GYM BROS HAVE WORMS IN THEIR BRAINS ｜ Drew Afualo ft. Naomi Hearts ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 42
Summary
In this episode of the Comment Section Show starring me, your favorite, the one and only Naomi Hartz, I sit down with my very special guest to talk about all things love, hate, and what it means to be a trans woman in the 21st century.
Transcript
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you know i i like really hate this bitch too like i really hate her um but she's not ugly i feel
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like we should stop saying that because that's not true real recognized real yeah you know what
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i mean there's nothing realer than a dude being like i really hate that bitch but she's not ugly
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100 fair fair at least you're honest a win is a win i'll take it
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exactly hey everyone and welcome back to another episode of the comment section show starring me
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your favorite everybody knows me who cares about me today is a very special episode because it comes
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with my very special guest the one and only naomi hartz hold for applause hi how are you i'm so
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happy to have you i'm so happy to be here naomi and i go way back we really do 10 days
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not even we for some reason we've always ran into each other at events we're always at the same
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events always and sometimes it's really awkward and it's just the two of us in there what are the
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two of us always yes the first time we met was at a glossier event yes we did and it was it was so
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awkward and quiet it was just us two there yeah and it was a good time i met mom yeah i met drew
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and they were it was like someone introducing us like oh like here i mean yeah and it was almost
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like um like a meet cute like in a rom-com you know yeah the moment when they lock eyes that was
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the two of us like that and then we met each other every corner i turned you were there at vidcon
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she was fully following she was literally following me i literally said that i was like naomi's been
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following me this entire time i was trying to get on the podcast and it worked not you gaslighting
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me i could i was like every chance that i got i would just i saw drew oh hey no it was just so
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random it was disneyland it was the hotel it was at the spotify lounge literally everywhere every
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corner every corner every corner i turned i was like if this is not the mr beast event this is the
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naomi hearts event yeah i was there as i see everywhere and i didn't see mr beast once did
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you no no i think it's funny because you and i have been online friends for so long uh-huh it feels
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like 10 years that we've been friends it's been a year so this is our anniversary not today but
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november literally just this year like a year barely that's crazy it feels forever time is such a
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construct what have you been up to lately working twerking um fuponzing no honestly not much i've
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just been kind of like riding this wave we just both got named um on the discover list yes tiktokers
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to watch globally global creators so that was exciting that's been the biggest thing so far i love that
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yeah i think that's really and you even mentioned too there's only five american american creators on
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there and the two of us were part of those five and that's like uh you're also someone too who i
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think um is very familiar with hate because i get i hate all the time i don't know and i never heard
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of them never heard of them i think it's also um we have kind of like two opposite ends of the spectrum
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hate right i think a lot of times and i think that your content is so i think inspiring to a lot of
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people for obvious reasons but kind of like how my content is too like you're in a loving relationship
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you're married yes t bitch period zoom in catch them catch them yeah and uh i'm in a long-term
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relationship too how long five years seven so look at that yeah but i also i think that speaks volumes
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to especially haters because they like to say girls like us are never gonna get married babe
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they love to say they love to say that about us it's it's strange honestly because it really is
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two ends of a different spectrum like yeah they always want to say that fat people are never gonna
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find love and it's like babe i'm in love i'm living i've been in love yeah and even if it's not my
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husband i have a loving family yeah i have loving friends i have loving followers like and people hate
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to see that they really do they do and they hate to see like men like the two people that we're with
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for example loving us unconditionally yeah and without shame and that really grinds their gears
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the teeth they get so mad they do they get so hatery really really quick it's it's honestly i'm like that
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sounds like single bitch problems yeah and i mean it's okay it's like for me being like a trans person
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being a plus size person being able to find someone who loved me for me was on its own something that i
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never thought would happen yeah but i also think that there's a lot of people that never thought it
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would happen yeah and so for it to be there and be so public yeah i feel like it just like you said
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it grinds their gears and it's i think it's also speaks to how like they're so convinced that you have
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to be a certain way look a certain way right act a certain way in order to garner the attention of a
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romantic partner when you're wrong babe you're wrong like you're literally wrong and also uh
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because for me personally like they always like are like this is the ugliest bitch i've ever seen
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in the entire world i'm like in the whole wide world in the whole wide world i was i always think
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like do you live with only bella hadid there's literally no way you've only seen her every corner
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you turn you only see bella hadid there's no way bitch there's no way right that i'm the ugliest
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person you've ever seen in the entire whole wide world you're not ugly i mean i know that yeah
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you're not no but honestly it's hard it's like it's a lot of projection it's a lot of self-hate
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and i've learned that through content it's like when i'm creating and i'm posting and i read a comment
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i'm like is this really how they feel or is it projection truly it's projection 100 times out of
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it is it absolutely is and it's like um it's almost like the intense the most intense form
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of brainwashing because they've been brainwashed to believe that like if you look like a certain way
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no one's supposed to love you right or care for you right and then when this person that they think
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fits in this like box is being loved and being loved unconditionally they're like wait a second
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i hate myself how come you don't hate yourself yeah and it's sounds like a personal problem i just
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why live your life hating yourself when you can just love yourself like it just doesn't make sense
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yeah and also like not focused on it i think you're someone who's really good who's like well
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i mean babe that's a you thing that's a you problem babe i'm like you know the amount of times someone
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has told me to eat a salad and i'm like babe i'm gonna eat a burger like i just don't it's not for
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me it's like the amount of times i've said oh you're gonna die tomorrow i'm like i'm still here
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it's just i'm over it check back in with me in 24 hours yeah we'll see we'll see so how did you
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get into making content so it's an interesting story because truthfully i started making content
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to get my foot in the door and i always say it's like being plus size being trans being latina like
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i know some of the privileges i hold with being passable being light-skinned being on the thinner
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side of the plus size spectrum but at the end of the day like i also knew that in a world full of
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people that are thin and white the odds were against me and so it really was to get my foot
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in the door of entertainment once i made content and i saw people really react to it in a way that
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was like you love yourself i can love myself too it shifted from getting my foot in the door to just
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helping one person love themselves a little bit more yeah and that's really why i do it yeah i love that
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i think that's that's something you your art platforms have very similar like uh threads to
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because for me i i think we both knew this like neither of us really expected any of this to come
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out of no making videos on tiktok obviously but we both i mean like same thing with me like i really
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want to move into more more like traditional forms of media which i think we're both doing anyways
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but like you know this platform has become something completely different it's almost
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like it's bigger than us at this point like right it's not just about us and like our own personal
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career goals it's like about all of the people that we inspire and like empower because i'm sure you get
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messages all the time i get messages all the time too about like people saying they draw strength or
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courage from my videos and they like teach themselves how to like how much they deserve and how much they
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like should love themselves and should give them themselves the permission to love themselves and
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i think that's a big thread in your con content as well yeah and that that really is what like
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motivates me to do it because it's like it's hard it like it's i always tell people it's a journey
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like i did not get to this place of i don't give up you know overnight yeah it took years of like
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learning to embrace who i am as a person yeah um to really get to this point and now that i'm here
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i'm like i'm not going back i'm not going back too far gone now but she's dead so speaking up we're
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going to talk about um our topic for today which is living your truth right okay and how hot women
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two hot women currently in front of you right thank you are amazing we're erasing who we are and how
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um some like terrible men they really really hate that so i have kind of talked about this in other
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episodes as well but like how when you're so far removed from the male gaze they almost get more
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offended than when you're like feeding into it because they're like i can't believe that you
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don't want me to hook up with you i can't believe you don't want me to be attracted to you even though
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i'm not attracted to you and i'll tell you how much i'm not right they like and so when they tell
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you like i think you're ugly and then you go i think you're ugly too they're like okay that was rude
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why would you say that to me why would you say that i i've gotten that countless times like
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literally on the way here to film this episode today today yeah i got it i got a tweet like a
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hate tweet i was talking to someone completely different um the men always insert themselves
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as they always do and they were calling me like fat and ugly and this one guy like literally put a
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picture of like um i think what's his name ed the hyena from lion king he's the one that laughs
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crazy the laugh i'll concede on that like sure similar like cackles whatever um but he was
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literally like no the eyes are just farther apart but like wrote me a colorful description of like just
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me being ugly a fan yeah and then he has a picture of himself on his profile okay and i took a picture
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of it and i retweeted like i quote tweeted it and i said there's no way you want to talk about looks
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there's no way bitch there's no way be so for real there's no way right there's literally no way
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his hairline starts at the back of his neck and he wants to talk to me about looks bitch come on
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bitch come on okay come on lie to your mom don't lie to me yeah i just think like when you tell me
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that i'm ugly like you're lying to god you know what i mean yeah you're gonna go to hell yeah like i
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mean god doesn't like liars i feel like that's applicable on this this in this world in this
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particular situation i mean i don't know that's on you you're taking that to your grave that's on
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you 100 that's the same thing with you i'm sure when people tell you things you're like i just i
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don't take it personally it's like i always tell my followers don't send hate to a person because
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i'm like for me it's like hate and hate don't win but it's like sometimes it's just it's so hard
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because it's like it's always the same people it's always a gym bro it's always like and i'm like
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they are the ones that fetishize fat people the most that's so funny because i just talked to tess
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holiday about that and she said that too she said like all her dating apps it's nothing but gym bros
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it's wild yeah the way that they they do they fetishize the absolute shit out of out of fat
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women in general or just fat femme people in general it's like that call's coming from inside the house
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i'm like this ham is closed babe you gotta you gotta keep it pushing close for business you gotta
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find somebody else it's true though right uh you know what's funny is i had someone um on twitter
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it was a while ago it was like months ago but someone was saying like you know whenever a new
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white guy finds me they're like this is where they like kick up dirt and then it's like we're all
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it's like groundhog's day i'm reliving the same day over and over again and uh this discourse starts
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and then someone on twitter was like you know i i like really hate this bitch too like i really
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hate her um but she's not ugly i feel like we should stop saying that because that's not true
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real recognize real yeah you know i mean there's nothing realer than a dude being like i really
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hate that bitch but she's not ugly 100 fair fair at least you're honest a win is a win i'll take it
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exactly honesty is the key to success listen i think we'd all be happier if we freed ourselves
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from these lies yes you know what i mean so for this episode today we always what we like to do
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here on the comment section is we bring uh videos that i was tagged in that are applicable to our topic
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today and then we're gonna talk about them break them down kiki all that stuff okay so this first video
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is uh this girl is filming a video of herself at the gym with the caption
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me gaining 30 pounds of muscle and then reveals that uh she has stretch marks that have appeared
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on her thighs and how she's like loving them because she's like getting feeling strong getting
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strong all that stuff right um shocker some men weren't too fond drum roll please i know can are we
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like so so surprised like this first one this first comment says not 30 pounds of muscle but okay
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okay what's crazy is um bodybuilders like male bodybuilders too um they also have stretch marks
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when their skin stretches it doesn't always mean fat it means like your body is stretching a different
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way yeah yeah and you would know that if you worked out at all or like loved yourself i don't work
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out but i know that it's science but it's also like uh if you loved yourself you would probably also
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know that or not feel the need to comment it on a stretch i think it's like um it's this gross
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misconception because i talked about this with test too that they never seem to care about the opposite
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end of the spectrum when it comes to like caring about your health they never care about bodybuilders
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or or people who develop eating disorders because they're so entrenched in the fitness industry right
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don't care at all about that right they only care about what they deem is unattractive 100 and it's
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odd because i've talked about this too before it's like you only hate me because i'm fat you don't
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care that i'm fat if you yeah or like my health i should say yeah you obviously care that i'm fat but
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you don't care about my health you just hate the fact that i'm fat but it's like if i was out here like
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let's just put this like hypothetical hypothetical like having unprotected whatever yeah right that's
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also a danger to my health but people don't care about that and people are doing that every day
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yeah that's tea honestly and it's like and it's the same thing with like smoking yeah drinking i was
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gonna say that you know it's like stuff that you can't really see and it's just they don't really
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care about the health it's just about shaming people that are fat because it's better to ostracize a
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group of people than to accept them yeah and also they have been convinced that that's something you
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should hate about yourself right and especially when fat people do not hate themselves that makes them
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even more mad like even more enraged or inclined to comment something terrible 100 because they're
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like i literally have been taught my whole life to hate myself if i if i'm fat so you're fat and you
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don't hate yourself i hate you like that's weird you're a weirdo and also a lot of these kids too
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like they're i always call them kids because they're so young a lot of times the dude who write this
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shit some of them aren't some of them are my age or older but like they'll they like smoke the hell out
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of those little jewels the vape pen the vape pens like those are so bad for your health like
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unbelievably terrible like have you seen people trying to wean themselves off those because it's
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like smoking a pack a day out of like a two couple puffs i didn't know that it's true they're so terrible
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for you but like that's health related like you said it is and they'll they'll brag about buying a
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bunch of them or being addicted to them because it's literally a nicotine addiction yes and then
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they're like but fat i just care about your health me personally i just care about your health
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i'm like i just and i'm like you're not a doctor though so yeah you're not her personal physician
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so maybe you should mind some of that i also think too that they didn't care when like the
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the industry standard was like rail thin you know how they they made up that term heroin chic
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right they didn't care about that 100 and that was not healthy at all like literally not healthy
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at all i think too that um i talked about this once with one of my fans but uh in like the
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comments in one of my videos when i was like dragging a gym bro which i love to do it's like
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you want to talk about my hobbies that's one of them your biggest one upsetting them but um it was
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literally she was talking about how men like that literally have no idea what weight displacement looks
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like so like they'll say like i don't want a girl who's 215 pounds but they have no idea what 215 looks
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like at all like at all especially on women of color like if you don't even factor in race like
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once you start factoring in race like build all that stuff because like bmi is racist so right it's
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like nobody holds weight the same everyone's body is different yeah so like they have no idea what
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that looks like like i literally had a dude be like you you're literally like 300 pounds more
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you think i'm 300 something pounds like he said like 380 also i want you to look me in the eyes
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and tell me that you genuinely believe i'm 380 pounds and he was like oh well no i guess not but
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like you look close to it i'm all you're an idiot like you're literally you're a moron i feel like
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i don't it's just to get like a rise out of people i'm like it's just so dumb to like assume people's
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weight and it's like for me like realistically like i'm 350 we're not the same no like this
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but also it's no one's business at all like at all it means but it means nothing nothing at all
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to anyone literally that's why i was like the fact that um we talk about we people have talked about
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body positivity and stuff right i always talk about i think it's great to love your body but i'm i'm for
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me personally i love to strive towards body neutrality i just don't want to think about it
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keep me healthy and that's and the health is determined by me and my physician alone right it's
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not determined aesthetically because what you look like has nothing to do with your internal health
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you could be in the best shape ever and literally inside be like internally very unhealthy 100% well
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look at like that's why i said bodybuilders they're like peak physique but on the inside they're very
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unhealthy because they're not eating right or anything like they're like starving themselves a lot of times
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so when i think about situations like that when you want to talk about your relationship with your
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body i feel like it's so personal it's like so specific to the person so when you say like i just
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really don't care it doesn't upset me if you call me fat like i tell people that all the time
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calling me fat does not hurt my feelings because it's not an insult at all literally it's just a
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word we've they've given it this power to try and hurt us but it doesn't affect me literally at all
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try harder yeah that's i was like okay when they say you're fat okay um what if you just were like
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all right well thank you is that it i love it anything else
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try i like always try harder the insults are just like yeah the meanest insults i get youtube
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really yeah i feel that it's a lot of children yeah it's a lot of children but i get that because
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um on my shorts like when someone makes a youtube video about me i always know because like there's
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a bunch of terrible people looking for me on youtube and they write the most asinine comments
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some of them don't even make sense they're like the most broken sentences and insults like it's
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good they're trying to i always say like they picked like the biggest fattest animal they can
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think of right elephant whale hippo what else who who even knows mine's a buffalo they call me buffalo
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all the time okay but that's a racist um like microaggression against my last name because one white
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dude said it so then they're all like they're jumping so funny so dumb i once uh recently i had
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i saw this um girl who was kind of beefing with this dude and he's like he's one of those like
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men's rights right like activist type dudes which like uh newsflash you have rights you got plenty of
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them like so many peak yes you have so many rights you have so many um but she was kind of
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beefing with him and um his whole thing was like he didn't like her content or mine by proxy i don't
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know they always bring me up they always bring me in in white folks business they always be bringing
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me up right and uh he was like because i feel like it's your responsibility as people with platforms
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to be nice to men who are openly bigoted towards me or other women or anyone else like if they attack
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me if they're racist fat phobic like just say the most vile shit to me it's my responsibility
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as a woman yeah to be nice to them as a woman of color and to shield their identities because i'm
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all otherwise i'm encouraging cyberbullying and he's like and i don't think cyberbullying is good
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and sometimes i genuinely think these men think i forget their faces or like who they are or what
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they've done in the past oh you remember yeah i remember everything but i'm a virgo so it's like
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you know what i mean i got a little like philofax up here and i just like be going through it all the
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time okay i have a photographic memory so i remember faces very easily i may not remember names but i
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always remember a face and where i saw it and what month i remember it and all that shit so like i
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commented on her video where she was arguing back with him and her video was really good but um i wrote on
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her video i'm like i think i'm begging you guys to go look for the video he made about me
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unprovoked months ago go look for the video he made about me and you tell me if he's against
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cyberbullying go ahead and go through those comments man you tell me i just think like if you're gonna
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be a hypocrite like for what you if you are for cyberbullying you're cyberbullying somebody else like
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how are you gonna tell someone how to cyberbully because the tables have turned you know
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that's like girl what i was like when i when i like i'm like you guys said this terrible shit
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about me they're like well you said that you're okay with making fun of looks i go i am you guys
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aren't that's the difference you want to body shame me that's fine but i'm gonna do it back and you can't
00:24:09.940
cry that's my only rule yeah if you're gonna do it then i i get to do it too right only rules you
00:24:16.200
know what i mean rules are rules they really don't like when you turn it back on them i think it's
00:24:20.780
because sometimes they just can't think as quickly some people are just very like fast on their feet
00:24:26.800
with the with the wit and you're one of them yeah i'll probably be stuck you know but i yeah they
00:24:34.600
probably get upset because they cannot come back as quick it's just harder it's like the thing you
00:24:38.920
said about um the salad jokes like i get those too anything else you know what i mean anything else
00:24:47.160
anything hit the gym oh the list is i've never thought about that before i've never even heard
00:24:54.260
that like i've never heard that i never thought of it i i would never this next comment says not
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a good idea your muscle will be fat in 10 years stay skinny and it goes into you want us to work
00:25:08.660
out but then like are judging how we look or what's gonna happen but not too muscly don't get too big
00:25:15.000
you bitch stay small stay small also it's giving me pedophile it's weird it's yeah it's like when did
00:25:25.980
we get to a point which obviously has always been here but we're like men get to dictate what we look
00:25:32.900
like yeah man it's crazy if you really think about like just capitalism as a whole and how they would
00:25:39.700
market things to men and women right it was almost always determining what was good on women like what
00:25:46.500
looks nice on women like what is just the most like this looks good all of you need to look like this
00:25:51.860
right and it's always like whenever i get into like i actually try to take the time to like explain my
00:25:59.760
why i believe the things i do the reason why i never do that is because the people who hate me
00:26:05.280
on that app aren't like literally not smart enough to have that conversation with me like genuinely
00:26:09.620
you're not smart enough but i was saying a lot of you don't want to unpack like how white supremacy
00:26:13.460
is so deeply embedded in a lot of the things that you're attracted to just like pedophilia is really
00:26:20.120
big and a lot of the things you're attracted to being hairless being small being shorter than you
00:26:24.400
like all of these things like being petite and being fragile and being like a little tiny
00:26:29.620
little statue yeah a lot of that is rooted in pedophilia people have hair and it's crazy
00:26:35.580
that you care like it it's also crazy that you care about hair on somebody who's not attracted to
00:26:41.260
you you know what i mean like in this like at all like literally at all like do you remember when
00:26:47.920
doja cat shaved her head and men were like why would she do this like she was a do you think doja
00:26:55.020
cat's looking at your comment being like what it's for her he thinks i'm ugly oh my god what i'm like
00:27:01.800
do you think that bitch cares about you you don't even have the juice to like talk to her like in a
00:27:07.860
normal platonic like if she just so happened to walk into the dollar tree store and you were there
00:27:13.160
and you got to serve her like you don't even have the juice to do that let alone hook up with her
00:27:18.680
they're like oh she was she was hot but not anymore maybe that was her goal maybe her goal
00:27:25.120
was to ward all of you nasties off i don't know to appease herself no literally
00:27:29.300
literally i did an episode with um do you know pokemon yes yeah so i did an episode with pokey
00:27:37.840
and she's the sweetest person in the world but she has a lot of creepos that love her like creepos
00:27:44.000
creepos because she's like such a ledge in the twitch streaming industry and so she was telling
00:27:49.660
me like when she started like posting about being with me the amount of dudes that were like why would
00:27:55.840
you do this pokey why would you do this fun fact side fact yeah on this i actually we made a video
00:28:02.500
yeah yeah we did and i got a comment from a cis white woman oof i used to love you but now that
00:28:10.160
you recorded with you and i was like block like it's just kind of like you know at the end of the
00:28:17.320
day like read the room no you know like it's so weird and i'm like for what well and then i think
00:28:24.560
like i have always said besides the fact that i'm gonna hurt your feelings which i've promised
00:28:30.500
to terrible men i was like that's not a threat that's a promise i'm gonna hurt your feelings
00:28:34.940
if you keep being terrible i'm gonna keep doing it right the other thing i've always said
00:28:38.840
is that the women that you love love me i've said that consistently you're one of them i was like
00:28:48.220
i'm literally friends with and they adore me and i was like if you only knew the like women that
00:28:55.640
follow me and dm me and tell me how much they want to hang out with me not me it would blow your
00:29:01.620
mind me she doesn't need to she's following me around vidcon so she doesn't need to she doesn't
00:29:07.440
need to do that but i was i it's the same thing with uh koki like i'm like turns out she's a
00:29:14.800
feminist can you believe it can you believe that it's because that's crazy i feel like in media
00:29:21.720
in general it's so male dominated yeah and by it's like cis male domination yeah when it comes to like
00:29:30.160
media and it's just so hard to break those molds yeah and like you and her are two people who have
00:29:36.860
done it in two different industries and it's just like they hate to see it they really do and i was
00:29:43.500
like i've been telling y'all i've been telling y'all forever that the people the women that you're most
00:29:50.620
attracted to they love me i guess you're marrying both of us if you think you're gonna marry her
00:29:55.460
you're gonna marry me too i'll be at dinner okay and this last comment on here says it would take you
00:30:01.200
at least six years to gain 30 pounds of muscle this guy has a profile picture where he's shooting
00:30:06.540
a gun so it's a bad start you know what i mean off top it's a big red flag i would say what's your
00:30:12.440
biggest red flag about men in general like it can be something really obvious or something really
00:30:17.880
really small especially when you're looking at a profile it's just like a picture yeah like yeah
00:30:22.860
like profile as a whole like let's say you're looking at an instagram account that's tough yeah
00:30:28.060
there's a lot i feel like gym a lot of gym pics it's like my biggest one like yeah i'll like them
00:30:35.980
i'll show some love you know who doesn't yeah but it's kind of like it's like if your whole personality
00:30:42.880
is just the gym is the gym yeah it's like i i can't do it you know like yeah half of my personality
00:30:49.480
is about being fat but my other half is like you know i'm a cool girl it's just kind of like
00:30:54.120
it's a lot like just seeing them always at the gym i'm just like i just don't know how you have
00:31:00.100
the time and the strength to be there yeah 24 7 i feel that it's boring and let's say 24 and then
00:31:07.460
the other seven you're commenting hate yeah yeah the other seven you're commenting it's like
00:31:11.720
like the other half of like that seven it's split up between commenting hate and meal prepping
00:31:17.400
and that's it that's all they got time for i tried meal prepping did you it's a nightmare
00:31:25.840
it sucks i've meal prepped many times it's so hard uh-huh uh and then eating the same thing
00:31:32.960
every day and then no one talks about how fast you have to eat it otherwise it goes
00:31:35.700
rotten it literally rots like you've you've turned your fridge off oh they'll eat it
00:31:41.400
they will eat it maybe that's why maybe they have worms in their brain bitch like literally
00:31:46.640
salmonella like maybe it's in there just rotting the pieces away oh no who knows maybe that's why
00:31:52.480
they're so terrible they're being taken over by worms they're rotting inside like actually literally
00:31:58.380
yeah i think yeah i was gonna say i for uh red flags this is one like i don't know what it is
00:32:06.160
about this but it's like when dudes like take group pictures with their buddies and then they
00:32:11.980
say some shit like uh about last night and then they have like a devil emoji you know what i mean
00:32:18.340
or they say like like it's always when they're in vegas like i'm picturing like vegas you need to
00:32:23.440
see a group of dudes and you're like that just looks like the worst kind of group to be around
00:32:27.660
yeah you know what i mean like once they get kicked out because they're harassing the bartender
00:32:31.900
you know what i mean but they like post they put like a picture of them all like they're all five
00:32:37.520
feet yeah always the average height is like five six like that's an average like taking all of them
00:32:44.700
dividing by six you know what i mean the limit does not exist it's like when they take pictures and
00:32:51.860
they're like with the boys or it's like it's like the dice emoji or that joker emoji
00:32:57.160
just if i see pics like that and there's a lot of them if i see with the boys with the heart okay
00:33:03.780
i'll eat it up okay that the devil emoji you see the devil about last night you know what i mean like
00:33:10.300
they're like they were fully playing pokemon in the basement yeah they're like sin city you know
00:33:14.260
what i mean like oh the cringe i feel it just makes me like oh it makes me like tense up you know what i
00:33:21.060
mean that tense before you take a shit that's literally how it feels when i read stuff like that
00:33:26.960
yeah it's a huge red flag to me red flag i think it's like um and if they don't have pictures with
00:33:32.120
their mom yeah or or any pictures that aren't like just them by themselves like you know like
00:33:38.620
posting pictures of you like living life like with your family or your dog or like in nature or like
00:33:44.220
i don't know just something else besides this like black shades in front of their car
00:33:54.340
let's go on a ride yeah they have like a song by like 21 savage like linked in their instagram story
00:34:02.620
jesus you know they're like the dudes that um uh post a lot of stories and then they like look
00:34:09.660
look at who's looking at their stories that guy worst the worst kind of guy
00:34:15.700
i was like can we even drink on here yeah absolutely absolutely you can okay let's move
00:34:22.460
on to this next video so this next one says um it's basically a woman she's filming herself in
00:34:27.620
the mirror taking off her makeup after work and she reveals that she has acne and some redness on her
00:34:33.520
face and it's an acne positive video so she's basically talking about how she loves her skin
00:34:37.880
with or without makeup love that and uh the first comment on here is like literally if i closed my eyes
00:34:44.900
and like i listened to the video i would have known that this was the top comment or one of them
00:34:48.400
which is uh that's why i have trust issues i just like think like you're you're stupid if you thought
00:34:55.680
that that was her real face right like do you think that i like grew black liner on my face
00:35:02.760
like where do you think that came from like use your brain you know i'm wearing no makeup right now
00:35:07.620
so i don't know same i literally like open my eyes because i sleep like this like a vampire you know
00:35:12.820
what i mean like hanging by my ankles i like open my eyes and then i just came here i just flew here
00:35:17.860
i'm like so good this is like i you know i feel like the whole trust issues thing is you know i'm
00:35:25.140
gonna take her swimming on the first date yeah it's like tired it's over it's like we live in a world
00:35:30.560
where acne is normal yeah and it's like and so is makeup yeah very normal i think it's because
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they're dumb that's what i mean like they just don't how do you not know that we don't wake up
00:35:44.900
like that that's what i'm saying like but you know why because they've never woken up next to a woman
00:35:49.800
like you know what i'm saying like they've never had the experience of waking up next to someone that
00:35:54.660
they hooked up with and had a good time consensually together right they've never experienced that so
00:36:00.000
of course i guess that's on me for assuming that she would have had that life experience by now i guess
00:36:04.400
that's on me yeah but i think like it's uh that's why i said you're just you're stupid but at the
00:36:10.860
same time like science has evolved with makeup so far that like i could jump into the pool like this
00:36:17.080
and i'll come out and the hair will look different but the beat will stay i cannot really will not
00:36:21.340
move but it's because i didn't do it that's why yeah my hair and makeup artist did it my lash
00:36:26.700
will be down here but i yeah she's not wrong like i've seen like um girls in the past
00:36:34.260
social media talk about how like they they love lashes like they wear lashes all the time every
00:36:39.200
time and that was me when i first discovered strip lashes i was like this is my whole life now i cannot
00:36:44.220
be seen without these okay because i just love a big thick fluffy fake lash but i also have seen like
00:36:50.520
how they they'll keep them on when they're hooking up with dudes when they sleep which is really bad
00:36:55.320
don't do that you'll get eye infections trust me i know but like if you just sleep with the lashes on
00:36:59.860
or take them off and reapply them before he wakes up so that he just constantly thinks that you have
00:37:04.740
those can we talk about the eye infection i've actually gotten eye infections with the lashes
00:37:10.740
no not because of my lashes i just have a really bad habit of getting shit in my eye
00:37:16.800
that was me being vulnerable with you i hope you were holding space for me i am right here
00:37:24.660
i i just i've never had an eye infection really no oh bitch i've had three this year
00:37:35.380
really swear to god girl if i know honestly when i went to coachella okay you know the
00:37:42.100
did you go to coachella this year i didn't get invited y'all oh i'm sorry this is awkward
00:37:46.740
i just listened to you have you been to coachella ever you have you been to palm springs okay yes
00:37:55.380
i've been to palm springs okay yeah but you know how it gets really windy and it's dusty so that's
00:37:59.620
how it is at coachella but this year it was so windy i like i've only been other than this past year
00:38:06.040
i've only been once okay so like uh when i went the last time it was just hot this time it was freezing
00:38:12.360
cold and it was fucking windy and it was horrible and the way that shit will blow in my eye and get
00:38:17.920
stuck in there and then i go blind for like a like 10 minutes and then i'm like oh my god i thought my
00:38:23.000
life was over and then turns out it scratched my eye oh jesus and then my eye doctor was like bitch
00:38:28.720
what happened to you i do have glasses but like if you wear glasses with with a b it like creases it
00:38:36.660
and all that you know what i'm saying they said put setting powder in the nose i've tried that and
00:38:41.760
it doesn't work and i don't know if maybe my glasses are just hella heavy because my prescription is
00:38:45.960
really bad i'm my astigmatism is really bad okay i've one in each eye it's really bad i have like
00:38:53.260
i'm trying to figure out what astigmatism i don't graduate high school yeah i'm like i have a lazy eye
00:38:59.220
me too okay actually every people always comment on my lazy eye which is funny because everybody has
00:39:06.000
a lazy eye and if you turn your your camera and like look at yourself you'll see that you also have
00:39:11.620
a lazy eye it's just some of them are more pronounced than others so like but also it depends on the size
00:39:16.940
of your eyes like my eyes are huge like i have big giant eyes like saucers for eyes so gorgeous thanks
00:39:23.560
oh my god but they're like it's much more obvious that my eye is lazy so i got a lot more real estate
00:39:30.340
than the average eye person a high person person who has eyes i can't believe you've never had an
00:39:37.540
eye infection i'm jealous never i've had um other infections other infections is that what you said
00:39:44.380
i thought you said oven other infections oh i feel that i feel that i don't but i was i had eye
00:39:51.780
infection so common that my eye doctor was literally like i feel like you need to put
00:39:54.780
something on your face to like shield yeah my eyes because they're so fragile i'm just so dainty
00:40:00.580
that's literally why okay so let's get to the comments on this video um the other comments
00:40:07.740
so this next one says so you think using makeup is going to make your skin better lol it's going to
00:40:12.680
make it he's well he said it's going to make it worse or what do you accept i think he meant to
00:40:19.900
say expect but he literally put except like me except not with that like he spelled it wrong
00:40:27.300
grammar for 300 it's like yeah exactly you think your makeup is gonna make your skin better it's not
00:40:35.620
um i like how they turn into dermatologists all of a sudden i'm like girl you girl you think that's
00:40:43.600
gonna get better it's not i it's like you haven't heard of skincare no truly it's like you know
00:40:50.700
makeup like you said has evolved and some makeup is not as heavy they're chemicals like it's changing
00:40:57.980
every day yeah and then on top of that that's why we have skincare we wash our face we prep it day and
00:41:02.440
night and it's like and unfortunately yeah and unfortunately with acne it's like sometimes it's
00:41:08.080
genetic yeah literally and it's also can be hormonal especially in women yeah if you think
00:41:14.660
it's gonna make your skin better that's why i said you guys would have no idea because you do not have
00:41:18.040
a face routine and it's obvious because the way shoulders and that's nine and one yeah and that's
00:41:24.680
like to wash their body too not the crack though have you ever seen never because that's gay they can't
00:41:31.820
do that they can't do that that's not for them they're attracted to women the way they associate
00:41:36.820
cleanliness with like an entire sexuality is just insane that's wild but i think like have you ever
00:41:44.700
seen like i've seen before like when i've showered at my friends houses like first of all if when i was
00:41:51.420
in college if i ever went to a house that had only men living there i would never use the restroom
00:41:55.820
no you're gonna because i know exactly what it looks like yeah the way i'll get pink eye just by
00:42:00.540
looking at it and you already get them and i get it hey bitch listen i'll get it i'll get it
00:42:06.720
i'll get a scratch in my eye but i will not get pink eye let's get something clear bitch
00:42:10.900
okay naomi just dragged me so hard and i can't say what it was about but i will say this i meet so
00:42:22.760
many people all the time if i forget a name i'm so sorry if i forget your name by any means i'm so
00:42:30.020
literally so sorry but this is what i do you know what i do you know it's my trick when i forget names
00:42:34.880
because i said i remember faces but i have a hard time remembering names what i typically do is like
00:42:39.920
if i see them and i'm like we've definitely met before and i do not remember this person's name
00:42:44.300
and they are like i always introduce myself because i'm like i just like i drew by the way in case and
00:42:50.500
but if i know for a fact we've met then i just don't i don't introduce myself but i'll say like
00:42:55.580
because i would never come alone to those things i'll be like oh this is my mom by the way and you
00:43:01.020
fully did that and my mom will go my name's noelle and then they'll say their name and then i go got
00:43:06.180
it okay i remember now now i know that's better than being like i'm so sorry i forgot your name
00:43:11.400
i think i think that's better i i agree right 100 that way it doesn't make it awkward especially if
00:43:17.640
we spend a great deal of time like like five or ten minutes talking to each other like it's just
00:43:23.680
really hard so that's why i met noelle again yep listen when we saw each other at that event i
00:43:32.040
obviously knew your name yeah absolutely no she did she did this is about other people
00:43:38.000
anyways what's your like that's like probably one of the most embarrassing things about myself i feel
00:43:47.500
like okay i have other things too what's like one thing you wish you could change for me first of
00:43:53.520
all being late i'm late and i'm not on purpose but i like to attribute it to being brown because a lot
00:44:00.440
of my family members are late all the time yeah so i feel like that was a learned behavior i think it
00:44:05.920
was like i've heard that before like a lot of like families that are minority minorities yeah
00:44:10.260
it's like a late thing yeah like that's i described it once as like when you throw a party and then
00:44:15.900
you invite your friends and you tell them 12 you know they're gonna show up at 2 yeah you're just
00:44:20.440
like no but then your white friends come at 12 they literally show up at 12 and then you're like
00:44:26.220
you're so early and then they're like they're like you said 12 and then they help your mom set up the
00:44:30.460
tables yeah i feel that while you shower and put your makeup on and get ready like that's happened
00:44:35.760
in an hour why are you here that's happened to me so many times hi jenna what's something like
00:44:43.180
that that you wish you could change oh my goodness um nothing you're so perfect i'm just
00:44:50.500
so petite and fancy um no honestly if there was one thing that i could fix probably that's like
00:44:59.900
embarrassing is the fact that i have to shit every 10 minutes like i'm not even kidding i have the
00:45:07.360
worst ibs and i'm real i'm really real about it like if you follow me like that's the realest
00:45:10.980
ibs and i'm lactose intolerant me too so it's like double whammy like i can't even damn you
00:45:17.180
fighting demons all the time every day are you just someone who ignores it though like i simply
00:45:21.180
choose to not be lactose for that day no so i have a routine where i'll only eat dairy when i know i'm
00:45:26.980
home like when i know that i can get a spot in the sketch if not i really am can i have a salad
00:45:32.240
because i know not caesar though the way like okay so i'm severely lactose intolerant too i think
00:45:40.020
it caught up with me as i got older because i to my knowledge i never really had that when i was
00:45:44.940
younger but maybe i didn't i just got used to shitting myself all the time but then like
00:45:48.900
but then when i got older i was like i think something's wrong with me and then my sister was
00:45:56.300
like i think you're just allergic to dairy dude because my dad is severely lactose intolerant right
00:46:00.880
but he eats cheese and ice cream and all this stuff all the time so i was like oh well maybe he's
00:46:05.740
just not and i'm almost like in one bathroom huh do you guys have more than one bathroom yeah in my
00:46:10.240
house growing up yeah can't relate so you know it's horrible with a household full of the way you
00:46:15.540
have to like punch a card almost you like fill out a whiteboard like this is 10 minutes is for me
00:46:20.000
this is my slot i literally reserved it yesterday yeah yeah i mean
00:46:25.280
the way lactose intolerant like when you're about to shit yourself it feels like the world is ending
00:46:32.220
i like it's caving around you i just say a little prayer i'm not religious but in those moments
00:46:38.540
we've actually you know it's funny like some of my very first episodes for this show i talked about
00:46:46.120
shitting myself oh like because of lactose intolerance but i was talking about how like
00:46:50.260
it like hurts and it's so terrible to the point where you have to get like almost completely nude
00:46:56.300
when you're going to the bathroom that's how you know it's bad when you're sweating through your clothes
00:47:00.080
people can't even look at you can't even look at your phone because you're just fighting for your life
00:47:05.600
sitting on the toilet i put it down i have this little shelf put my phone down
00:47:10.120
the way you're like curled up like have you seen have you seen the this is a bad comparison but it's
00:47:23.240
the only thing i can think of like the last harry potter film when harry when have you seen them yes
00:47:28.620
you know when harry dies and then he goes to like heaven and he's like walking around and he meets
00:47:32.740
dumbledore right you know when he looks under the bench and then you see voldemort and he's like
00:47:36.700
curled up that's literally how it feels i like how that's the only comparison i was thinking about
00:47:44.080
white chicks when she was like yeah that's like a literal representation i'm saying what it feels
00:47:49.660
like like voldemort dead got it like him curled up bloody beaten to a pulp like just like take me now
00:47:57.120
i don't want to be here anymore right that's how it feels i i would imagine that's how that little
00:48:02.820
voldemort felt in that moment that's what i picture that was a vivid picture that's me being
00:48:10.060
an empath you know okay i felt i felt you grip on that you grip you grip onto your shelf yeah i
00:48:17.440
really feel better it it makes me feel yeah the way it's like it's just such a chore being lactose
00:48:24.140
intolerant is such a chore i'm gonna talk about a shackle a cross that i bear is that it's a lot
00:48:29.500
that's probably the one thing i would change because i also love to eat i feel that so yeah
00:48:34.600
lactose intolerance really sneaks up on you so it's mine is so like hit or miss like right but
00:48:39.340
if it's something with heavy cream i know for a fact it's gonna hurt me physically so i'm like i
00:48:44.520
simply i'll either make the deal with the devil or i'll be like i'm avoiding it altogether right
00:48:49.680
like it really depends will never understand the pain of like being in fifth grade and everyone
00:48:55.400
enjoying that pizza party and you're right there with the celery stick going to mcdonald's everyone's
00:49:01.640
getting a f***ing ice cream cone and you can't you simply cannot and you have a water bottle or you
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do and then you just pay the piper you know what i mean when he comes to collect he comes to collect
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bitch hello literally the way she and she takes it by force that's for sure okay this last comment
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on this video says uh all these women can never have the same confidence without their makeup
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he wrote without their little makeup box pack what the hell is that we need to ask whatever the
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hell that means what is that little makeup box pack i have a makeup kit but like is that what they're
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talking about i assume so i just i don't know how you have the strength to get like wake up and be
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like these girls would never have confidence without their little makeup box pack like babe
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oh these women would never have this confidence i you know with or without makeup i know that i'm a
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bad bitch same period like it's at the end of the day if you know you are that's all that matters
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and it goes back to what we started off with the conversation they hate to see that they really do
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and it's like we don't say nothing about your nine in one head and shoulders it gives you so much
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confidence yeah like we i don't you know i don't care if you feel good about yourself that's what
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matters yeah i mean like if you feel good about yourself i mean i wouldn't if i looked like you
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but like not up to me you know what i mean i just think like i see you and i would also hate other
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people that love themselves yeah if i were if i were them and i looked in the mirror and i had to
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look at that every day turn to stone like medusa you know what i mean i like literally turn myself
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to stone looking at myself i'd be mad at the world too yeah and i that's why i said i don't have a
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problem with calling someone ugly who calls me ugly like if they think i they call me like a fat ugly
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bitch or whatever and i tell them that they are like like truly they look you know like igor
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you know like dr frank you used to call me that that as an empath you should have sensed that
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that's not true about you though i know but back in the day why it wasn't true but were they jealous
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because you never got eye infections i bet that's what it was not the eye infection
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no they were jealous because they couldn't shit themselves i mean constipated assholes no but yeah
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igor scary yes that's what i will also i just think like if you if you like the dudes that say
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that shit and like mean it like they say they say the hateful things to the either whether it's these
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people or you and i um i made a video once where i said like because i've never seen an attractive
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drew supporter is like something that someone commented and i was like well on the flip
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side of that i've never seen a hot dude who hates me ever ever ever and the way that so many dudes
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like took that like took that clip and then they put like pictures of themselves where they truly
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believe they look hot and you were like and i see it and i'm like you prove my point you prove my
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point yeah like you literally look like the characters in angry birds and you're gonna tell me that
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you're cute i doubt it like i doubt listen i don't want to talk teams but like if it's a if it's a race
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in the department of looks they're eating my dust every time right you know what i mean but i just think
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like look at you look at you like be honest with yourself if i'm ugly then i don't know what the hell
00:52:40.300
you are you know what i'm saying uglier ugliest with the dot at the end but the key point i think that
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we're trying to make is that it's like it's genuinely not up to anyone whether or not you're beautiful
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no yeah it's not up to anyone but you yourself even people like you obviously your husband like my
00:53:01.380
boyfriend it's i don't feel beautiful because i'm with them oh not at all and i let him know every day
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i'm like you this you are blessed every day blessed and highly favored yes every day you wake up next
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to me you're every time you get a poupon to smash video you're blessed and he knows that same with
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mine i'm sure that's why i really one last thing i'll say i really hate when other women are like
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not just women because men don't typically say this to me but it's more so women they'll be like
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oh you're so lucky like to be with him and i'm like he's lucky to be he's lucky to be with me but
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that's not why they don't uh their love does not feed our like confidence at all like they love us
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because we're confident right and that's what i like always try to tell people i'm like the right
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person will not think that your confidence is a hindrance to them and they're gonna celebrate it
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they're gonna love that part about you the most exactly that you know you're bad with or without
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them babe and that's tea bitch it's the truth okay so as we wrap up this episode what do you want
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people to know when it comes to confidence self-love any anything like that especially when it comes
00:54:17.940
in terms of like if they want to present themselves on social media or not like what's the best advice
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you could give someone who's on that journey i think my best advice for anyone trying to get
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into like social media or not even social media confidence why did i say that he says social media
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my brain jumped um getting into that confidence is really just i always call it my three-step thing
00:54:40.440
it's acceptance it's the first step it's always accepting who you are yeah because it's like in this
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world where everyone is the same like be different and accept that you know and then once you start to
00:54:52.180
accept who you are i always say it's all about that self-love now that you've accepted that you're
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different in the eyes of society you really can love who you are and once you start to love yourself
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that confidence comes out yeah and that's always what i say it's not a journey i mean it's not a quick
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um fix right it's a journey and it's gonna be a tough one yeah because it's so hard out here
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clearly yeah in the words of drew we have igors coming after us angry birds yeah um but as long
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as you know who you are and you can accept that and love yourself like that really is the most
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important thing period bitch couldn't have said it better myself i want to thank the wonderful naomi
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for coming today i'm so excited to have you and i absolutely adore you you're literally the third
00:55:37.820
sister in my family so there you go so where can everybody find you um i do across all social media
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that i use which is really just instagram and tiktok and youtube it's naomi hearts xl period
00:55:51.220
bitch make sure y'all go follow naomi immediately she's a wonderful creator and i'm so honored to
00:55:57.100
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