The Golden One - May 09, 2023


Advice For Fathers-To-Be


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6 minutes

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153.78357

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1,008

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1

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Misogyny

2

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In this episode I talk about the birth of our second daughter and give some advice to fathers on how to prepare for fatherhood and fatherhood in general. I also talk about fatherhood as a female mystery and how to deal with it.

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00:00:00.960 greetings my esteemed subscribing tons thank you all kindly for your well wishes on the birth of
00:00:08.080 our second daughter now i just thought to check in to give an update on everything and give some
00:00:14.080 advice to fathers to be now first and foremost i want to give a shout out to the midwives of
00:00:20.720 bb stockholm in case you see this very good and professional i have said that the swedish
00:00:29.360 healthcare system isn't the best but the midwives they are an exception so very good stuff indeed
00:00:36.080 i also want to give a shout out to my lovely wife of course she planned everything perfectly and 1.00
00:00:43.200 executed the plan perfectly as well um can always analyze the entire thing as an athletic competition
00:00:52.080 of sorts where you plan beforehand and then you go in execute a plan really nice to see and of
00:00:59.040 course it's um yeah it was quite an emotional experience the birth itself so great stuff
00:01:05.040 everything went well and yeah i am very happy in that regard so all is well now anyway there are of
00:01:14.800 course many guys who are more qualified to give advice on fatherhood and everything like that but
00:01:22.080 i promised a few supporters that i would make this video so so here we are now basically you can't
00:01:31.280 really get ready uh so if you ask how do you get ready for fatherhood you can't really get ready
00:01:38.400 and you just have to wait with crossing that bridge when you when you reach it so to speak uh so it's not
00:01:46.080 so it's not something you can theorize all too much about you just have to view it as a learning
00:01:53.120 experience you learn something every day and then of course if it's uh your second child or third child
00:02:00.560 or so on it becomes easier but the first time don't worry too much about knowing everything beforehand
00:02:08.240 because ultimately uh you just have to learn by experience it's not something you can be ready for
00:02:14.320 beforehand you get ready as you go uh so keep that in mind so don't be stressed that you don't know this
00:02:21.840 you don't know that how do you do this um view it as starting a new job or something might sound a bit
00:02:28.880 unromantic but it's basically what it is it's a new very lovely very rewarding uh job you take on now
00:02:38.640 also leading up to the birth itself perhaps you are a bit nervous again because you don't know
00:02:47.040 everything that's completely fine i would say that a good thing to reduce nervousness is to be you know
00:02:54.720 stay active with whatever else you're doing so for me i've been very occupied with writing my second
00:03:01.600 book and of course taking care of my wife so i haven't really had the time to be nervous in that
00:03:09.280 regard which also leads me into my second main point and that is taking care of your wife when she is
00:03:18.720 pregnant and postpartum now usually you should of course put your own mission first and focus on
00:03:24.640 that and the mission usually includes um you know taking care of your wife in a in the long term
00:03:33.360 so to provide and protect but when it comes to the late stages of pregnancy and the early stages of
00:03:40.800 postpartum you you sort of have to if possible um turn down the pace a bit on your own mission to
00:03:51.280 care more for her so this has been quite easy for me because my lovely wife she's always so supportive
00:03:56.960 of me making sure that i can focus on my stuff or the greater goal at hand so now it's been easy for me
00:04:03.600 to simply return the favor to try to be as supportive of her as possible then of course motherhood birth
00:04:12.080 everything like this it's a it's a female mystery uh so there is only so much a man can do you can
00:04:19.120 only play a supporting role and the yeah the main the main player of this drama is of course the woman so 1.00
00:04:29.440 there's only so much you can do then of course when it comes to fatherhood itself and this is a
00:04:36.400 video for another time might make one um you know your child is a reflection of yourself so if you
00:04:46.000 want a calm child you need to be a calm parent you can't lose your temper it's okay if you do i think
00:04:52.240 every father has at some stage lost his temper but when you recognize that as a as a weakness in
00:04:59.840 yourself then you can sort of hammer away at that weakness to bring out the alchemical gold inside
00:05:06.560 of yourself to become a better person so you can view fatherhood also as a as a challenge to become
00:05:12.720 the best that you can be to you know be calm and patient and everything like that so an agitated parent
00:05:20.480 is an agitated child a calm parent a calm child so view it as a continuous learning experience and
00:05:27.360 all will be well so all that said for all fathers to be best of luck and don't worry beforehand don't
00:05:34.640 worry about knowing everything things will pieces will fall into place in the puzzle of knowledge of
00:05:41.680 fatherly knowledge and uh yeah just view it as a learning experience one day at a time and try to be as
00:05:50.000 supportive of your wife as possible because she really needs it uh during the later stages of pregnancy and
00:05:56.720 especially postpartum because she needs to recover so anyway i will check in with you with a channel
00:06:03.760 update in a in a week or so and when i'm done with my book i promise that i will give more attention and
00:06:11.440 love to the video making i have actually missed it quite a bit focusing on the videos so i have some
00:06:17.360 plans in that regard stay tuned and thank you again for all of your well wishes xxo boom