The Golden One - January 05, 2019


Incels： ＂I Don't Look Good Enough To Get A Girlfriend＂ - It's Not Primarily About Your Looks, Brahs


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10 minutes

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Word count

1,685

Sentence count

107

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Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

3

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Hate speech

6

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Incels are a growing problem in the modern dating world. In this episode I discuss how to deal with incels and give some tips on how to overcome them. I also give some examples of what to look out for in an incel and how to avoid becoming one.

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00:00:00.000 Greetings, Laddingtons. Today I come bearing a black pill, a red pill, and a glorious pill.
00:00:06.200 This is meant as a video response to incels.
00:00:10.200 And also I will make a video called incels and female hypergamy at a later point,
00:00:16.640 but I just thought to address this question first and foremost.
00:00:20.200 So I've seen a good few guys saying I don't look good enough to get a girlfriend.
00:00:25.880 And it is not because you don't look good enough, it's because you are not manly enough.
00:00:31.700 That is the black pill.
00:00:33.280 And before I begin also, just a disclaimer.
00:00:37.080 Of course, if you look really good, you will have a much easier time with basically anything in life.
00:00:42.440 So if you look like this, boom, there is a distinct possibility that you will have girls clawing out each other's eyes to get you.
00:00:51.200 Simple as that.
00:00:52.000 And then also, since attraction is so based upon confidence, if you have looked good your entire life,
00:00:58.700 that confidence will obviously be applied in other areas as well.
00:01:02.500 And this is true also if you have been good at sports your entire life.
00:01:06.760 If you're used to winning, that sort of confidence that comes from your childhood or youth,
00:01:12.160 that comes with you when it comes to obtaining a fair maiden at a later point as well.
00:01:16.920 So, yes, obviously, let's all be very clear that if you are beautiful as a man, you will have an easier time with women.
00:01:24.100 Women like beautiful men.
00:01:25.460 No question about that at all.
00:01:27.360 But the thing here is that a lot of incels, they say you have to be an absolute chad to have any chance at all with women.
00:01:36.200 And this is not true.
00:01:37.700 And the thing with incels is that they focus so much on appearance.
00:01:43.860 And the black pill here is that it's not your looks that are unattractive to females. 0.98
00:01:50.060 What is the biggest turnoff for a female is someone who is socially inept. 1.00
00:01:55.920 And this is a black pill for many, but this is just the truth. 0.57
00:01:58.680 And if you have a low confidence, a girl can spot that a mile away.
00:02:02.680 And I'm not saying this, I'm not talking about this because I'm some sort of Casanova.
00:02:07.240 I'm talking about this because I am the herald of the primordial truth.
00:02:11.420 And this makes perfect sense if you think about it.
00:02:14.580 So then, if you are an incel and you think, oh, with my looks I will never be able to get a girlfriend.
00:02:20.820 Ask yourself a few other questions first.
00:02:24.100 Are you a valued member of a male tribe?
00:02:28.380 If you're not, okay, start there.
00:02:30.280 If you aren't a esteemed member, if you don't have a lot of other men thinking that you are a respectable member of a certain community.
00:02:39.200 So, for example, if you look at a football firm, a European football firm, or hooligan, or whatever you want to call it.
00:02:46.240 You will have the respect of other people, of other men.
00:02:49.960 And that is good in the eyes of women. 1.00
00:02:52.900 Otherwise, if a woman sees a guy who completely stands outside a male group, she has no point of reference.
00:02:59.340 You could be whatever.
00:03:00.700 You could be a complete hazard to her.
00:03:05.520 But if she has some points of reference that, okay, ten other guys who got their things together, you know, they can take care of themselves.
00:03:13.600 They don't back down.
00:03:14.520 They walk with confidence.
00:03:15.940 If they then say, okay, this guy is a valued member of our group.
00:03:19.740 He never backs down.
00:03:20.800 He has the backs of his mates.
00:03:23.440 And he can, you know, stand up for himself.
00:03:25.320 If the woman then has these sort of reference points, then obviously she can make a decision much easier. 0.83
00:03:32.080 So, instead of focusing on your looks, focus on, okay, am I an esteemed member of a male community?
00:03:39.580 If you're not, yeah, start there.
00:03:41.800 So, that is one question you can ask yourself.
00:03:43.840 The second question is, how strong are you?
00:03:46.480 How good are you at fighting?
00:03:48.280 How well-versed are you in the language of violence?
00:03:51.200 And to prove my point here, you can look at any UFC fighter, no matter which weight division they are in.
00:03:57.800 The majority of them have, you know, a usually beautiful woman by their side, despite them not being the ultimate pretty boy Chad.
00:04:07.960 But they at least show that they're on their way somewhere.
00:04:11.420 They have a goal that they're going for, training really hard for that.
00:04:14.780 And they have confidence and they can stand up for themselves.
00:04:17.720 So, if you are an incel, compare that with your own lifestyle. 0.69
00:04:21.940 Do you have a direct goal that you're working extremely hard towards every single day?
00:04:27.700 Obviously, no woman in the right mind wants a guy who isn't going somewhere, isn't having a firm direction which channels his energy. 0.71
00:04:36.060 So, ask yourself that.
00:04:37.460 Are you well-versed in this sort of thing?
00:04:40.720 If you're not, okay, start there.
00:04:42.260 Then it's probably not because you don't look good enough.
00:04:45.600 It's probably because a woman will look at you and say, will this guy be able to defend me and my children?
00:04:51.500 And if she perceives you as being weak, then, yeah, of course, it's an easy choice for her.
00:04:56.680 Then, next question is, do you spend a lot of time online complaining about that women will not love you because of your looks?
00:05:05.320 If that is how you spend your time, then, you can't really be surprised that women do not find you as an attractive partner.
00:05:13.780 Obviously, if you spend that time going after some goal of yours, no matter which goal it is, yeah, then she sees, okay, this guy at least, he has something going for him.
00:05:22.260 And if you do not have something going for you, if you spend your time on certain forums complaining about women, yeah, I mean, that's not a particularly attractive thing for a woman who, most regular normal women, okay, they're severely decreased in the modern age.
00:05:37.040 But still, they will be looking for a stable supplier that can take care of himself, that shows some sort of drive, that shows some sort of thumos. 0.87
00:05:46.100 And obviously, if she then looks at someone who sits around complaining all day, yeah, not a good look.
00:05:51.700 And then also, the next point, how jacked are you?
00:05:54.400 And this is no surprise coming from me, but it bears repeating, anyway, do you look powerful?
00:06:00.300 And I'm not talking about you need to be bodybuilder massive, and I'm not talking about you need to have shredded abs to attract females. 0.98
00:06:07.840 I'm just talking about do you look powerful?
00:06:09.700 Do you look jacked?
00:06:10.660 Do you look like you could cause damage in a physical altercation?
00:06:14.740 Do you look like you are tough?
00:06:17.080 These sort of things matter.
00:06:18.140 So, yet again, I'm not talking about spending all your time in the gym, but spend at least four days in the gym each week.
00:06:26.160 Put on some size.
00:06:27.080 You will be more attractive if you portray a more dominant and comfortable aura.
00:06:33.660 So, if you put on five or ten kg of muscle, you will be in a better position.
00:06:38.000 You will not magically attract females, but the aura you present will help you in that.
00:06:44.200 Or, if you don't want to go to the gym, take up some sort of martial arts.
00:06:47.640 It will rub off on you.
00:06:49.440 The confidence will rub off on you.
00:06:51.780 Your health and vigor will show true.
00:06:54.320 And if you have that goal that you should at least train hard, I'm absolutely certain that females will pick up on that.
00:07:02.280 Health, vigor, strength, martial prowess, always good to have.
00:07:06.240 And then also, if you increase the value of yourself in the eyes of other men, as a brother in the tribe, so to speak, as a valued male member,
00:07:15.960 then you will also be increased in the eyes of women. 1.00
00:07:19.560 So, if you impress men, if you try to portray yourself as a good, solid, shield brother, women will have that as reference points to whether you are a good match or not. 0.70
00:07:30.220 So, to give an example, you have one guy who is a valued member of whatever male community.
00:07:37.220 It might be a football firm, it might be an MMA team, it might be sons of the Männerbund.
00:07:41.600 And a guy who is appreciated because of his virtues among other men.
00:07:46.240 That will create good reference points for the women to look at. 1.00
00:07:50.340 And in contrast, you can have a guy without any social setting.
00:07:55.020 The girl doesn't have any reference points to go to. 0.99
00:07:57.680 So, therefore, she might have a harder time deciding.
00:08:00.500 So, anyway, to conclude, the teaching here is that it's probably not because of your face.
00:08:06.800 And, yet again, I'm not saying that beauty doesn't matter.
00:08:09.360 Of course, beauty matters a lot.
00:08:10.920 A very beautiful chad male will have a massive advantage when it comes to women.
00:08:16.280 But we're talking about the majority of guys and the majority of girls.
00:08:20.300 The majority of guys can get a girl if they work on certain aspects.
00:08:25.380 And it is not because of your face, it's because of the other questions you need to ask yourself.
00:08:31.940 Where are you in your life?
00:08:33.700 What social standing do you have?
00:08:35.240 Are you an appreciated male individual?
00:08:38.320 Are you someone who has a direction in life?
00:08:41.600 So, ask yourself these sort of questions and do not fret about your appearance too much.
00:08:47.940 Go to the gym, train some martial arts, cultivate a Männerbund. 0.67
00:08:52.560 And go about a sacred quest.
00:08:56.180 And then I'm absolutely certain that you will have at least some better opportunities when it comes to the Fair Maidens.
00:09:02.180 And for the love of Talos, do not spend your time complaining about your appearance.
00:09:08.500 You can do something about it and I suggest that you start immediately.
00:09:13.480 XXO. Boom.
00:09:14.800 What about it?
00:09:30.640 Come on.
00:09:34.380 Come on.
00:09:37.460 Come on.
00:09:38.400 Come on.
00:09:39.520 Come on.
00:09:40.780 Got it.
00:09:41.800 Thank you.