The Comment Section with Drew Afualo

00:00:00.000 it's just like that guy like recently i've seen him who said like uh menstrual cycles aren't natural

00:00:05.500 he said he said a lot of women don't know this i'm like pause

00:00:10.080 pause pause pause pause do you have a uterus no right okay invalid immediately i don't need to

00:00:18.720 hear anything else anything else

00:00:21.760 hey everyone and welcome back to another episode of the comment section show starring me your

00:00:30.200 favorite everybody knows me who cares about me everyone only cares about the guests today i

00:00:34.420 have the one and only the very famous and very special dom gabriel welcome thank you i'm shaking

00:00:44.320 why i don't know i'm nervous i watch this show like every single week and i've been like

00:00:49.260 oh i'm never gonna be honest i'm never gonna be on these yellow couches they're comfy huh no this

00:00:55.320 is nice i'm kind of like trying to stand up straight and be like you know respectful let it all hang out

00:01:01.160 today's the day i'm so happy to have you i'm so happy to be here it's an honor no it's an honor

00:01:07.020 for me i've can i just say like sure i absolutely adore everything you do and like thank you for

00:01:13.180 staying up for others thank you for using your platform for the right reasons oh thank you

00:01:17.260 destroying these terrible men oh my gosh you're so welcome that's gonna do it for our episode

00:01:20.920 today yeah and we're out and we're out that's all i needed to hear one of the few men i tolerate from

00:01:26.240 the internet how are you oh that's an i've actually i'm so happy you bestowed it upon me because that

00:01:32.340 just kind of gave me that i think i don't know if you remember the first time we interacted online

00:01:37.200 i think i do it was like you made a video that was supposed to be like satire i was like silly in

00:01:43.020 the beginning it was like it came off weird but then it was silly at the end yeah it was like i

00:01:48.260 was talking about like arm like woman with armpit hair yeah i was like this this goes up if you're a

00:01:52.800 woman you have armpit hair and there was like a slight little pause yeah i don't give a shit like

00:01:57.120 bring that ass over and everybody just immediately just like started tagging i was like what's happening

00:02:01.160 what's happening that's why i was like i always do my research and i was like he's not bad y'all

00:02:07.120 like this is not and i saw the video you made in response to someone tagging me yeah and you were

00:02:12.540 like you guys don't love me you're just trying to get me killed yeah then you were like don't worry

00:02:16.580 guys this guy's cool yeah dot dot for now and i was like okay she's watching me for now that's what

00:02:23.680 i would say healthy dose of fear never hurt anybody no that's what i think yeah i actually really do love

00:02:29.200 your content though i enjoy your content and you as a creator so that's why we're mutes yeah mutuals

00:02:35.400 forever and i've loved your content for a long time thank you i feel like i feel like the kind

00:02:41.520 of representation that you bring to social media is so important because it's it's like at the

00:02:47.640 intersection of like what it means to be a man which is our topic for today what it really means to

00:02:53.080 be a man whatever that means that that like whole sentiment is so differently defined depending on

00:02:58.960 your internalized biases yeah so i feel like you remind me of my boyfriend like someone who's

00:03:05.600 so incredibly comfortable in their sexuality and their expression their gender expression and who

00:03:10.880 they are as a person that they don't fear equality and they don't fear things like expressing yourself

00:03:18.260 through clothes through makeup through jewelry through nails whatever it may be that's what i love about

00:03:24.280 your platform no thank you i mean i've always kind of been that outcast growing up like i never really

00:03:30.500 had that person to look up to growing up it's like i kind of had to like go over the hill and get bullied

00:03:35.960 and i was like well i'm already getting bullied so i might as well just kind of yeah roll with the

00:03:40.200 punches so yeah uh so i've seen your videos too where you talk about wearing dresses wearing skirts and

00:03:45.840 how first of all clothing is engendered so it's not even that serious it's not a revolutionary idea

00:03:51.040 for someone who identifies as a man to wear a skirt but also you were talking about how like

00:03:55.880 you have always wanted to express yourself that way but never felt like or you could when you were

00:04:02.660 younger but kids are so mean when you're growing up especially in a heteronormative society so what

00:04:07.500 made you want to like really come forward and really start expressing yourself like was there

00:04:11.800 anything that happened was it more so like you just grew up and you were like you know what i choose

00:04:16.460 me i'm gonna express myself however i want um i think it's it's weird because so i started painting

00:04:22.040 my nails when i was 10 years old and it was like i didn't know what nail polish was i just saw this

00:04:26.340 wrestler called jeff hardy oh yeah and he painted his nails so i would just be in class and i would

00:04:30.820 paint a permanent marker but then i would paint them but i would hide them because yeah and like

00:04:35.880 at the moment it was like oh i was embarrassed i was humiliated but in hindsight i'm like

00:04:39.640 no i was truly doing that for me yeah you know what i mean because i still did it yeah but i just

00:04:44.740 didn't want anyone to see it but like i would look at him like oh this is so cool yeah and hide it and

00:04:48.760 i think growing up and you know getting bullied and i figured you know i'm gonna get bullied for

00:04:53.820 it anyways i might as well do it and then when i started doing the tiktoks and i remember there was

00:04:58.340 this kid um that made this video and he was wearing lipstick and earrings and nails and his mom

00:05:04.500 sending this video and he was like thank you so much for letting me know that i can be myself

00:05:09.660 oh that's so sweet and it just made me in that moment realize like okay this is bigger than

00:05:15.680 yeah than me yeah you know it's like absolutely because i can be that person that these kids can

00:05:21.300 look up to that like painting their nails and dressing feminine and whether they don't they don't identify

00:05:26.560 they don't know if they want to be yeah necessarily necessarily straight or queer or trans they just

00:05:31.460 want to express themselves yeah it's just it's just expression at that point yeah it's just expression so

00:05:35.640 yeah being that person that they can look at and point and be like oh it's okay for me to do that

00:05:41.280 yeah i think that's important yeah absolutely it is representation is one of the few things that

00:05:48.440 like makes me emotional but i i don't tell the man but i that's one of the few things that gets me

00:05:55.660 because it's so much more powerful than you realize and that was something for me too as far as like

00:06:02.160 my platform and what it is i do and what i look like and how i'm built and all of that is like so

00:06:09.580 important it's a big piece of your platform is like how you present to the world is so

00:06:16.660 representative of so many people who never get to see themselves in media yeah and like specifically

00:06:22.000 like for me um i'm someone so like someone people are non-existent in media unless you count the rock

00:06:28.740 which that's like if people say someone they're like oh like the rock like that's like the only

00:06:32.660 person they can reference which is true he is someone um and then there's like jason momoa but

00:06:37.140 he's hawaiian so it's like that's it there's no women really there is there are someone women in

00:06:42.300 in the media but they're not as well known as someone like the rock so you know like it's so rare for

00:06:49.700 someone people in general to be represented in a light that has nothing to do with athleticism that has

00:06:55.940 nothing to do with like their physical being it's like just in media like for being funny for being

00:07:02.180 smart for being a great singer for being talented in ways that don't rely on your physicality

00:07:06.680 so like when i first started getting messages about representation and how like much it meant to them and

00:07:12.800 how it makes them feel oh it makes me emotional i'm sure it makes you emotional no it does i think

00:07:18.320 um and i don't mean to like get deep and get into like you know philosophical or something like that

00:07:23.980 but i truly i truly there's something that like i learned through going to therapy is that you know

00:07:29.060 we have this idea of of happiness and it's like a destination but i feel like what we're really

00:07:34.600 looking for is like purpose and i feel like the universe gives everybody a set of skills to share

00:07:40.280 with the world to make the world a better place and i feel like that's what you've done with your

00:07:43.100 platform thank you is that you found this purpose and you're sharing that with the world and you're

00:07:47.420 you're this light that people can point to and be like because like not only are you representation

00:07:52.580 but you're also cool you know fashionable you're confident yourself you do these cool things and

00:07:58.060 people can look at you and be like oh i look like her yeah i can do that i can be that like

00:08:03.060 that's how i feel about yours same thing with you that's it's so important like to to see yourself

00:08:07.940 like to see someone who looks exactly like you or expresses themselves in the way that you want

00:08:13.680 to as well and not be afraid of criticism or judgment or anything because inherently as humans

00:08:20.560 we do fear judgment or being perceived in a way that's not aligned with who we really are

00:08:25.040 yeah and i feel like people like you are so important on the internet because you are showing

00:08:30.800 people there is no one right way to be a man or to present as a person as a as a man or as someone

00:08:37.120 who's manly or whatever that means like it's none of it's real yeah first of all and i even when i

00:08:42.560 talk about how gender expression well gender in general like the gender binary is a man-made construction

00:08:48.460 like exactly we've literally created it out of thin air like it's not real it's just something

00:08:54.540 we've created and we've adhered to for thousands of years so every time i bring that up people are

00:08:59.680 like oh you just like want to talk about that and i'm like that's just a different hornet's nest that

00:09:04.340 i've kicked before but it's literally because like it's true no it's so and and that's why once you let

00:09:10.700 it go you feel so much lighter i bet you felt so much lighter when you were like you know all this i'm

00:09:17.640 gonna start dressing and presenting exactly the way i want to yeah it's like it's the power of

00:09:22.380 just like being fearless yeah i'm sure and you know the amount of trolls and the amount of hate

00:09:27.320 comments you get i was gonna ask you about hate yeah a lot of hate oh it's ridiculous all the time

00:09:31.920 uh my favorite is like sometimes it's like really poetic like so it was like someone once said you lack

00:09:40.320 substance and nature and wildlife will celebrate when your life is absent or something like that and i was

00:09:47.280 like spin me a yarn yeah and i was like wow okay shakespeare like i was actually genuinely impressed

00:09:52.300 that like you took the time to be that poetic with your therapist yeah on her burner on their burner

00:09:58.140 account they're trolling you amanda is that you that's so funny oh my god but yeah like they really

00:10:05.780 take their time with that hate and i always just think to myself truly yeah and like especially when

00:10:10.040 they when they take time to make a full video essay about you oh my god like i know you get a ton of

00:10:14.100 the way a new white person finds me every six months and they're like this is why you think

00:10:19.340 that you're oh my god i can't imagine the effort it takes to like you set up you're like you know

00:10:24.140 what tomorrow i'm gonna wake up early and i'm gonna make a video about drew yeah and you know you know

00:10:28.360 the people that like make those videos essays about you have like 16 drafts where they start it up

00:10:32.480 they're like they press it and they're like they're like oh man i started a little bit it's like that

00:10:36.180 millennial pause when they're like and another thing and another thing and you know when you know that's not

00:10:41.580 right yeah they're like yeah you start they're like they're doing the timer thing where like they

00:10:46.680 can't get the right they're like trying to hit the 0.9 but it always goes like 0.1 like

00:10:49.920 there was one guy that obsessed over me for like this is not a joke like eight months like he

00:10:58.360 he literally would keep he would make 15 videos about me say the craziest shit like he called me a fat

00:11:04.800 cunt in one of them and then he said like that i was i was deleting his videos because i apparently i'm i'm

00:11:10.700 controlling the controls at tiktok apparently so like he called me that and he said it was my fault

00:11:16.100 that got taken down i'm all okay i you know and so he kept revisiting me and he literally was like

00:11:23.160 researching me and like was trying to like like connect all these dots that didn't exist and it

00:11:29.680 was like the craziest narratives he was building around me and it was so funny because someone at

00:11:34.140 one point like commented on one of his thousands of videos about me because he would make videos

00:11:37.500 get banned for like 72 days come back and then start over again like he kept doing it

00:11:41.340 and then like someone literally wrote hey man like i don't really like her either but like are you

00:11:47.320 gonna ever go back to your original content are you just gonna talk about her i was like i'm so dead

00:11:51.760 i'm so dead bro he's like okay i'm over it okay i'm over it i don't want to see it anymore bitch

00:11:57.680 thank you that's so good even the other haters are like you know what man like i'm a hater too

00:12:02.480 yeah yeah you're wearing you're wearing me out yeah this is a lot of hate this is too much hate

00:12:07.260 yeah for me yeah i'm a certified hater and this is a lot of hate at this point i mean are you ever

00:12:13.720 gonna go back to your original content where i was like damn don't your own followers yeah they're

00:12:17.440 all people turning against yeah yeah they're literally like okay enough yeah enough we get it

00:12:21.360 enough well you know how horrible you have to be for your own bigoted followers to be like

00:12:25.660 maybe we lay off yeah you know what i mean like they're they're tempting yeah they start turning

00:12:29.600 like you know she's actually not that bad like i actually the more you talk about her the more

00:12:34.160 i'm kind of changing my mind a little bit it's kind of cool like well that you're a perfect example

00:12:39.640 of how like if the shoe doesn't fit it won't bother you yeah so i've talked countless times but they

00:12:46.560 one thing they don't do is listen so like i've always said like everything i say is specific to the

00:12:52.100 person i'm talking to and specifically if you fall in that category i'm talking about you too bitch

00:12:56.940 yeah so if you're awful and you just so happen to be five two i'm gonna make fun of you for being

00:13:02.280 five two because you got to pick one it's literally in the bible so like it says like you can't be ugly

00:13:07.220 and short and also terrible like it literally says that so i'm i you're a perfect example of someone

00:13:12.700 who doesn't get offended because it doesn't apply to you yeah exactly and you're also really tall so

00:13:20.040 statistically i'm no scientist but clearly i'm right right so like no my boyfriend's tall

00:13:26.920 too and he's not horrible so the math simply is mapping too yeah i mean you know what's crazy

00:13:35.000 about those guys though is like i remember like i made this one video and i was like wearing a dress

00:13:40.620 and one of the comments was like you're gay right which is like i always look at that as like well

00:13:45.720 thank you like i have a lot of gay friends and they're super dope yeah so i tell you i like flip

00:13:49.220 it i'm like oh yeah i get those about being trans they say that to me all the time and i'm like

00:13:53.220 that's not an insult to me but okay yeah but like as okay so as a man i went and i was like i made a

00:13:58.700 video making fun of that comment replying to it of me wearing a dress and heels lipstick wig i went to

00:14:04.320 the gym yeah and then i like bench press three plates and like i'm responding to i'm like all right

00:14:09.300 point number one do a press and i'm like being gay there's nothing wrong with that yeah yeah did

00:14:16.300 another one of 315 and then all of a sudden i got a bunch of guys like oh this guy's pretty jacked

00:14:21.220 i guess it's pretty cool one thing it's like it's like what like where they cannot fight is like

00:14:27.640 is that it's like physical fit they cannot fight that like it's like an illness yeah it's but i just

00:14:33.500 don't understand like it's like this like caveman mentality of like truly i thought you were gay but

00:14:38.980 then you lift heavy weight and now i man lift heavy man not gay man not gay clearly he can't be

00:14:46.180 that's science yeah i live more than i live it's literally like you know when you like put up a

00:14:51.640 homing signal and then like all these things like have you ever seen wreck it ralph of course okay you

00:14:56.280 know how like the scene in wreck it ralph when they do the little light and all those bugs are like

00:15:00.020 yeah they fly to it that's literally men with the gym like men like that as soon as you show that

00:15:07.140 you're like physically fit or strong they're like oh they're like oh he's cool yeah like yeah exactly

00:15:13.400 like everything's a race like it's just no other thoughts other than man lift heavy that's it yeah

00:15:18.920 and then it's like i'm lifting in like heels like that and then they're like hmm that's impressive

00:15:23.240 the heel leverage it's like what is that good for your calves yeah like how'd you find the weight

00:15:28.840 it's like bro you're missing the point you're missing the point you're literally missing the point

00:15:33.540 it's it's the same deal with my boyfriend being like obviously my boyfriend was in the fitness

00:15:39.920 industry for a long time so my boyfriend was a personal trainer like and he worked at a commercial

00:15:44.580 gym then he went private and then he was he had his own personal training business which by the way

00:15:49.020 the crazy this is off topic the craziest rumor i've ever seen was that my dad was a cop who funded my

00:15:56.460 boyfriend's personal training business that's something the little white kids are telling each other on

00:16:00.600 tiktok what i said girl what does they're like calling me a nepo baby but like because my dad

00:16:06.780 was a cop i'm like what what what what what are the requirements of being a nepo baby i feel like

00:16:12.620 ever since this term became popular apparently like if your dad's a cop then he gives you almost eight

00:16:17.900 million followers on tiktok yeah apparently so anyways back to my boyfriend like he would get uh because

00:16:24.400 he's like physically in shape and he's not ugly right so and he's tall and he looks like what they

00:16:30.140 deem to be like a manly man or whatever just like you they're like oh uh this guy looks so good but

00:16:38.060 he's dating a mean bitch and so they'll be like i hate your girlfriend but you look really good

00:16:45.200 like they'll literally dm him that they're like hey man sick sick lips like hey honestly i i need a

00:16:52.160 little couple tips on my bench like just out of curiosity also i hate your fat bitch girlfriend just

00:16:56.360 by the way yo that's they do that all the time it's my boyfriend all the time it's the weirdest

00:17:00.940 thing it's so weird it's so weird and it's like and it's like they're projecting this thing you know

00:17:08.280 i don't know if you know i'm gay it's like they're it's like don't you find it whether you're like oh

00:17:11.700 this she's such a mean bitch blah blah blah but yo sick physique yeah but like you

00:17:16.600 what's your lip split bro are you doing like upper body like if i wanted to grow my biceps

00:17:24.240 like what would your best tips be for that yeah it's just such an illness i told you it's literally

00:17:29.060 that's literally what they do they turn into i literally i had this conversation with uh

00:17:33.360 one of my one of my friends she's she's lesbian and we were like having this conversation about

00:17:38.140 how like when guys call me gay i'm like the most this would be the most extreme solution yeah but

00:17:43.180 like if a guy's like oh you're gay and i'm like well thank you but i'm not but we can solve this

00:17:47.820 like what if we just like drop our pants yeah put on some gay porn kiss me on the lips right now yeah

00:17:53.720 kiss me let's let's see let's make out and see who gets hard let's let's let's just try it out man

00:18:00.700 listen let's see i may tell a joke but i never tell a lie yeah you know that's that's and it's also

00:18:07.920 it's so i think it's like their brains like literally short-circuiting because they've been

00:18:14.040 conditioned to believe this very specific idea of what a man should be yeah and then also what

00:18:21.800 women should be and there's they don't believe in non-binary people of course they don't they

00:18:25.880 don't believe in trans people of course they don't and so when you're operating within this

00:18:29.780 gender binary they're like well if women are loud if they talk back if they're independent if

00:18:34.720 they don't like if they're rude whatever they consider to be rude or mean um then they're gonna

00:18:39.000 they're clearly fat they're clearly single and they're clearly like literally this guy recently

00:18:43.900 made a video about me unprovoked i've never seen this man in my life but his name had the word karate

00:18:50.380 in it so do with that what you will but he literally was like don't talk about me now don't

00:18:56.360 hey don't talk about me now like as if i was talking about like he it's almost like i came in

00:19:01.340 halfway through the conversation i was like i tweeted the video i'm like does anyone know why

00:19:06.000 this guy's talking to me like i know who he is like i've never seen this man in my life and he

00:19:10.000 was like i'll hurt your feelings i'll i'm mr disrespectful like he said this whole thing

00:19:14.800 and uh this girl stitched him and she tagged me in it and she was like i'm just curious like

00:19:20.520 what could you say like at this point what do you think she hasn't heard at this point and she's

00:19:25.360 like she's you guys call her fat and ugly you guys make fun of her looks like she's not single

00:19:30.400 her man's hot she's rich like she has a career she's busy what do you think you could say to her

00:19:37.340 like at this point like what do you think you could say that would bring her down for real

00:19:40.240 because she was like for real like you you're gonna make her quit with your insults how and also like

00:19:46.400 i don't understand these guys like go after you for like like what sort of clout do you think

00:19:51.540 they're gonna gain from that i don't know a bunch of like women are gonna come to their page

00:19:55.620 also shit on them and then what do they think like manscaped is gonna come out the world

00:19:59.440 you want to manscaped you want a ball shaver dude like gym sharks yeah like get that guy in my office

00:20:06.800 yeah we need that athlete i i've said that before i'm like because sometimes random dudes with huge

00:20:12.340 followings will get these like they'll go through these spells where they're like i should attack drew

00:20:18.440 and then they like make a video talking about how much they love andrew tay and they hate me

00:20:23.520 and then they lose like hundreds of thousands of followers like immediately they get overrun

00:20:29.180 and i'm like if you don't like me keep it to yourself exactly if the girls find out

00:20:34.800 they will not be nice to you yeah they will not be kind to you i don't understand like the the

00:20:41.960 mental like gymnastics they go to yeah there's no future in that there's none the same with people

00:20:48.100 who attack you there's no future in that like you think you're gonna build a platform off being a

00:20:53.180 horrible person like then they'll be like you're the horrible person you have a platform clearly i'm

00:20:58.480 not yeah clearly i'm not so like and then it's like freedom of speech i can say whatever i want it's

00:21:04.720 like sure true but no one has to like you also that's true yeah exactly no one's entitled no one has

00:21:09.600 to listen to you no one has to agree with you yeah and that's our and also that means i get to call

00:21:15.860 you ugly so like when they say freedom of speech i'm like freedom of speech okay that applies to me

00:21:20.900 too yeah so i can say whatever you said something about me like sometimes they'll write like these

00:21:25.800 terrible comments in my videos and they have no pictures obviously and then i'll tell them send

00:21:30.620 me a picture of you i dare you i dare you send me a picture right now i will post it and i will talk

00:21:35.640 about what you look like it's always no photo a cartoon character an anime character yeah or that

00:21:41.420 little alien yeah default one that's on there or it's like a picture of like their back like

00:21:46.360 like they're like dude the back pics oh my god sometimes give me some pussy today yeah sometimes

00:21:53.260 i see him and they're like in the middle of their gym progress like my boyfriend's described it as

00:21:59.100 like you could tell this guy just started going to the gym because of the way they act and the way

00:22:03.620 they talk and and they write hateful things on my videos and so sometimes i'll just write like you

00:22:09.260 don't look very good yeah that's it eats them alive hey your your your progress is not very good

00:22:14.720 yeah they read that comment and then they immediately put on like one of those motivational videos like

00:22:19.200 those men only yeah the ones are like there's a dude in a suit and he's walking in slo-mo and it's

00:22:25.440 like they don't know that i'm a villain now yeah it's the beginning of my villain era yeah it's like

00:22:32.080 devil emojis or whatever patrick bateman they always have him or it's like some it's like a batman

00:22:38.400 and it's not even like a batman quote it's like batman suiting up taking off his mask

00:22:42.640 and just some random dude like yeah the road never ends just like that phony inspirational

00:22:49.860 yeah oh my god the tea about that is that i'm the real batman no fact you know what i mean like i'm

00:22:55.320 i'm the real batman like i take it a little too far when i'm beating up terrible people you know what

00:23:00.860 i mean nobody asked me to do it but i just took it upon myself to go find people and be awful to them

00:23:06.760 you know what i'm saying nobody asked me to do that yeah it's like two minutes into your video

00:23:10.760 it's like oh drew drew i think he said no i think he's like oh you want some like that batman audio

00:23:16.700 do you want some more you want some no no i'm good i'm good yeah it's literally like me taking it upon

00:23:22.720 myself to go and fight crime like no one asked me to do that but i kind of just did it no i love it

00:23:28.240 and then the city always debates the morality of how i do it it's literally me i'm batman literally

00:23:34.700 when i watched black adam i was like literally me yeah it's so nice to see yourself represented on

00:23:40.280 screen anti-heroes that's my thing that's my vibes okay so obviously we went over we're going to talk

00:23:47.360 about what it means to be a real man with quotes obviously because neither of us believe in the

00:23:51.800 gender binary we don't operate within it uh we don't think it's the only thing that we should

00:23:56.940 operate within so what we like to do here on the comment section is we bring videos that are

00:24:01.660 applicable to our topic and then we kiki we laugh about them tear them apart whatever's necessary

00:24:06.700 so this first video says this older guy is wearing a suit talking to the camera and he says that being

00:24:14.400 a real man means being head of the household and being the main financial provider he says it's his

00:24:20.940 responsibility to make sure he provides shelter food and clothing to his family and that men these days

00:24:26.200 need to get a backbone yeah so okay where do we start with this i okay so funny i'll start i'll

00:24:35.200 start here i'll start yeah is so i saw that video oh did you yeah i think i know is he in a car

00:24:40.320 talking if i remember correctly he might just be some no no i think not that he lives in his car i'm

00:24:45.980 just yeah was he in the car when he filmed the video i can't remember i think he was just like on a

00:24:50.860 couch oh okay with like a suit on or okay i got it got it and um so just for you know shits and gigs

00:24:58.660 i was like i just googled like is being being a real man you know i mean and i found like these

00:25:04.320 the first searches were like either like self-help books on how to be a real man or people asking the

00:25:08.580 question on forums of um what's the difference between a good man and a real man which i was like

00:25:13.720 okay red flag red flag that this is like horror nothing but horror and all those corners yeah

00:25:20.680 exactly and i'm like this is so weird that like that men need feel the need to differentiate like

00:25:26.580 a good man versus like is a good man necessarily a real man yeah what a strange division like they're

00:25:34.580 like those two things can't be the same exactly it's like growing up it's like growing up they've

00:25:38.980 been taught that like in order to be a real man it's like you gotta be awful yeah you have to be

00:25:43.600 this bad person you have to stand up and be like no my way or the highway because i'm a man and i

00:25:48.340 know best but like the way that i grew up is like slippery slope but the way that i grew up is like

00:25:53.860 around a woman much like yourself they're like strong independent single parent home it was me my mom

00:25:59.520 and so when i was growing up femininity was like strength powerful yeah it was never like the man the

00:26:07.960 house wasn't taking care of stuff like my mom was the badass my mom my dad left my mom never asked

00:26:13.060 for child support my mom was like if you're not gonna be around i don't want your money yeah i'll

00:26:17.080 take care of this myself and she held it down so it was like me growing up looking at femininity i've

00:26:21.380 always been like i never saw like masculinity being stronger or better than because i was like my mom's

00:26:26.520 badass yeah literally she's a woman yeah women are badass yeah so it's like your vision on the world

00:26:32.780 is so different from what like heteronormative like extremely bigoted view of women has been for

00:26:40.300 other men yeah yeah so i think with that video it's like sure there's certain aspects of that like

00:26:47.360 yeah you want to be kind you want to take care of the people that are around yeah you know i'm saying

00:26:52.120 but i think at the end of the day being a man just comes down to just being a good person yeah like

00:26:58.940 really quite simple yeah i always think they over complicate things when they try to like search

00:27:05.740 for the deeper meaning it's like if you're just a good person i think you'll be okay like life will

00:27:11.300 work out the way you want it to men always over complicate yeah it's like even with like those

00:27:15.720 like gym motivational things it's always like it's like wake up 5 30 blah blah take a cold shower

00:27:21.760 take a cold shower think about what you've done work on things every single day and you'll be

00:27:25.720 successful and it's like well yeah if you practice and you work at something every single day like

00:27:29.940 yeah inherently you will be inherently you will eventually if i play trumpet every single day

00:27:34.300 starting now a year from now i'm gonna i'm gonna be perfect yeah i'm gonna be all right proficient at

00:27:39.260 it yeah as long as you're consistent yeah i didn't need some guy with a suit and tie with an audiobook to

00:27:44.240 tell me over 18 chapters that shit like no literally and it's also i feel like a lot of times too that

00:27:50.580 that idea of a man that's projected through like self-help books depending on who it is a lot of

00:27:58.340 times it can it's just a veiled misogyny like it's like a it's almost always void of empathy they're

00:28:05.720 like you can't feel anything negative or sad or not even really joy like the only feeling you should have

00:28:14.520 is like motivation driven by negativity like it's like you can't feel anything that's not

00:28:21.100 like driving you towards like success in whatever way and that mentality is feeds into capitalism

00:28:28.200 it's like a capitalist mindset it's like you have to work this many hours for this many days for this

00:28:33.940 many years in order to live a successful life which we've since proven is not true yeah and it's like

00:28:39.300 it's just it all ties together like misogyny white supremacy capitalism like it's all literally a

00:28:44.600 never-ending loop and that's why i'm always like aren't you guys like well first of all when men are

00:28:50.480 like you have to be the main provider you have to be this this and that uh when i've talked about that

00:28:56.280 and why it's problematic to have those beliefs they're like oh so you don't think that men should

00:29:01.740 provide for their for their wives and i'm like i never said that i said it shouldn't be

00:29:07.900 beholden to only them like and if your wife makes more money than you don't be a dick like get your

00:29:15.160 bread up but yeah you know what i mean instead of getting your funny up get your money up exactly

00:29:19.760 that's what i always think yeah so i always i'm always like it's first when men say like that say

00:29:25.740 that they make no money at all which is the irony they're like why i'm the provider and they make like

00:29:31.240 30 000 a year what are you providing for you could barely provide for yourself off that money like

00:29:36.280 what do you mean family what do you mean house you know what i'm saying you're renting yeah easily

00:29:40.920 babe that's okay like and and that's fine but don't act like you're this big baller like it's the

00:29:47.320 same dude that fears gold diggers yeah they're like oh these women are just after my money what

00:29:52.600 money yeah what money babe they're the ones that believe those prank videos of guys with the

00:29:57.820 lamborghinis yeah a girl walks past and it's like do you want to date me no all right click click

00:30:02.000 lamborghini she's like oh no wait yeah and then guys believe those videos and they're like see

00:30:05.980 yeah and i'm like that's staged exactly those are actors babe yeah yeah no one does that no one

00:30:11.960 does that like and if they do like okay that's why i always say like men like this who um because

00:30:17.180 it's the same shit with like the masculine energy feminine energy which i made a video that like made

00:30:23.460 the spiritual white people so upset with me because i was like that's not real because male and female

00:30:30.820 gender binary is not real like it's a product of colonization yeah and uh they were so mad at me

00:30:36.100 when i said that and i was like it's just that's if you believe it is that's fine i'm telling you

00:30:40.340 historically not all cultures adhere to a gender binary many of them didn't before being colonized

00:30:46.020 yeah that's a fact so including my own so and i was like so you can believe whatever you want i just

00:30:51.580 that's not real to me so i don't think it's real energy is energy regardless but when within that

00:30:57.560 they were like oh well men want to provide and like take women out of their soft era and put them

00:31:02.740 in their fem like or no take them out of their masculine era and put them in their feminine era

00:31:07.980 which i'm like what's the difference between saying that right oh i just wanted to take care of you

00:31:13.760 yeah and being like you should stay home because i'm the man and i should go to work what's the

00:31:18.240 difference there's no difference like just because you use fancier words doesn't mean it's

00:31:23.100 anything other than misogyny yeah and i was like and those same men asked them how they feel about

00:31:27.980 women who only date for money i bet they don't like it something tells me they don't like it you

00:31:35.700 know what i mean and a secure man wouldn't care how much money they're no female partner makes like

00:31:41.080 if they made money yeah the more money the merrier that's what i'm saying yeah how much more you make

00:31:48.140 double what i make sounds like a great life yeah sounds amazing that sounds great sounds like you're

00:31:53.240 doing very well for yourself sounds good to me that's what i'm saying it's funny too because sometimes

00:31:58.820 men were like oh about my boyfriend they're like oh bro got in before like like he's using me for my

00:32:05.540 money and i was like we've been together for six years like we've been together when we neither of

00:32:11.700 us had money like no money to rub together let alone now like what would be the difference yeah and

00:32:17.880 i'm like well it's funny because you don't have a partner or money yeah maybe worry about you but

00:32:22.060 like you're oh for two right now it's it's so hard for them to just mind their business no truly just

00:32:28.180 mind your business i literally said uh when i was talking to delara in my last episode i was literally

00:32:32.660 telling her i'll never truly be alone yeah there will always be a white man in my business bitch

00:32:37.740 they will always be in there they'll always be there somewhere rummaging around yeah you just

00:32:42.220 have to look through the comments and you'll find them and they're always there my biggest fans yeah

00:32:45.840 my biggest supporters you've been here for a while man i appreciate you you don't follow me but you

00:32:51.080 don't you never skip a video no literally sometimes do you ever see that they're following you

00:32:55.060 they write hate and then you look oh yeah i've seen that yeah and i'm like wait interesting

00:32:59.920 interesting and i said like i literally go follow back huh i said should i follow you back yeah and

00:33:05.540 then they'll write i only follow you so i can watch like watch the train wreck come on so you follow

00:33:12.600 me and watch me that's a fan yeah you're a fan yeah you're a fan i follow you so i can hate you

00:33:18.080 tell you how much i hate you it's like okay okay that's like love but yeah you sound like a psychopath

00:33:23.860 yeah okay yeah for sure do you uh okay speaking of comments so the comments on this video this one

00:33:31.440 says what makes me a man is my integrity and my character the ability to provide for your family

00:33:37.040 is only part of it it means nothing without character i mean yeah i guess depends on what

00:33:44.680 you mean by that yeah sometimes like what is your character yeah what do you mean integrity about

00:33:49.820 what yeah you know what i mean like it's in theory yes this is fine but i always feel a little

00:33:57.260 yeah it's like what's the motive behind that like yeah my character but my character is also i hate

00:34:04.040 women my character is misogynistic too yes okay this one says what about women they want they want to be

00:34:13.880 that now i'm assuming he means like the man in the relationship and then this person said they

00:34:19.160 have to be that because men are falling so far behind that's t that's a word bitch yeah that's

00:34:25.440 t honestly well i don't know if he means that in a way that's supportive of women or in a way that's

00:34:29.960 like toxic masculinity like you know they're like a men are not even men anymore like that type of

00:34:34.860 mentality i think that's where i'm gonna lean on it probably yeah i'm giving him too much credit

00:34:38.820 yeah considering that this was on his for you page i'm gonna lean on the toxic masculinity side

00:34:44.860 yeah where they say like it do you get those comments a lot where they're like this is what

00:34:49.940 men look like now or whatever yeah all the time all the time all the time and i think it's very

00:34:54.620 important that like um when they make when they say stuff like that like oh look at what men have

00:35:00.540 become like yeah men used to go to war and do this and it's like okay do you want to go to war

00:35:07.580 like i don't like i mean no one's stopping you no one's stopping you like you can go yeah you can

00:35:12.600 apply you are more than welcome to go right ahead they have help wanted signs yeah which is like

00:35:17.540 they're literally like please someone sign up in the military because people have peeped game about

00:35:21.340 how awful it is to be in the military yeah like that's always their go-to is like men used to go

00:35:25.220 to the military and be in the army and it's like and you're saying this from a room in your mother's

00:35:32.400 house with podcast lights with a microphone and headphones on your head a picture of harry styles

00:35:39.460 no oh my god i know who was literally like the most wanted man in the entire no shit oh my god

00:35:46.640 dude the way that they were so up in arms that's another thing too though that i think like especially

00:35:51.420 for you because i know you vibe with this in the same vein as me um maybe not to the same degree

00:35:57.720 obviously um because mine is probably not as bad as yours but like when people say these awful

00:36:03.760 things especially about how you dress or how you express yourself a lot of times it's racially

00:36:07.800 charged like always like 900 times out of 10 it's racially charged that happens with me too like i

00:36:16.020 always think like if you looked like harry styles it wouldn't be as big it wouldn't be at nearly as

00:36:21.320 violent or as like aggressive you know what i'm saying like they would like not to say that you don't

00:36:26.960 have followers that defend you because you do but the hate itself would be like so much less

00:36:33.140 like visceral i guess is the word i'm looking for you know what i mean no it's like i'm so happy you

00:36:38.360 brought that up because i didn't like that's always been a thing where like me wearing makeup or doing

00:36:43.580 my nails it's like any room i go into anybody i talk to like the first comparison is always like oh

00:36:48.840 lenny kravitz dennis rodman yeah and like that's where it ends yeah yeah you know what i mean but it's

00:36:54.800 like if i if i were white it'd be like oh like harry styles yeah bon jovi yeah david bowie yeah like

00:37:02.260 they would name like list off all these white people and it's like yeah it's cool if you're

00:37:05.860 white to do it because it's rocker and it's exactly exactly well and dennis rodman and lenny

00:37:12.280 kravitz are perfect examples of people that did not express themselves the way that people expected

00:37:18.180 them to and at the time they hated them for it exactly what happened they they got a lot of hate and

00:37:22.900 shit for it at the time but they had no problem with women did they no no they did not it's the

00:37:29.200 weirdest thing and i'm like i'm not saying like oh i'm this like you know woman savant yeah i don't

00:37:35.140 even know the word i'm sorry savant i've never used that word before yeah but it's like all the men that

00:37:40.900 hate on my stuff will hate on it and there's like hundreds of comments of women that love what i'm

00:37:45.720 doing yeah yeah and a man will be like men this is terrible men don't do this and a woman be like

00:37:50.000 i really like it like no you don't you're a liar and it's like okay well okay well okay not

00:37:55.940 understanding the yeah you're like oh okay well if you're gonna tell me what i'm feeling then you

00:38:00.860 don't need me for this conversation yeah it's like i don't understand men that like they'll go to men

00:38:05.220 to learn what women want god you're telling me you're telling me a woman will be like no we like

00:38:12.220 this no you don't this guy over here yeah they're like this guy over here super jacked and he said

00:38:17.500 that women want oh my god it's just like that guy like recently i've seen him who said like uh

00:38:23.160 menstrual cycles aren't natural he said he said a lot of women don't know this i'm like pause

00:38:29.720 pause pause pause pause do you have a uterus no right okay invalid immediately i don't need to hear

00:38:38.600 anything else anything else he literally i'm not kidding he's done like a series on it i keep

00:38:44.620 getting tagged in the videos but there are countless like gynecologists like gynecological

00:38:51.100 physicians stitching his thing and being like what are you saying yeah you don't even know what you're

00:38:57.140 saying like he's literally saying that like oh my god and then some people are like yeah i followed a

00:39:02.580 plant-based diet and like my period just stopped coming i'm all that's not a good thing girl like

00:39:08.580 bitch go to a doctor oh my god that is not a good thing oh my god the way that it's like and he's

00:39:15.500 like no you guys don't know you don't know they don't know that i know this as someone who's never

00:39:21.840 had a uterus they don't know that i know this how are you mansplaining a menstrual cycle as that's

00:39:27.340 insane to me the most i've never seen anything i thought it was a bit yeah to be honest i was like

00:39:32.240 that's not real like you know how they do like they they'll do like daily show skits on it or like

00:39:37.420 comedy sketches where it's like men trying to tell women about their own bodies which is not

00:39:41.800 unnatural it's not out of the ordinary for women and femme presenting people in general

00:39:47.160 but the fact that he's dead serious he's dead serious he's like no no back in caveman times

00:39:55.520 they didn't have one i'm all how do you know were you there you know what i mean that's i think that

00:40:00.240 all the time too when they're like back in the day men women and men used how do you know

00:40:04.240 yeah you weren't there you're just you're just saying things show me the time traveling machine

00:40:08.820 other guys i don't give a shit about what you're saying they watched a few seasons of mad men and

00:40:13.600 they were like back in the 60s men used to drink liquor take me back to those times i'm like suits

00:40:20.260 and whiskey when they're like yeah back in the day was better i'm like during how far back are we going

00:40:26.920 because that's problematic yeah you want to go back to those times when most most people that were not

00:40:34.160 straight white people like didn't have rights you want to go back to those times that makes no

00:40:41.340 sense yeah that's like i i personally don't want to go further than like 1981 i don't i think that's

00:40:48.840 where i kind of would be semi-comfortable you know i'm good yeah yeah when people are like oh man

00:40:55.180 do you remember there was that trend that was going around with like a woman would be like uh

00:41:00.840 my husband if i was if i was trez like if i were a color if i were oh yes yes yes yeah and it had

00:41:08.360 all the pictures yeah yeah yeah the fast song yeah the fast song and then people would do it trying to

00:41:12.840 like yeah for whatever reason was like if i was an era every like i hate i'm not trying to like put

00:41:19.200 people in a group but every white couple would be like i'd be the sixth my husband said i'd be the

00:41:23.220 50s or whatever yeah i'd be like the 50s the 40s and like i would do it i'd be like segregation

00:41:29.640 like what era is a segregation civil rights yeah it's like why why do all your boyfriends your

00:41:38.100 boyfriend think that about you think that you would be in the 1960s and your favorite

00:41:42.060 dizzy princess is bell like why is that exactly that would take that would feel like me personally

00:41:49.480 that would feel like an attack yeah exactly like that would make me feel like he describes your

00:41:53.820 like if you were a color you would be beige yeah yeah i'm like what do you hate me or something

00:41:58.220 literally like what do we have a problem literally oh my god that's just absolutely ridiculous okay

00:42:04.080 let's move on to this next video this video is a list of ways to talk like a real man it tells men

00:42:13.020 instead of saying when can i see you again say i noticed you had a good time with me let's plan

00:42:19.920 another date i love making people happy huh and instead of asking are you free on saturday say

00:42:25.640 make your saturday free we got something to do i'm telling you to go to hell if you say either of

00:42:32.000 those things to me that's like i'm alerting the authorities i noticed you were happy when you saw me

00:42:38.400 i noticed she smiled a couple times yeah clearly that means you had a good time with me do you want

00:42:42.980 to sleep with me so let's make another date yeah what a what a crazy doesn't that sound like

00:42:50.600 that sounds like like if a if an alien came down and they were like in a in a human suit and they

00:42:57.640 were like trying to blend in yeah like the men in black yeah they're like i noticed you had a good

00:43:02.180 time with me let us plan another date like wouldn't you be like what the hell's wrong with you

00:43:06.740 why'd you ask me like that i noticed you were drinking water do you enjoy being hydrated

00:43:12.020 like the most well also it doesn't factor in like that sometimes people like laugh or smile when

00:43:20.700 they're nervous when they're uncomfortable when they're just trying to be polite like there's like

00:43:25.820 a whole host of reasons someone could be laughing or smiling yeah it's like it's like they're saying

00:43:30.440 in order to be an alpha man you have to not know social cues be unable to read a room yeah be right

00:43:39.140 up in her personal bubble right up in her face and say i noticed and tell her what she's feeling

00:43:44.220 yeah and she'll love it i think you like me no i know you like me follow me they always like conflate

00:43:51.260 that with like um being um proactive like when you're dating and you're like hey like i had a really

00:43:58.820 great time like are you busy on friday like being proactive about setting dates is not the same thing

00:44:06.060 as telling someone like you like me right what do you mean you don't want to see me again yeah two

00:44:11.300 different vibes two completely different vibes yeah one is one is insane one one is giving me crazy

00:44:17.480 like one is giving me uncomfy yeah i've i've never had an issue fellas i'm sure there's no terrible men

00:44:24.780 watching this right now but i've never had an issue with just asking a woman if like she's

00:44:29.740 comfortable with something if she wants to go out like if she wants to hang if you want to hang hey

00:44:34.260 did you have a good time come over yeah i've had a good time would you like to go out never failed

00:44:40.520 never it's never you know you're genuinely asking you're not like telling them you had a good time

00:44:48.020 right okay so are you busy on friday those are like two different vibes like one is so like a like

00:44:55.580 almost accosting yeah and the other is like a genuine question like hey i really i had a really

00:45:01.600 that's why my speaking of therapy my therapist has told me to like always focus on talking in terms of

00:45:07.880 i like i'm feeling so you're not telling someone else how they feel because that comes off extremely

00:45:13.040 confrontational and sometimes invalidating so you're just like i had a really great time

00:45:17.600 if you did too i'd like to see you again exactly real simple so overcomplicating yeah overcomplicating

00:45:24.100 it's so simple all the time okay this first comment says heck yeah oh bad story be be a leader lead

00:45:32.720 with power and confidence and then it has two strong arms and a heart well he's lead with power and

00:45:41.740 confidence give her no choices just tell her man's never seen a vagina before yeah literally

00:45:47.580 yeah listen i didn't want to be the one to say you said it okay this one says y'all are making

00:45:54.100 fun of him but this shit actually works but it all depends on how you say it don't be too aggressive

00:45:59.360 actually say in a flirty tone can we give that can we give that a shot can we give let me try saying

00:46:05.040 okay ready go ahead i noticed that uh you were happy i like making people happy make your saturday

00:46:15.980 free dude if someone said that to me i'd be like what yeah like i would say it's so aggressively it

00:46:22.500 would snap them out of it i'd be like what are you talking about yeah why are you talking about

00:46:25.980 imagine you're talking totally normal the whole night like you're super cash the whole night and then

00:46:31.380 you're like i noticed you had a good time with me make your saturday free yeah run i forgot about

00:46:39.040 the part where he says i like making people happy yeah i like making people happy horror yeah well

00:46:45.280 that made me unhappy so yeah that made me uncomfortable that made me not happy so no thank

00:46:49.780 you no thank you this one's and also the fact that he was like no guys this works this actually

00:46:55.640 works trust me trust me bro you don't know me i have no content i have no picture i have no proof but

00:47:01.180 it trust me this worked last night trust me it works i once um tweeted i forget what i was i think it

00:47:08.800 was on twitter i forgot it was but some some guy was harassing me and he was saying all this terrible

00:47:14.040 shit to me and then uh he had made a comment about me being single and i was like who's gonna tell

00:47:20.880 him you know what i mean and then he was like i was like well i know you're single that's for sure

00:47:25.500 yeah like one of us is and it's not me and he was like that's not true i'm laying next to my girlfriend

00:47:31.320 right now he's telling me this through text like like it's literally sentences on online and i'm like

00:47:38.420 oh sure i believe you yeah i said don't worry man i believe you and that's all i put and then he's

00:47:44.600 like he literally said how do i send you a picture so i can prove it and i go you don't yeah you don't

00:47:51.000 i don't want it's fine it's okay it's not true and everything's possible if you lie so yeah he's

00:47:56.660 gonna google images of like girl lying in bed sends you like a getty images what it's a shutterstock

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00:49:04.320 someone literally once sent me a picture like a blurry ass picture of the back of someone's head

00:49:10.620 laying in the corner of a bed like i there's no way to tell if that's him there's no way to tell if

00:49:15.980 it's even a woman like it there's no way to tell anything and i literally was like you think this

00:49:20.160 blurry ass photo proves anything to me no i think guys it's like they grow like as men you grow up

00:49:27.260 with this idea of like your value of a man is like how many women you can get and like even that just

00:49:32.720 shows like how to speak to women as an alpha man it's like you grow up with like my only value is how

00:49:37.280 many women i can attain yeah and if i'm with a woman and she's got to be the hottest and what's your

00:49:42.200 body count and i've always found that so toxic and weird yeah i think that's something where i'm like

00:49:46.200 i don't even know how you begin to like unlearn that it takes years and also of introspection

00:49:53.340 and therapy i think especially when you're in the trenches of it like when you're like

00:49:58.100 so wrapped up and it's not impossible it just takes a lot of work to unlearn it and i've literally had

00:50:04.300 a guy uh once stitch me and he told he like made a video about me but he was like basically admitting

00:50:11.000 like if he had found me he's like if i had found her like five years ago i would have hated her

00:50:15.380 he's like i would have hated her just as much as you hate her i would have been just as mean

00:50:19.320 about her like i would have said all this terrible shit that i didn't actually mean

00:50:22.400 because she would make me feel some type of way that makes me uncomfortable and i don't like that

00:50:27.360 feeling so my initial my reflex reaction is is violence and anger yeah and he was like but then

00:50:33.500 i started realizing a while ago like why am i so unhappy like why do i hate my life why do i hate

00:50:39.720 myself like and he's like and admitting that is the first step yeah into putting a stop to it is

00:50:44.760 like admitting why you're unhappy in the first place and it's because you're unhappy with who

00:50:48.020 you are and where you're at in life and just for whatever reason and just like being willing to

00:50:52.300 just learn yeah like being open and being open yeah and to like listening yeah like being with my

00:50:58.080 girlfriends is like just listening to like the struggles of being a woman it's like just hearing

00:51:02.600 hearing them out and taking a moment to just like listen yeah and it's also i made a video about

00:51:08.160 this later but it's like checking your peers like that's a big part of it is like when you hear

00:51:14.300 other like straight men saying horrible shit about women or like they're talking about them in such a

00:51:21.460 vulgar way they're being bigoted towards them or anyone in general that's just not doesn't adhere to

00:51:26.480 a certain standard for them like you don't say anything to them you let them run amok like that so

00:51:32.940 that's why i made a video once where i was like you guys stand and you watch you watch violence

00:51:38.980 happen and you do nothing about it but then the minute someone like me comes up and i start standing

00:51:45.040 up for other people because you won't do anything about it all of a sudden you guys got a problem

00:51:48.600 with me and how i do it and i was like at the end of the you could sit all day and rip apart how i do

00:51:54.200 it and how much you don't like it whatever that may be for you but at the end of the day you're

00:51:59.400 standing there and you're not doing anything and that makes you a coward and that's why i was like

00:52:02.960 you're a coward yeah literally it's like the same it's like i think that goes for like a lot of

00:52:07.260 you know injustices against women and men with like even the rovers weight and abortion it's like

00:52:13.160 i saw and like i'm calling out all my my man mutuals i saw a lot of people that just didn't post

00:52:21.720 anything at all it's like all this is going on and they're still going like and it's like like

00:52:28.280 you know what i mean like yeah like how tone deaf can you be that like you're like you're like oh i

00:52:34.080 can't say anything about this because i don't want to lose followers yeah and that's that's another

00:52:39.200 that's tea actually because i know for a fact there are some men that do like my messaging but will

00:52:46.620 never publicly support me because they don't want to lose because they know who follows them yeah and

00:52:51.480 i said you're a coward that makes you a coward like you and and not to say like everyone needs

00:52:56.100 to love me but like you i know you see me and i know you and you clearly and explicitly don't follow

00:53:04.360 me or engage with me at all because you don't want your followership to know that you support me or my

00:53:09.880 messaging or whatever it may be yeah so i'm like that's more telling on you than it is on me yeah and

00:53:14.800 there's a power in like uh admitting that there are faults within like like how harmful the

00:53:20.700 patriarchy is it harms men too 100 it's not just women and there's other people that don't adhere

00:53:27.060 to either binary that also are heavily affected by patriarchy that's the true tea of it all like

00:53:32.940 it's like if you help us fight this it will release you too so you don't feel like that anymore like what

00:53:39.440 that guy was talking about how he would have hated me because he hated himself he hated himself because

00:53:43.840 of the standards that have been impressed on him from the patriarchy and he's not he's not living up to

00:53:49.740 these impossible standards so he hates himself and that's not fair to him either you know what i

00:53:54.240 mean and i think that's like when you like the core of like what you do the reason why all these men

00:54:00.440 are are truly upset is because they're looking at your content and you're dismantling every single

00:54:05.440 idea that they have of what they're supposed to be yeah you dismantle it and they look at the

00:54:09.480 comments and they see thousands of comments a woman agreeing with you so it just dismantles this

00:54:14.360 entire thing that they built everything in their head and they just don't know how to react because

00:54:19.780 they've never been taught to like how to control their emotions like no i have to hate her because

00:54:24.060 i learned all this stuff but she's dismantling all these women are agreeing with it but women should

00:54:28.220 like what i'm saying but because this guy told me and it's like they just they short circuit they

00:54:33.980 short circuit and they malfunction literally that's why i think you're the opposite end of me

00:54:38.640 like we're both on the same side we're just working it from different angles and you're the

00:54:43.520 same way because you have no problem getting any sort of attention regardless of who it is you have

00:54:50.120 no problem dating you have no problem working you have no problem thriving getting followers nothing

00:54:53.960 like that you have no problem with that even though you're everything that they've been conditioned

00:54:57.920 to believe is not manly whatever the fuck that means to them so that they get angry they're like

00:55:03.460 what i just i don't get it and he lifts i don't understand how does this guy he's like this i have

00:55:11.880 to go stand on my joe rogan altar and pray about it i don't know what to do i need joe rogan now

00:55:18.100 someone get him on the line i have to ask him the way that they just like lose their mind and that's

00:55:23.400 why i'm like it's so funny because i did um pro bowl stuff last week i went to vegas and i worked

00:55:29.800 pro bowl uh with meta and i was like i was so like it was so funny because i tweeted about

00:55:36.380 well actually i made a tiktok being there and then uh someone was like oh so the nfl supports

00:55:42.900 misandry first of all i've already said this publicly but misandry is not real if it is it's

00:55:48.280 a response to misogyny so that's on you uh but when they were like oh so they support it and i literally

00:55:55.420 just wrote back i'm gonna take everything you love and i'm gonna make it mine i'm gonna put

00:56:01.160 myself in every single thing you love i love it including your girl that's you know what's

00:56:07.940 hilarious is like i had that moment too finally we're like um i can't i just i don't have the

00:56:13.640 wordplay that you do to like react like that's why i think that's a part of like why i admire you so

00:56:18.180 much and like what you you're able to like attack these men's and make it hilarious make it funny

00:56:23.880 and still get your point across but like oh my gosh some of your humor like i love how old are

00:56:28.520 you again 27 27 okay i'm 29 so like okay because you have a lot of like you have like a lot of like

00:56:33.060 millennial yeah like you'll be like oh i know sometimes people think i'm like 19 yeah i'm like

00:56:37.560 no babe i'm old yeah like one time you're like he looks like like what'd you say you said like he

00:56:42.320 looks like tommy pickle tommy pickle grew up to like to be a bigot to be a bigot or whatever and i was

00:56:46.820 like oh my that is the funniest thing i've ever heard in my entire life that was one of my most

00:56:50.820 popular videos that guy hates me he revisits me like every few months absolute gold um but yeah

00:56:59.800 there was this one time i had this one moment where this mom sent me this video um well she

00:57:04.880 didn't she made it and she was like everyone was tagging me and she was talking about how like

00:57:08.220 her her son was getting bullied to the point he painted nails he was getting bullied to the point

00:57:12.780 like he didn't want to be here anymore this little child right and then i made this video and a bunch of

00:57:18.060 guys were like making these comments and i just started getting infuriated where i was just like

00:57:21.480 i was like it's people like you that that like i can take it yeah but there's certain people that

00:57:27.040 can't take it these kids can't take it i just started getting so fed up i got to a certain point

00:57:30.500 i made a video kind of like that where i'm like like hey you don't like my nails you don't like the

00:57:35.320 way i dress you don't like this you like this let me tell you something like i'm gonna make a point

00:57:39.360 that every your dream girl yeah you don't say i'm gonna make them follow me i'm gonna make them

00:57:44.720 love me i'm gonna do it every like the same thing everything you love yeah i'm gonna i'm gonna take

00:57:50.000 over i'm gonna be i just i had enough of like this toxic masculinity it's true and you know those same

00:57:54.500 men who are bullying that child right and saying all that shit on tiktok are the same men who tell me

00:58:00.800 you don't care about male suicide rates actually babe you don't yeah you don't two of us you don't care

00:58:06.900 at all about how this is toxic masculinity that's patriarchy affecting you to the point where you

00:58:12.720 don't want to be here anymore like that's so awful and such an evil evil like thing to put in the

00:58:19.540 universe because it has it has nothing to do with you well also it's online like if you don't like it

00:58:24.960 scroll past it like it's just like you have the free will right to go so why don't you exercise it

00:58:32.040 yeah and then those same guys grow up and they teach their children that this is wrong and

00:58:36.440 the cycle just continues yeah absolutely i i think that too about my younger brother because

00:58:40.980 my brother's 18 so like my brother is still in school but like my brother sometimes he'll tell

00:58:47.460 me things that he hears that kids say at his school they're not his friends or anything like that

00:58:51.240 but i've told my family i'm like that is literally what i'm talking about when i say it starts so young

00:58:58.100 like the the way that they view women the way they they talk about them the violence that they

00:59:03.760 like subject them to it starts so much younger and i've said before it would turn your stomach

00:59:11.340 to see some of the shit i see from kids that are like 16 15 years old like the way they talk about

00:59:18.520 women or anyone that doesn't adhere to a very very white eurocentric standard it's insane and i'm like

00:59:27.120 that's exactly why i will never stop because you guys will never stop it's just like it's a never

00:59:33.520 ending until you guys make the conscious choice to start checking each other like all of those

00:59:38.160 terrible men then i'm gonna i'm always gonna have a job likewise i'm never gonna stop until and i had

00:59:44.560 an amazing conversation with jesse jesse sullivan the other day like kind of on that same we love

00:59:48.620 jesse on the comment section we love jesse and arlo and francesca we love them yes um but we had this

00:59:53.060 amazing conversation about that exactly of like um of what it is like i think what it is to be

01:00:00.680 quote-unquote a real man just being a good person is the ideology of getting to a point where the world

01:00:07.340 where like gender sexuality all these things aren't so taboo yeah literally it's about making the people

01:00:15.440 around you your community feel safe yeah and protected to be and express themselves however they

01:00:21.500 want to i was like i would love to get to i would love to get to a point i know i failed as a father

01:00:27.480 or whoever if my kid feels the need to like come out to me yeah you know what i mean like i want to i

01:00:33.120 want a household where like jesse's so amazing he is such an amazing parent and i'm like i think that

01:00:39.040 should be like the standard of like yeah if my kid feels need to come out to me it's like i did

01:00:42.820 something wrong here that's a word bitch you know what i mean i feel like i would i would have more

01:00:47.820 problem if my kid you know didn't like you know what it's like i don't know like anime or something

01:00:54.580 yeah if he didn't like anime like if he wasn't into like naruto i'd be like okay this is an issue

01:00:58.160 that we have to talk about you're like what like oh what they could be like but dad i'm i'm queer

01:01:03.680 like i don't care you're all that i don't care about this we have to talk about you don't want to

01:01:09.200 watch the oc what family meeting family meeting you support dan being gossip girl

01:01:17.700 you're like oh oh my god but no seriously like i honestly feel like like you want like as a human

01:01:29.180 being like getting to that point where the next generation can feel comfortable to just

01:01:33.220 unapologetically be themselves be themselves and express themselves i think that's

01:01:38.420 the goal and that's why our roles are so important yeah what we do with our platforms is so important

01:01:44.460 yeah absolutely it's all about how you wield it you know what i mean the power of it it's like it

01:01:48.880 doesn't neither of us i feel like take it lightly yeah and it's and like you said i've had that

01:01:53.680 realization too it's like so much bigger than just like sillies it's so much bigger than just like

01:01:59.640 videos on an app like it's so much bigger than that which is like the greatest honor of having

01:02:06.040 a platform is like realizing that and then understanding that you could do so much good

01:02:09.940 with it so much good so i'm so happy to have had you on the show to be able to talk about it you're

01:02:14.940 amazing before we go how what is it that you want people to know um when it comes to like what it

01:02:21.600 means to like truly be like a man okay i think this is going to sound cliche but it's like the

01:02:31.740 golden rule that you learn in school treat others how you want to be treated and that should always

01:02:38.140 be with love with care um with kindness and you know lead with love yeah i think i think that's just

01:02:47.080 the key to being a good person and and building a better world as cliche and corny as it may seem

01:02:52.300 but it's okay to be yourself yeah you know lead with love if you're a kid you're watching this or

01:02:57.780 you watch your kids this it's fine to express yourself be who you are me and drew will always

01:03:02.900 have your back period i was gonna say he'll lead with love and i'll lead with violence exactly

01:03:08.460 when my method doesn't work that's where drew there you go that's why i said it works we're

01:03:13.080 working two ends you know what i mean we're burning the candle on both ends exactly but but

01:03:17.920 yeah i think it just you know be a good person lead with love make sure everyone around you is

01:03:21.720 comfortable and and safe love that love it so much thank you so much for coming on this episode

01:03:27.140 where can everybody find you uh all platforms uh don't call dom is my user handle um also you know

01:03:35.440 i'm probably on your netflix home page by now yeah tell them what it is you know check out

01:03:40.900 perfect match on netflix and you can you know see watch dom watch dom watch i know the ending

01:03:48.960 he spoiled it for me uh yeah um watch me date some people period i love that see proof proof he expresses

01:03:58.220 himself how he is he literally got hired to go date hot people what other evidence do you need

01:04:03.860 once again call me a scientist bitch you know what i mean thank you so much to dom for joining

01:04:10.680 me on this episode you're such a light i adore you thank you for having me so much of course this

01:04:15.420 doesn't feel real this is amazing platform i love everything that you do everything about you i can't

01:04:19.880 give you enough praise if i could i would i don't know i don't even have the words to express it

01:04:26.140 but drew's amazing you're the absolute thank you i adore you make sure you check out perfect match

01:04:30.860 on netflix where dom is i the star to me because i know him personally so he's the star to me

01:04:37.000 although i do love francesca right yeah we love francesca but we love me more yeah make sure you

01:04:41.980 guys check out his show make sure you follow him on everything and thank you so much for joining me

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