Ali Dawah - April 28, 2021


MAN CAUGHT SEXUALLY HARASSING 3 HIJABIS - INTERVIEW REACTION


Episode Stats

Length

30 minutes

Words per Minute

209.60399

Word Count

6,415

Sentence Count

3

Misogynist Sentences

32

Hate Speech Sentences

23


Summary

In this episode, we react to the story of three sisters who were sexually harassed by Muslim men on their way home from a halal halal food place in London, and how they managed to escape the situation.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 guys before the video starts i'm trying to raise 300 000 meals for 1 000 families in pakistan
00:00:04.960 yemen somalia bangladesh brothers and sisters inshallah help us feed them this ramadan to open
00:00:09.200 and break their fast who recorded this then was it you or the other system maybe 30 seconds into
00:00:14.320 them talking so they approached us and they kept saying halal um we want to try halal so we
00:00:20.640 obviously assumed they meant we want to go to a halal food place you're harassing me you're harassing
00:00:26.720 me to a point where he was like i want to sleep with you why won't you like let me sleep with you
00:00:32.400 and i was like go put a headscarf on your mom and then sleep with how i feel that you said that you
00:00:36.640 feel when muslim men come and say to you oh mashallah this that you feel rubbish about yourself and you're
00:00:41.200 like oh am i doing something wrong oh is it the way i was dressed oh is it this why do you have to feel
00:00:47.120 like that how can we have so many devices with so many apps which help us monitor our progress for
00:00:54.720 our body but none for the soul not only does it encourage you to read it tells you how many
00:00:58.880 verses you've read how many pages you read how long you've been on it and best of all the hasana
00:01:03.040 counter download the qurani app now and have a ramadan with allah's book like you've never had
00:01:08.240 before assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi barakatuh brothers and sisters and dear friends welcome back
00:01:13.040 to my channel uh today we've got um an interesting video we're going to react to and we're going to be
00:01:17.600 actually reacting it with the three sisters who actually were sexually harassed this is an ongoing
00:01:24.240 problem i've actually tackled this issue i would say a couple of weeks ago where i was driving past
00:01:29.120 um barking but i'll get into that inshallah in a minute uh first i want to invite the sisters
00:01:33.680 inshallah assalamu alaykum sisters how are you guys doing you okay it's real okay
00:01:40.720 alhamdulillah how's ramadan going it's okay alhamdulillah that's good that's good okay sister so what i want
00:01:49.200 you guys to do inshallah is obviously you're gonna there's three of you guys there no um there's
00:01:54.000 two of us my little sister wasn't feeling too well she came back from okay she couldn't come
00:01:58.880 that's fine no problem so there's two of you guys there uh but your sister was there but she's not
00:02:02.160 feeling well okay so what video okay no problem that's fine so what you guys to do as well uh do
00:02:08.400 is inshallah if you can run me through the day like for example um what was your plan on doing um
00:02:16.720 what was your plan on doing and building up to the point of what actually happened
00:02:23.840 um so initially we had a plan to meet up just to go out and get drinks uh so with ramadan coming up we
00:02:31.920 thought it's better let's meet now because it's going to be harder later so it was just literally an
00:02:36.720 innocent plan just to go and get drinks um and maybe just go for a walk which is what we did
00:02:42.400 and uh we parked up near marble lodge and from there we um went for a little walk and then we
00:02:49.680 decided that let's take some food home um just just a takeaway just something we can all go home and eat
00:02:56.000 because we didn't um really have that plan so it was kind of spontaneous so the plan was just
00:03:01.200 drinks but then we decided to get food later before we went home um so we went for a walk through
00:03:06.640 um uh through bond street and towards oxford street and we saw some other sisters um
00:03:15.440 along the way as well they looked like uni students but they were hijabis yeah okay
00:03:21.120 so we saw them and uh we asked them if they knew if there was any nice um or anything place like food
00:03:27.920 place especially halal for us to eat um or like to take away home and they advised us to go around the
00:03:34.160 side towards regent street uh where um carnaby is it i think it's carnaby street towards that way um
00:03:41.920 so they told us if you go that way there's a lot of halal places over there uh which you can eat so we
00:03:47.360 because at this point we were thinking let's just leave it and go home but then because they said it's
00:03:50.480 just around the corner we thought let's give it a go and they mentioned burglary and a few other places
00:03:54.960 so we started walking that way um and whilst we're walking just on the corner between oxford street and
00:04:01.680 regent street as we got there um there were two men that started approaching us one of them was
00:04:07.520 really really tall we didn't manage to get catch him on the camera um he could have been anywhere
00:04:12.000 between six and a half to even pushing seven i would say and he had long black hair and it was just open
00:04:18.000 his eyes were rolling back but we realized there was something wrong with them just maybe 30 seconds
00:04:23.840 into them talking so they approached us and they kept saying halal um we want to try halal so we
00:04:30.480 obviously assumed they meant we want to go to a halal food place so we responded saying well we're not
00:04:36.560 we're not 100 sure um maybe if you go that way towards where they sorry i was on mute i was sorry i was
00:04:42.560 thinking why yeah um were they muslims no no no one of them was uh he looked black and the other one
00:04:49.520 looked asian like chinese and mixed so um both of them approached us and they were talking about halal
00:04:56.960 and obviously like we wanted to go and get halal food so we thought they wanted to get halal food as
00:05:01.200 well so we're like we're not from here but you can try um tinsel town and then um so we left at that
00:05:07.280 but then they carried on like following us and then we thought what the hell like they we could smell
00:05:12.480 that they weren't um it's like as if they want drugs yeah they really like stunk and so we like
00:05:21.280 tried to keep our distance and we were like just try like try going there and don't follow us like
00:05:26.960 but they kept following us so we tried to like leave that place and we were walking really fast like
00:05:33.440 they could tell that we were we were scared comments as well so you guys so she they came and said we want
00:05:40.880 to try halal and obviously you guys four obviously they're talking about food yeah but but then they
00:05:46.320 proceeded to say oh no like they were making um hand gestures of headscarf and they're like no no like
00:05:52.640 i want to try halal and then they were pointing at me and at that point obviously like where i come from
00:05:58.480 like being an afran women are very um strong-headed and like vocal about um how they're treated so i i
00:06:06.960 couldn't take that i was like how the hell is he thinking like that about me and as i tried to
00:06:11.440 like turn back around and i was trying to like say how dare you say that my little sister obviously she
00:06:17.440 was scared and you can tell from my voice i was so scared i was so so scared because of the things
00:06:23.760 that are happening um around us and obviously like you think that nothing like that can happen to you but
00:06:30.320 when you're in that moment all those thoughts come back flooding and my little sister trying to um
00:06:36.000 pull me away and she was like let's let's go let's go and um we were trying to like go and then we
00:06:42.800 changed our route yeah we changed our route we went really fast so like we can kind of lose them
00:06:48.960 and my friend said that oh let's go with that couple they looked um i think they looked arab so we were
00:06:55.760 like okay if we go with them they won't if because we wanted to go back and forget about work forget
00:07:00.960 about the food we just wanted to get to our car and um so basically they ruined your whole day yeah
00:07:06.880 they ruined your whole experience basically yeah you guys just wanted to go just chill with the sisters
00:07:11.440 go eat um and this this and this is you know we live in the west where you know some people would
00:07:19.440 be looking at this and be like oh it wasn't that deep in that context you know they didn't touch you
00:07:23.840 that but if you think about it's actually it's very disturbing you know because at the end of the
00:07:28.000 day why would you have to feel as if though you know threaten or even if not threatened why should
00:07:34.880 anyone have a damn right to approach you guys in any way shape or form you know exactly and there
00:07:42.240 were people that said why were you out at that time well it's it's it's a society for both men and
00:07:48.880 women like we can we shouldn't be able to we should be able to go out and not be questioned why were
00:07:55.760 you like you know how yeah you know how people question all the way she was dressed we were just
00:08:02.560 completely like we were covered from hip to toe but for them to like have the audacity to say that
00:08:08.080 it's just disgusting to think that someone would justify things like that and it made us it made us
00:08:13.920 rethink they they call this a civilized society those people the way they were acting and the way
00:08:19.680 later the police how they were um so calm about not calm but so casual about it and the police lady
00:08:27.040 goes to me oh i have been um harassed as well and i was like well this is my um authority and if they're
00:08:33.520 like okay with it who do i turn to who do i go to okay should we do this yeah let's let's watch the 90
00:08:39.440 second video and then we're going to elaborate a bit more yeah so this is where so what happened
00:08:43.520 is so he you guys didn't record it and then who recorded this then was it you or the other sister
00:08:48.400 it was me um so what happens is because this is probably the fourth or fifth time that he was
00:08:53.280 now approaching us and following us i decided because the thing is it was my phone battery was
00:08:58.720 around two percent so i would have called the police there and then but now i was worried if i call
00:09:02.560 them and my phone dies then i've got nothing so i thought let me just make a video like a clip of
00:09:07.440 what he's doing so i managed this is the clip that i managed to get okay so let's play this and let's
00:09:12.400 see what was happened do you really want me to tell the police no why do you want to talk to me
00:09:20.080 okay i said no i said no you're harassing me you're harassing me why are you laughing how am i laughing
00:09:28.080 you're harassing me what do you think when we get out i can i can sense like the kind of trauma in your
00:09:38.000 uh voice like um i think would i be right we'd be right if i said that you didn't like looking back
00:09:46.640 you're like wow did i actually say that do you feel like that i didn't show like i was so deep deep
00:09:52.640 inside i was so scared i was shaking but i didn't want to show him that like i didn't want to be weak
00:09:57.600 in that moment but as soon as he as soon as we got into the train i broke down both my sister and my
00:10:04.240 friend they were they were obviously scared as well but because i confronted him so close to me he was
00:10:10.080 very close to me as you can see in the video and i was so scared because you know how um acid attacks
00:10:16.640 have been happening and he had a backpack on him i was so terrified and in that moment all those
00:10:23.760 thoughts come to you even more so obviously i wasn't trying to show it but i was so scared and
00:10:29.760 when the police came like my eyes were so red even though they came like after an hour i was still in
00:10:35.600 that state of utter it was disgust and it was everything that was not like i couldn't express it to
00:10:43.920 them and the police lady kept asking me tell me in detail all the things he said and i couldn't
00:10:50.480 begin to like tell him i i was i was just and i was so shocked that i couldn't um repeat what he had
00:10:57.600 said and obviously my friend and my sister were there and they had heard all those things that he
00:11:02.320 had said and to a point where he was like i want to sleep with you why won't you like let me sleep
00:11:07.520 with you and i was like go put a headscarf on your mom and then sleep with her if you're that
00:11:11.440 desperate and obviously they they thought that was funny and i wasn't trying to be funny i was
00:11:15.920 just so scared i was genuinely so scared yeah because they kept saying that oh we want to know
00:11:21.520 what's under all that clothing we want to know what's under the headscarf and that's what we want
00:11:25.840 to try because we've never had it before that's and that's i mean and some of the stuff i can't even
00:11:30.960 begin to repeat yeah the way they were speaking they had smacks on their faces and it felt like they
00:11:37.200 were scanning me through my clothes you know like it felt like they could almost imagine me naked and
00:11:44.000 i hated that i hated i wanted to be like i wanted to be our home at that point and you know the thing
00:11:49.680 you touched upon something you said that some people would be like oh why are you guys out at night or
00:11:53.520 some people say you didn't have the correct hijab to be honest islamically you can't really like say
00:12:00.400 that okay you know why are you out it's it's you can't say oh it's it's your fault or etc you know because
00:12:06.160 at the end of the day you know it's a public place and it's not like you're going to a specific
00:12:11.280 area where there's drunk men etc you know we know how it can be but the thing is we're not
00:12:16.640 talking about a very specific area where there's just drunk men and all they do is just harass women
00:12:21.280 and you walk on that like you came trying to say so i don't exactly exactly yeah don't feel like oh it's
00:12:28.240 my fault and secondly for example uh you mentioned that you were dressed correctly yeah the thing is
00:12:34.000 islamically you know this is really important because sometimes people have this concept or
00:12:37.840 think that you know because islam tells a woman to dress in a modest way and a man as well uh but
00:12:44.560 women is very distinct so for example you have to wear the hijab and a buy etc yeah and you know still
00:12:49.680 in today's time some sisters you know with the hijab etc they might wear tight clothes or there might
00:12:53.920 be sisters who don't wear the hijab or there might even be women who wear there might be muslim
00:12:57.760 women that dress up outright inappropriately the thing is with a with a quran allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:13:03.360 tells the believing men to lower their gaze first now what that means is is that as a muslim man myself
00:13:10.800 how you're dressed like you're dressed because allah tells you to yeah um and you're trying to
00:13:15.600 please him you know um because there's a whole misconception about you know i choose to wear like
00:13:19.600 this not really like as muslim women and muslim men we don't choose like i don't choose to dress up
00:13:25.120 modestly i'm told to dress up modestly because allah wants me to do you know what i'm trying to
00:13:28.320 say and i believe it liberates me you know and there are people that come and say oh i choose to
00:13:33.920 dress up in a menisker and i'm like not really you've got societal pressures that's why there's
00:13:37.520 this whole book i don't know if you've read this book sisters i highly recommend it it's called beauty
00:13:40.480 sick um so in this one specifically it talks about how women are sexualized to such a level that
00:13:47.600 they are actually starving themselves so you know it's ramadan and we're fasting yeah there are
00:13:51.280 those that are fasting and when i mean fasting they're starving themselves to have the perfect
00:13:55.280 body so if you think about it they're actually starving themselves to have a perfect body most
00:13:59.600 of them are not happy with their body um and there's if you read this book it goes to in great
00:14:04.000 detail with studies um that show that and the thing is it's and the point i'm coming to is that regardless
00:14:10.000 as a muslim man myself or muslim men in general this concept of oh but she was asking for it or oh she was
00:14:17.280 like this or she was look look as a muslim man i don't care if there's a woman walking naked i have
00:14:24.000 no right number one to look at her look at her let alone speak to her let alone to touch her or let
00:14:30.640 alone anything so because allah tells us tell the believing men and the big woman of course but it
00:14:35.920 makes the believing man to lower their gaze so of course allah for me the criteria is i have to lower
00:14:42.480 my gaze and have utmost respect for any woman and see them as my sister that has to be the default
00:14:48.080 position do you get what i'm trying to say and so you should not ever feel that yes allah has ordered
00:14:53.200 the woman to wear the hijab etc because the biggest greatest weakness for a man is a woman however that
00:15:00.000 doesn't mean that just because i have a weakness for example like the opposite gender well you go back
00:15:04.800 the right way you get married you know nobody's saying you know stay single forever you can get married
00:15:09.600 so i don't want you guys i wanted to debunk those two misconceptions of you know it was out it wasn't
00:15:13.840 as if you guys were out at 1 a.m or 2 a.m and you know in a nightclub place you know you was there
00:15:18.800 to break your iftar it got dark etc okay you're going to eat number two you shouldn't feel guilty for
00:15:23.280 that number two uh the way you address even sisters well like even if you came to me and said brother
00:15:27.680 ali we don't wear the hijab or yes maybe i was wearing a bit of a tight clothing i would say sister
00:15:32.880 this incident is irrelevant i would just say sister try to get close to allah by wearing the hijab
00:15:36.720 i would not say oh sister i see if you wore the hijab this what i'm just trying to say is these men
00:15:41.840 are doing this because at the end of the day you know what it is and what it shows me is that for
00:15:45.520 them to say this and you know it's it's it's popularized in the context where because a lot of
00:15:50.640 girls in today's age sadly because they're systematically sexually objectified i've done a
00:15:56.160 video like a couple of weeks ago where i was driving past barking and there's banners then you
00:16:01.440 just you know sometimes you just tend to look at banners banners just come and go there was different
00:16:04.480 different banners and one of them popped up of a blonde girl and she's they're marketing a metal
00:16:10.640 metal company it's a metal company it's got nothing to do with it she's a blonde girl and she's got
00:16:15.120 chili in her mouth and she's like red hot deals or something like that and i found that and i was
00:16:21.360 like wow this is the reason why women are so this you know degraded because the more you're making a
00:16:28.480 woman like because the the perception is as men look we we we have a weakness towards opposite
00:16:33.760 gender yes but when they're sexually degraded objectified systematically on tv in the books in
00:16:40.320 the magazines on social media on banners and wherever it may be what men are registering in
00:16:47.280 their head and there was a study done a couple of years ago where they showed men um women in bikini
00:16:52.800 and they were they had obviously things in their head um to um see what part of the brain lights up
00:16:59.200 and i don't know if you guys heard this but the part that lit up in the brain was the same part is that
00:17:03.840 is useful tool you know like screwdriver or i don't know it might be scissors or so he actually didn't see
00:17:10.000 her as a human being so the thing is that's crazy that means that these men or these men like this
00:17:17.200 are walking around and they don't even see you as human you're in their brain because they watch
00:17:24.720 pornography and and and it's clear what the industry is about they don't even see you as a
00:17:32.320 co-human being all they see you is a sexual object so much so that this vile disgusting man is saying
00:17:39.520 oh i want to see what's under hijab because they're bored of the oh all the girls show their body what's
00:17:44.560 different muslim girls they cover up that's interesting that's challenging because the
00:17:49.600 challenge has not been left in the context where you know um this girls are just dressing up how
00:17:54.640 they want like you know it's half naked whatever it may be and it still doesn't justify for people
00:17:58.880 to harass them but what i'm trying to say is they see that as a sign of maybe she's interested
00:18:03.920 do you get what i'm trying to say and cat calling they were done you know after this girl who got um
00:18:08.800 killed and murdered you know by a police officer do you know that
00:18:12.000 did you hear about it yeah yeah so you know um yeah like it's it just shows you and there was a study
00:18:18.160 that there was a uh uh research done where they found that nearly where they corrected it was 91 or 93
00:18:25.920 percent of women admitted that they were sexually harassed obviously they said the correct numbers
00:18:30.240 were 80 87 or 80 percent yeah i'd like to add to that everyone's so busy that they just don't um
00:18:38.720 don't report it and we didn't want to let it go because there were so many young girls from university
00:18:44.000 as you said uh going back and forth on those streets and they said that there's no cameras so for them
00:18:49.520 we wanted to report as well what do you what do you know what do you think is the reason why like
00:18:56.880 you want to add on like why do you think men are behaving like this what do you think the causes
00:19:03.120 um what the the one that's approaching me or the men in general like the stuff that i mentioned like
00:19:10.320 you can agree with that or if there's anything you want to add on obviously because they don't uh you
00:19:14.480 know how jihad with nafs is held so so upheld in islam and even our muslim brothers they in today's
00:19:22.240 society they've forgotten that the striving and struggling from within it starts from within
00:19:29.600 but obviously everything that's um being fed to them and how they're exposed to everything
00:19:36.560 and women being objectified and they only look at their moms and their sisters with a respectful
00:19:41.200 um view so so the fact that they um they didn't step up i think it's because maybe they thought that
00:19:50.320 it wasn't our business and she's not my mom she's not my sister so it's none of my business so they
00:19:55.440 just carried on was there muslim men all of them yeah most of them are arab yeah um young girls guys um
00:20:06.880 it was a mixture um of people families were walking past but no one literally said a word
00:20:13.040 um and in relation to what you were saying um like what for example what you saw embarking and the
00:20:18.560 picture that you saw um is i think yeah you're right because the thing is even little things like this
00:20:23.920 these they're degrading women and then you'll have men like like these ones that approached us who think
00:20:30.160 it's okay or this is how you're supposed to treat women or this is how you should be talking to women
00:20:34.880 um i don't think they think it's okay but i think they think they can get away with it because most
00:20:40.400 time they can yeah yeah exactly you know um yeah well it's it's what message would you give to muslim
00:20:49.360 men that are listening to this you know like because sadly a lot of muslims as well you know men as well
00:20:54.640 sadly you know they they should know much better you know when it comes to these things and you know
00:20:59.600 there is like if like you know i discussed this in my marriage documentary you know i know it's a bit
00:21:05.040 late five years late six years late but uh the thing is it's sisters is that you know i i had like
00:21:12.720 moments when i was like looking to get married as well for example i do ask like i have a specific
00:21:16.240 moment with mufti men and i say okay if i was to see a sister in public let's say i've just or just came
00:21:21.520 to see about you know there is an islamic etiquette of approaching someone you know what we're seeing is
00:21:27.280 like if somebody was interested in a sister there is obviously it's better you know if you have your
00:21:31.840 sister to get your sister approached but you know in these instances these things do happen you know
00:21:35.600 let's be real it does happen there is an etiquette you know there is a way you can approach somebody
00:21:40.000 in a respectful way and look sister you know i'm not coming with the intention that if i'm in like
00:21:45.200 can i speak to your father there is an added to things how it can be done and i know there's a pros and
00:21:50.400 cons to that you know because i didn't they is a total stranger you know and the times that we live
00:21:56.160 in uh of course there's a lot of cons as well and there's pros as well and as long as it's done in
00:22:00.960 islamic according in a nice way where the person's intention is not that and he wants to speak to your
00:22:05.680 father that's the whole discussion in itself but what message would you give to muslim men who are
00:22:11.440 just outright disrespectful of you know even saying assalamu alaikum in a flirtatious way or like oh
00:22:16.480 mashallah what message would you give them because i've got a message to give them but coming from you
00:22:20.960 guys what would you say to them because they're going to be listening to this yeah i i think they think it's
00:22:25.440 it's a joke or it's not that deep but for us girls it makes us think how we how how we are like it
00:22:32.400 makes us doubt and question the way we um present ourselves and the way we carry ourselves when most
00:22:39.040 times it's not even our fault but um what you said about getting married and being young i think because
00:22:45.840 society puts so much pressure on young men that they have to attain a certain lifestyle have a job have a
00:22:53.040 house it's not easy most of the times but obviously allah says that um it all comes with um it's all
00:23:01.760 gonna come to you so if you wait on it how long are you gonna wait how how many years how many years
00:23:08.800 till you know that you're financially stable obviously it's a good attitude to have to have goals to have
00:23:13.840 um something to want but um it's not realistic and obviously um how um i was gonna say um that it's
00:23:25.360 easier for them to have girlfriends it's so much easier let's be realistic even in today's day
00:23:31.760 and it's so much harder to approach the parents and like speak to them and then get the whole
00:23:36.560 um marriage started but that's the thing you know they want an easy way out yeah but the thing is
00:23:43.920 this is you see that's the reason why this is one of the biggest problems that we have in relation to
00:23:47.680 the question that you asked um just one more thing that i'd like to add to that is would like to say to
00:23:52.640 these especially muslim men is that you'll always see that they will be the same men that will be really
00:23:58.240 protective of their own sisters yeah but they think it's okay to um you know make derogatory comments
00:24:06.160 towards other um other muslim women well as long as okay that's not my sister it's okay for me to
00:24:12.080 talk to her like that but oh but if it is my sister then that's a problem yeah um it so my message to
00:24:17.040 them would be to have the same approach to other muslim women that you would have with your own sister as
00:24:21.280 well exactly you know one thing they don't realize is that and this is it's it's it's corruption in the
00:24:27.280 land because if you think about it well the i the thinking process is very stupid as well because
00:24:32.160 it's like you will go and do that to somebody else's sister or daughter or mom or whoever may be
00:24:39.840 but what you don't realize only one second what you don't realize is that what if there is
00:24:48.080 if there are 100 men like you that is being done to another another person's sister and mother
00:24:54.560 and if there's a thousand men like you or a hundred thousand men like you your own mom and your own
00:25:00.240 wife and your own sister is going to be prone to someone like you so what they don't know is it's a
00:25:05.920 that what they're doing you know you know it's going to come back to them because if men all behave
00:25:11.680 like them then it's going to be it's going to happen to your mom your sister and i think one of the
00:25:16.560 reasons and i was talking about the big con of um you know dating you know if you think about it
00:25:21.840 it's popularized like you don't get to know each other day it's the biggest one for females because
00:25:27.200 you're you're going to be in a relationship there's no commitment when i'm in commitment
00:25:30.880 like you perceive as commitment yeah okay there's no marriage it doesn't speak to your family yeah
00:25:36.560 um can manipulate you yeah and i know there are women that manipulate men as well um useful sexual
00:25:41.440 desires yeah if you think about it the guy's got no down responsibility like if you think about it i'm
00:25:47.360 thinking no down like there's no i understand not understand but if you think about why would
00:25:54.800 he get married you don't need to pay for a wedding don't need to pay for maher don't need to see your
00:25:59.600 brother or your dad because they might you know see right through me i get what i want it's a win-win
00:26:05.760 situation so that's the reason why that's the reason why men muslim men as well they're going down
00:26:12.640 that route if every muslim let's say sister or whoever may be if we if our sisters know their
00:26:19.760 self-worth and i always say that you know i always say you know you guys are worth more than being a
00:26:23.520 girlfriend if every because if you think about if every woman said no you have to marry me men have no
00:26:29.600 choice but to marry but because that's not happening and those options are there they're thinking forget
00:26:35.680 that marriage meet family that's long so i think that's one of the reasons and that's why you can see
00:26:41.360 the corruption in society how it has a domino effect across board to everyone i'm sorry that
00:26:46.480 you guys have to go through that and may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect you guys inshallah
00:26:50.080 um and yeah i really you know appreciate you guys taking uh coming here inshallah because it's
00:26:55.680 important you know with these kind of stuff um i like to have sisters have their say on the matter
00:27:00.560 because you know how you felt i don't know i can do a reaction video and just talk and just oh this
00:27:05.120 is wrong etc but to hear firsthand from you guys and how you felt and even hearing your voice there
00:27:10.240 where you know it seemed like you was really scared you know i just want people that's watching
00:27:14.240 this at home especially our muslim brothers as well you know to really understand and know
00:27:18.960 that you know respecting a woman is not based on how she dresses um or she's on it or she's on it
00:27:26.160 who cares oh she's she's moving like a you know i'm not going to mention the word whatever it may be
00:27:30.960 or she's this they even made a term like something jobby yeah i'm not even going to mention it yeah so
00:27:35.920 it's these these are not valid reasons for you to be like oh she wants to uh she doesn't mind
00:27:41.680 having intimacy um so i'll treat her like that that is that's absolutely disgusting as a believer
00:27:46.800 as a man yourself i don't care if that woman's whatever she says oh she's on it she wants to
00:27:52.320 whatever yeah you need to feel a lot you know because it only defines you your actions define
00:27:58.400 you it doesn't matter what she's doing yeah and so much so that you got you what you said one of the
00:28:02.720 the things and i'll end on this is that you said that you feel when muslim men come and say to you
00:28:06.560 oh mashallah this that you feel rubbish about yourself and you're like oh am i doing something
00:28:11.520 wrong oh is it the way i was dressed oh is it this why do you have to feel like that why do you have
00:28:16.640 to feel as if it's you why is it you why is it not them so the fact that you feel like that is
00:28:21.600 problematic he should feel ashamed he should be thinking i made a feel like that not oh like we
00:28:27.040 shouldn't have this perception of you know and once again there has to be a balance as well you get
00:28:31.360 what i'm trying to say because at the end of the day you know there was a comedian that i was watching
00:28:34.640 and this comes from you know dave chapelle yeah okay so basically i i used to watch some of his
00:28:40.480 stuff before yeah but he says something um interesting and i want to give it context where
00:28:45.920 he would say for example some girls say for example just because i'm dressed up in a miniskirt or
00:28:52.160 really revealing everything um it doesn't mean that i'm a prostitute now he gives an analogy he says it's
00:28:59.920 like it's like my house is on fire and i see someone walking down the road and they are dressed
00:29:07.840 up in a fire man's outfit or oh no he says police officer he says imagine somebody's robbing me on
00:29:13.040 gunpoint and i see somebody walking past and he's got a police uniform on so i go officer officer can
00:29:17.440 you help me i'm being robbed and the man turns around it's a bit funny he goes excuse me just because
00:29:21.920 i'm dressed up as a police officer doesn't mean i'm a police officer the point he's trying to make here
00:29:27.200 is that if women are dressed up in a certain way yeah in in a certain way sadly you're going to
00:29:34.640 attract bad attention sadly you know and i'm not saying that's across board because we saw that
00:29:40.480 even though you guys were dressed up correctly you still had idiots what we're trying to see is that
00:29:45.200 what islam does is it says prevention is better than cure so islam just goes to the root of the
00:29:51.200 problem and deals with both the man's side of it by educating them and tend to feel low in the gate
00:29:57.680 and also for the woman to dress up in an appropriate manner and i think i'll just end on that um and
00:30:02.960 may allah bless you guys and thank you for being on here um till next time brothers and sisters hope
00:30:07.600 you guys enjoyed that video inshallah if there's any comments you would like to make inshallah in the
00:30:11.520 comment section and share this with your friends and family especially men in your family inshallah
00:30:15.760 and i'm not well be careful when sharing i don't want them to feel like you're indirect with them
00:30:19.440 just share it with the family yeah just share it share it across board and let people benefit inshallah
00:30:23.840 and that's it may allah bless you guys and enjoy ramadan and don't forget guys i'm trying to feed
00:30:27.680 300 000 uh well i'm trying to raise 300 000 meals there's a link at the bottom inshallah please give to
00:30:33.040 that next time assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh