Who's The Biggest A-Hole？ Episode 5
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Summary
Have you ever been in a situation where you ve been called a "mama's boy" or a "mom's boy"? And then you want to apologize to your husband for ruining his birthday dinner? Have you ever called your brother a "Mama's Boy" and then refused to apologize for calling your wife a "A Mama's Boy"?
Transcript
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let's see my mom has a huge pot belly pig as a pet okay now here's a story i want to read
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this is an actual important story she rescued him from a farm he's seven years old i believe
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back when i was planning my wedding my mom kept on trying to add things to my wedding specifically
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for the pig for example she wanted him to have his own buffet i turned all her ideas down and told
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her the pig will not be attending my wedding it's got to be a fake story but i like it anyway even
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after i told her i didn't want him at my wedding she continued to try to get me to plan my wedding
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around him she told me that she needs him to be there because it's her support animal he isn't a
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registered support animal even though he does bring her a big deal of comfort in my husband's
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culture pigs are seen as dirty animals and it would absolutely be unfitting for me to have a pig at our
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wedding especially because it would be disrespectful to his family as opposed to all the other cultures
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where that would be totally normal right well my mom decides to bring her pet pig to my wedding anyway
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even after i told her not to and she showed up late i could tell my husband was highly upset with
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it but stopped me when i went to confront her because he didn't want his new mother-in-law to
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hate him was this thing written by a pig because i can't even hardly read it my sister-in-law ended up
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getting scared because the pig rubbed up against her which caused the pig to get scared and run off
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and bump into some expensive glass decorations which ended up falling and breaking the future this is
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not real this didn't happen come on i think i saw this episode of king of queens i was beyond angry at
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my mom this would have never happened if she didn't bring her pig to my wedding so i yelled at her to
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leave i don't believe this didn't happen at all but i hope it did because you know what if it did if
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it did happen then you are the a-hole not your mom this would be amazing like weddings are so boring
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and i understand this is a contradiction for me i'm a big proponent of the holy sacrament of matrimony
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i think people should get married i think it's wonderful but it's really boring too and uh it is
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just excruciatingly boring weddings are by trying to keep the pig out this is like a source of
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entertainment and this is a wedding that people will remember that's the other thing you want your
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wedding to be memorable don't you and most weddings are not memorable they're forgotten
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for you you might talk about them later oh our wedding was a magical day no one else thought
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it was magical everyone else was bored out of their minds for most of it this is memorable this
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is incredible i am fully on board with uh barn animals being included in wedding parties
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am i the a-hole for calling my brother a mama's boy and refusing to apologize for ruining his birthday
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okay my brother and his wife live at my mom's house mom tends to get involved in their marriage
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constantly and my brother lets her uh sister-in-law always complains about mom steamrolling her and
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her decisions and violating her privacy when sister-in-law got pregnant mom got worse she went
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out and bought a whole nursery and put it in her room despite sister-in-law having one in her room
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the most recent conflict is about mom pushing to be in the delivery room and sister-in-law saying no
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my brother not only is siding with mom but he's making promises to her to keep her happy
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uh last week we were gathered at mom's house for my brother's birthday his friends came and asked
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why sister-in-law wasn't at dinner table my brother nonchalantly said that she was just being
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a princess acting spoiled and immature over everything i was shocked and hurt on her behalf
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so i responded actually she's probably just upset now that she realizes that you're a grade a mama's
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boy ready to do whatever mom says while ignoring your wife's wishes brief silence while his friends
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stared he started arguing about how disrespectful i was he told my husband uh to say something and my
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husband just said don't mind me i'm just a bystander oh your husband real brave on your
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husband's part what's what's up with the men in these fans this family here dinner got awkward and
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my brother's friends left early he went off on me saying i embarrassed him before his friends and
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ruined his birthday dinner i decided to go home because he kept yelling mom then called demanding
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i apologize for the rude things i said at dinner table but i refused i think first of all you and
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your sister have similar problems you both uh you both chose some winners here so you're getting
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screamed at and your husband just sitting there don't mind me i'm just a bystander coward no you're
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not the a-hole here i mean i think you did the right thing the first problem here is that your your
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brother is a grown man throwing a birthday party for himself and you know how i feel about that as a
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grown adult and you're throwing a birthday party for yourself and then crying because someone ruined it
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you ruined my birthday what are you five years old apparently so at least emotionally and mentally
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to be expected from an adult man who still lives at home demands his mommy take his side in arguments
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and look leaving all that aside just a a quick tip here for it should be pretty obvious but there are
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many married couples don't seem to understand this in a marriage um you never complain about or insult
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your spouse publicly in front of others now you shouldn't insult your spouse at all it's not a good
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thing to do but if you're gonna have a heated disagreement and there's gonna be and if there's gonna be
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rude things said back and forth and it shouldn't happen but it happens sometimes in a marriage you never
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bring other people in on that okay you never do that it's never the right thing and it's so you have to
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it blows my mind when i encounter people and this is so common like married couples they don't
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understand first of all your loyalty should be to your spouse first and foremost that's the relationship
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that should be the most meaningful to you in the entire world that that's the relationship that you
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that takes number one priority is your relationship to your spouse even above your kids your relationship
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to your spouse is even more important than your relationship to your kids that comes first
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because that's what your kids need your kids need your mom and dad to have a good relationship
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so it's for their sake also that you work on that relationship first and then everything flows down
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for some background my husband and i have been married for a little over a year we recently bought a nice
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house it has a pool and a hot tub and one of the things i've enjoyed is unwinding after a long day
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my family has always been very comfortable with nudity so i find it really irritating and completely
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unnecessary to be told to restrict some perfectly harmless things such as swimming and hot tubbing
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nude topless sunbathing having to wear a bra whenever guests are over nude grilling hot tubs
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hippie houseboats now my husband's old mom who is from a different world my husband's old mom
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does he have a new mom there's something different about you she's a southern lady who's super prudish and
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very passive aggressive is staying with us for a month my husband wants me to stop sunbathing
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swimming hot tubbing topless and dress up a little bit more when having breakfast and dinner and by
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dress up i think it means like just dress at all he's not saying dress up just dress put on anything
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any kind of clothing at all we have guests over please honey i flat out refused i told her she's a
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guest in our house and i won't be rude or inappropriate i'm not gonna be rude or inappropriate but i will
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walk around nude am i the a**hole here um are you the a-hole yes you are and you're also showing it
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off to everybody in the house which is a good indication that you are one that's a rule of thumb
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if you're showing your a** to people then you are one like that's i think we could kind of take that
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put that on a bumper sticker those words to live by a lot of entitled people and uh and it's a common
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theme now maybe all these entitled people don't walk around naked in their house and maybe they do
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but there's this this thing people do where they expect every accommodation to be made for them
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but if they are ever expected to make any accommodation for anybody else it's oppression
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so that's the way she's living her life everyone has to accommodate to her but even being asked to
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simply put on clothing when my mother is here she can't do that in conclusion put some clothes on
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you freak that's my message to this person and indeed to the whole world a world which is