She Got REVENGE On Him By SLEEPING With Him?! | Dating Talk #109
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In this episode of the Whatever Dating Talk podcast, we introduce ourselves and talk about our experiences with online dating. We also have a special guest, who happens to be a student at UC Santa Barbara and a paralegal.
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before i have the guests introduce themselves uh we had 10 flakes today
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eight of which were well okay we had a couple no shows i think seven of which were under 24 hour
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notice so i'd like to just do a little shout out noelle claims to have covid jazz claims to have
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covid iona claims to have covid mesinze i don't know how the fuck to pronounce your name claims to
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have covid alissa fence sitter whose boyfriend didn't approve katie no reason given natalia no reason
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given jatania no show jack yaz yaz no show sarah no show gentlemen this is what you're going to be
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dealing with in the dating marketplace you're going to get flaked on day of they don't give a fuck
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this is why you don't plan some elaborate first date because any of you who've had experience with
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dating know that last minute flakes are extremely common when i was more active in the dating scene
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i think my flake rate was for planned dates was like 50 percent uh and they're going to flake right
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before the date like a few hours before so uh yeah that's what you're dealing with in the dating
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marketplace anyways without further ado we're going to have the guests introduce themselves so please
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tell us your name age and occupation go ahead hi my name is rachel i am 21 and i am a student
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currently at uc santa barbara and i study biopsychology got it welcome hi my name is ariel i'm 23 years old
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and i'm a paralegal okay do you want to become a lawyer i do want to become an attorney yeah because
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your instagram handle is like miss attorney so you're not quite there not yet not yet but you
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want to be an attorney do you know what kind of law you'd like to practice i would like to either go
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into big corporate law or civil rights law oh if you can close the doors nick um corp corporate law
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okay got it okay what about you i'm yasmin i'm 32 and i work in sales all right
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uh i'm becca i'm 29 i also work in sales what what do you guys sell drugs no um i work for a tech
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company so software okay what about you drug dealer medical aesthetics oh so you work at the plastic
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surgeons office right sort of but not really like it's more like lasers lasers so what are some
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what what are you what are you selling precisely laser facials laser hair removal okay okay so yeah
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yeah that's not cosmetic surgery that's it's almost dermatology kind of yeah but it falls under
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medical aesthetics uh violet what about you i'm violet i'm 23 and i'm a content creator 23 content
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what kind of content do you make violet i make adult content and travel lifestyle kind of okay got it
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um how long have you been doing adult content for since i was 18 since you're 18 okay and i've been
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making content since i was 17 like not okay okay okay okay um and when it comes to the adult content
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wait at any point were you a dancer too no i mean i was a dancer in high school but not like
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adult like yeah um and when it comes to the content you do is it are you making solo content bg content
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girl girl content would you i mainly do solo i have done collabs with girls um i'd like i prefer solo
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because i can kind of just do my own thing and i've also done like boy girl with strangers and
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you know random people but nothing like oh i collabed with a male porn star i've never done that
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but you so you have done bg content correct yes okay gotcha are you at liberty to speak about the recent
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uh dilemma with your content creation or um yeah i can speak a bit about it are you saying like with
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my management with management because like you you were working with a management company and then
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yeah you had a falling out i was with them since i was 18 um and that's when i got my name violet
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summers and they put me on all my accounts and i've worked with them oh i'm so sorry so i've been
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with them since i was 18 and they put me on all of my accounts and it's been great i just wanted to
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do something else and i have no ill will towards them but okay it's his decision ultimately in the
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end if i get to keep my accounts and that just wasn't really what he wanted to do so i totally
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understand and it's good i wish them well but i wanted to move on well because didn't you have like
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a instagram account with 13 million followers on it yes i did and but it wasn't yours it was the
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management company's account yes so he gave me that when i started working for him and i built it up
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but technically it's his because we had an agreement that i would make it money the whole time okay have
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you thought about trying to buy the account or did they delete it what did they do with it so i talked
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to him and i was like hey i would love to still work with you with on social media or if i could
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buy the account um the only way he wants to do it is to have a brand i don't know he wanted me to make
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a brand and then we could sell something from that account with that brand but i just really want to
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focus on content creating right now and i just don't want to do that so i just told him no okay oh so
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there's not like a big falling out or anything just no it's just um everyone has their own
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relationship and idea about aaron um who aaron is the manager of nudies sorry you've talked to him
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before aaron yes oh no just kidding but um wait what
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so yeah he's just the man i just there's a lot of only fans management companies that reach out to
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me so okay i got you yeah okay so he works with one i'm sure sure sure where was i what was i saying
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uh you were saying it's all good yeah it's all good yeah um it's just parting ways and that's pretty
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much it okay madison what about you my name is madison i'm 18 years old i'm a student at sbcc
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studying business as well as a host at a bar and i work for the whatever podcast rock and roll and
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then violets actually she's starting to work for the whatever podcast too she's going to be helmet
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girl number two and we're going to put her on the other side but she that's that was going to be the
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plan for today however uh we had to throw her on the panel because uh we had some no shows so
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okay we're gonna go around the table once more what is your current relationship status so are you
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single talking stage situationship friends with benefits relationship married polycule sex cult harem
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all of the above um how long have you been single if you're single what's your longest relationship
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go ahead um i would say i'm currently single uh yeah i'll stick with that um and my longest
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relationship ever has only been seven months longest relationship seven months you're currently
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single correct yes okay got it um i'm currently single as well longest relationship was three years
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and i've been single for the past five months longest relationship five years currently single
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about less than two years you've been single for less than two years got it what about you
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uh currently single been single for over a year now and longest relationship was a little under two
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years sorry um you've been repeat that you've been single for how long again
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um it's been over a year now okay one year and longest relationship you said was two years right
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yes okay violet what about you i've been single since i was 17 and my longest relationship was in
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high school and that was two and a half years okay 2.5 but so you've been single for six years
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right yes okay six years madison i'm currently very taken my current relationship is my longest and
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it's been a year and a month all right so there we have it um let's see so everyone here is single
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besides maddie what does it mean though to be single
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i'm asking there's a guy in the picture right there's somebody in the picture i mean there's always somebody
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usually got a sneaky link or two but i don't know i see like being single is like independence it's
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freedom it's like the ability to do whatever you want um well you said so you said you're always
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seeing somebody usually yes and you mentioned sneaky link or two how many do you currently have
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any sneaky links yeah i would say i have a sneaky link eight singular plural you have just one two
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three four five seven uh i would say um i'm currently ignoring some if that is an answer i don't i don't
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know i'm really bad at answering those types of questions you're ignoring how many are you ignoring
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let's start there um at the moment i would say like three maybe four arguably ignoring through
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the four yes so they're texting you they're trying to hit you up and you're just not responding or
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you're kind of yeah actually maybe four or five yeah i'm just kind of being like a little snake on my
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five to six oh man i have no idea this is it's hard to keep track after a while you know well it's
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also like very very whoa very many variations and like how those relationships kind of are so
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so um there's a couple of sneaky links that you're ignoring yes how many uh like are you
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people are you currently are you bi are you both ways i i get that asked a lot um i mean i don't
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really know what to call myself as far as sexuality goes because like i'm just extremely open-minded like
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i've liked girls before i've liked people that are trans um i usually just i usually like
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date men and stuff just because they're really easy um but yeah wait you prefer to date men because
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they're really easy well it's not because i prefer to date men it's just they are easy so that's kind
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of how it goes men are easy you mean like to get laid are you talking like getting sex from them
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i mean yes as a female it's very easy to get laid by a man you just kind of have to ask okay
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yeah pretty straightforward yeah pretty simple okay um so do you have like a estimate a sense of
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like how many people you're currently seeing i would say currently you're not ignoring like sneaky
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links or whatever i would say like technically one yes oh technically one technically one okay
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gotcha yes okay got it um and i'm gonna come back to this some of some of all this stuff in a
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little bit but um men are easier is anyone else here by violet are you no i'm not i do i do girl
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content but i you're definitely not by yeah okay so you're gay for pay is that the term yeah i mean
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for sure i'll definitely have fun and my girl girl shows they're more like oh we're hanging out and
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we're you know playing with ourselves together you know we're kind of like being naughty little girls
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warm okay uh cool so just you none of you have experimented and like kissed a girl and you liked it
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katie perry no have you ever like tried getting with a girl i mean you say like men are easier so
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i'm wondering if you like tried a woman and i'm pretty sure she's just tried see it's hard you've
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tried i mean yeah kind of um it's definitely like difficult like i've never hooked up with a female
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before like i've definitely like kissed and made out with girls like maybe a handful of times not very
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many um it's really hard to tell with females whether or not they're just being drunk and nice
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or if they're actually trying to flirt with you you know um also i get very intimidated by girls
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okay i would imagine it's hard being a lesbian because i feel like girls are not very like
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confrontational we're very like you come up to me and then if i accept i accept but for girls it's
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like who comes up to who first yeah i feel like gender roles have been changing a lot too like
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even in relationships with men i get really confused sometimes like what is and isn't
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you know okay or what to be expecting so like yeah with females like it's like extremely complicated
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yeah okay um so there's one person you're kind of dating now is it a it's a guy i'm assuming yes okay
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and you have a couple sneaky links that you're ignoring got it uh what about you do you have uh
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a couple sneaky links at the moment no sneaky link situation situation ship no nothing none of that
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zilch no none i'm a believer so what do you mean a believer i'm a christian okay so so you're do that
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some do but not over here so there's uh no guys in the picture i'm like dating is it are you on any
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dating apps i'm on dating apps yeah when's the last time you went on a date oh lord um lord have mercy
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three years ago three years ago three years ago you're on dating apps though no no luck well i just
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became single a few months ago you're newly single newly single newly single yes why did he dump you
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none of that oh i dumped oh you dumped him unfortunately why did you dump him
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um quick answer he was not a believer so oh yeah how long were you dating him three years
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you found that out three years into the relationship um or did your belief change and so
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no my belief was always the same but um he basically lied about it and i didn't know okay until
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something transpired it's it says here in the pre-show notes you provided i was unaware that i was in a
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love triangle and i was the pawn are you this most recent relationship different relation that's a
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different thing yeah different love okay not a love triangle okay i see okay um so are you you're
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you're christian are you waiting until marriage to get frisky yes so are you a virgin yes okay i am
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my purity ring that's a that's the purity it's gorgeous most people like oh my gosh you're married
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i'm like married to jesus that's what i tell them okay married to jesus if it let's say you're you're
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23 now let's say you get to 33 and nothing happens do you become a nun like at what point would you
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ever become a nun no what if you're 43 and it just like hasn't happened yet it'll happen i'm not worried
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about that yeah because that's what i always wonder like what if you're really religious and like you're
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but just like nobody comes along i'm not saying that's gonna happen i'm just yeah i think like you
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just you know you just go out on a friday night at 43 and you're just like all right i'm just gonna
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fuck somebody some people have some mysterious stories and some people get to become married at
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like 50 60 70 but you want kids i do want kids you're like how is that gonna work huh well well
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i mean look i mean i'm just saying let's say you hit 45 it hasn't happened yet you can still i mean
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you can still get pregnant 45 it's tough though i think that's like i think it's gonna happen soon
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you're only 23 right she's got time you have time he's trying to make it seem like i'm so old
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no no you're young you're 23 but because you are like christian i think yeah yeah like it's gonna
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happen for you yeah that's like the best pot of men you can like go in and find so and then i'm
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going to a christian university so there's something called like okay something where like they get
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married like really fast in the first three months ring by spring yes spring by spring ring by spring i
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know well what's what's that you gotta ring by spring i used to get engaged by spring yeah like everyone
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does that at that university at multiple most private christian universities yeah so you just come
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out come out married yeah all right what about you you're single how long did you say you've been
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single for a little less than two years a little less than two years okay uh are you currently seeing
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anybody no one of the nelk boys no because isn't your girlfriend that you were gonna bring but i guess
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she couldn't make it she's dating one of the nelk boys isn't she i don't know what do you mean you
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don't know isn't she one of your friends yeah who she did what's his name it's it's not one like the
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um i forgot his name one of the nelk boys whatever um are you in that circle do you move in that circle
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no okay so you're are you on any dating apps right now no are you are you is there any guy in the
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picture right no to sum it up single and celibate you're celibate until i meet the right person yeah
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until you meet the right person or until marriage until i meet my husband that i will marry okay but
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so you're not waiting until marriage to have sex i mean i don't know i haven't decided that yet but
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be intimate dating if that makes sense until i'm with someone that i want to be with
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okay but you're not necessarily waiting until marriage but you want to right you don't want
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to just sleep with the guy on the first date yes exactly but so there's zero guys in the picture
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zero zero nothing nothing we can ask a question sure okay so like since it sounds like there have
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been guys in the past is this like more like a new choice type thing like you got to like
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save some of that love for someone that's like really worth it well the people in the past have
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word uh okay so when's the last time you've been on a date
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have you have you had sex before you virgin well i've been long-term relationships before
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um yeah so i've been single for every year the last like real date i went on was yesterday
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um was back in june of this year june last date was it just the first day and then that was it
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we went on three dates and then when was the last date uh was it june
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last date was july like mid july yeah and then haven't been on like an official date since then
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an official date what about official dates um sneaky links
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yeah yeah what's this what do you mean by sneaky link um
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like someone you hook up with basically yeah is that pretty recent yes pretty recent not yesterday
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mm-hmm yes was it the three-day guy no no wasn't him it was just different different guy
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random dude not random previous sneaky links yes
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um so okay so i guess it is kind of a situation ship but kind of um
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it's new to me i i don't i've never dealt with like it's like it's with so it's with an old
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ex and i've not i usually when i cut things off i cut it off so that's this is new for me
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oh so he he did you reach back out or did he reach back he did word and then you took him back or
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kind of kind of trying to figure things out right now it's all very new so okay yep all right uh so
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are you gonna try to pursue things with this previous ex or i mean you said it was two weeks
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it's kind of like a i guess kind of like a friends with benefits thing oh this wasn't like the first
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time you guys got back together no so it's just been kind of infrequent yes looking up type of thing
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yes good times good times good times good times are you happy with that scenario um it's less than
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ideal uh so i'm trying to right now put myself back out there and have options out there get
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back out there get back out on the horse have some got to get back out there you got to you got
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you got to uh violet what about you is that your real that's not your real name though is it no my
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real name is elizabeth or lizzie okay i'll keep calling you violet go ahead um there's come on
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there's a guy in the picture right violet you said you're single yes i'm single um until i'm ready to
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you know get serious on relationships then i'll start looking but right now i'm just single and
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having fun focusing on my career when do you plan on getting serious 28 28 28 do you think that you
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would still be doing adult content by then or are you planning to quit that and then find a serious
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relationship right now i see like i'll probably always be doing adult content in some way but if
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i end up in a relationship where that's not like you know they're like hey stop doing that obviously
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i would quit okay so have you you've been doing content since you're 18 you're now 23 at any point
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were you in a i mean it says you never had a boyfriend in that entire period of time but maybe
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you're dating a guy for a month two months three months have you had that no have you had sex with
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a civilian in the past six years yes oh okay but you haven't had even like a situationship type of
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thing i mean yeah i have people who i've hung out with for a long time and we'll translate what
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hang out means um we're close like we have a close relationship and some of those people help me with
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photography or some of my work and but you also you sleep with them too yes okay so depending on
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like if i were to i'm wanting it to be for content and to get it on camera oh if you sleep with them
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you want it to be recorded yes oh okay i see okay because it's kind of it's kind of playing a fantasy
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for me like i like working the camera and i like when you're recording so what the fantasy is like a
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what is it for your exhibitionist kind of sex exhibitionist okay you like to perform for the
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camera yeah okay yeah okay got it uh so no relationships do you think is it because you
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just haven't wanted a relationship or do you feel like the work that you've been doing has made it
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difficult where where are you at on that yeah i just haven't had time to focus on a relationship
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okay so but you said at 28 that's when you want to settle down you want to get married
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yes i want to get married and have kids have kids how many kids do you want to have
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i want four four do you think do you think it's going to be difficult finding a husband
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uh because of the work you've done maybe i mean have you had any experiences with that like maybe
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you're interested in a guy but he was maybe hesitant because he felt maybe uncomfortable that
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you had been engaged in making adult content no i actually haven't come across that which is strange
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you haven't no i haven't everyone is very even like oh it's because i'll come out of church sometimes
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because i go to church with my grandma and like i have people coming out of church like can i get
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a picture with you you know and so it's short yeah it's interesting like you really see like
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different sides of people when you're kind of in sex work so you're what kind of church is
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well i'm allowed at church guys i'm allowed to be there it's not doesn't just burn down when you
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yeah i promise uh so you go to church and the church male church goers come up to you and they're
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like yo what's up violet i fucking beat it to your i go to a catholic church so you know catholic
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you go to fucking this shit's happening at a catholic church holy wouldn't you like expect it more
00:29:41.200
than like a christian church than a catholic i don't want to expect it at all to be honest at any
00:29:46.760
church i feel like catholics are pretty strict um you know yeah they're very are you catholic
00:29:53.860
you're catholic yes i grew up catholic um i moved away from my religion when i started doing this
00:30:01.900
but you still go to church back around to it oh you've come back yes yeah recently kind of come
00:30:05.920
back around how recently um a couple of years ago and i just was going through some things i
00:30:13.240
found my way back to god and yeah have you done a confession oh yes i have done confession i did one
00:30:19.800
a few months ago what did you say are you at liberty to share your confession no i'm not comfortable
00:30:26.180
saying here if i'll just turn this way pretend that i'm the what is it no i face him he faces me so
00:30:33.560
oh they yeah usually there's like a booth and there's like this kind of semi see-through screen
00:30:39.140
okay um it's a little more comfortable when you're facing them though awkward
00:30:43.340
so but you're catholic and you go to church like you're practicing right i go with my grandma i'm not
00:30:53.540
like full-on catholic or anything obviously like look at my lifestyle i'm not a full-on catholic i go with
00:30:59.120
my grandma and um i you know i pray i have a relationship with god but i'm not like a full-on
00:31:05.660
practicing catholic does your grandma know that you do adult content she knows my whole family knows and
00:31:11.540
we don't really talk about it you don't talk about it are you on good terms with your family yes love
00:31:16.840
my family okay and you go to catholic church with your grandma um does she like does she like elizabeth
00:31:26.740
you need to stop your philandering whoring ways does she say that shit to you no no she doesn't okay
00:31:35.960
how does she react to when you guys are at church and these people approach you asking for pictures
00:31:42.980
like does she um it's usually when i'm like not with her i'm like doing something by myself
00:31:48.220
it's no she knows that like people know me though my everyone in my family like know that people are
00:31:55.600
gonna come up to me and be like oh i know you and call me by a different name but they all support me
00:32:02.080
and i appreciate that because yeah what is i have a question what is your faith calling you to do
00:32:09.220
when it comes to your career my faith calling me to do is it calling you to stop doing adult content
00:32:18.380
um i think it's just telling me to do the best i can with what i have is that what god is telling
00:32:25.400
you to do are you a christian or catholic i'm a man of god let's just say but like i just how i'm
00:32:35.980
having difficulty and perhaps you can help me with this reconciling being catholic but also doing
00:32:42.920
adult content um i just think we're in a broken world and i was kind of born into that and i you were
00:32:52.880
born into what we were all born into a world of just like of sin of sin of you know media selling like
00:33:01.160
sex and i think i'm just kind of a product of that so what do you mean you're a product of it
00:33:07.220
like you were forced to do this no i'm just a product of my surroundings as i grew up
00:33:12.940
and i would where did you grow up texas texas but you can say that a lot of people were raised on
00:33:24.360
hollywood and media because we were throwing screens in front of our faces and i think that
00:33:29.700
like that influenced me a lot as a kid and so you're not wrong you're not wrong that there's
00:33:36.020
like a societal uh push to uh but uh okay all right good times did you have more
00:33:48.920
what was your question exactly well you said you're catholic right so i'm thinking
00:33:54.660
it's probably looked down upon within the faith to be engaged in sex work so
00:34:02.640
how do you reconcile i don't expect any christian or catholic to associate with me um but doing sex
00:34:10.720
work yeah i mean i think we all have our you know things we do you're a good business woman i see it
00:34:21.080
as like the equivalent of being like a drug dealer or something also like look at kim kardashian like
00:34:25.600
where do you think her fame came from yeah she did she did a sex tape yeah do you think that that's
00:34:33.320
something people should engage in in order to i'm not telling anyone oh you should live like me but
00:34:38.800
it's just what's been working for me and sure yeah uh quick question on your work uh my understanding
00:34:45.860
is i mean you accrued 13 million followers on your instagram it sounds to me like you were insanely
00:34:52.100
successful um can you tell us a little bit about uh maybe we can uh well we have a bit of time how much
00:35:00.460
how much do you say you you made in the six years you've been doing adult content
00:35:07.280
um seven figures yeah we could say wait yeah i would say seven figures and that's probably as
00:35:15.620
much as i'd go into were you making seven figures a year
00:35:19.080
i'm not really comfortable saying how much i've made how about have you in any year did you ever
00:35:27.460
make seven figures yes brian okay violet um what about you what about me well how much did you
00:35:36.860
how much did i how much did i make doing only fans no on your content creating podcasts
00:35:42.780
well i think it's an interesting question to ask someone who's involved in your kind of work because
00:35:48.400
you hear these reports of people making a seat like insane amounts of money like millions of
00:35:55.040
dollars i mean some of the outliers i know most women probably are not actually making that much
00:36:00.280
money doing only fans but i i think you're an outlier probably so you hear these stories of women
00:36:06.080
who make six figures a month some seven figures a month bad baby made 40 million in her first month or
00:36:12.400
or first year right something like that that's crazy uh you hear other stories of women making
00:36:18.720
millions of dollars a year so i think that's why it's kind of just an interesting question to
00:36:22.280
to ask but um okay so interesting okay um question for you guys do you guys think that hold on let me
00:36:31.300
just double check here oh okay do you guys think that hmm kind of related to her thing would you
00:36:39.480
prefer to date a guy who doesn't watch porn or watches porn or do you just not care like you wouldn't
00:36:44.960
care is there a man that doesn't watch porn yeah there's probably not i mean there's probably degrees
00:36:50.180
to it too there's guys who will watch it occasionally and then there's guys who are heavily addicted to
00:36:55.080
it so i mean honestly i see it as like it doesn't really matter all that much like i wouldn't think
00:37:02.740
about it like i watch pornography like there's nothing wrong with like watching porn okay yeah
00:37:08.300
um no porn i prefer a man who does not watch porn
00:37:14.620
uh it depends on how much he watches i guess average amount i guess two times a week let's say
00:37:27.240
two or three times a week then i think that's that's fine i can work with that violet what about you
00:37:37.240
yes in moderation okay madison i probably prefer a man that doesn't watch porn because i feel like it
00:37:45.600
just changes the way that they view sex perceive it and how they um like what they expect out of
00:37:53.760
sex in general okay uh do you get so kind of related to that because we've definitely heard things from a
00:38:02.740
lot of women who've been on the show before about how porn can they think it kind of changes how
00:38:10.120
a view a guy might view sex like madison just said or how they expectations of women or whatever or
00:38:16.620
they're just can it have an impact on sexual function but more broadly speaking do you guys
00:38:21.920
think that men are more feminine now than in days past
00:38:26.120
that's an extremely like difficult question because i feel like um over like the last like couple years
00:38:35.700
since being in college um a lot of the men that i found myself with i would say potentially might have
00:38:44.620
like estrogen or not estrogen problems but like testosterone issues i don't know okay if that makes
00:38:52.340
sense so i don't know what you mean by feminine like that kind of feminine like biologically feminine
00:38:59.440
or like act feminine i mean kind of both i guess you could say but because i like you like what i like
00:39:07.480
fruity boys like you like fruity men yes okay yes i do okay uh okay what about you um i do do you think
00:39:17.920
men are more feminine now than in days past yeah okay one million percent yes they're more feminine
00:39:23.860
now weren't before the show you were saying guys are no longer what masculine what's the other word
00:39:30.160
you used beta they're more beta now they're not they're not alpha anyway right yeah well and we can get
00:39:36.920
into that a little later what about you i think men are expressing more of their feminine side now i'm not sure
00:39:49.180
i guess that would make them more feminine so okay yeah violet yes madison i guess i would say
00:39:59.020
men are given the capacity to be more vulnerable and sensitive which i feel like does tie to femininity
00:40:09.420
in some sort of ways so yeah okay now do you guys prefer masculine men or feminine men i feel like
00:40:17.580
also oh sorry no go ahead go ahead i feel like saying masculine over feminine is like not necessarily
00:40:23.160
the proper term i like to say what do you mean people that are more human beings like just like
00:40:29.100
acting like a human less like a gender role that literally made no fucking sense i said you know it
00:40:38.240
makes sense in my head you know it's like sometimes you meet someone and they're like trying to be like
00:40:42.140
super barley and tough or they're trying to act like a barbie but it's like if you're just like a human
00:40:47.200
being like for example men have like a higher suicide rate than like females do just say delete
00:40:55.440
can i not say that just say delete themselves go ahead okay sorry just go ahead sorry um but like i
00:41:02.060
don't know i know like because of gender norms and stuff like men get very isolated in their emotions
00:41:08.400
and stuff and i think now that we're in like a more accepting society because like females have always
00:41:13.220
had outlets like better socialization so i feel like it's what you're calling feminine is more just
00:41:20.320
more humanness so you're saying masculine men are inhuman and feminine men are human
00:41:27.180
no i would say there are feminine and masculine men but i would say like
00:41:31.780
masculinity masculinity femininity is that men are since they're they're more accepted or whatever
00:41:44.940
they're allowed to be more emotional aka human yes and i feel like that's what she's trying to say yes
00:41:52.160
okay okay um but so the question is though do you prefer masculine men or feminine men because just
00:42:03.200
earlier you said you prefer what is it girly guy i forgot what you said fruity fruity men
00:42:09.480
so you prefer like if you had a choice between a masculine guy and a more feminine guy which do you prefer
00:42:15.880
can we just like come back to no but you already you almost already answered it like with the fruity
00:42:28.220
boys it's like it doesn't necessarily mean they're not masculine it just means they like so they're
00:42:33.180
wearing a dress but and they're talking with a sort of a fet manner and then also like pearls look hot
00:42:40.080
on a man just saying like that's a good look wait girls look hot on a man no no pearls pearls yeah
00:42:47.740
and some people would be like oh that's like like earrings yeah necklaces a pearl necklace on a dude
00:42:54.560
yes okay all right to each their own i guess i'm a little more feminine okay masculine you prefer
00:43:03.180
masculine then what about you definitely masculine masculine yeah masculine with a beard 100 masculine
00:43:12.840
madison what about you i said 100 masculine okay um all right what do you guys last question on this
00:43:27.100
one what do you think about masculinity good neutral bad what do you think about
00:43:32.680
masculinity it's good start with you we'll go around you know you had a very like yes this is what i like
00:43:41.980
um she's speaking to my god i mean it depends on i would say i'm not necessarily a fan of masculinity i feel
00:43:53.420
like well like i mean there's there's levels of it like i would say in moderation is that a good
00:44:01.760
masculinity and moderation yes you're not a fan of masculinity what does that mean what do you mean
00:44:09.540
by that i mean like i'm gonna be all barley or like barley and stuff like drinking beers to feel like
00:44:18.280
a man is that i don't think is that what masculinity is well not like necessarily that but i i don't know
00:44:26.380
besides the beer chugging thing is there any well like you i don't know i feel like like there's toxic
00:44:33.760
masculinity and i feel like that's usually when i look at a person i'm like okay that like the
00:44:38.780
masculinity is showing you know that's why i'm like in moderation wait so you're saying when masculinity
00:44:43.360
is apparent or showing that equals toxic masculinity no it's just sometimes it's like
00:44:50.680
a little excessive and that's usually when i like notice it what is excessive masculinity
00:44:57.760
you know like can we just like loop around no we got it keep going we got you we got you keep going
00:45:05.880
um i don't know it's just like you know like oh i need this like big old car it's like okay
00:45:12.100
you're compensating for something compensating for what a lot of things i can tell you that much
00:45:17.700
list it list it list it i mean probably like their low self-esteem and maybe their tiny dicks
00:45:26.500
can i say that sure okay tiny dicks so men who want nice cars have tiny dicks no not necessarily
00:45:34.680
it's it's mostly that's what i mean like in moderation it's like everyone wants a nice car
00:45:39.400
but it's like how you how you write it how you do it you know
00:45:41.980
so do women who want nice cars do they have loose pussies no they got taste
00:45:49.940
oh so it's only it's only bad when men it's only bad if men have a desire for material goods
00:45:58.700
no oh no it's um like i said like it's how you how you write it so it's like when a man is like
00:46:06.340
trying so hard to seem like a dude that's like excessive it's like an ego thing yeah like it's
00:46:13.320
like ego it's like it's the same with like the beers it's like i know a lot of guys that what
00:46:17.860
like beers like chugging beers yeah because like i know a lot of guys that like will drink a lot of
00:46:23.880
beer or will only drink beer around other men because they want to look like a man i actually
00:46:28.980
think on the beer thing really quick not that it's entire super related to dating but uh gentlemen
00:46:33.720
beer has hops and that will produce uh i believe that'll produce estrogen in you so don't drink
00:46:39.760
beer um if you're going to be a man i don't drink at all i don't know don't drink beer it has hops in
00:46:48.060
it it i think it it the byproduct of that will produce estrogen in you go ahead with well you're
00:46:55.320
saying teeny dicks toxic masculinity which i by the way i don't believe there is toxic masculinity
00:47:00.680
okay that's a very hot take that there's not toxic masculinity yeah i feel like most people would
00:47:08.140
100 disagree with that i don't believe i don't believe that there's we need to attach gender
00:47:17.240
to toxicity i think people are just toxic i don't think we need to like oh
00:47:23.920
like is there toxic femininity yes okay yeah potentially yes can't there just be can't you
00:47:31.980
just say toxic it's just such a loaded word that i feel like you might mean it some way but people
00:47:38.120
are going to take it in the way that it's just a blanket attack on masculinity can i like masculinity
00:47:44.480
is inherently toxic you know well it's not inherently toxic again but when you say toxic masculinity
00:47:51.420
without clarification i think people are going to assume she means all masculinity is toxic well i
00:47:59.660
could go into like biopsychology right now and like spew out statistics but last time that got bleeped so
00:48:04.400
i'm gonna like can i hot potato this like you said okay well we can come yeah we'll come back to it
00:48:10.140
go ahead yeah um all for masculine men okay uh what about you yes for masculinity i think that's
00:48:20.100
what's missing this world right now and it's much needed okay becca is that true for rebecca it is
00:48:28.300
makes sense okay what do you think of masculinity i think um masculinity needs to be yeah needs to be
00:48:44.300
expressed just as much as femininity and i think masculinity can include um the traits that maybe
00:48:53.960
aren't typically associated with masculinity like vulnerability and emotionality okay we'll come
00:49:02.500
back we'll come back to the vulnerability topic later um violet what about you yes necessary necessary okay
00:49:11.980
madison i think masculinity is great i think men were born to be masculine for a reason but i do feel
00:49:20.000
like the term and the definition masculinity has been so deformed nowadays like you were like giving out
00:49:27.540
examples like drinking beer makes a man and things like that like that's definitely not what true
00:49:33.120
masculinity means as in like being a protector being provider so i feel like that really takes away
00:49:39.560
the man and men which is why it's so like it's not it's not real anymore that was beautiful that was
00:49:48.580
beautiful madison thank you well i'm i mean i'm definitely concerned about the ongoing feminization
00:49:54.200
of men there's a blatant attack i think on masculinity and there there is a rapid decline in testosterone
00:50:03.380
levels and i think it definitely serves our government corporate overlords to have a bunch of weakened feminine
00:50:10.540
men they're way easier to control um and i do think our our environment it's filled with like estrogenic
00:50:18.720
chemicals plastics junk food uh we have lived very sedentary lifestyles i'm and i fall into it too
00:50:26.460
um but i think the media like in its quest to reshape society loves to just demonize normal
00:50:33.880
masculine men labeling them as toxic as she said toxic masculinity um and we can we can certainly
00:50:39.960
have a discussion on that um and uh let's see it's uh yeah i mean the testosterone level has been
00:50:47.440
declining for decades i guess they're tracking it somehow sperm count and strength in men like
00:50:52.880
also decreasing exponentially and apparently i think i'm i'm like probably 90 of this next
00:51:00.680
statistics there's a striking reduction in grip strength among young men look at these fucking
00:51:06.320
dainty gamer hands it's all my fault um i'm probably the blame for that um so i'm yeah i'm trying to turn
00:51:14.080
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00:52:30.200
masculinity let's talk about that you said you wanted for us to come back to you okay well going
00:52:38.220
around the table i have like now some more thoughts also like with your little promotional thing i would
00:52:43.900
ask men to please take those instead of illegal testosterone that's not prescribed because that
00:52:49.040
can cause heart failure um just a side note but like for example i know some men would do that out of
00:52:56.720
trying to be more manly i think that's what i mean by toxic masculinity is like like you were saying
00:53:02.840
it's like masculinity is like a natural thing but how it's like now defined is changed and i think it's like
00:53:10.740
more when men are overly trying hard to be more of a man like you shouldn't have to try to be a man you
00:53:20.880
should just either you should just be you you know just be you yes okay yeah uh okay um
00:53:30.900
let me ask so okay i hear this term all the time toxic masculinity right i i rarely ever hear discussions
00:53:40.660
of toxic femininity although you admit it is a thing although i never hear it in the discourse when
00:53:46.920
people say toxic masculinity doesn't mean masculinity is toxic if you could separate the toxicity from
00:53:55.380
masculinity what would be left that's not a gender neutral trait
00:54:00.340
being kind wait what wait what's not a gender neutral trait wait i thought it was a gender neutral
00:54:10.380
trait so this is the so like my my position is that i don't believe in the term toxic femininity i don't
00:54:16.460
believe the term toxic masculinity i think people can just be toxic regardless of your gender and i
00:54:22.780
don't think it's particularly helpful to use these terms because i think it tends to demonize typically
00:54:28.700
men because you very rarely hear the term toxic femininity and it demonizes masculinity so my question is
00:54:35.460
if toxic masculinity does not mean that masculinity is toxic if you can separate the toxicity from
00:54:43.900
masculinity what would be left that's not a gender neutral trait
00:54:48.080
i still like this all just sounds like word salad i'm so confused by what you're saying i'm so sorry
00:54:55.800
okay what is what is something that men do that is toxic that is exclusively something that
00:55:02.600
just men do essentially i mean there's a lot that makes a lot of sense but okay okay um i know we
00:55:10.700
were discussing this a little bit before this but like for example if you go to like the biology of
00:55:17.420
like human attraction it's like women do look for men that have resources and i guess you can also like
00:55:22.960
tie this into toxic femininity is a lot of women will almost some some women will abuse men for their
00:55:32.180
resources but some men will kind of use that as like a weapon in a sense it's like what do you mean
00:55:39.380
use what their resources as a weapon yes what they like will buy a girl a purse and throw it at her
00:55:48.360
what are you talking about well there's also like sometimes you can like you know guilt trip people
00:55:52.500
with that stuff or sometimes you can make someone so dependent on you like dependent on someone's
00:55:57.600
resources i feel like this is getting really off topic i have no idea like no but i'm trying the
00:56:03.580
the conversation was about masculinity you referenced toxic masculinity so i'm trying to get at what you
00:56:09.920
what precisely you mean when you say toxic masculinity because i'm arguing the position that i don't believe
00:56:16.220
there's toxic masculinity you said whoa you had a big reaction you're like that's a hot take that there's
00:56:22.080
not toxic masculinity so i'm asking you to provide evidence for the toxic masculinity that you assert
00:56:28.500
exists okay going see i can't use a lot of what i can very well argue without it getting bleeped
00:56:38.840
out are you talking about delete people deleting themselves no are you talking about sa for example
00:56:46.500
i'll try to use soft terms here as far as mental health and stuff it's sometimes toxic masculinity
00:56:58.540
man i don't know how to say anything without like triggering things or who are you gonna who's
00:57:08.460
gonna be triggered no it's okay words that we can't use yes okay all right fine i mean that sounds like
00:57:17.220
a cop-out but okay um last i mean i guess another question for you questions for you on this um do you
00:57:24.080
believe in like some of these other terms like do you think mansplaining is a thing
00:57:27.040
i mean i like to use that term all the time like i i get caught up in mansplaining to men a lot of
00:57:34.400
the times and i laugh at myself oh yeah it's just like the over explanation it's also funny like when
00:57:40.420
you tell a guy something and then they turn around and tell you exactly what you just told them but then
00:57:45.840
they like break it down and it's like well i i was the one that just told you that like very clearly i
00:57:51.760
okay understand do you do you let me ask you a question do you think toxic masculinity is a sexist
00:57:57.680
term no do you think toxic whiteness would be a racist term no do you think toxic blackness would
00:58:07.120
be a racist thing to say i don't know whoa fuck jesus christ i clicked the wrong button do you do you
00:58:18.760
think toxic asianness is would be a racist thing to say i mean man okay i am not in a position
00:58:27.580
to i've never heard those terms would it be but do you think it would be racist to say that there's
00:58:36.400
well yeah i don't do you think you'd be raised do you think you'd be right hold on
00:58:44.260
do you think it would be racist to say toxic whiteness well in all my arguments with toxic
00:58:51.420
masculinity i feel like a lot of toxic whiteness kind of plays into that so i can't really say
00:58:56.960
wait toxic whiteness no keep it on her please do you think toxic whiteness
00:59:02.380
plays into toxic masculinity is there toxic heterosexualness yes
00:59:11.900
okay um you're like literally making me sweat like with this it's a little stuffy in here i mean
00:59:22.220
the doors aren't open well like speaking of which nick if you could let a little air in please um
00:59:26.840
wait so okay metaphorical hot potatoes making me feel like a hot potato okay okay but so just to
00:59:36.260
clarify uh-huh toxic whiteness uh-huh not racist
00:59:45.300
i've is it okay to say like since i'm white i'm allowed to think that i don't think that's an
00:59:52.580
argument i don't know um well just statistically in the united states there can i say that
00:59:59.000
oh so okay just toxic whiteness is just a u.s thing actually no i take that back you can like
01:00:08.140
go through the colonial powers like yeah you know what i don't know what you're asking great word
01:00:13.940
was it a good word to throw on the colonial colonialism yes thank you yeah i just gave you a
01:00:20.140
lay up there yeah see this is you're welcome yes thank you i'm bad with words that was needed
01:00:25.620
okay so there's there's toxic whiteness yes but and that's not racist no but toxic blackness
01:00:41.820
thing i don't know okay what about toxic latino-ness
01:00:47.780
no i don't know toxic asian-ness no i don't know i'm looking at this like
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okay okay okay all right all right what are you getting at
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oh that's like triggering it's bringing me back to like middle school like middle school yeah when
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you're gonna go to like have to learn how to type and like the little labs i was so bad at that i'm
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sorry the windows oh the noise thing okay i triggered you with my windows read boot sound
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yes okay good times okay um so man's is mansplaining sexist
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it's funny mansplaining is funny um is woman-splaining
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sexist would that be a sexist thing to say what are your woman-splaining right now well when i refer to
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myself mansplaining i've had men refer to it as like no actually you're woman-splaining
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so i'm just like i don't know but it's woman-splaining sexist
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like do you think that'd be a sexist thing i just consider it like an urban dictionary term
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okay is that allowed is white what about white-splaining is that racist
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i've i've never heard this before also i feel like
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comparing masculinity and race is just like so completely
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i i yeah look i i what i'm trying to get at is i like to use the hate speech test
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and if you replace the second word with other groups and if it's either racist or sexist
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then it's probably not appropriate to say about by the way nick that was just a temporary thing
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um so for example if toxic like if you replace that second word so toxic blank and you replace
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it with another group and you determine that it's either racist or sexist or anything it's
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probably not appropriate to say about men or white people hey thank you robin thank you brother
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but on another note i'm pretty sure the septum piercing girl she doesn't look happy with symbols
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playing on repeat in her head not a thought no she's doing good guys guys be nice thank you robin
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appreciate you have a response to robin you sounds like my dad robin's your dad do you want to you
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can roast him back like if they roast you feel free to roast back like it's cool you know what my dad
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told me the other day he's like the human brain's eight pounds and i told him mine was 10 and he's
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like yeah with just all that hollow space your dad and me would probably get along yeah yeah your dad's
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legend hey you know what there's there's thoughts that's a good example of like masculine not like
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masculinity but like you know chaos and order they're both necessary so we're like femininity
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and masculinity you know men are just gonna like be more straightforward than women exactly
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also oh yeah yeah but it's necessary like you we need that like straightforwardness in life but we
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also need like the comforting of a woman yeah i think that's why i said masculinity is necessary
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also it like reminds me a lot of like negative and positive empathy i guess that's a good example
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of maybe perhaps toxic masculinity is like in relationships you need both negative and positive
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empathy and they say that positive empathy is more important word but i feel like potentially men seek
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out more positive empathy than negative empathy and then assume that females need more negative empathy
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than positive empathy does that count hmm huh i kind of get that yeah yeah can somebody translate
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that shit for me i have okay cool because a woman is always gonna be more who here believes in who
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here believes in toxic masculinity it's okay it's all right i don't hate you for if you do becca
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she doesn't want to argue okay all right there you have it folks uh i got some you guys were so
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kind as to provide some pre-show notes for us so i'm gonna go over some of those pre-show notes
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so let's see we have uh who do we start with we'll start with becca you wanted to talk about
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situationships in the male female dynamic and dating hot take you can be highly feminist independent woman
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but still need to have a man take the lead yeah so do you consider yourself highly feminist and an
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independent woman um i would definitely say i am pretty independent highly independent um feminist
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i'm not sure how feminist i am i guess compared sorry you make fun of me just looking up the sky
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you're just okay that's how i think i look up there i do that too i do that too i just had to roast a
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little bit okay um yeah i guess in terms of feminist um i guess now you're gonna be self-conscious
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yeah i know um so i will look right here um right at the microphone i guess when it comes to feminists
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like are you a feminist i would say yes hardcore feminist i would say no radical feminist no not
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radical are you a turf i don't i don't know what that is turf trans exclusionary trans exclusionary
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radical feminist oh i yeah i don't know um that's a doozy that's a that's a doozy okay i didn't take
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enough classes in college um so you're you do you consider yourself highly feminist um because you say
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hot take you can be highly feminist independent woman but still need to have a man take the lead
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so you're highly feminist yes you consider yourself a independent woman yes okay but still
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need to have a man take the lead when you say have the man take the lead what do you mean by that
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i mean like i think for a guy to be in his like masculine energy like there does need to be that
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um he kind of takes the lead and and you know whatever that looks like you know what does that
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well you tell us okay i will tell you um do it i will tell you now right now okay whenever you're
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ready okay i will you're so ready i'm so ready i came prepared um taking the lead would be
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like him making the first move um wait can i help out here a little bit okay sure approaching
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sending the first message carrying leading the conversation soliciting a first date soliciting
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your number setting up the date carrying leading the conversation on the date paying for the paying
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for the date soliciting a change of venue perhaps soliciting subsequent dates and the setup and financial
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responsibility for said dates moving things forward physically closing the distance gap going for the
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first kiss and moving things forward even further from there physically and sexually speaking yeah can
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you send me that list do you want to send it to one of your guide friends sure get on it yeah no yeah
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that that all sounds like the guy taking the the lead so yes um so i think probably the easiest
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conversational thread that we can go on this you say you're a highly feminist independent woman
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who do you think on the first date should pay i would say the man okay we'll go around the table
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on this we'll start uh we'll start with you then we'll go around go ahead rachel whoever asked the
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other person out on the date whoever asks should pay okay what about you the man the man okay violet
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the man the man should pay okay man it's thin the man the man so just to address your thing really
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quick whoever asked should pay um i want to go around the table on this again more often than not
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are you asking guys out or are guys asking you out go ahead
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have you ever asked a guy out oh yeah oh yeah more often than not though is it more so the guy asking
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you or are you asking the guy i mean i don't remember the last time i've asked a guy out on a
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date so like i would say now it's more highly concentrated with men doing it okay what about
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you definitely them they ask what about you the man asks have you ever asked a guy out no yeah i'm
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no i have not how many first dates do you think you've been on um ballpark it yeah just range
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60 i was running the numbers 60 60 okay beautiful 60 first dates all the 60 first dates
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they asked you is that correct correct maybe there was one you kind of suggest okay violet
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what about you oh my gosh i'm blanking what about the question yeah uh more more often than not are
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you who's asking who on the first date is it the guy or you the guy yeah have you ever asked a guy
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out on a date uh in fourth grade well come to think of it actually violet okay never mind we don't have
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to go there um madison what about you i've only ever been on two proper first dates but i asked
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the first one and then my second first proper date it was the man asking well let's remove the
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proper dates from this and let's include like uh just more casual hangouts who's initiating the
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casual hangout the guy or you the guy more so but i would too right so on the whole like whoever
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asks should pay it's conveniently ignores the fact that men are overwhelmingly initiators so
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if your standard is okay that whoever asked should pay for the first date well you might as well just
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say men because men overwhelmingly are the ones asking for first dates
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so that that like this whole idea of like well whoever asked should pay would make kind of sense
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if there was some degree of equality when it came to initiative but there isn't equality when it comes
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to who takes more initiative when it comes to dating i can say the advice my dad gave me in fifth
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grade which are tell us men are pathetic and have low self-esteem and as a female if you ask them out
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or give them a compliment like it it you're making wonders for them well yeah that's true because most men
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never have the experience of a woman asking them out so they'll probably remember that shit like if you
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ask an average guy out on date that will probably you'll remember that for the rest of his life whereas most
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women you get i mean some women get out asked out so frequently they don't even remember it later
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that day it makes them feel special and everyone wants to feel special it's like that's also why
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females like when men approach and they don't necessarily want to approach men is because like
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it feels good and also asking someone out is like extremely terrifying for a lot of people
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especially men it's like not just especially men actually no so what you're saying is that women are
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privileged uh no i would say of course they are okay well yes but you're in the privileged position
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of never having to get off your ass to put in any effort into the beginning of a relationship i mean
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yeah that's true you just allow men to approach you you get to pick them amongst all the men that
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show initiative i mean yeah that's true i've had a lot of guys complain you don't risk rejection
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yeah really um so i don't know why i brought it there but uh so okay we're okay this was the first
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uh who pays oh i was just addressing the well whoever i should pay but it yes conveniently ignores
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the fact that men by default are initiators de facto are initiators so um convenient uh you said that
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the guy should pay but you said that you're a highly feminist independent woman so how do you
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reconcile being a feminist claiming to be an independent woman but still needing to have the man
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take the lead and pay for the first date that's yeah that's a good question um i think you
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can or for me um feel like i think it kind of comes down to the guy i feel like most guys on average want
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to be the one to pay or to feel in control and or have that ability to provide so sure you're you're not
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wrong like i think uh there is a large proportion of men that are prepared to pay for the first date
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they're gonna pay for it they're happy to do it um but that doesn't really answer my question because
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would you if a guy let's say you go on a date with a guy okay and uh the waiter comes do you guys want
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anything else and he's like no no we're good can you get two checks please would you haven't would
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you object to the guy asking for two checks i that i would be kind of confused and i mean
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maybe if i'm not being confrontational i would pay my pay the tab and then there probably wouldn't be
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a second date why wouldn't there be a second date would you lose attraction for him or
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yeah yeah i think i would kind of be off put by that and and not
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maybe i would ask him about it later be like why did you want to split the tab
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and see what he says but so if if it came down to it you guys end up splitting the bill
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is that that's a pretty that's a strong negative for you yeah just because in the past i've i've had
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guys go out of their way to make sure like even before like i never even see the bill come to the
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table like they make sure it's paid for ahead of time so i've had that treatment and enjoyed that
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so i think i don't know maybe i've been spoiled well i mean it's it's a holdover of
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chivalrous traditional male behavior when it comes to male men paying for the first dates i guess my
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whole qualm with men paying for the first date is you ought to only pay for a woman if she also
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adheres to or believes in traditional she considers herself traditional because to me it's like
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you can't be feminist until the check comes like if you believe in gender equality then you shouldn't
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how do i explain you cannot recoil at the very idea of gender roles but then expect men to pay
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because men paying is a gender role so you can't just throw out and discard all the gender roles
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that have to do with you but then expect the man to still abide by every gender role that applies to
01:16:29.780
him no yeah no i see your point so if you want to be like you said a highly feminist independent woman
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enlightened progressive feminist woman who doesn't believe in gender roles and that men and women are
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exactly the same then shouldn't you pay for your own meal yeah that is fair i
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i guess it comes down well yeah because i do believe in gender roles and then i guess
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with feminine or being a feminist it's wanting that equality with gender roles so but then at the end
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of the day i i with the logic of me wanting the guy to pay that would be me wanting gender roles
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why so do you um do you believe in the patriarchy is the patriarchy a thing and rachel can chime in on
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this too um patriarchy um i believe that for history sake um that the world has been typically dominated by
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men in um place of in areas of control and leadership
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but there are cultures that are more matriarchal matriarchal okay sure um well i guess my question
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is why do you support a patriarchal traditional belief of men paying for a woman's time yeah like
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isn't that kind of the patriarchy like aren't you reinforcing the patriarchy
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by holding men to this very traditional gender role but you're a highly feminist independent woman
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i mean i've been in situations where i did offer to pay the bill in this is were you just not interested
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in the guy though no i was the one instance i'm thinking of i was very interested in the guy but you
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said you've had like what 50 60 dates first dates yes with so okay with different men um yes so there's
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one time that you offered to pay the bill but you're a strong independent feminist woman yeah yeah
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um i was i think i i didn't i was lacking in self-confidence and didn't feel like i wanted
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him to feel the pressure of to buy the meal for me but you were lacking in self-confidence it was when
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i was like i don't know 19 you were 19 i was young okay so but it sounds pretty clear to me if a guy
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asked to split the bill let me ask if okay before the date yeah i feel like this wouldn't be an organic
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way to go about it but if a guy was like hey are you cool with splitting the bill and he was asking
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you to go to dinner i feel like that that would be kind of cringe a little bit but um would you just
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say never mind on the date for the date when you otherwise were interested in going yeah um
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shoot um i guess i would i guess i would still go on the date and and pay the tab
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split split yeah do you like expect men to pay for every date say you went on a date with one
01:20:14.120
guy and you kept seeing him after do you expect him to pay for every single date say you really
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really liked him that's a good question madison so beyond the first date would you like a guy to
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continue paying for dates i guess it would the first few dates and then first few days and then
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after that we could have the conversation of like hey there would be a conversation yeah if i saw it
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you know going somewhere and we wanted to keep dating because i i guess i i don't want that pressure of
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the being the financial provider hold on but we're talking about splitting the bill yes so why you're not
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being the financial provider you're just equally contributing to the start of the relationship
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the provider would be i'm paying for the whole thing
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yeah okay so i feel like i've been like if you really did really like the guy like i feel like
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i've been in multiple situations where it's like oh like hey do you mind paying for yours i'll just pay
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for myself and i feel like it's something that you can easily look past especially if you're super
01:21:17.360
duper interested in this guy unless you expect him to pay every single time you're just seeking for
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financial or seeking for money and for him to provide for you all the time but like are you
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really all that independent if that's what's all that you're looking for in a guy yeah okay so
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you said you want the guy to pay for at least the first few dates how many when you say first few you
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mean two three four three yeah two to three three to four and then you would want to have a
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conversation about moving forward is that is that a conversation you would bring up or he
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let me ask you you said your longest relationship was two years correct yes in that two-year relationship
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was it did it become 50 50 at any point or did were you guys living together what was the
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uh we weren't living together we we did get to a point after like i'd say like four or five dates
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where i'm pretty sure i brought it up like hey like i can i can pay for a date and then you could
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pay for a date and then it kind of became what's that called like trading off or whatever yeah that
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way it's not like we got to split the bill every time and keep track of every penny well okay but
01:22:41.080
so eventually in your two-year relationship it was like switching turns taking turns yeah how long
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did it take to get to that point was he was he for the guy you dated for two years was he paying for
01:22:56.860
the first dates first couple of dates yeah how long until how many dates did you go on until it's
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switched i would say four four four four and then it's something he brought up or you brought up
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i believe i brought it up because i you begrud did you begrudgingly be like i guess i kind of like you
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do you want me to start paying um i don't think it was begrudgingly i wanted to be with him and i
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i guess i didn't want him to think i was only in it for to be paid for what do you think it changes
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about a man if he starts paying for the first couple dates then you guys split things or just
01:23:41.040
split things initially hmm um do you think it really changes anything about the way you see them
01:23:49.240
hmm um i don't i i would say i i would like to have the conversation with them and um
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gosh um i would just say like if it doesn't change anything about them then what's the point
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of starting off yes yeah starting off them paying for everything versus splitting the tab
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um i guess it wouldn't make that much of a difference if i'm really interested in them
01:24:35.100
yeah and they like let's say they really can't like pay for the whole meal or whatever but okay
01:24:41.100
so you said that you're a highly feminist independent woman yet you expect men to not
01:24:47.500
only pay for the first date but pay for two three four i assume you'd probably prefer you'd prefer if
01:24:55.300
the guy just continued providing indefinitely i assumed that'd be preferable yes okay so i just how
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do you reconcile being a feminist being independent because that word means something yes but having
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like a very very strong preference to the point where if a guy didn't pay for you on the first date
01:25:17.200
he has to split you would not want to have a second date how do you reconcile that
01:25:37.440
i guess that's the the trade-off with considering myself a feminist independent woman is that i still
01:25:48.500
believe there are gender roles and that i want the guy to feel like he's
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i mean that's what it sounds like that's what it sounds like but uh
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i mean it sounds to me like you want equality only when it benefits you
01:26:14.700
i mean the guy paying for the first date the guy holding let me ask you when do you want to get
01:26:21.640
married yes eventually would you be uh will you take your husband's last name
01:26:36.420
okay um who has final say when it comes to household decisions
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shoot yeah and i i would love it for to be both of us
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but this is exactly what i'm talking about equality only when it benefits you
01:27:01.160
so you want to you want a guy to adhere to his traditional gender roles lead pay for the first
01:27:06.660
date but you don't want to adhere to you what would be a very traditional thing tradition taking
01:27:12.760
the man's last name in the case of marriage that is traditionally what women do
01:27:16.800
yeah i don't have an issue with hyphenation but you best pay for your own way on a first date
01:27:23.480
if you're about that hyphenation shit you should pay for your you should pay you should try to
01:27:28.820
initiate at comparable levels that's my thing okay you you want all the benefits of traditional
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treatment from men but you yourself you don't want to be a traditional woman so we got a lot of women
01:27:39.380
who are feminist who love traditional treatment from men because traditional treatment benefits women
01:27:45.360
but you guys don't want to be traditional women because i suppose in some ways not being traditional
01:27:54.600
comes to your benefit don't you think that's a bit selfish
01:28:09.240
you can where are you thinking i'm i'll give you more time to think okay um
01:28:15.000
i guess in a way it is me being selfish if i'm if i am not taking or if i'm expecting these things of
01:28:25.480
men and claiming to be wanting gender equality but then i don't want it when it's on my side
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so you want traditional treatment but you yeah you don't want to take your husband's last name
01:28:36.700
i didn't say you don't want him you but what's funny is forget the who should pay shit that's kind of
01:28:42.600
small yeah you said that you want a man to be a leader right but you don't want a man to be head
01:28:49.260
of household that's a big deal to me okay you want a man to lead but you don't want to be a follower
01:28:54.680
is that correct yeah yeah yeah i gotta send the asteroid on that one holy shit okay you cannot
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this this is the big thing like forget the who pays shit women want men and are attracted to men
01:29:13.720
who are leaders and who are masculine and who are dominant but women have been there's this
01:29:19.260
mind virus of feminism which tells like on a biological and attraction level i would say most
01:29:26.560
women want men to be leaders pay for the pay for the first date take initiative make the first move
01:29:31.440
do all these things right but you also simultaneously you want men to be leaders but
01:29:37.100
you don't want to be followers and that's the breakdown i think in most relationships is you
01:29:42.240
have women who desperately want men to be strong to be masculine to be leaders but you're not prepared
01:29:48.340
to be followers you cannot be a leader with a mutinous is that the word is that does that mutinous
01:29:55.980
with a mutinous non-follower i cannot lead somebody that's not prepared to follow me
01:30:01.820
you can it's like a dance someone's the lead someone's the if both try to lead it's a disaster
01:30:08.620
if both try to follow it's a disaster someone has to lead someone has to follow
01:30:13.680
and that's the problem i think you're you're shaking your head you disagree i think if you look if you want
01:30:21.240
to be as a woman you want to be more masculine you want to be more dominant you want to be take
01:30:25.480
take more of the lead in the relationship that's your call but if you're a woman and you want a guy
01:30:30.820
to be the leader you ought to be the follower that's the only way it works to in order to lead
01:30:38.240
like let's just look at this logically in order to lead someone has to follow right can everybody
01:30:47.200
let's talk about let's talk about businesses in an organization can everybody be the leader in an
01:30:53.040
organization no somebody has to be the shot caller somebody has to lead
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yeah i guess it comes down to trust and maybe i haven't had that like trust in a relationship
01:31:06.540
where i feel like oh like yeah i really want to follow this guy maybe it's just like this
01:31:11.740
tension i've had within me too i think too i that's because you've been injected
01:31:18.540
you've been injected with the feminist mind virus looking for a leader then she's not looking for
01:31:24.860
the end maybe if no but she wants a guy to pay for the first date she would not go on a second
01:31:29.100
date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first date which is some like gut instinct like because
01:31:35.100
oh this guy's not a provider that's not leading as a guy i suppose you could say you want a guy to
01:31:41.100
lead you want a guy to initiate you want a guy to do all these things but when it comes time for you
01:31:48.420
to hold up your end of the bargain when it comes to your traditional gender role expectations you're
01:31:53.340
like i don't like those never mind we're gonna hyphenate our last names i'm gonna have you're not
01:31:59.680
gonna be the head of the household i'm not gonna grant you your ability to use your masculine instincts
01:32:07.340
to make the best decisions for this family hey and that's within your right but what i guess what
01:32:15.040
i'm getting at is go date like a guy who's down to split the bill and is gonna when you ask he's not
01:32:24.540
gonna be decisive about what he wants to eat and he's not gonna be decisive when he's gonna have plans
01:32:30.620
he's gonna be like whatever you want babe you pick do you want that maybe she does i don't know
01:32:38.140
can i ask a question go ahead um by the way i just want to say you know other girls can if you have
01:32:46.000
something you want to say please if you have something you want to say to what i say somebody
01:32:50.520
you can come in go ahead um so the whole feminist movement really just confuses me because it's like
01:32:57.280
double-minded um so i have a question for the both of you guys since you guys seem to be um feminist
01:33:03.580
and you seem to be also traditional as well at the same time yeah where do you guys both draw the line
01:33:08.700
between being a feminist and then being traditional like where do you draw the line at where you can be
01:33:14.920
feminist in this aspect or more so like no just where you draw the line i don't want to get too deep
01:33:19.920
yeah yeah i feel like that's mostly just like what you consider yourself and like what you consider
01:33:28.040
a feminist and what you believe in i guess for feminists but i don't know yeah um
01:33:39.060
i would say yeah it is hard because i do i do want that gender like equality when it comes to women
01:33:55.100
getting equal pay and work and things like that but then there is this other part of me i mean i was
01:34:01.740
raised in a very traditional home where like my dad was the sole provider and my mom was a stay-at-home mom
01:34:07.980
so i do have that part of me that still wants that but then there's this also part of me that wants
01:34:14.840
my own life and or i guess like i want that control in terms of like oh i'm i'm a providing
01:34:24.660
for myself and i'm making the rules in my own world so it's are you willing to compromise like let's say
01:34:33.560
you meet the right guy and he's like traditional and he meets like all your you know checks the
01:34:38.280
boxes right uh-huh are you willing to put aside the feminist identity that you kind of have a
01:34:44.420
little bit and then jump to being a transition transitional woman yeah traditional one yeah i
01:34:51.100
yeah i mean at the end of the day it's i want to have that i have the i i mean if it came down to
01:35:07.120
it i do want the more traditional relationship so that would have to be me re-evaluating like what
01:35:14.280
does it mean for me to be feminist and independent if i do want the man to be providing for me and
01:35:19.960
if i do want these things so let me ask you a question yes do you think that a traditional man
01:35:27.080
who's going to be a provider who's going to take it do you want um you want kids right yes do you
01:35:33.340
know how many kids you want um i wanted three but now with financials probably two when you start
01:35:40.460
having kids are you going to want to pull back from work a little bit yeah do you think you'll want
01:35:44.920
to take extended time off of work probably yes how much time do you plan to go get back to work
01:35:51.540
quickly after you have kids or would you would you do you want to be a stay-at-home mom so i was just
01:35:57.960
saying that i grew up you know in a very traditional home my dad was the sole provider and my mom was
01:36:03.220
stay-at-home mom um i think for me i want to be a stay-at-home mom up until a certain age for my kids
01:36:10.340
maybe till they hit like kindergarten both so like so five five years yeah five six years if you have
01:36:16.700
two kids so like seven six seven years so you want to take six to seven years off no so yeah no that's
01:36:24.140
not wrong no i don't think that's well it's not it's not wrong for you to want that but i'm trying
01:36:30.980
to reconcile it with your feminist independent woman position um yeah so i during that seven
01:36:39.780
year period you want your husband you want to stay at home take care of the kids you want your husband
01:36:45.380
to be sole breadwinner for a seven year period i'm not saying that's wrong i'm just asking if that's
01:36:52.380
what you would be i'll bring you in in just a sec go ahead um it's hard because i think in my mind in
01:37:00.060
this like ideal world like i would be stay-at-home mom while also still bringing in some kind of
01:37:05.060
income from like a side hustle or something and then side hustle yeah i don't know what blogging
01:37:11.800
about kids who knows blogging about kids i don't that sounds like a waste of money not gonna lie
01:37:16.960
blogs does that do people even do that i don't know vlogging vlogging about kids i'm just i'm just
01:37:23.380
bringing in a hypothetical while your husband is a sole breadwinner and you just had two kids and you
01:37:27.880
have household expenses and child expenses you you're gonna want your husband to go like drop a
01:37:34.100
thousand dollars on like camera equipment and like editing and yeah no i know it is okay a big um
01:37:40.540
commitment okay i'm just trying to think of other ways i could help bring in money at the time of
01:37:47.460
raising kids so you basically want to provide for yourself up until the time you're married and are
01:37:54.440
ready to have children and then you're willing to put all your efforts into being a traditional
01:37:59.600
wife correct i would say yes okay so the question you have to ask yourself is is you might want that
01:38:10.720
treatment from a man but because of your mindset and because you consider yourself feminist and
01:38:16.020
independent you don't want to take your husband's name you want but you want him to be
01:38:21.580
sole breadwinner for a period of seven years do you think a traditional man wants you
01:38:28.560
do you think like first off do you think traditional men are feminist do you think
01:38:34.600
traditional men tend to be liberal men um not i assume you're liberal right i'm liberal to moderate
01:38:42.520
yeah okay so you had the other part of the equation is does the man you want want you you have a lot of
01:38:49.360
like progressive liberal women who want actually there's a nick i'll find it but there's this video
01:38:57.380
that went viral a couple months ago i think it's in one of the dropbox folders um we reacted to it
01:39:04.920
it was a woman in a car and she was saying how she's super liberal and progressive but she still
01:39:11.360
wants the traditional treatment um i'm gonna see if i can find the video because that's kind of
01:39:16.120
topical yeah but do you think a traditional guy who is gonna be okay with you not taking his last
01:39:24.420
name and you being a feminist like do you think most traditional men want that um
01:39:32.260
i don't you don't know i think so okay but so don't you think you should sorry sorry i didn't
01:39:44.300
mean to cut you off continue the last name thing is funny because i just really like my last name
01:39:50.180
if it was like a lame name then i'd be like okay but but i know i know it it comes down to like it
01:39:57.600
shouldn't matter if you know if i had a cool last name or not it's it's more of the principle of it i
01:40:03.460
guess so anyways that's a side note but um yeah okay i guess yeah i'd have to do here you had
01:40:14.880
something soul searching yes my whole thing is is like i think you can be a feminist and still want
01:40:20.560
those things because like biologically like you want a man with resources it's like you're talking
01:40:25.080
about having a kid someday wanting to support it like that's a biological part of us and like
01:40:29.920
biologically you want a man that's gonna protect you it's like you're gonna want someone that's
01:40:34.640
gonna be able to provide for you because it's like hey pregnancy and having children is hard
01:40:38.180
and like yeah i think men do see it that way i think part of feminism is like it not being
01:40:43.760
necessarily completely transactional it's like you don't necessarily want to feel like you're bought
01:40:48.880
also i don't think a leader is necessarily a provider because yeah you can have a provider but
01:40:54.500
you could like boss that bitch around like you can get what you need and like i think that's the
01:40:59.420
same as like going on a first date is like initially you want to see that that person is
01:41:03.360
gonna put it in and also it's like that courting like that courtship like you could look at flowers
01:41:08.740
for example like a bouquet of flowers it's like people buy them now but back in the day people used
01:41:13.220
to pick them and it was like a proof of their ability to forage it's like look at all these
01:41:18.600
qualities i can provide for you keep going keep going go ahead and like it's nice like i'm not gonna
01:41:25.700
lie like one time some guy like hit me up at like 1 a.m like as a booty call and i was like no you have
01:41:31.460
to go out and like literally pick me flowers like pick me a bouquet and like maybe maybe i'll come over
01:41:36.040
it's like it's that sense of like effort have you ever had a booty call though a lot yeah okay like two
01:41:45.400
standards this is like what's i mean so okay you have you objected you like almost were
01:41:52.700
offended how dare he ask for a booty call yet you've had plenty of booty calls yeah i've had
01:42:03.220
so many booty calls that i was like you know what i want to feel like someone actually like
01:42:07.080
wants to work for it you know it was just like uh hey you know what i want can i so did he work for
01:42:15.000
it yeah he he picked the flowers he let me ask you a question so
01:42:19.220
while he did all this work for it he went out and actually he legit picked flowers yes a whole
01:42:27.320
bouquet he even got a variety he walked two blocks for it it was nice um while how long did
01:42:34.220
you make him wait before hooking up or whatever until he finished picking his flowers
01:42:38.080
i thought it was oh so you y'all hooked up on the first date it was not a date it was a booty call
01:42:44.360
there's a difference oh he so so it's still a booty call but he had to go get some flowers
01:42:49.540
yeah that's so arbit i mean it's funny it's very arbitrary though um and what's so funny is like
01:42:57.160
women have so much fucking power in relationships i can't imagine a guy being able to say to a woman
01:43:04.820
like go get some motherfucking flowers and then maybe i'll give you some dick ain't no girl gonna
01:43:15.720
be like okay let me get right on it start picking some flowers so i can get some dick like bro that
01:43:23.160
shit's okay it's also different when you have to ask them to do that you know i mean they should
01:43:28.940
naturally do that but we had this this was a long time ago we have we went around the table with
01:43:34.140
some girls and a girl said she told the guy like a guy who was pleasant asked her out and she was
01:43:40.660
like oh she's kind of a fence sitter she's like oh i don't know um prove uh tell me why i should go
01:43:47.740
out with you prove to me or some shit like that and like all the girls laughed oh ha ha and i was like
01:43:53.560
let me ask if a guy if you were interested in a guy and he was like prove to me why i should go out
01:43:59.880
with you all the girls were like i'd just be like who who the fuck does this guy think he is
01:44:05.860
fuck this guy he's got a big fucking ego on to the next boom um but okay so the guy
01:44:12.200
so okay it was a booty call you said no to the booty call but then he picked you flowers and then you
01:44:20.060
said yes to the booty call yeah and then i guess once the booty was over it was it was just interesting
01:44:25.080
but that's like completely besides the point we're like getting off track yeah i just forgot where
01:44:29.840
we were on that toxic feminist is about wanting everything in females favor but expects guys to
01:44:37.280
be traditional while being a non-traditional hoes it's like having eight bodies and forcing her
01:44:42.780
simp boyfriend to be okay that his girl got ran through shout out to number nine you wish you were
01:44:49.600
number nine oh uh yo lpe thank you very much for that comment man uh appreciate it yeah i mean it's
01:44:57.180
i think that's kind of how dating is you have a bunch of you basically there's an expectation on men
01:45:04.840
that we adhere to our traditional gender roles with non-traditional women they want they want all
01:45:10.940
the benefits of equality and all the benefits of traditionalism doesn't make it make sense i don't
01:45:17.760
really get it oh nick the video that we were talking about it's what's her name uh it was a
01:45:24.580
new there's a new york post article i can't find it in the folder so you're gonna have to google it
01:45:28.240
it's progressive woman wants man to pay for dates that should probably trigger like find it for us
01:45:36.100
um okay i don't know what what were we talking about i don't know paying for dates
01:45:45.420
we were talking about her feminist independence yeah um
01:45:57.320
you oh you were saying that it's normal like that's what women want
01:46:02.720
like it's normal for women to want a guy who's like provider protector leader etc etc
01:46:07.640
yeah because that's like biological yeah like i don't know if you've ever heard a bus but he's
01:46:12.860
done a lot of like david buss i don't know his first name oh just his last name yeah but he's
01:46:18.340
done a lot of like research with that they like did a study across like 37 countries and outside of
01:46:22.560
like one of them because of like culture norms like that was the overall take and sure it it makes
01:46:33.440
here i'm gonna read this while i'm gonna read this while i remember seeing violet on iphone and other
01:46:40.960
social media several years ago glad to see she's still relevant i wish her much success and
01:46:45.840
happiness moving forward valley hey thank you man appreciate it um sorry rachel what were you saying
01:46:50.920
huh what were you saying something i don't know i was just saying research i think i finished my
01:46:55.820
oh okay nick he said you have it i might is it is it this one and this
01:47:05.060
uh do add tiktok to the search term can you pull it out over to this screen so i can see it
01:47:16.940
go back um no it doesn't trigger just uh progressive women tiktok men should pay
01:47:27.020
sorry guys we're uh yeah that one hopefully the ad block please don't fucking ad block
01:47:36.620
it is uh just turn off ad block on that page do you know how to do it
01:47:42.060
okay very top by the search bar top by search bar there's a hand sign nope
01:47:47.420
sorry guys give us just a sec click that uh pause on the site always is fine just always
01:47:53.900
okay refresh cool cool cool all right if you can pull that up when you can
01:47:57.760
sorry guys we're just getting this article pulled up here
01:48:01.940
uh okay i'm a liberal it's hard to find masculine men to date who aren't conservative
01:48:11.240
can you scroll down just a little bit uh i think let's watch the actual scroll down scroll
01:48:16.360
down i think is this the actual video no that's just a screenshot scroll down a bit more usually
01:48:21.480
they link that's screenshot there we go uh pause it audio full screen what the fuck
01:48:30.220
pause pause pause pause pause pause full screen please okay start it go ahead i guess
01:48:38.200
do you want to know wait pause pause pause pause pause pause video tab please go ahead
01:48:45.320
realizations i recently had was that as a liberal woman it is really hard to find a man who is willing
01:48:53.560
to play the more traditional masculine role in the relationship in today's day and age who is not
01:49:00.440
a conservative a man who wants to pay on the first date who wants to open your door who has that
01:49:05.800
want and desire to take care of you and to provide who is not a conservative and obviously as a liberal
01:49:12.040
woman i do want to be respected for my independence and i do want to have my own autonomy in the
01:49:16.580
relationship and not be confined or conformed to the traditional female homemaker childbearing role
01:49:25.300
and most of the men that i've dated who do have that more natural provider masculinity about them
01:49:31.120
are normally conservative so i don't really know what to do because i don't want to compromise my
01:49:35.920
morals and values just to find a man but am i asking to have my cake and eat it too yes yes you are okay
01:49:45.680
so does that um does that video kind of capture a little bit of how you feel yeah i i'd say yeah okay um
01:49:57.600
yeah it is i think it is hard because i growing up in a very more traditional um setting and then
01:50:09.340
trying to want to just seeing it i guess it kind of comes down to seeing and not work out with my
01:50:16.420
my parents it's like okay they did the traditional route and it still didn't work so they're divorced
01:50:24.660
yeah okay yeah it's not clear to me if they're divorced because they were traditional versus
01:50:30.140
other reasons but go ahead i was gonna say that video sounds so contradictory like it doesn't make
01:50:35.020
sense you can't have one and then want the other i think she just answered her own question in the
01:50:39.960
video though so it's like yeah what do you want him to be traditional but you can't do it doesn't
01:50:45.720
make sense like she said herself that obviously naturally traditional people are more conservative
01:50:51.460
and stuff but she said literally that she wasn't willing to be a traditional wife and homemaker so
01:50:58.760
sucks to suck sucks to suck look if you're a feminist you're independent independent woman start paying for
01:51:06.020
first aids problem solved right yeah are you gonna are you gonna start offering to pay for first
01:51:13.240
dates um uh i can give it a shot i can you seem deeply disturbed by the idea of paying for the
01:51:23.700
first day yeah um i mean if i'm gonna walk and do my talk then comes down to it then i should go find
01:51:41.380
yeah okay although i do think like there's such a there's such a pressure now on men
01:51:48.820
that men are even starting to and have actually have been providing for feminist women so like you
01:51:58.260
will find like it what in my opinion are simps basically um who are still gonna pay for you
01:52:08.480
even though you're super feminist and super non-traditional i'm not saying there's hey it's
01:52:15.960
your choice but i just i don't like this idea of men being traditional men with non-traditional
01:52:24.140
woman it just doesn't compute for me it does not make any sense so you're saying that it would have
01:52:32.180
to be traditional men with traditional women and then that kind of non-traditional men with
01:52:38.000
non-traditional women that to keep things that seems like but wouldn't it make sense don't
01:52:44.440
wouldn't a traditional man want a traditional woman i think the differential here is that you have
01:52:51.600
non-traditional women who want traditional men but it's not gonna there's not there's enough
01:52:58.480
traditional women i well that's kind of a tough one but traditional men want traditional women
01:53:07.060
i don't think they want non-traditional women non-traditional women clearly see the benefit
01:53:13.160
dating wise to dating traditional men leading provisioning protecting etc
01:53:18.980
i i actually i'm curious what are the benefits of dating a non-traditional man
01:53:25.920
you can walk all over him yeah maybe i don't know um why don't you walk more over like a
01:53:37.400
traditional man like you're really just like squeezing out the goods you know but traditional
01:53:43.000
man's like a leader so you're not gonna like yes non-traditional man there's not
01:53:48.180
they don't like put the frame of respect there yeah like some guys are so nice you know and like
01:53:55.840
they'll go along with everything but and they're nice but i would never get with a guy like that
01:54:00.180
because i just need you to be you know i i'm the nice one and i go along with everything i need you
01:54:05.600
to be like no we're drawing the line here you know so i definitely think traditional men can get
01:54:11.220
taken advantage of can get played certainly so um yeah nick can you pull up twitch really quick i want
01:54:18.240
to shout out uh twitch people guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever drops to fall in the prime sub
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yo operator thank you for the prime moonshine thank you for the prime joma thank you for the four
01:54:28.200
community subs thank you man espada thank you for the prime ricky marie thank you for the tier one
01:54:34.260
steve-o thank you for the prime much appreciated thank you man go uh drops a fall in the prime sub
01:54:40.280
if you have one all right moving on to a different topic here we have rachel i have a lot of personal
01:54:48.000
experience in regards to relationships and sexual activity yes and you provided and i thank you for
01:54:55.620
providing this you got a long list here and i'm trying to give you prompts and you can tell us the
01:54:59.380
full cliff notes version uh one of your exes totaled a car took your car and totaled it what
01:55:06.580
happened there give us a short version if you can okay short version uh i was in high school they had
01:55:12.440
my keys little did i know that they were actually going to drive my car they went to get mcdonald's
01:55:17.320
and totaled it into a waste management truck and then they ubered me there um from my school and then
01:55:23.360
told the police officers that i did it even though i didn't because they didn't have a license or a
01:55:27.660
permit and yeah and then that was the end of the relationship uh and really expensive especially
01:55:35.040
since i had already totaled two cars in high school so yeah okay um you said that the same dude who he
01:55:44.040
did he steal your car or he just borrowed it i would say steal because like he wasn't allowed to
01:55:49.440
drive it and he had taken it technically stolen it before without me knowing okay um yeah he told me
01:55:58.380
he needed to charge his phone in my car which i don't know why i believe that sure um this same guy
01:56:05.500
you said that he faked his own death yes yes to try to get me back yes get you back yes so after the
01:56:14.900
car accident situation he i don't even know how but he went to like the emergency room i don't think
01:56:22.720
he actually had any emergencies but then he like posted a picture of it and then he had his friend
01:56:28.160
call me and tell me that the nurses said that he wasn't gonna make it and he was unresponsive and so
01:56:35.200
i'm sitting there freaking out um and then all of a sudden i get bombarded by him and yeah i don't
01:56:44.040
know i don't know why that would fix things there's more there's more he tried to stab you yeah that was
01:56:55.260
also after the fact too after what fact oh after him crashing my car okay i guess what did he try to
01:57:01.880
stab you with a spork no a knife a knife i went over to his house he wanted to talk it out and he
01:57:07.560
kept being like oh come sit next to me and i was like no you have a knife and he's like no no i don't
01:57:12.760
he's like do you see a knife and i was like no and he's like so then sit there and then he pulled a
01:57:19.960
so he was on he like he just had a knife like he did he actually make a stabbing motion to try to stab
01:57:30.080
you uh yeah and this sounds terrible but i like was it a butter knife no no it like nicked my
01:57:37.000
finger fortunately you got a low cut yeah he just kept like yelling i want to stab you so like that
01:57:41.880
was he kept yelling he wants to stab you yeah but it was fine i didn't get stabbed you but you stayed
01:57:47.700
there how many times did he say he was going to stab you how long i don't know he just kept
01:57:54.220
repeating it and why didn't you leave he kept trying to stab you what the hell yeah were you
01:58:00.300
like fighting him off like oh i dodged it because like i don't know i was pushing unfortunately i think
01:58:06.820
he knew if he did stab me there'd be consequences so i think so he was like fake stabbing you no i
01:58:12.200
think it was like he really wanted to but also like part of him may have been holding back i mean
01:58:17.940
um but yeah i got out of it because i had sex with him so yeah it's okay
01:58:24.380
what did he propose that or did you propose that idea no i just found that that's like a really
01:58:31.620
stinky way of getting out of things those guys so you proposed it yikes so were you like i'll have
01:58:38.440
sex with you if you don't stop me that's a little no exactly it's just like you you kind of distract
01:58:44.900
them and then you can kind of get i mean that's just i mean it sounds like a lifetime movie that's
01:58:50.960
a really fucked up that's crazy situation uh fuck okay uh so he stole your car totaled it faked his
01:59:02.020
own death but you still went over to his house like what were what was where you you i assume you
01:59:08.920
were broken up yeah i had just gone over to his house um because he wanted to get stabbed
01:59:14.320
no because he wanted to make it make it up to me like talk about things with his penis
01:59:19.720
no like about how would he make it up to you but that was him being seductive he wanted to talk
01:59:26.460
about things to get her into his house so he could yeah also because he was gonna owe me a lot of money
01:59:34.260
we took him a small claims court because he never paid for it but for the car yeah but in the state
01:59:39.980
of colorado you cannot get charged with negligence as a minor so he lucked out
01:59:46.220
it's okay that sounds terrible uh very toxic relationship through and through you said he
01:59:53.540
was your best friend's ex so karma's a bitch he was your best friend's ex so karma's you got
02:00:04.140
revenge on your best friend no i would say like that whole relationship was karma for like
02:00:09.340
getting with my best friend's ex because oh karma karma in your direction okay because it was your
02:00:17.640
best friend's ex yeah that's pretty a shit move you know that's not really that great this was in high
02:00:23.700
school you said my junior year your best friend
02:00:27.520
is this like a small town or something there were no other men that could stab you i mean no like i
02:00:38.800
don't know it just kind of happened plenty of men who would be happy to stab you i mean i'm trying i
02:00:43.140
could find you one tonight are you into the stabbing thing is that what it is no some girls have like a
02:00:48.040
knife kink it's like they want a knife held to them it's weird don't ask yeah not me not me
02:00:53.440
um trying to keep everything brief here uh when they were dating he bought a turtle
02:00:57.920
the turtle ended up going into my possession um i absolutely hated the guy for a really really long
02:01:03.420
time but the turtle the turtle turtle still alive and kicking no he took the turtle and then sold it
02:01:12.000
for a cat valid i don't know basically out of anything i'm a simp for pets so that was it
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what so okay but it was your best friend's ex so wait they had broken up and then you got with him
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or did you steal him from her oh no it was like it was like months later they've been arguing um but
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you're you were her best friend did she not tell you any crazy stories about this dude um no because
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like they never really had that kind of stuff like most of their interactions were at school and them
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screaming at each other but i mean that sounds pretty bad yeah i just wouldn't pay attention so
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yeah that wasn't a red flag for you that they were having yelling matches in high school before going
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to fourth period bio class i mean i don't know i was in high school you don't really know all that much
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i mean i think even in high school like people yelling at each other is pretty unhealthy
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so that was that was like the thing that turned you on like oh yeah he's gonna abuse me verbally is
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that kind of what was exciting about him no the verbal abuse no it was most like you had pre-evidence
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of his abuse like verbal abuse so i mean yeah i mean maybe she was abusive too i mean yeah i don't know
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a lot of that shit can be mutual i would just say he's like good at manipulating so kind of sounds
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like a different person okay all right uh you went on a tinder date and the man threw up all over your
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the back seat of your car and you didn't know this okay so this is disgusting but i used same guy or
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different guy different guy different guy um there this was only a one-time thing um it's really
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disgusting but i used to have digestive issues and so like driving would be hard because i'd throw up
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so you know i had a big gulp cup and this man our first date was to go get my flu shot and then
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afterwards he insisted on hanging out in my car and then you know wanted to move to the back and i don't
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know why but he just decided to chuck the thing in my back seat and so i had to go home and clean that
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chuck the thing oh it was your own throw up yeah the big gulp cup of my vomit
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okay so i thought he was the one who it was you who threw up yes in the back of your car
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tech indirectly but you said you didn't even know this is you have two different throw up stories
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my bad i never proofread anything i said um you said you went on a tinder tinder date the man threw
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up all over the back seat of your car oh no and you didn't know this he threw my throw up in the
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back seat of my car and he didn't know my throw up and the thing is is i don't know why he didn't
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notice and he just kept going and i was like no you like you need to leave okay that's interesting
02:04:20.660
what's the some guy picked me up from a club and you did what to his parents bed
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pooped i know the internet's gonna shit on me for this one but i shat in his bed so you know what
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it's it works out it's fine why like you did it on purpose no i just like woke up and i thought he
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farted that wasn't the case he was nice though he like cleaned it up and he played the guitar for me
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to try to make me feel better did you ever see him again yeah actually i did on his accord
02:04:56.740
okay um what was the the spanish kid story with the spanish class or whatever not the spanish kid
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the spanish class oh yeah so this guy in my spanish class i guess a bunch of girls thought
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he was really cute i didn't really think much of it and then we went on a date and it was super
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awkward because he's like oh i haven't done this in a while and i was like done like what do you mean
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like it's okay um and he was like no like i actually haven't like hung out with someone outside
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of school uh he was like the last time i did was like a year and a half ago with my ex and then he
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was like and before that it was like two years um and then we went like miniature golfing and it
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was super awkward because he was trying so hard to like flirt with me but also at the same time kept
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like insisting that i didn't like him and all this stuff i hung out with the dude for like three hours
02:05:53.680
and then when i had to go home for dinner he was like sitting there being like oh you're trying
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to make excuses because you don't like me and it was weird he told me like the back of my head was
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hot when we were putt-putting he told me it was good competition even though i'm really bad at putt-putt
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but he said it's just because he usually goes alone um yeah no it's just a very awkward um experience
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very sad okay so he's kind of insecure whatever okay uh let's see i'll come back to some of your
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other stories later uh let's see you said you were unaware that you were in a love triangle and
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that was the pawn what does that mean um let's go back to circa 2020 um i was dating this guy we met
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on instagram um he ended up still being in contact with his ex i didn't know any of that until i did
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some digging because i don't like to assume until all i have my facts all straight so i don't do that
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um because that's crazy so found out about her um and i found out about her kind of like
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accidentally i had posted um a tiktok challenge um it was ariana grande's point of view and i posted it
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at like six o'clock she posted the same exact challenge at 601 so um i reached out to him i was
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just like are you still talking to her no response i went on her instagram seeing his comment and sure
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enough they were still talking never spoke to him again a few months later he said you know what ariel
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i'm so sorry i never intended for that to happen it was just all messed up and never spoke to him after
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that okay all right yeah i hate when people use like i never intended for that to happen but you
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you did okay um you said that you you've noticed a mass increase in interracial interracial
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relationships marriages dating and you said ever since i started dating outside my race i've been
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happier and that you've gotten a lot of backlash from it i enjoy it ignorance is bliss what do you
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mean um so i definitely have seen a lot more interracial marriages and relationships especially
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in california um ever since i did start dating outside my race it's been pretty good i've enjoyed it but
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a lot of my friends um kind of had some comments about that um and it doesn't really bother bother
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me at all because i mean if someone makes you happy then they make you happy so would you what is
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your racial preference i date white guys white guys okay latino latino guys no asian no black guys
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no like is it you just have a preference for white men or you just will not date those races black
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guys before yeah but ever since i switched to white guys definitely more happy okay became a preference
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you prefer the white men i do she prefers the white men why did your friends have an issue with you
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you realize you still have an airpod in i just fucking noticed that bro
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you can know what you got do you have like someone i was having check yeah they were like
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look at your face look on your face at the screen the faces you're making are so funny
02:09:32.340
wait i kept hearing it your friends are on the phone with you yeah they're watching yeah why are you oh
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they're talking to you no like one send a text she's like the faces that you're making are hilarious
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i didn't even realize i was making them but yeah okay what but to answer your question what's is that
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on your phone or in here yeah it's in my phone it's connected to my phone and then to answer your
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question um i think because they have their own preference and i guess they wanted me to do the
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same thing as them speak straight into the mic like date within your own yeah technically yeah
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okay uh let's see uh wait who's noel oh yeah that's one of the girls that flaked i got notes on
02:10:15.620
her but okay rip okay uh does anyone else here have a racial preference what about you do you prefer
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white people you prefer blasian do you prefer wasians what do you any any color of the rainbow
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okay okay what about you do you have a preference white guys black guys if i had to pick same race
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as myself but i'm not picky what which version version but i'm not picky
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what what race was your last boyfriend persian before that persian before that i've had two
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boyfriends hat trick persian oh just okay all right persian persian okay that's super specific
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like okay cool hey cool uh yeah i prefer white guys wow racist over here what can i say
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such a racist becca wow rude yeah okay uh violet what about you
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i don't have a preference what was your last oh yeah you haven't really had a boyfriend
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what was your last uh ting uh asian okay madison uh-oh she's about to get clipped
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i don't have a preference either i'm down for any color rainbow say madison say i i do find myself
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more attracted to white men specifically brunettes brown eyes thick eyebrows so frankie just describing
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your boyfriend yeah uh but but what about the asian men um i wanted to say like i was actually
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thinking about it the first two guys i ever like had like a little ting with were asian huh there
02:12:11.240
you have it folks so i'm not there you have it there you have it folks maddie is walking back
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her her uh asian hate self-hatred okay let's see here um what is your preference brian
02:12:30.400
my preference i'll date i'll date any race but i'd say i have a slight preference for uh white or asian
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women but i'll date i'll date any race i don't really it's not a big thing for me
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oh i was just gonna ask like what were all your past teens
02:12:50.900
past i mean geez where do i begin so many huh i mean i've dated a couple asian women i've dated
02:12:59.440
some white women uh i think that's specific enough i reckon let's see uh i mean yeah that's
02:13:09.360
fine she's in the corner over there it's okay um let's see so i'll bring it back to rachel here
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let's see rachel you were in an open relationship which all fell apart when i slept with your drug
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with your drug dealer and then your boyfriend got pissed because apparently the relationship
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was only open on his end yes um well i didn't know but i had taken his virginity and for him like
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that was very important to him at the time i used to view sex as just an activity um
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and so we decided to have things open because it's going to be a long distance over the summer
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and i was very adamant about him being able to like sexually explore himself and i asked so many
02:13:57.400
times to make sure he was good with it and he was fully on board but then i slept with someone and he
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said that that was unfair because it was unequal um and he expected it to only be on his side his
02:14:10.440
exact reaction was i think i'm gonna vomit based um but yeah that's why most open relationships fail
02:14:18.040
though because it's never really communicated exactly how both of the people want it and it's
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just like it's never really fair i guess we tried to work it out i tried to like leave it open on his
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end because like i was really in love with him a lot um and i was fine with that but man kept blowing
02:14:40.840
his chances he just kept like telling girls about me in the process of trying to fuck them and i was like
02:14:46.760
dude no female wants to hear that was it was it like a mutual decision that you would be open as
02:14:55.880
well or you just talked about him being open well it was always kind of assumed and talked about that
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it'd be open both ways until that didn't work and so then i was open on his end not my end and then
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eventually i asked for equity and he wanted equality so we kind of mutually went other directions
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wait so just to be clear you started dating a guy it started open for the both of you
02:15:24.280
then he wanted to close it on your end yes you agreed to that correct yes and then you wanted to
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open it back up again yes because at that point and then you slept with your drug dealer but then
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you said he got pissed oh no um so the thing is is like that's how we came up with like how i found
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out that apparently he always had assumed because like all of our conversations it sounded like open
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on both ends that's when i found out he actually thought it was only open on his end is when i was
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honest about that and that was about three months into our relationship and then that was my longest
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relationship which went for seven months and so like during those four months i was eventually kind of
02:16:06.280
like i don't like like i don't know what you do with that you know okay um so distance
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you are in an open relationship this was your longest relation this was a seven month relationship
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that you referenced you slept with your drug dealer and we're talking marijuana what are we talking here
02:16:30.200
um the goodies what's that the stuff you can't get at the dispo or the grocery store molly what are we
02:16:38.040
the gas station uh i've actually never tried molly i'd like to um mostly just like shrooms
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meth um i have gotten weed from him before meth no not meth heroin i'm not crack cocaine it's like the hippie
02:16:53.080
drugs you know are you a hippie i've been called that many times yes psychedelics yeah okay all right
02:16:59.880
uh you said you had a guy obsessed with you you felt like you were a babysitter you told him to go
02:17:06.120
make friends he comes to your house banging on the window to show me that he made a friend
02:17:11.240
some random girl he had just met definitely low-key stalking or just lots of stalking behavior
02:17:18.440
and that one's kind of whatever i don't know if you've caught on to a trend but i um really picked
02:17:23.480
the cream of the crop um cream of the crop yeah i don't know why i've been told that i just finally
02:17:29.720
like the weirdest human beings and i'm like yes um but yeah so i graduated high school in 2020 so i
02:17:36.440
started university in 2020 online um and my english teacher told me that i should make friends so
02:17:42.360
someone in one of my classes she like hooked us up and so we were just like talking virtually we kind
02:17:48.680
of liked each other um things started getting really excessive and then when we both came out to
02:17:52.920
school it was like way too way too much uh that was when i had to tell him to make friends and him
02:18:00.200
liking to show me these friends and also like i'd be trying to study and i'd have to print him out
02:18:06.920
coloring pages so he'd like let go of my arm uh yeah it was very uncomfortable okay uh you have so many
02:18:17.800
more i'll do one more and then we'll come back to some of your other dating anecdotes later but you
02:18:22.840
said that there was a different guy who was obsessed with you and would literally do anything for you he
02:18:28.520
was your bitch yes your words yes uh what happened there what's the story there that's when you could
02:18:36.360
talk about uh providers someone overly trying to provide for you out of anything um also that's the
02:18:44.520
thing too is like his whole thing was like oh because since you don't want it it makes you more
02:18:49.240
deserving of it and everything just got really excessive it's yeah it's like if i like i made a
02:18:57.400
joke once i was like can you get a puppy because i want to play with a dog literally that night started
02:19:03.000
looking at dogs ended up buying my favorite breed of dog um okay he bought your dog what else um
02:19:11.160
um bought me a lot of things how much what was he like a sugar daddy type of thing or um but you
02:19:18.680
guys were dating sleeping together yeah yeah um he was your bitch though why was he how was he your
02:19:25.800
bitch i don't know like you did you boss him around type shit like he had no spine he was spineless
02:19:32.040
i would say he was spineless i was never trying to like take advantage of him um but it's like he tried
02:19:39.080
so hard to like almost purchase my love and like he recognized that so like that's like literally
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what kind of made him my bitch it's like oh for example i crack a joke about wanting a dog and he
02:19:50.440
goes out and gets a dog um it's like oh i'm going abroad so he's gonna buy tickets to surprise me
02:20:01.960
you said you almost got the restraining order against him yeah for that same reason um just
02:20:10.280
because a lot of his other behaviors were extremely unhealthy okay yeah all right we'll come back to
02:20:16.040
some of your other anecdotes in a little bit um we were talking about vulnerability a little earlier
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i don't know if i want to swing back on that um maybe later we'll talk about vulnerability um
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yes is it yasmin yasmin yasmin what do you want to talk about
02:20:40.360
men being men and woman being woman what what do you mean by that gender roles what do you mean
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are you looking for a man yes so you're like actively searching are you doing the approaching
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or are you i'm not doing the approaching so you're just waiting for a man to come to you
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oh these girls they drive hours to come be on the show these girls asked to be on the show brian
02:21:30.040
i want to be on the show they have nothing to fucking say okay um nothing you don't have a hot
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take anything i mean gender roles that's when my hot take woman to be a woman okay men be the
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providers and women do what they're what they're supposed to women do what they're supposed to yeah
02:21:49.240
rachel what do you feel about that do you disagree with her women being women and men being men yeah
02:21:55.960
i vote being human why don't you guys argue for a little bit let's see that let's i'm gonna step back
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i'm gonna drop the lead of the conversation go ahead okay this might be like i hope this isn't
02:22:08.520
like an offensive question but like my issue with as we put it my bitch um he was persian so he was
02:22:15.480
constantly telling me like no like this is okay because i'm persian he's like persians like to shower
02:22:21.160
people with gifts i don't know if that has affected or influenced you with the
02:22:27.160
the flaunting of resources if that makes sense i'll put it in well the way i see it as a woman
02:22:34.440
what makes us happy it's like or like personally for me what makes me happy is being in my true
02:22:39.320
essence like i i'm in my 30s in my 20s i tried doing like the boss babe like make money and i'm like okay
02:22:45.560
career like focus on that that did not make me happy i'm like okay what is really gonna make me happy
02:22:50.680
what's my purpose it's like oh having kids and conceiving and like taking care of my kids my family like
02:22:55.960
like devoting myself to my husband and for me my essence as a woman and i feel like most women
02:23:04.440
their essence that's what makes us happy is like being able to nurture and conceive and procreate
02:23:11.240
also what does it mean to devote yourself to a man to take care of my man take care of my kids
02:23:18.360
to nurture them to nourish them to make sure they're healthy and happy to like serve something
02:23:25.960
other than myself what do you think is the root of the issue that women are turning away from those
02:23:31.640
specific feminine qualities now well when i think of myself when i was in my 20s it's like oh you need
02:23:36.600
to focus on a career and to focus on making money and that's the most important thing that's what's
02:23:39.960
going to make you happy and that's what i learned in school like after you graduate college go get a job
02:23:45.400
go make money like you need like to climb that corporate ladder in order to be happy and there
02:23:51.800
was no nothing else telling me otherwise so it's like oh this is what i have to do to be happy what
02:23:58.600
about men like what do you think is yeah just that same question but for men why do you think men aren't
02:24:09.160
masculine anymore i think same thing like school programming tv society has like programmed them
02:24:16.920
program them to be a certain way and then there's like the whole thing we're talking about talks
02:24:20.280
toxic masculinity is like they're like being programmed to be like oh being masculine is toxic
02:24:28.200
and it's okay to be emotional it's okay to like i don't know as a man to like cry or
02:24:35.880
you can go 50 50 on a date like why should a man pay things like that some men are like why should
02:24:43.080
i be doing this when because women want to hyphenate their last names right exactly they want to
02:24:54.360
not hold up their end of the traditional gender role
02:24:57.400
yeah and then women try to be leaders in a relationship and be like oh this has to be this
02:25:01.160
way and it's like there can't be two leaders in something and i feel like it can be frustrating
02:25:08.600
for a man too i think that society has really like you know they're they've advertised for women to be
02:25:16.360
strong independent like even my mom's generation you know she had kids really young and she always told
02:25:22.920
me like never depend on a man just make sure you know you don't get pregnant young and you'll be fine
02:25:27.960
just focus on your career like i was always told that even my stepdad he would be like if i were to
02:25:33.240
like go out with a nice rich rich guy or something or i just wanted to surround myself with good people
02:25:39.640
but he would be like oh you're a gold digger you know and so it's like you're not you women are just
02:25:45.560
really like pushed away from being traditional and it's sad i feel like it's okay to encourage women
02:25:54.200
to uh go to school blah blah focus on themselves it but it i think the problem with it now is that
02:26:01.800
they're taking it to a certain extent where they think they don't need a man in the long run
02:26:09.160
they think they can survive without a man be happy but then when they're like 40 50 60 and have no kids
02:26:13.720
and they're just alone like i don't think they are happy but yeah like it's cute and sex in the city
02:26:20.200
but yeah you get like way older it's like okay what are you doing rachel go ahead sounded like you
02:26:25.880
wanted to come in oh i was gonna say like that's the same thing with men like aren't men like all
02:26:30.280
sad like i swear most guys i talk to it's like oh what's your like long-term goal and it's like i want
02:26:36.040
to have a house and i want to have a wife and i want to like support them and i'm like that's your
02:26:41.560
only goal and aspiration like i feel like beautiful yeah but i mean i think everyone
02:26:48.440
like really cherishes like relationships and stuff and i think it's great like obviously
02:26:52.920
no one wants to be alone but but why else are we here on earth if it's not
02:27:00.120
to be with someone else and procreate and have kids yeah i'm not arguing well you quite literally are
02:27:07.400
are you against it well what one thing that's interesting to me is when men make a lot of money
02:27:16.840
they think great i can provide for my family i can provide for my wife i can provide for my kids
02:27:24.600
when women make a lot of money they think i'm a strong independent woman that doesn't need a man
02:27:30.280
i think men tend to be more afraid of being alone when they're older than men or than women are i feel
02:27:38.440
like most women kind of have a little bit more maybe confidence i'd say well it's easier for it's
02:27:46.760
it's pretty easy for women to get men so maybe that's where that confidence is rooted in but i mean
02:27:53.400
there's there is a different biological reality where as a woman if you want to have children
02:27:58.920
you can age out of that whereas men i mean obviously if you're if you're 55 years old as a
02:28:05.880
dude it's going to be harder for you to like find a woman who's younger who wants to have kids but
02:28:12.520
you can technically as a guy at least from a purely biological level have children into your 70s and 80s
02:28:18.760
which is just a biological impossibility for women but you're also saying like as you get older like
02:28:26.360
your goals have shifted a little bit right if i'm understanding well it's because i was like i
02:28:32.200
fell for the mind virus of like when you're like be a boss babe focus on your career make money and i
02:28:38.600
do think it's a mind virus and that's what i was taught in school and college and into the mic please
02:28:44.200
now in my 30s when i was 20s there wasn't content telling like women oh this like being in your
02:28:49.560
feminine energy this is what's going to make you happy the only thing that was available was like
02:28:54.040
go be independent and make money and i tried that and i thought that's what was going to make me
02:28:58.920
happy now in my 30s i'm like oh wait i'm like 30 i want to have kids and my biological clock is ticking
02:29:05.400
okay technically yeah you could also call that your third stage of life um if you break it up into
02:29:10.520
stages because like through their 20s like yeah you really want to work towards those things and then
02:29:15.240
as you get older like yeah i guess what i'm saying is like but it's not fulfilling as a woman like
02:29:20.440
focusing on career money it's not going to be fulfilling at the end of the day i don't think
02:29:24.040
that's fulfilling for anyone like not men either so what is you said that having a family and children
02:29:30.680
is not fulfilling but you all said career is not fulfilling so what is fulfilling uh self-satisfaction
02:29:37.480
that's not a word uh just like you have to be content with yourself it's like i see it as one
02:29:42.280
day you want to become a tortoise like you're wise and you're content um huh the fuck hey i i can get
02:29:51.320
down with that tortoise have you seen dragon ball z master roshi what do you think about that like he
02:29:55.560
lives on an island all alone he's got like a house like super powerful beings come to visit him every
02:30:01.320
once in a while to train and shit and he does have like a tortoise shell on his back agree or disagree
02:30:05.720
can you play like the huh for him i don't know what this is i only control the hat sorry nick cannot
02:30:12.440
what what do you think about collateralized uh debt obligations collect collateralized debt
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obligations we're talking about financial or like when you're investing relationship no like subprime
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subprime mortgage loans i'm only 21 man like oh okay i don't know anything all right i'm gonna do a
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couple chats here nick can you pull up twitch really quick guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever
02:30:36.680
drop us a follow drop us a prime sub yo jan z think for the tier one man appreciate it okay so we have
02:30:42.760
josh berg chat to violet where's the i am a gorilla shirt oh i should have wore that
02:30:50.120
if you can i should have wore that she should have wore that i'm just gonna really put this rod up on me
02:30:56.120
that's better right wait what and it's this yeah you can straddle it proper
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okay what's up what's going on back there you have to go
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ah bro these people asked to be on the show like they don't okay um you should have let us know that
02:31:44.760
you couldn't stay for the whole thing but okay um this is my car face canadian hundred stop talking
02:31:52.040
to her please i don't know if this wasn't we need a i think we got to move people over a little bit um
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do we move violet there i think do we move no that doesn't make sense i think we move you in that seat
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okay and i'll adjust the yeah just move just take that seat that's fine um yeah i mean she's being
02:32:13.720
rude anyway she was like on her phone and shit so whatever um all right uh her and thank you man the
02:32:20.760
first woman is making absolutely zero sense the reason she can't articulate her beliefs is because
02:32:25.560
she's been told and influenced what to think so when she's pressed on why she believes what she believes
02:32:30.440
she also tries to move it on to someone else okay a i already know i make like zero logical sense
02:32:37.880
most of the time when i speak so like i'm not even mad about this um also i think especially at the
02:32:44.760
beginning it's like it's hard because like i do study biopsychology so they talk a lot about this and
02:32:51.240
i'm not trying to be like a little factoid nerd and also some of my arguments i guess are not
02:32:58.120
appropriate for youtube um also i'm also like very surprised and taken about by a lot of your
02:33:08.280
guys's responses um what do you mean by that i don't i don't know this is just um you've never
02:33:17.720
heard the dissenting opinion in your life i don't know i have okay just usually i feel like i'm more
02:33:23.800
convincing you're more convincing are you i i hope um yeah i don't know i really don't okay
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all right that's fine bender the offender ladies do you think that women deserve their dream man
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if they have made bad decisions in their past and have a bit of an attitude
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like i feel like that's so targeted as in the ladies have made the bad decisions in their past
02:33:53.640
and have the attitude did you leave oh yeah she's gone oh she had it go oh do you think that women
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deserve their dream man if they made bad decisions it it depends what you consider bad decisions what
02:34:09.560
extent it's gone to uh have a bit of an attitude probably fix your attitude if you want the man that
02:34:17.160
you dream of but i don't know that's like a very broad question it is yeah i would say define what
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bad decisions means and i assume that means being promiscuous and if they have a bad attitude that's
02:34:33.560
probably like they probably feel entitled and if they they are who they attract so if they've like
02:34:40.920
they're entitled have a bad attitude that's what they're going to attract it's not going to be their
02:34:44.520
dream man so if they want their dream man they have to change something it's very hard to
02:34:50.760
say you deserve your dream man because i don't think anyone is going to be your dream man
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like perfectly but i think yeah if they've fixed themselves a little bit and don't have an attitude
02:35:06.840
why do you ask that bender the offender i mean for me it's like i made a lot of bad decisions i'm not
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very good about making good decisions and like obviously i'd like to think that i deserve my dream man
02:35:21.480
but i also know that my dream man and men that i have loved in the past um because of the person i
02:35:29.160
am and the decisions i've made i can't have them um and it's like you always want something you can't
02:35:34.200
have so it's just working on yourself exactly did you respond to this or no um i i think you know
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everyone makes i mean i guess the same could be applied to a guy like does a guy deserve his dream
02:35:54.200
girl if he's made bad decisions and has an attitude so um yeah it's i guess it's i suppose for bender
02:36:06.440
the offender we ought to define the terms okay so yeah what are we talking about when it comes to bad
02:36:10.520
decisions and what are we talking about dream man so uh here i mean a perhaps a something that
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makes sense to me is hmm i'm trying to think of the criteria here and have oh so she made bad
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decisions in their past so yeah let's say a past of promiscuity and she made a bunch of bad decisions
02:36:31.720
in their past her dream man i don't know what it depends what her dream man is she wants a knight in
02:36:41.560
shining armor to come rescue her after she's made a bunch of someone to provide and protect that's
02:36:46.440
probably a dream man for most women provide and protect oh i thought you said tax like they did
02:36:52.120
their taxes for a second i'm like what all right um we have praxis here brian i've looked for the what
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sound bite that's on your soundboard but have had no luck thus far where can i find it is it from
02:37:06.360
one of your videos any help would be greatly appreciated i want to make it my text notification
02:37:11.160
sound thanks um it's uh i mean i just found it from a uh like a clip but i don't think you'll be
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able to find it from like one of those soundboard websites because like a lot of my soundboard things
02:37:23.800
i just like got from like not soundboard websites but like just funny things that i found on i mean
02:37:30.680
some of them are soundboard shit but um yeah so fdg thank you for the argentinian 500 ladies can you
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rate the rest of the panel oh wait before i think before we do that we should go around ask oh we
02:37:44.200
should have done this before she left fuck okay whatever um ask everyone to rate their looks on a
02:37:50.840
scale of one to ten go ahead ten ten sorry but this doll just just rate your own your own my own
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looks yeah like how i think i look yeah what what do you think like your looks are on a scale of one to
02:38:07.080
ten depends on the day average so some days you're a 10 other days you're not yeah i well it sounded like
02:38:19.080
you're about to say 10 no no no no i like i don't know can you skip me no just answer answer the
02:38:25.640
question i i don't know the answer okay here we'll come back to you how about that go ahead um on
02:38:30.920
average i'd give myself an approachable seven okay what about you um 5.5 what violet a seven
02:38:50.440
probably like a five then it sounded like you wanted to say 10 but you wanted to hear our answers
02:38:58.840
first so that you could maybe readjust i don't think i'm a 10 okay okay um well we have this one
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from fdg ladies can you rate the rest of the panel one to ten first on looks and then personality
02:39:13.080
obviously you don't know each other but according to what you've heard so far i'd love it if you
02:39:16.120
could justify your answer can you rate the rest of the panel one to ten first on looks and then
02:39:20.440
personality um i don't know if they're open to it but i'll ask them do you want to rate all the girls
02:39:30.040
and then looks personality sure okay i mean i can so if you want to go ahead like as a collective
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because like i feel like i know you guys all to like the same extent just individually just go okay
02:39:43.560
individually i think you seem like a really cool sweet person and i think you're really pretty and i
02:39:48.200
like the pattern on your dress i think it's a very nice choice um i really like your hair and your
02:39:55.640
makeup you're also very pretty um and you also seem like you wait are you talking to her now yes
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you didn't rate you just made gave her compliments i'll take it yeah and like you seem like you have
02:40:06.440
a really bubbly no but she's one to ten first on looks then personality
02:40:12.520
ten and ten ten and ten um what about violet over here ten out of ten honestly i i like you seem like
02:40:20.280
you got good confidence you're doing what you do nine or six six okay um so violet what's violet
02:40:28.920
she's a she's a 10 she's a 10 10 yeah what's a little uh dude i just called you a lily what's
02:40:34.360
madison over here i mean 10 10 i feel like i don't know how to talk much but i would assume
02:40:40.760
you got a good personality you seem cool all right i'm gonna get fucking okay what about me
02:40:44.520
me i'm just kidding uh i don't want to answer this one i'm it's probably 10 out of 10. go ahead
02:40:55.320
i don't care i don't know i feel like you've been making me angry good yeah so i can feel myself
02:40:59.880
boiling over here so like it's sus it's like can i just give you a squint eye can that be like a skill
02:41:06.360
okay you dislike me like we get it um okay go ahead i do i have to do the ratings if you don't
02:41:18.760
want to that's fine do you do not want to i do not want to i'll skip it too i feel like we're all
02:41:24.200
gonna lie about it violet yeah it's good i just like don't really know like it's hard to rape
02:41:31.240
people when you don't know who they are come on you're ruthless madison what just do you want me
02:41:38.760
to do it fdg she's asking i don't want to do it can you rate the rest of the panel okay fine she
02:41:45.160
doesn't want to do it um okay all right there you have it folks wait can you rate us she said ladies
02:41:51.320
okay okay i'll rate you guys i'll just do looks i don't know if i don't know you guys well enough
02:41:58.520
for personality um let's see you asked you asked asking you shall receive um
02:42:32.360
the fake titties kind of give you negative points so
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i don't know it's seven so i give myself seven thank you um i don't rate madison because we have a
02:42:46.280
professional working relationship so i give her a a thousand out of ten not like in a simp way
02:42:55.960
but then like i'm not going to give you my actual honest answer who's i could rate you don't worry
02:43:00.440
about it don't worry about it he accidentally called me lily don't worry about it okay don't
02:43:05.880
worry about it um okay let's see we have we do we have another chat no we have this we have ricky
02:43:13.480
marie if you're on the stream or podcast shouldn't you not have your headphones in uh
02:43:19.160
are her friends emotional support friends just seems rude i didn't even catch it till the very
02:43:23.560
end there that she had her her uh headphone in um and i i saw that she was fucking texting people
02:43:30.600
towards the end there and i was just like all right whatever dude um she wasn't really contributing
02:43:35.480
much anyway so it's so weird like a lot of people asked to be on the show put me on brian
02:43:43.240
and they don't say shit i don't know um guys have to carry the conversation though it is what it
02:43:49.880
is uh j note nicho brian rough panel tonight yep um dude we got we had so this is one of our
02:43:57.080
our we had what 10 flakes today yeah it's like the fuck bro um
02:44:03.800
uh rough panel tonight thanks for carrying the conversation it feels like a dating app in person
02:44:10.120
where do decent average looking men meet women in the social climate i hit you up on ig earlier
02:44:14.680
today think about my offer uh oh is this like the financial assistant or the uh you're like a
02:44:20.600
financial planners uh thank you man for the uh streamlined donation um i do have a question
02:44:28.600
where is a good place for if someone's not on social media and social apps where does a woman
02:44:33.800
meet a man these days i met my boyfriend at the beach nice sunshine every day in the world in the
02:44:42.040
outside world i feel like walking on the street yeah like doing hobbies and um activities i don't
02:44:49.640
know like yeah you're still expecting men to take the initiative and approach you in all those
02:44:53.400
situations though so you can ask a stranger out i wouldn't recommend it but you could do it
02:44:58.920
i like to be in my gender roles though i don't want to ask a guy out probably like just like she said
02:45:03.960
like your activities like things you do say if you're if you're christian you go to church a lot
02:45:08.280
like you probably find someone at your church that you're more into that will have the same
02:45:13.160
morals and values that you do and interests as well i mean there's probably there's probably still a
02:45:18.280
feminine way to put yourself within proximity or like of a guy that you're interested in um i mean
02:45:27.960
you can go about it very indirectly and unless the guy's totally well granted a lot of men are socially
02:45:32.760
retarded um i thought you couldn't say that word i get the pass because i'm also i i am r slurred
02:45:41.400
so i'm allowed to say it like i'm part of that community so i get the pass why are you squinting why
02:45:47.800
are you upset that i just dropped huh yeah i don't like that word you don't like that word
02:45:52.280
well we could have a debate on it but no it's okay she doesn't like the r word um back to what
02:45:57.560
you're saying why why don't you like the r word just out of curiosity because it's it's offensive
02:46:03.160
yeah i think they used to say it like all the time like in the 70s but it was just normal and
02:46:08.120
then all of a sudden it became like like offensive let me let me just respond what she's talking about
02:46:13.640
what violet is talking about is the euphemism treadmill where we come up with a new word that
02:46:20.040
is supposed to be politically correct and then through years of use people will miss will misuse
02:46:27.320
it to refer to like someone in an insulting way and through that um like idiot or what what is it um
02:46:40.200
retard used to be i'm gonna get canceled like that used to be a medical term um now it's viewed
02:46:47.880
in this like very derogatory way also isn't there something from uh you don't call retarded people
02:46:55.160
retards it's bad taste you call your friends retards when they're acting retarded
02:47:03.880
do you disagree or like i mean i have used it in a medical science in biology like whoa that's kind
02:47:09.400
of inappropriate like are you referring to people who are r slurred as r slurs no it's like that's
02:47:14.360
really inappropriate like psychomotor i think mentally handicapped wait what's the appropriate
02:47:19.720
word like mentally they use the word what's the appropriate word now special needs oh yeah special
02:47:26.920
needs yeah it's the euphemism treadmill and now in like now that's probably in 10 years is going to be
02:47:32.440
deemed like inappropriate so well it's just like because people misuse it like you were saying it's
02:47:37.800
like once you start using it derogatorily yeah but i don't think people use that word like directed at
02:47:43.800
people who are actually like mentally uh handicapped i feel like even mentally handicapped
02:47:49.720
now is not appropriate i don't know what the but it actually has like a definition in the medical field
02:47:54.360
well french like okay so i was born in france i speak french at like a r slurred level and
02:48:03.400
like retard it's like slow or to slow down that's what it means in french
02:48:10.280
to pop francais well yeah that's also psychomotor retardation like that's actual like well that also
02:48:16.200
refers to like like no even like here like in the dsm-5 like that's still how it's like it defines
02:48:27.560
it's kind of like how did we get onto our slur thing i brought it up what did i say it's like
02:48:33.080
oh you said that and then she just said that she didn't like she squinted you're saying how you were
02:48:37.240
like i'm yeah that i'm r slurred yeah why can't i call myself r slurred am i i feel like it's like
02:48:46.360
the term like if you're calling say like a woman fat like that used to be or i'm like now you say
02:48:53.720
like bbw why did you save this until now what now you're gonna like take a stand on that acceptance
02:49:04.200
after she left bro i was just bro she didn't want you didn't want the fucking no we were on the
02:49:11.720
conversation topic of saying how the r word has been like it's been how it's like super offensive
02:49:18.680
now because like people misuse it and like that's why i'm just referring to like but like you know
02:49:23.640
people used to be like oh that's so gay you know yeah watch out watch out with that one
02:49:29.240
watch out it's not that bad to say you're such a fucking bigot violet what the fuck i'm just oh my
02:49:38.120
no i believe in free speech and you know i say you're gonna get canceled violet watch out i don't
02:49:44.680
don't okay i don't think you can cancel me but she's uncancelable she is uncancelable you can't
02:49:51.960
cancel women i think i think you can't cancel or like once you've seen their butthole like you can't
02:49:55.960
really can once you've seen a woman's butthole okay where were we where were we was i reading
02:50:05.080
chats yeah i was reading chats okay i think we got through all of them um let's see okay i'm coming
02:50:12.360
back to uh we were oh um would you guys date somebody who legally owned a firearm starting
02:50:18.360
with you i've never asked someone if they legally own a firearm that's not the question i don't know
02:50:27.320
i've never thought about that let's say you found out a guy owned a firearm would you because like i
02:50:33.400
maybe you have a position on guns like personally i don't like guns um i understand that people
02:50:41.080
have them i've like okay what about like a significant other who if if your position is
02:50:48.200
you don't like guns would you then not want to date somebody who was a gun owner and who was like pro
02:50:54.920
gun it depends on the extent like if they're like super like yeah guns like that's that's not attractive
02:51:01.240
but it's like i understand like some people find comfort in having like a gun in their house
02:51:06.120
for self-protection the right to bear arms um and like stuff like that it's like you know
02:51:13.160
you do you but i mean being like super gunman like that's personally i don't find that characteristic
02:51:20.120
attractive okay so yes you would date a guy who owns a gun sure okay back up what about you um i feel
02:51:31.480
like my position has changed on this i used to be very like no guns and then i went on i dated this
02:51:39.240
guy for a while who took me to like a shooting range and like his grandpa was like a cop retired cop
02:51:47.640
and then he kind of showed me like oh like you can use guns in a responsible way and like it was
02:51:53.080
actually kind of fun like going shooting with him so to answer the question yes i would date a guy who
02:51:58.360
owns firearms i think there's a reason for the second amendment and yeah i would and i would
02:52:05.960
want someone that i'm with to be able to like protect and gun is a form of protection
02:52:13.080
violet yes i am too so oh she i would like to know do you want to like are you talking about
02:52:19.800
these guns you want to flex oh wait oh it's not very flexy wow you just missed it nick okay i what
02:52:29.480
she you huh he missed your gun show oh i was like madison what about you yes okay um let's see
02:52:46.920
um unintentionally unintentionally was it the guy who was your biatch yeah yeah what about you have
02:52:54.280
you sugar daddy nope sugar daddy no violet i'm assuming all of my subscribers are my sugar daddies
02:53:01.400
all her subs are the sugar daddies okay um because i mean there's obviously a difference though there's
02:53:08.280
like people who subscribe to you on of but then there's people who you have a bit more of a
02:53:15.960
conversation with i assume right and then no everything i do is for my content like okay
02:53:23.240
it's transactional through that i don't go off to the side and what's the most the guys like
02:53:27.800
ever tipped you or just like sent you out of the blue like here's a thousand bucks anything like that
02:53:32.120
yeah i think someone's tipped me like 5 000 just like in a night just to be nice and that's amazing
02:53:38.440
like wow thank you good times um good times but yeah what's like the weirdest requests you've all of
02:53:46.760
you have gotten from a guy random question oh uh i won't talk about that one because it's like they like
02:53:56.360
it it's mean it's just like um pooping they want you to know on them and i would never do that just
02:54:03.560
because i i i'll like pee but i won't poop on them is that what no just like on camera oh yeah oh yeah
02:54:10.600
i've heard that before yeah that's crazy it's just haram
02:54:17.320
i've never peed on anyone or had anyone pee on me i i've i've done like content where i go out in like
02:54:23.240
nature and i pee and then i record it and yeah it's fun but of doesn't allow that actually they
02:54:31.560
don't allow peeing really that's where that's where only fans draws the line or sticking like
02:54:37.240
your panties inside of you they don't allow that they don't allow that yeah and i'm like what so
02:54:43.400
it's such a like wow common fantasy to like stuff your panties why would that that's so like i
02:54:49.400
could kind of see the peeing thing but why would putting your panties because they don't want
02:54:56.280
other objects that aren't like dildos or dicks inside of you oh so it's like a catch-all thing
02:55:02.840
yeah i see because they don't want people like okay i think that kind of makes more sense wait so
02:55:08.920
they're shoving your underwear inside of you yeah it's like shoving my own panties in my
02:55:14.040
pussy i feel like that's like a clown trick you start pulling them out you know but
02:55:20.280
do you never heard that no i actually started on snapchat um that was where i started and
02:55:26.920
when i worked for nudies i posted on the nudies app and that's where i uploaded my content until
02:55:34.200
2020 when i started posting on of yeah word word okay i'm gonna bring it back here to our good friend
02:55:44.040
rachel so rachel uh can you tell us a bit more like how would you make that guy your biatch
02:55:55.000
um like would you just talk disrespectfully to him like boss him around type shit that's the thing is i
02:56:00.680
literally did nothing and the thing is is i would yell at him and like it sounds terrible technically it's
02:56:07.080
domestic violence but sometimes i get angry and i'd slap him but it's like because like i don't know i get
02:56:13.240
so frustrated um and it was frustrating because every time i got frustrated he just sit there and
02:56:19.240
smile and be like i know it has nothing to do with me you're just going through things and i was like
02:56:23.160
no but i'm i'm literally mad at you um you were mad at him yeah so were you the toxic one or was it
02:56:31.480
mutually toxic i mean i would say technically i was i was toxic but that toxicity came out came from
02:56:38.760
the unintentional toxicity um it's like when someone cares about you to an unhealthy extent
02:56:49.080
it kind of makes you a little crazy um a lot of crazy and it's like i know i was a terrible person
02:56:55.880
to that individual but also a lot of the things that they did to me were like very unforgivable
02:57:00.840
so yeah so you hit hit them yeah nothing like hard or bad is wayne brady gonna have to choke a
02:57:11.800
bitch awesome did you ever choke no no but i guess like that's the thing too is like even with like
02:57:19.000
question was this non-reciprocal like he didn't touch you at all and but he made you angry in some way
02:57:25.640
and you would walk up to him and hit him like slap him across the face what do you mean not in the
02:57:29.960
face like in the arm you know kind of like you do with your siblings but like but no but this was
02:57:34.760
like an upset hit yeah um it was nothing like hard nothing that left a bruise also it's like one of
02:57:40.440
those things where it's like oh like he hit me and stuff during sex because that's like a sexy thing
02:57:45.480
and it would leave what you wanted it though right i mean i'm really apathetic about most things um
02:57:52.040
okay i mean usually there's conversations about that sort of stuff but yeah so i think also that kind
02:57:56.840
of added a lot of pented up anger also he would like tickle me all the time and like not not stop
02:58:03.640
which also like i don't know i think a lot of that also kind of built up as like a lot of like huh
02:58:09.320
huh you know it's like that just extra energy going into your good slapping hand sure um let's see
02:58:17.560
something about i don't think the whole you got invited to a party with a bunch of old dudes and got
02:58:23.080
disinvited i don't know that one's not you okay you got invited to a sex party with a bunch of old
02:58:28.680
men you got disinvited because you offered to bring viagra or you asked excuse me if you should bring
02:58:35.560
viagra did you have viagra i mean it's easy you can just go to like 7-eleven pick it up um i think
02:58:42.120
viagra you need a prescription from a doctor it's not otc i didn't know i mean they have those like weird
02:58:47.880
rhino pills or whatever i've which i don't i don't think that's what's what is the uh generic
02:58:54.920
of viagra is it sildenafil god now the chat's gonna be wondering why i know this i just listen
02:59:00.440
i'm i'm a uh i'm a man of i've been educated um okay um but yeah they do sell stuff that like
02:59:12.360
does that shit work i've never taken any of that gas station rhino fucking pill whatever uh
02:59:20.840
okay um you let's see you said you tried sex workout but realized that the immediate gratification
02:59:27.400
of cash money probably was not worth it in terms of long-term effects um what do you mean by you
02:59:32.680
tried sex workout what does that mean um god i don't even know if i should be like saying this on
02:59:38.760
camera it's cool you got a sex worker right here solidarity i mean it's it's it's like a little
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bit different than that what are you talking about what kind of what are we talking about here
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talking like sugar baby type shit are you talking about like um are you talking like prostitution
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we'll just say i found this person the same way i found you um craigslist
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okay i don't know um i found through craigslist what was the craig what did the craigslist ad say
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or did you put up the craigslist ad saying i'm selling my pussy for 50 dollars no no the craigslist ad
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was uh looking for someone to help with catering gigs like poolside catering gigs with like
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bougie people um also helping like cater at poker events and stuff and i was like oh that sounds
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really cool but they needed like pictures of me for i guess the uh
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was it like a it was like a bikini oh no catering gig you had to be in a bikini
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it was a they did ask about bikinis but i didn't have to show any of my body or anything like that
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and i guess the guy liked me and wanted me as his assistant as he put it oh so he's like a
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bullshit fake craigslist ad and he was trying to get women through a craigslist ad i mean i've heard
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of this that's usually used was it a talent gig uh no i would consider it close to waitressing originally
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wait so did you initially did you do the actual job oh no no so he asked for a photo okay so it's
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like a scam but he wanted to fuck that's so weird um bro get fucking tinder you dork okay yeah when i
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was 17 i almost got fooled into a craigslist photo shoot also and they were like it's just gonna be
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my apartment and i was like yeah that's super sketchy um yeah but so but you said you tried sex work
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out so i'm a little confused because the way you're telling the story makes it sound like you
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accidentally got baited but you said you tried it out so what do you mean you like i went for the bait
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but um was there other besides this anecdote were there other situations where you tried sex work out
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um i mean to an extent but it's like usually not like full execution it's like preparation if you
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will man i don't know what do you mean i'm being overly vague like just just go for it bro we got
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we got violet here she she pees on people or sorry you don't do that my bad she yeah she wants to
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in nature in nature in nature she she pees in nature bro she's got you beat you're good spill the
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beans i pee in nature all the time like yeah it's become very like okay thank goodness okay i don't
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care about the peeing thing i just you said that you've tried out sex work what have you done
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um i let's okay the man has a wife who is career focused and would not sleep with him
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and i think it's even sadder the fact that he had to pay someone else to then do that for him
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how did you meet him did that craigslist for him uh actually no i never actually
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fucked him thank goodness but old men are really easy to um how much money did he pay you to not
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fuck him i mean honestly not enough because i actually had no idea how much you were supposed
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to charge for that um what did you you just talk to him no i just like you met up with him did you meet
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up with him yes did you do anything sexual with him yes what did you do um ej yeah and like it was
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super easy it was like very quick didn't take much time how old was he uh he said he was 39 yeah okay um
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which is like not that old it's not that much wait so how much did he charge or did you charge if i
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say it's gonna make me sound really sad no judgment this is a judgment free zone i mean i made like
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129 and then 100 129 did you add on 99 cents at the end of that or no like 129 and then another time
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100 129 okay he how did you you said you met him on craigslist yes they've took it i'm pretty sure on
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craigslist there's no more of these like there used to be like a uh dating thing like a classifieds
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on craigslist but that's been gone for a long time bro everything's on craigslist you search gigs it's
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like one person was like oh i want to build my photography portfolio and like i like photography
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so i offered to help i was like but you have to show me like a actual portfolio like evidence that
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you're a photographer and it was like all ladies naked i also had someone who wants to pay me to
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be their friend like i'm done with craigslist like this is sad this is making me sad
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i need to stop talking the the guy the guy who you went over to his house who had the wife who was
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busy with her job whatever um you met him on craigslist what was his ad it was the one to like
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help like you know serving like help what like uh doing like the catering you know oh it was that
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guy yeah but he wanted pictures because it was poolside and it wasn't pictures on my body but he
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didn't think i was a five out of ten so oh yeah he just asked for other things
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was it a legitimate job but then he yeah transitioned into it was a little bit it was
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a legitimate job it did not last long enough for the execution of the actual job itself the actual
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job discussion so you did you go over for an interview i'm trying to understand like timeline
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here you never actually did any catering you went over to his house to meet him for an interview
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mm-hmm and then he was like i actually don't need you to help me with my non-existent catering
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business i'll give you 129 for a bj i mean the interview process i it was kind of like already
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insinuated that it was like after the pictures that's when he was like oh i want you to be my
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assistant instead and then assistant was the other thing and then i went over there and for
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my interview i got my 129 and then the other time i went came out with 100 and oh you went another
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time yeah it wasn't until one of my housemates made a joke about me having old man come in my mouth
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and i was super baked and then i thought about that for a long time and i was like yeah i'm not i
03:07:09.720
violet's probably like the chillest like sex worker we've ever had on the panel on the show
03:07:16.520
um wait so okay first off like i want to hold men accountable too it's pretty i think it's pretty
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kind of scummy to like put a lit supposedly jaw a legitimate job offering on craigslist
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and then like try to maneuver that into getting pussy like that's my guy there is tinder there is hinge
03:07:50.680
there is bumble there are dating apps so it's sleazy i'm just confused like
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did you he kissed like a straight girl that is like a nice way to put it so like he what
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i said he kissed like a straight girl who who what he kissed oh he kissed like a straight girl yeah that's
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just like a figure speech you kissed him yeah like he was wait so how did the whole conversation
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about the money exchange go down i don't know i'd have to look through my text messages
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sure pull it up really yeah do you want me to go grab my phone nick can you grab it do you know where
03:08:33.080
it is nick can grab it for you it has a green snail on it nick will grab it um it should oh so wait but
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i thought this would have been a conversation in person it's the gray one with this this was not
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a conversation in person no this craigslist journey has just been around here right yeah that's why i'm
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like there's a lot of sad men in the bar bro i'm like oh man um it's not like i have a problem with it
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like i'm definitely like pro sex work and stuff like that i think it's just like for me i also have
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like an unhealthy relationship with sex so i think i've realized that's what i mean by like
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long-term versus short-term like i was like oh this is really great like i'm fine with this i'm
03:09:17.640
having fun with this but then i kind of realized oh in the long run like this isn't gonna be good
03:09:22.120
for me like for my mental health and also like it made me feel a little um i don't know yeah like i
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think about it and i was like oh what would my dad think like which sounds dumb but it's like
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you met him you met him for the the first time before you went over to his house was it clear
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that he was like romantically or sexually interested in you yes so had you before you went over to his
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house did you was there a negotiation on price for the what you were going there to do i guess
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yeah i don't know i didn't really negotiate much because i didn't really know what i was like
03:10:07.400
getting into here let's read the text go ahead okay oh okay well why did why did here oh my god bro
03:10:16.200
where is it i don't know oh yes oh i'm so sorry fireworks my god bro i know it's not guns
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can you like scoot into the table or something the mic's blocking you
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get nice and close again on the topic of sex work i guess like what made you want to start
03:10:57.560
um nothing i was there was never a decision like today i'm gonna it's d-day you know um i think i just
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i just i left my hometown when i was 17 and i really wanted to just road trip and figure things
03:11:15.000
out i just graduated high school early so i was just a mess and so i was like i just want to make
03:11:21.480
some money and go on the road and so i started um chatting with some guys on snapchat um and i got
03:11:30.600
forty dollars and i hit the road and then it all started you got forty dollars for what for sexting
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with a guy and he came and then it was he was like three minutes in and he was like okay i came thanks
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here's 40 bucks so i was like whoa i can hit the road and i was like so excited and i went to vegas
03:11:51.720
and life on easy mud yeah so from october of 2017 to february of 2018 i was just living on the road
03:12:05.720
making content and that's when uh nudies discovered me and i signed with them and moved to phoenix got
03:12:14.520
my first apartment okay yeah uh all right let's go back to your text so
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i mean there's like obviously normal job conversation and then the relevance so he was
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like i'd pay 50 to 75 for an interview in person with potential for you to make more and i was like
03:12:34.040
start off with 75 and i'll show you why i'm worth more because i was like i'm better than 75 dollars
03:12:39.400
for an hour i had no idea what somebody for the interview yeah for the interview just for one
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interview yeah you typically don't get paid for an interview and he was like i'll spend i'll spend
03:12:49.960
30 minutes showing um he's like spend 30 minutes showing me why you were worth it and possibly hiring
03:12:54.840
you on the spot i'm like it it wasn't even 30 minutes i made more than 75 dollars um so when you
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read that text you already know that he wanted something more yeah my sister is now texting me i don't
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like this i'm like i don't know if she's watching right now oh yeah she is okay um
03:13:18.200
okay besides the point basically yeah that's that's how that went
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brian hates today i feel so bad it's like pulling teeth with you guys it's hard because like i don't
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know i have like people out there watching also technically that's illegal and like
03:13:35.160
like also i'm just like sussed out i'm trying to be a better person i'm just okay so you had the
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first the first meeting he paid you 129 dollars but then you went back to see him again he paid you
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100 yes and that was the extent of your interaction with him yes what happened on the that was a
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subsequent bj uh yeah that was fine and then like i don't know that's when what was what it was
03:14:02.200
so head yeah for okay this is so easy um but the thing is is like afterwards that's when i got high
03:14:10.600
in my room i maybe said that and then i kind of contemplated everything and then there's just like
03:14:15.640
a long long long thread of text messages of him just making himself look really really really pathetic
03:14:22.040
him the guy yes is that the only is that the only guy that you tried sex work with i mean
03:14:28.360
in high school the guy i lost my virginity to so badly wanted to
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fuck that um obviously i wasn't planning on actually fucking him but i kept just
03:14:38.120
seeing how high of put the phone somewhere else please holy fuck i'm getting so fucking triggered
03:14:43.800
guys i'm sorry um okay continue um i just kept like seeing how high he would make it even though i
03:14:51.240
wasn't actually gonna execute it because i don't know i was in high school but i thought it was funny
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so it was not sex work i guess no technically not outside of that it's like i guess everything's been
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free that's why a lot of the times when people call me a whore i like to be like actually i'm a
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slut because i don't charge but i also that was part of my change of mind as i was like shoot i can't keep
03:15:28.200
so you said that you've tried sex work but was it just this weird sleazy dude was that it or were there
03:15:35.240
other instances well no there was just that and then like other people on craigslist i was
03:15:43.480
planning on or thinking about executing but i've had a shift in my my mindset
03:15:50.680
so you did engage in sex work with other people
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not an execution only the one there is that answering your question did any other men pay you for your
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uh sexual attention no men should men should they should what do you mean by that i feel like
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sometimes i'm doing god's work like sometimes i'm like damn i really threw you a bone
03:16:19.880
what do you mean i don't know um i've just been with like men of all shapes and sizes and also
03:16:31.560
sometimes i take pity on men and so i am generous you fuck men because you pity them you just sometimes
03:16:41.240
they feel bad are your parents still together no was there any childhood trauma yes okay checks out um
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god bro holy fuck i don't even know where to uh okay um
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i don't even know what to say bro okay hold on let me do a couple
03:17:14.280
sure let's do twitch guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever drops to follow drop us a prime sub
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uh did i say steve-o jan think for the tier one duck man think for the prime nibble muncher think for
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the prime uh jennifer think for the prime uh chroma think for the prime uh peps think for the prime
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twitch.tv slash whatever drops to follow drops the prime sub if you have one uh okay um also we have a
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chat here i believe from errol collins i'm violet's sugar daddy love you girl he is love you do you know
03:17:50.200
errol collins yes that's master errol and master errol yes love him he's the best he wants to be called
03:17:56.440
master yes okay that's only if he pays you money that'll write yes okay we have an agreement how much
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does he he's your sugar daddy no yes he's on my he's one of your subs okay he's very loyal subscriber
03:18:11.080
love him okay um the whole craigslist thing is wild to me that's that's some wild stuff um uh
03:18:25.720
okay um you said you slept with a dude out of spite because he called you a what
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yeah you got that word that i hey she was a whoa i can't argue it anymore she was a whoa
03:18:39.000
um do you think you're a whore well now technically by definition i have done that
03:18:47.720
um i see it as a profession uh i feel like it can only be used in a professional context uh
03:18:55.880
outside of that you know it's a little offensive uh i would say
03:19:01.720
i mean yeah i guess i am uh but basically what happened was when everything was going on with my
03:19:08.120
open relationship which ended up only being open by one end is i'm jewish and i was at chabad a very
03:19:15.400
holy place and i was having a conversation with my friend sorry keep going about you know the relationship
03:19:23.800
drama and then uh one of my friends there called me a whore which i was very surprised by especially
03:19:31.160
considering the fact that chabad is like very orthodox um and so then about a year later i
03:19:37.400
matched with him on tinder because like every time i see someone i know i like to swipe right
03:19:40.600
because i think it's funny um and he hit me up and like wanted to hang out and i was like if
03:19:46.120
i was like i don't know if this man's trying to sleep with me or what and i went over there
03:19:50.600
and he was like talking to me like all flirty which was really confusing me and you know
03:19:55.720
obviously i could not stop laughing i was like this is so weird um but you know one thing led to
03:20:01.080
a next and um yeah it was funny because he was like went to put on a condom and i laughed and then
03:20:09.800
he's like why are you laughing i was like no reason and then afterwards when he went to take it off i
03:20:14.840
started laughing really hard and i was like because i was just talking to my sister about how i should be
03:20:19.400
using those and he kind of freaked out and then i proceeded to tell him a bunch of you know horror
03:20:24.440
stories like me shitting in a guy's bed um oh you've told that story too many times stop telling
03:20:29.240
that story yeah can we not talk about that um wait well no but so hold on let me let me ask a
03:20:36.600
couple clarifying questions here yes the guy you were okay he called you a hua and then you were
03:20:45.400
determined because he called you that it was like you wanted to spite fuck him you wanted to sleep with
03:20:51.000
him out of revenge yes and you did yes and then when he why why did you laugh when he wanted to
03:20:57.720
wear a condom oh because you're like because it was just funny because that same day i was talking to
03:21:02.760
my sister about how much you raw dog yes um and how like that's something i should be using um and so i
03:21:10.680
was like were you on birth control yes yes i am okay um so i was just like oh this makes makes the
03:21:16.760
revenge even greater i thought it was hilarious like he got kind of i could tell very uncomfortable
03:21:23.160
and was kind of trying to push me out the door um i don't know i thought it was really good revenge
03:21:28.760
i thought it was funny you said evil plan went so well that he kicked me out of his house what part was
03:21:33.880
what was the evil plan uh showing him showing him a whore he called me a whore i was like fine you
03:21:39.800
want to sleep with a whore i'll show you a whore and it freaked him out so your idea of getting revenge
03:21:44.840
was letting him hit i'll show you a whore yeah and then he kicked you out of his house yes i thought
03:21:55.640
i mean it was wait so but but your revenge was making him come that's revenge to you is that a w
03:22:06.200
is that the w no my thing is is like you don't just call a woman a whore and then want to turn
03:22:11.480
around and sleep with them oh so you were like trying to prove him like he's he's a hypocrite
03:22:18.440
because he called me a whore do you do realize that men will fuck whores yeah i i've learned that now um
03:22:26.280
but so what was the did you actually that was the revenge it was you wanted to sleep with him out of
03:22:30.440
spite because he called you a whore yes i thought it was hilarious especially because like i even brought
03:22:35.720
it up to him and he was like no no like i never call a woman that all this stuff and like blah blah
03:22:41.400
blah blah blah blah because he's like one of those kinds of guys so he called you a whore and then just
03:22:47.400
like and just this this light bulb over your head came up and you're like i want to fuck this guy
03:22:55.960
well i didn't really want to necessarily fuck him at the time you know it worked out that way and i was
03:23:01.320
like this is this is great revenge you i thought it was funny is that a w for a woman to fuck a guy
03:23:09.880
she does not like that sounds like kind of an l that's kind of an l it felt like a win to me did
03:23:16.920
he come you said before that like women can have sex with like anyone they want yeah so why would you
03:23:22.280
have sex with him also now i know some weird kinky shit about him too so it's like i got dirt
03:23:38.520
i'm a little speechless okay where oh can only like i feel like it's only men that can spite
03:23:44.840
fuck i don't think women can spite fuck because if like you spite fuck us like still hit though like
03:23:51.400
it's still a w i mean no that's not true it's like i've you showed him how did you show did you
03:23:58.360
give him herpes is that what no i could maybe that do you have no i am a clean individual sir do not
03:24:06.280
was he like you're a whore i don't i don't fuck whores is that why it was revenge yeah that's just
03:24:12.120
kind of saying there's no way he said that and it's like not the idea but it's like the whole like
03:24:18.520
that's just his personality like that's the kind of guy that he is it's like that's the same thing
03:24:23.400
it's like i don't know like when i got out of my seven month relationship i then also turned around
03:24:28.440
and slept with a bunch of people because i knew that was the last thing he wanted like that's also
03:24:31.480
kind of the same thing right a little revenge a little bigger of a rent revenge is that really a w
03:24:37.560
to like no is that a w to just go and fuck a bunch of dudes who you don't care about and they
03:24:42.840
don't care about you to get back at your ex-boyfriend no that's what i'm learning with age that's what i'm
03:24:48.280
talking about new mindset going places bettering ourselves uh wait it's okay
03:24:57.960
did you like was it did you like fuck him really well the guy who called you a whore
03:25:10.280
you're like you'll you'll never get this whore pussy again i thought it was hilarious i
03:25:18.600
i mean yeah that too also it's really crazy did you did you ss d ss d did you ss d what does that
03:25:25.160
mean did you s his d blowy in the holy oh i don't remember you were you drunk no were you high no how do
03:25:34.760
you not remember if you ss d because like sometimes you there was p in the v it sounds
03:25:39.240
like there was p in the v yeah there was v on the p it's just yeah i don't know if you if you
03:25:45.800
fuck like you don't necessarily have to remember every time you fuck so you're telling okay i did
03:25:51.480
not fuck him again though you wanted to sleep with him out of spite yes you hooked up with him really
03:25:57.720
quick and then he your evil plan went so well that he kicked you out of his house yes doesn't that kind
03:26:05.160
of sound like a w for the dude i thought i thought it was funny i mean i guess it did come around and
03:26:13.000
bite me in the ass you thought it was funny because is sex like a funny thing to you is it just like such
03:26:19.960
a casual it's just like a handshake yeah have you totally detached intimacy from sex yes that's kind
03:26:28.120
of depressing yeah wow i'm not gonna deny that do you want to get married one day yeah that's also why
03:26:37.640
um i don't know no i have a cat if i have a child it will take attention away from my cat no i won't do
03:26:43.160
that i don't know um i probably won't get married but that's okay i'm perfectly content with that have
03:26:55.400
you ever spite fucked any other guys like i hate this guy so much like do you it's like you've been
03:27:02.040
squinting at me a lot like do you kind of want to spite fuck me no a little bit no i've pissed you
03:27:07.640
off beyond the point of no return kind of like a guy's climax we've it's beyond the point of no
03:27:14.600
return i've said too many not because i'm like i you could be like brian let me go s your d right
03:27:23.720
now and i'd turn you down yeah because i'm a five out of ten no just like your past disqualifies you
03:27:29.880
from even anything sexual but well yeah that's also why i probably won't get married based did you
03:27:35.960
just say piss based i said based what does that mean um never mind
03:27:44.440
at least you know failed failed society at least you're taking that into account
03:27:54.840
what's what's wrong with you too many things what is wrong are you okay holy okay
03:28:05.960
say it say what you want to say brian mm-hmm yeah you're you're a deeply damaged individual
03:28:16.680
i'm not saying that to be mean but like this is like very
03:28:20.760
intense shit you're talking about yeah i also wasn't expecting this to be live
03:28:28.040
yeah i kind of feel bad for her because she came and she was like i have no idea what
03:28:31.480
this thing is i just found him on craigslist yeah yeah you know we got we we're putting ads on
03:28:41.720
various places to get people for to be on the show so um uh let's see okay um
03:28:53.960
um i should have put less things on that list no this is great this is wonderful um
03:29:02.360
because see i feel like a lot of people have your kind of stories but they would never
03:29:09.800
they would never admit this shit so i mean i first off without endorsing some of these things you've done
03:29:16.440
i have to give you credit for your forthcomingness your openness your honesty
03:29:30.280
you know i mean i'll stride with pride like i'm not gonna lie like a lot of it's like funny at
03:29:36.520
least i think it's funny i laugh at it it's funny yeah i laugh at my own life it's an ongoing
03:29:42.280
joke wait question huh okay so kind of overall though so you said you've had like a lot of
03:29:47.880
experiences right let's talk about body count do you think it's wrong for a guy to judge a woman
03:29:55.560
on her body count like to not want to be with a girl because she's had a lot of previous sexual
03:29:59.880
partners yeah because it's like a huge double standard what if it's not though like it could be
03:30:05.560
but what if it's not like not a double standard youth um i mean yeah with some guys it's it's not
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yeah i don't know i just don't think um things tend to work out when people are on different pages
03:30:27.480
like even with my friends i found that relationships are hard when people are not
03:30:31.400
like it's not about being sexually compatible it's like also sometimes like people care a lot about
03:30:38.280
experience too like because jealousy can derive from those types of things along with like
03:30:45.880
spite or judgment so what i found is like most of the time when people kind of
03:30:51.880
have those things in common there's less um complaint question mark i don't know do you object to
03:31:01.480
men caring about body count uh i think it's if he's gonna ask about my body count then i feel
03:31:13.400
like okay i'm gonna look here oh okay um then i guess i would want to know his body count
03:31:23.560
so do you think it's like immature or instant insecure for a guy to care about body count
03:31:37.000
body count for men and women is different and i feel like part of a woman's value comes from her purity
03:31:43.720
so you don't object to men like caring about body count no violet what about you
03:31:53.480
i think men and women can care about body count i think it's a little like unclassy to ask you know
03:32:00.440
like in regular people sense but if you're coming to someone like a sex worker like you definitely
03:32:05.560
should ask i think it's very responsible a guy a guy should ask a woman who's a sex worker her body
03:32:12.920
count yes oh okay madison i don't object okay if they're planning on having sex together yeah i think
03:32:21.880
it's important okay so some of you said body count doesn't matter um if body count doesn't matter
03:32:29.960
what's your body count i only count certain things it's 35
03:32:39.720
what do you mean you only count certain things i don't know like i count it as i think what the
03:32:45.880
definition is i just know some people yeah in the v i just know a lot of people that define it
03:32:50.760
differently than that if that makes sense do you mean like some people will define it like they'll
03:32:56.440
only count long-term relationships or they won't count one night stands like some people will
03:33:01.080
count like oral and stuff like that too should we do let's do p in the v count and s-ing the d
03:33:09.400
count oh i i i've lost count of that i don't know well okay so p in the v what's your p in the v
03:33:16.520
count 35 what's your s-ing the d count i don't know estimate
03:33:26.440
what's your s-ing the d count maybe like into the mic
03:33:41.640
40 ish 40 ish i really have no idea so 100 plus i don't know could be just kidding well because i mean
03:33:50.440
you said you know 35 for p and the v yeah but it sounded like it would be much higher s-ing the d
03:33:57.400
because you've forgotten well yeah because i have a list in my diary of people i've fought so you have
03:34:04.040
you have a diary it's not really can we see it can you scan me a fax me a copy or some
03:34:10.440
shit you'll just look at it and be like what would you write do you like write a page do you just have
03:34:15.480
like a one-line entry uh oliver this date his penis was this big oh no i don't take notes on the guys
03:34:25.240
um you just name that's it and then everything else in there is like completely unrelated yeah okay
03:34:41.320
35 would you say because you're 21 right like of your female friends do you think that
03:34:46.600
like 35 is pretty typical no i most of the people i um hang out with
03:34:53.800
are different in than me in that sense my best friend from home like we're very similar
03:35:06.200
in those ways um i'm also not from california and i feel like things people's mindsets here might be
03:35:13.480
different or at least all the people i've met since i've been at school are a bit different
03:35:18.280
okay so 35 body count okay uh becca what about you um
03:35:30.520
can we pass no can't pass cool cool got it um i would say total body count probably around 20
03:35:50.680
and not something i want to share she said it does matter violet
03:35:58.360
um i don't think i'm comfortable sharing here tell us what violet's body count is and tell us what
03:36:03.880
elizabeth's body count is like i've been doing sex work for since i was 18 so i've done a lot of
03:36:10.760
shows and stuff but um it doesn't mean my sex my body count is like really high it doesn't mean
03:36:17.800
it's low it just it is what it is also why did you make her have to answer and not them too
03:36:24.360
i mean i can't force her to answer it seemed like she was pretty definitive
03:36:28.280
i mean do you wanna is it it's one at least one right
03:36:31.960
mm-hmm okay violet i assume it's at least one for you too
03:36:40.280
i don't know i'll be right back i need proof madison madison hello
03:36:52.200
okay i need to get up really quick um if there's anything you guys want to talk about
03:37:01.320
does anybody have anything please what do you think brian's body count is
03:37:05.800
that do you so he's been in a few serious relationships i would say
03:37:12.200
mm-hmm is he from california he was born in france oh yeah he was when did he move to california i
03:37:20.200
guess i could ask that he's like 12 or something okay like two years old or something considering
03:37:24.280
that we're in isla vista i would say it's above 50 to 100 wow who that's my assumption oh yeah i feel
03:37:31.720
like for him college kids here go pretty crazy i would say i feel like you have to work pretty hard to
03:37:37.240
get like 50 to 100 like not if you're a woman yeah but it's time consuming at least right yeah
03:37:45.080
not really i feel like if you're if you have nothing to do if you're a college student all you have to
03:37:50.040
do at school like there's parties here five days a week so it's like not five days a week maybe it could
03:37:55.800
be but a few days a week y'all just whoring for free yeah exactly i'm just kidding um yeah
03:38:04.360
yeah but y'all all went to santa barbara is that like the common thing right here well like
03:38:12.600
gsb is like the number one party school in is it in california or i'd say america one at least top
03:38:22.040
three at least five in the us yeah party school so i don't know it's just like i guess the party
03:38:28.200
environment yeah yeah even my grandma knew she's like you're gonna ucsb so oh did you go too yeah i
03:38:38.600
transferred i went to a christian university before i came here so very 180 okay but yeah i just feel
03:38:45.800
like the environment here is a little more you guys talking about school no we're talking about like
03:38:50.760
party environment oh okay like i don't know she was saying like uh yeah how it's hard to rack up
03:38:57.320
like does any body count and i said like not if you're a woman especially who said that i just think
03:39:02.920
it would be time consuming i mean i understand like women are turning down guys every day but yeah
03:39:11.080
some girls will do that shit their first freshman semester or quarter 30 bodies yeah and it's amazing
03:39:19.720
that like people think porn will wear you out but college girls are doing that it's crazy well i
03:39:27.400
think the difference the the criticisms of women involved in porn is that shit's like on the internet
03:39:36.280
for life yes and you definitely have to be okay with that and so i think probably a lot of guys have
03:39:43.080
an issue with both they don't want a woman with high body count and they don't want women who have
03:39:47.160
naked photos of themselves or like sleeping and fucking other men on the internet for the world
03:39:52.440
to see and that's probably they're both undesirable i'd say for most men
03:39:59.560
yeah do you disagree it's okay if you disagree violet no i agree you agree yes sir but you continue
03:40:08.200
doing the work that you're doing despite you yes because i love it you love what precisely um i
03:40:18.120
love creating content i love being free and traveling and kind of just creating my day around what i want
03:40:25.880
to do and i understand that it's not going to be like that forever so i'm just making the most of it
03:40:30.120
right now and getting getting it all locked in good times okay um let me see if we got any chats here
03:40:42.680
we have darian murphy do you want to read this one rachel i think it's directed to you
03:40:49.160
not like out loud oh here we go um first girl serious advice you need to stop making decisions
03:41:02.040
and choices find a man in your family who is sensible and who really cares about you
03:41:06.920
and just take their advice seriously also abandon feminism it's truly poison okay you guys are all just
03:41:13.320
like really misogynistic um i don't necessarily need a man to tell me i also have females who can support
03:41:19.960
me i feel like women and men can both provide that wait what is misogynistic about his statement here
03:41:35.800
i think why is that i'm not sure why that's misogynistic but no not that i mean like
03:41:44.600
what's the what's the definition what do you how do you define misogyny
03:42:13.960
how do you i'm just asking how you define misogyny
03:42:25.720
can i go um are you okay like do you want like you want to go as in leave
03:42:37.880
is it because i asked how you define misogyny is that
03:42:41.960
no i was just i wanted to make sure that we were like talking about because in in a debate it's very
03:42:49.160
important that you both people are talking about the same thing and both people have
03:42:55.800
things defined well i'm not going to answer how i'm using this in the context because i have signed
03:43:09.800
do you want to just take a little breather or you could just stay at the table i mean
03:43:14.040
no i'd like to go home if that's allowed because i asked about how you define misogyny that was
03:43:23.240
that was the precipitating thing i've said some way more i don't know he's asking me to abandon
03:43:31.160
feminism it's like do you even know what feminism is it's like hey i i was never the one that's been
03:43:38.440
like sitting here wanting a man to be a man wait what well let's talk let's try to talk well let's
03:43:46.040
try to talk it through let's try to get to the bottom of this because because it seems like it's a
03:43:52.040
position you're really strong on and we'd like to hear your your stance
03:44:14.760
so let me try to maybe parse what he was saying so darian murphy he was saying abandon feminism
03:44:22.040
you object to that which is fine um you also objected to him saying find a man you can certainly
03:44:29.880
find like a strong woman in your family to um guide you too the reality is is like it doesn't matter
03:44:38.920
about other people like the only person that can fix you is yourself um yeah but you can always go to
03:44:45.800
like a parental figure also you're already talking about like pornography and like no man is gonna
03:44:51.000
marry like yes there are men that will marry women that do pornography but you were also talking about
03:44:56.840
how there's a lot of men that are judgmental of that and like things being potentially online forever
03:45:01.640
it's like this is like literally no different for me like for me it's like anyone can look this up i
03:45:08.360
thought this was gonna be like some little student
03:45:11.480
podcast that like maybe five people listen to i have no idea but okay so are you just on the adult
03:45:19.800
content thing are you do you object to men having a preference for not dating women
03:45:28.840
who have been engaged in that kind of adult content no i think it's really ridiculous that guys
03:45:37.080
are also i've had a lot of guys sit there and complain about how they're jealous that women
03:45:41.080
can actually go into that profession because a lot of males do not feel like they have a platform in
03:45:47.560
that business um and i do think it's an industry i do think it's a business i respect it it's good
03:45:58.280
it's dandy i just can i please go home if you yeah no look if you want to leave you can leave i was
03:46:04.280
hoping we could continue having a conversation but um just let it go okay i mean
03:46:17.000
if you're leaving we can't really offer that but okay
03:46:40.920
bro i don't know the chat's like what i'm trying to like have a conversation about it
03:46:48.040
okay whatever um i think that was the first time in her life she was faced with like the truth of
03:46:53.400
and the consequences of her actions and i think yeah i think she was just like gathering like
03:46:58.600
everything she said on here and it just hit her kind of i could i could see that in a bit
03:47:07.800
bro i mean like everyone in the chat's like bro let her let her go like i'm trying to reel her back
03:47:15.320
into the conversation she had a she was upset i don't know if it was that super chat that got her
03:47:22.760
or me asking her to define what misogyny is but like
03:47:36.760
um how is bro okay i was trying to like she was having a reaction i was trying her to like
03:47:46.600
calm her down by talking to her the chat wants to white knight then fine whatever um
03:47:59.000
like it is what it is um i'm gonna read a couple chats let's see
03:48:09.640
uh kate robinson thank you for your honesty you have made me laugh a lot
03:48:19.640
uh she left sorry kate um let me see if we have any other chats
03:48:25.160
what's funny is what's actually funny is if i can just like be meta and address it
03:48:40.600
is she started crying and then you started reassuring her even though you disagree with her
03:48:47.640
you weren't prepared to step up and actually be like
03:48:50.680
like because once the tears come out yeah you're gonna placate her but that does nothing to actually
03:48:58.440
address and chad is roasting me here but like simps i don't think it was it's white knighting
03:49:05.560
it's fucking white knighting guys fall for that a lot in arguments like girls crying but they
03:49:12.200
shouldn't fall for it because it kind of gives into the girl and like then they end up you know
03:49:17.320
doing habits like that just crying to get out of argument the way i see it though is like this is
03:49:23.240
shit these actions i've done in my past like are gonna have consequences because i don't think she's
03:49:27.560
ever thought about like there are consequences of what i've done in all these stories and
03:49:32.040
it's gonna like it's shaping her as like who she is as a human and now she has to like
03:49:38.280
deal with it and i don't think she ever like has processed what she's gone through and for the
03:49:42.600
first time she's like wow i've gone through a lot of stuff and i need to process this and
03:49:48.040
i think that's what made her emotional honestly yeah the chat like the chat was spamming and maybe
03:49:53.400
this is why i ultimately what like i should not i should have probably tried to keep her here and
03:49:58.600
allow her to talk through what she was feeling but the chat was like brian let her go you're exploiting
03:50:04.920
her blah blah blah it's like yo let's talk through what she is going through like
03:50:15.240
honestly if any of you said like we're again just unsubscribe like if those of you who are like
03:50:23.240
i literally asked her how she defined misogyny and that made her cry i'm sorry like there's way
03:50:30.760
heavier fucking shit going on in the world than asking somebody in sitting at a table
03:50:37.960
how you define misogyny i get that there was other conversations going on
03:50:42.680
during the table but like holy chat like if you think that i was like being a dickhead
03:50:50.440
unsubscribe unsubscribe i don't want you as a viewer unsubscribe like i'm not gonna be
03:50:55.720
fucking guilt tripped here because i was literally asking her how she defined a word she
03:51:01.480
fucking used i was trying to understand her position and then she's gonna start
03:51:10.040
okay whatever bro um it was probably and maddie over here didn't have my
03:51:15.800
what do you mean i honestly don't think it had anything to do with you anything you said i think
03:51:22.840
it was just it was probably most more so the super chat huh yeah i think it was just more her own
03:51:27.560
life overwhelmed her she's like she just she looked like she wanted to cry for a while yes exactly i
03:51:32.920
think it was a culmination of everything it just was building up
03:51:36.200
so okay whatever um i don't even know i mean obviously the super chat was kind of digging into
03:51:46.520
her a little bit but i just asked her how she defined misogyny so whatever um
03:51:54.760
but uh but no maddie you were like oh just let her go whatever i don't know don't think keeping
03:52:00.920
her here crying would have done any better like she was already so set that she wanted to leave
03:52:05.880
like she was super uncomfortable so i wasn't gonna like well i wasn't forcing her but i was trying to
03:52:10.440
like yeah yeah i understand okay i think you relaxed let's yeah yeah i think you handled it well it was
03:52:17.240
just like it wouldn't have done us any justice just had her sitting here crying the whole time because
03:52:21.000
if i think if i immediately was like oh okay like go ahead and leave i wanted to try to like reel her
03:52:26.840
back in and be like it's okay it's okay like it was no i was trying i was trying a little bit
03:52:32.200
talking again like she chilled down on the crying and started talking so i thought it was fine but
03:52:36.760
okay all right um all right i don't know i saw like literally every chat i saw now it seems like the
03:52:44.440
chat is kind of back in my court a little bit but like every chat i saw was like l brian let her
03:52:51.000
leave let her leave like every single one so i don't know um i wasn't like forcing her to
03:52:56.680
stay here i was just trying to like it's okay we can talk about it no big deal um so whatever uh
03:53:04.600
i don't know if we've got any other chats bro today's just been a
03:53:08.920
fucking absolute shit show between everybody flaking that girl leaving early she rachel crying
03:53:15.480
and leaving early ah bro okay relax brian you can still continue with the show alfred turning on
03:53:22.920
okay whatever um let's see i think we got through all her stories pretty much um
03:53:43.240
should we do we could do a little bit of after show i guess
03:53:46.840
yeah all right nick do you want to hit the lights guys we're going to change the uh we're
03:53:52.040
going to do a short after show then we're going to wrap um i think we need to uh i guess we can keep
03:53:57.240
it like this um guys i'm going to change the triggers on stream labs it's going to be
03:54:04.600
uh 20 and up to read slash answer and it's tts is going to be 69 and up we're going to do a
03:54:13.320
20 minute after show then we're going to wrap up all right
03:54:19.400
bro okay uh hold on guys i'm just getting that changed sorry guys i feel like honestly to i've
03:54:27.960
literally carried a four hour conversation not to be mean to any of you guys i know i'm the host but
03:54:35.240
like the burden of conversation has fell really heavily on me tonight which is difficult for four
03:54:42.840
hours normally we have a bit more people so um i get i'm the host it's i'm taking accountability
03:54:50.280
it's on me but it really felt very one-sided conversationally so it is what it is um well
03:54:57.880
you shouldn't focus on her so much because she was going in circles you know you should have
03:55:05.400
passed it around a little more well i mean i tried but uh
03:55:08.680
i think she was just getting but but so like my goal is like if you hear something that somebody
03:55:16.680
says anybody at the table is free to like oh let me add to that let me here's what i think about that
03:55:23.720
and i feel like you even said in the beginning of the show you're like if you guys have anything to add
03:55:27.720
like just say it like don't even ask if you can speak but i don't know yeah yeah i just think when
03:55:35.480
the first chair is like a rambler it kind of it's hard to jump in you know so but you can't really
03:55:42.040
and she was like i don't know she was telling her own personal stories yeah it was uh she had a lot of
03:55:47.560
fucking story yeah it was a lot to process to hear i mean maybe i should have now people are in the
03:55:57.240
chatter saying brian you were doing fine reeling her back in you should have let her stay now or
03:56:05.800
now now they're like right now they're trying i'm getting such conflicted messaging literally it was
03:56:11.800
spamming in the chat brian let her go let her go i was like oh am i like i don't know whatever
03:56:18.200
so okay um oh let me just oh uh so okay oh did i read this one okay i did um i think i made the
03:56:31.240
changes in stream labs so tts is 69 read is 20 and up that's both super chat and stream labs guys so if
03:56:39.960
you yeah we can pull up twitch really quick okay all right ravon thank you for the prime superman
03:56:47.720
thank you for the five community subs thank you man really appreciate it superman thank you for the
03:56:51.880
five gifted subs appreciate it d's lit thank for the prime bricks thank for the prime jordan thank
03:56:58.120
for the tier one finger thank for the prime really appreciate it man tough episode yeah it is what it is
03:57:05.000
10 flakes today um pulling teeth at points but um let's see uh i'm trying to think what else
03:57:15.880
someone said the optics look bad because she was crying i mean okay should we maybe we should have
03:57:30.380
her back and like never coming she might yo pubcast thank for the 10 uh gifted she might you know
03:57:37.000
what did she ask at them right before she left no she she had no no she like right she she said
03:57:44.760
something to nick and you were like well that's not gonna happen it's like don't worry about it
03:57:49.520
um watch watch experiment i'm just gonna go silent
03:57:56.780
so what do you guys look in what do you guys what is your dream man
03:58:04.660
what do you guys look for in a man a beard a beard and wait we should have violet take her seat
03:58:21.840
i know how to sit on my phone right so i've been doing that yeah you can sit on it does it does
03:58:32.620
it vibrate no it's on okay just not trying to have someone okay never mind like who do you want to be
03:58:42.240
your husband when you turn 28 um uh someone from texas someone older someone with the beard um
03:58:51.560
yeah what is the age range that you usually date in well if i'm gonna be 28 i would say from 35 to 45
03:58:59.500
would be good because family kids eventually i like to mess around with older guys but
03:59:07.320
to get serious with someone they would have to be around 35 to maybe even 55 yeah do you do you guys
03:59:15.260
both would you guys say that you both are like older men as well like same age and above same
03:59:23.300
like how what's like what's the oldest that you would go you're 32 right 32 i think it all depends
03:59:31.340
on like that particular person ideally maybe someone like within one to like
03:59:39.060
eight nine years of my age range what about you um i'd say i've i was more open i guess
03:59:48.500
when i was first started dating to date younger and older but now i kind of lean towards older by a few
03:59:54.660
years so why do you think that woman nowadays try to go for older men specifically men my age do not
04:00:05.940
want to get their hands dirty and i want a man who what do you mean get their hands dirty like i have
04:00:12.160
a handyman for example he's amazing and anytime i call him over he's like leaving his job to come and
04:00:18.720
paint this or you know he's just like on the ball and he's not afraid to do whatever he needs to do
04:00:24.680
and he's like 60 and i can't find someone who's like 20 or 30 to come and do that because and he's
04:00:31.400
like yeah i thought i would have so much competition but no nobody wants to work and i feel like guys
04:00:37.400
wait is he one of your simps or is he actually like a handyman no he's a handyman yeah but you says
04:00:42.260
he leaves whatever he's doing to come and yeah he has an actual job but i pay him to do handyman work
04:00:47.840
oh like he has an actual job still i mean i pay him good like he could probably just work for me
04:00:53.900
and make good money but what do you mean just work for you like just do handyman things for me
04:00:59.060
like and he'll even do gardening if i need some gardening done yeah but i'm sure you don't have
04:01:03.840
like a full-time job for him do you yeah but i'm saying your house is your house just a catastrophe
04:01:10.860
that's constantly like no i have multiple properties oh okay she's got multiple properties
04:01:15.980
have you ever been a sugar mama no you wouldn't do that no even with all your your vast wealth and
04:01:23.180
riches and yeah i mean i would definitely like pay on a date or something do you ever simp for dudes
04:01:30.440
would you simp for a guy no no i don't think so unless i'm i guess if that means totally falling in
04:01:39.260
love with a man and because because i'm doing whatever for him then yeah i guess so because
04:01:44.680
i've heard from some only fans women that they have to like simp for a dude
04:01:52.860
in a relationship like almost to make up for the fact that they do this kind of undesirable thing
04:02:00.700
which is like having only fans do sex work doing porn
04:02:03.340
maybe i don't know i'm not relating well it's like there are women who do only fans who recognize
04:02:15.580
that this makes them a less suitable partner and so they feel like they have to make up for it by
04:02:23.500
and they'll make up for it by like financially supporting the guy in the same way that men who
04:02:29.640
are deficient in one realm of that would in a realm that would be attractive to women like
04:02:36.640
okay maybe he's not attractive or maybe he's not good looking but he's wealthy they'll try to lead
04:02:42.540
with their money and try to make up for it with their money so i think there are some only fans girls
04:02:49.320
that will do that they make up for their this deficiency in their character essentially or in
04:02:55.200
their value in the market in the dating marketplace by simping for guys and like paying for shit
04:03:02.020
i could see that happening you've never encountered that i don't know no but i could i i've seen that
04:03:08.920
happen before for sure okay and it's yeah i think it's probably just feeling bad about what you do a
04:03:14.400
little bit and so you're like well i do this so i'm good but um it's probably just a coping
04:03:20.580
mechanism i think a lot of people go into the industry and not really think about
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the things you have to face later in life and i think i'm doing a pretty good job with it
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okay can you oh wait i don't water in it just kidding brian would wait wait what oh the water
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yeah she doesn't have i don't have any in it though in this yeah thank you
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um i'm trying to remember where i was uh what was my other question would would any of you date a
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uh trans man i guess no no fuck no would would you object to a guy not wanting to date a trans woman
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like if i didn't want to date a transgender woman that's like dating a man would would you guys have
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an issue with that like if you didn't want to date a trans woman yeah wouldn't that be dating a man
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just you're dating a man no no i wouldn't have an issue okay no all right um yeah that's an
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interesting one definitely don't get that but i don't understand the the like forcing people into
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dating someone you like if i say i'm not a lesbian people kind of have gotten offended by that
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before why would that be offensive because i've done like girl girl content or just like you know
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i mean that could just mean you're bi or not even bi you're just doing it for work well yeah you're
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just doing it for work yeah yeah um yeah i feel like i've heard that conversation though like
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of people getting offended that you're like not willing to or that you're not lesbian i feel like
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i've gotten that before it's just it's not like not like they're like oh my god you're you're you're
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not into girls it's just kind of like oh like it's a huge like turn off for some reason like it's like
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i've let them down like i've ruined their lives because i'm like not yeah bisexual or anything like that
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i've seen that i've felt that before um the funny thing is is i will do a show with a girl but i
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would never do one with like a transgender yeah you're about to be you're about to be canceled
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violet well i'm just very particular about who i am doing content with no matter who it is you know
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i'm very particular about it so so are you like planning on not dating anyone for like a while
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not seriously i'm for a while because i just don't have time or my life isn't in that spot but
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you own multiple properties like if you wanted to do you think you've made enough that you could
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retire yes okay but obviously i mean there's no is there such thing like you always want to make more
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right yeah um no money and i think that just while i have my looks or you know obviously i'm not going
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to have them forever so i would like to make the most out of while i can be on camera sure okay um
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let's say a guy came along now right you're 23 you've made you've made good money he's made good
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money and he says violet listen your past is your past
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i want to forge a new future i want you to stop doing only fans i want you to stop doing porn i want
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you to stop doing sex work i want to pump out 10 dark-haired blue-eyed children
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do you do you accept yes if i'm in love with the man then yes i accept i'll pump out as many babies
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i'm not pitching chat relax i'll pump out as many babies as my man wants me to pump out when i get to
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that place in my life and i don't think i will be suitable for camera after that unless i get what is
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that labia oh no labia place no it's the what huh lipo lipo yeah you gotta get like lipo on your
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vagina vagina oh oh wait i thought you're talking about like after you like after you have kids
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like yeah i was talking about the actual vagina because that's what's important on camera here
04:07:57.060
people oh wait what is it the pussy what the vagina you can get the vagina the vagina the vagina
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you get surgery on your fajita yeah like women have done that before yo pull up pull up my
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non-profit yeah i was literally trying to plug and nobody understood you you were trying to plug what
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your thing big labia matter yeah blm yes i violet i want you to say that you support blm into the
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look into this camera right here say it this one right here oh i'm looking at myself
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i support big labia matters raise your fist fist in the air make a fist no that's definitely not a fist
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your technique's decent but fist no that's a grab that's a grab i know you're just no fist in
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clenched fist okay bro you'd stop being her on it hashtag blm say it i'm not saying bro that's my
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fuck it's nick pull it up pull it up pull it up hashtag big big baby that's my non-profit
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big labia matter oh my god bro wow okay you're trying to make me say things no i'll say it
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hashtag blm no you gotta do the fist right hashtag blm what the fuck okay did you post the black screen
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too no i didn't do that i'm not a sheep oh i totally thought you would have done that
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you thought i would have posted like during the screen yeah did you no no i had actually here's
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the funny story chat get this i was dating a girl for two months is it two months three months
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uh the george floyd riots people are posting black screens my girlfriend sort of girlfriend
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breaks up with me because i didn't post a black screen oh my god yeah cool that shit was really
04:10:05.680
divisive and this was when i was still kind of dating like kind got chat i know look i was kind
04:10:13.020
of dating liberal women was she black no she's a white woman oh it was my peer i would look i was
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i remember there being so much drama i was dating a liberal woman i regret it what's that yeah there
04:10:31.180
was a lot of drama like oh yeah shit people being like you know i'm unfollowing you if you're not
04:10:37.060
supporting this or silence is violence and if you knew that it would save your relationship would you
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go back and do it no fuck no so you didn't really like her that much no it's not about i'm not going to
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lie i believe in speaking the truth i'm not going to lie to continue to get pussy yeah no i just didn't
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know if you like didn't do it purposefully or not no but you're asking you're asking would i go back
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to save the relationship would i post it and i'm no y'all were together for two months you said or
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you know like two three months or something okay yeah so good times shitty reasons to get broken up
04:11:21.360
with or maybe it was a good reason i don't know blessing in disguise yeah you're not like super
04:11:26.400
deep into it if it's only a couple months no i wasn't i i just thought it was funny i was like
04:11:30.520
okay once i had a girl yo i've told this story before um i i was on a date with a girl and i brought
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like a this this exact not this one but like a water bottle just like this it used to be pulling
04:11:45.240
springs now it's origin now it's secret juice um she towards the end of the date starts complaining
04:11:56.300
about the fact that i brought a plastic water bottle to the date was she against plastic she
04:12:03.880
like you're killing she was like she was like oh super environmental type chick and she basically
04:12:08.860
torpedoed the date because like i i believe in protecting the environment like yeah plastic is
04:12:16.220
bad but it's a like relax bro it's a fucking water bottle i'm running out the door i'm gonna grab a
04:12:23.380
ball and then i so then i flipped the shit on her i was like did you wear makeup tonight okay
04:12:29.440
that that that is people harvesting uh like they it's a child fucking child labor in in asian
04:12:41.520
countries and in africa they're harvesting mica to put mica to put in your concealer and to put in
04:12:47.940
your all your shit so um the makeup and cosmetics industry is an incredible waste there's no utility to
04:12:54.960
makeup so and then i was like you're wearing makeup it comes your makeup comes in a little
04:13:01.200
plastic container doesn't it and then she got all but well it's not the same okay shut up and then
04:13:09.040
and then i was like and then i asked her how frequently she travels and then she just got butt
04:13:15.260
hurt and then left oh my goodness she brought it up you you don't want the smoke don't ask don't
04:13:21.760
try to make a big deal of my plastic use yeah and it's one little thing like if she actually has a
04:13:27.600
problem with it it's something you can pick and choose your battle over and be like okay well if
04:13:31.120
i really like this guy maybe i'll tell him later that i you know if it's really that big of a deal
04:13:35.440
it was a first date yeah exactly did you meet her on the dating app yeah it was a dating app uh
04:13:40.660
on bumble put that in her profile yeah no plastic that's so weird that like first off that's really
04:13:47.620
the the environmental impact is not being caused i mean to some degree is not being caused on an
04:13:55.460
individual level it's corporations that are responsible for the vast majority of environmental
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waste so and then also like if you look at for example shipping is a huge thing because once um i could
04:14:10.980
be semi wrong on this once uh shipping vessels get into international water they can start
04:14:17.480
burning a uh different kind of fuel which is really i don't know if it what it's not
04:14:23.140
fuck what's it called anybody in chat can you tell me what the there's a fuel that shipping vessels
04:14:30.660
burn uh does anybody know what i'm talking about well i think the environmental crisis is just another
04:14:37.900
propaganda of like a form of control bunker fuel bog thank you they start burning bunker fuel once
04:14:43.020
they're in international water okay go ahead what is sorry i was gonna say the environmental
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crisis i feel like that's just another propaganda and like just a form of control
04:15:06.520
on the subject of rating why does four to six average feel offensive or people feel bad saying
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them also for body counts does it change if you compare number to establish relationships compared
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no it's all the same i think if you had a sexual encounter that counts right oh yeah sexual
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i think it kind of changes to established relationships it's kind of like you have a body count because you've
04:15:47.400
been in a relationship or because you've had like multiple one night stands like does that make a
04:15:53.180
well i mean you're if your body count gets high enough there's in between your relationships prior to
04:16:03.900
relationships after your relationships there's been you've probably had casual sex like it typically
04:16:09.880
what most people are going to have only a handful of like serious relationships it's just
04:16:15.280
so um i don't know but for the first question why does four to six feel offensive
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most people are four to six like that's average most people are average looking it's not
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it is what it is oh for the rating of looks got it i think that's what he's talking about
04:16:33.840
yeah four to six it's offensive because most people want to think they're 10
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or higher yeah word uh okay what what else let me see if we have any chance here from
04:16:48.400
is fake chess girl okay sorry sorry sorry i don't know what i was reading there
04:17:00.620
is that me um before we wrap up do you guys have anything you'd like to talk about
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what's a hot hot i feel like you have something no wait i had something and then i'm like oh crap i
04:17:19.960
just uh yo chat what i want to know the fake titty fake titty uh comment oh i don't know it's just
04:17:28.040
like a here i'll can you read this one violet oh wait uh sorry read this one violet go go go quick
04:17:39.820
six two 240 pounds tatted 150k here violet what's the best way to slide into those dms
04:17:45.520
uh uh instagram at violet brandani i changed my last name
04:17:53.680
well can't have all okay can't have what they like take a uh
04:17:57.860
did they have a did they have a what's it called
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he does things like that because he doesn't want you leaving the team so yeah
04:18:20.500
but brandani is my real last name so i might as well use it oh and then one day i'll get married
04:18:30.720
would you hyphenate no okay that's kind of based okay uh let's see here oh we had this one can you
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read this one it's good to see someone like yasmin on the show that's that is not wait it's good
04:18:47.300
am i not supposed to read that no go ahead go ahead okay i'm so sorry that is not trying to look
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for for control in the relationship and wants to be a mother and find something meaningful and
04:18:57.180
profound she will find it oh that's sweet thank you bintock appreciate it ligma thank you man
04:19:06.540
appreciate it let me see if we have anything else here i had oh shit wait what was my question i was
04:19:12.960
gonna ask fuck uh shit it was a good one he was really good super good one of the best questions
04:19:23.740
oh why don't we pull that one up if you can read it violet i just want to tell my princess good night
04:19:28.180
and i don't care if everyone calls me a wimp i love you good night
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is he did he call himself a simp wimp i think he meant simp because i've never heard wimp
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oh really maybe he did we mean when i swear i'm forgetting something there's something uh one last
04:19:54.640
question shit i had something good but it's evaded me uh oh let's react to there's this video
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that what's it like trading with alex print no not the sean strickland one it's the girl
04:20:09.040
she's like i think in a sweatshirt or something yeah i think it's a tiktok
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i could have all this in my life and so bored to be me why would i ever want to invite a 50 50
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man into that equation when i could have 50 100 men and i could live in the gifts all around me
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like a shrine in fact some might say i already do now pick me pick me girls and dusties will yell
04:20:39.280
in your ear about what you should settle for and how you should live your life but you don't have to do
04:20:42.740
that even if you're not watching me from your own apartment with your cat inside of it like
04:20:46.300
i'm posting right now you're still allowed to not want to go 50 50. these men will either bring
04:20:50.480
you up with them or bring you down to their level and let's be honest it's never 50 50 it's usually 90 10
04:20:56.100
disavow um so her i'll let the girls react to that first agree disagree um disagree
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okay yeah she's why just kind of like very short-sighted on relationships i think
04:21:17.860
yeah she wants to not commit to a guy and saying she can have 50 000 men or something i guess disagree
04:21:31.060
but you don't want 50 50 well i don't know so you
04:21:40.360
kind of agree with her i've always been told that relationship should be a 100 100 yeah
04:21:49.240
yeah huh um it's kind of an empty platitude though i mean i think when people say 50 50 that's
04:21:56.680
probably giving your 100 because then you may well i think when people when people are talking about 50 50
04:22:02.620
they i think there's a difference between both people giving the um how do i articulate this
04:22:14.340
i think there's a difference there between people giving the relationship they're all and then 50 50
04:22:21.520
50 50 makes it like transactional versus someone giving it their all i'm just confused now this
04:22:35.200
and then you take too complicated yeah tell us the math let's do some home math 100 and put that up on top
04:22:44.320
you get a root 2500 and then you're good till death do its part totally checks out makes perfect
04:22:52.060
sense do its part um but yeah i don't know what i was going to say after that what about you was
04:23:00.120
that girl in the video like saying that she has enough money to support herself and that's why she's
04:23:04.240
a new man i guess i'd yeah it was hard yeah also she's very masculine like in her her demeanor and
04:23:13.960
approach so i'll say like i would want to see what she says in like 20 30 years when she's all alone
04:23:20.200
and she doesn't have her looks to rely on and with fast money comes slow problems
04:23:24.120
i also disagree i think that one great man in your life can be the biggest blessing in the world
04:23:34.580
wait say that again why where were you looking i don't know i keep staring like in between
04:23:48.340
the monitor i don't know i'm seeing things but shit i'm looking for my really dope question that
04:23:55.100
i definitely had lined up that i'm trying to get to uh let's see um what's everybody's type
04:24:02.880
i asked that she likes beards a man who wants to have kids a man who wants to stab kids no who
04:24:12.180
wants to have kids did nick did you hear that too i heard she wants to stab kids what the fuck
04:24:18.140
generally a lot of men want to have kids types look wise around after you have yeah maybe
04:24:25.600
what oh i know what to do i know what to do nick can you pull up the can you pull up um asmond
04:24:33.740
golden xqc their instagram profiles we've we've reacted to it before um i've while nick is doing
04:24:53.340
yes a little bit um so i want to ask how tall are you what's like bare minimum height for a guy
04:25:02.940
good question uh we'll start with you and then we'll just go around the table i'm five foot so it's
04:25:09.920
not that big of a deal if you're too tall but you do have to be taller so i guess five five at least
04:25:15.820
five five minimum at least yeah at least yeah but preferably what preferably uh six foot
04:25:23.660
five feet but oh nick can you also pull up that that meme the it's in the meme folder so go into
04:25:33.020
dropbox don't pull it up yet dropbox podcast memes uh it's the too short one what about you how tall
04:25:44.540
are you bare minimum height for a guy i am five seven um bare minimum i'd say like yeah my height
04:25:51.420
five six five seven preferably five ten and up okay what about you i'm five six preferably above six
04:25:59.560
foot preferably above six foot okay madison what about you i'm five two preferably
04:26:06.620
five six or taller okay i mean i'll say my preference um
04:26:14.180
her height has to start with four honestly for height doesn't start with four it's just like
04:26:21.860
what's the point you know like i know you're five feet you're five feet you're too short for me
04:26:28.800
or sorry sorry you're too tall i was like am i no no i fucked that up you're too tall
04:26:33.360
sorry why is it that you find four foot just cross y'all the list so sad shoot you know i was
04:26:41.860
thinking too because you were like well oh wait actually go on i'll continue that later i don't
04:26:48.880
want to interrupt no go ahead go ahead oh um you asked me earlier about getting more men because
04:26:58.060
i or getting less men because of what i do not being able to find someone but i come from a really
04:27:03.580
small town so i feel like either way my chances have expanded greatly with a good man um rather than
04:27:12.000
just staying in my town and finding someone there
04:27:15.080
yeah let's do the meme first so this is this is uh
04:27:25.020
like short women who are like i've got to date a tall guy who's six feet so like a short chick who's
04:27:32.660
five feet sorry i don't date guys below six feet and the dude's like five seven it's like i'm still
04:27:37.120
taller than you what the fuck we've definitely had on like short women who are like five feet five
04:27:43.600
foot one who are like he's got to be six feet wow yeah i say that but then i'm like thinking like
04:27:49.880
yeah um i'm not a size queen or anything so six feet is kind of big i don't think i've ever
04:27:56.800
been with someone six feet tall my high school boyfriend was five five so
04:28:02.700
oh okay all right she doesn't discriminate i guess there you go really uh and then what was
04:28:08.920
the other thing we were looking up oh yeah would you date this guy so we'll scroll down we'll see
04:28:15.300
the pictures just wait until we see all of them because maybe one catches your eyes so his name is
04:28:20.720
zach he's um he's a very nice guy he's a close friend he's a close friend of mine uh we we used to
04:28:29.080
live in new jersey together and um we actually had to leave new jersey because
04:28:35.780
he got he got involved with the wrong crowd italian mafia so he had to leave that's why he has that axe
04:28:47.240
there that shit is in okay um well i get off to tony soprano so if it's like that then maybe but i don't
04:28:57.720
really go off someone's instagram would you date zach i said i don't go off anyone's instagram
04:29:04.480
just based off what you saw though would you give him a chance i would give him a chance yes
04:29:10.860
i would could i'm friends with him can i set you up with him
04:29:14.820
where does he live new jersey oh no he lives in texas actually no way yeah where i think austin
04:29:24.160
really yeah yeah i'll hang out with him is that where you live yes well i live uh in belton it's
04:29:29.720
about an hour north that's that's not far i think he's in austin i don't i don't recall we've kind
04:29:34.900
of you know well hit me up we've there was an incident with um a porcupine that we don't talk
04:29:42.480
about so unfortunately we've kind of haven't talked in a while but yeah it's a it's a heartbreaking
04:29:49.980
story relationship okay it's okay we're we're it's it's amicable but there's a history there so
04:29:57.060
okay do you think but you'd be down to like kick it with him if he's a normal guy yeah okay what
04:30:03.300
about you i i go on a date with him you go on a date with him okay no no maddie if you were single
04:30:10.920
no okay uh so go back to his profile so this is this his name zach he's a twitch streamer scroll up
04:30:19.500
to the top i love it uh his name his name is asmongold his uh streaming name one of the top
04:30:29.400
streamers on twitch very popular so maybe violet maybe could i try to set you up for a little rendezvous
04:30:36.740
at zach's i think his beard is really saving him here and he pulls it off very well it's full
04:30:43.900
he's got a he's like a viking it could use some conditioner but we can fix that he's a viking
04:30:49.100
yeah for sure but he looks feminine and he's in texas no that is peak male performance pull it up
04:30:56.200
again this is peak male performance how dare you say he looks feminine what do you think he's got
04:31:01.980
a fucking axe look at that you talked about you were talking about alpha males you were talking
04:31:07.740
about alpha males earlier this is the fucking epitome of an alpha male he will chop your head off
04:31:14.760
for you not your head he'll chop his head off for you yes which head are we talking about never mind
04:31:22.400
um yeah we'll do we'll do next guy uh okay so how about this guy this guy's name is felix
04:31:31.960
and um you know okay there he is look he's uh all right he's a close friend he's a friend of mine
04:31:42.940
you know um he gives me like mgk vibes okay all right look he's got a cat um his hair is blonde
04:31:53.560
dyed blonde he could be like a calvin klein model
04:31:57.760
okay um that's a cute picture which one the first one this one the one where he's like super intense
04:32:07.420
looking like he's gonna murder you that's the one yeah that's probably like okay that's pure picture
04:32:14.520
yeah pure he's like really he looks like he's like about to talk shit to some like say some
04:32:23.040
racist shit in the call of duty lobby that's pure for you what the fuck all right um so going around
04:32:29.900
the table would you would you date him no no not my the tall skinny like mgk look that's not me
04:32:40.540
not you yeah okay what about you um i don't really like the dyed blonde look i'd like to see like his
04:32:48.520
natural hair okay all right so i guess no also no he kind of looks feminine madison no sorry felix
04:32:59.300
okay let's go back uh go back to his profile this is felix his name's xqc on he's a streamer
04:33:06.660
he recently signed a kick deal for what was it chat was it 20 million or was it a hundred million
04:33:14.780
was it a hundred million or was it i think it was a hundred million kick deal right um does that
04:33:23.740
change anything hundred mil excuse me hundred million dollar kick deal does that change anything
04:33:29.960
that's retire you money never have to work a day in your life money but perhaps doesn't change
04:33:36.880
anything doesn't change anything that's like a top 0.0001 percent earner nothing no that's crazy
04:33:46.800
wow well good for him okay all right doesn't change anything i'm not gonna lie
04:33:54.900
i might go gay for that shit i'm just saying like gay for pay you did gay for pay i might go gay for
04:34:01.260
whoa whoa okay hide that shit um well i think i might i might give him a chance but if i'm not happy
04:34:07.340
i wouldn't just stay with someone for um yeah just because i'm like oh well i need this chick deal
04:34:13.500
okay all right all right what if you met him and you really liked his personality though does that
04:34:19.660
change anything he's french canadian yeah i can definitely fall in love like you know start
04:34:24.820
liking a guy a lot just because his personality he doesn't even have to be like whoa attractive they
04:34:30.340
just can you know put their body language and their smooth talk yeah that's very important the coolness
04:34:37.120
of a guy is he funny i have i i for me humor is really important for me yeah i guess he's funny
04:34:45.600
okay he's a good guy he's one of my friends he's a close friend okay he was also involved in the
04:34:52.420
italian mafia in new jersey for some reason i don't know well that changes things for the better are you
04:34:57.420
more turned on yes i told you i get off to tony soprano i'll pause like an episode i'm like oh save
04:35:03.440
that for later you know you fucking hypocrite hey i love her i don't like that kind of talk
04:35:17.980
do you guys have any questions before we wrap up the show any questions you'd like to ask
04:35:24.960
are you gonna get married am i gonna get married yes do you plan to um i'm gonna stop this podcast
04:35:33.180
because it is destroying my life i'm gonna marry you we're not gonna sign a prenup i'm gonna divorce
04:35:39.120
you in seven years for lifelong alimony no if i get married i'm not getting divorced i'm so sorry
04:35:44.880
oh you don't have a say though you're not getting divorced but i am
04:35:49.780
so you're gonna make me quit my adult work no no we're gonna live happily together for seven years
04:35:57.320
you can do so i'm gonna depend on you you can do solo content okay yeah okay that's sweet of you
04:36:01.800
yeah i will allow you to do solo content out of the goodness i love the compromise we're already
04:36:06.660
making here yeah it's good perfect yep um so yeah i'm gonna depend on you for a good seven years
04:36:11.960
probably make like five kids and then you'll leave me seven kids all sons seven kids seven
04:36:17.680
all sons we have to have at least seven sons okay and then you'll leave so i don't care if we have
04:36:22.080
ten daughters we're gonna have seven sons okay let's just get to the part where you leave you're
04:36:25.500
gonna be pumping out kids i'm gonna stay until we have seven sons okay yeah maybe i'll have like
04:36:32.020
triplets okay three boys i'm telling you though like we have to have seven sons so i don't care
04:36:37.500
again if we have ten daughters okay you know what's kind of interesting that i've noticed is like
04:36:42.400
and i'm not saying that this is me but god oh hold on oh can you read this violet
04:36:50.600
props to yasmin for acknowledging the feminism programming they teach females growing up about
04:36:57.140
being boss babe making money is not fulfilling at the end of the day also helmet head i wouldn't
04:37:02.260
touch and bang with you even with brian's dick hashtag streets rip madison is this from i was just
04:37:12.700
making a joke sounds like you got offended but oh damn lpe coming for you uh not even with my penis
04:37:21.020
what does i wouldn't want that either i wouldn't want that either whoa okay that's like really a lot
04:37:28.480
of logistics you know he's really shoving it and she's oh he would be in the corner like would he be
04:37:34.240
like a lawyer um so let's get back to me divorcing you for all your money okay yes the fantasy yes
04:37:43.720
the dream just let me know when you want to get going on that and
04:37:50.600
i would probably like if we were to date i would just reverse finesse you like i would never fuck
04:37:57.160
you i'd wait until marriage and then like we'd never have sex wow that's hot is it yes i like that
04:38:03.540
i like that i would just basically make you my servant you'd have to massage me but we could have
04:38:08.080
no sexual contact the only time we could have sexual contact i'd probably have to like artificially
04:38:12.940
inseminate you oh my god what am i talking that thing where couples are you actually excited by
04:38:19.880
this yeah and like we're just so sexually tensioned and then the honeymoon comes and you just like
04:38:26.820
pound me and no not even that huh not even that oh wait what you know have you ever seen those
04:38:33.460
videos of like how they like they don't actually allow horses to fuck other horses they have to like
04:38:38.400
get it in a tube and then they artificially inseminate oh like frenchies yeah
04:38:42.580
yeah like that's how we would have to have our kids
04:38:46.100
that's weird yeah oh you don't have to be okay things got okay wait i think i was missing that
04:38:53.120
whole inseminate part of your sentence or whatever i don't know where i'm going with this i'm losing
04:39:00.160
i thought you thought about this all night about artificially inseminating you yes you think it's just
04:39:05.920
been yeah you're like man she's got the best genes i know it the best genes do you no i actually don't
04:39:15.820
yeah exactly um but yeah i'm just gonna marry you for your money and then divorce you is this my water
04:39:23.580
i don't think so oh oh my gosh thank god thank you i thought i was drinking someone else's water
04:39:31.620
well do you believe in love after like do i believe in love yeah after having like all these
04:39:37.780
conversations about dating that's a good question yeah i believe in love for yourself
04:39:44.280
yeah sure i believe in love have you ever been in love yeah i've been in love
04:39:53.100
is this something you would like would want in life or like strive to find with somebody else
04:40:00.840
what is this something you would strive to find with someone else to like fall in love with someone
04:40:19.120
like kids aside just with like a like person like loving your partner i think once you have kids
04:40:31.480
like you agree no i think like once you have kids you do what's best for the kids
04:40:43.240
so and i think what's best for the kids is the parents being in love yeah so they grow up in
04:40:48.980
a household where the but what if you fall out of love but you otherwise have if you otherwise have
04:40:54.800
a a healthy relationship with your spouse but you have fallen out of love then i think it's selfish
04:41:06.200
but love is work it's like you have to put in the same effort you do the first few dates as you do
04:41:10.400
like 10 years into the relationship wait what so like the first few dates you're gonna put in so
04:41:17.020
much effort you're gonna be like courting the woman's like gonna be showing up as her best self
04:41:20.920
and 10 years down you still have to be putting in that same effort to keep the love alive
04:41:24.660
or else of course you're gonna fall out of love sure i mean and this is a very hypothetical scenario
04:41:30.200
i'm just i think it would be hard for me to fall out of love with the mother of my children
04:41:39.460
that'd be very hard to do i think it's more often the case that women fall out of love with their
04:41:44.880
husbands i think that's just from like neglecting what you have and not yeah not working on the
04:41:52.140
relationship like you said and when women kind of are in the real world they always are getting
04:41:59.100
like oh you should be a part of our girl mob and leave your you know it's kind of like this
04:42:05.620
especially when you're friends with single women and then you're in a relationship i think that they
04:42:10.440
clash a lot um and so it's always kind of fighting that and then yeah i mean i think
04:42:17.420
i think when it comes to long-term relationships love is great but i think you can continue having
04:42:28.380
you're a catholic right you said you don't believe in divorce okay do you think divorce is
04:42:38.940
warranted if you fall out of love with somebody
04:42:41.280
i don't think under catholicism falling out of love with somebody is a valid reason for divorce
04:42:49.060
yeah i mean don't get married if you have any chance of falling out of love with them or yeah but
04:42:54.200
don't people fall out of love with people but that's just making i mean you said you said you
04:43:00.960
would never divorce never get divorced right so let's say the relationship is otherwise healthy
04:43:07.600
you treat each other well but you have fallen out of love with your partner maybe you get bored
04:43:14.080
people have you ever been bored in a relationship by the guy he was otherwise great guy he was very
04:43:20.360
nice but you got bored um i can't really say i have okay what about you yes you've been bored
04:43:25.960
great guy nice guy treated you well never was toxic or abusive in any way but you just got bored
04:43:41.100
if there we just i don't know maybe the spark was not there anymore it just kind of felt like
04:43:52.680
we were in a rut and things i mean that could be on my part too i didn't maybe put in as much
04:43:59.380
effort as i could have but yeah i mean i think it's very possible to fall out of love and get
04:44:08.200
bored in a relationship people change yeah what about you have you ever been bored in a relationship
04:44:13.720
no oh okay all right yeah i think if you really love someone you don't really get bored but love
04:44:21.580
like being in a relationship is work you can't just like get in a relationship get married and then
04:44:25.280
just be like okay i'm gonna chill now you have to keep continuing putting in the work yeah of course
04:44:30.220
but uh and then if you don't i think that's when you fall out of love
04:44:34.500
yeah maybe you can fall back into love yeah so that's always an option i think there's always work
04:44:41.820
to be done um and obviously relationships have lows like sometimes there's periods of time where
04:44:50.780
you're upset about each other you have arguments about things and i feel like even if you do fall
04:44:56.760
out of love with your husband or your wife like you can still care about each other to the extent that
04:45:02.300
you care about your children together so you care about having a good relationship with each other
04:45:06.000
still you know yeah at that point it's more of like a companionship than i'd like love yeah like
04:45:13.320
marriage isn't like your friends like you're committing to each other for life i i see it like that
04:45:18.520
that's why i'm waiting to get serious about that because i want it to be someone who i'm with
04:45:24.020
forever and i'm going to commit myself to them like that so absolutely i just think that people
04:45:30.200
are very lucy goose with marriage and it shouldn't be that way i think it's sacred and they're like
04:45:36.000
yeah it's something that came from god not government or anything like that marriage came from what god
04:45:43.660
yes love or what marriage oh don't it i don't know we have stochastic decay here
04:45:52.440
violet can you read this hey brian question for the lackluster panel other than simp handyman
04:46:00.660
what is the most attractive hobby a man can have
04:46:03.260
um we'll go around the table starting with you i like uh when a man is into things like sports
04:46:16.200
and comedy and i like when we can connect on things like that so yeah little hobbies like that
04:46:23.600
um i like when a guy likes like building stuff like whether it's furniture or like i don't know
04:46:35.660
just doing something with his hands yeah um i'll go with hunting hunting okay i'll go with just straight
04:46:43.380
like businessman ceo cfo or i feel like being in the sports industry is an attractive job as well
04:46:52.020
like a sports agent sports like going in a sports management or something like that
04:46:58.400
yeah okay what's the most attractive career for a woman a mom probably honestly probably
04:47:07.880
yeah home mom uh that's probably um it's like the best thing a woman can do like an actual job
04:47:15.080
i want to i want to say hmm yeah i was gonna say massage therapist no men are way better
04:47:24.100
they are better massage therapists um what about like as a nurse but then or teacher no not nurse not
04:47:32.820
teacher but then like women who are massage therapists they also are like really don't want to
04:47:41.400
massage you massage you because they've been doing it all fucking day so you think it's a catch like
04:47:47.200
you think a girl who's a massage therapist is a catch because it's like especially if you're a guy
04:47:51.460
who like you're an athlete or you work out you're like oh fuck that'd be fucking amazing my girlfriend
04:47:56.120
massage wouldn't massage me all the time a lot of these massage chicks don't want to massage you for
04:48:00.960
free they would do it if they loved you yeah but they get it so much they're like women who do
04:48:08.840
massage therapy get it so much that it's probably annoying like okay yeah i get it you want to
04:48:14.300
fucking massage because i'm a massage therapist like they probably burned out on it um but is it an
04:48:20.280
l guys like is it kind of an l if you're like if hmm she's like massaging other dudes is that kind of
04:48:31.900
an l if your girlfriend or wife is for her career it's like non-sexual it's like massage is totally
04:48:39.240
legit i would probably have a problem i wonder is that like an l chat chat do you think that's a l
04:48:46.020
yeah it could potentially really i feel like it's not like sexual though i don't think it is like
04:48:55.160
massages like it's look there are some like sketchy like massage parlor type places but
04:49:01.960
there are legitimate massage professionals so yeah um oh yeah i'm an idiot i forgot about
04:49:11.320
rubbing tugs it is it is yeah i she's like massaging it might be an l because yeah it might be an l to
04:49:18.760
i think it is might be an l okay all right i don't know how did how the oh we have some chats here uh
04:49:26.900
where did we leave off queen did we do this one
04:49:31.120
did we do this one we haven't done that one either
04:49:36.260
uh violet can you read this one cute and gray blue dress in middle you're more base than you think
04:49:45.020
black shirt you're super base and i appreciate your takes tank i disapprove of your lifestyle
04:49:50.120
but i think you're super based big labia is the only blm thank you ligma johnson can you read this
04:49:59.000
all right yasmin can you read this one why not talk to yasmin really proud of her as a persian
04:50:05.780
woman who values family and carries herself with dignity it's great to have women like her who make
04:50:11.460
great mothers word word word okay thank you man appreciate it all right guys get your last chats
04:50:19.620
and i'm gonna wrap up the show here pretty quick if you want to um were we on a conversational thread
04:50:26.900
i forgot sorry guys i'm at my last bit of brain fuel here you're just talking about the jobs jobs i feel
04:50:35.060
like i had one of my questions here pulled up but uh were we gonna react to
04:50:43.300
uh what was it sorry guys i'm just going over my notes here for the show
04:50:47.860
uh is it a deal breaker if a guy doesn't go down on you is that it i don't know if that was it
04:50:53.780
i think it is if he expects you to go down on him i really like i mean i love giving head but i do
04:51:05.540
like when a guy's good at giving me head so i do not ever get it or wrong be sad so i guess no i mean
04:51:11.940
yes it's a deal breaker that's yeah i'd say yeah it's a deal breaker no it's not a deal breaker
04:51:19.540
that's an answer uh i so i haven't gone down on a girl in like since the bush administration so
04:51:27.860
like that's like 2007 2008 um so it's like i'm 100 for real so for real i'm not joking huh
04:51:36.500
since 2007 i have not gone down on a girl since 2008 2007 2008 the bush administer the bush george
04:51:45.460
bush jr you should try it i have tried it i've tried it wasn't a fan you tried it again not since
04:51:54.900
the bush administration maybe it doesn't feel this doesn't sound natural to me like i get girl
04:52:01.220
going down on a guy but a guy going on down on a girl based w's in the chat i think brian i think
04:52:07.380
you're gonna find a girl one day you love and then you're gonna love going down no i've i've loved
04:52:11.780
women what's your what's your issue with it for you know first off the neck hurts the neck a little
04:52:17.780
bit you know so there's that don't you think giving head hurts the woman's necks a little bit
04:52:25.300
well i have i actually legit have some neck pain issues but um okay whatever natty uh
04:52:31.780
i'm not kidding uh but uh it's different it's so different i think it might be
04:52:42.740
it's well there is like a surprise for women at the end because we get the big load but the women
04:52:47.860
i mean when guys are going down on us it's kind of like we got to really like let you know like okay
04:52:52.340
i'm done you know because there's nothing spraying in your face well um sometimes yeah some women are
04:52:57.540
squirters well yeah i just don't think that that's gonna happen from being eaten out from eating
04:53:04.660
out yeah i like you can finger me and i might you know have some juices like spraying at you but not
04:53:12.100
being eaten out i mean that is true i think most women when it comes to squirting and that's actually
04:53:16.740
typically tends to be from a g-spot orgasm versus uh but uh um it's different because like
04:53:28.020
it's different i do think it's whatever you don't think it's different i do think it's different
04:53:33.460
i just think that oh you think it's easier for you guys it's easier no no no wait nick you think it's
04:53:39.300
easier the actual okay the actual technical like it's
04:53:48.180
it's physically it's easier but there's other components you know that granted you are an asian
04:53:58.580
woman what asian people don't have like they have less or they don't have they have the cutest little
04:54:05.860
vaginas that's for sure well actually what were you i've seen some japanese one huh what no well uh
04:54:13.540
my understanding is asian people don't have a certain sweat like you don't have body odor yeah
04:54:21.060
and that in addition to just like body odor that also translates to body odor
04:54:30.500
in the pussy region this is an armpit right like this is basically an armpit for women that's what it
04:54:37.460
is that's why well that's not what i'm saying but like asian women they lack the and men men also
04:54:42.500
well men don't have pussies but uh also asian men uh either have minimal or no body odor because
04:54:50.980
there's a certain i don't know if it's it's just a gene or is it a gene gene but that no it's a thing
04:54:56.820
it's actually very true it is a thing i don't work i've never put on deodorant it is a thing asian
04:55:02.340
people most i don't know if it's all asian people but a large portion of asian of people who are asian
04:55:08.740
uh they lack a gene or there's a gene difference where they don't have body odor or minimal body odor
04:55:15.860
so i'm so jealous of that that's really cool word and they don't grow a lot of hair i heard too
04:55:23.780
i think the hair is another component i'm the hairiest person like the fact that you don't wait why did you
04:55:31.620
say based nick i'm gonna pretend like you need to just make my dick go soft
04:55:39.700
forget anything else you're wait you're what violet i'm very hairy yeah i have to like
04:55:45.620
shave every well i'm mexican and italian okay i'm lots of hair comes with that so i gotta shave like
04:55:52.500
everything i tried laser hair removal and that didn't work now i know you're not a natural beauty
04:55:58.660
but i think maybe you should ask her about laser hair very striking oh yeah got the connection
04:56:07.300
what it's different also the other thing is like
04:56:13.620
blood comes out of there once a month so that's like another factor
04:56:18.100
that's true don't eat her out when she's on her period then yeah but it's like i don't think our
04:56:26.180
ancestors did that like probably not i don't think our male ancestors did that actually they probably
04:56:32.420
were just probably doing wild diving like my eighth grade teacher told me that when women had periods
04:56:38.820
back in the day that they would just sit on sit on like a stick for a week based let's go why i just
04:56:44.500
think about that sometimes just kidding chat um okay last question what would you say to a guy who
04:56:50.100
got a girl pregnant and she wants the kid but he doesn't starting with you violet
04:56:58.260
you say a girl who got a guy pregnant no what would you say to a guy who got a girl pregnant
04:57:03.380
she wants the kid but he doesn't what would you say to him he's like oh man like i don't really i'm
04:57:16.820
not ready to be a father like i don't want to have i'm not ready to have kids yet like i'm not in the
04:57:22.820
right place mentally i'm not in the right place emotionally i'm not in the right place financially
04:57:28.020
what do you say to him step it up i don't know uh just basically keeping
04:57:43.060
what are you what are you doing you're like brian what what are you doing ignore my facial expression
04:57:49.140
okay because it's freaking me out um why is it because i'm like am i like disappointing
04:57:53.540
you and what i'm saying right now go ahead okay um yeah i think that you have to take responsibility
04:58:03.140
for your actions and basically be a man it's time to grow up okay uh what what do you say do you agree
04:58:12.020
with violet i mean yeah if she wants to keep the kid then like he needs to live with that and
04:58:24.100
do that oh did you have more sorry no i'm good i'm good yeah i feel like my first reaction would
04:58:30.500
like yeah yeah because that sucks but i mean at the end of the day he doesn't really have a choice
04:58:35.380
but to co-parent the kid or be there for the kid and that like that the best thing you can do is like
04:58:41.780
be present for that kid and i feel like god always has a plan so even if he doesn't feel ready once
04:58:47.140
the kids here might be different okay madison what about you i agree with all of them basically do you
04:58:52.980
think that if he didn't want to have a kid he should have just kept it in his pants
04:58:59.460
not necessarily keep it in your pants but like use protection or something yeah
04:59:05.540
the consequences of intimacy is getting pregnant so if you don't want pregnancy then you should be
04:59:12.900
careful or try to do things to prevent it from happening i mean have the conversation with the
04:59:21.380
girl like if you're gonna be yeah intimate with her then talk about if she's on birth control or if
04:59:28.740
you're gonna use a condom or whatever yeah so nick what are you typing
04:59:34.180
nick can you not do that anymore all right i mean yeah it's it's if he should keep it in his pants
04:59:48.500
maybe he should find other but you're saying tough you're you were saying like oh tough like
04:59:56.660
should have thought of that yeah yeah it's kind of like living with the consequences okay um are you
05:00:02.340
guys pro-choice or pro-life i'm pro-life i've gone back and forth but i would say pro-choice
05:00:16.340
okay yeah something i haven't made a decision on i always go back and forth on and i don't really know
05:00:22.020
no aren't you conservative and religious yeah you don't know that have you had have you had an
05:00:30.660
abortion no you're not certain yet well i get the pro-choice but also i don't want to make a decision
05:00:38.820
for someone else i don't think it's my place to decide what someone else what about on your on a
05:00:43.940
personal level for you oh for myself yeah pro-life okay but you're just okay i see i see what you're
05:00:49.700
saying okay um yeah i was just curious are you pro-choice i need to keep my opinion on that one
05:00:59.620
private hmm did you have an abortion last two questions no it's not that um if your boyfriend
05:01:09.780
or husband was wrongfully convicted how long would you wait like he's in jail
05:01:14.820
prison oh gosh i don't know it's kind of like having your man off to the war you'd leave him
05:01:24.020
no of course not i would stay by i would love to be a military wife because i feel like i'd be really
05:01:28.980
good at it like you know i hate cheaters and like my stepdad had his wife cheat on him when he was in
05:01:36.900
the military it's just like how can you do that to someone they're all fighting for your country
05:01:41.060
fighting for you supporting your family yeah what was i saying um when i wait for my guy in if he was
05:01:50.100
incarcerated um i i'd say yes yes okay it was wrongfully right yeah i would wait 10 years yes
05:02:01.780
it feels frankie i would wait forever conjugal visits are an option absolutely visitation can be
05:02:11.620
done okay last question if the grim reaper comes and says should i take your life or your husband's
05:02:17.460
who do you choose what the grim reaper the grim reaper death comes and says should i take your life
05:02:28.980
or your husband's who do you choose myself right there's no i don't think there's a right or wrong
05:02:34.900
answer what about you mine i would choose myself i don't want to live with the guilt oh my god these
05:02:41.060
girls okay okay i said mine oh okay all right but then you think about it strategically if you were
05:02:47.540
to say him then he would go and kill him and then maybe the guy's like manly enough to have a fight
05:02:53.140
you know and then he kills him off actually this kind of relates to what we were talking about before
05:02:58.420
the show you're talking about like alpha beta what was your whole thing on that there's a lot of beta
05:03:04.820
males a lot of beta males but you said like wouldn't you would like a you would want a guy to sacrifice
05:03:12.340
his life for you that would be the alpha male thing right yeah okay yeah i guess that's protection yeah
05:03:22.340
i actually think the most alpha thing and we said this during the show i talked to you about this
05:03:28.660
before the show and i don't buy into the whole alpha beta thing i mean at the vid i would it's
05:03:35.620
probably a spectrum it's not like you're out either alpha or beta there's probably like degrees to this
05:03:40.740
shit plus i think it's just kind of cringy um categorization especially dudes who are like i'm
05:03:48.660
fucking i'm so alpha that's cringe as fuck um but uh wouldn't it be the most alpha thing for the guy
05:03:58.660
like to sacrifice his woman and then continue on living and just get a new woman isn't that like
05:04:04.020
pretty fucking based in alpha no that's kind of gangster right i mean
05:04:11.380
no can't he do the same thing isn't that based like can't he just procreate with his
05:04:16.500
the same woman why does he have to like sacrifice her get a new one i don't know in just some situation
05:04:21.860
where one of them has to die like wouldn't be that be like the most cutthroat alpha shit like okay you can
05:04:28.900
isn't that the most alpha thing like the beta thing would be i'm so i'm like the white knight
05:04:35.460
simp thing i'm gonna sacrifice i'm gonna take the bullet for you
05:04:41.380
the most alpha thing would be like i think it's the opposite push your wife i think the
05:04:46.740
beta would sacrifice the woman the the what i think the beta would be the one that would sacrifice the
05:04:53.860
woman and then alpha would sacrifice himself like it i do think technically speaking it is the most alpha
05:05:02.020
thing to sacrifice your girl right i mean evolutionarily i guess to keep you because you could survive yeah
05:05:11.940
that's alpha you survive right am i wrong am i wrong chat it's kind of alpha
05:05:22.980
alpha male preserves himself he finds another woman starts another family boom alpha
05:05:27.540
what if it's like two men in war does the man who sacrificed the other man is he out alpha
05:05:37.220
that man who he just sacrificed is he in a situation where one of them has to die yeah he's making the
05:05:43.700
decision from a purely like utilitarian pragmatic point of view you get to continue
05:06:03.140
the alpha is the one who's gonna just say like no just sacrifice me he's gonna yell freedom if one of
05:06:12.500
you has to if one of you fuck i mean if one of you has to die
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no the beta the beta would probably be like i don't want to die take him i don't want to die yet
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yeah i don't know that's hmm get your calculator thing on while you're thinking
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wait i had another question for this but it slipped my mind it was such a good question
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um i'm gonna i'm gonna wrap i'm gonna wrap here pretty soon
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it was the grammar for alpha beta what was it okay we're talking about alpha beta
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yeah i'll do these chats maybe it'll come back to me violet can you
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just to follow up i was telling her to get this guy okay thank you darian for for making her cry
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buddy because men will know what lies other men might say to take advantage of women also sometimes
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won't women will let other women say something is okay because they do it
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oh okay i get you yeah that's true because women are agreeable
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so we just will live in chaos together yeah go ahead yasmin yasmin yasmin
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just i will i will put absolutely danza danza tastic i need you to change your profile picture and your
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name to xerxes so get it go find the picture of xerxes change your name to xerxes tell yasmin
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that she will be empress of all greece and i will put in a good word for you good sir okay change it
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send another chat i'll put in good word okay uh it's just what's up with these dog photos what the
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fuck we want nick in the chat it's just i didn't know nick was typing in the chat i didn't know he's
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doing that um okay um all right what was my question god damn alpha beta where we got was it a video
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fuck it was something really good we were saying like the grim reaper if
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it was you or your husband which would do sacrifice
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violet can you read this does brian advocate for
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large labia because he has one he identifies as binary gender fluid dang it hold on i'll pull it
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i'll pull it back up where'd it go he also said he can flap his wings and fly away he admitted it in a
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video oh yeah this was like from a couple years ago i did this like video and i was talking to a girl
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and i said i i identified as a non-binary gender fluid dragon can please get it right nickelodeon
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whoosh into the sky and it got it went like crazy viral everywhere but nobody credited me because people
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were like repose like stealing the clip it's fine um
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the fuck was my something about like alpha beta
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totally i don't remember slipped my mind uh i think i had a question for you violet what's wrong with you
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i don't know um nothing really i'm just very sexually free um got a little daddy issues going on
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are your parents still together no divorce yes okay i have a stepdad
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word what the what was the thing with the alpha beta fuck um did you have more on that
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i mean that's like the problem with society right now is men are not men
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okay but also at the same time women are not women either like most women are just like feminists
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can i focus on their career sorry does that do y'all have siblings yes
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all of y'all do how many siblings i have a younger brother and a younger sister
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okay what about you i have a sister i have three sisters wow i have a younger sister
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oh i'm sorry for her and i'm just kidding i'm totally kidding do you have any siblings that was
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good uh yes i have uh that's funny two sisters a brother and six stepbrothers holy moly wow
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holy camoly that's crazy my grandma grew up with like 16 siblings so that's nothing
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yeah that's wild i'm forget there's some topic i i like in my mind i was like oh i want to talk
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about this but it totally whatever um yo guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever drop us to follow
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drop us a prime sub if you have one uh kai the guy think for the primed 96 think for the tier one
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hug and thank thank you for the uh tier one appreciate it uh we're going to on twitch before
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i do my outro i'll probably we'll do a raid on stay safe probably um let me just get my
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i feel like there was something that damn totally forgot uh
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uh it's not coming to me i'm just gonna have to wrap whatever okay um guys last call was it
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the video reaction did we have to react to a video alpha beta something related to alpha beta
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sigma oh can you read this brian minimal neck pain if you let them sit on your face
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gorlock will volunteer or dang it i'll get it i'll get it
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gorlock will volunteer for you to test this violet will go violet got chewbacca gina credit to brian
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for making through the pod with the bs doubles doubles and animal fries on me got
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not a fast get nick a mic too i'm out yo lp thank you so much for your patronage man much
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appreciated thank you to everybody else uh for your patronage tonight really appreciate it um
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it means the world it's been uh okay um i'll i'll do a little debrief before i wrap up the show
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go ahead yasmine read it you will be the empress of all greece with her army
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thermopoly what you're let me ask you um what what are your what's your thoughts on like the whole hot
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gates campaign what's hot like thermopoly like what are your thoughts on thermopoly what's that 300
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this girl um i think it was hold on let me let me google this thermopoly was it the more
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the battle of thermopoly what are your thoughts on that i will give you a hundred dollars if you guess
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within a century of when that war occurred 300 bc i'm sorry 480 bc you're close
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do you have thoughts on the battle of thermopyla am i even pronouncing right is it thermopylai
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thermopylai thermopylai is it thermopylai persipolis what persipolis huh i don't know
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i love the movie 300 and it's a great movie troy so good um they all are just very okay sexy
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good times okay um i feel like something came to me and then i forgot oh man wait uh
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so can i hook you up with that dude though are you down he's persian depends he's persian
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look maybe okay all right i don't know is that that looks like a 3d i don't know that doesn't look
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like him okay oh yeah i was gonna do a quick debrief um okay guys so uh yeah it was an interesting
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show um we had 10 girls flake we had four no shows or four wait um it's getting i know in
05:15:58.580
previous episodes i did say hey we're gonna like try to reduce bringing on only fans girls but
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it's hard because on one hand we've had really flaky only fans girls but
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in some regards some of them are have more incentive to come be on the show
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so we de-prioritized for a little bit bringing on only fans girls
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so in any case we had 10 flakes today before i even set before the show starts i've already
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done the full work day um i'm last minute messaging people hey do you have anybody else
05:16:40.420
who can come i'm trying to get replacements uh madison and nick went to the mean streets of
05:16:46.820
viola vista to try to find replacements that didn't pan out i got girls walking off the show she the
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this girl walked off the show um i'm not gonna lie like this show is
05:17:03.780
i need to i probably need to find somebody else to do the talent recruitment because it's like
05:17:08.020
like literally sucking the soul out of me i'm getting very agitated very easily i used to have
05:17:13.540
a pretty good poker face but now i just lose it very quickly um the show some of you have no noted
05:17:20.500
this like it's literally i'm not like trying to be like woe is me the show is literally sucking
05:17:25.620
the fucking life out of me i'm not gonna lie this is not i'm like
05:17:30.500
honestly if it was just the show but like honestly
05:17:37.220
dealing with all the people flaking and being late like to me it's such a disrespect thing
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because i'm a very punctual person if i say i'm gonna be somewhere i'm gonna be somewhere i'd
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like stick to my plans i'm i believe commitment's very important and like for people to just straight
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up no show so what i'm saying is they don't even they will just
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they won't even tell you they're oh sorry they don't even have the courtesy to take 10 seconds to
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say even an hour before which i still think is rude sorry i can't make it uh to me as somebody who
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maybe i'm kind of old school like i don't bail on plans if i say i'm gonna be somewhere i'm gonna be
05:18:20.820
there um sometimes i start the show late out of necessity like i'm a very punctual person but i
05:18:28.740
end up running late to the studio because i'm spending two or three hours before the show
05:18:33.860
trying to coordinate with 10 different people to try to get the show to happen i'm
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i'm scrambling before the show the talent coordination is probably the biggest burn on me
05:18:48.020
when it comes to this if i had somebody else handling it i'd probably it'd be much better for me
05:18:53.300
uh and there's just like a lot of shit with the show that's frustrating
05:19:01.060
and uh and then i'm just like dealing with like annoying shit like i don't know i told you from
05:19:06.100
a couple shows ago there's a girl that's in another country who's literally stalking and harassing me
05:19:11.620
so dude just like i had a i had to call the police yesterday and then today before the show like the
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this is the i was on the phone for 30 minutes with the cops today before i should be focusing
05:19:27.300
on working on the show so uh viewers i uh if i'm a little uh quick with the i don't know what's the term
05:19:35.940
um my fuse is short uh it's like brothers i'm working 80 hours a week on the show i'm dealing
05:19:42.740
with a bunch of bullshit behind the scenes i'm dealing with like very unreliable disrespectful
05:19:48.580
people when it comes to dealing with the show these people whether they're only fans girls whether
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they're college girls whether they're working professionals have absolutely no respect for your
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time for like just even having the courtesy to take 10 seconds to just say even the hour before
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just tell us you're not going to make it on the show don't commit don't like don't commit to the
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anyways whatever um it's just it's frustrating guys um and uh and it's it's not just frustrating for me
05:20:20.260
because like we have people who i don't know if tonight we had many people um we have people that
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will drive hours to be here we have people that will fly to be here people from the east coast
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will fly five hours they'll book a hotel they'll book a flight spend hundreds if not thousands of
05:20:37.700
dollars to come be on the show and so it doesn't i'm not just looking at this from a purely selfish
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point of view i feel disrespected on behalf of the people that spend time and money to come be on the
05:20:51.540
show and these people who live in town or who they're coming from la whatever don't have the
05:20:58.100
courtesy to give us 24 hours notice or don't even have the courtesy to at least an hour before which
05:21:04.020
again i still think is rude to cancel that last minute to just say we can't make it because it's
05:21:09.780
whatever you want to disrespect me you want to troll me fine but like we have other people who are
05:21:14.260
innocent in this whole thing who come out who go out of their way to come be on the show
05:21:20.900
and if one day it's plausible that we just get a bunch of flakes and we can't like we don't have
05:21:27.620
a show we had that once where we had a we basically canceled the show and we had somebody who drew drove
05:21:36.020
here for three hours it's not just fucking us over you might have your opinions on the whatever podcast
05:21:41.220
but it pisses me off on behalf of the other people who are pure totally innocent and because of your
05:21:47.700
inconsideration your unreliability and your flakiness that you're potentially fucking them
05:21:54.580
over financially i'm more i get more upset about that than whatever you're just flaking on us who
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cares but i mean it's still upsetting but i'm trying to think about these other people so all right we
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have brandon hunter make guests pay a deposit to be on the show give it back if they show up we love
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violet bring her back yeah i'd be down i'm violet was great be happy to have her back um i don't
05:22:16.020
know if she'll be back after i've kind of roasted her a little bit but uh oh i don't think i was
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actually going to if you invited me oh super down do you want to come on tuesday maybe yeah i think we
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might fingers crossed i super overbooked on tuesday 15 people i booked on tuesday chances are we're
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probably gonna get some flakes so if you want we can have you be second to hat girl if you're down
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let me know tomorrow night if you no just do you want to you want to just come on tuesday
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okay do you have a hotel or you're well i booked a place in palm springs because i was going to go
05:22:49.460
out there tonight after this okay so it's booked tonight until is it airbnb or yeah it's until when
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until friday okay so you would just drive back out here and just come back yeah if you're down i'm down
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to have you okay i'll let you um and then brandon make guests pay a deposit to be on the show get the
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back well here's the problem so um for a period of two weeks i attempted to implement this guest
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deposit thing um my issue is is that i do think here's the issue with the deposit i can only request
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a deposit for women who request to be on the show we do outreach too where we invite people to be on the
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show there's no way i'm gonna invite someone to be on the show like be the first to reach out
05:23:36.580
and say pay us a deposit not gonna work so it can only that only addresses people who reach out to us
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we did it for two weeks my concern though with the deposit is that i believe that women who would
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otherwise show up it's just one extra step that they don't want to take and it will turn away
05:24:00.340
and again this would be a refundable deposit we made it a hundred dollars 100 you get paid
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immediately back you just show up you go if you're on the show we'll pay you back
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i do think it will minimize to some degree some of the women that would otherwise show up they just
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like i don't know what if he doesn't give it back some shit like that you know so it's a balancing act
05:24:26.980
so i'm thinking i'm probably i implemented it but i unimplemented it uh like a day or two ago so i
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don't know um what's it called i don't remember um it's a good no i've thought about i've definitely
05:24:41.300
thought about it but i just uh yeah i don't know okay uh whoops let me pull do this last chat and then
05:24:49.940
we're gonna wrap oh shit violet can you read this one important question for the panel if your partner's
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her leg would you cut up a cucumber for him is that a trick question no i had a girlfriend who
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like i was injured and i asked her to like make cut cucumbers for me and she got butt hurt
05:25:12.020
about it i don't get it don't get what why do you make cucumbers or why do you cut cucumbers for the
05:25:19.540
injured leg no not i just wanted like a snack oh i thought you were putting the cucumbers on your
05:25:25.460
leg no no okay that's cute of course yes i'll make a little cucumber sandwiches and those are so fun
05:25:43.620
oh yeah that was to the girls all right oh my god we'll feast all right we got a wrap we've gone too
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late um all right oh oh no what's his name stopped um
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um the uh stay safe went off okay we're gonna raid if you're on twitch i'm gonna raid frost adamus
05:26:01.780
um he's playing hardcore on world of warcraft classic i don't know is he playing a mage
05:26:08.900
is he a major or war i think he's playing a warlock
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um okay i'm gonna send you guys over to frost now um those of you here i'll do my little intro really
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quick um so guys last call hit the like button please on your way out thank you for tuning in
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tonight you can anywhere in the world but you're here with me i appreciate that
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thank you to everyone who super chats donate supports the show uh really appreciate it guys
05:26:30.260
sorry i'm a little tired um thank you to the panel and uh any women who want to be on the show dm
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out whatever on instagram we will be live again tuesday at 5 p.m pacific hopefully with a proper panel
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um maybe violet will be back we'll see and uh i'm gonna go send the raid over on twitch
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and uh let's see uh are we good are we good on all the chats i think yeah we're good okay
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wait did we get another one no okay all right guys um yeah we'll see you tuesday 5 p.m pacific
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uh see you next time good night guys good night good night oh sevens in the oh too late okay you can