WHY DO TRANS PEOPLE TRIGGER YOU? | Drew Afualo ft. Jesse Sullivan | THE COMMENT SECTION EP 20
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Summary
It's the season finale of the Comment Section Show and it's a very special episode of the show where I am dressed for the Met Gala dressed as Drew Barrymore and I get to chat with Jesse Sully, who is one of my favourite people in the entire world. I am so honored to have him as a guest on the show and I can't wait for you guys to hear all about it!
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episode of the comment section show before I introduce my wonderful amazing guests I want
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to announce that it is the season finale so I am dressed for the Met Gala and that's because
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I wanted to and it's my show so on to my favorite person of the day it's my newest guest my last guest
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of season one saving the best for last Jesse Sully I am so happy to be here I'm so happy to have you I'm
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honored I know this is like you're literally like a celebrity in my household stop stop you laugh alone
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there you go there it is yeah it's famous the laugh I told Jesse last night this is a little
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insider info I messaged him I said hey I'm gonna dress for the Oscars take it as you will I never
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tell anyone sometimes people come in they're like I like how Drew always picks a theme and doesn't tell
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her guests like I'm literally like a cowgirl I'm an e-girl and dressed for the Oscars so I told Jesse
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Jesse goes I don't have a suit so I'll do my best you're the complete opposite yeah no I actually
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like I was like well I could probably throw together something a little like Oscar-y right but I was like
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you know what I'm just gonna go as comfy as possible let you shine it's your show it's your
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season finale I love that I love that for us because you support women hell yeah you know it's all the
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little ways right it's more like like Canadian you know they say Canadian formals like jeans yeah jeans on
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jean yeah that's you vibes today yeah the Canadian tuxedo yeah I'm just so over the top extra always
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if you couldn't tell hell yeah you should be as you should be but on to you I am so honored to have
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you on my show I think you're incredible you and Arlo are the lights of my life and Francesca I'll
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throw her in there too Francesca I love you bitch Francesca loves you too she knows how much I love her
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so I'm so happy because I've been following you for a long time I literally told Jesse I was
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following him and Francesca before you guys got together yeah I was peeping I was peeping the
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flirting I was like like I'm watching I didn't even know that I didn't know you followed us that long
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and like I she would just always like show me your videos and I started following you and I was like
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it was like mutuals and I was like I was like starstruck I was like this is the best thing ever
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feeling was mutual I was telling Drew that me and Francesca and even Arlo too like at night
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literally go to bed like watching your TikToks cracking up dying like you can hear that laugh
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like in my apartment like echoing through at like 2 a.m. I'm honored I'm so honored I guess
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I'm part of your family yeah you are I'm part of your family you're part of the family the chosen
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family you and Francesca could adopt me I'm cool with that would honestly be amazing people tell
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me all the time you should adopt me I'm like no I want Jesse and Francesca to adopt me yeah that's
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my dream yeah and then you could be Arlo's sibling I would love Arlo's so cool and I'm so jealous
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Arlo is so cool I want to be Arlo when I grow up me too me too how old is Arlo now
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Arlo's 13 almost 14 but going on like 36 like honestly way more mature than I am what's Arlo's
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sign Leo we're both Leo you're both Leo yeah okay what's Francesca um a Scorpio oh spicy I know
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Leos and Scorpios together are either like match made in heaven yeah either match made in heaven
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or so bad just hell on earth yeah the opposite and we have our moments don't get me wrong but
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you know for the most part it's literally heaven so I think that's so wow all is Scorpio fire yeah
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right so all fire our household is fire it's queer it's a lot of things right and it's so and
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that's a perfect transition yeah it's a our topic today because today with Jesse we're going to be
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talking about gender identity right which you are very familiar with and I'd like love to hear your
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thoughts as far as like what your what your first initial thought is when you hear about gender
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identity and how it's described or how it appeals to you or yeah gender identity I think is something
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that is still like so insanely misunderstood because I think what's happening a lot still is
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people are mixing gender identity with sex yeah so whatever you're born with they're saying oh no
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you were born with female parts you're going to be a female for the rest of your life but gender
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identity goes so far beyond that yeah and it's how you express yourself it's what you identify with
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yeah and if you really can understand the simple like dichotomy between those two things yeah I
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feel like people would understand trans people or gender non-conforming people so much more it's
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like it's really that simple and you can even break it down to like that cis people even have gender
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identity right you know that's how you expression yeah gender expression and it's important to every
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individual not just gender non-conforming people so you know like someone once said that like we're
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technically all in costume and I think that's true like we all are so true and so why is there
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such a big difference when you know I transition and I dress this way or look this way you know
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well and gender is a construct right so it's been imposed on us yes as soon as we're born we don't
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choose that when we're born and it wasn't until recently that that started happening once you know
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religion and all of that happened right kind of when it started really taking its shape and kind of
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molding culture and society as we know it now so that's another reason why I really loved your
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content because it taught me a lot about like gender identity gender expression and how like
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it is in no way synonymous with sexuality or anything like that which I think is is so empowering
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especially since Arlo is non-binary yeah correct so it's like it's some it's so informative and it's
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so important right because I every time I talk about this I get emotional don't tell the men
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don't it'll ruin my street cred but anytime I talk about like representation on a much grander
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scale yeah it makes me emotional because I think about how important it is to see people like you
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in positions of power where they have platforms right so you and you being a parent to someone like
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Arlo too so powerful thank you so much I love that I mean like I think I've told people this before
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that like I actually struggle with wanting to tell my story on TikTok and stuff because as like a trans
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man it obviously is way more comfortable to just be like okay I'm just a guy if nobody knows me on
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that platform I could just start posting as a guy no one will know yeah and you know like the night
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before I was deciding to do that a 13 year old dm'd me and was like I'm struggling so much with like
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my gender and my household doesn't support me and I have no one to look up to and blah blah blah and
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it's always in that moment that like I knew I was like it's my duty I have to do it for that 13 year
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old for me when I was 13 and I didn't have anyone to look up to and for like every young person out
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there and I posted my story the next day and that's really like how I even blew up on TikTok yeah I
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know I remember I saw that video and I was like this is so incredible just like and the bravery it
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takes it so it sounds corny and I don't want to hear it but sometimes it takes courage to post stuff
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like that because oh hell yeah truly vile on the internet oh my god you and I both know that yes
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I get vile vile like violent comments same same and it's it's truly horrid like the way that some
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people are so incredibly triggered and upset by you just like existing people you're yeah just existing
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and also telling other people right because it's it's just because no one's ever like someone hasn't
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ever been exposed to people like you and Arlo doesn't mean that they haven't ever existed in
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the history exactly it's like I've never seen it so clearly it's not real yeah which is ignorance and
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you know what like something you and I have in common with our platforms that I've thought about
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this because so many people have asked me like why do you think the world is so triggered by trans
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people or non-binary people yeah and I always say the same thing I think when you are so
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like shamelessly you and so brave and you you're unapologetic for exactly who you are people kind
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of can't handle that because it triggers something inside them where they're like I can barely just be
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myself as like a cis person how are you able to be so comfortable that you're telling the world like
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you literally changed your body your everything yeah and I think that's kind of another reason why like
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men come for you it's like they see you as this woman that is so unapologetic and that triggers
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something so deep and they're misogyny no truly that they literally go to bed crying at night
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yeah and I go to bed I sleep like this yeah and you're sleeping like a baby I go to bed soundly
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and peacefully they're crying like a baby you're sleeping like a baby and you know what as as the
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universe intended yes that's what I would say hell yeah and I I think too it's it's another like point
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of how ingrained and like in a absolute chokehold the patriarchy and toxic masculinity and
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all of that has on the world right that they feel so like compelled to tell you who you are right
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like it's like who like I just get the comment like girl like over and over again but like girl girl
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woman girl always be a girl I'm like you took that time out of your day to say that because it didn't
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do anything to me yeah like and and it's like who is this for yeah who is this for you or me because
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it's not doing anything for me yeah and then even when you if you respond to you're like okay
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yeah they're like exactly yeah it's like yeah and it's like you know I think what they think is
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if they comment that then I'm gonna be like wow I am a girl oh my god I didn't know this you know
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what's great I never thought about that before yeah maybe I am yeah like it's it I I say that all the
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time especially when in my case when it comes to talking like misogynist or any sort of like fat
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phobia transphobia homophobia you name it because they have them all um anytime I talk about stuff
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like that I think to myself I can't change you yeah if you don't take the necessary steps to
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unlearn it and educate yourself I'm I'm sure as hell not gonna do it yeah exactly and if and when it
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comes to me you already don't like women right exactly you're gonna listen to a woman tell you hey
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that's not nice to say yeah that's why I cut that part out I cut out the middleman I'm just gonna
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hurt your feelings that's just how it is for me so and I love it yeah bleep bleep I think it's I
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another like point to it too is that you are almost always expected to be respectful in the face of
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being openly disrespected like they expect you to take the high road always always always they do it
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to me and I know they do it to you oh they do and you know it's hard on my platform because obviously
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you know a lot of it's with my kid and so a lot of our following is young so I do always try to be
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you know as respectful as I can but it's not my job like you said to teach these people oh and my
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job is to comfort young people not to teach people who already have hate in their hearts yeah I'm not
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going to change them like you said like they're not going to listen to a woman when they already
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hate a woman they're not going to listen to a trans guy when they think trans people should die
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like yeah exactly you know what am I going to do for you and that shouldn't be expected yeah it's
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really not my job and like you know you just like listed all the phobias and like people are always
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like you know like is it a fear and I always say like it's they're not scared of us they're scared
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of something inside themselves and when you're scared of something inside yourself like what am
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I going to do for you you got to dig deep you got to go to therapy I can't help you I was just about
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to say I was just about to say we talked about that in my last episode too therapy could do wonders
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for you man and it could literally set you free I feel like you should almost like be born a man and
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then just have to go to therapy it's a requirement yeah like I literally think like like getting a
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driver's license yeah on there it should say have you gone to therapy yeah and it's gonna say no
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they're like sorry I can't give it to you exactly you gotta you gotta meet the requirements and then
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I promise every single guy would because they they need their trucks that's right they need their
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lifted trucks yeah their Toyota Tacoma yeah I mean what would they do without them I know how would
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anyone know how manly they are I know didn't have that big truck yeah I want to say something else
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how big they're but it's that too yeah that too and I think it's like it's it's also too like you
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said it's a jealousy thing yeah a lot of times because they're it's rooted in like envy because
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they're thinking to themselves like I am so insecure and I hate myself yes and how is this person that
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the world has taught me should hate themselves how are they navigating life and not exactly exactly so
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they get so like violent and angry and it literally triggers something so deep inside them because
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society has ingrained these things in them and they're like I don't understand why you're
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posting your whole life your whole story and you're loving yourself like exactly this is so
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scary what do I do like short circuit they start like it's a horror film to them no it really is
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they're like wait a second like their whole world something's not computing it's that tiktok like
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butterfly in the sky and it's like all the numbers are going around them they're trying to like truly
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understand like the world has taught me that I should hate these people and they should hate
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themselves and so it's just it's jealousy more than anything yeah absolutely if you actually like
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look at like a lot of like different tribes different societies throughout history even modern
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ones yeah um that aren't like western society and aren't you know completely just destroyed by like
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modern religion they actually like see people that have multiple genders or changed genders as like
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the elite people in society yeah and they're like the elders and they like look up to them and they go to
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them for advice and like so it really just shows you it's a societal issue and and that's such a good
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point because even like I'm someone so we have a third gender in my culture as well so do a lot of
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indigenous cultures do um and I I think it's so like absolutely wild that they think like modern
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civilization which is started from like colonization and the pillaging of culture right rape and pledge of
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all culture right and they're like this is it this is the real world right here yeah don't worry
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about the hundreds of years before that just focus on these these or even just the culture still
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existing right now yeah but they only see their little like white western culture yeah and they're
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like that's it that's it that's it there's nothing else I I checked I checked and they said that's it
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that's it that's us yeah so now that we've kind of like opened the door for what we're going to talk
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about today for those of you who don't know what we like to do in the comment section is we bring
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videos here that I've been tagged in and we like rip them apart make fun of them make jokes but also
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teach we're choosing to teach but not people that hate us yes we're teaching people that want to
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learn and that's big difference exactly that's the only only time I will ever teach anybody so for
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this first video that I got tagged in I just like to give little summaries of them so uh this is
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basically a person who's explaining how they've identified as quotes pretty much all the letters in
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the lgbtq plus and they kind of go through their journey of being born female identifying as a
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lesbian then they were non-binary then trans now they identify as queer because that is the overarching
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term and they don't really need to define it so specifically right and I feel like again it takes
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a lot of courage and bravery to post things like that especially on tiktok definitely tiktok's
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extra rotten like every every social media platform has like trolls and has terrible people
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on it right something about tiktok you get on the wrong side and it's I know I mean for me it's
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actually instagram's worse but I don't know why that is that's actually really fair to say I that's
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actually true because my friend sirius who's non-binary yeah oh my god yeah they told me that
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instagram's way way way yeah like death threats like I think because I'm on the right side of tiktok for the
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most part like true I just I get them don't get me wrong but it's just not as savage as yeah and
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it's like it's just in any facet of putting yourself out there like that and then garnering an audience
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to watch it's like the best and worst thing in the world totally like it could be I always just try to
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tell myself focus on how much more positivity but exactly I mean and that's why like sometimes I'll
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talk about like the negative shit I get a lot but like I'm like it's like 98 percent positive
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and that little two exactly it's killer sometimes but for the most part it's like it's it far outweighs
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the bad right the good always far as far outweighs the bad and honestly I think if we weren't built so
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differently I don't think a lot of people couldn't handle it no no I think that's why a lot of people
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don't like yeah I think they try to post and stuff and then they're like oh my god that's the comment
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section you know like literally like do they ever get do you ever get people asking you like how do you
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oh yeah how do you navigate this yeah all the time like I like I'll have people be like you know I want to
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post my story you know it's similar to yours but I literally could not handle the comments you get
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and I'm like I just you know I think it's kind of just this simple like I focus on the positivity like
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I like that I get more dms that are saying like hey I'm 15 and you literally made me like want to keep
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going then I do like you know men saying like you're going to hell and like blah blah so that keeps me going
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and I just let it roll off my shoulders I'm a happy person with you know my own little family
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and you know we both have our own shows so we're doing pretty well do they no they have throwaway
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accounts that like don't even have profile pictures the anime picture yeah yeah those little green
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monsters yeah yeah so I'd say we're doing pretty well yeah killing it we're doing we're killing it the
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two of us good for us so some of the comments on this video like this first one says this is why I
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like queer as a term so much because it's like I'm some kind of gay I don't have to update any
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everyone if it swaps or changes a bit right which I think is fair I mean it's it's all it's all specific
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to the person I feel like yeah it's always it's up to you whatever you feel is right and true
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that's what you do babe it's all up to you and then this one says this is literally why I just say
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I'm queer because hell if I know any more than that like we literally just talked about this on my show
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it was so interesting we were talking about like we had a guest on who was talking about the phases
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and how he went from you know like a kind of like non-binary kid to a lesbian to kind of back to that
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to now a trans man who dates men and he was like you know like people could see that as like a phase
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as like a negative thing but this is just me navigating my life why is that wrong you know
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and something Arlo said actually after the show Arlo was like you know I like queer because queer just
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kind of is that umbrella term that I just am non-gender conforming yeah and I like like both
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sexes and you know and I think you know when I was in college I remember like studying like queer
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theory was actually one of my minors and one of the things that like I remember reading is they like
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a way to define queer is that anything that face takes the normative head on so you're just nothing
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you're just not the normative you know exactly and I think that's like a you know what people those
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people are saying is true like you can have phases you can go in and out and if you want to
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umbrella term it as queer after yeah that's your again it's it's no one else's business but your
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own like how you want to navigate it how you want to move through it there's no timeline yeah there's
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no like you have to know by this time yeah else like no no it's it's and it's also on a spectrum
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so it it's fluid it's fluid it moves and it ebbs and it flows it has nothing to do with
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like who you're supposed to be or like that's all that's society pressure yeah and I think cis people
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are also trying to figure out their lives and having phases and it's just not amplified like
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ours and yeah you know I went through from fully being a so cis representing that I like dated a
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man and got pregnant and gave birth to coming out as a lesbian to now I'm a trans man yeah you know
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and like this is obviously where I'm settled in life I'm older I figured my shit out but like
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I think it's so important for young people to feel like they can have those phases like it's not
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you don't have to be sure by 13 14 15 even 20 you know figure it out do your life date who you want
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exactly and can you imagine like if you had stuck to some of the things you decided when you were 13
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oh my god like the fact that they want to hold like people to the choices they made when they
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were 13 yeah like who you're supposed to be or what your sexuality supposed to be but like they'll
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they'll see a sweater you wore when you were 13 you're like ew gross how could you ever wear that
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like I'm so glad you grew out of that but it doesn't apply to any other facet of your life
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right it's just wild to me yeah it is and also like why people care so much why do they care so
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much you know no I can't relate I'm like I'm busy I'm stressed I have too much I don't want to take
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on other people's yeah like lives I have I can't even barely manage my own I know it's so crazy that
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they like lawmakers and stuff care enough to literally try to get like trans kids not to play sports
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like how are you like going to bed at night being like tomorrow I'm gonna wake up I'm gonna make sure
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that 12 year old can't play basketball yeah you know what I'm gonna that's on my to-do list tomorrow
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yeah to be a bigot and then right under that it's make sure I ban trans kids from sports yeah yeah
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yeah the whole like especially the issue with um trans athletes I was like some of these men
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yeah some of you were a little too invested yes exactly and I was saying I always think too
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I'm like if you removed yourself even further because it's none of your goddamn business but let's just
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say you removed yourself even further they're an olympian yeah and you're at home exactly
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judging yeah focus on that yeah a couch coach yeah nice you know what you know I'm gonna listen to
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that Brent from Kansas yeah you know what bring him to the olympic committee here I think he needs to
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give us a sense literally I'm so I'm so interested what he has to say bring him on down yeah I just
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can't believe oh my it's absolutely insane the space that like the lgbtq I play I plus takes up
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in in these people's heads and you know I always say the same thing when it's like especially a man
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that's doing the commenting yeah I'm like there's something something going on in your I'm saying I
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talked about it with Isaiah I was like every single time I swear I know like deep down they're just
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like man I wish I could date men or I wish you know yeah listen listen listen listen why do we
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always see like the most conservative politicians end up coming out and like they were like caught
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at like a gay bar or like listen if the shoe fits babe exactly it's if it happens multiple times that's
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what we call a pattern yep that's what we call an established behavior but we can predict how the
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story ends from there oh my gosh just absolutely I just I'll never understand I'll never understand I'm
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like y'all have clearly don't have jobs because this is all you'd be worrying about step one go get
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a job upload your application on indeed it's free zero cost yeah take advantage of it yeah now all
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that time you're online yeah let's switch over to instead of commenting on a 14 year olds trans 14
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year olds instagram fucking upload your resume let's go to monster.com let's get on linkedin yeah
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let's like attack some other channels or you know what go old school print a application out
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walk into a starbucks you know you have time on your hands take it to a post office right make
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multiple copies then you get outside get some sun yeah right so this next comment says force you to
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shower there you go I mean even and even then yeah and even then this last comment says this is such a
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great example of how self-discovery is a process and you don't have to know who you are immediately or ever
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really pick a label right amen yeah I mean I think that's kind of what we like we're just discussing
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and I think you know something that like people bring up to me all the time they're like oh are
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you so scared letting Arlo be like non-binary at 13 like what if they change their mind later I'm like
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well then they change their mind later you know like two years ago a year ago Arlo was dressing really
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feminine and like people always put that on me they're like they dress like a boy because you made
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them dress like a boy I'm like no they have discovered themselves since they were two years old
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like we all should be able to like believe it or not they have their own brain yeah they have their
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own brain and feelings yeah and and emotions and I always say the same thing like when people say
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that I'm like so if I as a trans dad can force my kid to be trans then you as a cis parent are you
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forcing your kid to be cis because and how does this work they're like whoa talking about me yeah
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no it's it's only if it's gay stuff like oh oh okay missing is that it's gay yeah that's the
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part you're missing gay stuff that's that's a media as soon as you turn it around they're like
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well hold on yeah hold on hold on all of a sudden it's not about well it's not about that kind of
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parenting oh no I know it's only the gay stuff yeah you're like it's not about bad parenting yeah
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yeah good parenting and I also say the same thing too like you know I always say it's like giving it's
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like giving kids two colors like if you raise your kid and you're like okay there's only yellow
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and green in the world guess what your kid is probably gonna like yellow or green you know
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probably deep down they're gonna hope there's something else out there but they're only gonna
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say yeah I like green or I like yellow whereas with Arlo I was like literally there's an endless
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spectrum of a rainbow of colors you can like and you know like just as an example Arlo's favorite
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color is the more blue periwinkle so it just is like it's like a metaphor to who they are I gave
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them the space to literally be whoever whatever and they've changed and they've grown and right now
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they're they them and it could be different later on and they know that my household will love them
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no matter what and that's how it should be and that's all that matters and then it also it it speaks
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to your ability to give them the space and like the trust that they know what they're doing and they
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know themselves best right and then I I think this all the time because like for me like my sister
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is queer so for me she's taught me a lot about sexuality gender identity and expression and all
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of that which is I'm so grateful for because it helps me become a better person believe it or not
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yeah when you're more educated you're a better person at the end of the day because you understand
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and empathize with people that may not be in the same boat you are exactly whatever that may be I
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think queer people in general are so great for that and that's why like a lot of what I do what I do
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on online is because I'm not only trying to like talk about lgq lgbtq plus issues but I'm also trying
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to use them as like a an example of kind of things we all go through and trying to give everyone
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empathy because like you know you could hear a queer story and you could be a cis person a straight
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person and be like oh my god I identify with that part of that story even though I am not gay or
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whatever it is and I think queer people are really great at teaching empathy in general oh my god yeah
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you're that's so true and my sister's a Sagittarius which is so funny because but it's like it's it's
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one of those things too like for me I've I've talked to people about as far as like when my sister came
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out to me and how like we her and I like learned more about each other in that sense I was like I
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always tell them too it's not about you like if you're some if someone trusts you and loves you enough
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to come out to you right it's not up to you to decide like well I need time to
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think I mean yeah maybe you do sometimes but like at the end of the day it's not it has nothing
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to do with you exactly I love that you said that because I promise you like nobody says that like
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even very like woke allies they never understand how it has nothing to do with them no truly and if
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someone is at the point of coming out to you I promise they've been thinking about that every
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single night from the moment they were probably like four yeah so even if they do need time to
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think on of it whatever like if they're at that point of like coming out to you the best thing you
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do is just be like support them yeah love them and learn like you said and like you know I think
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too like you said like you know it like kind of bonded you or and I think like when someone you
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know comes out one or two you can choose one of two things you can have hate in your heart you can
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have fear you can have fear for them or you can you know like choose for it to be this amazing moment
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to get closer to that person yeah exactly and like when I came out as trans like a lot of my family
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members obviously like kind of pushed me away and they didn't like it and you know a family member
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said to me like I feel like I'm losing you and I was like it's that's so interesting because you're
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actually gaining me because for the first time in my life I'm me yeah for the first time like the
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truest the truest version and if you would have seen that you would have actually probably been
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closer to me than you ever have yeah and then it's that it's their loss yeah exactly the end of
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the day and I I think that too because I tell people like has nothing to do with you that person
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just loves you and trusts you enough right to want to share that with you which I think is a
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beautiful thing at the end of the day you should you should feel like honored yeah absolutely that
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they feel like you've cultivated a space safe enough for them to want to share that with you
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and that's why I tell people all the time to mind the business that pays you bitch exactly if it doesn't
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pay you don't worry about it like it has nothing to do with you yeah so I I always say like it's if
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it's not paying your bills feeding you housing you anything like don't worry about it don't worry
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about it just be happy for them yep be happy for you that they were like open enough and
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vulnerable enough to share that with you absolutely and the only I the only time I think that it's
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like when people get like angry or whatever I'm like that's a that's a you it's always a them
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once again that's on you that's not on me like you deal with that I'm gonna go be happy exactly
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you can be miserable yes do that alone babe do it in silence do that with a therapist they
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recommended highly recommended okay so we're gonna move on to this next video so this one says
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basically a person is doing a sketch showing a conversation between a doctor and a parent
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about their intersex child and saying that they are going to wait until their child is old enough
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to choose how they identify which I think is wildly progressive and open I thought it was going to
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be negative so I'm kind of glad it's not in that sense but yeah they're letting their child choose
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right which I think I mean you just spoke about that yeah I think that's honestly such an important
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thing to do I think we should be doing it with cis kids I'm not saying you know don't say he or she
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if you know I get we so many people are so attached to that we have the gender reveals left and right
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but um which I'm just I'm not gonna lie just I can't handle but it's real cringe
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but you know I think at least just giving your kid that that space like we talked about to decide
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for themselves no matter what is there yeah um is so important because then when they do you know
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let's say if they are non-binary later on in life or trans or whatever they're not going to feel like
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it's this dramatic like horrible horrible coming I'm changing these these things about who how you
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told me I was from birth you know like when we set standards for kids they have to undo them
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our generation especially has to undo these these lots of things that we you know we're raised with
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like for instance like religion we have to undo you know the the idea that like this god is telling us
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what we're doing all the time and we've got to go to hell for this or that you know or whatever it is
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and so I think it's the same thing with gender if you give them the space to not have to undo later on
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you're doing them such a big favor like yeah and you're like leaving it up to them yeah so often I feel
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like it's it's everything's imposed on them so like this is who you are this is what you are and
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that's why it turns into like you said something really scary and daunting as opposed to like oh
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I think this is who I am yeah and you're like okay cool like that sounds good to me I think that's
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and it's also like how everything in the world is gendered right right every literally everything
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I forget who was I talking I was talking to someone recently and I was asking them if they had ever
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seen those dude wipes yeah yeah yeah yeah they were like dude wipes and I was like it's literal
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wipes like they're wipes for your ass right marketed towards but they're only for they're for men yes
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they're in a black package so clearly not gay yeah so when you so when those men buy them they're not
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feeling exactly a little fruity yeah they don't have to they don't have to these are boy wipes these
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are for boys for boys butts yeah these are for only boys yeah and that actually shows too like
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something I remember learning when I was in college too was that like a lot of what people miss so much
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because they're so their minds are so controlled with gender is that a lot of it has to do with
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capitalism like it started a long time ago all the back all the way back like before money got
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introduced to like human beings and we were just tribes women were actually seeing all the statues
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and everything were women like they were held way higher than men because they were the one they
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created humans so they were like oh my god you guys are like literally magic we're dumb like we don't do
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anything yeah and then when currency got involved they were like okay well I am gonna go you since
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you're literally like breastfeeding the baby I'm gonna go do this currency thing and then it became this
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distribution of power yep and so I mean we're talking about that was a long ass time ago so
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if that shows all the way today they're you know gendering wipes yeah so that men feel
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that masculinity it's and you know like like boy razors are blue and girl razors are pink and it's
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like supposed to make you feel gendered and they don't people don't realize how it's actually such a
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sense of control it no truly and conservatives talk about that all the time like they hate the control
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well if you didn't you would hate gender you would be like yeah really you're like that checks
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out that tracks yeah you feel that way yeah exactly and to your point about capitalism it's just like
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that about how purses were created in order to get women to buy them yes but they were made really
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I guess like I forget what it was just like women's pants didn't have pockets because women
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didn't have money exactly and they never wore pants because they were supposed to wear skirts
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for whatever because of religion and also modesty and all of that see how it all it all goes back
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yeah it all leads to the same center point yeah which is again another thing of of how it's like
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being pushed by capitalism too and that's like bags like purses now like I feel like now there's
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kind of like a shift a little bit in that sense like lots of men are wearing bags but remember when
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it was called a man bag yeah immerse and I and I remember too like just recently actually like
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literally a week or two ago I bought my boyfriend a bag right and he was like he was dying for one
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he was like I could put all my things yeah I was like isn't that crazy yeah like you have a thing
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to hold your thing yeah wild because we have to put it in our pockets and we're sitting on them and it
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like hurts exactly and you know where he ends up putting it in my purse so that's why get your own
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purse no that's what Francesca says too I'm always like um can I and she has like this tiny little
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purse she's like oh my god yeah he literally always puts things in my bag so now I'm like now you have
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your bag yeah I could put things in your bag and you can carry your bag yeah and I do think you're
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right we're seeing shifts and I think I honestly it's so crazy because I was literally thinking about
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this the other day how it's literally like right now I'm seeing some of the biggest changes and it's
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literally like people like you like I think you're you're doing something so different because
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like I said before like it is so unapologetic like you're so not careful and it's so empowering
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to the girls in your comments that are like literally like dying laughing and being like oh
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my god I like yes girl you know like whatever and I think we need more of that because I think for so
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long even the feminists you know were like like they they got categorized like either as like those
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like they're so radical or like whatever it is and like I think people like you who are so like people
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love you you're like you're fun loving at the same time but you're also like changing people's
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perspectives yeah and I think like we're gonna see massive shifts like especially with the next
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generation thank you that means a lot to me I feel the same way about your content too like truly
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transformative like it really is like seeing people like you have a platform especially as a parent
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yeah with your child too is just so powerful like thank you it makes such an impact on the world
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especially I think other people who want to be parents or they're about to be parents yes watching
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you parent your child the way that you do yeah it's something that will help the next generation
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be better humans overall yeah like be better people to each other in general be better contributing
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members of society yeah and I get like young people saying to me all the time they're like you know
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being like young and trans I always just assumed I'm never gonna have a family and you made me realize
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like I can have a family and I'm like oh my god it's such a huge can you imagine like growing up
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thinking like I'm probably never gonna have kids I'm never gonna find love like that's why I always
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try to show like queer love and like queer families because it's like these kids need to grow up thinking
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that they can have everything they want yeah I'm telling you representation makes me sob and I don't
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want to talk about it it's just so important like and that's to the same point on the opposite
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end like for me too yeah this is something I've talked about before but like a lot of times
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people obviously the shit I say is like men are like fat single bitch whatever but they see that
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I'm also in a loving relationship with a cis man exactly who looks exactly like what they wish they
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looked like and then they're like wait a second like it's like their whole worldview shifts but it's
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crazy because the gender construct thing they still like can't bring it in them to disrespect him
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because he's a man yes and he's like a tip stereotypically big strong man whatever that
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definition means yeah and so they're like well I can't be mean to him but I hate your girlfriend
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I hate her she's the worst bitch it's crazy too like yeah like we see this all the time in society
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like like let's say like a politician gets caught like cheating on his wife the first thing people will
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do is like how did the wife not know the guy's the one that did it yeah like I remember when the
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me too movement was happening and I was hearing all these conservatives be like you know Meryl Streep
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she she was friends with him and I'm like why are we not talking about Harvey Weinstein the guy that
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actually did it she's like friends yeah it's like we sat next to each other a couple times at dinner
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yeah friends and like the first thing people want to do no even if it's the guy doing the thing is
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like blame the girl somehow yeah they're like that's why you're such an easy tart because they're like
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you're the you're you're the one saying it yeah and you're a female like oh my god I can't handle
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it double whammy I literally got a comment the other day like genuinely like two days ago and it was
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someone saying um her her boyfriend must be a model for hire or something like that oh my god uh like
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because there's no way and then some woman said uh I can tell he's getting tired of her shit
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how how you never see him babe and I think to myself when they're like a model for hire I'm like
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just say you want to kiss my boyfriend yeah I think that's okay you can admit that honestly both
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the boys and the girls that come up be like I think you all just want to kiss my boyfriend you
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want to kiss him on the lips that's all right that's okay I would and I said one time I was like
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listen if he were to ever leave me I don't think he's gonna pick you yeah that's just my guess what
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do I know what do I know consider me an expert I guess but it's it's again it all it leads back to
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the same thing like none of them see women as having any sort of thoughts or feelings outside
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of men yes so they're like women are objects and men are sentient humans that have ambition and goals
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and drive exactly and women are just things to look at accessories and like I think that's why they
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like have to bring the boyfriend in because they're like oh she's not doing it enough on her own
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let me bring him in and make sure she knows that she only exists because he exists like yeah exactly
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and you're like I have my own show I have believe it yeah my following on here is amazing and it's
00:40:22.180
about me and my laugh well just like you said like Arlo has their own brain yeah their own thoughts
00:40:29.220
their own feelings like they they decide what they want yes because that's what they're entitled to
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they're they're allowed to do that they're their own person I've raised Arlo so obviously like the
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opposite of most households that Arlo has almost too many thoughts and opinions like I'm like kid
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calm down like they are like schooling me every single day and I'm like okay okay well I am a parent
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but okay you're right you're right you're right but I'm still a parent like people think when they see
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us they're like they think Arlo's such a mini me and I can't even express how that is so not true
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like Arlo looks for ways to disagree with me like looks for them like I'll be like oh yeah
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like this yeah that's Leo yeah I'm like oh yeah this is like a really good drink and I'm like no it
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isn't and I'm like oh okay you liked it yesterday but there's just you know in that pot yeah yeah
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constantly so their own person but at the same time I love that because like what we're saying is I'm
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like I literally they have their own brain they do whatever they want yeah and that's I feel like I
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mean that's like every parent's dream is that your child grows up to be a good person right and then
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also like paves their own way in life like is happy yes fulfilled and satisfied with all their
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choices and they don't have any regret I feel like that's all you could really ask because for every
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person on this planet at the end of the day you go to sleep with your own brain and you die one day
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with your own brain so you got to be happy with it right and that's why to me it's so important to
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love yourself and be proud of who you are yeah and to watch creators like Jesse and Arlo
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okay so some of the comments on this video like this one says I wish parents actually did this
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even for cis babies like you said I mean it's you're and you said this isn't like radicalizing
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you at all it's literally just let them make their own choices yes that's simple it's not that hard
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yeah it really is and I and it you swear like sometimes people swear you have to make the room
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blue if it's born with mill I can't handle this you have to make it blue you have to there are
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other colors yeah choose white or brown and you know what like little boys like the things we put
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on them at such a young age and obviously little girls but like like pink and princesses and girly
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and dainty and boys climbing trees and getting dirty and skin knees and likes the guns and all this
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it's like what are we doing this is so weird if you look at it from the outside that's it's so weird
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that's so strange and my little nephew like um kind of because my sister you know knowing me like
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raised him very gender neutral like he still has boy things and they're not like radical in any way
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but one day he's in an Elsa costume and then the next day he's in a Ninja Turtles costume you know
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like let them just like things themselves yeah like let them do what they want they'll figure it out
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trust that they will because you're a good parent yeah exactly that too yeah and then this next uh comment
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says I can't even imagine a situation where you don't even feel supported or understood by
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professionals right so like doctors obviously right and again it's because of things like
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patriarchy misogyny toxic masculinity capitalism even it's all intertwined in it you know yeah like
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as a trans person like having to because I haven't legally changed my name or gender yet like so like
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when I go to like the doctor I have to use those things and then instantly like be like okay no I go by
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he him I go by Jesse and I have experienced so many like awkward horrible things like in a doctor's
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office or like a pharmacy I like had a pharmacist be like like yell in front of everyone like why do
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you need testosterone you're a girl and I was like are you kidding this is 2021 and they're working in
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the in a professional medical field yeah it's crazy no semblance of of understanding empathy
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right education and it's not like they don't come on like you know trans people exist like yeah you're
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gonna make me like play this game yeah like I have to I have to be the one to break the news to you
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exactly and like I'm lucky like I have the LGBT center here but yeah so they're like so about like
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getting your pronouns straight and all that but I feel you know so many people in this country don't
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have that yeah and so they don't care to try and learn yeah yeah and I and I talked about this too
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with my friend Sirius but we were talking about pronouns and I was I was literally saying like
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do you know how like violently bigoted you have to be for that to like hinder your everyday life
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like alter like that someone tells you like this is what I go by and you're like nope yeah I just
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that's deranged behavior like so crazy to me something's off yeah like I don't get it I don't
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get so many people when I started going by he him were flat out like no I will not say that and I was
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just like it why what does it cost you it's so easy you know you're like oh okay like yeah and I
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even I get it for people who like knew me by like she her for you know so many years and it was an
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adjustment like I get that yeah yeah but like flat out just being like nah you know I'm not gonna try
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no I don't think I will yeah I'm just gonna say and they want you to be okay with it yeah and like
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especially like as far in my transition as I am now and I'm around those people I'm like where
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where's the she I don't get this from the start to just to right now yeah it's a choice that you're
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making yes you're intentionally being ignorant exactly and transphobic and for what for who
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who are you performing for no one's here yeah it's just you and I and and then I also like when
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Arnold came started told me so casually you know I want to go by they them we're literally on our way
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to the grove on our way to the movie and they were like you know I want to go by they them I
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instantly when we got to the cheesecake factory when they asked I was like oh yeah they want that you
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know yeah it's the best one it's so good Arlo loves it and I was like oh yeah they want this
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chair and Arlo looked at me because it was like instantaneous I didn't even have to mess up and
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then that hit my brain because I was like I was like why did it take so many people in my life to
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so long and still they're not doing it you know two and a half years later I'm like because for a
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second I was like maybe it is just like that adjustment and I was like no because I said she her for
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Arlo for 13 years yeah and then overnight it was they them hmm and interesting nothing
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cost me nothing and it's and it's so impactful for them so oh my god I their little look up at
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me when I did that like I was like that was it alone for me you know that makes me want to cry
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oh my god I love that so much it's it's again another thing like that's an intentional that's
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a choice you're making to be a terrible person you're choosing to act that way yeah something's
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wrong with you man like I think that all the time I'm like you need help yeah you need professional
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for a pronoun it's like we're stripping it down to the most bare minimum and you're struggling
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yeah and also it's it it also lends itself towards like when when they go off the rails
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and they're like they're trying to force me to like no one you asked me yeah I told you yeah
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and then you also think too not everyone obviously like if someone's known you your whole life and
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if they slip up they're gonna be like I'm so sorry yeah yeah I mean to do that totally and
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no one's gonna jump up your ass for that that's never happened if you I literally I think about
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all the time I'm like you're fantasizing and like making up these fake scenarios what if
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have never existed yeah what if what if this what if what if the sky fell tomorrow like we could sit
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here all day and do that none of those things have ever happened like even like the like gendered
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bathroom issue and I'm like would you want me in the girls bathroom like if I walked into the
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girls bathroom they would be like they'd be like excuse me can you leave like yeah you know I always
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think that like how why are you sitting there at night worried about like me going in the boys
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bathroom yeah why are you thinking and then they always are like it's dangerous I'm like it literally
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has never happened where like a trans person has like hurt someone ever in a bathroom ever in the
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history of time yeah and on top of that even okay let's say let's say that that was gonna happen
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yeah let's just humor you for a second yeah are you gonna do anything yeah because you don't do
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anything with cis people get assaulted all the time you sit and you watch so or sometimes you
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participate yes what's who's to say you're gonna jump in and be a savior then yeah all of a sudden
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you're gonna turn into like the defender of women exactly when the like me too movement was
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happening they were like poor men they have to be so careful in the workplace now they're so afraid
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how can they live and then like a trans person goes in the bathroom and they're like oh I'm so
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worried for women my day job and I'm sitting outside this bathroom all day exactly no one's coming
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in here quitting sitting on my couch I'm just gonna tweet about that's all I'm doing all day long I'm
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never I'm never going back to work this is all I'm doing which is really shows where the issues lie
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right exactly well it's very telling like I'm you don't actually care I say I say that all the time
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especially about um when men try to like with me specifically they'll try to be like oh you don't
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care about male victims or you don't care about this and you don't care about that I'm like let's stop
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sitting here pretending like you give a shit about victims because you don't because if you did you
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would care about all victims not just when you can use it to further your misogynistic agenda
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like you can hold that and use it to repress women further yeah that means you don't actually care
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exactly it's like you just hate women you just and that's okay yeah I mean it's not but like admit
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it yeah at least own it I said all the time I'm like when it comes to bigots like just outright
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yep I there's a little bit more respect in there from me because I'm like at least you know
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yeah when you pretend and it's hidden under this guise of like protecting people yeah I'm a good
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guy yeah worry I'm one of the good ones I'm worried about you since when yeah and I said and as they
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worry about women in that sense but as I said they don't worry about me getting death threats from
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random ass dudes they're like well that's different and I also hate the whole like I understand like
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male victims and I think this is an issue but it's when you're comparing it to like the
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female thing I'm like this has been going on for so long it's like disproportionate it's so
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disproportionate that like what are we talking about right now like yeah of course that's a problem
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but really at the end of the day the common denominator is that it's men who are doing both
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yeah the victimizing yep so so what are we talking about you're they're trying to defend men in doing
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this when really if the people who are doing the assaulting in both cases are men they miss the
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whole point right over their head you're the root of all evil yeah so I literally I said that before
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like especially when it comes to like abuse right you know like some shit ass dudes will be like equal
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rights equal fights or whatever like well if women want to do this then we should be allowed to hit
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you first of all why is that the only thing you're thinking about assault like why is that on your mind
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why is that the first okay then come over here and I'm gonna punch you in the face I get one good
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punch as hard as I can and that's in the name you want rights yeah you want rights come over here
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and get them it's like violence is all they can like go back to that's unhinged yeah check it out
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right go to a doctor but on top of that I think too like when it comes to to like fighting or or like
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any sort of I yeah there are male victims who get hit yes no one has ever said those don't exist
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only women do like no one's ever said that yeah so you when you only bring it up to counter yeah
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when women talk about being assaulted yeah then you don't actually care about who gets assaulted
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that's why I was saying it's not the in the absence of men getting assaulted it means
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there's a disproportionate amount of women who get assaulted far more yes than men get falsely
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accused right or or also abused so that's why I'm like it's it's and if it's the issue of like
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victims at hand then why aren't you focusing on who's doing the assaulting men why aren't you
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focusing on on that let's let's go to the start yeah okay well let's start from ground yeah from
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ground zero if we start there maybe we can actually fix some some shit in society versus victim blaming
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and trying to you know like just combat every argument with like well what about well what about
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this what about me yeah what about me I'm like no one cares about you yeah that's why I always think
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I'm like well has that ever happened to you no then what are we talking about yeah why are you
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only bringing that up when I'm talking about women yeah and it's it's like it's kind of the same thing
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too when um men are being really fat phobic towards women and they're like well what about me when I get
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made up for being short what about it yeah and I think like you're you're not oppressed because you're
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five three bro that's no you don't get oppressed you don't lose out on opportunity you get a good
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razz every now and then is that the same thing as almost being killed because doctors won't take
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your medical diagnosis seriously exactly no so like what if anything like even like you're talking
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about like you know a workforce and stuff like you see a lot of really short ceos so clearly they're
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thriving I think they're doing well yeah they're doing well I mean look at those two brothers on
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what's it called selling sunset look at those I saw those dudes in real life they're like five one yeah
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easily like killing it in life and they're doing just fine yeah they're making money they're dating
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exactly dating women far taller than them right so I was equating being short to like being trans
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yeah oh oh we both he's like I get it because we both have it hard yeah it's like it's in any way
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shape or form the same yeah they're like well what about me when I'm short yeah exactly what about it
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what about it yeah they can't even comprehend like what like someone like me goes through to get
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where I am not even but girls they say I'm too short on my dating app I'm like oh oh same thing
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someone called the government yeah honestly we need to get same thing as like me walking like in a
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group of like men who can tell I'm trans and like actually fearing for my life like yeah yeah yeah
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those two are the same yeah they're the same those are the same when women are like oh I would like to
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date someone taller and then fearing for your actual life yeah those are the same for sure for sure for
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sure sure they are that's a no they aren't go to therapy once again so that's like I guess like
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honestly just the best conversation with you because I learn so much from you all the time but
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even more so now but I what is it something that you want everyone to know whether it's
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being about you know acknowledging trans people uplifting them being a parent like being a parent
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to a non-binary child like what's something that you just really want people to know I think I just
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want people to kind of like leave this with you know I I think we highlight the differences a lot
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in order to show similarity so like yeah you know people always come at me as you know like
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commenting negative things about who I am like oh I've changed like my body I've changed these things
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like I'm not a real man but what I really want people to know about trans people especially because
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I know like young people are listening and watching is that we're actually more similar to you than
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different you could ever imagine and we're all just humans existing yeah going through phases yeah
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changing things about us we all change things about us we all the clothing we wear everything we do is
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all just to make us feel better when we look in the mirror to make us feel better when we go to sleep
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at night and when you amplify those similarities I think it can actually like bring people together more
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than it can you know separate us yeah and it's also it's it's something that like I feel like really
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opens your eyes like when you when you learn more from people like you when you follow creators like you
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like Arlo you learn that there's much more to life than focusing so hard on like what other people are
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doing and who they're loving and how they choose to express themselves yeah gender expression and gender
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identity as a whole there's so much more life to live and love to receive yeah and it's just not
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worth the time and energy to get mad at someone on the internet because they're doing something
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you're not really that familiar with exactly and I my motto for life like this is something like I
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learned when I got older and I do this in my relationship I do this and everything is choose
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love and I promise if you're like listening right now and you're someone who like comments negative
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things in that moment remind yourself choose love and I promise your whole life will change
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for the better for the better for in your love life in your you know family life in your friendships
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in your online life whatever it is choose love absolutely that's simple that's so true and I and
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just like one more story I had a dude once make a video about me and he told me that if I if he had
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seen me or found me like two three years ago he said he would have hated me but he said he realized
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like he was so unhappy like he was unhappy with who he was where he was at in life his love life
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everything and he said he read a book and he heard about like the dog and the nail story have you heard
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this story no it's basically a story about like a dog that sits in the same spot every day and there's
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a nail and it every time he sits down it hurts him it pokes him so he yelps out but then he just
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continues to sit there right so someone asked why does the dog keep sitting there if it hurts and then
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he said because it doesn't hurt enough just yet so like it hurt it got to a point where it hurts so
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much that he's like I have to do something because I'm unhappy right and so he started reading more
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and speaking to more women he started talking to more lgbtq plus people he started learning and
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reading and educating himself and then he realized why he was so unhappy because he hated himself at
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the very end of the day he hated himself more than anyone else anyone on the internet or anything so he
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basically stitched my video and made a video about me because he was saying like people like her
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are important because it's gonna it's you're never gonna listen until it hurts too much absolutely
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and then you're gonna have to change you're gonna have to look yourself or you're gonna fold and leave
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and bitch out like like most of them do but some of them might learn and decide for themselves like
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I don't want to be like this yeah and like what we've said this whole time like if you're truly happy
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on the inside like you're not gonna be a hater no it's like you know I hate to like quote legally blonde
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but like happy people do not kill their husbands you know what I mean like it's yeah they just don't
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so it's like I feel like when you have that inner peace it's gonna obviously make everything else
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in your life so much better absolutely you attract what you put out into the world yeah I believe that
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100 we both know that yes we both because once again we're doing pretty well we're doing pretty good
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I'm so happy I got to talk to you today I adore you you're so smart and amazing where can everybody
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find you so everyone can find me on all social media platforms at at jessiesoli j-e-s-s-e-s-u-l-l-i
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beautiful and make sure you follow jessie and learn and open your eyes and your heart and I promise
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it it'll be worth it I love you so much I love you so thank you so much for coming I'm so please tell
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Arlo I'm so so inspired by that I will I'm trying to be like Arlo every day honestly that's what most
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people should do everyone should have a little Arlo poster I have an altar it's just Arlo and then
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right below Arlo is you and Francesco oh hell yeah our new baby thank you so much for coming thank you
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so much I adore you and thank you all for watching this is officially the end of season one of the
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comment section show I want to thank you all for joining me this season don't worry we'll be back
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watching this season I adore you all I'll see you very soon bye