28:26.660couples and things like that. But I do think she has a solution to a lot of this. And I tried to
00:28:35.760point Scott to that. I don't think he ever went down that path, but I do think she has a lot of
00:28:39.640insights into men from a woman's perspective, or maybe not from a woman's perspective, but maybe
00:28:44.700just a way of translating it to women in terms they can understand. And I think the same with
00:28:53.760women and you know i just i just think a lot of her ideas but i i it's interesting to me that like
00:28:59.880her theories are kind of like woman focused in the sense of it kind of points out that like
00:29:08.000things have changed like significantly from past history that things like having um birth control
00:29:15.360and um you know planetary pads or you know those sorts of things like it's given women a lot more
00:29:22.460independence and they don't have as much dependency on men and as much vulnerability1.00
00:29:27.300as they've had in the past. And so it's changed the balance of power where they don't have to do1.00
00:29:35.160as much to, you know, make sure they have a man to protect them or to provide for them or to do
00:29:39.520these things. And so there hasn't been any offsetting change for men, right? Like there's
00:29:47.040nothing like that, that changed fundamentally for men. But a lot has changed for women. And
00:29:52.720so it's changed the dynamic of those relationships. And we're still kind of adapting to that, I think.
00:29:58.020And, you know, she does, I think, have some good ideas about how you can get along better. And
00:30:03.580but she does put a lot of it on the woman, like the woman has to choose to do that. Like she also1.00
00:30:10.000has the power to screw up the relationship. And she has the power to, you know, make things1.00
00:30:14.520terrible and it's really up to her. And again, she's coming from a women's perspective. And so1.00
00:30:19.960I wouldn't say, well, that's just, that's just the truth. Like it's all up to the women. It's1.00
00:30:24.600their fault because I think both parties in a relationship play a big role and have a lot of
00:30:30.560agency and have a lot of ability to impact how things are going. And I think, you know, I do
00:30:37.480think that there are a lot of differences between how men and women think and a lot of differences1.00
00:30:42.140in terms of how they behave and I think there's probably a lot of accuracy to some of the things
00:30:46.760in general that Scott said again it may not apply to any specific person or specific relationship
00:30:53.080because everybody's different and every relationship's different and you've been
00:30:56.560married a long time like I have you're probably coming from a very different place from Scott
00:31:00.900where he's been divorced a couple times and isn't having a very successful time with it so
00:31:05.640um i don't know i mean you know i think there is truth to like people having less sex i just
00:31:13.020looked up the stats and it says that in 2000 to 2002 um for the age group he was talking about
00:31:20.240which was 18 to 24 um 81 percent had had sex and in 2016 to 2018 it was 69 and i think the
00:31:28.580scott galloway number was like about the same 60s you know one third hadn't so it was about 66
00:31:34.160um but you know so it does seem like there is less sex happening in the young people and if
00:31:41.360you go up a little bit to the 22 to 34 age group a similar decline where in 2013 which was more
00:31:47.500recent the 2015 it was 91 had sex in the last year and then if you fast forward to 2022 to 2023
00:31:55.660it's 76 so that's a pretty big drop yeah you know that's one in four that didn't have any sex
00:32:02.060a year so what's what was happening then so that was like me too was going on and um women
00:32:11.720speaking as a woman um i noticed women just freaking out about everything and it was like
00:32:19.380this like new kind of like women's lib thing at that time and i noticed men just being like just
00:32:25.100back just i'm just backing away um i don't want to get caught up in these things you'd see men
00:32:30.820that would take pictures with women and like they'd keep their arms at their side. Like I'm
00:32:34.840not touching her. I'm not giving a compliment. I mean, Scott would say, I will never take a
00:32:40.600meeting with a woman. I won't do business with a woman unless someone else is there. And even then1.00
00:32:46.420he's like, I don't really want to deal with women now. So I think that could have a lot to do with1.00
00:32:51.400it. And I think it only got crazier from there with, you know, all the, the awfuls as Michael
00:32:57.320malice would say all of the lib women just getting crazy so i feel like women are marketing themselves0.98
00:33:04.340as someone you don't even want to deal with i mean what what i would point out is that whole0.99
00:33:09.880thing that happened for colleges the the title nine stuff and all that because i think that was
00:33:14.880a big factor like i had to warn my kids before they went to school to be really careful around1.00
00:33:19.700women because they created this whole kangaroo court system based on the title nine stuff that1.00
00:33:25.080obama put in place that basically said we're gonna have this university court system where1.00
00:33:31.680the man isn't really allowed to defend himself if a woman accuses him of rape and we're just
00:33:37.900gonna basically be kind of like a believe all women sort of court and the you know it's not
00:33:42.920legal it's not a legal court where the the guy goes to jail so it's not really like a rape trial
00:33:48.760it's more like we're just going to expel you from college if we want to and but it's it's not it's
00:33:55.580also doesn't follow the legal standard you don't have all the same defense rights that you had
00:33:59.700before and then there was all this training they would give to students about this like oh you got
00:34:05.840to ask for consent every step of the way and you've got to do you know and if if anyone even has a
00:34:10.780drink now it's rape and like so they kind of redefined rape and took away the agency of women
00:34:17.560i think and because they didn't apply that to men right like if a man got drunk and then the woman
00:34:22.660and man had sex no one would say oh the man was raped right um you know it's always the other way
00:34:27.900and and so you know it's this one-sided sort of double standard that they had and i i had to warn
00:34:34.140my sons like i'm like be very careful you know what you do and it makes sure you basically i was
00:34:41.060saying you make sure you have some kind of evidence of consent if you're going to do something like
00:34:45.780that and you know you might even want to like take some video or have a text message or something
00:34:51.980don't take because well i mean not not of the act i just mean of the consent like you know something
00:34:58.080to show that this was consensual um but you could see owen where the the numbers match what was
00:35:05.680happening in society and so and then to top it off so you have the me too you have like all men
00:35:13.120are guilty, believe all women, uh, people of prominent, um, positions were getting very
00:35:20.460publicly fired and smeared and, you know, some rightfully so some not.
00:35:26.300Um, and then you have women just like out there, not that twerking is the end of the1.00
00:35:32.520world, but like really just acting, can I just say like whores?1.00
00:35:37.440So it's like, okay, so what, what are we doing?1.00
00:35:40.080so you're sending all these mixed messages um they're either acting like horrors my word i'm
00:35:45.920just just talking people or you have them like you know i don't fit in anywhere now i'm gonna
00:35:53.040trans into a man and you know vice versa men into women and now everyone's all confused and it's
00:36:00.240like wait you know you're too aggressive of a man or i'm a i'm a man and i don't feel like i fit in0.99
00:36:07.040And so maybe if I act like a woman, so it's like everything just went bad shit.0.95
00:36:13.060And I just find it so interesting that this week turned out this way, like with that clip from Scott, because back there in 2022, he's like, obviously, you know, it's it's only gotten worse from when he started saying that till now.0.96
00:36:27.880So and the robot thing, I mean, I don't know what to make of that.
00:36:31.220You know, I think if he did this in 2022 or something, that means we still got a few years to go.
00:36:36.340but we'll have to see if that plays out by 2032 but i think i can see his point that i can see
00:36:43.580that if you had a sex partner that was always trying to please you and never complained and
00:36:49.280never criticized you and always was complimenting you or you know even if you take away the ai or
00:36:55.400you know talking part it just does what you want all the time um then you know it's a i can see
00:37:03.020why that would be an attractive option and i do think there's a lot of shame and a lot of you know
00:37:06.600status related stuff in the past you know because you always hear about like people who have these
00:37:11.160sex dolls and how pathetic that is and things but you know some of that is probably like
00:37:16.640wanting to discourage people from going down that path and there may be good reasons for that because0.96
00:37:21.780again it's not a very productive path to not have kids and not have a real relationship
00:37:56.240pay for a person when you could get exactly the same experience with of virtual reality and
00:38:04.440probably have more control over what that person does and and you know have it be personalized
00:38:08.660and all these other things that might even be better and so i can easily see it going down
00:38:13.540that path and i think that's why the only fan thing is such a loser sort of direction to go
00:38:18.960with everything because it's you know it's kind of like it's going to immediately be outsourced to ai0.99
00:38:23.840high and so the women aren't going to make much money from it or get much followership except
00:38:29.580again that top one percent and i think that's already the case i mean people say like oh
00:38:33.840everyone's on only fans and maybe there are a lot of people on only fans but from what i understood
00:38:38.140about the statistics only a very small percentage make a lot of money and the rest are like less
00:38:42.960than minimum wage yeah but the other thing too is like again it's it's just it goes like right
00:38:50.260back to what we keep saying is you've got to you've got to try guys try to instill on the
00:38:55.900younger generations to get back to like that core family the husband the wife the kids the whatever
00:39:00.880um whether it's instilling religion or as boo dog was saying yesterday the 10 commandments just
00:39:07.160something some kind of guidance because yeah only fans and that chick it doesn't matter what0.99
00:39:13.140her name is but she slept with like 1500 people and was like hoping to be impregnated by one of1.00
00:39:20.240them. And I think she was, which is just so fricking disgusting. And then you have, um,1.00
00:39:27.280so you have the only fans thing, and then you have like an overcorrection where you get like
00:39:32.480an Andrew Tate, which by the way, I didn't feel like was an overcorrection. I don't know what he
00:39:37.640may or may not be guilty of. So I'm, I'm assuming nothing because he hasn't been put in jail first,
00:39:42.760you know, for something that he's been charged with that was credible. So let me just say
00:39:46.840innocent until proven guilty, but I get why men were attracted to them because men have been so
00:39:54.100suppressed. They've been told they're bad. You're too aggressive. You're too loud. You're too
00:39:59.300whatever. But men are supposed to be, you know, loud. Like they're the ones that go out there and
00:40:05.480like hunt and fight and provide and work and whatever, build a shelter, blah, blah, blah
00:40:10.560by nature. And then you're like, no, you're too, you're too much of that. And it's like, okay,
00:40:15.420well now you've got men transing or being super effeminate or very confused i mean falling on the0.96
00:40:24.220floor and crying over things like their hands are all soft and you know like everything's soft and0.51
00:40:30.200it's like where are the men going and yeah well that's another trend is just maybe the feminization
00:40:37.060of women of men like and the masculine women now like with the only fans i find that very masculine
00:40:42.880because now they're just like, I'm taking over, I'm, I'm selling my body for sex, whether it's0.72
00:40:49.520on video or whatever, and you're going to pay me. And, you know, it's all in your fantasy. And if0.97
00:40:54.740you think you're even going to touch me, it's going to cost you $10,000 to just even sit with
00:40:59.500me. And it's like, whoa, like what a wacky reversal and not for the better. Yeah, no,
00:41:06.060I mean, but I think certainly there has been a trend. And I think a lot of this is in the schools
00:41:11.620where male behavior was seen as bad and discouraged and punished and female typical behavior was
00:41:20.120considered better like they'll say oh the the girls pay more attention and they're more obedient
00:41:24.720or they're more focused or whatever and and we gotta get these men or these boys to in line and
00:41:30.800and um i i think it was a mistake to try and basically make all the boys act like women and
00:41:37.940and tell them they're bad and wrong if they're just acting the way they would normally act0.65
00:41:43.500um and you know i can certainly understand you don't want like an unruly classroom with people
00:41:48.780turning over desks and things but i think within reason it still makes sense to me to say let boys
00:41:54.120be boys and don't tell them that they're somehow flawed or wrong when they're acting just according
00:42:00.680to their biology yeah um and then they call it toxic masculinity like what like stop saying that
00:42:06.760Like, did men need to hear? I mean, you're you're a man. So how does it feel, Owen, to just keep hearing that you're toxic and that your behavior is, you know, bad?
00:42:16.260And I mean, I take every one here. Yes, but I would say I've kind of gotten past it.
00:42:22.080I mean, it it's a lot like the, you know, being called a racist and stuff like it's like at a certain point, you just stop paying attention to it or you just don't like it doesn't affect me the same way it used to.
00:42:36.060like it's kind of like okay you can call me toxic if you want i'm not going to believe you
00:42:40.640like i'm not i'm not going to actually think that i'm somehow needing to be ashamed for my behavior
00:42:47.160or that it actually is toxic so at a certain point i just get past it and it's like whatever
00:42:52.700i you know it doesn't matter to me what you think and you know i care what my wife thinks of me but
00:42:58.800we have our own relationship has nothing to do with what anybody else thinks and what everyone
00:43:02.440else does. And I do think a lot of these things is social media hyping up the exceptions as
00:43:09.060opposed to the rule where, you know, yes, there are some men's that are transing and women that0.59
00:43:14.120are transing and all these other weird freak things that are happening. But I do think it's0.97
00:43:18.520still on the margins. It's getting worse maybe and getting more prevalent than it should
00:43:22.600and being applauded when it should not be. But I don't think it's like everybody's doing it.
00:43:28.200Like, I think there still are a lot of what I would consider normal men and women out there.
00:43:33.960And I think we just hear a lot more about the people who do the bad things.
00:43:39.820You know, at a certain point, you got to say, put down the social media.
00:43:44.240Like, just, you know, go out and talk to some people.
00:43:46.880Like, reality does not match what you see on X or Facebook or all these other things, because they're always going to put the outrageous stuff in front of you.
00:43:54.920And I think most real people are real people and they're not going to be these one dimensional things. And maybe sometimes they will be influenced by them. So it's not like we shouldn't fight the bad stuff. But I think it's just you got you got to not let it become your reality because it isn't.
00:44:13.320right no it's true i mean but but yes put down the social media it's hard to do and um i mean it's
00:44:21.320it's funny like i'll see crazy videos on instagram or on x or whatever people fighting and like
00:44:27.800things happening and it's so funny how focused people are on their phones like if they're in a
00:44:34.120fight and their phone drops it's like i gotta pick up my phone before i take my next swing it's like
00:44:39.240oh my god we're so addicted to these phones and by the way put the phone down if you see something
00:44:44.520bad happening and help people safely um like even that crazy awful disaster in nepal there was you
00:44:53.240know people on their phones like filming stuff and it's like put the phone down like run first of all
00:44:59.480run and try to help people pull people with you but there was so much with the phones and and you
00:45:04.360you guys, I can't even play not to divert totally here, but we were going to talk more about it,
00:45:09.540but I can't, I can't even show you clips. Like I know you guys have seen clips, but it's so, so,
00:45:14.380so God awful that I can't even stomach making you guys watch the clips if you don't want to.
00:45:21.460So I didn't want to put any on here, but just pray for all of those people, please. It's so sad.
00:45:28.520So anyway, and I I'd like to see men and women putting down their phones, helping people when
00:45:34.300When I see – the other thing that gets me, Owen, is when I see now, like, these, like, kids or teens or 20-something-year-olds fighting or, like, two girls fighting and men, like, standing around like, yeah, yeah, yeah, and everyone's filming it.
00:45:50.040And I'm like, what happened to, like, the men jumping in and being like, no, no, no, no, no, like, don't fight, you know, like, pulling people apart.
00:45:56.840Now everything's, like, so sensational.
00:45:59.680Well, I mean, I do think like, you know, to your point about the toxic masculinity, when you have stuff happening, like what happened to Daniel Penny and like, you know, people who are like arrested or punished or, you know, and even Kyle Rittenhouse, like, you know, he was put in a bad situation.
00:46:15.580He did a perfect job with it, in my opinion, according to what is taught in all the firearms courses I've ever taken.
00:46:21.900It was like it was like he was an expert at it and practiced at it.
00:46:25.240And he was just a kid and he hadn't taken any of those courses, I don't think.
00:46:27.860So I don't know how he figured it out, but like he was demonized and Daniel Penny was demonized.
00:46:33.200And when you tear apart the good things and say they're bad, and when you take away the good path for men and you don't encourage them and you don't applaud them, then that does push a lot of men into a bad path because now they don't have a good path.
00:46:49.300Like, if you say, here's what a good man looks like, and it is what you want from men, then a lot of men will follow that path because they'll be like, okay, this is how I can be successful. This is how people will appreciate what I do. And men love appreciation. Like, it's, you know, it makes a big difference.
00:47:07.200But when you take all that away, and again, I'll point back to the schools, when you start saying
00:47:11.840the white men should just sit down and shut up and, you know, let the minorities and the women
00:47:16.660have a turn, then it's like, well, what does that do to the men? Like, they're going to turn to0.98
00:47:22.200people like Andrew Tate and others because they don't have another good path. And you just took
00:47:28.600away the good path. So now they're going to turn to somebody else who says there's a better way
00:47:32.740and a way you can win essentially right and and so i think it was very destructive to take away
00:47:39.360those productive ads and to take away the appreciation for what we i think we should
00:47:45.700consider good behavior from men because then they're gonna go in a dysfunctional path they're
00:47:51.200gonna go to the manosphere or somewhere else or they're gonna read these books that in many cases
00:47:55.720i read a little bit of them and i kind of stopped reading them because i'm just like this is
00:47:59.140destructive like this is teaching men to hate women and like you know i could it might have
00:48:05.920what you might consider quote unquote truth in some cases but it's also persuasion it's also
00:48:11.500propaganda it's all and it and it doesn't lead to a good place that's the worst part it leads you to
00:48:17.000this like black pill sort of way of thinking and and there's no reason to go there and i think even
00:48:24.480some of the authors eventually emerged from that and said okay yeah here's like i think one of them
00:48:28.320wrote another book called Positive Masculinity and like he kind of came out of it but you know
00:48:33.100he led people down this bad path who read this book and I was just like oh this is bad stuff like
00:48:37.840you shouldn't even read this stuff. Recently our company softball team lost the big game by one run
00:48:44.820then Dale tried to console us with the quote winning isn't everything. Well Dale and I are
00:48:51.700very different. I get early payout from Bet365. If my team goes up big I get paid out instantly
00:49:21.660Open your PC Optimum app to get your coupon.
00:49:27.520But, I mean, we could make a bigger effort to reward or thank or prop up men like a Daniel Penny and a Kyle Rittenhouse, the guy, the lifeguard that pulled the kid out of it.0.75
00:49:43.300Like prop these people up and stop propping up these losers that we see everywhere who are like just basically demonic at this point, just degenerates.
00:49:55.500um you know like let's stop with them i used to say back in the day um when devin nunes0.95
00:50:03.500figured out the whole russia hoax thing and with cash patel and he just like ran to trump and was0.98
00:50:10.460like listen here's what's happening i was like forget these stupid rappers and basketball0.95
00:50:16.060players and wearing their journeys i was like get me a nunez journey like jersey like that guy0.99
00:50:21.500is like trying to save the country right now. And he's putting his ass on the line to like0.98
00:50:26.480get information out there. I was like, prop these people up. I mean, I never thought I'd be like,0.99
00:50:31.260let's prop up a politician, but he found the truth and like ran it through or people that
00:50:37.220have like life-saving drugs or they save a child or they run into the burning building,
00:50:43.940like whatever it is, those people are the people that should be getting paid
00:50:47.720millions of dollars for their jobs. And, you know, just, just praised. And maybe we can all
00:50:55.360do that more on our platforms, like find your, your winner of the day, man or woman, you know,
00:51:01.660winner of the day. And let's, you know, who, who are we just talking to? Oh, it was King Randall
00:51:09.260saying, you have to reward, you know, good behavior too. And he's like, you know, yeah,
00:51:14.900kids are supposed to do things or people are supposed to do things a certain way but i believe
00:51:18.740in rewarding them for it like take them for ice cream whatever same thing with the adults like
00:51:23.220let's do the same thing like let's reward them let's praise them let's give them a shout out
00:51:28.100let's tell their story and let's try to make those things the viral thing and not the awful things
00:51:34.340that are happening and maybe it'll catch on if enough of us do it um i'm gonna i'm gonna make
00:51:40.340make an effort, you guys remind me and you can always message me or DM me and just ask me,
00:51:45.760did you post your winner of the day? Because I really, really, really think that would be a good
00:51:49.320message. Would you do it, Owen? Sure. I think that's great. I mean, the more we can, the more
00:51:56.020we can incentivize the good behavior and disincentivize the bad behavior, the better.
00:51:59.780I think it's back to Scott, the systems over goals that, you know, right now, a lot of these
00:52:05.260aspects we're talking about are just a bad system. And I think if we can push it more towards a good
00:52:12.180system that again, pushes people in the right direction, then I think we're going to see better
00:52:17.120results from it. All right. So, all right, you guys, so we have, oh, you know what? I have this
00:52:22.480little clip too. These, these are two more men that I admire. This is Patrick Bet-David and Tony
00:52:28.340Robbins. Um, Patrick, but David is not moving away from, but he's moving into a realm of
00:52:37.060he's going to write a book about being a good father and like what children need. And I think
00:52:42.580he happens to be an amazing father. Um, and Tony Robbins always has a lot of great advice. So
00:52:48.660I thought this was cute. They were playing like, what were they calling it? Like the marriage
00:52:52.980rules or something. It's just a little fun, loving clip, but here they are. Just take a look.
00:52:58.340Red and green flags in marriage. Sharing your phone password.
00:53:56.060taps out after four kids. I think every woman should have a right to tap out after four kids.1.00
00:54:00.600You want to start a fight? And lastly, what's your most important piece of marriage advice?1.00
00:54:04.740Most important marriage advice I can say to you, stop focusing on yourself and focus on your
00:54:08.320partner. When you love somebody, what you do for them, anything. If that remains how you were in
00:54:12.920the beginning, there isn't an end. But if you suddenly change where everything's conditional,
00:54:17.420then it's not the same relationship. And that's you. That's not them.
00:54:19.960oh that's amazing i love that owen did you agree being another man over here yeah i think i agreed
00:54:28.840with most of the things on that list in terms of red and green flags maybe not all of them but most
00:54:33.880of them and um certainly the part at the end i think it makes a lot more sense to focus on the
00:54:38.320other person that was something i was going to add to the last part of the conversation too which0.91
00:54:41.380which is people seem to talk about like you know how to how does a woman add value and like you
00:54:48.800know what does a man add value and all and it it always is in this like transactional frame
00:54:53.640it's like you know I gave you money so you should do this for me or you know you should give sex to
00:55:00.480me or you should do chores for me or whatever and I think it leaves out a lot of the real
00:55:05.080relationship like you should be talking to each other and and supporting each other and building
00:55:11.920something together and having a real partnership and that's the ideal at least and I think that
00:55:18.800It, you know, it's, it's like no one ever really talks about that, like in terms of that being a core part of a marriage, like, and so if you focus on the other person and you, you, you want to understand them, you want to appreciate them, you want to support them, you want to, you know, just focus on their needs.
00:55:39.020And I think if both partners do that at least then it's going to be a much more successful relationship
00:55:44.160And if you are more focused on yourself and saying well, what do I get out of this?
00:55:48.700That's the wrong way to go about it. Yeah, that would be ideal. I I have a few people I know that
00:55:54.880so like one of them they have a lot of money and1.00
00:55:58.140The husband loves to buy cars. So he's constantly but like he buys like some crazy
00:56:05.400crazy ass cars. And then she'll say like, well, then I want, you know, three diamond bracelets0.71
00:56:11.780and a diamond necklace. And I'm like, why is it tip for tat? Like, why is it, what's the difference?
00:56:17.260Like, why does it have to be, you get this, I get that. You know, why can't it just be like,
00:56:23.240that's his thing. And if you want something, get it. But I have another friend and it's like, well,
00:56:28.320you know, he went and did this with the guys. So I'm booking a spa weekend, da, da, da, da, da.
00:56:33.580And, you know, if he can leave, then I can leave.
00:56:36.260And I'm like, do you guys like each other?
00:56:38.420Like, I don't understand what's happening.
00:56:55.280And it should, you should be a team and you should be trying to support each other.
00:56:59.340And I kind of agree with the philosophy of like, not being 50-50, but being 100-100 sort of thing. And I think because that's sometimes what it takes. I mean, I've had, I remember someone else saying at some point, which I thought was a useful insight was, you might want to just say like, at certain points in time, like, how am I doing today? Or, you know, what can I bring today? And they did use those percentage terms.
00:57:26.300they're like well i'm at a 50 today or i'm at 80 today and so i can give 80 today but another day
00:57:31.720you might say i'm only at 20 i'm like on fumes you know and and then the other person might be
00:57:36.640able to pick up the slack and say okay i'll take it today you know and if you're taking that kind
00:57:42.340of attitude where you can help the other person or compensate when they're down and help them when
00:57:48.560they need it and you might need it some other time then that's a much better system i think
00:57:54.040than saying well wait a second he got that so i need this and like i you know so weird and it
00:58:00.400goes both ways i mean you know it's not because again if you're in a marriage at least it should
00:58:05.960be that you're kind of one now you're not two different competing spouses yeah i know a lot
00:58:13.720of them are competing and i'm just like wait you're on the same team like what's happening
00:58:17.900um yes and scott taught us reciprocity for sure and it's a lot of being a family is also
00:58:24.940sacrifice it's like you it becomes at some point maybe more about your kids and at least a lot of
00:58:31.620what i've seen is you know parents are focused on making their kids successful putting a lot of
00:58:37.140investment into their kids and i can certainly say most of my money over the past several years has
00:58:42.180gone into my kids you know i paid for their college um we certainly paid a lot over the
00:58:46.780years racing them, but I don't regret any of that. I don't feel like I missed out or that I
00:58:51.060like lost something. Like I, I, I think in many cases it makes me feel better that I was able to
00:58:58.600give those things and, and that, you know, I chose to have the kids. So like, that was obviously a
00:59:05.380goal of mine or something I wanted to do. But once you become a parent, it, I think it does really
00:59:10.780change your focus, at least for most people. You know, this fancy thing might be a totally
00:59:15.760different weird thing like i said but like for most people the focus becomes the kids primarily
00:59:23.740now that doesn't mean you shouldn't also take care of your own needs and take care of your
00:59:27.820spouse's needs and that is also very important but they always say put your spouse before your kids
00:59:32.520always yeah but but it's just like a lot of your time and money and effort goes into your kids
00:59:39.740it's just how it is and um so it your your priorities change where it's not about like
00:59:48.560okay what vacation can I take or you know what kind of fun thing can I buy for myself it's more
00:59:55.220like how do I pay for my kids college and how do I help them get a house and how do I you know give
01:00:00.520them the right values and and get them to the point where they can find a spouse and start a
01:00:05.240family and, and, you know, it's, it's all hourly focused and, um, you know, it should probably
01:00:11.500already be that way with your spouse, like we were just saying, but, um, you know, it's just,
01:00:16.560it's, it's different when you become a parent. I think that you, you don't, you're not always
01:00:21.480thinking about yourself anymore. That's right. Well, yeah, that's, um, that's good. Um, you guys
01:00:28.600Listen, also, I just want to say sometimes people feel desperate to be in a relationship.
01:00:37.160And when I say they'll settle, I don't mean it like in a superficial type of way.
01:00:44.660But again, I want to say if you feel like you have good friends around you, like a core
01:00:50.660group or like a good family around you, people whose advice you trust, and maybe they see
01:00:58.180red flags in somebody that you don't because you just want it to work. You're like, I want to be
01:01:03.300in a relationship. I just want it to work. Please, I'm begging you because sometimes we get tunnel
01:01:09.120vision or we just want the goal and we just want that relationship and whatever. But if you have
01:01:14.560people telling you, listen, there's red flags, maybe you don't realize this is happening or
01:01:20.540whatever, please take the time to take their advice. Don't take it personally. If you trust
01:01:27.380those people in your life, talk to them about it, because you could really end up in a bad
01:01:32.300situation. And once you're in a relationship or you're married or whatever, you're not getting
01:01:38.000out of it so fast. It's not like you're dating someone and it usually gets really, really bad
01:01:45.040and you've got to suffer and struggle your way out of it. Okay. So the first piece of advice is
01:01:54.660take advice from people that know you and love you. If they see a red flag, sit down with it
01:01:59.940and really talk about it. Okay. Um, it doesn't always work out so well. Okay. I just wanted to
01:02:05.480say that just something personal that, you know, um, I was dealing with this year. Some of, you
01:02:11.120know, and, um, just be careful. Okay. The, not all relationships are worth the fight. Okay. So
01:02:18.780So that being said, we have hit our time.