Charlie Kirk delivers a message at the Turning Point USA Chapter Leadership Summit about the importance of dating, marriage, and children. He also gives a direct message to women about what they should do if they are having trouble finding a husband.
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00:02:02.000But first, I want to say, you guys on the front line, starting turning point USA high school chapters, starting turning point USA college chapters.
00:02:08.000You are on the front lines of saving this country.
00:02:26.000So, so I was sitting at breakfast this morning and I would go to table by table and I'd say, how many of you are unhappy with the dating pool?
00:02:33.000Raise your hand if you're unhappy with the dating pool.
00:02:35.000Every almost every, those of you not raising your hand, how many of you are in relationships?
00:02:42.000So I went to table by table and people were saying similar things.
00:02:45.000They said, you know, I just can't find a woman.
00:02:48.000I just can't find a man that all people really care about is hookup culture.
00:02:54.000All people really care about is immediate gratification.
00:02:58.000And so I thought to myself, there needs to be a message delivered here at the chapter leadership summit to men of what men need to do and to women, what women need to do, because the problems on both sides.
00:03:09.000And I'm not going to say one side more than the other, even though I have some personal opinions on that, but you'll try to be able to guess.
00:03:15.000But more importantly, though, if we do not value the most important things, it should be God should be the most important thing in your life.
00:04:10.000And yet we are having less children and we are literally not repopulating the species.
00:04:15.000So there's a lot of things going on here.
00:04:17.000First and foremost is we do not value the ultimate thing.
00:04:20.000And the ultimate thing should be loving God, loving people, and raising children.
00:04:26.000in a society that follows God's commands against the culture, not inconsistency with the culture, to stand on my opinion on eternal truths, fight for the country, fight for our civilization, and then also understand that you, especially as men, but women as well, you are obligated to do difficult and hard things.
00:04:47.000The West was built, our nation was built on delayed gratification, not instant gratification.
00:04:54.000That maybe I'm not going to go do what feels good in the moment.
00:04:57.000I'm going to forsake what feels good and I'm going to parlay that into the future.
00:05:14.000If you are spending inordinate amount of times staring at screens, playing video games, and not being active and productive, that is deeply unattractive to women.
00:06:00.000Nothing good happens after midnight while both parties are drunk.
00:06:04.000So if you want to have a life of ease, go keep drinking.
00:06:08.000But if you want to go do heroic and great stuff, maybe it's time for you to battle your flesh and not just always get drunk every single night and say, you know what?
00:06:16.000No, instead of drinking alcohol, I'm going to go to the gym.
00:06:20.000Instead of drinking alcohol, I'm going to hang out with friends and talk about deeper and more purposeful things.
00:06:23.000I'm going to go to a Bible study instead of a bar.
00:06:27.000Now, men, one of the most unattractive things that women tell us that they find in men is that young men have no self-control.
00:06:38.000Young men do not know how to control themselves.
00:07:38.000And let me tell you, there are voices out there that say, oh, young men, all modern women are garbage and just use them for sex and just use them for pleasure.
00:07:56.000But our Lord and Savior came to this earth because God could have just teleported Jesus Christ right onto the earth.
00:08:03.000But instead, our Lord and Savior came through a womb of a woman.
00:08:07.000Christianity values women in a proper biblical context.
00:08:11.000So some of the narrative that I hear at times from men that say, oh, I hate all women and they're not worthy of respect and honor, God used women all throughout the scriptures, whether it be Ruth or Esther, whether it be Deborah.
00:08:23.000And unfortunately, this is lost in a lot of the angst that young men have that they'll say, I'm just done with all women.
00:08:30.000First of all, even if it's hard, maybe you should work to improve your own life to make yourself more attractive to the woman that you want to one day find.
00:08:40.000And there needs to be the current modern state is that they want men to be women and women to be men.
00:10:28.000Let's not just go to some degenerate kind of environment.
00:10:34.000Do you know one of the things that women want more than anything else is they want the confidence and the security that when life gets difficult and when life starts falling apart, that that man will lead them towards security and stability.
00:10:50.000Because deep down, women have a very well-built and finely tuned, God-given instinct that they'll be able to tell in a man when the bullets start firing, is this guy going to protect me and protect my kids?
00:11:01.000And is he going to provide or is he going to run for the hills?
00:11:05.000And for you as the man, you need to be able to demonstrate that.
00:11:08.000And it's in ways you might not have imagined.
00:11:10.000And let me just give you some other practical advice.
00:11:12.000Men, if you go on a first date with a woman and you split the check, we got serious problems.
00:11:22.000I don't care if you have to go into debt, refinance your home, or scrub the dishes for three weeks.
00:11:30.000You do not allow a woman to pay on the first date.
00:14:00.000If you want to stay in the lower standard, a miserable, miserable cycle of debt and suffering and depression, lack of community, go do that.
00:14:08.000Instead on a Saturday night, say, you know what?
00:14:10.000I'm going to hang out with some friends that are not going to drink, are not going to engage with this stuff.
00:14:15.000And then maybe on Sunday morning, I'm going to go to church or I'm going to go to mass and then I'm going to go work out and then I'm going to study.
00:14:28.000The person that went crazy full of regrets, the person that went out late at night, you know, trying to find the next 10 second orgasm, or the person that went to go after something holy or went after something divine.
00:14:41.000And if you are not, the final thing I'll say this to the men and then we'll go to the woman's side, which is you need to be consuming information, content, and community.
00:14:50.000Information, content, and community around you that lifts you up, does not tear you down.
00:14:55.000You are an average of the five people you spend the most time with.
00:15:09.000Eventually, you're going to get out of college and the graduation ceremony will be underway and you're handed that useless diploma and you're then going to have to enter the world.
00:15:18.000And all of a sudden, if you're like 20 pounds more overweight, but you have a lot of good memories with the buddies because you guys got a lot really drunk.
00:17:55.000Who, who, who is willing to submit to a husband under the covering of Almighty God?
00:18:11.000And if you have had your belief or your mindset so muddied, so polluted by modern culture, and you call yourself a Christian, I'm going to challenge you on that.
00:18:23.000Because in a marriage, you're going to submit to your husband, and you should submit to your husband.
00:18:27.000And by the way, the husband has an unbelievable responsibility to then submit to God and to make sure that marriage and that family is under a godly covering.
00:18:37.000Now, some women in this audience are like, nope, not for me.
00:19:05.000Because deep down, deep down, and I know this is true, deep down, the ladies, even in this room that play the girl boss thing on Instagram, deep down, you're begging for a man to lead you.
00:19:16.000Deep down, you are begging for a man to provide for you.
00:20:12.000And all of a sudden, if the godly, conservative, attractive, well-put-together women on a college campus start saying, nope, actually, you have to date me seriously.
00:20:23.000I have to know your name and know a little about you, actually.
00:20:29.000All of a sudden, men are going to be like, well, forget all this.
00:20:32.000Then men are going to start aiming themselves towards you.
00:20:35.000And when they do, you need to ask the tough questions, which is, can you control yourself?
00:20:41.000Are you, all the things I talk about with men.
00:20:43.000And on the same side, in the same side, everybody, for young ladies, there is this, there is this toxicity that is infected.
00:20:51.000Because everyone says toxic masculinity, there is toxic feminism within the ranks of the dating pool.
00:21:16.000In fact, even more than that, you should expect that.
00:21:21.000And young ladies, I'll just be very honest, though, that the bitterness that so many young women espouse towards young men, that's the reason why a lot of young women cannot find partners.
00:22:33.000And start as young women going to church, prioritizing what matters most, having community around you that wants to have children and wants to actually build a family.
00:22:49.000And look, I can tell you, marriage is the most awesome thing.
00:22:52.000Erica and I have the most incredible marriage.
00:23:38.000I've deleted Instagram off my phone, but at times I get these profiles sent to me where it's always like you read the profile and it's like John 3, 16, you know, with a cross, the young lady.
00:23:49.000And they're dressed like something out of Playboy.
00:23:51.000And I say to myself, Do you think that's the way to win a man?
00:23:56.000Do you think just plastering your half-naked body all over Instagram, just so you know, oh, wow, men only look at me for my body.
00:24:28.000I'm telling you, it's preventing you from getting what you want.
00:24:31.000Because women say, well, if I plaster myself like it's the Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition all over my social media, men are going to come to me.
00:24:39.000Oh, men will come, but they will not stay.
00:24:55.000Let me see how else I can get myself in trouble.
00:27:02.000But I'm going to tell you right now: you have to basically, you have to sound out, you have to silence out everything that you've been told by the entire popular culture.
00:27:11.000The whole popular culture has told you men are equal to women and that you have to go on your own path all the time.
00:27:18.000And the most important thing is just your bank account.
00:27:20.000And if you want to go pursue your career, God bless you, that's okay.
00:27:57.000Stop being around other women friends without a little bit of social shame when they start bragging about their body counts and they're just talking about free sex all the time.
00:28:42.000Because the modern world says you could just, and by the way, this whole new phenomenon, I go to these college campuses, and these girls are wearing these bike shorts.
00:28:50.000Do you understand how deeply unattractive that is to men?
00:29:41.000Young ladies, you have a lot more power than you realize.
00:29:43.000If every young woman all of a sudden said, nope, we're going to stop giving free sex, the men would follow and would no longer be boys, they'd be men.
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00:31:53.000My name is Knox, and I'm a senior in high school from Fort Worth, Texas.
00:31:56.000And in the theme of the chapter leadership summit, what advice do you have for getting more student engagement for our chapter from the very beginning in an area that may not be as familiar with you or turning point?
00:32:08.000So first thing that let's quiet down, guys.
00:32:13.000The first thing is that people want to be part of something that is fun.
00:32:21.000But honestly, so much of it has to do with you.
00:32:23.000One of the reasons why the left-wing groups on campus are dying is that the people that are running them are so ugly on the inside and out.
00:32:30.000They're so nasty and no one wants to associate with them.
00:33:58.000Turn off your phone for one day a week.
00:34:01.000The world will keep on turning and you will be happier.
00:34:04.000What that has meant for our marriage, by honoring the Sabbath, it makes it easier to spend time with the kids, to go to church, to be with one another, and to kind of have a holy covering around that.
00:34:14.000And so I encourage all of you guys, you are not so important where you have to have your phone on every single day.
00:37:37.000Like, some people make it work, but I think you all in this audience know there's something cruel and unusual for a mom of a nine-month-old to have to give over that nine-month-old to strangers to go work at some stupid dead-end job as like an administrator.
00:38:04.000But I think deep down, most moms sob inside when they drive to daycare, wishing they could actually raise their kids all day long, but the economics are messing it up.
00:38:14.000And let me just say one last thing to the men.
00:38:15.000For men out there, this will not apply to all of you because some of you guys might end up being police officers or firefighters or join the military.
00:38:26.000However, men, you need early on in life to do whatever it takes to try to make works, working two jobs, not sleeping, going through the night, that during that precious period of time, you can buy, literally buy, your wife to be able to stay at home.
00:38:47.000We as men should do everything humanly possible to make that happen.
00:39:39.000But let me say, We've been doing this chapter leadership summit for a couple years.
00:39:46.000And a couple years, six years ago, seven years ago, there wouldn't have been this kind of applause for God or for traditional masculinity or femininity.
00:39:55.000This is a new thing that you and Gen Z are leading.
00:39:59.000So I think we're starting to spiritually repair the country.
00:40:02.000So the biggest problem more than anything else is spiritual sickness.
00:40:06.000The fact that we are distancing ourselves from God, that we think we're our own God.
00:41:14.000You know 1,200 students like you could change the world.
00:41:17.000The impact that you can have on campus, the offices that you will run on, and guys, do you understand?
00:41:22.000We're going to have 7,000 up in the main room coming up at just a couple of hours.
00:41:26.000And so the ripple effect of what 7,000 people can do that are building godly marriages and putting together ordered homes and supporting their churches and supporting their communities.
00:42:03.000So we met in church and we've been together for four years now.
00:42:07.000I wanted to know what your advice is for criticism from others outside of the church, even criticism in the church for being engaged and getting married so young.
00:43:16.000The American evangelical church has been infected by modernity and feminism, and that needs to be completely collapsed and rebuilt in a biblical image.
00:45:58.000I'm not marrying you, so I don't care.
00:46:00.000So I don't seek to appease your weird love of being seasick for eight days and eating food that gives you seasickness and a bunch of people fighting in the pool.
00:46:22.000So you have to figure out what type of vacations.
00:46:24.000Here's the biggest one that almost never gets discussed because it's taboo.
00:46:28.000You need to say, honey, what vices are you currently struggling with, public and private, and what will be acceptable vices in our marriage?
00:46:36.000It's better to find out now if you're struggling with pornography than later.
00:47:32.000And so you go through that early and you figure out some framework because here's the key.
00:47:38.000Premarital counseling will give you the framework to refer to when things start to fall apart because they will.
00:47:44.000And if you didn't do that premarital work, there's no framework and everyone acts surprised.
00:47:49.000And the other one, which I think is really important, does your spouse have male friends?
00:47:55.000If you are marrying a man and he does not have close male friends, that is a red flag.
00:48:00.000I'm just being, I'm not trying to break up your marriage, by the way.
00:48:02.000But it is critical if a man does not, and then meet his friends.
00:48:07.000And for men out there, same with your future wife.
00:48:11.000Does she have close female friends and meet her friends?
00:48:14.000Because let me tell you right now, when things go bad, she's going to start spending time with her friends and you want to know who they are and what their character is.
00:50:17.000I just want to let you know that listening to you, being around you, and being around all the people here, being a part of Turning Point has changed my life more than anything.
00:50:32.000But I tried to find a question that you hadn't been asked before because I figured everybody had been asking about abortion and stuff, but nobody did.
00:50:41.000Anyways, my question is: what are your thoughts on physician-assisted suicide?
00:50:47.000Should it be legal for individuals with severe depression or should it be limited to those with terminal illnesses?
00:51:18.000And it turns out he was doing it in a predatory way, finding people with depression and just getting them up for just assisted physician suicide.
00:51:27.000Well, in a culture of life, absent you taking another life, because I am actually a pro-death penalty because you deserve it, because the Bible commands it.
00:51:35.000But outside of that, just because you have depression, that is not a reason to take your life.
00:51:40.000And I know that people suffer from it, but we do not believe that you just press the escape hatch on life when things are difficult or hard, that life is a precious gift from God.
00:51:50.000So people will say, well, it's their choice.
00:53:26.000My question is, as a leader of a conservative organization at UNC Wilmington, how can we win over students who quietly agree with us but are too afraid to speak out on campus?
00:53:38.000I mean, that's where you need to try to build your chapter into critical mass, to try to get the membership numbers and to try to get the students that are so big that they can't ignore you.
00:55:08.000Now, my question is for you, if my chapter has been facing a lot of, like, our administration has tried multiple ways to shut our chapter down.
00:55:21.000I know it's a Catholic school, but our administration, they're extremely liberal.
00:55:25.000But my question is for you is for future people who want to continue my chapter, because currently I'm the president and my secretary, you see, I don't know where he is, but he's somewhere here.
00:55:36.000How can I still maintain my connection with people in my university while also still continuing my day-to-day life?
00:58:57.000And again, there's nothing biblical about his belief.
00:59:01.000He is right that our true citizenship is in the kingdom of God.
00:59:04.000The Bible also says, though, that nations will be judged in the end of times, that nations and boundaries and borders are all biblical examples for that reason.
00:59:11.000Nehemiah built the wall in the book of Deuteronomy.
00:59:14.000There were stones put around the border edges of the nation of Israel.
00:59:18.000And so it sounds like a somewhat of a modern socially left view that he has.
00:59:24.000If he doesn't want to be an American citizen, ask him, fine, why don't you go to Ottawa or Toronto and tell me how free it is versus here in America?
00:59:34.000Why don't you go on the streets of Toronto and give a sermon in the open air about how Muhammad was a pedophile?
00:59:52.000And what drives me nuts, I'm not saying your friend is in this category, is people that come here and have no appreciation for how awesome this country is and how amazing it is.
01:00:17.000I mean, that's part of one of the reasons why I say college is a scam.
01:00:19.000A lot of the jobs that you guys are pursuing are going to be replaced.
01:00:23.000However, I will say that when I asked people their majors, there were some really good answers.
01:00:27.000You know, animal science, that's not going to be replaced by AI anytime soon.
01:00:30.000You know, certain electrical engineering jobs.
01:00:32.000But what will be disrupted is that mid-level management, the middle part of the, I see the college scam book right there, the kind of middle part of these companies.
01:00:43.000What matters most, and unfortunately this is lost on a lot of college education, what matters most is not the skills you get, but the character you develop.
01:00:51.000The character you develop will be everlasting, much longer than the skills that you get while you're in college.
01:00:57.000But look, I mean, I bet half you guys in this audience are writing your essays with ChatGPT.
01:01:07.000But look, AI can be a good thinking partner, but I'm telling you guys, be very careful if you are replacing your own ability to reason with AI.
01:01:17.000You will be less human, and there is nothing sacred and nothing biblical with you outsourcing your humanity to a bunch of numbers on a screen.
01:01:59.000You can advocate with part of Turning Point USA.
01:02:02.000You don't need to be a citizen for any of that.
01:02:03.000But once you become a citizen, then you can vote.
01:02:06.000All those things as a Canadian citizen are so important.
01:02:08.000And just the demonstration and the contrast between how Canada is right now versus America is such a dramatic one that I think should invigorate almost everybody.
01:02:22.000What makes your presence here so dramatic is that you have signed up for something hard.
01:02:29.000If you wanted what was easy, you would be a campus liberal shouting about some alleged injustice.
01:02:35.000But you have decided, even though you might get canceled, even though you might be smeared or slandered, that you are pursuing the betterment for the United States of America.
01:02:50.000You are around thousands of other fellow travelers that are willing to also fight and sacrifice for this nation.
01:02:57.000So what does success look like for your generation?
01:03:00.00020 years from now, we want to look back at this chapter leadership summit.
01:03:04.000We want to say 20 years from now, church attendance has gone up.
01:03:07.00020 years from now, we want to say that the birth rate was reversed.
01:03:10.00020 years from now, we want to say the suicide rate has reversed.
01:03:13.00020 years from now, we want to say that you're able to own homes, run businesses, that men can be men and women can be women, and that men will no longer be in female sports or female locker rooms.
01:03:22.00020 years from now, 20 years from now, we want a nation that speaks English, has a unified culture, that values God again, that has not been taken over by the communist Chinese or by radical Islamism.
01:03:39.000And my goodness, if you take 1,100 turning point USA superstars like all of you, and 1,100 libs, I will bet on you guys every single time to win this country.