Valuetainment - November 04, 2026


When Does Protecting Your Kids Become Enabling Them？

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1,634

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00:00:00.000 And then you know what else it is?
00:00:01.980 Man, I saw something today.
00:00:03.300 I read something today for send it to Jen.
00:00:06.000 I think every parent, I see this when parents do this.
00:00:08.160 It's such a massive mistake.
00:00:10.280 And you don't, you're trying to explain this to some people.
00:00:13.540 But unfortunately, not everybody subscribes to this mindset.
00:00:16.840 I'll read it to you.
00:00:18.920 And here's what it is.
00:00:19.900 Let me see if I saved it or not.
00:00:21.280 Did I save it?
00:00:21.880 I thought I saved it.
00:00:23.740 I sent it to Jen this morning.
00:00:25.380 Let me just go on my DMs.
00:00:26.720 Go for it.
00:00:27.200 Let me tell you what it says.
00:00:28.120 It talks about what parents with high standards do with their kids.
00:00:34.840 Okay?
00:00:35.360 Parents with high standards do with their kids.
00:00:38.200 Here we go.
00:00:39.420 So let me go to the slide one.
00:00:40.940 Thank you for your patience, everybody.
00:00:42.940 Here's what it says.
00:00:44.780 It says, something I noticed about parents who raise kids with the dog mentality.
00:00:50.700 The dog mentality.
00:00:52.100 Like competitive sports.
00:00:54.180 The difference between raising a kid with drive and high standards.
00:00:57.860 And simply being too hard on them is not even close.
00:01:03.000 Amon Ra, he explains this one father, Brown, grew up with a dad who had very high standards.
00:01:08.200 Amon Ra, St. Brown, grew up with a dad who had high standards.
00:01:12.040 John Brown started training his sons when they were young,
00:01:15.360 and people criticized him for being too hard on them.
00:01:17.900 But years later, Amon Ra said he understood that some fathers go too far.
00:01:22.240 He just didn't believe his dad did.
00:01:24.460 His dad was tough when he came down to sports.
00:01:26.300 And Amon Ra said he wouldn't change it.
00:01:29.780 Now, I don't think the lesson is be harder on your kids or train them younger.
00:01:34.780 I think the lesson is much more important.
00:01:36.820 High standard says, I know what you're capable of.
00:01:39.480 Being too hard says, why aren't you good enough yet, right?
00:01:42.840 Those are not the same thing.
00:01:44.080 High standards still leave room for mistakes.
00:01:46.180 Bad games, bad attitude, getting benched, being corrected, losing, struggling, all that stuff.
00:01:51.520 Because sometimes a lesson isn't found by removing the hard moment.
00:01:54.920 It's found in teaching our kids how to respond to it.
00:01:57.940 That's where I think the dog actually starts.
00:01:59.940 Not with a parent constantly pushing, with a kid learning, what am I doing about this?
00:02:05.940 Bad game, what do I need to do differently?
00:02:07.840 Got bench, how do I need to earn back?
00:02:09.740 Someone is better, what do I need to do to improve?
00:02:12.840 And this is where the parenting gets hard.
00:02:14.600 Because when our kids hurt, our first instinct is to what?
00:02:17.500 Often help, fix it, explain and protect them.
00:02:19.760 Make it better.
00:02:20.440 Sometimes that's exactly what they need.
00:02:22.020 A hug, encouragement, someone to listen to.
00:02:23.940 but sometimes they need to change, they need the chance to work through it.
00:02:28.680 Not every uncomfortable moment needs to be removed.
00:02:31.180 Sometimes discomfort is when kids learn, I can handle this, I can adjust,
00:02:34.740 I can keep going, and maybe that's where our standards should live.
00:02:37.740 Effort, preparation, attitude, how they respond to adversity
00:02:40.580 and not just goals, wins, minutes, we can expect a lot from our kids
00:02:44.060 and still make sure they know they're loved when they fall short.
00:02:47.520 High standards and a safe home can exist together.
00:02:49.840 So what's the point?
00:02:50.660 Sometimes we're too soft on our kids.
00:02:52.900 Sometimes we see our kids can never make a mistake.
00:02:55.840 The other day I'm having a conversation with a couple of our friends,
00:02:59.100 and I sat, so, hey, how's Dylan doing?
00:03:00.940 How's this?
00:03:01.420 I'm like, listen, you know, the coach did this.
00:03:03.820 Yeah, you know, the coach is this.
00:03:05.000 I said, guys, listen, time out.
00:03:07.420 I'm not part of the camp that everything is the coach's fault.
00:03:10.320 I'm part of the camp.
00:03:11.340 If you're good enough, you're old enough.
00:03:13.980 So this is not like, well, nope, that's not how it works.
00:03:16.720 I don't feel sorry for my kid to protect them.
00:03:19.720 so sometimes these families like this,
00:03:23.180 you don't think there was protection from the family?
00:03:24.780 There was, yes, and no accountability.
00:03:25.800 You don't think there's protection from the family?
00:03:28.120 You don't think there's that fear of,
00:03:30.900 if I even catch you doing something like that,
00:03:33.320 do you know what's going to happen when you come home?
00:03:35.080 Oh, it's okay.
00:03:36.060 Oh, you got the girl.
00:03:37.360 It's okay.
00:03:38.160 What are you training these boys to be?
00:03:41.000 So I think a part of it is also men and fathers,
00:03:44.420 how we joke about guys getting girls and boys getting girls,
00:03:47.660 And you have to be very diligent and serious about that topic with your kids, especially with your boys, or else they're going to think it's a silly, slippery slope.
00:03:57.740 No, no, no.
00:03:58.500 There is no slippery slope here because a man with three daughters is capable of doing what to protect his three girls?
00:04:04.120 Anything.
00:04:04.800 You know what you touched on, which doesn't exist in society anymore?
00:04:08.480 Rites of passage are gone in society.
00:04:10.880 used to have young men almost every culture throughout all of history used to used to put men
00:04:16.600 through young men through some kind of trial so that they could understand their strength understand
00:04:22.160 their limitations and work through it themselves and then they would be accepted by the tribe or
00:04:27.180 by that culture or by that society as a man and with that came responsibility this is a perfect
00:04:32.900 example of men who didn't learn the responsibility of their actions because they never had a you know
00:04:38.380 a rite of passage or something that led them to understand i'm a man now i'm capable my actions
00:04:44.940 mean something i can hurt other people with my actions and i have to be responsible so i think
00:04:49.740 rites of passage is a big thing that has to come back to society they didn't learn the shared 0.61
00:04:53.660 humanity to treat other people like this like they're garbage like me something is wrong here 0.86
00:04:58.160 something is big excessive money excessive privilege excessive no consequences and it's 0.98
00:05:03.820 just a slippery slope that keeps getting worse and worse and worse treat another human being like
00:05:07.620 this. And do it repeatedly. The only
00:05:09.600 way you can is, like Tom said,
00:05:11.440 there's a systemic problem. It's a systemic. Absolutely.
00:05:13.540 These guys are defective units.
00:05:15.380 I don't like this story. I'm only talking
00:05:17.580 about this story because a year and a half ago, a year ago, we
00:05:19.500 talked about this story and it's closure on this story.
00:05:21.740 We talked about Humberto. We've got to get closure
00:05:23.620 on this story. So we're getting closure. I don't like this story.
00:05:26.480 But, you know,
00:05:28.280 as a father and your
00:05:29.640 boys, four feelings.
00:05:32.580 Likeability,
00:05:33.680 respect, love,
00:05:36.460 fear.
00:05:37.400 We can put trust there, but let's set trust aside.
00:05:39.940 Let's go through them.
00:05:41.360 Too many fathers are too concerned about being liked.
00:05:44.700 Likeability is last on my list.
00:05:46.720 I could care less if you like me or not.
00:05:49.460 Don't get me wrong. 1.00
00:05:50.280 I'm not trying to be a jerk or an asshole. 1.00
00:05:52.240 You're around. 1.00
00:05:52.820 We're together all the time.
00:05:54.120 But that's not a number one priority.
00:05:56.580 Respect, love, unconditional love, you're going to get.
00:06:00.140 Because God chose me to be your father.
00:06:01.920 This father with the three boys, you think he still loves his three boys?
00:06:04.900 Of course he does.
00:06:06.280 That's how God created us.
00:06:07.420 It's your kid, right?
00:06:09.200 But I tell you, if as a father you don't use enough fear,
00:06:13.540 you know, sometimes you just sell the dream
00:06:15.020 and get them to realize they can get away with anything,
00:06:17.280 you're still going to be there for them, that's a mistake.
00:06:19.520 The mismanagement of how the energy of fear is used,
00:06:23.140 I don't know, I just really don't like this story.
00:06:26.020 This story really bothers me.
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