The NXR Podcast - March 31, 2023


DAILY TRUTH - Clear Signs Of An Abusive Pastor


Episode Stats


Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

144.2

Word count

1,631

Sentence count

59

Harmful content

Misogyny

1

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Toxicity

1

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Summary

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In this episode, Pastor David French and I discuss what spiritual abuse is and what it means in the context of the church. We discuss the role of spiritual authority in the church and how it relates to spiritual abuse. God bless!

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 All right, listen, guys, I get it.
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00:00:42.320 Jesus said,
00:00:43.500 man cannot live on bread alone,
00:00:45.140 but from every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.
00:00:48.160 You're listening to Daily Truth.
00:00:52.340 There is no such thing as inherent human authority.
00:00:58.220 meaning that an unjust law is not a law.
00:01:05.020 An unjust law is no law at all.
00:01:09.120 And that applies to the civil realm,
00:01:12.340 that applies to the home,
00:01:15.160 and that applies to the church.
00:01:18.780 Would someone in spiritual authority,
00:01:21.720 an ecclesiastical authority in the realm of the church
00:01:24.980 says something or commands something that is not rooted in the commandments of god in scripture
00:01:33.840 a church member not only is it permissible to disobey your pastor it is actually required
00:01:41.840 that you resist that ecclesiastical tyranny that's why when things are not clear one of the things
00:01:51.080 that a godly and mature pastor will seek to do is to exercise the authority of counsel rather than
00:01:58.340 the authority of command because counsel can be rejected when a pastor gives you his counsel you
00:02:05.200 can say thanks but no thanks but when a command is given it's given with a binding quality and now
00:02:14.020 if it is not a command of scripture and the pastor is wrong you must still resist it but the pastor
00:02:19.920 is actually exercising tyranny. That would be spiritual abuse. That he is going beyond his
00:02:26.840 jurisdiction. All human authority is vested authority. There is no such thing as inherent
00:02:33.260 human authority. And with this vested authority, all human authority has very clear binding
00:02:40.720 jurisdictions you have authority this far and no further a pastor only has so much authority
00:02:51.760 and he must not overstep the bounds of his authority that's why again with covid when it
00:02:59.460 came to shutting down churches my position was to keep the church open one because of revelation one
00:03:06.820 that we started with in our worship today, a theological reason, but a practical reason,
00:03:12.780 not just theological, but just logical, and not wanting to be an abusive ecclesiastical tyrant.
00:03:19.600 If the church is closed, everyone who's in the church who feels obligated and convicted
00:03:25.180 to worship, their conscience is dismissed. You cannot worship God. We close the church.
00:03:31.980 if the church is open guess what that position allows for people can stay home and some who feel
00:03:40.000 called to worship can worship one position objectively accommodates more people one
00:03:46.780 position namely opening the church allows those to stay home if they wish and those who want to
00:03:52.160 worship to worship but the position of closing the church is essentially pastors all over our nation
00:03:57.560 who said to their congregants who felt convicted by the Holy Spirit and from the Word of God,
00:04:02.680 like Revelation chapter 1, like Hebrews chapter 10 verse 24 and 25, do not neglect the gathering
00:04:08.500 of the saints as some have done. Those who felt convicted from the Spirit and the Word of God
00:04:14.160 that we should be gathering. Pastors who closed their churches said, your conscience doesn't
00:04:19.640 matter i don't care and i will force you to sin against your own conscience and that pastor should
00:04:29.840 be removed that is abuse that is spiritual abuse when we think here's here's the deal when we think
00:04:37.720 of spiritual abuse abuse we think that guy yells when he preaches or we think that guy takes really
00:04:45.820 strong positions like the husband is the head of his wife or we think that guy that guy believes
00:04:53.180 that when it comes to parenting uh that the parent who spares the rod hates their child
00:04:59.360 yeah that's that's quoting scripture that's a quote not exegesis a quote like that guy's harsh
00:05:06.920 no but when when the bible talks about what's actually abusive think of the false teachers
00:05:12.160 that Paul's constantly combating.
00:05:14.580 Do you know what is characteristic
00:05:16.020 and descriptive of the false teachers?
00:05:18.080 They're the guys who have smooth and flattering speech,
00:05:22.400 the scripture says.
00:05:23.400 The bad guys, right?
00:05:24.760 Are we the baddies? 0.99
00:05:25.940 I wish Big Eva would do that.
00:05:27.320 Are we the baddies?
00:05:28.580 Yes.
00:05:30.180 David French, am I the baddie?
00:05:31.860 Phil Vicious, am I?
00:05:32.540 Yes.
00:05:33.980 The baddies in the New Testament,
00:05:35.800 they're the guys who have the very smooth tone.
00:05:39.600 the nicest guys are the bad guys and then the guys who who preach sermons like peter on the
00:05:49.220 day of pentecost in acts 2 that says this jesus who you crucified god has resurrected and made him
00:05:56.560 both savior and lord right preacher don't say you say we we include yourself we peter says you
00:06:04.820 look at all the old-timey preachers Spurgeon we was not in his vocabulary I don't even know if he
00:06:11.040 knew the word it's you always you that's how the apostles the good guys preached the way that the
00:06:20.980 bad guys talked was smooth seductive nice flattering so their tongue was kind but what
00:06:31.060 made the person actually a heretic was not how they said things but what they said
00:06:39.240 we live in a culture and the evangelical church has opted for this position as well we live in
00:06:47.540 a culture and a church age where we care more about how something is said than what is said
00:06:54.520 the party that is always identified by the New Testament apostles as the false teachers
00:07:01.640 are the ones who are introducing strange doctrines. It doesn't matter how they introduce it.
00:07:10.080 It doesn't matter what speech or tone or attitude they have. What matters is not how, but what.
00:07:18.020 and in fact the apostle paul goes even further and talks about those who are quarrelsome he uses
00:07:24.760 the word quarrelsome and upsetting whole households and you know who they are the
00:07:29.900 quarrelsome people truly objectively quarrelsome in the mind of paul are the people who have the
00:07:35.460 nicest tone you'll ever find smooth and flattering speech but they are quarrelsome because they are
00:07:43.040 the ones who are introducing to the apostolic church strange doctrine that's causing fights
00:07:49.460 and conflict the person who introduces wrong doctrine is the one who is labeled as the
00:07:55.480 quarreler and the person who defends the truth even if he does it with a raised voice is not
00:08:02.940 the quarreler but that is the one who is faithful and for the record the reason why i believe
00:08:10.960 faithful pastors do preach and don't just pace back and forth between two ferns with skinny jeans
00:08:18.320 and a plexiglass pulpit, right? That the pulpit is just as see-through as the pastor's soul. I'm
00:08:24.420 just going to share with you. The reason why faithful pastors don't preach like that, the
00:08:30.300 reason why they have pulpits that look like tanks, and the reason why they yell from time to time,
00:08:35.560 and they say we occasionally but they also say you is because the scripture commands let the one
00:08:41.860 who speaks speak as though he is speaking the very oracles of god so when i preach i am not getting
00:08:50.020 up here to share with you my thoughts if i am to preach at all scripture commands me to preach as
00:08:58.120 though i am heralding the very oracles of god so it is not i feel like or i think or maybe
00:09:05.080 if i've got a theological maybe in my arsenal you save that for a podcast or a conversation
00:09:12.920 over a snack with a friend you don't bring that into the pulpit of god because here you herald
00:09:20.440 the oracles of god you don't whisper
00:09:24.360 you don't speculate you preach you preach and although many would say that's harsh tone and
00:09:36.000 therefore that is quarrelsomeness the bible says precisely the opposite can i be frank with you
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