Weird Data： Same Sex Attracted Men Not Gay？
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about a new show called My Husband's Not Gay about same-sex attracted men (SSA) and why progressives are losing their mind over it. We also talk about the Mormon church's stance on SSA and why it's a bad thing.
Transcript
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yes you can be same-sex attracted and not gay no and it's not even like a weird cope thing
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it's just by the statistics it doesn't make sense to categorize everyone who's same-sex attracted
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as gay because it sort of becomes arbitrary and you'll see this in the statistics for example
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while the 30 percent of males and females we surveys who found the feminine form arousing
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also found the site of a vagina a turnoff not a single survey participant who found the male
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form arousing were simultaneously turned off by penises however 26 percent of men who found the
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site of a penis arousing simultaneously found the male form aversive but if you prefer the female
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form there's more than a 25 chance like more than a quarter chance you're going to find penises
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arousing even if you're a male yeah which is just fascinating like what the is going on here
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right like there's there's clearly like a system at play and this is why i love researching this
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stuff because like sexologists because they're so stuck in this gay straight dichotomy they have
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missed that there is something more interesting going on your entire life should not be oriented
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around getting off as easily as possible like it is so weird that for progressives you try to like
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it's not a good look it doesn't look the way you think it looks
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there is more to life than what turns you on sure the path is harder but we both mean it through this
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this is important what could be more important than sexual arousal patterns richard
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science would you like to know more hello simone this is gonna be an interesting episode
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really it was inspired by conversation around a new show called my husband's not gay
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around this sounds fun yes mormon same-sex attracted men or ssa men who while biologically
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they're same-sex attracted prefer to live a lifestyle in which they marry a woman and have
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children in a heterosexual relationship and as you can imagine progressives are losing their mind over
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this where i saw this was in a a popular youtuber was talking about this called curtis connor who's got
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around 5.2 million subscribers so the video he did on this has 3.5 million views so you know talk about
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aspirational for us right my husband's not gay the episode starts with an introduction to jeff and tanya
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who have been together for nine years and they also have a son together and this is when they hear the
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term that they use to describe their lifestyle i experience ssa or same-sex attraction not gay ssa
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all i notice first a beautiful man walking down the street or a beautiful woman walking down the street
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i'll notice the beautiful man nine times out of ten okay someone who is attracted to men
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thinks about men wants to be with men but also wants to be in a hetero relationship somebody that is
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attracted to the same sex but wants to be in a heterosexual relationship not gay ssa not gay ssa
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that's the new no homo but obviously you know he's progressive he made a point of whining about
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trump in it and he was like these people shouldn't basically culturally be allowed to do this oh how
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dare you express your sexuality however you please yeah no it's really interesting to me that progressives
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are so anti-choice when it comes with individual sexuality where they're like if you have this arousal
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pattern you have to it's funny that the way that he speaks about mormons is exactly the way i feel
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about ultra progressives and their extreme limitations in terms of the types of sexual
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choices they let people live out because being aroused by men this was not this guy's choice what
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is his choice is who he chooses to marry and how he chooses to live his life yeah super sad the fact
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there's only one acceptable expression of of love in a religion is pretty fucked up to be honest you're
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like that's not really a religion you want to be a part of but you know what do i know only selectively
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because there are some sexual arousal patterns that they still do not allow both with cause and
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without oh they're they're they're coming around i'll tell you they're coming around on this map stuff
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this minor attracted person stuff they're coming around yes however in the uk it's not okay to be
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into like bdsm right you know you have to remove any oh yeah you're not allowed to be into some people
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being hurt and yeah so even if it's clearly consensual and you created it yourself or if it's
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clearly consensual and animated like cartoon like no real people illegal in the uk it has been for like
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over a decade at this point this this was really scary living in the uk because i was like if i go
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to court like even if it's fairly tame stuff if i go to court over pornography that's gonna really
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mess up my life it it doesn't look good on one's record at all yeah right yeah but anyway the the
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point here being is that it is interesting to me that the progressive option here is to say oh you're a
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same-sex attractive catholic and you decide to join the priesthood which by the way right so depending on
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the statistics you're looking around on 50 of catholic priests are same-sex attracted which is
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just a a fucking awesome cultural solution by the way yeah you're a culture that says you are not
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allowed to have same-sex relationships but if you happen to be same-sex attracted we have an
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institution for you where you can basically be an ethically source eunuch so we don't need to worry
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about you being part of the religious hierarchy accidentally having kids and then you showing
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napotism towards those kids and we talk about this a lot more in some of our other content around this
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but it seems like a good solution until you realize yeah but might that create like a weird thing
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around how they relate to young people under their care and then you're like oh yes i can see why the
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bible warns against allowing people to have leadership positions in the church if they are
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unmarried i love it when people are like but malcolm you're removing these people's choices and i'm like
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no you're removing their choices they can choose to not be a catholic priest they can choose to not be a
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catholic they can choose to leave the mormon faith these things are all optional no one is holding a gun to
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their head you're the one thing i disapprove of their choice to continue to stay in the mormon church
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and live a mormon lifestyle if they are aroused by men i always love when i point out i'm like why
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is it that some arousal patterns mandate that you live a certain lifestyle like live as a gay person
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and there's other arousal patterns which seem just as biologically ingrained in people just as inborn
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when you look at the data where you would say you should never engage with that no matter whatever
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and they'll say okay okay okay it becomes mandated that you live that your life that way if it doesn't
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cause any negative social externalities and it doesn't hurt anyone and i'm like uh-huh really
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interesting so then you must have been super homophobic and anti-gay during the aids epidemic
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right because there was a reason why a lot of religions banned this you know like it it led to an
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extreme spread of disease that has killed an estimated 42.3 million people since its beginning
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and in its early days spread faster and further because gay sex was beginning to become socially
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normalized now it doesn't only spread through gay sex but you're basically lying if you're saying
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that gay sex didn't contribute to the spread and the scope of the aids epidemic as we can see by its
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decimation of the gay community now obviously the technology is different and you can have a different
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stance on it but i'm asking during the aids epidemic if that's the stance you're holding
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and you're like no no no no see there's a special carve out for it during the aids epidemic and it's
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like why because you have elevated this one form of arousal as holding some form of like additional
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religious significance that you're not allowed to question but before we go further here what we're
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going to go into is i would actually argue from the sexuality statistics is yes you can be same
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sex attracted and not gay no and it's not even like a weird cope thing it's just by the statistics it
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doesn't make sense to categorize everyone who's same-sex attracted as gay because it sort of becomes
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arbitrary and you'll see this at the statistics i mean it sound insane when i'm saying it and i should
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note i'm saying this is a person who isn't even a little bit same-sex attracted i remember i had a lot
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of gay friends growing up and i had a long conversation with a roommate who later came out
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as gay and he didn't understand why i would only watch well funnily gay porn i.e lesbian porn and i was
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like i just like cannot get aroused if there is a male anywhere near a pornographic scene that i'm
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looking at and that makes sense from an evolutionary perspective it does it does i i would imagine
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intuitively to me it seems like if you're what what was the word that was seen as various
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uh offensive super straight if you're like if you were yeah if you were turned off by the sight of a
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penis you're not going to want to see dicks in your porn actually interesting simone some of the guys
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who fall into this category and you'll see this in the statistics we're about to go over are not
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disgusted by the sight of a penis they're disgusted by the sight of a male form this is why
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fuda porn is so common in the hentai category okay wait wait so the the i'm definitely straight men
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are attracted to penises but not attracted to the male form well they're not necessarily disgusted by
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penises so they are okay with two women having sex if one of those women this is what fuda porn is for
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people who aren't aware has a penis because it allows them to even by removing males from their
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porn in this entirely fantasy context see piv penis and vagina sex with porn but have no man
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in that scene and actually when we did the survey on this and we asked men who were predominantly into
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food of porn if they saw these as trans women they do not most men at least in terms of their arousal
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patterns i'll see a trans woman as a man even if they otherwise present very femininely which is i
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think really interesting but that is fascinating and i should clarify here that this is not what i am
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into i will let it slip near the end of this discussion if you end up watching the whole video
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what i am into though but it is really important to be asking these questions why are certain things
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being seen in pornography for example why is food a pornography common and you can say well why is it
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useful to understand something like this about human arousal patterns here's why because as soon as you
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understand this you can understand that many of the men who become convinced they're trans may actually
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just have a disgust reaction to other men and so when they're looking at pornography or something like
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that they have this disgust reaction whenever they see men or when they look at a penis they might have a
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disgust reaction to a penis and they look at their male form in a mirror and they go oh this is disgusting
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because evolution didn't have us evolve around mirrors it never needed to not code to our own bodies to find
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our own bodies as gross looking and they say oh i must not like being a man when in reality it's no for
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evolutionary reasons you didn't want to be sexually engaging in an environment where other men were
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present and if you are for example a young autistic person whose brain isn't fully developed you realize
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oh i am super disgusted by the sight of men even even when that man is myself therefore in this ultra
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categorizer mindset i must actually be a woman when that's not what's happening at all it's just a normal
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part of male sexuality and so because i took the time to dive into the world of pornography and look
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at what types of pornography are common and think about why these types of pornography might be common
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i now have additional information on sexuality so that when i am teaching my kids about their sexuality
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and what they might expect from it i can inform them about this potential pitfall and perhaps prevent
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one of them who might otherwise have been convinced to transition that no this is just a normal part of male sexuality
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this is also why it's really important that we as i've said in other videos don't go around telling young girls
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that it's super weird for a girl to be in to scenarios where they are hurt or subjugated by a male
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because it turns out that most girls are into that and so if you teach your daughters that because you didn't take time
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to actually look into human sexuality then they're going to grow up thinking they're a sexual deviant
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which makes it much easier for them to engage in other or additional forms of sexual deviancy
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because they're like well the cat's already out of the bag on that one so it matters to engage with
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this information let's do it all right so and i'm just going to be quoting from the pragmatist
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guide to sexuality one of the books we wrote and which we did big series of surveys for i need to break this
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down here so what we are arguing in this particular subsection is that the arousal pattern does not
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seem cued to males and females it seems more cued to primary and secondary sex characteristics
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so if you're not sure what primary and secondary sex characteristics are primary sex characteristics
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are the sex characteristics which are used directly in reproduction so this would be a penis
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or a vagina secondary sex characteristics are things cued to things other than direct reproduction
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so this would be um what are the words i'm looking for here like a masculine or feminine form
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a masculine or feminine voice masculine or like feet hands vocal tone all sorts of of general clues or themes
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it's almost like if if if a penis or a vagina they're the language the secondary sexual characteristics are the accent
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the lilt the tonality the music of the of the language yes the point here being is that it turns out that it's
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actually fairly frequent that an individual will find one particular gender's secondary sex characteristics
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arousing or repulsive and be a have an inverse arousal or repulsion to the primary sex characteristics
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in other words it's like each person gets several rolls of the dice and most people's understanding of
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sexuality is you get one roll of the dice you're into men or you're into women or you're into both like
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the dice like it's like hang it's like you know it fell on a corner and it won't fall one way or the other
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what what really is happening is you're getting several rolls of the dice you get to roll on
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vaginas you get to roll on penises you get to roll on butts you get to roll on feet you get to roll
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on shapes you get to roll on hits and like you're getting all these things well no no what i'm
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arguing is you're not getting several rolls of the dice is you're getting two rolls of the dice
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it's what gender primary sex characteristics do you want like what gender secondary sex characteristics
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do you like so it's just so we're every all day so basically all primary and all secondary were
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correlated in the research generally correlated and bundled together i thought they were unbundled
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but no they're not since we've done this okay okay primary and secondary sex characteristics
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are heavily bundled in our data which is oh i'm thinking about just random arousal things you
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know yeah that's not what this is this is yeah you know i'm thinking about like pain shaming
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dominance those are not unbundled by the way those appear in bundled packages as well but we'll get
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into that in a separate video okay before we go further we have to note here about our sexual
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theory that we lay out in the practice guide to sexuality i won't go that far into it but we
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argue that sexuality is not a spectrum from disinterest to arousal it is a spectrum from
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arousal to disgust with disinterest in the middle and that the arous the disgust feeling is literally
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operating off of the arousal system with a negative modifier attached to it or vice versa the two
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emotions are exact inverts of each other when you are aroused you look at something longer you typically
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breathe inwards your pupils typically dilate when you are disgusted by something you typically look
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away from it you typically hold your nose or attempt to not breathe and your pupils contract
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you try to get away from it if you're disgusted you try to interact with it more of your arouse
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it is the same system and the data supports this in that when the system breaks you are much more
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likely to be aroused by something that most people find disgusting or disgusted by something that most
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people find arousing than random like you for example people don't find fire disgusting or arousing but
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many people have a strong emotional reaction to fire or heights uh fetishes around fire or heights are
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incredibly rare it's not any strong naturally pre-evolved emotion but arousal to creepy crawlers
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like having insects poured on your face that's actually a pretty common fetish arousal to the feces
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urine stuff like that actually pretty common so things that cause natural disgust are actually pretty
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common to create fetishes because you're basically getting the multiply by negative mixed up or multiply
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by positive mixed up at some point in the developmental process or genetic process all right so to what
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we're saying here our study yielded some supporting evidence for this it seems to be very common for
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an individual to find female primary sex characteristics aversive but female secondary
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sex characteristics arousing i.e. to find the feminine form arousing but a vagina gross our survey study
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showed that 30 percent of males and 32 percent of females who find the female form arousing find
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vaginas aversive that is astronomically high that's much bigger than the reported gay population which
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i think shows that this is just a better description of what's going on than gay or straight our research
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also suggests that in the average person the secondary sex characteristic detecting system
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has a much higher average quote-unquote volume than the system detecting primary sex characteristics
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for example the average guy will derive more arousal from the feminine form
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than they will from the vagina from our survey 89 percent of men rate the female form at the highest level of
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arousal generation while only 71 percent rate the vagina the same way we find it amusingly ironic that the
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organs used explicitly for reproduction are less cause less arousal than secondary sex characteristics
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we developed these two theories before running our survey while there are ways we can twist our data to
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fit them as we did above we must be honest and admit that our data really suggests that something a little
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more complicated is going on so i was wrong when i told simone earlier that they are totally bundled they
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are loosely bundled in very weird ways which we'll get into in a second for example while the 30 percent of
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males and females we surveyed who found the feminine form arousing also found the site of a vagina a
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turnoff not a single survey participant who found the male form arousing were simultaneously turned
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off by penises not a single participant who found the male form arousing were turned off by penises
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however 26 percent of men who found the site of a penis arousing simultaneously found the male form aversive
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so there's something weird going on with penises and vaginas specifically if you find the male form
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arousing you are always going to find penises arousing but if you prefer the female form there's more
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than a 25 percent chance like more than a quarter chance you're going to find penises arousing even if you're
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a male yeah which is just fascinating like what the is going on here right like there's there's clearly
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like a system at play and this is why i love researching this stuff because like sexologists
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because they're so stuck in this gay straight dichotomy they have missed that there is something
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more interesting going on yeah i it is so curious and i i'm so glad that ayla for example is looking more
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into this you know there are actually people out there really diving deep with great great sample
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sizes too and before i go further this also i think shows how narrow and religious the dichotomy of gay
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straight is as an identification and it's really an identity identification no different from a religious
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identity identification and i have no trouble with these mormon men who are like yeah i'm same
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sex attractive but i choose not to live that lifestyle why is that such a problem that these
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people are doing that like it's genuinely harder in a number of ways if you want to have a lot of kids
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they're like oh you can have a lot of kids you're in a same-sex relationship not and really it's
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extremely expensive well if you're a woman in a same-sex relationship you get double power
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you've got extra if you're a man it's extremely extremely it is it is yeah yeah yeah yeah we we
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one of our kids godparents are two gay men and they've been trying to find a surrogate to work with
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them for half a decade at this point or something yeah getting the right circuit match getting egg donors
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creating embryos this is a an often heartbreaking incredibly frustrating and very expensive process
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and it's tough and i can totally see why someone who is
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prenatalist and broadly same-sex attracted but i think there's also this issue of
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it's it's weird that we would question people's chosen relationship formation when there are such
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things as political lesbians for example like they're not questioned the same way
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yeah you're right so for people who don't know what a political lesbian is this was a phenomenon
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that was common especially on tumblr and within progressive circles where women would say i just
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hate men so much i will force myself to be lesbian which is actually pretty easy for women if you look
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at the data because women's predominant arousal patterns are not tied to the gender of the partner
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they are tied to dominance and submission but continue yeah so the that they're not controversial
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but it is seen as incredibly taboo or hypocritical for a same-sex attracted man to marry a woman like
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that seems weird you know there there are many many many even more logical reasons for a same-sex
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attracted man to do that not just religion but also yeah i want to have kids or it's just you know
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it well progressives treat this as like a sacred thing it's a sacred caste system for them that's what i
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think is going on here right like the urban monoculture sees gays that identify and take on a gay lifestyle
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as a deserving upper class and they just cannot understand why anyone wouldn't want this designation
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because it made their actual goals in life not arousal easier right and they can be like why
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don't they just adopt well as one person said on our survey our studies when they learned that of
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adoptees because we mentioned this and you have a face that's become like a meme in the community
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one percent of adoptees whose biological parents had three or more offenses were responsible for
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30 percent of convictions among adoptees the one percent of adoptees whose parents had three or
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more convictions were responsible for 30 of the offenses among adoptees you were like oh when you heard
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this which is the the the genetics that are correlated with the type of person who you might
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adopt are going to play out in in their childhood and in their adulthood and it could make it it could
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provide a good reason why somebody might be like i really want to have genetically my own kids i really
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want to choose who their parents are yeah and i get that and i think that you denying someone the right
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to do that when you as a heterosexual male for example that's just natural for you to be able
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to do that for free and you're like oh well they should just stomach that it's like why should they
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have to stomach that roll of the dice right like they should be able to have kids the way that they
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want to have kids yeah well that we seem to in our society force some forms of sexual attraction like
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some forms of sexual attraction mean ah okay this means that you now have this identity and you're
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part of this community and you need to you need to adopt these accents and have these idols and that
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is going to be your life now um whereas there are other ones where it's like oh that's your arousal
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pattern okay well never tell anyone suppress it this is evil you are evil for holding this whatever you do
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do do not tell anyone about this don't do it don't think about it like suppress it you know turn it
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this is why in our culture we've actually taken a pretty and i think we'll get to more stats in a
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second but i think the solution for prenatalism the correct solution to get through this particular
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crucible is to completely disintermediate arousal and childbearing and relationship structure that's the
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thing that's the other thing i wanted to bring up is that the idea that we are building marriages
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lifelong partnerships that are really much more about aligned values and and complementary skill sets
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on sexual attraction and not the 99.9 of the other things that you need to make your lifelong
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partnership work is so insane to me and it's not it's not just insane it's gross well it is both yeah
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it's gross and and and and very illogical and but it also removes the urban monoculture's biggest hook
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if if you can tell your kids i don't care what porn you're into what fan fictions you're into what shipping
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i know that they are siblings but i think there's something more
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if she were dating that guy they'd be banging i'm sure a princess can't really be that bad
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you're on the cannon ground i'm up in crack ship space let's start a shipping war don't care if i
00:28:19.160
get hate don't like my bearings well then you can hit the bricks this is my otp i'll go down with this
00:28:27.640
all i care about is the way that you choose to live your life when you destigmatize arousal patterns
00:28:35.800
and you say your arousal patterns are accepted whatever they are so long as you do not act on
00:28:44.280
them and you can live a virtuous life despite whatever arousal patterns you have i think that
00:28:50.440
that removes one of the major hooks the left can use to get into your kids yeah and pull them out of
00:28:55.800
society yeah and if you want to and you watch our video on masturbation where we talk more about
00:29:00.280
this if you want to remove anything that's anti-biblical in this you can just say okay well then
00:29:05.000
only porn that is drawn like hentai or something like that or ai generated because then you're not
00:29:10.200
looking at a woman other than your wife was lost and by the way there is nothing in the bible about
00:29:14.760
women not masturbating um there is nothing in the bible about hentai i checked you have nothing
00:29:27.880
by the way the the people use the story of onan to try to argue that god is against masturbation is like
00:29:34.840
psychotic and disgusting if you are not familiar with this story there is a law in jewish tradition
00:29:41.240
that you are supposed to if somebody dies their closest genetic relative their sibling is supposed
00:29:47.960
to sleep with their wife to get them pregnant so that that family's line can continue which is actually
00:29:54.360
really important to that woman because a single woman without any kids in this society was quite
00:29:58.520
difficult and so this guy was commanded to sleep with his dead brother's wife to give that guy a
00:30:04.120
continuing legacy but rather than raising a kid he would sleep with the wife it appears he would
00:30:10.120
actually have sex with her use her as a oni hole but then come outside of her to ensure she didn't get
00:30:16.680
pregnant this had nothing to do with masturbation it had to do with somebody psychotically using his
00:30:24.120
brother's wife as an oni hole and not getting her pregnant and not allowing his brother to have the
00:30:30.520
legacy that he was legally and religiously bound to do well i would note and as you pointed out the
00:30:37.000
period where the type of porn that the bible warns against is actually fairly a short period where you
00:30:42.520
could have been looking at a picture of a real woman and not a drawn or ai generated woman you're
00:30:47.560
looking at a period of maybe like 80 years where that maybe not even widely available maybe 30 years
00:30:53.960
in all of human history which is pretty wild there and again if you want to see our video
00:30:58.600
on the bible and masturbation you can watch it if you've been told that the bible says masturbation
00:31:02.520
is bad that's like a lie like it's a big lie if you actually the bible even talks about like
00:31:08.360
emissions and categorizes them and the emissions associated with masturbation are considered the
00:31:13.480
same type of negative as having a period wait how many categories of emissions are there there
00:31:18.120
must be the overnight ones that i know there's there's diseased emissions which create a longer
00:31:24.840
actually the bible interestingly categorizes pent-up emissions so like people who haven't
00:31:30.680
masturbated in a long time it's having a uniquely like bad type of emission that requires additional
00:31:37.240
ablutions yeah volutions and cleansing and stuff like that this is the old testament stuff that may not
00:31:42.680
be more mighty okay wow but basically people made up a bunch of rules about sexuality and then claim
00:31:49.000
they were in the bible when they're not in the bible okay okay anyway continuum what's more are
00:31:54.040
assumptions and and again people can say well doesn't the bible say all this stuff around gay sex no
00:32:01.080
it says stuff around you participating in gay sex you shall not sleep with a man as you would a woman
00:32:07.800
it doesn't say you can't check off to gay porn specifically here i'm referring to gay porn that is
00:32:13.560
drawn or ai generated and doesn't use real people it says that you shouldn't sleep with a man as you would
00:32:19.320
a woman that's two totally different things if one of my kids was like oh i want to jack off to gay
00:32:26.600
porn i'm like well great the bible says nothing about that just don't marry a guy
00:32:31.080
now this is what i would recommend would i be okay if they really wanted to marry a guy i mean
00:32:35.560
it depends on the technology we have in that period et cetera et cetera et cetera but i think that the
00:32:39.720
number one thing is is is having kids passing their culture on to the next generation i don't think it's
00:32:44.120
it's not going to be a problem to marry dude i'm i'm super okay with guys marrying guys especially like
00:32:49.560
if they find some some way to have a lot of kids it's more and honestly we're artificial moon
00:32:57.880
technology is coming along i think it's going to be okay for our any of our sons who
00:33:03.320
are thusly inclined but i'm just saying hold on we got to go on with the statistics we're getting
00:33:09.560
to what were you going to say well there there are worlds and scenarios in which it would make more
00:33:16.120
sense even for two straight men to couple up and raise a family together than it is to for straight men
00:33:21.880
to pair off with women like there i could even see society getting so toxic and so fractured whereby
00:33:29.800
straight men just have to swear off women entirely because they've gone completely off the deep end
00:33:34.200
on average you know like there's just there is a world in which it makes sense to have a dual income
00:33:40.440
male family it's just i don't know there i feel like there also have been a lot of gay power couples
00:33:45.480
you know who just they're both economically and and um career-wise very successful i just i'm just
00:33:52.040
arguing that there is probably a world not a world far from our timeline in which it would be
00:34:00.360
from a fertility standpoint advantageous for two straight men to enter a lifelong partnership to raise
00:34:07.720
children successfully okay well and and you know you mentioned that but like even think about the
00:34:12.360
mig top community this is what i mean about disintermediating sexuality from child rearing
00:34:16.600
you could have two like ultra chad alphas deciding to live together and raise kids together but
00:34:22.280
fucking you're describing you're describing and you're taking his brother right i i basically am there but
00:34:27.640
the point that i'm making is this doesn't have to be like gay it could actually be the opposite of
00:34:33.080
gay if you're doing this and you're taking this brother i mean you should sleep around a ton while you are
00:34:38.680
raising kids with someone who you respect who you know isn't gonna the point being is there are
00:34:42.920
alternate ways of structuring things that are they can work they're not what we've chosen but that
00:34:49.480
isn't to say that they can't work so anyway to keep going here what's more our assumption that secondary
00:34:55.160
sex characteristics are all operating on the same sex system may be wrong as 15 of women who reported
00:35:02.280
to find the female form arousing in our surveys also reported to see breasts as an active turnoff
00:35:08.360
and yet we don't see this happening in males it would seem that humans may have dozens of independent
00:35:13.800
arousal systems which may or may not cloister to what you were saying here weirder still some of the
00:35:18.520
arousal systems seem to cloister in only one gender for example in men arousal from the female
00:35:23.960
form and breasts are tied together but in women it is common to assume arousal from one and not the other
00:35:29.960
and keep in mind how high these numbers are that 15 of women huge like way more than the gay
00:35:36.520
population find the female form arousing but breasts actively disarousing that's interesting yeah
00:35:44.920
okay now we're gonna go into like the later section where we go like deep into the data on this okay
00:35:52.280
but first let's get the conventional interpretation of this out of the way typically quote-unquote gay is a
00:35:57.960
method of self-identification for individuals who are more aroused by stimuli they associate with
00:36:02.200
individuals who identify as the same gender as themselves in 2017 4.5 of americans identified as
00:36:09.560
gay this 4.5 number was reported by a gallup poll and we understand it is much lower than most people
00:36:17.160
think as the same poll show americans think the gay identifying population is 10 to 23 percent for
00:36:24.840
information on this phenomenon see the paper not threat but threatening potential causes and
00:36:29.800
consequences of gay innumeracy which found overestimation of the size of the gay population
00:36:35.400
to be common among groups that see them as a threat a more updated breakdown indicate oh sure it's also
00:36:41.480
i'm sure a comment among multiple progressives and gay people a more updated breakdown uh of this
00:36:47.160
phenomenon shows it isn't subsiding the gallup article titled america is still greatly overestimate the
00:36:53.800
us gay population shows this in our survey only three percent of the participants identified as gay
00:37:00.440
and 8.75 identified as bisexual our number is a bit low because we removed trans and gender fluid
00:37:07.400
participants from the data set which identified predominantly as gay or bisexual which our surveys
00:37:12.520
trans and gender fluid participants added back in we get around the right number identifying as gay so
00:37:18.840
now for the crazy stuff before we go into the individual like scatter plots which i find really
00:37:23.480
interesting on this 10 of males find the naked male form aversive but penises to be arousing of the
00:37:29.640
men so way more than the gay population but literally like 3x the gay population of men who find the naked
00:37:36.520
female form arousing a whopping 30 find the site of a vagina to be actively aversive than which just nobody
00:37:43.800
likes vaginas that's basically what you see we are all including women which i really relate to
00:37:49.320
i i was i was encouraged as a teenage girl you know you're gonna learn about puberty to like
00:37:56.600
hold a mirror down there i've never seen down there not once in my life because i don't want to
00:38:02.440
i feel like it's it's like staring into the maw of that that monster in star wars
00:38:06.520
well i do not like i don't like it yes i that's like that's what i'm afraid i'm gonna see if i look
00:38:15.000
down there i do not like it just so disgusting to me so disgusting so i really get that and i think
00:38:21.480
that's the that i think it's another one of those things of like just generally people like penises
00:38:27.080
generally vaginas are like you know okay so to continue going yeah only one percent of males who
00:38:34.520
find the female form arousing simultaneously find breasts to be a turnoff but 15 of females who find
00:38:41.400
the female form arousing find breasts to be a turnoff in general we find female attraction to
00:38:47.160
the male form correlate strongly to attraction to penises while 16.5 percent of women who took
00:38:52.680
our survey identified as gay or bisexual a larger 30 of women who took our survey found both vaginas
00:38:58.920
and the naked female form arousing though so or women are gay or bisexual but 30 find women hot in
00:39:07.240
every way though oddly only 18 of women found both breasts and vaginas to be arousing isn't that
00:39:15.560
interesting yeah it's like wild oh sorry it was either breasts or vaginas okay so this this seems to be the
00:39:23.880
the way that interesting so it appears that many women who find the female form and breasts arousing
00:39:31.960
don't identify themselves as bisexual because they find vaginas repulsive and they assume that these
00:39:38.200
things are correlated when they're not yeah because we've been completely led in this entire field of
00:39:44.680
research for our entire lives it's like wild that like sexuality researchers haven't picked up on this i feel
00:39:51.720
like the the entire field of sexuality research is such like retarded children at this point part of
00:39:56.520
it though i feel like there's so much inertia not just because of how academia works but because in
00:40:02.760
our society so much of someone's identity now is tied to one's chosen or yeah sexuality yeah because
00:40:11.720
if we were to begin pulling that down and and as this show is that you describe right this show comes
00:40:17.080
out and people are like what do you mean and that's because it's it's pulling at this very scary
00:40:24.600
fundamental reality shifting concept yeah all right though only six percent of men who took our survey
00:40:31.720
identified as gay or bisexual 11.4 of the men who took our survey find both the male form and penises arousing
00:40:39.640
so so the are totally straight thing this is another thing to note when we're talking about
00:40:48.440
this population as a genuinely discriminated population in our country i.e men who find the male form and
00:40:55.240
females arousing they are likely as big a population as the percent of men and identify as straight they are
00:41:03.160
likely as likely as big a population as the people in our country who identify as lgbt that is absolutely
00:41:12.280
wild so what is this the the the dark matter of of gay men the the hidden are totally straight watchers
00:41:21.400
for people who don't know are totally straight it was a subreddit for men who identified as straight but
00:41:25.720
like to masturbate to males and i'm like i'm okay with that you want to identify as straight straight
00:41:32.760
as about how you choose to live you know do what you want well you know what's really what's really
00:41:37.640
interesting too is that no one bats an eye when a lot of women online start adopting like so drag culture
00:41:47.400
is is a big trickle down culture generator right no one bats an eye when people want to be culturally
00:41:55.080
gay even when they're not gay because gay culture is super fun you know i don't know what to say but
00:42:00.680
but yet you know somehow you you can't choose to not adopt it if you have one arousal pathway that
00:42:07.480
you have no control over i think that's really interesting that like yeah no everyone's welcome
00:42:12.120
to adopt gay culture you may not be able to pull it off but you can you can try you're you're i this is
00:42:17.560
something we keep going back to your entire life should not be oriented around getting off as easily as
00:42:23.160
possible like it is so weird that for progressives you try to like it's not a good look it doesn't look the
00:42:29.800
way you think it looks yeah you don't you don't need to build your marriage your relationship
00:42:36.680
everything you do around that and i'd ask you mr progressive who's here being like no you absolutely
00:42:46.120
need to build your mr straw man malcolm let's be mr straw no no but i know there's somebody watching
00:42:51.400
this who feels this way okay we're literally nothing that you're turned on by that would be
00:42:56.440
deleterious to society if you engaged in it literally nothing oh and you're like oh well
00:43:03.000
that's a different category of saying why is that a different category of thing why for an individual
00:43:10.200
who wants to have lots of kids it may be deleterious to marry a man why is that a different thing
00:43:18.120
it's a different thing because you want to and there's this sick pleasure that i see progressives get
00:43:22.680
off on is labeling men who are in happy marriages and have lots of kids as gay they're like he's
00:43:29.160
gay i bet he's so gay it's like so so so pathetic right like they engage in this sort of homophobic
00:43:41.320
behavior that they claim to be against because they want to control the way that people live
00:43:48.680
and force them into specific lifestyles and relationships that they have chosen not to engage
00:43:55.000
with and you can't deal with the fact that they have chosen to say yes this arouses me but i will not
00:44:02.280
base my life around it anyway thoughts before i go further no proceed male arousal in response to
00:44:14.040
breasts seem to correlate with arousal in response to the female form 87 of our male respondents reported
00:44:20.360
both to be arousing there is a similar correlation in females in response if a female survey respondent
00:44:26.200
reported finding the male form arousing it was very likely she would also find penises to be arousing 71
00:44:33.240
finding both to be arousing but keep in mind that's not like 100 that means around 30 of females
00:44:37.960
who found the male form arousing and identify as dry do not find penises arousing not a single female
00:44:44.280
in our survey group reported vaginas to be arousing and the naked female form aversive very interesting
00:44:49.880
seven percent of the female study population found the naked male form arousing but the site of a vagina
00:44:55.480
aversive six percent of our female respondents found both breasts arousing and the vagina aversive
00:45:01.480
two percent of the female study takers found the site of a vagina arousing but breasts to be
00:45:06.600
aversive 36 of the female we polled found both the naked female form and the vagina aversive
00:45:16.040
and you know what i'll just be posting these while we're talking because it's much easier than going
00:45:20.520
over them in detail but they are the charts that show the female breasts arousing naked female form
00:45:26.680
arousing female vagina arousing etc because i find that to be really interesting and oh now we can get to
00:45:32.840
size you want to get into size here penis size penis and breast size what do people prefer oh gosh yeah
00:45:43.000
this classic old favorite of ours yeah and i point out here just remember again that only three percent
00:45:52.360
of our participants identified as gay and only eight point seven five percent identified as bisexual so
00:45:57.880
these numbers are mostly females and males who do not identify as gay or bisexual okay
00:46:05.960
female who what breast size do you find most arousing in women i'm just putting this on screen here
00:46:13.000
the statistic i find most interesting is i do not find breasts arousing at all despite the three percent
00:46:20.120
only one percent of men this includes gay and bi men find breasts not arousing at all pretty much all
00:46:25.880
males whether they're gay straight by whatever find breasts arousing but here's what's interesting
00:46:31.240
in women the percent that do not find breasts not arousing at all is only 23 percent
00:46:44.520
if if finding breasts arousing makes you gay or bi almost every woman is gay or bi
00:46:50.680
well i mean that's also kind of what the findings indicate though that most women are at least
00:46:59.640
they don't that they're more attracted to dominance versus submission than they are attracted to any
00:47:05.080
particular primary or secondary sexual characteristics so for women it's kind of a misnomer to be like
00:47:11.000
are you gay or straight it's more like what power dynamic are you into that's more their orientation
00:47:17.240
absolutely all right so okay here's here's a fun one penis size in men what do you prefer
00:47:24.120
okay so i'm putting this on screen here but again i think the i do not find penises arousing at all
00:47:28.920
statistics to be the most interesting what percent of men don't find penises arousing at all 69
00:47:37.320
appropriate so in a world where where where three percent and this is a below average three
00:47:42.520
percent of our participants identified as gay 8.75 percent identified as bisexual a good 30 percent
00:47:48.680
of men found penises arousing i mean you know they're just there's so much i just there's so much
00:47:56.520
more i i want to say user friendly than vaginas i just uh i mean look at uh look at like
00:48:05.480
uh penises correlate with the attraction sphere and vaginas correlate with the disgust sphere in my
00:48:16.920
world i i'm sorry to come across as such a vagina here in this video but like when you think about
00:48:22.200
it watch watch the movie alien right what what what is the alien but an inverted like a prolapsed vagina
00:48:29.800
it's just like all mucus all just you know like vaginas are associated with the thing it shoots
00:48:36.440
out of its mouth is clearly supposed to be reminiscent of a penis i know but it's goopy you know
00:48:46.440
sorry and i don't know anyway we don't need we don't need my sex negativity in this room this is
00:48:53.480
a no i think people need to be affirmed in having these sex negative opinions in their sex negativity
00:49:01.160
no no sex sex negative people need to like rise up and by rise up what i mean is they need to
00:49:08.120
understand that their perspectives are and i hate to use this term valid but that doesn't mean that they
00:49:14.920
need to impose them on other people no that's so true yes yes yeah well and and the so important
00:49:20.200
thing and why i love the pragmatist guide to sexuality is a book so much is it like the
00:49:24.360
message it hammers home again and again is your arousal and disgust pathways are not an indication
00:49:30.440
of moral good or bad your logic is that indication you decide for yourself what is good or bad in this
00:49:37.480
world what is moral if something disgusts you that doesn't mean it's evil and i think that's the big
00:49:42.360
problem is a lot of a lot of women are turned on by violent erotic material and then a portion of
00:49:48.440
women are like super turned off by it and then they can't understand that while not morally condoning
00:49:57.240
this material some women just kind of want to watch it and they're like no one can ever watch this and
00:50:01.400
it's evil and blah blah blah and just just so many things get screwed up you know like a lot of people
00:50:06.120
are turned on by the concept of rape like for real it's a big turn on that doesn't mean that they
00:50:12.520
condone it we asked how much just so there was no confusion about whether this was a fantasy or not
00:50:20.440
a fantasy we go how much do you like the fantasy or role play of grape and then immediately after that
00:50:27.960
we make how much do you get turned on by the guy of actually being graved there's a huge number of
00:50:34.040
women i can't remember how to impose so for role play of grape it was for females 38 percent males 16
00:50:43.640
and that is being on the receiving end of it in terms of actually it happening to you males 23
00:50:51.080
females five percent and if you're looking at just general statistics on this you will find that around
00:50:58.520
four percent to five percent of reported grape cases report women feeling physiological arousal
00:51:06.040
during the process so this is wild i was looking for the text on the grape statistics in the book
00:51:11.880
and i found a section i had forgotten about that breaks them down by attractiveness rating and so
00:51:17.160
this is subjective attractiveness rating how attractive an individual sees themselves as being
00:51:21.560
but unattractive men taking our survey were much more likely to report finding grape role play arousing
00:51:27.400
with 66 of the lowest level attractiveness finding it a turn on contrasted with 10 of average men
00:51:33.080
and 14 of hot men the same is true for females but to a lesser extent was 44 of the least attractive
00:51:39.000
category of women reporting arousal at the idea of role playing being graped contrasted with 22 of
00:51:44.680
women for average attractiveness we see similar results for the thought of actual grape with 20 of
00:51:51.080
women in the least attractive category finding it arousing and only 3 of women in the average
00:51:55.720
category finding it arousing the same is seen among respondents for our male study participants with
00:52:01.000
50 in the least attractive category finding grape arousing and only 2 of men in the attractive
00:52:06.120
category finding grape arousing yeah disturbing uh deeply disturbing but but not like because there
00:52:12.600
are evolutionary reasons why surviving women who were kind of okay with this happening to them you know
00:52:19.880
why there were more surviving women than the ones who were like i will die before i let this happen to me
00:52:24.440
because they died and they didn't reproduce as it just so happens so yeah i mean there are reasons why
00:52:30.600
this happens and it's not great but it's what it is you know and just accepting that accepting reality
00:52:36.920
being pragmatic about it is the key yeah i i really one of the things that the guy kept mentioning in
00:52:43.720
the video this progressive guy watching this video these mormons who are like totally okay with this
00:52:48.760
and he's like just so disgusted and judgmental of them that they are he's like they're so supportive
00:52:55.720
for non-supportive of being gay right and it's like no what they are is supportive of these people's
00:53:02.600
choices and i look forward of the day life choices that you don't support the day where we enter a society
00:53:11.400
in which people can talk about the things that arouse them and that can be completely divorced from the
00:53:17.480
way they're expected to live their life yeah one of the weirdest things i've heard about the urban
00:53:22.440
monoculture and it's so true is it's almost like you're expected to like go out and search for all
00:53:28.360
the things that can turn you on even if you would never want to know if something could turn you on
00:53:33.880
even if you're like for example like a map stuff like minor attractive person why would you ever want
00:53:40.920
to know if that would turn you on there's there's some kind of insinuation that people should be
00:53:45.640
exploring that well no there there basically is it's like you should go through every category
00:53:51.160
of porn this is basically something that a lot of like no sexuality explore your sexuality that's
00:53:57.240
what they say they gotta turn it off like a light switch just switch
00:54:05.240
it's a neat little moment start to get confused because of thoughts in your head
00:54:19.400
turn it off like a line switch just go click it's a cool little warm and trick
00:54:26.360
we do it all the time when you're feeling certain feelings that just don't seem right
00:54:31.560
treat those pesky feelings like a reading light so turn it off like a light switch just go back
00:54:39.400
really what's so hard about that turn it off i'll put that in yeah that's a good clip there
00:54:45.960
right like you but the thing is like you don't even need to know if you haven't been exposed to
00:54:50.520
something you might not know that it would ever arouse you right like you don't actually have a
00:54:56.360
mandate to explore this stuff it doesn't matter it's genetic scars
00:55:03.480
if it's something you didn't have a choice over it's not part of who you
00:55:07.080
are genetic scars it's a great way of putting it yeah yeah are the things you choose to be
00:55:13.640
yeah yeah no 100 separate your sexuality with it's not like yeah we so we don't marry people
00:55:23.720
based on our tastes in food for example you know if we should see them as just as as connected i'm
00:55:30.120
gonna get that traditionally reproducing with someone who disgusted you would be really
00:55:40.440
difficult but we have the technology to not need to reproduce that way none of our children were
00:55:46.040
produced through sex we have sex but none of our children were produced through that process they
00:55:50.840
were produced through ivf because i am super infernal there are ways around you not necessarily wanting to
00:55:59.080
bang your partner each night and also there are amazing alternatives to using another person to
00:56:08.680
sexually gratify yourself and you know especially now with ai combine ai with like really good sex
00:56:18.120
toys and i don't know i just don't know why a quote-unquote loveless marriage is a bad thing anymore
00:56:24.920
considering where we are in society with technology with ai and with the clear need for much more
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pragmatic and practical mutually beneficial relationships life partnerships absolutely yeah
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and i also note here and i somewhat tipped my hand on this but it's one of the reasons i feel so strongly
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about this uh which is to say that if i am somebody who is a straight male who is aroused by extreme
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like i'm an extremely dominant straight male like i'm overly straight and overly dominant in my arousal
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patterns to the extent where if i am presented with super normal stimuli of
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dominance or straightness i.e here's an example of super normal stimuli two women having sex is a
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super normal stimuli for a guy to be engaging it right like this is all women just like extra way
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it's funny somebody mentioned it's a fairly normal thing for guys to be into because uh i remember one
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comedian he's like you know you ask women what they're into and they're like oh i'm into like x weird
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thing or i'm into why weird thing and for a minute it's like more women i want one woman two women
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good three women better four more women is better and then also more dominance right like more
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dominance better to the extent where if i treated a real person that way it would be deleterious to
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them outside of very controlled like role play scenarios and i am able to say i don't need to
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structure my life around this because i realize it's deleterious and not good for daily living
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yeah well just how much time it takes and it's one thing to be a dink couple that just chooses to
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make this your hobby but yeah they're just they're way more efficient ways to do it even if you want
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to maximize your amount of pleasure including sexual gratification it's easier to do it without
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a human because just when you involve a human in it then there's just this additional layer of
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all the coordination and the prep and the cleanup and the aftercare and it's just like can we not
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find a better way to do that exactly well here here's a great way to put this right is would i be
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more aroused like if i was arousal maxing my life to have a 24 7 like live-in slave this is something
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that some couples do they structure their relationship with a wife yeah look up gorian
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forums g-o-r-e-a yeah and i'm like yeah i would be more aroused by that lifestyle would i be more happy
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in that lifestyle no i want somebody who i respect and can have conversations with and enjoy talking to
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and who can push me and who can work and who can earn money and they don't need to like
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dote on all day or like have some sort of weird master slave sexual interaction no i yeah honestly
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i and this is this is another thing that came up in the sexuality book though is that
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when it comes down to it not a lot of people want to be super dominant because it's a lot of work
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it is a lot of work you don't want to manage that yeah it's a lot of energy i can be like
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i prefer this in a narrative context right yeah but in my actual life that would be a nightmare to
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have to maintain frame all the time exhausting exhausting oh yeah that's the thing you can have
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a frame that would be most arousing for you that isn't your personality and you're like yeah but but
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with the urban monoculture it's like oh no you'd be most aroused by having a live-in slave you gotta do
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that that's the only option for you it's like no it's not the only option for you you can say oh
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i don't need to i can either make that some sort of like role play scenario but even that would take
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a long time to set up like why not just porn right like why do i need to why not porn yeah no it's but
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you know what here's the thing though and here's here's our glimmer of hope malcolm
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is that it's i i don't know maybe it's not a glimmer of hope
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society seems to have discovered this have you seen rates of sex recently people have just heard
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all right like we're in a post-sex society i think now we've gone half the way there right okay so we
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we've gone to the point where we've acknowledged we don't need other people to sexually gratify
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ourselves now we have to go the rest of the way of oh but we should still probably form life
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partnerships with people and raise families because it's it's really fun cool thing to do and
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you know everyone's better off for it so absolutely yeah just let's just put just
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separate them all diverse it completely okay done well i'm glad we talked this through society fixed i
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love you society fixed i love you you're a great wife what am i having for dinner tonight
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if i can find bread it seems to have disappeared a grilled cheese sandwich with tomato soup or maybe
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if you're up for a quesadilla with tomato soup or i can do pot stickers which i think i still have
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quesadilla with tomato soup i haven't had quesadilla in ages a quesadilla or as our children say
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quesadilla i love you to death sabone we still need to oh my god i was thinking about like what
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you need to take this out but i was thinking like well if we had a merch shop because i was looking
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at other channels similar to us and a lot of them had merch and i was like well we would only ever do
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like an etsy shop with like really custom stuff and like someone reached out to us about t-shirts
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and i'm like well obviously we'd make a of your and spell that image why amazing it's a great it is
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it is perfect i mean i've i've you know like in all the porn i've seen i've never seen a that i
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thought looks better than yours you're not the only woman who has noted that i know that and i'm so i'm
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like well we could sell a malcolm in our merch shop you're so creepy simone it's sad that only i
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am enjoying it you know like it's uh it's a loss to humanity so i was like you know i mean if anything
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people would go to the merch shop just to see the and then maybe they might buy one of our our
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artists and shirts or you know handmade paper planes by octavian which you would certainly want
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to list on the shop so i it's a but i i i i what i love about this in this conversation is it and i
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think it's where we need to go with the society we need to both de-stigmatize sexuality and decouple
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it from moral mandates and identity i think once that is done the left has nothing it can use to get
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your kid no no no no yeah the love can't get you um you're you know if you take the identity out of
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politics and you don't have identity politics anymore oh my gosh suddenly we return to
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the the age of debate and you know rational conversation and wouldn't that be amazing so yeah
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again society fixed i will go make your your dinner love you love you
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for our autistic audience you know what uh last night i was watching titan
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line up gummies in a little neat line and then eat them and i realized she's coming over to the
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fold malcolm oh no we got another one another systematizer
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flush of autistic children i hope so honestly so far all of our kids old enough to be diagnosed with
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autism have been so and it has simone so this is this is what i get for choosing a hottest
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h-a-u-t-i-s-t-s right no well that's the way they call it like like a haughty
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who coined it i don't know if they've said it online but they are a famous friend of ours that
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i really like and she coined it to mean hot women who are artistic
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and all hang out in the community together i still like autisinal but
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yeah she means the hot smart autistic women yeah yeah that's what she was talking about
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yeah well we i i thought you were referring to h-a-u-t-e
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yeah uh anyway but you would never use french of course what was i thinking yes go on
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you don't have to do a thing a thought can be a thought without anyone seeing
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a kink can be a kink without anyone knowing you don't have to do a thing
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i support that you want to dress up like a girl but when you do that in front of kids man it makes
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me want to hurl you don't have to do a thing you don't have to do a thing there is more to life than
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feeling good there is more to life than having would
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this is something we once understood you don't have to do a thing you don't have to do a thing
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so go ahead and fall in love build on earth what's above
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go out there and find a wife sex is not the point of life you don't have to do a thing
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so go ahead and fall in love build on earth what's above go out there and find a wife
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sex is not sex is not the point of life you don't have to do a thing
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there is more to life than what turns you sure the path is harder but we've got meaning through this border
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there is more to life than feeling good there is more to life than having would
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so go ahead and fall in love build on earth what's above go out there and find a wife sex is not the point of life