SNEAKO - August 20, 2022


SNEAKO Reacts to "Pick Me Girls" by Wifey Brett Cooper


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

204.41176

Word Count

2,502

Sentence Count

242

Misogynist Sentences

28

Hate Speech Sentences

16


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

In this episode, we discuss the concept of being a pick-me girl and why it s a bad thing. We also discuss the problematic way men view women and how they view the opposite sex, and why we should all lose our right to bear arms.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.560 Oh my god, my queen! Oh, I miss you. This is Brett Cooper. Am I a pick-me girl? No, you're not you.
00:00:07.920 Brett, you're... I wanna- I wanna pick you.
00:00:11.720 What's up, guys? Welcome back to the comment section. Happy Tuesday. I am Brett Cooper.
00:00:16.240 So, since I first started this channel, I've gotten a lot of comments from trolls, I would say,
00:00:23.320 telling me that I am a pick-me girl. And literally all, I had no idea what that meant.
00:00:29.100 I was like, I don't- why do people keep saying this? Or they would say things like,
00:00:32.480 why are you trying so hard to be like a dude? I was like, okay, so-
00:00:35.400 What the fuck? Why are you trying to block me from Brett?
00:00:40.100 Ah! Brett! Okay, okay, okay, okay. I can see you.
00:00:46.180 So then I found out that those might be correlated. I looked into it, and this whole concept is just wild.
00:00:52.740 So I thought today we would do a deep dive.
00:00:54.440 I volunteer as tribute!
00:00:56.060 Brett, I wanna do a deep dive.
00:00:57.420 This skit has-
00:00:58.800 In GTA, on your content.
00:01:00.300 Is a half a million views, and it attempts to explain being a pick-me girl,
00:01:04.740 so I thought I would react to it as your resident pick-me girl, so we can watch it together.
00:01:09.860 Anyway, if you guys don't wanna talk about Justin, or me, or my dope music career,
00:01:13.420 then what do you wanna talk about?
00:01:14.340 You're a pick-me girl, Anna. You hate other women and only feel validated by the attention of men.
00:01:18.820 It's not your fault. You're a toxic byproduct of a patriarchal society that protects men at any cost.
00:01:23.760 Is this a podcast or a skit? This is not real.
00:01:27.080 How dare you both accuse me of internalized misogyny just because I'm more attractive and f***able than you?
00:01:34.260 Can you tell that these are all actors? These are all people who do Zoom auditions on a regular basis?
00:01:38.760 Real people don't talk like this. How could you say that about me?
00:01:43.580 There it is. You're literally saying your worth is in your desirability to the opposite sex.
00:01:48.300 Okay, Michelle, look. You wear flannel. We get it. You hate men. It doesn't mean that I have to hate men, too.
00:01:52.980 It has nothing to do with men and everything to do with the problematic way you view women.
00:01:56.700 Why? Because I believe in female privilege?
00:01:58.600 I mean, that's not a thing.
00:01:59.860 So, being a pick-me girl is apparently hating women, thinking that you're better than them and that you're more attractive.
00:02:06.420 Yeah, I don't know what pick-me is. I just, I know that's a TikTok word, but I don't get it.
00:02:10.580 Active? Than all the other ones?
00:02:13.040 This is why I like hanging out with guys. Women are so complicated and so much drama.
00:02:17.200 Brian, shut up!
00:02:21.860 Drama.
00:02:22.540 See how willing you are to throw women under the bus?
00:02:24.660 That was one time, Melissa. One time.
00:02:27.940 And guess what? Katie's leg healed just fine.
00:02:30.960 Oh yeah, sure, she has a little bit of a limp, but if you ask me, it looks great on her.
00:02:34.340 When are you gonna let me live that down? It was like a month ago.
00:02:36.640 Look, we love you, Anna.
00:02:38.080 It's just that every time a guy comes into your life, you put our friendship on the back burner.
00:02:42.480 You literally bailed on your best friend's birthday to hang out with a guy that you've only known for a few weeks.
00:02:47.480 You constantly make excuses for men's bad behavior. You...
00:02:50.880 Nobody talks like this.
00:02:52.520 Make sexist jokes against women, and you victim blame no matter the situation.
00:02:56.060 Wow.
00:02:57.780 Okay.
00:02:59.020 I didn't know.
00:03:00.900 I'm sorry.
00:03:02.440 Truly.
00:03:03.600 What is this?
00:03:04.520 Okay, we didn't want to do this, but I think we have to.
00:03:10.800 What the hell is that?
00:03:12.320 Come on.
00:03:13.220 We have to show you where you came from.
00:03:20.620 Pick me! Pick me! Pick me!
00:03:23.460 What's wrong with being a pick-me girl?
00:03:25.640 You're supposed to want to be picked by a good man.
00:03:28.320 I don't know. All my best friends are guys.
00:03:30.780 I don't understand girls.
00:03:32.700 I'd rather lose my...
00:03:33.660 I...
00:03:33.940 Brett, chat. What the fuck is a pick-me?
00:03:35.880 I don't... I don't understand the definition.
00:03:37.440 Right to vote than lose my right to bear arms.
00:03:39.820 Oh my god.
00:03:41.420 What is this place?
00:03:43.080 Welcome to the byproducts of the patriarchy.
00:03:45.380 Whatever's going on here, stop it immediately.
00:03:47.560 Although that was funny.
00:03:48.440 The girl who was like, I'd rather lose my right to vote than my right to bear arms.
00:03:52.300 If I had to choose.
00:03:53.660 Yes, I'm sure the kid is mine.
00:03:56.160 Brett has my chiplets.
00:03:57.260 She's carrying them right now.
00:03:58.420 If you don't believe her, ask her.
00:03:59.700 We are getting married and I'm going to be monogamous for the rest of my life.
00:04:03.300 She's not wrong.
00:04:05.000 Oh, s***. I'm a pick-me girl.
00:04:07.060 So all the comments under this, people were taking it so seriously.
00:04:10.840 To be honest, it is very hard to get out of the pick-me girl phase.
00:04:13.640 At least it was, is for me.
00:04:14.940 I'm constantly improving.
00:04:16.300 Is it just seeking approval from men?
00:04:18.140 Dude, I'm in it too deep in some ways.
00:04:20.400 It's embarrassing, but at least I'm doing my best to someday overcome it.
00:04:24.540 What is this?
00:04:25.240 It's like, it's like BLM again.
00:04:27.220 Like I'm learning and listening.
00:04:29.000 Someone says, I'm trying very hard to make more female friends, but s***, making friends
00:04:32.960 is hard.
00:04:34.520 Yeah, it is.
00:04:36.200 Y'all, I just moved across the country to a random city.
00:04:39.980 Yeah, my city.
00:04:41.860 I can tell you making friends is hard.
00:04:43.980 I find the backlash to these.
00:04:45.240 If you guys didn't know, Brett's in the guest room.
00:04:46.540 She's streaming right now, but like we separate work and business of pleasure.
00:04:50.860 So like I'm streaming, she's over there.
00:04:52.660 You know, she, she going to cook dinner for me later and I'm going to be Bob the Builder.
00:04:56.380 I'm going to make her everything she needs and provide everything she needs for her life
00:05:00.380 and her amazing work.
00:05:02.260 Different girls to be a bit harsh.
00:05:03.780 As an adult watching mostly kids throw these terms around.
00:05:06.620 Some girls are genuinely tomboys.
00:05:08.500 Some have not had positive experiences with females.
00:05:11.160 Don't love all of these girls and with the ones who deliberately try to distance themselves
00:05:14.120 from women due to internal imbalances.
00:05:16.520 Let's not fight one extreme with another.
00:05:18.060 Every case is individual.
00:05:19.300 Yeah, this comment's good.
00:05:20.860 Like, I don't, I don't care if you're a guy or a girl.
00:05:23.960 If you're crazy or you have an internal imbalance, I actually really like that.
00:05:28.140 I'm going to start using it.
00:05:29.060 I will just distance myself from you.
00:05:31.680 I don't, I don't have the energy or the interest to deal with that.
00:05:35.180 It's not about gender.
00:05:36.080 It's just my general distrust and ambivalence towards people.
00:05:39.140 So now there's, there's also a whole TikTok genre explaining pick me girls, making fun
00:05:44.680 of pick me girls.
00:05:45.540 They have like pick me girls in different situations.
00:05:47.800 I did a deep.
00:05:48.680 Is it kind of pick me girl to be a girl who hates on pick me girls?
00:05:52.800 Dive.
00:05:53.840 Hashtag triggered.
00:05:55.340 Because apparently this is me.
00:05:56.660 But here's another girl explaining.
00:05:57.960 I'll pick you any day.
00:05:59.540 All right.
00:05:59.860 This is how to spot a pick me girl.
00:06:01.200 Listen, we did one on pick me boys.
00:06:02.660 Look, we love equality here.
00:06:04.080 So we got to do pick me girls as well.
00:06:05.760 I probably know about this.
00:06:06.520 I don't even have TikTok.
00:06:07.300 You know that, but I've heard about pick me girls so much because every girl I DM is
00:06:11.460 always like, I'm not trying to sound like a pick me, not to be a pick me.
00:06:15.120 I'm like, they're really trying so hard to not sound like that, but I cannot define it
00:06:19.980 for the life of me.
00:06:20.840 Hi, my name is Chloe and I am in fact your new best friend.
00:06:23.420 And I like to think I know a thing or two because I've seen a thing or two.
00:06:26.760 Okay.
00:06:26.980 I feel like pick me girls are a lot more like emotional.
00:06:29.260 Like they'll almost make it know that they're like a pick me girl.
00:06:32.620 I mean, they say the same stuff like, oh, I'm not like the other girl.
00:06:35.240 I'm just quirky.
00:06:36.420 What if Brett's not like the other girls?
00:06:38.020 In reality, they'll just kind of hang out with a bunch of dudes, which is fine, right?
00:06:41.080 Red flag, a girl who hangs out with a bunch of dudes, hot dogs fucking smashing into her
00:06:46.000 face.
00:06:46.500 But then their opinion will just kind of change based on the guy they're talking to or the
00:06:50.760 guy they like, like regardless of what they actually think.
00:06:53.480 Next up, I feel like Snapchat can be pick me girl central.
00:06:56.440 Like I feel like they're all queens of putting black screens on their story, saying stuff
00:06:59.840 like, oh, don't hit me up.
00:07:01.100 I'm sad.
00:07:02.080 Like, honestly, I've come to the conclusion they're saying, don't hit me up because they
00:07:05.740 want people to hit them.
00:07:06.740 Nobody text me.
00:07:07.860 I'm so sad right now.
00:07:09.520 Post on story.
00:07:10.560 Like they kind of want people to be worried about them.
00:07:12.940 So they'll play like juice world in the background and then say, God, I still see your shadows
00:07:17.020 in my room.
00:07:17.920 Guys, don't hit me up.
00:07:18.800 But in reality, they want that attention.
00:07:20.740 Everything I learn about this, people hate pick me girls.
00:07:25.640 Some girl commented on this and she was like, I'm kind of starting to be worried that I'm a
00:07:28.840 pick me girl, but not on purpose because I complain about my height all the time.
00:07:32.300 What?
00:07:33.600 Parentheses, I'm really short.
00:07:35.160 Who cares?
00:07:36.580 If you want to talk about your height, that's fine.
00:07:39.100 Can I not say anything without becoming a pick me girl?
00:07:41.620 Yeah, there's absolutely no definition of it.
00:07:43.960 It's just a girl who's seeking attention, but all girls seek attention, except for Brett
00:07:49.280 because she only needs my attention.
00:07:50.320 Shut up, Chad.
00:07:51.000 Get away from her.
00:07:51.860 Like things are going downhill rapidly for me here.
00:07:54.880 I thought that this might just be an internet trend, but there are literally
00:07:58.680 deep dives into pick me girls.
00:08:00.800 Yeah, I want to deep dive into you, pick me girl.
00:08:03.440 They're problematic.
00:08:04.560 All right, let's do a deep dive in GTA.
00:08:08.860 Like nature online, like an article form.
00:08:11.920 I thought that this was satire, but it's not.
00:08:13.740 I'm just going to read you a couple of lines from this.
00:08:15.240 Read me the lines.
00:08:16.220 This is from Modern Intimacy.
00:08:19.220 It's called The Psychology of the Pick Me Girl.
00:08:21.440 Psychology, tell me.
00:08:22.200 You're so smart.
00:08:22.680 Right at the beginning.
00:08:24.300 These women are easy to pick on because her attitude towards other women's interests,
00:08:28.020 mannerisms, lifestyle choices, and hobbies feels inauthentic and is ultimately rooted
00:08:32.760 in misogyny.
00:08:34.240 She has no problem putting other women down to gain male attention and validation, whether
00:08:37.680 or not-
00:08:38.140 Brett, you're going to be rooted in misogyny.
00:08:40.700 She knows that that is typically the intent.
00:08:43.320 The pick me mentality-
00:08:44.780 Stop calling me a limp.
00:08:46.760 This is my wife.
00:08:48.540 Brett is my wife.
00:08:49.340 I will live for her forever.
00:08:50.640 I don't give up.
00:08:51.380 I'm never cheating.
00:08:52.540 I'm a monogamous man.
00:08:53.640 I'm getting married to her.
00:08:54.580 She's expecting right now.
00:08:56.000 She has my triplets.
00:08:57.720 We're raising children.
00:08:58.640 She's homeschooling them.
00:08:59.700 I will bop the building of her house and she will make a nice garden and we'll go on
00:09:03.380 movie dates.
00:09:04.140 And why is the government trying to silence me for the fact that I love my wife?
00:09:07.580 Where's the screen?
00:09:08.500 Brett, Brett, Brett.
00:09:09.260 They're hiding my love.
00:09:11.320 Do you know it's a woman who lives within a restrictive male-centric standards that likely
00:09:17.440 is painful to some degree.
00:09:19.000 That's not to say that society should accept problematic behaviors, but that we might try to find
00:09:23.000 some empathy to understand that pick me girls potentially have not considered how their
00:09:26.840 actions and beliefs contribute to sexism, internalized misogyny, and ultimately the continued
00:09:31.220 oppression of women.
00:09:32.300 I'm oppressing people because I have male hobbies.
00:09:36.240 Help!
00:09:36.700 Help!
00:09:37.040 I'm beating-
00:09:37.380 Yeah, you have male hobbies, but I'm going to be the only male hobby you have left, Brett.
00:09:41.860 You can repress!
00:09:42.940 That was another thing in this article.
00:09:44.640 Hugh Brett Snooper.
00:09:46.520 They were like, oh yeah, if she likes male sports and that kind of thing.
00:09:51.140 Uh, yeah.
00:09:53.600 That's the patriarchy.
00:09:54.680 Yeah, talk about it.
00:09:56.020 I thought that, like, gender attributes were social constructs.
00:10:00.220 Mm-hmm.
00:10:00.640 I thought we were over that.
00:10:01.700 We are.
00:10:02.220 Someone who is a pick-me girl has likely not unpacked why she feels compelled to proudly
00:10:05.840 demonstrate loyalty to men while distancing herself from fellow women identifying people.
00:10:11.440 If you think that I'm a pick-me girl because I-
00:10:14.820 I'm a- I'm a- I'm gonna pick you up and I just wanna pick you up and-
00:10:20.140 And- and- and-
00:10:21.260 And you're gonna delete my stream for what I'm about to say.
00:10:24.120 I played male-dominated sports and I, I don't know, maybe seem chill and hang out with guys.
00:10:28.660 Yeah.
00:10:29.220 Wait, what?
00:10:30.160 What?
00:10:31.260 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, what?
00:10:32.920 I have played male-dominated sports and I, I don't know, maybe seem chill and hang out with guys.
00:10:37.800 What?
00:10:44.820 Like, that's fine.
00:10:51.000 I really don't care.
00:10:52.100 You can blame my three older brothers.
00:10:53.780 If you think I have a loyalty to men, it's because the best people in my life are my brothers.
00:10:59.660 And that- that's just where I've learned all of this from, so.
00:11:02.240 I feel like I can't even-
00:11:03.840 She only hangs out with her brother, sad.
00:11:05.120 She doesn't have male friends.
00:11:06.160 That's nonsense.
00:11:07.680 Refute any of this without somebody now coming back and being like,
00:11:10.980 you're a pick-me girl because you're saying that you're not, you're talking badly about women.
00:11:16.760 No, listen.
00:11:17.440 Me being a gun-toting snowboarder who wears flannels sometimes, does that make me any less of a woman
00:11:24.500 than someone who loves makeup and beautiful dresses and brunching?
00:11:28.100 Like, y'all can teach me about that and I will teach you how to whoop a man's ass at a gun range.
00:11:31.880 It's a good trade.
00:11:33.720 It's totally fine.
00:11:35.440 I don't go with the big deal.
00:11:36.700 Brett, whoop my ass at a gun range.
00:11:38.980 Wait, what?
00:11:39.440 No, I don't like the way that sounded.
00:11:41.480 Sorry.
00:11:42.220 All of this is just wild.
00:11:43.440 Like, we need to calm down and find other things to talk about.
00:11:46.020 Do you want to be the only person that is not caught up on the internet, ladies?
00:11:49.860 Yeah, I want to be the only person caught up on your internet.
00:11:54.000 Oh, God.
00:11:55.160 Brett, Brett, you got me acting wild, bro.
00:11:57.880 You got me acting crazy right now.
00:11:59.480 Juan's lying right now.
00:12:00.380 I know she's totally into half Filipino, half Haitian.
00:12:03.480 She was because she's expecting right now and she's pregnant with my kids, so.
00:12:07.300 I don't know what you're talking about.
00:12:09.440 That's it.
00:12:13.800 Is this your job?