00:08:09.780you hate everything and you also hate this. So I suppose that should come as no surprise.
00:08:15.660Here's what happened. Women looked at the meal that men had been eating for millennia
00:08:19.640and demanded that they be served the exact same food in the exact same portions.
00:08:25.940And then they got a taste of it and they nearly vomited from the taste. So it's a little bit like
00:08:31.140when I was a kid and I would always ask my dad for a sip of his beer because it looked frothy
00:08:38.580and delicious. Like it looked like a milkshake. I always thought like it looks like a milkshake.
00:08:43.100And he would always say no until one day he finally said, all right, fine, here, take a sip.
00:08:47.900And I took one sip and I was horrified. I was scared. I was confused. It was bitter. It was
00:08:54.580awful. It tastes nothing like a milkshake. And I think a very similar process is playing out
00:09:01.100right now with feminists in the workforce. You know, it's not just these random women on cable
00:09:06.340news, by the way, the statistics consistently bear this out. So for marriages where the woman
00:09:12.640is the primary breadwinner, the divorce rate is three times higher than marriages where the male
00:09:19.040is the primary breadwinner. And that's just when the woman earns more money, even when the man is
00:09:23.640also earning a living. In cases where the woman is the sole breadwinner, the divorce rate is five
00:09:29.480times higher. So feminists got the thing they said they wanted, to play the role of a man,
00:09:37.700to be the patriarch, right? To bring home the bacon, to reverse the gender roles once in for all.
00:09:45.080And now they don't want it anymore. A tale as old as time. And why don't they want it?
00:09:50.680Well, because they've realized that being the provider, carrying the weight of that obligation is a burden. It is an act of service. It is a duty. It is not a perk.
00:10:32.580That actually requires a lot of sacrifice.
00:10:34.620Now, if you're a woman who detests the very thought of being the breadwinner in your household, and most women do detest the thought of that, whether they say it out loud or not, they detest it.
00:10:47.240Well, you should consider why you detest it so much.
00:10:51.520It's because it seems like a burden to you.
00:10:53.880It seems like an expectation placed unevenly on your shoulders.
00:10:58.220And you're not wrong to see it that way.
00:10:59.940And you're not wrong to recoil at the idea of being the breadwinner for a man.
00:11:03.980It doesn't make you selfish. It actually just makes you normal.
00:11:08.520But it should give you a deeper appreciation, at least, for what men have been doing for many centuries.
00:11:47.920And yet, of course, that has not prompted feminists to reevaluate their assessment of the patriarchy and the traditional role that men played in society, even though they've now seen firsthand that the man's role was one of service, of love, of sacrifice.
00:12:07.440It's not actually a vacation to leave the house and work a job.
00:12:12.420It's not a source of unending thrills and amusement.
00:14:44.260Here we mean, or at least I mean, a man who has chosen by his own free will to leave the workforce and be a house husband while his wife takes over as breadwinner.
00:14:57.100And I know that we're supposed to be very tolerant and very accepting of those kinds of arrangements these days.
00:15:02.780But tolerance and acceptance have never been my strong suits.
00:15:06.420And besides, even if I could learn to stop worrying and love the stay-at-home-husband trend and I can't, the fact remains that women, the wives who have to bring home the bacon, they don't love it.
00:15:19.380Some of them might say they do, but the divorce rate speaks for itself.
00:15:24.580Marriages are much, much more likely to fall apart if the man is not working.
00:15:30.720That is the reality, and there is a reason for that.
00:22:53.700taking the kids to the park, bringing drinks and meals to his wife. It was like sitting at
00:23:00.960the computer doing a job. You immediately recognize it as somehow disordered, wrong,
00:23:08.580unnatural. Now, you might feel bad for recognizing that. I don't, but you might.
00:23:15.100But you do recognize it. And that is not some idle bigotry. It's thousands of years of
00:23:23.500human experience. In every society that has ever existed from ancient times until today,
00:23:30.040men have always been tasked with providing material sustenance for the family. That has
00:23:36.900always been, always, fundamentally the man's job. Whether they were going out to hunt or farm or
00:23:45.620earn a paycheck, men have for thousands of years left the house, gone out into the world or down
00:23:53.980to the field or into the woods to fight and kill and provide. That has always been the man's role
00:24:00.760everywhere in one form or another. Now, the fact that it's always been that way is a pretty good
00:24:07.040indication, perhaps not always decisive on its own, but a pretty good indication that it's meant
00:24:13.460to be that way. Or at the very least, if something has always been a certain way,
00:24:19.640always, always, always for thousands of years, before you change it, you should be very clear
00:24:28.060about why it was that way before and why you're changing it. I think it's G.K. Chester that makes
00:24:34.720this point about you're walking along and there's a fence. Just because a fence is there, does that
00:24:40.120mean the fence should be there forever? Every fence that's ever been erected, does that mean
00:24:43.280that none of them should ever be torn down? Not necessarily. But before you start tearing down
00:24:48.000that fence, you better be damn well sure why the fence was, who put it there? How long has it been
00:24:55.240there? And why is it there? And if you don't know why the fence is there, you are a fool for tearing
00:25:01.660it down. Okay. You're going to get your face mulled off by a pit bull if you're tearing down
00:25:07.260the fence without knowing why it's there. And of course, our society has been doing a version of
00:25:11.940that for many years. Just coming across every fence we see, except for actual fences like
00:25:18.720border walls, but every metaphorical fence we see in our culture, we just say, oh, that shouldn't
00:25:23.300be there. Oh, that's like a restriction. That's a thing that's telling me what to do. It must be
00:25:28.100wrong. Now, can we go against our biology and nature and experience and the wisdom of our
00:25:35.740ancestors and totally rewrite the program, flipping these gender roles upside down? Yes, we can.
00:25:41.940Is it a good idea? Does it work? Does it make us happier? Does it make our families stronger, healthier?
00:25:50.320Well, the proof is in the pudding. Marriages tend to fall apart quicker and more often when the roles are reversed.
00:25:56.560And multiple studies, including one recently, have found that stay-at-home husbands are more likely to be depressed, more likely to feel isolated, stressed.
00:26:03.900And the women set off to work jobs outside the home are also more likely to be depressed.
00:26:08.740as we discussed this week, working moms are more likely, not less, to be on psychiatric drugs
00:26:14.380than stay-at-home moms. So it turns out that gender roles are not arbitrary. They are in fact
00:26:23.980reflections of our inherent nature. Women are more suited to the role of homemaker and caretaker.
00:26:32.040And to begin with, it's not an incidental fact that women are also the ones who bear children.
00:26:37.340There's a lot of practical reasons why the person in the marriage who carries the child in her womb and then births that child, like that is also the person who stays home with the kids.